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- Toxic Friend Check... - REACTION
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Hey ya'll! Today on my channel we are reacting to some TOXIC Tiktoks and toxic friends. Have you ever had a toxic friendship? You'll probably relate to this. Enjoy :)
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Tell me about your toxic friend experiences!
got a lot of those lmao
Didn't stay friends long enough to know. Picked up on the negativity and got out.
My best friends wife ran off with my wife.
I want to know where you got your necklace - it's beautiful!
I've also had a few toxic friends during my life that just literally stabbed me in the back, well lets just say as I get older I just got sick of all the drama and bs, that's why I chose not to have any "close" friends and I LOVE IT!!!😁
I'd like to gently point out that aggressive, accusatory tones can instantly make someone anxious even if they've done nothing wrong. If someone has past experience with emotionally abusive people, it only gets worse exponentially. It can paint a picture of guilt even if there is none.
that's what i was thinking. she was getting grilled hard. she should be mre annoyed her friend drug it out so long not telling her what she "did"...
jesus christ, this^^^^ exactly
It only happens if you value their opinion. Bring yourself back to who is judging and ask yourself what their motivations are
True and no one likes being accused of some random thing they didn’t do
Straight up!!! 💯💯
I’m so glad I realized as I got older that less is more. I’d rather have a couple genuine non toxic friends, than loads of these types of people around. 🙄
Same but through my whole life I had alot of friends only 2 toxic out of them all
Ive only had a handle full a friends but they was all toxic backstabbing home wreckers so
If a friend sees that you are happy, feeling pretty, and looking like they're feeling it, KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT. 👄
Same!
Agreed! And honestly when you only have a few friends, it's easier to maintain those friendships for years and have a closer connection.
That one friend in the middle just sipping her Starbucks and watching the drama go down between her two friends... her face made that video so fun to watch. Love her.
I went to check if anyone else noticed that!! HAA oh shit :D
That would be me lmao.
I saw that. She's the down low demon in the group. Had people like her in the friend group who would cause drama and chaos, skillfully unraveling all the ties that bind with a "Who me?" cow-eyed look on her face.
Just look closely at the entire exchange. There are a couple times when she's looking into the camera, eyes staring, no smile, nothing.
It maybe fun to watch. I guarantee, though, these Category 5 human hurricanes aren't fun to have in the friend group causing damage in the name of honesty.
They cover their own tracks while outing everyone else's mistakes and secrets in the worst ways.
Trust. You want None of that
Not necessarily, just because she was honest to one friend because the other one is lying doesn't mean she automatically likes to stir up shit all the time. I've had those fake drama type of people in my life before but there are still good people out there too, my best friends boyfriend had the stupidest audacity to tell me (he knew I was his girlfriends Best friend when he confided in me btw) that he was cheating on my best friend so of course I told her exactly what he told me, because she didn't deserve to be treated that way, no one does, especially by a supposed "friend". We're still best friends to this day, over 25 year's. I would definitely want my best friends to tell me if one of my other so called "friends" was secretly hanging out with my SO without either of them telling her, that's more than just suspicious behavior & she had a right to know. She probably had that friend with her to question the other one so that she'd have backup, not everyone is great with confrontation. Js & honestly if you have issues with people being honest than maybe you have some issues with honesty in general 🤷🏼♀️
Thank you for this comment. I was looking for it, lol.
There's nothing wrong with a straight girl telling another girl they're pretty. I had a girl say that to me in high school. I'm almost 32 now, and it's still a nice memory that comes up every so often. 🥰
I'm a big fan of paying compliments to random people. Everybody needs a little boost from time to time!
Do women now not tell you that today ? Because baabbyy you are gorgeous ❤. We have to keep eachother up at all cost !!
Same
Same! I used to do the same thing, but justo like it happened to Charlotte it happened to me too, now I do much less
Amen! I tell pet women all the time that they’re Pretty our beautiful. Why is this a thing? I’ll never understand people who are constantly looking for a negative! 😢
“Why be afraid if you did nothing?” Great question. Anyone with anxiety and especially if it also with ptsd will understand that the amount of anxiety that can occur in your head even if you know you did nothing can be insane.
Also I love your videos and I missed a few so going back to watch. ❤️
I'ts amazing how much people can imagine in their minds without you doing anything. I once compained to a "friend" that I sleep until 11 and struggle getting out of bed (which was a symptom of depression and also I was unemployed) and she felt I was being provocative and trying to trigger her on purpose because she had to get up early for her well-paying job. There's a lot of projection whehever people accuse you of something
I really just feel both of these........ And people just think your lazy or making excuses because they somehow think that people having difficulties functioning is just obviously visible.
for real. i got anxious once that a security officer was very close behind me and my dad said i shouldnt be nervous unless i "have something to be nervous about". sir i was 12 and have crippling anxiety and traumas with men..
@@dannydannydannyboy4086 I have a bias there so I get that. At a young age I was assaulted by a man in a uniform and between this and the fact that I'm mentally disabled I react to all men in uniform in a more scared and jumpy way which I have been told is "suspicious and makes me look guilty".
I feel both glad and bad that I am not alone in this
I once had a former “friend” who would purposely try to take unflattering photos of me. This same friend turned out to be using me as a “token” friend to help shield her racism. I Ended the “friendship” when I discovered this. How I discovered this was talking to her best friend & her about this amazing Asian town near Atlanta that made me feel less homesick because of all the other Asians & Asian places that reminded me of home etc. to which she said “IDK about you but I would feel so uncomfortable in a place like that! I prefer to be around my own people! If there aren’t a lot of white people then it’s usually not a good sign”… her BFF looked shocked and embarrassed & tried to smooth things over by saying “I’m personally from Florida and it’s a melting pot. I prefer to be around a diverse group of people”. Upon hearing her BFF she got very upset & starting going off about how she’s allowed to have an opinion & prefer her “own” people over others & how she finds it offensive that I felt comfortable & “at home” in a place that clearly wasn’t predominantly “white” 😳🤯… yeah…. So glad I ended that friendship.
Let me get this right, she is offended that you an Asian is comfortable in an Asian space that isn't whitewashed? Bish took "preference" to a whole new level.
@@nherty6172 lol ye, even her "opinion" came off hypocritical
Wow! Its always disturbing to find out people you know have those deep prejudices. And also satisfying to see them squirm when they are exposed. I'm so sorry you had that experience though. People keep themselves from so much growth and joy when they lock themselves away from people who different than them.
I’m glad for you too…what a b*tch
I can't believe people like that actually exist. Gross.
I had a situation where this chic pretended to be my best friend bought my unborn baby clothes would engage me in conversations to get info out of me and even held my baby in the hospital the day he was born before I held him just to find out that she was sleeping with my husband and the real kicker is A. I babysit her kids on 4 occasions she was out sleeping with him and B. Her husband knew about the affair the entire time so did multiple people but he didn’t want me to know till after I had the baby due to me being on bed rest for a high risk pregnancy. Baby was 2 weeks old when he came to my front door with evidence from a private investigator. Pics video audio the whole shabang. This evil woman even had the nerve to give my baby his first bath while I was out of the room just so she could say she did it. Evil doesn’t even begin to describe this chic. I’ve commented my experience on several of these videos and as hard as it may be for anyone to believe this stuff really happened to me. I wasn’t in a good place in my life and was in a very toxic relationship that lasted 25years. Because I didn’t realized that I deserved and could do better I dealt with a lot he dished out to me. Thankfully I’m in a better place now and just look back on all this as events in my life that I survived that made me a stronger person I am today.😉 I had to hit rock bottom to see it but I’m a survivor.
wow that is disturbing honestly. i hope you and your baby are thriving now🧸💓
I'm so happy that you made it out the other side! When your kids are older, I bet they'll tell you all the time about how cool you are for being such a strong woman! ❤️
Man, that woman is a nightmare. Blast her on twitter and tik tok. Watch the meltdown with a marshmallow, don’t forgot to blast your husband too.
You are strong , & that is pure evil. What’s even worse than her is your husband allowing her to be around . Yes affairs are wrong , but the fact she was around your child , one of the first to hold it during its first hours in this world is infuriating. You are better than me and stronger than me because I’d be in prison for TWO COUNTS . Her & him, I applaud you for coping and being the mother that child needs. ❤
I love how the Asian friend in 11:00 just looks like she is about to hear the juiciest story of all time meanwhile she kind of knew about the whole thing. And when she's brought up, she finds every excuse to slither back into the side-lines and watch as chaos ensues 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Loved that fake one, watching a show without her bestie, the ULTIMATE betrayal 😂🤣😂♥️
@@agnez112 no
I got my hair and nails done with my mom and sister. My Squad was mad as hell I usually do it with them. 🤭😊
@@candicemonique5927 Funny, I moved from my hometown (NYC) but still go back in to get my hair done at the place I’ve going to for 15 years, won’t let anyone else touch my hair but my girl. Well, if I don’t call my bestie when I make the trip in she will give me holy hell for having come in to the city without calling her and meeting up, it’s like a cardinal sin 😂🤣😂
Toxic friend: "Remember that one time? That was great."
