Living & Dating As A Trans Man | 5 People Explain

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  • čas přidán 13. 11. 2019
  • We passed the mic to five trans men, who, in this video, open up about how they came to identify as they do, their transitions, their dating lives, and what they wish you knew. Nikolas, Laith, Johnny, Bellamy, and Jai, we hear you loud and clear.
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  • @AndiD018
    @AndiD018 Před 4 lety +1374

    I was a bit afraid to scroll down to the comments. Was not expecting all the positivity.

    • @jasminebradbury4156
      @jasminebradbury4156 Před 4 lety +32

      Same i thought i had to fight some people😂

    • @BDMcN-vo8op
      @BDMcN-vo8op Před 4 lety +19

      these girls have all lost their fkn minds!!!

    • @courtneylynn1854
      @courtneylynn1854 Před 4 lety +64

      @@BDMcN-vo8opSo rude! Where did you get your home training? You clearly never learned the golden rule of, if you can't say something nice then don't say anything at all. - Sincerely, a straight cis girl. Xoxo!

    • @BDMcN-vo8op
      @BDMcN-vo8op Před 4 lety +15

      @@courtneylynn1854 people are sick of being thought-policed and word-policed by people that they ARE in fact being tolerant of. being told that we HAVE TO want to date them or we are hatemongers. being told that we HAVE TO allow them to play sports against actual women. we are sick of it. we have actually been tolerant and they did not appreciate or even acknowledge it. you can coexist with a person of different religious beliefs without having to police each other. why does this have to be different?? i am a gay male and i have very close trans friends. but this reverse bullying thing is getting very tiresome.

    • @AidaExplorer
      @AidaExplorer Před 4 lety +1

      Same

  • @cskrompier5164
    @cskrompier5164 Před 4 lety +2588

    I hope when I’m done with my transition I’ll be as hot as laith 😂

  • @acinamatata6342
    @acinamatata6342 Před 4 lety +1734

    Omg laith is the most beautiful man 😭

    • @RedJo7
      @RedJo7 Před 4 lety +35

      Scott hes a dude man

    • @dinadina2000
      @dinadina2000 Před 4 lety +24

      @Scott OK Boomer

    • @norahclarissa6352
      @norahclarissa6352 Před 4 lety +46

      And his name in arabic is a beautiful synoym of "Lion"

    • @doomzy8622
      @doomzy8622 Před 4 lety +4

      LOL

    • @icemule
      @icemule Před 4 lety +43

      There are zero men in this video, sorry to break the news to you.

  • @springbearsinlove
    @springbearsinlove Před 4 lety +925

    thank you for showing a diverse group of trans men

    • @samanthak9078
      @samanthak9078 Před 4 lety +3

      Agreed!

    • @BDMcN-vo8op
      @BDMcN-vo8op Před 4 lety +15

      show 2 trans men and 2 butch girls

    • @_lio6643
      @_lio6643 Před 4 lety +53

      @@BDMcN-vo8op just because their pre-transition or don't want to transition doesn't mean their butch girls

    • @aesaphyr
      @aesaphyr Před 4 lety +38

      @@_lio6643 They have transitioned. They live as male. What you mean is they have not necessarily undergone surgical or medical treatment, which is only part of many tools people may use as part of their transition.

    • @BDMcN-vo8op
      @BDMcN-vo8op Před 4 lety +15

      @@aesaphyr you telling me that you would ever see Jai, that chubby chick at the. end, as a boy? come on man! you aren't doing her any good

  • @GrimsStation
    @GrimsStation Před 4 lety +181

    I too, at the age of 7, expected that I would be born as a male in my next life and that I had just drawn the short end of the stick. Honestly for the longest time thought everyone wanted to be a guy; that all girls were upset that they were not boys and that that was just the way life was. Wasn't until I saw a movie about a trans women that I realized that this might not be the case, still took me a long time after seeing said movie to actually allow myself to question myself. I would just sort of have a way in the back of my mind thought 'Am I trans?' before quickly shoving it away and thinking probably not.

    • @aesaphyr
      @aesaphyr Před 4 lety +18

      This resonates so powerfully with me. I also thought everybody deep down feels like they should have been a guy and want to be a guy when they go about life.

    • @GrimsStation
      @GrimsStation Před 4 lety +4

      Nice to see that someone else can relate

    • @lane6136
      @lane6136 Před 4 lety +4

      @@aesaphyr same and I'm trans woman

    • @bluesunshine420
      @bluesunshine420 Před 4 lety +1

      Literally same!

    • @hassan-ph5hk
      @hassan-ph5hk Před 4 lety +10

      Have always wished I was born a boy, my parents hoped that the baby (me) is a boy, and now they do allow me to dress like however I want. But I still don’t feel content, seeing how people (guys) my age like they’re taller, bigger, have deeper voice and all, and I just wish I was born a boy and go through puberty like other boys. I’m uncomfortable with people seeing me as a girl or think I’m a girl, I’m uncomfortable with my body, with my voice. I found out about transgender probably about 4 years ago (2016) and I was fourteen, I was so excited and just wanted to let my parents know, to let me go through transition. But it’s really not that easy, four years and I’m still trying to figure out how to come out.

  • @yuhimounir976
    @yuhimounir976 Před 4 lety +1229

    Ok Laith is so attractive I can't even

  • @kherynnw8603
    @kherynnw8603 Před 4 lety +512

    Argh. I can’t with Laith. He’s sooooo hot - and I’m a trans woman.

    • @goodname7613
      @goodname7613 Před 4 lety +2

      Horni

    • @kenkai2861
      @kenkai2861 Před 4 lety +9

      not that bad, that makes you a men and him a woman, nice i dont care what you identify as you are what you were born, truth can be brutal you cannot cheat biology

    • @necrot9693
      @necrot9693 Před 4 lety +62

      @Kenkai yes biology can’t be changed but the quality of lives of can be with transgenderism. People just wanna live happily bro.

