What I've learned being a stay at home dad | Glen Henry | TEDxMidAtlantic
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- čas přidán 28. 02. 2018
- Glen Henry is a father changing the world. With prior success in music, he left the industry because he realized the biggest “stage” he’d ever perform on would be in his living room and his biggest fans would be his family. In 2015, he started his fast-growing CZcams channel called Beleaf In Fatherhood by welcoming us into his home to show the fun and real misadventures of parenting. Glen Henry is a father changing the world. With prior success in music, he left the industry because he realized the biggest “stage” he’d ever perform on would be in his living room and his biggest fans would be his family. In 2015, he started his fast-growing CZcams channel called Beleaf In Fatherhood by welcoming us into his home to show the fun and real misadventures of parenting. Growing up in Baltimore, he saw few examples of healthy family dynamics. Now he hopes to Equip Fathers, Give Hope to Mothers and Inspire Children with every upload. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I was a stay at home dad going to college, with my wife the bread winner, the entire first year of my son's life. I woke up everyday exhausted with my son crying me awake after 2 or 3 hours of sleep. Ever since I graduated and started my career, I thank God every day for giving me an entire year of my son knowing that daddy's got him!
It would be interesting to hear what you have to say about your wife through all of this. What did she learn?
I am a stay at home dad for the past 5 years with my 3 kids. No one understands, many belittle me, I move past all of it and continue the lonely striving. The loneliness and extreme levels of required self motivation is what I never saw coming. At the end of the day I am so grateful for the time with my kids. It means more to me than words I have.
I’m struggling buddy! Been a stay at home dad in 2016 after retiring from the military and I love watching them grow up but deep down I want to get back out there and keep grinding! I don’t know what to do
Cheers to you men. I too am stay at home Dad for me and my fiances 4 children, from her previous marriage. I have had several debilitating injuries that had already mostly taken me out of my career, lumberjack. I left my job to stay at home, allowing her to finally give up the night shift and work regular hours. And it gave us great flexibility during covid, she had options and wasn't forced into doing something to her body that she didn't want to do. I take pride in it, being a great stay at home Dad, maintaining the property both inside and out, giving all of myself to the most important people in my world. There are tough times, always are. There are people within the family that have insulted me, laughed at me, and I truly feel sorry for anyone that can't see the value in what I do, man or woman, it's truly an honorable duty
@@jakemullins4002 Many stay at home parents have hobbies.
Who cares what others think. Your kids are & will appreciate you. Blessings
I had to listen to this twice.
I’m stay at home dad with two daughters. It does sound easy.. it’s far from the truth.
Man, when he said loneliness and inadequate, I cried.
Lmao
@@locochang6533 What's funny?
Well you’re doing fantastic !
I’m a nurse and I saw an MD on some paperwork write:
Occupation:
“Just a stay at home Mom”
I shook my head in disbelief of the ignorance of some people.
This guy has one of the best parenting/family channels on YT! Beleaf in fatherhood. Has 4 kids now! They are wonderful, real parents ♡
Congrats Beleaf!!! You’re killin the game! 🙌🏿👊🏿🙏🏿😁
Keep striving!
Just walking in the steps I was ordered Fam thank you!
@@BeleafInFatherhood Mr.Bealeaf may I ask you something?
👏✊ let us take pride in Jesus our Lord instead of ethnicity
@@BeleafInFatherhood you just inspired me fam I'm a stay at home dad year and half so far and u just blew my mind
I thought that was him
PROFOUND:"The Father makes himself present and the children run after him" Much respect Glen!
What an AMAZING example of manhood.. what an exemplary illustration of fatherhood! Peace and light to you & your beautiful family!!
I love being a stay at home dad. One of the best jobs I've ever had 😊
Proud of u.... seriously ☺️
@@snehasingh6835 thank you ☺
How did u manage feeding ur baby in his breastfeeding times
@@rashmiprava8020 he's 2. He doesn't need breastfed. He was mainly breastfed at night. He got bottles for the most part during the day as he was a demanding baby and it was taking it out of my wife.
Currently in that journey with two girls.. man, more challenging than installing an entire HVAC system
When he said he was crying tears I laughed so hard! Man I can totally relate as a stay at home myself. I had tears flowing too. I don't care what anybody says, but to me marriage & kids are the biggest challenges you can ever have in life. You think college is hard & stressful? Oh no. Give me back that exam book please. 😂
Love your honesty..don't give up you have one of the important jobs in the world!
Finally I know others feel what I feel. It’s tough man. Beautiful, but tough.