Me: "No, i don't remember. I wasn't there."
Toxic friend: "What? what are you saying of course you were there."
Me: "No I wasn't."
Toxic friend: "Well. Why weren't you?"
Me: "Because you didn't invite me."
Toxic friend: "No we definitely invited you."
Me: "No you definitely didn't."
Toxic friend: "Mmm. We definitely did."
She also tried to steal a couple of limited run books my (dead) mother bought me after I let her borrow them with a "no these are mine actually, i didn't borrow them from you" (books that were only available for one summer in a shop in a town she's never been to). Last time I saw her I just slipped them into my bag when I was alone in her room, and never spoke to her again after that day.
Ohh good for you on the books part. Toxic people are the worst.
Damn I'm so glad you got these books back. What a terrible friend, good you cut her off.
I'm glad you got those books back!
I'm SO GLAD you got them back!
@@Monicalia Me too. That was around 8 years ago and I still treasure those books.
I was friends with a person who constantly told me I was her best friend, told me she loved me, brought me to her family functions, and even had me as her birth partner (I cut her child’s umbilical cord). She video called me every day that we didn’t actually spend time together and I sympathized while she vented about problems at work, roommates, her struggle to buy a house (she didn’t qualify for a mortgage that would pay for anything close to what she wanted and her mom ended up buying her one), her ongoing custody battle, her car, her family, her other friends, the different guys she dated, and everything else under the sun. Over time I started to struggle with my physical and mental health but she didn’t want to hear about it. She’d just tell me I needed a new job or I needed to have a drink. She finally ended up blowing up at me one day, telling me that I was annoying, that nobody wanted me around anymore, and that every time we were at a gathering she’d talk crap about me with everyone else after I left. We didn’t talk for nearly 2 months until she contacted me one day to announce she was getting married (she hadn’t been dating anyone when we’d last spoken) and asked me to be a bridesmaid. I realized at that point the friendship had become toxic, so I told her no and wished her luck. I didn’t speak to her again. I ended up discovering shortly after that I have several chronic medical conditions that had gone untreated (most likely for several years) and started treatment. I’m doing exponentially better physically and mentally, and I’m finally thriving rather than barely surviving. I hope that she’s also happy and that her current friendships are making a positive impact on her. I know I was also toxic and I can’t blame everything on her, but I still have no desire to resume our former level of friendship.
GOOD FOR YOU! I HATE BEING DISMISSED WHEN YOU ARE REALLY SICK-ESPECIALLY BY A SO-CALLED FRIEND! SELFISH PEOPLE DON'T HAVE A CAPACITY TO ACTUALLY BE A FRIEND OR REALLY CARE FOR OTHERS. I DON'T THINK SO ANYWAY. HOPE AND PRAY YOU KEEP DOING BETTER AND BETTER WITH EACH DAY! GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS!
@@jacquidanke1263 thank you! I’m doing amazingly well! I actually resumed a friendship with that woman after about a year of not speaking when she reached out to me on my birthday. It’s definitely not the same as it was before though, which is perfect. We don’t speak daily and only really get together when she hosts an event so I’m able to maintain plenty of distance and avoid the toxicity from before. My mental and physical health are great and my doctor is thrilled with how well I’ve kept my conditions under control. I spend each day focusing on the positive and doing things that make me happy. Hope you’re thriving as well!
It doesnt sound like you were toxic at all. It sounds like you're a very compassionate person, and because of that you honestly believed that not putting your own welfare first was the right thing to do. I'm glad that you've since been able to identify, treat and manage your health issues. I have some chronic physical and mental health stuff and I know, for me, it was a tremendous relief when somebody pointed out to me that I didn't have to care for everyone else just because they needed help. People always act like it's the epitome of selfishness when we put our own needs first, but the only person who's guaranteed to be around to do that all our lives is ourselves. I wish you the best and hope you find people who are worthy of your kindness and who will love you like you deserve, friend 💜
We welcome you in my lady friend group, where we have a blast, all get to vent, feel the love, empathize, follow up on struggles, listen to each other, and boost each other up!
what a healthy post from a human being with such high reflexion and self-reflection levels. All the best for you on your journey!
My toxic friend got mad at me whenever anything good happened. She would literally yell at me everytime I gave her good news.
Toxic friend story: My ex best friend called my boyfriend to ask him for the number for his ex wife’s business place so she could host a function there when he responded with “why would you want to host a function at my ex-wife’s business place when I’m dating your best friend?” she told him : honestly, she doesn’t, she just wanted an excuse to call him to let him know that he is turning me into a horrible person (because he had been supporting me after I had three surgeries on my spine and he advised me to not go back out to work too quickly and he would pay the bills) so she thought that was not only inappropriate but that he was turning me into a lazy slob because all I was doing was lying in bed all day......🤣 now keep in mind again, I had just had surgeries multiple....on my spine!!! so I was lying down because I was told by the neurosurgeons that I had no choice but to do so.... yeah that happened😂
Jealousy is such an ugly shade of green. Glad you had a good man when you needed him most. 💜
I hope your not friends anymore, that is jealousy at its finest.
Omgosh that person is not only toxic but jealous AF of you
Let's pretend she isn't jealous. She doesn't want you to appropriately heal from your surgeries, That's just sick. She may have been upset that you weren't able to spend time with her. Therefore, you're a lazy slob. I had a friend that had a really toxic response to my illnesses. She spread rumors that I was a hypochrondriac. Despite knowing that I was approved for short-term disability from work. When I came back to work, people treated me differently. I ended up taking more time off work than I was actually working. I eventually lost my job because of this. My MD suggested that I apply for disability pay from the government. I was approved. I wanted to tell off all of the people who said my illnesses (I have a few) weren't real.
Omg!! I hope you are feeling well❤️
The ones that get yelled at for smiling in photos blow my mind even MORE because it's the toxic friend that ASKED them to be in the photo in the first place????? If you're that insecure, just take a photo by yourself...damn
Ok, so back in 2011 I got really sick, and my 3 best friend (the only ones I was even socializing with at the time), started phasing me out of their lives. Even though it hurt cos I had done do much for them during our friendship, I could to a certain extent understand it cos I wasn't the most fun to be around at the time. However, 1 hurt more than the others, and not because we were closer, but cos I had done so much for her in 3-4 years we had been friends.
1. If our little group would go browsing stores after school (we were in our late teens btw), I would carry her heavy shit around, otherwise she couldn't come,.
2. If we went to McDonald's I'd pay for her cos she didn't have a lot of money (neither did I, but she had less).
3. When she moved into student housing she was a little afraid to be there alone, so I stayed with her for a week. I cleaned a bit while there cos I wasn't working or studying at the time. I of course pitched in on groceries and helped cook dinner. The day I decided to leave was because she felt it was my job to do the dishes one day she had "cooked" dinner alone.
4. On a hot summer day I once helped her and her stepdad move a shitload of hay barrels to the barn attic, for FREE (unless you count water and soda), cos I would never charge my friends in any way for helping them out. We were of course wearing pants and long sleeved shirts to "protect" us from the hay and dust, which felt SO awesome when you're doing manual labor in a hot attic.
So yeah, extra upset with her, but they all made me not want to have friends again.
Ps. Sorry for the novel 😆
Friendship like any relation should have give and take ....
@@ananket.3518 True😊
From the time when I was like 7 to 14, all my friends ended up being toxic and manipulative. The prime time when I was friends with this super toxic girl was when I was 10 to 13. I had multiple emotionally traumatizing experiences and that came to the point where I would cry to my mom every single day for about two years. It's totally not something a child should have to go through, but it overall helped me to pick my friends wisely when I was older and overall I'm now a much better person with a ton of friendship experience. The friends I have now are much better people and I think I got super lucky with the friends I have now. :)
"He goes for skinnier, less annoying girls. Not that you're not skinny..." *but you're annoying* THEN WHY ARE YOU HERE?
The friend probably thinks she's annoying because she's in the way of stealing her boyfriend.
Probably because she likes him.
He obviously goes for her type as they're dating. That 'friend' is so jealous!
Don't take the friend's advice. Ask your boyfriend instead.
@@tag475 advice*
Whenever some friend says you look ugly and says the guy you like agrees with them, the guy you like is ugly, or anything toxic like that, it means they want the guy you are interested in and trying to take you out of the game so they can move on in.