    • @dirkstrider
      @dirkstrider Před 3 lety +50

      @@kenkai2861 transgender people are backed up by science and biology? do ur research wtf

    • @MN-iw6bw
      @MN-iw6bw Před 3 lety

      Do trans women date trans men?

  • @Oliver-bq4pp
    @Oliver-bq4pp Před 4 lety +725

    Okay, as a transgender male, this is what I have to say.
    - Google is a thing, however, it’s literally not rude to ask if you are just genuine lol.
    - I don’t understand how asking about your genitals is a no-go, almost every relationship comes with a sexual side yea? It’s literally fine to want to know, I would want to know too.
    - It’s not transphobic to not want to date a trans person
    - Most of us are just normal ass people, just be nice like you would to anyone else. We ain’t all that weird ig.

    • @leowright2251
      @leowright2251 Před 4 lety +183

      For me it's only weird when strangers ask about my genitals, if it's a friend that's just curious or if it were someone interested in a relationship it's totally fine but when it's the first question out of a strangers mouth if they realize you're trans it's a bit jarring lol

    • @Oliver-bq4pp
      @Oliver-bq4pp Před 4 lety +26

      Virdy Shmirdy exactly. 👍

    • @Oliver-bq4pp
      @Oliver-bq4pp Před 4 lety +122

      Kake The Sailor ok this too much lmfao.
      I’m pretty sure it just means they aren’t attracted to it. It’s not as deep as ur making it, i want a dick inside me, and vaginas make me dysphoric LMFAO. This has NOTHING to do with ur social construction shit. It’s about preference, if i don’t like peanut butter i don’t like it, if i don’t like dick i don’t like it, if i don’t like long hair I don’t like it. Ur being weird. Don’t tell me I have mental issues because of PREFERACE . This ideology that u think is so “woke” is the same as telling a gay person they can’t be gay because they haven’t “explored enough” and that’s bullshit. So idk what ur on about, or who put this shit into ur mind, but it’s fucked up man. Ppl associate penis with men bc that’s what men are born with, it’s science not a “social construct”. Me as a transgender person, i get dysphoric not having a dick, why? Because it’s a MALE thing. I can’t just be like omggg i love vagina hehe it’s sooo male. No. Way to discredit and invalidate everything in the world LMFAO. How about YOU think more deeply about this? I’m pretty sure men who like men with penises don’t have this “phobia” of vaginas, it literally just means they prefer dick. Yikes.
      I’m all for looking at who a person is on the inside, but it’s not like you can just take away the sexual part of a relationship. People like what they like, what you are saying is disrespectful. You need to respect what others prefer. I’m honestly shocked someone wouldn’t want to take into account what others like and don’t like, which is such a simple concept.
      Don’t discredit science either, this isn’t a social construct matter. You are delusional.

    • @lilacpurple2649
      @lilacpurple2649 Před 4 lety +27

      @@Oliver-bq4pp somebody that gets it 😊✊

    • @user-dv5xc1qb8b
      @user-dv5xc1qb8b Před 4 lety +2

      Exactly!

  • @erickquintero6595
    @erickquintero6595 Před 4 lety +279

    Laith and me could easily pass as brothers

  • @bbomg02
    @bbomg02 Před 4 lety +158

    I get kinda scared to be feminine at all like the long haired blonde one because I wanna pass really well. And I feel if I do anything feminine I won't pass.

    • @themoribundapathetic4530
      @themoribundapathetic4530 Před 4 lety +26

      i feel that way too :( and unfortunately, passing is impossible for me bc i'm pre-t and pre-everything. but pretending to be someone i'm not makes me feel very uncomfortable and even more depressed, so i'm trying to train my brain to be okay with not passing.

    • @floesimmons2878
      @floesimmons2878 Před 4 lety +8

      Just be you. Its less stress. Focus on making yourself happy.

    • @bbomg02
      @bbomg02 Před 4 lety +7

      @@floesimmons2878 That's what I've been doing. Been wearing girls jeans and chokers and shit with my streetwear style. And I have gotten called sir still, so it's not a complete fail.

    • @MusicSetAdrift
      @MusicSetAdrift Před 2 lety +2

      Stop trying to pass. Be a person. If you're trying to pass then you're trying to fit into the stereotypes you say you're escaping. A Rainbow colored box is still a box.

    • @bbomg02
      @bbomg02 Před 2 lety +2

      @@MusicSetAdrift No, it's not stereotyping, I just have to put in more effort with my voice and shit.

  • @sakurakou2009
    @sakurakou2009 Před 4 lety +298

    people don't ask straight men about their genitals cuz people expect them to have penies but it clearly different with transmen , but I agree if you not gonna be in relationship with that person then you don't need to know

    • @Milombech
      @Milombech Před 4 lety +43

      I'm also a trans guy, but I'm not going to tell people I am, unless I want to date them.

    • @mentalevolution13
      @mentalevolution13 Před 4 lety +31

      Milo Bech if i was trans i wouldn't neither, nobody's business. Most people ain't gonna do shit but judge you and most ppl arent gonna be able to look past the fact that your trans

    • @lacklusterluke5855
      @lacklusterluke5855 Před 4 lety +32

      it's perfectly fine to ask what genitals the person you're dating has... unless you plan on never having sexual relations. If you trust someone you love and they care about you regardless that you're trans i think they have a right to know if they ask about it (this coming from a transgender person)

    • @leesilas948
      @leesilas948 Před 4 lety +10

      it’s no different with a trans man than it is with a cis man. unless you’re going to date the person, they have absolutely no reason at all to know what you have in your pants. stop being ignorant.

    • @Samuel115s
      @Samuel115s Před 4 lety +13

      "straight men". as a gay man I have also not been asked about my genitals.

  • @localtavernsluteplayer2182
    @localtavernsluteplayer2182 Před 4 lety +493

    I'm not christian but oh my god it was god's will and blessing to make Laith a man

    • @BDMcN-vo8op
      @BDMcN-vo8op Před 4 lety +24

      then why did He make her a girl???