😂😂 Agreed!
Stay at home Mom of 4, love it and nothing is more important than family. The kids need and want you there!
Truer words couldn't be spoken!
La Guardia Cross Are you related to him?
It is awesome seeing all of the empathic dads, single dads, and stay at home Dads on youtube. As a single dad it has made me feel a lot less alone. Although we now have a family, my son has a step mom and step sister, I still feel a lot of the weight being a majority time sharing parent. Thanks to all of you.
😍😍😍
My two favorite fathers on CZcams lol , thank you guys for all that you do and the example you set the bar high. Peace and blessings
So true. "Women's" work and unpaid work are so undervalued. Thank you for shedding light on a vastly under supported and undervalued full time + overtime job. It's arguably the most important one out there; what is instilled in children sets their path as adults.
Bedside, I see what you did there. Walking miles in somebody else's shoes, eh? 👍
Men still will think they do the most
@@atlantis6855Because they do.
This is so awesome! Keep on king.
“Wipe my bum. I said wipe my bum”😂😂
I’m a stay at home parent... you are talking to me! Your videos inspire me so much! You have no idea!
We are in this together!!!
Finally a man that gets it! 😂
HAHAH!
EXACTLY!
Hes not a man that gets it hes honestly lucky he got the chance to experience it
It frustrates me how talented and hard working artist like Beleaf couldn’t live off of their music. Streaming has condensed the music industry a lot
This has to be the funniest and most realistic ted talk ever 😂😭
my dad was a stay at home dad and i can say that i would not want to have it any other way. it helped me build such a good relationship with both him and my mom. i had a very happy childhood and am proud of the person i am because of my parents choices
I love his youtube channel
P.S his kids are hilarious
Thank you fam!
Me to
"When you stand in someone else's shoes you see the world from a different perspective", "We're walking on a certain path as parents - we're all in this together", "I thought that the father was supposed to pursue the child but it turns out the father makes himself present and the children run after him and that right there is a super power" *LOVE*
I know this is weird to say but watching you up there is like watching an old friend and hoping the best for them and having that nervous excitement. So proud of you, this gave me chills and was inspiring. Thank you for being my favorite CZcamsr!
This is gold!!!
Thank you SIS!
As a stay at home mother, I can honestly say that this talk was everything. Everything! Great job, Beleaf! You’ve inspired me in so many ways and helped me to see the beauty in all of this.
I'm stunned that Beleaf had a tedtalk. I'm happy.
As a 28 year old stay at home dad who is trying to make it as a filmmaker editing feature films I needed this. I have 2 babies at home under the age of 1.5 yrs. Lord help me. I told my wife we can have more kids when we swap roles. lol.
Beleaf you definitely have the gift of storytelling; verbally and visually!!! Congratulations on all of your success! I'm so happy for you and your family. You are changing the narrative of men and the roles they play in the family. It's refreshing. Peace and continued blessings to you, Yvette and the chocolate babies!!!
For those that don't know. This guy you see here is twice as awesome a rapper as he is a speaker.
Ohh my goodness! Started from the bottom now we are here! I am so glad that you are able to tell your story! Praying for many more opportunities like this to come.
Thank you so Much! Still got a lot further to go Lord Willing!
Yasss same here! Praying for continued success!!!!
Beleaf!!!! I’m so proud you!
YAY!! thank you!
Proud......he's doing what ever man should do. Take care of your Kids.
I was a stay at home parent of four. Back in the workplace now. But boy oooooh boy do, I understand the daily adventures. This was beautiful to watch. Big ups to you Beleaf.
Big congrats Beleaf! Such an awesome talk!
I appreciate that! Thank yoU!
I'm about to become a stay-at-home Dad. It was my wife's idea. I'm a little bit more self-disciplined and I run a tight ship. So if I'm going to be a stay-at-home dad, I'm going to be the best there's ever been.
Hahahaha! You make me laugh I had the same mentality depending on the age of your kids your about to be humbled my friend. But don’t fear your not alone
Haha! 3 years later and I bet you’re eating your words! 😂
Love this!!!! This was so on point!! I'm currently at home with my rambunctious 2.5 yr old and job hunting. My husband asked if I do anything but sleep all day. He said it can't be that hard to clean the house and have dinner done, call agencies, fill out applications and make followup calls. He comes in and asks why I look tired. We have an almost 90lbs dog and she and my son will destroy the house. My only time to myself is IF he takes a nap. Then I still have the dog, she might take a nap when he does. Either that or she finds her loudest toy and goes ham!!!! I'm tired just thinking about it!