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CZcams: This is fine
Someone: Says "heck"
CZcams: Be gone
#однако #я #люблю #таких #рыбаков #Интересно #забавно #девушка #смешная #垃圾
I legit did that to a girl in the 2nd grade.
I have a few stories:
My college roommate was toxic. Many reason why she was toxic but I’ll tell you one: she got mad at me one time for “making too much noise.”
I tripped 😐 I tripped on a chair and accidentally hit my ice cream bowl on the counter. She didn’t speak to me for a few days and wouldn’t even TELL ME at first (which she was famous for), I had to confront her cause I knew something was wrong.
The night I moved my stuff out though, I took everything outta the fridge we shared (it was actually my fridge that I rented, she didn’t have one) that was mine, closed both doors, and unplugged the fridge. I let her shit ROT 🤣🤣
I didn't realize this until well into my twenties that one of my best friends in high school was pretty toxic. It's one of those cases when you look back on your life and reality suddenly hits you with an "oh shit" moment. Two moments especially stood out to me.
The first one being around the summer before our freshman year began (we had known each other since middle school). My mom had dropped us off at the mall to go swimsuit shopping since we outgrew our old ones. I like, and still do, wear one piece bathing suits while my friend preferred two piece suits. As soon as my friend found out I wanted to get a one piece bathing suit, she began making fun of me. She told me that I need to wear a two piece because we are going into high school and are too old for a one piece suit. Telling me that only kids wear one piece suits. She actually told me that I need to start growing up and act like an adult woman and wear a two piece. I did just that, I picked out a two piece bathing suit that I was not at all comfortable with wearing. I wore that suit for years. I'm not proud to say that every time I went out in public with it, I was sucking in my gut to try and appear thinner than I actually was. That's how insecure I felt wearing that two piece. It wasn't until I moved states away and went shopping for a new bathing suit did I get a one piece that I still have and feel much more comfortable wearing. This is the topic that, when recanting to my sister, made me realize that my "best friend" was actually pretty toxic.
The second one is the classic she began to date my ex freshman year two or three days after I dumped him. She would constantly compare her relationship with him to how it was with mine. Often telling me how she was a much better girlfriend to him than I ever was. She later broke things off with him when she found out he hadn't gotten over me. They had only dated for 2 weeks versus 3 months with me. Looking back on it, I feel like she did this to just try and show me up maybe?
There's even more examples than this but these two stood out the most. Oh and don't get me started on the gaslighting. There was a lot of that too. To think I might have still been friends with her if I hadn't moved states away. It's been seven years and we have no contact with each other and hopefully it stays that way.
Geez that was a lot to unpack, glad you left her and got away from that because I'm sure you didn't deserve that, and on another note, rock that one piece!! I also find two pieces extremely uncomfortable so I'm glad you were able to go and treat yourself to a much better swimsuit haha and no need to make yourself appear skinnier or smaller than you actually are, I'm certain that you're beautiful inside and out
I would like to say this stuff ends when we become adults. It doesn’t, it’s just different. My coworkers, who are my friends, tell me I don’t need to do my hair so nice for work. I’m putting too much effort in and I’ll probably burn myself out so I’m told. My healthy lunch is offensive and ‘You’re not eating enough calories, seriously have a cookie’. My giant water bottle makes me look stupid and I’m drinking too much water somehow. ‘I know you think that’s good for you, but you’re definitely over hydrating’. Im wearing too much makeup. That one doesn’t make sense since I wear moisturizer and mascara for work. It’s all very passive, and I can totally handle it and stuff, it’s just…old. Oh ya, and I got into step aerobics when the gyms shut down and apparently I’m destroying my joints. I just…I’m a water drinking, hair doing, salad eating, aerobics loving train wreck apparently 🤷♀️
@ Their Manager, It is so obvious that all of your coworkers are jealous about every single thing about you. Good for you for recognizing their stupid little games. It sounds exhausting working with them.
I'm starting to guess they have blue or pink hairs
@@valerieking5265 bahaha it’s so hard to imagine that an adult woman is jealous of another adult woman. But maybe you’re right, and maybe they don’t even realize? But ya, I’ve got big shoulders, so I can handle it 💃
You sound healthy, keep doing you boo!
How horrible you are for drinking water, eating salads and wearing mascara!! LOL! What a bunch of idiots. I hope they hire some nicer people soon.
My favorite was a “friend” of mine who liked to insult me under the guise of joking. The last thing she said to me before I walked away and never talked to her again was, “What’s it like being the least attractive person in the hot tub?” Hell no, you’re unbelievable and I don’t need someone like you in my life.
Girl! Only jealous people talk like that. She probably was.
I would’ve immediately said “I don’t know, what’s it like, girl? Fill me in on the deets.”
Jokes aside I’m glad you left that bullshit.
Good on you for getting rid of her 👌🏻👌🏻
Wow!!
Those are the worst! Especially before you get to know your self-worth and learn how to self-validate, they can really tear you down. Good riddance to toxic frenemies🎉
It doesn't necessarily get better, you just become better at picking the non toxic ones. Unfortunately I wasn't so good recently. I'm 34 and just got rid of a toxic friend. Any time I needed a shoulder to cry on or to vent she would find a way to bring the conversation back to her. She would never ask how I was or show any concern for me. One day i just mentioned that a Facebook group rule we were admins of needed to be changed and she flew off the handle and called me toxic and all sorts of things. We have a mutual friend and she asked her if she was going to apologize to me and she said "is she done posting dumb stuff?" I told my mutual friend to let her know no apology was needed cuz I wouldn't be accepting any fake apology she had for me. The mutual friend was trying to be both of our friends and she was kind of blind to her antics. She finally got rid of the toxic friend as well
Have this friend, still a friend but she’s not very good at listening, I told her I have a colleague Whose sleeping n playing games at n I have to help him etc. she straight out told me she hate talking bout office. I would say she’s not the type of friend whom I need a shoulder to cry on. But she just demote herself to a lower level of friendship
Oh yes I ve been there… if I had my own needs I will be “egocentric” 🙃
This toxic friend I had in high school who bullied me for years got mad at me for having a prom date and I could not find someone for her, like it was my responsibility to find her a date. That’s literally just scratching the surface of what she did to me. I am happy to be done with her and knowing that she failed in college.
I'm so happy that social media wasn't around when I was in HS. I get so much anxiety seeing the BS that happens. When "friends" say you're not that pretty, they actually think you are and they are threatened by you.
Friends are there to lift you up, not put you down. Never let someone eat away at your confidence because they think they're better.
OT: I read "Friends" and "Monica" and read your comment imagining Courtney Cox's voice 😁
@@absurdious Totally get it, I had friends written in capitals first so it also sprang to my mind.
Sometimes they do it because they think you’re better and they feel insecure. Projection is a bitch
I’ve had friends ghost me and refuse to tell me why. And a couple who just wanted an audience or someone to vent to about all the drama and angst in their lives but would never even ask me how I was. It’s not easy to feel like there’s something wrong with you or you did something wrong that no one will tell you what or why. Really hits your self esteem but counseling and moving on to new places, activities and people helps. I’ve gotten much better at recognizing the “takers” and toxic people who will literally suck the energy from you and give nothing back to you. So maybe I don’t and never will have a huge circle of friends but the ones I have are good, caring people & funny, too.
I was a closeted lesbian until the end of my senior year of high school, so I never had any relationships to have drama over. And after my freshman year of high school I focused mainly on school and work so I didn’t really have any consistent friends to be toxic to me. Yay for loneliness I guess?
I once had this "friend" that I thought would always have my back. I went through something traumatic (my best friend took his own life and I found him, unfortunately too late) and my "friend" was there for me every step of the way. Until they weren't because it no longer benefitted them (they weren't the center of attention anymore for helping me). They would overreact to any little thing that happened, like it was the end of the world. My "friend" was flipping out about something and it had been about a month since the incident. They shouted "Oh my God, this is ridiculous. I just want to hang myself." You can guess by that statement how my best friend took his life. I tried to pretend I didn't hear it because I knew it was a trigger for me and probably just an accident, until they looked me right in the eye and said it AGAIN.
I excused myself from the situation so I wouldn't make a scene because I felt a panic attack coming on. This "friend" is a loud person by nature. They see me excusing myself and say "WHERE ARE YOU GOING? WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU?" I just kept going. They proceeded to follow me and asked again what my "problem was". I said, "well, it caught me off guard when you said what you did and I started to have flashbacks of what I saw that day. So I had to go". My "friend" then proceeded to tell me how I was being overly dramatic and needed to "grow up and get over myself".