    • @SoloPapi
      @SoloPapi Před 4 lety +94

      @Big Steve Then whats your beef? If God doesn't make mistakes and people like me are born intersex, and there are transgender people, then accept the fact God made us this way.

    • @BDMcN-vo8op
      @BDMcN-vo8op Před 4 lety +14

      @@SoloPapi maybe. but this whole "born in the wrong body " thing is just ridiculous

    • @Notalex010
      @Notalex010 Před 4 lety +8

      Amen!

    • @FreakigesSternchen
      @FreakigesSternchen Před 4 lety +45

      B.D. McN god wants there to be trans people in the world obviously

  • @Sean-dl8ym
    @Sean-dl8ym Před 4 lety +63

    It's kinda sad how some people soak up all of our attraction while most others get ignored. I came here to comment the same thing all y'all already commented .. Laith is hot lol

  • @norahclarissa6352
    @norahclarissa6352 Před 4 lety +374

    Wow Tinder, you positively impressed me by how respectful and honest these vids are! thank you for this!

    • @darrenrsmith7119
      @darrenrsmith7119 Před 2 lety

      Tinder is for the weak!!

    • @R.U.E.Entertainment
      @R.U.E.Entertainment Před 2 lety +5

      @@darrenrsmith7119 don’t mean to be that person, but if tinder is for the weak, why did you click on a video by tinder?

    • @armymanssg508
      @armymanssg508 Před rokem

      Hahaha, there's no way a fake can be honest, she is a lie and there is no truth in her heart, only God can create a man and a woman Gen 1;27-28, she is the product of the foolishness of mankind Rom 1:24-28, you, people, need to give it a rest.
      That is still a female!!!!🤣🤣

  • @mintyglitches
    @mintyglitches Před 4 lety +159

    TIP: If you have a question for a trans person, ask if its okay for you to ask them that, or ask it and let them know that they don't have to answer if they're not comfortable doing so. Some people (like me) are super chill and will answer almost anything, whereas others don't want to answer anything. It depends on the person. (:

    • @Kleineganz
      @Kleineganz Před 4 lety +8

      Same! I'm open to any and all questions as well. Someone's gotta educate the masses! LOL

    • @Envision_
      @Envision_ Před 4 lety +3

      Yes, I would like to know why so many of them have aggressive cisphobic texts on their online dating profiles

    • @Kleineganz
      @Kleineganz Před 4 lety +4

      @@Envision_ I wish I could answer that, but I haven't dated since 2005. What are some of these 'cisphobic' things you're seeing?

    • @AxisDens
      @AxisDens Před 4 lety +5

      @@Envision_ cisphobic lol

    • @Udontkno7
      @Udontkno7 Před 4 lety +2

      @@Kleineganz probably just bit wanting to date a cis person. Which makes sense, as they tend to murder sometimes. It's safety. But it can be seen as ignorant.

  • @i.pfreely8979
    @i.pfreely8979 Před 3 lety +362

    I'm a trans man too! :D This comments section, at large, is pretty supportive and kind and I find that so refreshing. I hope you all have a great rest of your day! Never forget you are loved and supported.

    • @DUWANGlai_kangyi
      @DUWANGlai_kangyi Před 3 lety +12

      You go, brother!!

    • @nikopitsiladis7834
      @nikopitsiladis7834 Před 3 lety +10

      awwe, I'm a trans guy too :)) hope u have a great day too!

    • @Joker-qn1cr
      @Joker-qn1cr Před 3 lety

      Denki 🥺

    • @i.pfreely8979
      @i.pfreely8979 Před 3 lety +1

      @@Joker-qn1cr tokoyami 🥺

    • @Joker-qn1cr
      @Joker-qn1cr Před 3 lety

      @@i.pfreely8979 im here for the same thing man 😢. Dude we should talk :0 you got snap, discord or instagram?

  • @theappler9516
    @theappler9516 Před 4 lety +273

    i feel like almost every trans guy has gone through a "not like other girls" phase ngl
    also why yall ignoring bellamy smhmyhead

    • @cattyghostly7414
      @cattyghostly7414 Před 4 lety +28

      Of course most went through that phase, they aren't girls so that makes sense.

    • @ban9693
      @ban9693 Před 3 lety +19

      @@cattyghostly7414 i think they meant that when they thought they were still a girl, most trans men kinda like dressed and acted more masculine and hated skirts and girly stuff

  • @flacaloca
    @flacaloca Před 4 lety +101

    How come we couldn't see what they wrote on the whiteboard?

  • @ryandthatsit6323
    @ryandthatsit6323 Před 4 lety +51

    That part about dying and being reborn as a boy gave me goosebumps because that's exactly what I thought when I was a kid. I was sat there willing myself to die just so I could get it over with

  • @SoloPapi
    @SoloPapi Před 4 lety +72

    Omg I used hate in school when they split girls and boys. At that time I didn't know I was intersex.
    I always won dodge ball & was the best basketball player. I didn't know back then I was non binary. if only these terms were more known 15+ years ago. It would have saved me a lot of anxiety and depression of not fitting into the norms of societal roles. Things were much simpler back then tho, it didn't start getting unbearable until teen years when everyone was going through puberty. And my body wasn't doing the same as girls or boys. Being almost 33 (in a few weeks) and having corrective surgeries. I can say that I am in a better space.
    I used to hate being born different I just wanted to be "normal" whatever that is. But once I accepted my differences and learned to love myself I've found a happier place and accept being who I am, an intersex person on the trans spectrum.

  • @ThanatosWings
    @ThanatosWings Před 4 lety +144

    I'm trans and I've been on tinder for about 8 years now. No one has gone out with me and the amount of responces from others, I can count on one hand. It makes me sad when trans people try to give newer trans people hope by saying there is a "supportive community". There just isn't for some people.