Am totally not judging you at all but...if you can get even a minimal job...even a small job...you might be surprised how that would help you and your family. I came from a family where my father stayed at home and my mum worked...but I just wanted my dad to work. Even if he was a janitor, or a cleaner or a carpenter...I would be so proud...so so proud. I don't know your situation but I would advice you for this.(my dad has a history of depression and alcoholism. I don't want to have children because I don't want to continue his lifeline. I think it should end with me.)
@@augustinembae8266 Sounds more like you need to see a therapist. I really think it could help you. That resentment should not be what guides how you live your life. Also sounds like he was depressed before and he needed to speak to someone too. I'm thinking partly because he's a man and his wife is the one working. That's a major blow to most men. No matter the situation. He could have had all his appendages blown off and be in a wheel chair. Some men are only taught to financially support, or you're worthless. They skip or ignore the part where there supposed be supportive in general. Even though he might have loved you guys, that's sounding more like residual resentment. Like he was feeling hurt and bothered. And that's something that could be felt by others in your circle negatively. When a lot of people drink to escape, their feelings almost always come out.
Life update:
The reason I wasn't working was because the company I worked for lost a major contract and laid a few of us off. I got another job shortly after, then had our second baby. My husband will take random vacation days and he'll stay with the kids. He struggles and things don't get done around the house same as with me. He not the type of person to admit he is struggling, but will show signs passively. He will call me about 6x a day to ask how to make a bottle or where this or that is. It's hilarious. We actually like our kids and enjoy spending time with them thought. And the 4yo can/will do most things on his own. Determined to be independent. He's still a handful though. More in the way of questions authority, most likely gonna be a lawyer or a contractor/architect that knows his way around the law. Tries to be sneaky, but he's too loud. If the baby is sleeping and he's not, he'll try to wake him up. The toddler is a tornado, and he will fight and then have a tantrum or run off with his hands in the air looking for somewhere to fall out with the drama when he's told he can't knock his brother upside the head with a toy.🤦🏾♀️ He's the one we had to baby proof EVERYTHING for. At this rate, I'm guessing he'll either go MMA or WWE.🤷🏾♀️ Our poor dog just runs into her crate sometimes when she sees him coming.🤣🤣🤣 I am currently at home but for the same reason as most people. I took longer though because I've had medical issues in the past and didn't want to chance anything. Plan to go back sometime next month. In the meantime, I make jewelry and I'm actually working on a custom order for some centerpieces.
God bless!💙
@@augustinembae8266 I'm also speaking from experience. The way your upbringing sounds reminds me of someone else and their siblings I know closely. They love their dad and their mom was the breadwinner. Looking back at the past you can see he was showing signs of depression. And his kids felt the same way as you sound like you did. They resented him. Looking back as adults they understand more of why his dad was the way he was. The sister sees a therapist and it's helped her tremendously. The younger brother seems okay, but his personality is very nonchalant so it's hard to tell. The older brother is almost 10 years older was there for the father's behavioral changes so it effected him a lot more. He definitely should see one. He's a mess.
@@kharlie22 I'm a stay at home dad. I do work some but the reality of societal expectations is hard to ignore. Khalire I empathize with you and every single woman who has ever stayed at home. My fiance one day was like, "it must be nice to nap during the day." I looked at her and said, "you realize I'm now working as a cook right? Sorry if I ever take a break during my 16 hour work days." lol I still want to be the bread winner, but nonetheless. I am grateful for a perspective most men won't ever get.
@@JonJosephKuhn There’s a difference in a stay at home dad and a broken dad. These dads had trauma that prevented them from working. As a stay at home parent you always run the risk of being judged, which is unfair if you both agreed on it. Also if the bread winner needs help financially it’s time to find a job.
I smiled so hard when those cute babies ran to their dad. This is so beautiful; loved it. Love the entire story. Touched my heart. Thanks for sharing.
From one stay home Dad to another. You're doing great. Good job Dad.
Thiss the Belaeaf in Fatherhood guy, his channels great
Great talk brother! Always an inspiration for me 😊
Thank you brother honored! Got your email and I appreciate all your encouragement!
Wow Glen you’re an excellent public speaker! I wasn’t expecting that. Awesome talk!!!
🙌🏾 I’m a Beleafer!
I honestly felt emotional watching this. I can feel the love and passion you have for your babies. So proud of you.