This was the same "friend" that texted me at 1am, while I was at work (I finished at 110am) to tell me that they're stranded in another city that was about 1.5 to 2 hours away. I went and got them after work, brought them home, and didn't ask for anything in return (I never do) to only find out later that they CHOSE to stay where they were for a booty call and really weren't stranded at all. They just didn't want to stay there afterwards.
I WAS DONE!
#ghostedher
Good for you! Those kinds of people don't deserve you!
I'm sorry about your bsf and I hope your doing better now 💜
@@Somebody35145 Thank you and I’m doing much better now 💖
I've been through something similar and I completely understand the pain. Sadness, shock, frustration and anger are not only natural, they're -> THE ONLY
SO SORRY FOR YOUR TRAUMA. GLAD YOU SHOOK THOSE AHOLES!
I'm so sorry that happened to you and I'm sorry for your loss.
F that frenemy fr.
With friends like this who needs enemies
Edit: I thank God I grew up without social media
Thank you, for reminding me that I don’t want to go back in time.
My mother use to tell me that my bf in hs was jealous but I never believed her. Looking back now, it was so obvious.
So, glad we didn’t have social media. Word gets around fast for these poor girls and their haters.
I had my friend get together with my ex a week after he dumped me. She didn't see what she did wrong but her friend that disliked me and that I disliked back was the one on my side saying it was wrong. No surprise I'm no longer friends with her.
One mean girl tried to convience everyone in our class, that I'm gay too 😂 Among other things. But honestly - it didn't register with me, that she was trying to bully me. I was so oblivous, that at the time I just thought "Huh, what a weird thing to say" or "Huh, what a weird sense of humor", then went on with whatever I was doing 😂 Maybe it never registered with me, because it was just her - whenever she would say something about me, our classmates would just fall silent and wouldn't comment in any way. They were waiting for my reaction - and I would just look at her, like she hit her head or something, a little taken aback (some of the things she said were truly horrible and I wondered why she would say that about anyone) and after a bit of awkward silence I would be like "Okaaay... So anyway...". I realised years later, what she was doing and I kinda felt a little bit bad for her 😂 She was trying so hard to strike a nerve - and I honestly never even realised, what she was doing 😂 I accidentaly handled it very well 😂
I know what you mean! I was the same in high school. Looking back, I was bullied from time to time by some girls but it never even registered in my brain that was what was happening lol. I just shrugged and walked off or something similar every time. It helps that I was a bit of a loner besides occasional hang outs.
Ok but like, that hits so close to home because when I was younger things like this always went over my head too. 😂
I was so busy with myself I didn't even notice shit. 😂
"I accidentaly handled it very well", now THAT's a feeling 😂 loved it
The slow stare and blink as you try to understand why someone is saying something works WONDERS.
No, I'm not mad, I'm just confused.
I cut all the toxic "friends" out of my life not too long after high school. One keeps trying to find me, but my true friends tell her they don't have my info. I love all of them!!
Whole group of toxic friends in college- the thing that made me ditch them was how they treated my other friend. She found out later in life that she is on the autism spectrum, but at the time people just saw her as a little sheltered and taking longer to understand things (to the 'friends,' she was "clueless and slow.") The 'friends' asked me not to invite her to an upcoming party, and maybe try to avoid her at lunch. This is like high school bullying 101, how immature and rude!
I wrote a song about toxic friendships and the feelings you go through when you get let down by a close friend.
it’s called friend and my name is Jolina if you want to hear it on Spotify (or wherever you listen to music).
maybe you will relate to the lyrics, and I hope it helps you heal the way it helped me.
Had a "friend" like this who was dieting and working out and I was happy for her. I'm overweight, but I'm in recovery because I had an eating disorder and I suffer from depression too so my appetite can fluctuate, I haven't had a good relationship with food for years. Once she started losing weight, I was really happy for her because she felt more confident but then she started to point out flaws in me. Like she'd see me drinking soda and say "oh you shouldn't drink that, it has lots of calories in it" or "have you considered doing some excercise, your stomach has been looking a little bigger lately and it's hard to lose belly fat"
And she'd also say I should care more for my acne (which I've tried but I have super sensitive skin) and each time she'd find something negative to say about my appearance. Eventually, I just distanced myself from her and eventually stopped talking to her altogether.
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. It's so heartbreakingly relatable. When they start comparing themselves to you to themselves and to others, it's just so soul crushing. I hope you're doing better now and with better friends❤
The “why are you trying so hard?” really rubs me the wrong way
Yes. Especially since it seems like girls look this way every day, i.e. put on makeup and do their hair.
I was SO lucky. I had a string of horrible, toxic "best friends" throughout school, but I went through a horrible marriage at 19 and dumped all of that dead weight when I dumped him. I met my husband when I was 23, and got married again. We've now been married 23 years, have raised our 18 and 21 sons together, and the friends that I've made since then are the ones that continue to stick with me even now. If your friends are happy when you're marrying an obviously terrible person, or they run away when you enter into a happy marriage, they're not friends. They want you to be unhappy because it makes them feel better about their own bad choices and decisions. They should be cut off immediately.
Similar experience. Got in a toxic relationship & when I dumped him I dumped most of my toxic friends. A little later the rest of the "friends" got cut out!
Off topic, but you're so pretty!!
The post sounds like yall had 18 and 21 sons 🤣
Is it normal in your country to get married this soon ? Genuinely asking.
Toxic friend story: About 3-1/2 years i met, online, this really sweet girl with a mild case of cerebral palsy. We were both in the same fandom and both had a crippling fear of rejection due to friends constantly leaving us for no reason, so naturally we immediately clung to each other like glue even though we lived across the country from each other.
Her disability prevented her from being independent and she basically sat on her phone all day, most days, with nothing to do and no one to talk to, jumping from friend to friend since she graduated high school, which was about a decade prior so she was pretty lonely and bc i was taking a gap year between HS and college at the time, so i was more than happy to keep her company.
We talked constantly everyday. In Messages, in DMs, in the fandom chat, everywhere. Although, i never knew why ppl left me, it wasn’t long before i found out why ppl left her.
During my gap year everything was fine and dandy unless i entered adhd hyper-focus doing something and before i knew it 8 hours had passed lol. She would get annoyed or even angry if didn’t reply fast enough or went long periods without talking to her. Bc i related, i made an effort to remind her i wasn’t going anywhere. But that didn’t work. I explained that i didn’t want to be on my phone 24/7 and had other things liked doing. Her CP affected her speech so she was very camera shy and it was months before she could muster up the courage to FaceTime me.
But even those were few and far between so i just told her that i would be doing something else for a while and would get back to her whenever, which was often but i still always offered the option of FT me while i was working on something but she had the audacity to get mad at me for not talking to her even tho i gave her 90% of my time like God forbid i have time to myself.
It got worse when i started college later that year. I could no longer sit on my phone with her all day. It all went downhill from there. I would always tell her that i was busy with school and i couldn’t talk but to her that was precisely the problem. “You’re always busy ugh”. But that wasn’t enough. So again, bc i could relate to her anxiety, i tried to make time everyday to talk to her. But even that wasn’t enough. During my second year of college where i was majoring in music, my grades began to suffer bc i was talking go her so much. I had finished my core courses and was taking major related courses like music theory which were pretty intense. I had also made new friends that i often did homework with. She couldnt fathom that i could talk and spend time with ppl i see almost everyday in person and not someone who lives 1500 miles away. It was like walking on eggshells.
I finally got tired of being required to talk to her 24/7 and told her to just deal with it and that I would text her when it was convenient for me. I hoped that even though i would be gone a lot, if i still talked to her whenever i could, that would help ease her anxiety. But nope. That still wasn’t enough. Nothing was enough. It was all or nothing with her.
She often started nasty text message fights about how i never talked to her anymore, gaslighting me and cursing me out. Despite me always explaining myself, she refused to believe me and thought i was always lying to her. These fights were followed by a sincere apology stating how she was wrong 24 hrs later and a promise to never do it again, only to do it again a month or 2 later.
She then began taking her anger out on the ppl in the fandom chat that made it difficult to cut ties with her, which also consisted almost completely of other fans that she had beef with so that didn’t help either.
I forget what the straw that broke the camel’s back was but she got triggered by every little thing. And after months of that, i had had enough. Everyone in the chat had had enough. I messaged her privately basically saying you’re done, we’re done, we are longer friends, we’re all sick of your toxicity, goodbye. And she then proceeded go send a screenshot of the message to the chat screaming about much of a and i quote “disgusting person” i was lol. When admin came back she was removed from the chat and we both blocked each other. It could not have ended worse off.