    • @honeySingh-nf4ne
      @honeySingh-nf4ne Před 3 lety +7

      @@Fourtune1 true ASF

    • @raquelc7517
      @raquelc7517 Před 3 lety +22

      I'm a straight trans woman and it's difficult to find a good match because our odds are much lower. But there will always be opportunities out there. I also have my backup plan of being a crazy old hamster lady 😏😛

    • @honeySingh-nf4ne
      @honeySingh-nf4ne Před 3 lety +9

      @@raquelc7517 if it's you in the profile pic then you're gorgeous girl there are a lot of guys that'll find you attractive

    • @raquelc7517
      @raquelc7517 Před 3 lety +5

      @@honeySingh-nf4ne Thank you 🥺

    • @skinnybuddha74
      @skinnybuddha74 Před 2 lety +1

      That's awful. And surprising. I wish I could find a trans man on Tinder. I guess there aren't any in my area.

  • @jenna2569
    @jenna2569 Před 4 lety +209

    I used to tell myself the same thing that I’d wait for my next life to transition. (When I was 13 going through major depression and finding things online i couldn’t understand.) Jump to now and i have detransitioned after years of medicalization, surgery, lots of money spent and lessons learned. I’m stronger because of how I’ve come out of this nightmare. Good luck to everyone.

    • @teno2320
      @teno2320 Před 4 lety +10

      @@coryenglish6016 ok boomer

    • @everydayvacaytaj
      @everydayvacaytaj Před 2 lety +1

      It's weird because I didn't have that memory, but when he said it, it reminded me of when I was little kid thinking that

    • @tristanlanphere7736
      @tristanlanphere7736 Před rokem

      lmao u would wait for ur next life to transition?

    • @natashaoneill3203
      @natashaoneill3203 Před rokem +1

      I hope you can help others before they become victims too. Good for you for leaving the gender cult.

    • @DYLANJJK94
      @DYLANJJK94 Před rokem +1

      I thought Trans gender is what turns out to be transsexual,, but why would men identify as trans men if their already men ? Or maybe it’s not like that like I thought.. I think this video helps though.

  • @yoshilover765
    @yoshilover765 Před 4 lety +31

    Far out. I don’t have any other trans people in my life so when I feel alone I look for videos like this. Hearing these guys just speaking candidly helps a lot in a time when I find myself without other support. My heart goes out to every one of those dudes. Thanks for posting.

    • @DUWANGlai_kangyi
      @DUWANGlai_kangyi Před 3 lety +3

      Hey dude, if you ever need someone who's trans to talk to about shit that you're going through, I'm here. I just wanna let you know that you don't have to go through it alone, and don't be scared because I am one of the least normative trans people I know, I do not judge at all. I just wanna be there for my siblings no matter what!

    • @cartergomez5633
      @cartergomez5633 Před rokem

      It's even harder for me being stealth living in a small rural town. I'm taking steps to get accepted for a mortgage in Seattle ☺️

  • @talkwalking2912
    @talkwalking2912 Před 4 lety +117

    "It's not a choice, it's a truth." Word.

  • @spacescorpion9116
    @spacescorpion9116 Před 3 lety +253

    I just wanna say my boyfriend is transgender and he’s the sweetest most amazing person I know. I’m also a transgender bisexual women :)

  • @babyshark9329
    @babyshark9329 Před 4 lety +48

    y’all talkin about laith but bellamyyyyyy dang

  • @levigomez5904
    @levigomez5904 Před 4 lety +40

    *scrolls through and sees Laith is hot comments*
    Me : Lol ok 🙄
    *shows Laith*
    Me: *HOLY SHIT*

  • @imnotxden2794
    @imnotxden2794 Před 4 lety +90

    Why is Laith so fine😭😭😭

  • @spectrrral
    @spectrrral Před 4 lety +29

    I loved the part about “doing gender my own way” honestly that made me feel better.

  • @TLW369
    @TLW369 Před 11 měsíci +6

    As a Trans-girl, let me just say this, you Trans-men are awesome… you dudes are out here “killing it”.
    I love you guys! ❤️

  • @thatqueerguitarginge
    @thatqueerguitarginge Před 4 lety +45

    I aspire to be a pint sized version of Laith lol

  • @stevelukoski7152
    @stevelukoski7152 Před 6 měsíci +3

    I'm a 68 year old gay man . I lost my life partner and love of my life a few years back . I met a trans guy and we became friends . All you guys rock ! Love all you guys ! 🤗

  • @riv3rss
    @riv3rss Před 4 lety +41

    I’d TOTALLY date a trans man 😍

    • @bunnykandi69
      @bunnykandi69 Před 3 lety +9

      Do it

    • @katrinaoliver4167
      @katrinaoliver4167 Před 11 měsíci +3

      Right? I’ve only come across ONE transman on a dating site and was swiping left too fast to stop and lost the connection, dammit.

  • @bluesunshine420
    @bluesunshine420 Před 4 lety +33

    Bellamy looks like James from the end of the f****** world

  • @rabanticus
    @rabanticus Před 4 lety +94

    You could say I'm a trans man, but I would never say that I identify as a "trans man" I just identify as male

    • @carmenismyname
      @carmenismyname Před 4 lety +4

      Well you don’t and they do, what’s your point?

    • @rabanticus
      @rabanticus Před 4 lety +19

      @@carmenismyname it's just that very often cis people automatically talk about you as a trans man and see you as a trans man, instead of just seeing you as a male. Every trans* person I know finds this kinda disturbing, but it keeps on happening because of videos like this, which just project this image, of trans men which say/have to say they identify as trans, to society.

    • @dikpt9423
      @dikpt9423 Před 4 lety +14

      Whether you like it or not transmen were born female so they are different from biological males.

    • @DI-tj3lb
      @DI-tj3lb Před 4 lety +1

      Trans, meaning you're still transitioning.
      If you fully transitioned, you would just say male.
      The whole Cis thing defeats the whole purpose.