Broooo this is excellence 🔥🔥🔥. How can someone give it a thumbs down are they okay 🙄
Paulina Nkansah Smh Right! Show yourself you cowards!!!
Wow, all guys should aspire to be this enlightened. What a great human being!
You was made for this! Salute
AMEN
You are the best storyteller. Your comedic timing 🤣😂.
Epic! Love this to the moon and back.
I appreciate that Fam! Thank you for being down for so long!
Beleaf In Fatherhood of course. Love your stuff. Love that you are a good role model for dad's.
That was probably one of the best ted talks I've ever seen. I can't say it another way.
I love the message of discipline (physical pain) vs discipleship (engaging your children and teaching them). I have watched your transformation. It's very inspiring.
I find this more encouraging than a lot of SAHM blogs. Thank you!
Nice ted talk keep doing what your doing
Thank you!
OMG the first clip of Theo! I don't think I've seen that on Beleaf in Fatherhood. HILARIOUS!! He really did demand that like a boss, too.
Noooo waaaaay!!!!! Yeeaaah man! Im so happy for you guys! Looots of love from Croatia! Amen!
Thank you so much for your support The love is real!
God bless you 🙏🏼🌸😇
Fantabulous, Beleaf! Shout out to stay at home parents!! 💕
REPRESENT!
As a stay at home dad, you have get used to...
Not getting invited to the "mums" meet ups.
Getting looks from old folks.
Mum's moving away in toddler groups, even when crowded, there'll be a 2 foot space round you.
Getting patronising talk from mums when they learn what you do.
Getting a wtf look from other dads who work.
Getting a 'stay away from my wife look' from husbands when they find out their wife has hung out with me at the park.
The comments of 'there's a stay at home dad over there for you to talk to!' from mums and grandmothers.
When toddler group organisers need helpers, they ask mums but not dads.
This is how it is mums. At least how ive seen it. And not in one area, but over three. Plus all other dads have backed this up.
It's tough being a parent. But that's what we are, mums and dads.... PARENTS!!!
If you see a parent that looks a bit lost at a toddler group, go over and say hi. It will make their day.
Bro this was off the chain extremely inspiring!! not just for the mothers, but the father! I too am a father and stay-at-home dad at the same time trying to build my CZcams channel!! I have mad respect for you!! keep it coming My ultimate goal is to be on, tedx you just took me to the next level!!!!
I believe this was intended for the fathers
Love his CZcams channel. Awesome job.
Thank you so MUCH!
So proud of you friend! You’re a rockstar Dad and human!
Thank you bro!!! I can't wait to rock with you!
Loved this talk so much Beleaf! Full of humour and powerful knowledge.
Thank you! I'm Honored!
I absolutely looovvveeedddd this. LOVED👏IT👏!!! I'm a stay at home wife and mom of two and I have been following your channel for awhile now. I can identify with you on so many levels with the kiddos. When you announced that you were going to do TEDx Talks I was so happy for you and now that I have seen this video I am so proud of you. Proud of that fact that there is another voice promoting, appreciating, and presently living in the stay at home world. Thank you so much for sharing and may God continue to bless you and your beautiful family
Beleaf, you killed it! Made the absolute most of your opportunity!! Proud of you!
Glen, I'm so proud of you! You did so well at your TEDx Talk. Incorporating mini-clips from your CZcams Channel was an excellent choice.
CELESTE, in the ATL 🌻
I am self employed and a stay at home parent with five teenagers, two are mine, (I have been a lone parent since 2014,) and have a two year old with my current partner.
Was a chef before and if anyone says being a stay at home father/parent/mother/guardian or whatever your pronoun as a parent is, it is hard work trying to get everything done: cooking, cleaning, laundry, housework, garden, looking after the toddler and keeping them entertained... Believe it or not it's the teenagers who are more work than the toddler
PROTECT YAH LIFE ‼️‼️
Beleaf in Fatherhood. I love you guys
Looks like I'm late to the party but glad I made it
This is awesome to see you doing this! I've been following your CZcams channel for about 2 months now and I've been binge watching all of your videos. As an African American woman, you along with LaGuardia Cross, are a breath of fresh air to see. You rocked this! Love what God is doing in your family's life!
So proud. Like a play cousin! Fam - we are rooting for you in Baltimore!
Good job Beleaf!! “Be present...”
thank you!!!
This is GREAT! Congratulations BeleafInFatherhood! You were fantastic! Loved every minute! :)
This was sooooo awesome! Great job Glen
I'm honored thank you!