I allowed this behavior for nearly 2 years due to her special circumstances. I wanted to give her every chance possible. I had no idea how overbearing i was until i had it done to me 10-fold. I wasn’t perfect either. I was always tried to correct my toxic traits even if she wouldn’t.
This friendship taught me why ppl have boundaries and i have gotten much better with trusting ppl. Idk how she is doing now but until she learns the difference between boundaries and rejection, nothing will change. I hope she does. She would be an amazing friend if it wasn’t for that.
I definitely don't miss my teenage years, trying to date girls because that was what was expected of me all while knowing that deep down inside that I was gay but fighting it at the same time & then having my so called classmates berate me because I was quiet & not how they thought I should be, but thankfully by the time I turned 21 & started exploring my real feelings I discovered after coming out that my self esteem grew over 300% & the women that I once was interested in that had turned me down were now interested in me but now I could turn them down because I was now only interested in men & my life has been better ever since! 💯
Sounds like some of these "friends" are trying to convince these people to break up with their boyfriends so they can move in.
For sure
All of them!
That's exactly what they are doing
Women don’t have friends just competition
My toxic friend story was I used to be a “hoe” in high school but I finally got into a serious relationship and was trying to turn my life around and my best friend kept tell my BF (now husband) to leave me and stuff. He knew about me and was willing to make it work. Now I’m happily married for 6 years with 2 kids.
I bet your ex "friend" hates that you got your happily ever after.. I'm happy for you. Screw her lol
Don't call yourself that word : be kind to yourself about your past and see that you simply were a troubled teen who went through confusing emotions upon which you acted the way you thought was ok for you at the time. You overcame this, which shows great courage and took good care of yourself since you created a loving family along with an intelligent man.
GREAT FOR YOU! LIVE LIFE AND ENJOY EVERYTHING YOU DO! YOU ARE LOVED! LUCKY YOU!
@@cardinalgin Nooo! Sweetie, please don’t call your younger self names like that. I really don’t know the full story, but you do…most girls who have a lot of boyfriends are usually trying to fill a void they have in their lives and a lot of those voids have to do with a father or father figure or an insecurity! Sadly, especially as teens, we allow people in our lives, who know all our secrets and those insecurities, and if they happen to be toxic ( as it appears this “friend” was), they feed into those instead of uplifting us ! The past is exactly that…it’s behind you! What matters is your happiness in the present and future! It sounds like you’re a beautiful soul who is surrounded by love, light and happiness 💜 I wish you nothing but best…but I also, metaphorically, want you to give your inner child and your teenage self a hug…let “them” know you love them too and recognize you’re only human😘
As a teen I had anger issues I channeled into working out, and happened to be friends with a very popular and nice girl. We supported each other and still do and would never have dreamed of acting so shitty as in these videos. She helped me to become a more social person and I helped her to get into working out and fitness. It wasn't until I was in my 20's that I experienced a truly toxic friend but after 5 years she and I split because I couldn't meet her unrealistic expectations (I had become a placeholder for the perfect husband she was holding out for.) After we broke off our friendship I realized that while I mourned the person I once thought she was and the friendship itself, I wasn't sad that it had ended and all I felt was the weight lifted off my shoulders. She still badmouths me and nitpicks me to mutual friends. But I am content in knowing that actions speak louder than words and if I continue to be the person I am with friends who love me for me, then it doesn't and won't matter what she says.
After a really bad relationship and break up that ended with him leading me on and then telling me he could "never see himself marrying me" My bestfriend at the time would text him constantly to "check" on him to see how he was doing after the break up... After all of the tears and mental crisis I went through and was currently going through. She claimed that he was her friend too so she was obligated to make sure he was okay. In hindsight I always was uncomfortable by how comfortable she would get with him. Put her feet up on him, Sit practically on his lap at times, flirt with him but then saying thats "just her personality" We are no longer friends and I met my husband right after my breakup with my ex and her 🤷🏽♀️
There was a rumor that I was gay in middle school and I actually really appreciated it bc it pushed me to think about if I was or not and why that would be derogatory if it was true. I think it made me a better person haha
11:16 😅🤣😂🤣😅"I had to tell her, that's a big thing!!" That's a friend
This makes me wish I could go back in time to 10 years ago and tell my teenaged self that life beyond highschool isn't so damn toxic
The fact that I’m not relating to any of these makes me love my friends so much more
"We were just talking. It wasn't even like that." after she felt the need to lie about where she was. Whoo. Brings back a memory for me when I was in high school. It really be your "best friends" sometimes🙃
AISURU.TOKYO/AGNEZ/?[Making-love]💞
(◍•ᴗ•◍)✧*。18 years and over🍎🍑
CZcams: This is fine
Someone: Says "heck"
CZcams: Be gone
#однако #я #люблю #таких #рыбаков #Интересно #забавно #девушка #смешная #垃圾
That whole thing was just messy. Her talking to the boyfriend and it being put on blast.
I love how the girl in the middle was like "oh shit, here it comes!!"
Yeah, didn't feel sorry in the least for that girl being put on the spot. She downright deserved that one. Shady AF!!
Of course she over looked the fact that the "boyfriend" was a willing participant in it as well
I’m SO glad as I got older that I removed ALL the toxic “friends” from my life. Even my “best friend” of 25 years!!! Not sorry, not one bit. People who are good deserve good people in their lives.
I had a toxic friend from college try to be my friend on Facebook....I ignored it. I don't need that negativity in my life. I also found out that this same friend had divorced her husband and he revealed to a mutual friend of ours that she was incredibly jealous of all of her friends and would say mean things about us to him and this was many years later!
OMG ! SAME ! ♥️
Ooof same!!!! I’m 29 now and life has never been this good before. But sometimes the kindness of my friends still catches me off-guard because I’ve always been treated so poorly by my friends….
@@MoeMoon is this a joke or do you actually know her😂
@@Leeny53369 I relate to this so so much! It's so alien to me to have genuinely lovely people around me.
My most toxic friendship was a person who said that they were friends with me and that they were going to help me with a project I was doing. Upon helping me with this project could start gaining ground and getting a little popular. This project was made so that way multiple voice actors can each get their time in the sun because every single episode of the show we were doing had different voice actor so everyone to get their line light. This person then got someone else to try and trick me into a voice chat with the pre noted idea of wanting to play video games which was a lie and then proceeded to demand that I make season 2 all about the character they were voicing and follow their characters storyline internet everyone else's voice characters into Side characters instead so that way they could be the star and everyone else basically gets left in the dirt. When they were told the word NO they threatened my entire CZcams channel for that project trying to say that they were going to see to it that nobody ever saw any of the videos ever again. After they got removed from the CZcams channel because I immediately blocked them for the toxic Behavior they mediately start saying that my writing is trash my art is trash my this is trash my dad is trashed everything about me is trash yet literally 20 minutes before that they were talking about how great I was before they asked for what they wanted. Then a little while later tries to get me to a voice chat demanding that I apologize to them when I did nothing wrong and proceeded to say in front of witnesses that "it doesn't count as entrapment if we're friends" when they were confronted with the fact that they tricked me into the voice chat to begin with to start the drama that led to all of the bulshit
When I moved to London years ago my first friend ever was an Italian girl, like me. We started hanging out a lot (since I was part-time) and we had so much fun! One day I met what would be my future BF and of course, I had to make space for him as well. At some point, I moved to a full-time job and it was hard to keep a balance and meet everyone. She was jealous. One day I was supposed to meet her at the park after work but his flatmate called me very concerned because my BF wouldn't get out of bed and had a very high fever. Hel told me he has been like that for days, he was getting worse and he was refusing to go to the hospital. Of course, I had to cancel the plans and go to his house to look after him, but when I told her she started arguing and screaming saying that since I met him we were no longer hanging out as before. I told her that it was normal since I also had a full-time job but she wouldn't listen. She then gave me the ultimatum saying "you choose me or him, mind if you choose him you will never see me again". And I didn't see her anymore. I remember she was constantly talking shit about him just to try to break us apart. When we actually broke up a year and a half later she texted me on FB telling me how sorry she was and that she has warned me about him. I'm still in touch with him, but not with her. Guess she was more toxic than him.
Read to the end, I promise it's worth it:
I no longer have this toxic friend, thank God, but we were best friends for 11 years. We got matching tattoos to celebrate our 10th yr of friendship.
She was supposed to (and agreed to) be my maid of honor at my wedding, she knew about my wedding day 6 months in advance, and I told her the night before that I can't wait to see her in her dress. The day of, she wasn't there. I couldn't get a hold of her and had no choice but to proceed with the wedding, (pulling my favorite bridesmaid up to take her place). I was starting to worry about her because she should have made it by now. 😕
It wasn't until after the wedding at the reception, she finally called me back.