    • @mitchellferguson9840
      @mitchellferguson9840 Před 4 lety +6

      I'm kinda with that too. I'm transitioning but I don't consider myself "trans". I just feel like a normal dude. Only time I have to like specify is if I am at a doctor's office who is not familiar with what I am packing lol. I mean cis guys don't say hey my name is Joe Blow and I am a cis guy lol so.... Lol

  • @KitsunukiTheDrunkenFoxInari001

    From a purely scientific point of view, gender is what you identify as and what others perceive you as. Sex is what the chromosomes say, and there are at least 6 sexes...that is chromosomally sexes that can breed. 6...6...What's the big deal if some identifies as one of the two or other? You won't know without a test even if you fit into 2. Don't be judgmental, love every human if you can. You're all just silly.

    • @mizqueef6018
      @mizqueef6018 Před 3 lety +2

      False. Gender and sex are totally correlated. It is impossible to be a male woman or a female man. You can identify as whatever you'd like, but blatantly lying and making up sexualities as you please isn't something we're going to normalize.

    • @6iths3nse
      @6iths3nse Před rokem +1

      @@mizqueef6018 Nobody is making up sexes. You can read about it.. the person is right about there being 6 sexes. Its pretty complicated but it is an actual discovery. People just refuse to accept it.

  • @chloegalmiche4703
    @chloegalmiche4703 Před 4 lety +16

    This is amazing, thank you for this! 🙌🏻🙌🏿🙌🏼🙌🏾

  • @lindseymick3843
    @lindseymick3843 Před 4 lety +44

    You're all amazing men! You deserve all the love and joy this world can bring you. Thanks for sharing your stories!

    • @rd9065
      @rd9065 Před 4 lety +3

      @Gary Lee maybe what you say about biological reality is true, but we truly are brains inside of a body, our bodies are the translators of our brains to the outside world, and the way our brains perceive those signals is who we are. What you have to understand is the reality that we live in is the one created by our brain, and nothing else matters as much as our perception of the world. And no I'm not talking about politics or opinions, I'm talking about how we ultimately see ourselves, who we know we are, and how we feel about that. We are not only our bodies, tell that to people who have Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) these are multiple developed personalities living in one body, which only one of the personalities matches with, every other person existing in that brain quite literally is a brain with no body, they do not own the body like the hosts does. So psychology reality ultimately overshadows biological reality and to pretend that humans don't function that way is not looking at humans through an objective lense, but instead trying to use the lens of logic and reason, which is not the system in which people think or function.

    • @jennosyde709
      @jennosyde709 Před 4 lety +5

      @@rd9065 What people like Gary Lee fail to account for is that by default, boys and girls are actually extraordinarily similar biologically. The most drastic differences that occur in men versus women that make them unique is the influence of hormones during puberty, yet both the male and female body respond to individual hormones the same way. Male individuals with high levels of female hormones who undergo a "female" puberty will develop breasts and even the ability to lactate. Female individuals with high levels of male hormones who undergo a "male" puberty will develop a deeper voice, a larger frame, sturdier muscles, and even growth in the genitalia region. For that matter, genitalia are developed from literally the same physical tissues as one another, be they male or female. Until they hit that point of puberty, the differences between boys and girls are remarkably small. It should not be a surprise to anyone who is familiar with that information that identities would fluctuate between sexes and genders.

  • @aer7775
    @aer7775 Před 4 lety +77

    Can y’all stop talking abt how hot Laith is and actually take down some notes 😪

    • @Cupidador
      @Cupidador Před 4 lety +11

      but whew, these notes are nothing compared to laith!!

    • @carmenismyname
      @carmenismyname Před 4 lety +1

      Cupidador lol

    • @annmarie2615
      @annmarie2615 Před 4 lety

      Laith is so hot and handsome, he is my ideal man, but I already have a boyfriend....

  • @alexjohnson2527
    @alexjohnson2527 Před 4 lety +3

    Videos like this are the positivity that gets me through the day. I'm a trans male. My brother (and yes, I asked him and he doesn't care about pronouns and if fine being called my brother) came out to me as non-binary recently. Some days, he feels more masculine. Some days, he feels more feminine. It is what it is. But we live at home, our parents are conservative southern baptist christians, and it will take awhile to save up for any surgeries (namely, myself wanting T and top surgery). It's been like this for awhile, I'm going on over a year of knowing I'm trans, but neither of us are out to family yet and only have a few close friends that we can trust coming out with. All of this is just to say that videos like this are life for people with few lifelines in situations like ours in the world we live in. Thank you so much for posting this, for all the people involved, and for all the positivity in the comments. It really does make a difference for the better.

  • @rushdialrashed9627
    @rushdialrashed9627 Před 4 lety +34

    I feel for them. Must be a difficult like. Bless them all.

  • @raphaeldububuchim6983
    @raphaeldububuchim6983 Před 3 lety +36

    Thank you. I have a hard time as a trans man dealing with internalized transphobia. I often feel shame. Videos like this one help remind me we are not abnormal.

    • @raphaeldububuchim6983
      @raphaeldububuchim6983 Před 3 lety +2

      @Bugler55 it means freakish or strange, out of the ordinary

    • @raphaeldububuchim6983
      @raphaeldububuchim6983 Před 3 lety +1

      @Bugler55 unusual is fine with me. I guess because abnormal was a word used in old sci fi for people with fly heads or something

    • @katarinam517
      @katarinam517 Před 3 lety +1

      There's nothing shameful about being a masculine presenting woman!

    • @sourmilkky5556
      @sourmilkky5556 Před 2 lety +11

      @@katarinam517 The thing is we aren't women we're men

    • @bothandapparel
      @bothandapparel Před 2 lety +1

      We got you.

  • @uskidsknow19
    @uskidsknow19 Před 2 lety +34

    if only more people understood that trans people are just people. there's nothing to be afraid of or intimidated by. the hate is so unnecessary

  • @tomyhearts
    @tomyhearts Před 4 lety +102

    one point is weird, you don´t identify as a trans man.. u identify as a man

    • @leesnyder1112
      @leesnyder1112 Před 4 lety +40

      Some trans men are comfortable identifying as a trans man. And well trans men are men. Everyones different.