Henry is a beautiful example of what it means to redefine and resist traditional views of masculinity. Men can be sensitive and nurturing. Men can meet the needs of children just as well as a woman. Fathers can and should be encouraged to be stay at home parents just as much as mothers. As Henry spoke about clearing the path for future generations (“When you start to take steps, it feels like baby steps, wobbling. But then they turn into stomps. And you start making footprints for the next generation to walk in. See, we’re walking on a certain path as parents. We’re all in this together. No one can deny that family is one of the biggest foundations in anyone’s life. We’re all walking on this path and we’re pulling these thickets out of the way, and these thorns, making it easier for the ones coming after us.”) I was struck by the ways that he and other men like Henry are paving the way for a future of men who redefine what it means to be masculine.
He is a new found role model for me. I am a stay at home Dad currently. I have so much more compassion and empathy to what it is to be a stay at home wife/person. It also takes a lot of trust in the working partner, because you completely rely on them.
Beleaf!! Hope this TED talk goes viral!!! So surprised it hasn’t yet
I’ve been a stay at home mom for 11 months now and I’d be lying if I said it hasn’t taken a toll on me. You just gave me the best idea ever. 😏 I can’t wait for my husband to get home from work!
Yaaaaaaaaaassssssss!!! I'm so excited for you and the Melanin fam!!!!!!
I’m so proud of you! You killed it bro! Glory to God!
Great Ted Talk!
Thank yoU!
Wow I didn’t know Glen grew up in Baltimore that’s awesome! That’s my home city 🙌🏼
I got told last week by my husband that if i dont pick him up from work, cook for him etc id be sitting at home doing nothing. Im a Mum of three girls and i also work part time and when he said that to me i died a little bit inside.
Hey Beleaf!!
HEY KEISHA!
Let me go ahead and like this because I already know it's about to be fire
Powerful delivery of a very relevant message for today! Well done brother Beleaf! 👍🏾
A real man cares for his family....not to be held down to an expectation by society to be away from your family simply because "it's your job".
Great job!
Thank you sis!
Beleaf is so inspirational, trying his best to set an example of quality fatherhood. So important
Congratulations Beleaf! You delivered such an encouraging look at the ups of and downs of being a stay at home parent. Way to rock a TED talk! 👍💪 "PROTECT YA LIFE!" Big homie. 😄 Keep on speaking & being a light in this dark place in Jesus name!
Wow....I'm glad I found this...
“Done”. Yep!! Perfect description. Need to spread the word. Men will only listen to other men, (typical,) so, Stay-at-home Dads spread the word!!!!
I love love Beleaf’s channel. He’s hellva hilarious 😆 The kids are too. Their just a beautiful family period.
Love this guy!!!
Wow awesome!!! So true! As a SAHM thanks from the bottom of my heart! 😊👍🏽
This was GREAT! Congratulations BeleafInFatherhood! I loved every minute! You are an awesome public speaker!
We need more men like him
EMOTIONALLY TIRED! Thank You 🙏🏽 ... I’ve never been able to articulate just how drained I feel at the end of the day/week , and this is IT.
Why am I just seeing this?!?!?!? BELIEF!!!!! THIS IS SOOOOOOOO AWESOME!!! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
THE CHOCOLATE BABIES DADDY IS ON TEDEX!!! Great Job! I loved it.
This was good! I want to send this to every father that give their wife a hard time! Lol I salute every mother and father who stay at home to take care of their child. As a woman, I'm not sure if I would be able to do this and not sure if I want my husband to do it either if I'm totally honest. At any rate, to each it's own. I do however think there should be a father stay at home week(not day)! They need to know how challenging it is to raise a child from the mother perspective and appreciate their wives more. Thanks for sharing. Btw, Your music is pretty dope!
Thank you so much for this amazing, truthful, accurate, and much needed talk. I've had just about every job under the sun. I'm now a stay at home dad, and I can say without a doubt that It's the most physically, mentally, and emotionally draining job I've ever had. Loneliness, lack of energy, severe levels of stress, and the feeling that you're never doing a good enough job are what makes being a stay at home parent so difficult. People will never understand, until they do it themselves. Again, thank you.
There is nothing wrong with a man taking care of his kids and staying at home!
this was refreshing and validating. the only thing I disagreed with was sleep when they sleep. That's the only time I can get dishes or laundry done 😭
Of course you killed it! 👍🏾
I just stumbled across this and am not surprised to see this man on the stage sharing his adventures in fatherhood. I love his CZcams channel and his amazingly beautiful family.