Come to find out, she blew me off on my wedding day to go shooting with some random guy on POF, literally a hookup. Her excuse was "I wasn't sure you wanted me there". 🙄
I got my tattoo covered after that and cut my ties. When she saw my covered tattoo in a tagged photo, she messaged me on fb saying "you did unforgivable things!"
Because you know, blowing me off on my wedding day is so forgivable.
There were other things leading up to this ie; "jokingly" calling me fat after I had just had my baby. Telling me things looked good on me when I thought, and everyone else would tell me they didn't fit right. Etc.
On the bright side of it all, the bridesmaid that took her place is now my best friend and we are so much closer than she and I were!!!
Moral of the story: Don't get matching tattoos with your best friend! 😅
Well, a permanent skin marker also puts a lot of faith in a relationship considering it's omega-level rare that any relationship lasts as long as any tattoo. That moral you said is very true... and that also can be applied to most relationships. The way I see it unless you got matching tattoos with brothers in arms that went through Hell and back via very intense combat, don't do it. That's the only relationship where, even if the bond goes sour, the event that inspired it will live forever in a shared history. Personally, I just stick with telling people how I got each scar and I never inked. It's a fear of needles and permanent recorded identifiers... not all the other reasons to never get a tattoo. And no, the pain isn't an issue. I actually endured torture keeping my yap shut to as frivolous as to win bets. Two left scars, they were bets.
My best friend has wanted us to get one forever.. I agreed at the time but really... I don't want one because of stories like these! I feel like it's some weird curse, whether it's a partner or a friend, matching tattoos always split people apart. I'd rather a tattoo that is good on its own, but when together with your friend would kind of "match".
My BFF and I didn't get "matching" tattoos, but we both got palm trees when we vacationed together last year in the Keys. We're still besties, though! ❤️
"If a person is all over someone you Like, they are not a friend." --Charlotte Dobre
Facts! 100% I take sick satisfaction in knowing that the guy I liked who was using me is married to the "friend" whose been sleeping around with him behind my back. Both of whom lied to me about the whole thing. So now they can have each other! Use and abuse each other all day long! They're perfect for each other really.
I wish I would have known all of this as a teen 🥲
is your pfp Thancred lol
I'm sorry they did that to you! That's awful. But you're better off without them.
I don't agree with this, because it needs context. And there's a context where two friends have a crush on the same person, and I truly believe that "calling dibs" is toxic. In this case the two friends should agree that the person they like gets to chose whom they like back. And that's that. It's just a crush, you can't force love anyways. If my friend calls dibs and then they get rejected (nicely) should I not get a chance then? Maybe they turned down my friend (nicely) because they were into me.
It is horrible really. But they may be happy together or like any other couple. Thinking that they use each other or making each other miserable can be a dillusion of yours because that's what you wish in order to mitigate your hurt feelings and feel that there's justice. What I think is thst you need to accept that this may not be the case, it was a horrible experience for you that you turn away from your thoughts and live your life.
In middle school I had a group of friends. 1 of them moved to England for a year. When she came back we were so happy to see her, welcomed her back with open arms. Few years later I moved out of state for a year. Came back my junior year of HS and spotted 2 of my friends in the hall. They acted like they didn't know who I was. Completely confusing me and stabbing me in the back. THEN then they tried friending me on FB year later acting like nothing happened. Basically told them to drop dead😒
It’s the “so what?.. so what???” For me. Gaaahhh. I frikkin love Charlotte.
Im so ashamed to admit that i've been the toxic friend. I learned from it and would NEVER do such a stupid thing anymore. Luckily my friend accepted my apologies and we've been friends for 20 years and we're very close 🥰
Don't be ashamed. Toxic people will NEVER admit they're toxic. If you're able to do so, then you're ok now. You look like a good person. I'm glad for you that your friend accepted your apologies, it really must have taken some strengh from both of you. I apologies also myself for all the english mystakes, I'm French and english is difficult for me 😅
the face expression of the third girl in the back gave me LIFE lmaooo 11:00 the pure shock that her friend just dropped the "why were you at my bf's house"
Brooooo the third girls face is hilarious
my favorite part
I love the girl that told the story about the hoodie. I’d listen to her tell stories all day.
I was best friends with two girls in high school. we'd all hang out together and were really close. I was in love with one of them for years and only told the other girl we were friends with. she encouraged me to tell her I had feelings for and I finally worked up the courage to do so, in a long, detailed letter that gave me so much anxiety to give her. for a while, she was flirting with me and suggesting that she had feelings for me too. then suddenly her and the other friend started dating. the friend who convinced me to tell her told me that I had "inspired" her to be honest about how she felt, feelings which I had no prior knowledge about. I was heartbroken and our friends took her side. I ended up apologizing and forgiving both of them because my friends were making me feel like an asshole for even being upset.
In highschool, my clique stopped hanging around with me. I asked them why and they told me that I was just too "bubbly". Later on, I found out that our "queen bee" was pissed because her crush had a crush on me. Queen bees. Don't you just love them?🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
AISURU.TOKYO/AGNEZ/?[Making-love]💞
(◍•ᴗ•◍)✧*。18 years and over🍎🍑
CZcams: This is fine
Someone: Says "heck"
CZcams: Be gone
#однако #я #люблю #таких #рыбаков #Интересно #забавно #девушка #смешная #垃圾
Same happend to me. My clique stopped hanging out with me and never knew why...
The nice thing about being older is having moved past so many of these shallow and exhausting "friendships". Thank God I'm not 18 anymore. Or 16. Its hard to tell.
Amen to that!
The saying "with friends like these, who needs enemies" kept ringing in my brain throughout the entire video, cause honestly...
i LOVE that the girl in the middle was actually a good friend and didn't keep that information to herself i HATE when people know about cheating and other "friends" are messing around with their bf/gf and just don't say anything
Honestly, when her friends were talking about her being "on his back," I was like maybe they want to save her some embarrassment. Then she followed up with "we're dating." I was dead! Why are they even telling her anything?!?! What?!
It had a she might be into him and wants to break them up and get with him kinda vibe to it
I love that the girl in the middle at 11:24 is just sipping her coffee and watching this unfold 😂
My childhood best friend, all the way from when I was 7 years old, ended when I got pregnant at 20. She got jealous, apparently me having a baby and a man when she didn't was a deal breaker. I realized later I spend my whole childhood being her emotional support and the unattractive friend she'd drag everywhere with her so someone was always uglier. Love that for me!
This is a long one before you get invested:
When I was 16 I moved to a new high school, I had a hard time making friends until this one girl who I seen cycle through many groups sat beside me. We hit it off as friends and honestly it was really fun at first until she got comfortable I guess. I worked a lot in high school and coming from a poorer family I liked taking friends out sometimes because I know I appreciated it. I would take her to our Tim’s and get drinks or to get a slice of pizza and sometimes even out to restaurants for a girls night. She would get use to me buying things and demand me buy her lunch or food when I WOULDNT EVEN OFFER. but of course me being a push over just bought the stuff anyway. She would steal all my expensive clothes like my lulus, any name brand hoodie or shirts I had, any Sephora make up I had, etc. the worst was when it was her birthday I took her out to a really good ramen shop that is one of the best rated restaurants in our city, it always has at least a 20-30 minute wait to get in, and I told her that before we even went there. We’re waiting in line and she’s screaming at me about how I ruined her birthday and this day is terrible and it’s all my fault, while we are in line and many people can hear this as well. I’m trying to stay positive and get her pumped for the food so I start telling her about the stuff there when she starts grabbing my arm and physically pinching it and pulling at my skin very hard, almost like a toddler when they’re mad. I snap and say “owe, wtf are you punching me for for fuck sakes” which I guess set her back because normally I was a push over, then she apologizes and says “I’m sorry I think I’m just very hangry, I can’t wait for food I think we’re next 🤪”. Looking back at it, it’s almost like we were a domestic relationship even though we were just friends, she would get mad if I hung out with other people, push all other friends away and it was overall just a horrible friendship.