    • @SawyBoy
      @SawyBoy Před 4 lety +32

      I think it’s just for the purpose of being very clear for the video.

    • @AxlTheo
      @AxlTheo Před 4 lety +23

      I identify as a trans man for the same reason men with african ancestry often identify themselves as ”black men”. In other words, because it has shaped me as a person and it is relevant to who I am. It is also a source of oppression that becomes completly negated if I pretend its not a part of me. I’m certainly a man first, but that doesnt change the fact that my past and experience in society is significantly different from a lot of other men. When i ignore that I ignore a part of myself.

    • @liam3814
      @liam3814 Před 4 lety

      Agreed

    • @AxlTheo
      @AxlTheo Před 4 lety +10

      Big Steve You’re really on edge aren’t you? I in no way claimed that being trans or black were synonymous i just used a random example to illustrate my point, but you seem to posess the reading comprehension of a fruitfly.

  • @theowlhouseseason3213
    @theowlhouseseason3213 Před rokem +5

    Lmao the most replayed moment in the video is the introduction of Laith Ashley

  • @dkncd
    @dkncd Před 4 lety +17

    Okay but we’re not gonna talk about how adorable nikolas is? alright I guess

    • @allenpatton2919
      @allenpatton2919 Před 4 lety +4

      He was my favorite. Laith was daddy but Nik is best boi.

  • @spit777
    @spit777 Před 2 lety +5

    I’m 3 yrs into my journey, it’s so refreshing to hear stories and see others this world can feel lonely sometimes

  • @austinaries9428
    @austinaries9428 Před 4 lety +3

    VERY refreshing video! Thanks for the encouragement!

  • @romeofiig3060
    @romeofiig3060 Před 4 lety +17

    I’m so happy they chose a diverse group😊 Since I was little I was scared that all trans people fit a “stereotype” and now at 16 I realize that I will simply be a MAN💪🏼💙

  • @funkeediscotek
    @funkeediscotek Před 3 lety +3

    I'm so happy that we can be ourselves finally. I remember realizing in 2013 that I was agendered and trying to formulate my thoughts to my parents, who were like "what??" so I just kind of put it on the backburner. I described it as "I would be equally bad at being a man as I am trying to be a woman", "like I'm wearing a costume, and it happens to be a woman costume" and "my ideal form would be a noncorporeal cloud". So happy to be in 2020 when people can just be people; I have a lot of hope for the future because gen Zers are some of the most accepting and non-bigoted people I've spoken to.

  • @SatchellDrakes
    @SatchellDrakes Před 4 lety +2

    Weirdest question. Anyone know where I can find Nikolas’s clip on earring in the side shots? It looks so amazing and Google/Etsy yield nothing!

  • @meghanboudreau9096
    @meghanboudreau9096 Před 3 lety +9

    I recently started a relationship with a trans man and I don’t see trans. I thought he was attractive when I snuck into his DMs and I did not know. When I found out I was already pretty sure I had a connection with him so I didn’t give a shit.

  • @mojihouse
    @mojihouse Před 4 lety +11

    I remember on Halloween I dressed as a Prince and I was sooooooooooo happy, even with the freezing cold, I was running door to door having fun. And to top it all off I went to my neighbours house and he didn't know who I was so, my Prince costume was a success 👈👈. And some people thought I was a boy so DOUBLE SUCCESS

  • @esmfamil5086
    @esmfamil5086 Před 4 lety +66

    The guy in yellow shirt is just so cute😍

    • @blank2272
      @blank2272 Před 4 lety +7

      ESM FAMIL Its a woman

    • @esmfamil5086
      @esmfamil5086 Před 4 lety +19

      @@blank2272 please have a little decency and respect his pronounce

    • @blank2272
      @blank2272 Před 4 lety +3

      ESM FAMIL facts don’t care about your and his feelings

    • @esmfamil5086
      @esmfamil5086 Před 4 lety +13

      @@blank2272 thank you for using the right pronounce i appreciate it🙏😊❤

    • @blank2272
      @blank2272 Před 4 lety +2

      ESM FAMIL It’s not about the convey of the message it is facts.

  • @JustJRR
    @JustJRR Před 4 lety

    Great video. Thanks guys 🙌🏾

  • @adventuresofperseus945
    @adventuresofperseus945 Před 3 lety +17

    I didnt know transgender was a thing until my late 20s. I watched videos on youtube and told myself that's me, I was always told by idiots that I was a lesbian I'm not even attracted to women I always felt like there was more to it than that. I havent dated any one for 3 years and since I've started transitioning 2 years ago. I've always known I was male since I was 5 just didnt know there was anything I could do about it.

    • @chiiiah
      @chiiiah Před 3 lety +3

      same but I haven’t start my transitions yet, in my country it’s costly and my parents don’t understand me😭 it’s sooo freaking hard and this video makes me so emotional

    • @derekb4977
      @derekb4977 Před rokem

      @calendarphotoscamera1 Canuck trans men are women and trans women are men this homophobic cult need to be stopped.

  • @lillianroux2747
    @lillianroux2747 Před 3 lety +15

    Being a trans woman, all of you men are beautiful people 💕

    • @lillianroux2747
      @lillianroux2747 Před 2 lety +1

      @calendarphotoscamera1 Canuck ahh so you’re transphobic, I sorted that out for you.

  • @ashtonhunter4727
    @ashtonhunter4727 Před 4 lety +11

    On my freaking birthday, my mom and aunts were being kind of transphobic.
    Because of what happened *last time* when they were homophobic, I decided not to say anything.
    Oh, they really do not know.

  • @rdsimonse2001
    @rdsimonse2001 Před 4 lety +16

    How come in many countries there is no option other than male or female on tinder itself...

    • @rdsimonse2001
      @rdsimonse2001 Před 4 lety +5

      @Quésie Quésie I live in the Netherlands, the first country to legalise gay marriage...