How it ended was when I had a white sweater in my back pack and she asked to put these pens she always had in my backpack (they’re her signature thing, almost like those jumbo pens with your name on them that you get at Disney and other theme parks), when i got home I opened my backpack and I guess they came apart in my bag and spilt all over my sweater. I texted her and pretty much said something along the lines of “fml of course your pens spilt in there, I should never have bought a white sweater” because the whole day I was worried about it getting dirty. She got the idea that I was blaming her for her pens spilling in my bag and starts to completely go off on me about how it’s not her fault and that I’m a sulky butch for saying it’s hers, mind you I never did, I was complaining to my friend because I ruined my sweater. I tell her that I’m not blaming her, it wasn’t a big deal it was a 20$ H&M hoodie not the end of the world but she just kept making excuses and manipulating things to make me fit her narrative( calling me toxic, saying I think I’m better than her, I never cared for her, bla bla bla). At this point I let loose, I call her toxic and say I’m done with her bullshit jealous games, her negativity and hatred to every single person and only caring for attention from guys, and block her on everything. Our mutual friend group that’s she approved of all messages me after to say I should unblock her and it’s not that serious but I blatantly say I’m done this is way too much, I’m not dating her I should not be treated like her abused girlfriend. Fast forward a couple months she got into a huge fight with her dad and step mom, jumped on a plane a few provinces over to live with her grandma and dropped out of college. Karmas a bitch…
Ok the 3 girls filming about going to the boyfriends house. Don’t just blame her. Yes she’s a shitty friend, but he’s to blame there as well, especially as he didn’t say anything either.
True. And I also think it's kind of toxic and childish to film the confrontation.
I agree that it’s shitty IF they are hooking up and hiding it from her BUT at the same time I think it’s messed up that your friends can’t talk to the boyfriend/girlfriend or be friends with them and hang out with them without you being with them and then you assume they are doing something wrong or trying to hook up. To me that says YOU don’t trust your friend or your boyfriend/girlfriend. It’s childish and says more about that person being super insecure. Your friends and boyfriend/girlfriend can hang out and be friends with whoever they want and that INCLUDES each other. That doesn’t mean they are hooking up or anything. You don’t own them. They are their own person and have a right to hang out with each other if they wanted to. Now once again if they are hanging out with each other just to cheat that’s another story but if they are just friends then stop bitching if they are hanging out without you. Stop being so fucking insecure and childish. Just saying. If people come at me for my opinion then you are proving my point.
honestly i think the toxic one was the one filming
I just love watching the middle friend cause she had 0 idea what was coming and her reaction is damn. Free TV.
Honestly I felt sorry for the 3rd girl just trying to have her Starbucks. She seemed to be the only non-toxic one (in this scenario)
This is why Charlotte is one of my favs... because she is comfortable enough to tell another girl she's pretty and then when the mean girls say she's gay because of it she says "What's wrong with being gay?" even though she's not. Love this! 🥰
The girl with the Starbucks in the middle is cracking me up! I love that she told her friend about Lila👏👏
I once had a friend that got mad at me and made me comfort them after I did better on a school project than they did 😬 and I don’t mean just telling them they did a good job, this bitch was SOBBING because I had a better grade than them and I had to be the one comforting them instead of getting to be proud that I did well on something I genuinely cared a lot about
For anyone out there in high school struggling… Please save yourself a ton of unnecessary stress and worry and please remember that once you leave high school you will literally never see 99% of these people again for the rest of your life. When you are in high school it’s your whole world but the second it’s over, it’s over. It becomes a distant memory… Don’t waste your time with toxic friends, you know in your heart who is a good friend and who is not… The ones that aren’t- cut your losses now and don’t waste your time. Have two good friends? That’s all you need. Have one good friend? That’s all you need. You just need a few people who love you and genuinely want the best for you and fuck the rest.
Also the bitchy popular girls & boys who partied or didn’t care about school? You have seen the best of them. They peak in high school. It’s all downhill from here.
I came across my graduation group pic (non-US, we were 19 when graduated and I am turning 37)... There was 45 of us and only remember like 1/3 of their first names.
Even those years had less drama than previous school (ages 13-16) it was still awful.
It's funny if they recognize me and I am like oh hello (am I suppose to know this person?)
Very wise words! (Lmao about the popular kids peaking in high school, it’s so true!)
I wish I had listened to my mom when she said the same things to me back in the day, but what teenager ever thinks their parents know what they’re talking about? 🙄 It would have saved me a lot of trouble.
I can count on one hand how many friends have stuck around over the years, and they really are good people.
The water batter throwing “friend” brings back memories. I had a “friend” in high school who would secretly hook up with any guy that remotely acted interested in me. I wasn’t sleeping with people, certainly didn’t date much, but she would bee line anybody. I think she ended up doing me a few favors in the end out of her own insecurities anyway. It was very bizarre. She would do that “why are you wearing that? You know “so and so” will be there and I like him.” As if I would’ve gone near someone if she liked them…that’s why it never made sense: if you don’t think like that it doesn’t make sense to you.
I had one like that too.
I totally had one too! She was my very first friend in a new school. Every dude I told her I liked, I'd hear she made out with him at a party, or she'd flirt with them blatantly in front of me...so glad she's gone
I had that same “friend” grrrrrrr
Likely the reason she would say the whole "You know x will be there and I like him" thing is because she was expecting you to act like she did and try to take the guy she liked. Because that's how she acted, she assumed everyone would act like that too.
@@7thlittleleopard7 That’s true. Projection is common.
I've had toxic friends, and I've also been the toxic friend too. Not proud of it. Some people never change but I feel like that toxicity exists more when you're younger and haven't established boundaries for the BS you will not accept.
I once had a friend who was mentally and emotionally manipulative and then would judge everything I would wear and eat. He also was extremely judgmental and had practically no respect for others. Anyways, was in that friendship for a good while until my mental health dropped so low I cut him and everyone associated to him out of my life for my own safety. And that’s why I don’t go to church anymore.
I am in a very healthy and accepting friend group now though that have helped me heal a lot from all that.
LOLOL I love the girl in the middle who is literally sipping the tea as the drama unfolds between the other girls….lolololol. That would totally be me.
SAME, just looking between them like oh shiiitttt
I wish that everyone is strong enough to get out of those friendships 😐🙁
It's not hard, believe me. You just have to say, I'm sorry but I can't be friends with someone like you. That's it. You don't even have to explain yourself either if they ask why. They can't understand why because their minds don't work like that.
@@Supersoccerchic Well I had a hard time to leave toxic relatiomship so cannot imagine to leave toxix friendship. Don't know when other people "pronounce" that someone is their friend, but ususally it takes time so it might be hard for someone to leave after such a long time
After these TikToks, I feel blessed to still have my best friend from childhood. 20 years of friendship and still going strong( even if we both live in different countries) 💞
I didn’t realize until I was in my twenties and had some distance that my best friend from middle school and into high school was super toxic. He was brutally honest and would do anything to keep my self-esteem at an ultimate low - I remember him yelling at me in the hall one time when I was talking about my crush that I needed to stop going after guys I like because they’d never like me back and it was pathetic that I kept trying. That’s a comment I’ve never forgotten and it still sinks my confidence whenever I remember it.
He was probably in love with you.
@@sofkanazuke5575 He was an a-hole. Stop telling girls that boys who are mean to them, love them. That's insanely toxic itself.
I had a best friend who kicked me out of her house and ended the friendship because I was divorcing my alcoholic/drug addict abusive husband. She said I was leaving him in his hour of need and that made me an asshole. When she ordered me to go back to him and withdraw my divorce petition and I refused, she threw me out.
One good thing, though, is as I was leaving I passed her mom who hugged me goodbye as she always did and I started bawling. "What's wrong, mija?" "I've been dismissed," I told her. As the door closed I could hear her yelling at ex-friend along the lines of "what the hell did you do?! What's wrong with you?!"
(Anyone with a little feisty Hispanic mama knows where that went)
BTW, she'd divorced an emotionally abusive asshole husband not two years prior. With my full support and assistance. I miss her mama more than her. It's times like this I'm glad I don't have friends anymore. lol
Edit: a word
Oh, your friend got the chancla. The provably also got shout at for a while, then 2 weeks no contact with her mok and the mom told her something like "You should haven't teated her like that, she was the only one that couñd put up with your shit and god bless her cause she can do what I can't" but in spanish so it hurted more.
omg 11:58, the girl in the green's face throughout the whole thing was hilarious
In high school there was a girl who seemed to think you raised yourself up by putting others down. I had zero interest in high school politics. I had a tight group of friends and genuinely did not care about any one else’s opinion.
The less affected by her petty games I was, the harder she singled me out. I got tired of her crap so I got a friend to ‘accidentally’ let it slip that I had a crush on her. I even brushed past her in the hallways a few times just to drive it home. It completely threw her and she started actively avoiding me after that 😂
Men: *physically hurt each other, have a beer later in the same day*
Women: *emotionally dissect you until you have trauma for the rest of your life*
AINT THIS THE DAMN TRUTH
not gonna lie as a man a rather intimidating watch i would rather take my beating and lose a fight then i would deal with this and hey beer who does not love beer
Because once you get that initial emotion/ aggression out of your system. Your head kind of clears and what you were feeling doesn’t matter anymore.
I was gonna comment on how all these toxic friends videos always seem to be girls but didn't want to get ripped apart in comments.
@@ironwolf56 easier for people to rip you apart when you are not speaking truth on this topic not so much girls do get mean especialy to each other
I grew up next door to my “best friend” since we were born. I always thought we were like sisters and she had my back. However, the older I got the more I realized she never had my best interest at heart. Anytime something happened to me she would laugh, when I got clean from drugs she didn’t respect my sobriety and encouraged me to relapse, and would only call me to hear about drama in my life. She was my maid of honor in my wedding but is in NONE of the bachelorette photos because, even though she planned it, she wanted to hang out with her new boyfriend instead. Oh, and she encouraged me to have an affair. When her life took a bad turn I spent time, money, and effort trying to help but was eventually told it was my fault and she made her family believe so as well so she could be a victim. Wasn’t even invited to her wedding. I was sad at first and thought I would miss her, but I was wrong because who misses a cancer as toxic and destructive as that? Drop those “friends”.
Wow...I'd say I'm sorry, but it sounds like you're way better without her! Good for you!
Here's my former "best friend": we bonded over shared interests in highschool, whenever someone wanted to be friends with me, she would go all 'you're changing, i don't even recognize you anymore' and then if i kept talking to that friend, she'd stop talking to me. I made efforts to hangout with them but she was like "is it me or her?" Dumbass me didn't know any better. Fast forward, we ended up in different classes and she started branching out, i was happy for her. Except she still wanted to monopolize me. And then she would rant to me about her new friends, how she didn't like them coz they're toxic so I was like then "stop being friends with them" She told me it's not that simple. And then she started an imaginary beef between me and them. Ngl. She had me. Fast forward, she complained how she feels humiliated whenever she hung out with them coz her budget's limited when they go out shopping. I lent her money. Over and over again. I fell for it. She hasn't paid me back. Lost contact with her when I told her I wouldn't lend her money anymore coz college makes my finances tight.
Last yr, her so called "toxic" friends reached out to me, asking about her. Ended up talking for hours about the imaginary beef and we realized she played us. We were like "holy shit, if it wasn't for her, we could've been friends in hs" . We're friends now and we seldom talk about her, she's not worth the thought, I realize that friendship shouldn't be measured with time. And the length of the friendship shouldn't excuse their bad behaviors
@@Just1Nora thank you! I appreciate that as I haven’t told this information much and could always use the encouragement ❤️
My toxic friend story: This happened my freshman year of high school. The first girl to talk to me was one of the 'popular' social butterfly girls. I didn't know it at the time since she went to a different elementary school than me, and around that same time I became pretty good friends with the boy she happened to like. We talked about hunting (Ive never been but had always been curious back then), hiking, cars and the like, not your typical 'girly girl' stuff that the social butterfly girl liked. She took this as a personal attack, keeping in mind that I was 100% NOT into said boy (As I had told her many times when we first started talking), that we were literally just friends. Around the middle of the year a new girl moved to our school from Texas so I reached out to her and we became best friends. Social butterfly decides that because she doesn't like new girl and because I was still friends with boy she liked, she was going to turn everyone she physically could against me while acting like she wasn't doing anything. She also started to get really creepy towards the boy to a point where he transferred to a new school and cut ties with all of us. I stopped talking to her around that time because Id had enough of her BS and because I lost a good friend that I never got back in touch with. She was not happy when I cut ties with her, bullying got worse and she wound up getting herself expelled because she started to spread extremely dangerous rumors about me and my best friend and my best friend's mom threatened to get police involved over it.
Good lord
In elementary school, I had this BFF. I was really shy and she was really out there. We loved hanging out, and we told each other everything. What I didn’t know at the time was that she took all the ideas I had and took them as her own. Everything I ever wanted, she wanted and did/got. And I was jealous yes, but I was too dumb to make the connection that she got and did everything I wished I could. And you know, they praised her for my ideas. Everyone praised her. It wasn’t till when I was in forth grade when it hit the fan. I think we were talking about being popular. And I had said that I was popular in the school. And she says “Yeah. You’re popular because of me. I have to do everything for you.” I was taken aback but-
“No. I’m popular because my mom is popular!” My mom is a teacher at my elementary school. And she is adored by her coworkers. Anyway, from there, she stopped hanging out with me and told everyone that I was mean to her. And I never made friends with anyone else after that ✌️
(Side story: I personally have no memory of this event but aparently, there was a day where she told one of the yard duty staff that I had hit and push her. So they made me sit on the fence in the sun while I sat there and cried all lunch. According to my mom anyway 🤷♀️)
Had a friendship that had been going downhill for a couple years but the last straw came during 10th grade when both of us applied for an officer spot in marching band. Whereas I spent weeks training for my audition he seemed to be under the impression that the spot would just be handed to him because he had seniority and his brothers were also big deals in marching band. I got the spot to his apparant astonishment because he then went on to tell anyone that would listen that he got robbed and then vowed to do everything he could to undermine me. Luckily that last part ended up being a moot point because he moved a couple months later.
He reached out to me on FB a few years later to try to get my help in picking a major, which was really hard because according to him there was just too many things he was good at. Ended that conversation as politely and quickly as I could and haven't spoken to him since.
I had this one “friend” that whenever we’d do an exam and anyone in our group got a higher grade than her, she’d throw a fit and not talk to the person and instruct the others to also not talk to the person. 🙂I was that friend that they’d always end up not speaking to until it was convenient for them.
Anyways I love you Charlotte❤️❤️❤️🥔🥔 Did you ever got to buy your dad the boat?
My so called friends only contacted me when they needed class notes....
So this "friend" is shaming others for getting higher grades than her. Why is that such a big deal? The only grades she should be concerned about is her own. If she wants higher grades, she should study more. That's the most efficient way to do it!
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My best friend had this ‘friend’ who would hang all over and sleep with any guy my best friend liked. I kept telling her how toxic that was and finally she cut her out of her life. She’s in a good relationship with someone who loves her now and toxic ‘friend’ free.
Okay props to the girl who told her friend that friend #3 was with her bf. I've been in that position before, it's not easy to pick between friends
the girls who were mad that their friends always looked good and smiled in pictures, they’re the reason why that dude ain’t ever seen two pretty best friends.
"honesty w|o compassion is cruelty."
there are several variations of that quote + they all basically say the same thing:
"honesty w|o kindness//emathy//compassion//caring about the other person's feelings, makes the 'honest' friend the asshole."
I completely agree, I think that’s key. It might be what makes toxic friends and such difficult to identify sometimes. Because we’re all humans and we all make mistakes, but some people have an agenda
You are the big sis we all needed 💜
I also have an amazing big sister already but we can always use more protective big sisters !
I feel like a lot of this would be avoided if people learnt as children that it’s okay to not have friends but still be nice to people. I know it’s human nature to want to surround yourself by as many people as possible to feel wanted but friends are people you meet along the way. They come and they go like a stream.
I've lived through two very toxic friendships, and the best advice I can give is when people make a show of ending your "friendship," let them. Don't reel them back in, even to defend yourself. It's not every day the trash takes itself out.
The panic on that girls face who was stuck between her two friends screaming at each other is me every time I have to interact with another human being.
Right? She also looked so scared when the one who was at the boyfriend’s house went like: “You told her?!”
yes. big feels to you.
She was like "Im just trying to enjoy this slushie..now its awkward" 😂
@@deedeeisabelsdottir I have never seen someone look so uncomfortable and try to act like they're invisible lol she didn't know where to look or what to do or say and when the one girl whipped on her she's like how you gonna be mad at me tho
The fact that the girl said that the other girl was too pretty and then said she was trying to hard but then said that her friend didn't even look that good is crazy. And then kicking her out bc she smiled like that's some crazy jealousy. I mean I'm glad she kicked her out bc then she realized that wasn't her friend. Love your vids btwww
When I was a few months into my current (amazing) job, I thought a slightly less new coworker and I were work besties until I realized I didn’t mean nearly as much to her as she did to me. We both dealt with mental illness and talked about past and current experiences with each other frequently, also giving each other emotional support during rough days. I thought we were also both picking up the slack for each other on those rough days, but I loved her so much that I didn’t notice that I was doing most of the picking up and she was doing most of the slacking.
The beginning of the end happened when the party that she, I, and a few other coworkers were going to got cancelled. She walked up to me and another coworker while we were completing a task that required us to be less than ten inches apart. The two of them made detailed plans to go drinking and acted like I wasn’t even there.
Some other things happened before I realized just how much she had been taking advantage of my kindness at work, but eventually I just stopped interacting with her nearly as much and she didn’t even seem to notice a difference. At least I was able to help her realize her fiancée was emotionally abusing her and helped her exit that relationship first.