    • @armanimichele1846
      @armanimichele1846 Před 4 lety +1

      I’m in Australia and there are multiple gender options

  • @Moonshinefoxx
    @Moonshinefoxx Před 4 lety +3

    Thank tinder for expanding so many minds and informing people with people.

  • @anissaguerrero9049
    @anissaguerrero9049 Před 4 lety +42

    Omg ,, “I’m just like everyone else ,,, I go to work ,,, own a pet rabbit” hold up EVERYONE HAS ONE ?

  • @terryp2517
    @terryp2517 Před 2 lety +9

    I love that this video shows that there is no one way to be trans. Big ups to those who put the video together!

    • @ulomaubani6411
      @ulomaubani6411 Před rokem

      You are not what you say you are, my friends. You are who God made you. The only truth is what God says.

    • @terryp2517
      @terryp2517 Před rokem

      @@ulomaubani6411 That might have made you feel better to write, but no one needs this.
      Take your spiritual abuse somewhere else.

    • @ulomaubani6411
      @ulomaubani6411 Před rokem

      @@terryp2517
      It was not an abuse. It's the simple truth whether it makes you feel good about yourself or not.
      I pray you accept the truth one day, before it's too late.
      Take care

  • @hi-rh9cq
    @hi-rh9cq Před 2 lety +14

    woah they're all so handsome

  • @gretchenmann633
    @gretchenmann633 Před 2 lety +9

    What a wonderful group of men! Thanks for sharing your journeys.

  • @leahsutter3929
    @leahsutter3929 Před 3 lety +4

    I would be happy to have these guys as friends so I can learn and grow as a person.
    I love my friends for who they are, not what they're born with.

  • @themoribundapathetic4530
    @themoribundapathetic4530 Před 4 lety +5

    Johnny's vibes passed the vibe check.

  • @lakeishag76
    @lakeishag76 Před 4 lety

    Very informative! ❤️

  • @Matkai
    @Matkai Před 4 lety

    Such an amazing video! 🥰

  • @lambchops8983
    @lambchops8983 Před 4 lety +4

    Man I can't wait to start my transition I won't be able to anytime soon because of Corona but it's gonna be great when I do get to start my transition.

    • @wiht3630
      @wiht3630 Před 4 lety +7

      That isnt true at all, you cant do anything physical yet but you can absolutely socially transion by trying out different names and clothes and when you feel confident enough maybe even change names legally

    • @gr1mreap3rz15
      @gr1mreap3rz15 Před 4 lety +3

      you can always use quarantine as an opportunity to try out a new hairstyle!! it's one of the best ways to feel better when u can't do anything big

  • @Disney65Fan
    @Disney65Fan Před 4 lety +40

    Nikolas and Laith are hot trans men.

  • @montej4829
    @montej4829 Před 4 lety +1

    Why are some of the writings on the white board blurred out?

  • @DWayne-eb3gv
    @DWayne-eb3gv Před 3 lety

    How much will it cost approximately?

  • @isaakwolfgang9291
    @isaakwolfgang9291 Před 4 lety +5

    laith actually works as a model oh my god this boiiii 🔥🔥

  • @baizhuwaitingroom7057
    @baizhuwaitingroom7057 Před 3 lety +25

    idk about others but the phrase "I identify as a transgender man" or "I identify as a man" just doesn't sit right with me. like, I AM a man who happens to be trans, trans is not an identity on it's own and saying shit like "I identify as x" makes it sound like you aren't actually x ah :/

    • @societyslasthope8902
      @societyslasthope8902 Před 3 lety +6

      Whatever make you sleep

    • @katarinam517
      @katarinam517 Před 3 lety +2

      You are a woman who think humans can change sex. We can't.

    • @clip4443
      @clip4443 Před 3 lety +9

      transGENDER, katarina. work on your reading comprehension skills before you decide to spew bullshit.

    • @stavroulak.1158
      @stavroulak.1158 Před 2 lety +4

      @@societyslasthope8902 you have below average comprehension skills, here's a sticker!⭐

  • @microwavedmusic2501
    @microwavedmusic2501 Před 4 lety +2

    2:09 bro I thought that too! I remmember thinking that

  • @shoonrose3365
    @shoonrose3365 Před 4 lety

    where they are from?

  • @timatuneage4144
    @timatuneage4144 Před 2 lety +5

    I’m pretty gay on the Kinsey scale. I had a crush on a guy whom I later found out was trans. When I found out it really didn’t matter to me since he was as male as male could be to me. I guess I’m just surprised that people have so many hang ups on the situation. For the same reason, I’m not into trans females. Though I’m friends with a few trans women.

  • @monimonimoni3082
    @monimonimoni3082 Před 3 lety +13

    Laith is sooo hottt!!! And for those who are saying they are girls, just shut up and join the rest of 2020, go educate yourself. Feel free to attack me I don’t care 🤷‍♀️

    • @monimonimoni3082
      @monimonimoni3082 Před 3 lety +1

      Bugler55 oh no I’m just saying because some people are ignorant and will tell me “that’s a girl” when he and all of them are men

    • @societyslasthope8902
      @societyslasthope8902 Před 3 lety +1

      @@monimonimoni3082 "Edited "

  • @kerriannechilders
    @kerriannechilders Před 4 lety +2

    Not only is Laith not but I love his name. It’s so cool.

  • @MalfunctioningAndroid
    @MalfunctioningAndroid Před 2 lety

    Does the beard start growing by itself or some modding is required?

    • @A-CH4N-
      @A-CH4N- Před 2 lety +4

      it can grow with the testosterone

  • @vexb637
    @vexb637 Před 3 lety +5

    I'd be willing to hang out and have a beer with these guys. We all just need to get along.

  • @rafaella9700
    @rafaella9700 Před 3 lety +7

    All this men are handsome AF

  • @lostdreamer3014
    @lostdreamer3014 Před 2 lety +2

    Nikolas! Oh my gosh that’s my chosen name!!! I also go by Nik for short.

  • @boingooingo3317
    @boingooingo3317 Před 3 lety +3

    This video is amazing! I'm feeling more confident towards the possibility of being male each day... these trans guys are amazing, I wish I can look like them someday!

  • @silentname3506
    @silentname3506 Před 4 lety +12

    omg laith ashley 😭😭❤️

  • @tentcentsofcinnabar
    @tentcentsofcinnabar Před 3 lety +5

    geez the guy who wore yellow is attractive

  • @rorygiambalvo2955
    @rorygiambalvo2955 Před rokem +2

    Been struggling with feelings of otherness since puberty, trying to figure out if I'm a more masculine woman, an androgynous person, or a trans man. It's honestly exhausting and upsetting because I don't know what feels right, just what feels wrong

  • @remieljames4226
    @remieljames4226 Před 3 lety +1

    bellamy reminds me of linguini from ratatouille and i love him so much. btw my name is remiel and i go by remi for short, so that makes it even better 😭😂😂😂😂😂

  • @gabrielaelenadias1223
    @gabrielaelenadias1223 Před 4 lety +11

    I'm a trans woman and everytime I put on my profile that I'm trans I get blocked by tinder

    • @forestfreeman1600
      @forestfreeman1600 Před 3 lety +3

      That’s awful I’m really sorry

    • @iikoll
      @iikoll Před 3 lety

      @Any One transphobic people report trans folks on there all the time

  • @GodTouchedMe
    @GodTouchedMe Před 4 lety +8

    I’m a gay man and up until... I’d say about five months ago. I saw trans as “confused” etc. BUT, as time went on I’ve grown to discover that there are men-FTM people who I’m attracted to. Seeing them as a male and not female (even though genitalia is different) that just totally went out of my mind. Their soul is beautiful, seeing them how they are and living life how they want to, to be happy. That makes me happy. I’m interested in this guy right now who’s ftm and I’m hoping things work out because they’re absolutely beautiful and I want to show them that so badly.
    Then I best the straight guys who say “why don’t you just a girl then?”... It’s not the same. Those people are only focused on what’s between the legs and not where the person is in their heart and soul. I can’t explain it, but that’s just how it is... Yes there’s science, great. Science isn’t always right though, everything’s always changing. We as people only know what we think we know.

    • @mariasandrad3367
      @mariasandrad3367 Před 4 lety +1

      Another lesbian troll on steroids pretending to be a gay man

    • @tylormortadella8583
      @tylormortadella8583 Před rokem

      Congrats! You are not as a gay as you think! You are bi! Simple. The only type of female you like is one that resembles an adult human male.

  • @earth2ellie
    @earth2ellie Před 2 lety +1

    It’s so sweet how Nikolas’ now gf googled ‘how to date a transman’ 🥺🥰🥺

  • @romulusnr
    @romulusnr Před 3 lety

    Why are three of the men's statements censored?

  • @patchworkassylumn8954
    @patchworkassylumn8954 Před 4 lety +3

    honestly i'm not sure how i identify because i used to like being girly as a child and when i was about 8 and a half i started to just really hate the colour pink and skirts unless i had shorts underneath them. When i was 10 i had a mental break down in the middle of the night just because i was confused and what my dad would think if i actually was trans or not. I've gotten over about what he would think about it but i still feel like i'm just something random that dosent exist because i know i'm not demimale but i'm not trans or a girl either :V honestly i'm going about my day being confused now.

    • @gr1mreap3rz15
      @gr1mreap3rz15 Před 4 lety +2

      try looking for some other labels under the nonbinary umbrella, or testing to see which pronouns u prefer!!

  • @buttermepancake3613
    @buttermepancake3613 Před rokem +3

    Honestly I am probably taking it too metaphorically but the dodgeball thing really hit me.
    My entire life before I came out and started transitioning felt like I was always on the wrong side of the field but I couldn't understand why.

  • @MickeyCreole
    @MickeyCreole Před 2 lety +1

    One important thing I’ve learnt about me that’s more complicated, and very difficult to explain but I know my inner essence/soul doesn’t correspond to the body I was born with. I know it’s sounds confusing almost mad but I know my story. It has taken a toll on my mental health as well as my physical but it’s the way I roll. I was born of one gender but I’m of the other. Unfortunately I was unable to transition because my hormones were already compromised and with the additional health issues, my body wouldn’t survive it. I am one of those people that looks awkward in the gender I was born with, and unfortunately when people see me, they initially see the gender my soul is and several times when I’ve made the individual aware what gender I was born with, things got ugly quick and I’ve been accused of being of deception. I do live in fear when I’m outside my home and I know certain members of my family are embarrassed of me. It’s safer for me to live a hermit lifestyle and I’m ok with that. I wished people understood transgenderism, for a few of us isn’t just an organic thing, it’s more deep-seated than that. I knew people who identified with being transgender but decided to continue their lives in the gender they were born with, unfortunately I weren’t. My true inner gender has and still does manifest itself in my eyes, face, voice in everything and People can be so cruel.

  • @michelleherft3860
    @michelleherft3860 Před 4 lety +3

    Beautifully said, we can learn and process the world together. ❤ we are all just human in the end 😘😘😘😘 I choose to give love and support to all trans genders ❤ stay strong, there is alot of hate in the world, but there is love too ❤

  • @bodypositiveimage
    @bodypositiveimage Před rokem +3

    Thank you all for sharing your stories as living your lives as a transgender man I hope you all have blessed and prosperous days for the rest of your lives.

    • @derekb4977
      @derekb4977 Před rokem

      Detrans are growing see the truth to this trans delusion

  • @mortalsfoe6333
    @mortalsfoe6333 Před 3 lety +4

    Laith makes me question my own damn sexuality ..
    This dude is everything with a pair of biceps

  • @karinnehiyama6818
    @karinnehiyama6818 Před 3 lety +2

    whoa i love that johnny has long hair. i cant wait to get access to t and top surgery so i can wear my hair long without dysphoria

  • @fivebyfive525
    @fivebyfive525 Před 4 lety +1

    Kai’s shirt thooooo I adore