10 Questions You Always Wanted to Ask a Trans Man
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- čas přidán 25. 12. 2018
- We ask Siddhant More, a trans man from Mumbai, 10 questions about what it's like being a trans man in India right now.
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He seems so chill
He looks like someone i'd want to be friends with.
@Musa Yobabydaddy umm...he is a Male
@Musa Yobabydaddy if you are not open to learning about transgender people or trying to understand them, then why are you watching this video?
She*
@@hueash she*
@@hueash she is a gay
"if you educate people, then they will accept you" man...i wish i knew this before coming out to my mom:(
You lesbian wana do some
@@arix6097 ?
@@mskbike2655 u Lesbian or bi?
@@arix6097 aromantic
@@mskbike2655 asexual you mean? Cool wish i were too
Why does this make me want to cry? :’) I just feel so happy for him, for me, for everyone. Maybe it’s not such a bad thing, to be trans, after all :’) I’m stating to get it, now. (I’m trans myself, btw, so this helped with self acceptance
Kudos to you! 🤘🏻🤘🏻
Good for you! ❤️
Wish you all the best in your journey 👍👍👍
If ya got bit's ya faking and not bona-fide.
why did they correct him in the captions. he speaks english just fine, type what he said
Because some of the terminology he used was incorrect. It's not his fault in the slightest, but it still makes sense that they would change it.
@Kai Roy not what was asked. Giant hard-coded captions actually create an accessibility conflict for those who get distracted easily by words. Which is solved by putting them in the captions feature like normal
They just cleaned the lines. I mean... would u really include all the unnecessary words you use while speaking (like/ uhh/ so like/ that was very uh very) nd then some more words which makes the sentences unnecessarily longer... so... it's nothing against his english
What makes someone transgender is having gender dysphoria(which is a discomfort/distress with their assigned sex) due to their brain not aligning with their genitals.
Gender dysphoria is hard to describe, but you are very VERY uncomfortable with the parts of your body and of yourself that are associated with the sex you were assigned at birth, rather than the gender you identify as. It makes daily tasks harder to do due to being constantly, immensely uncomfortable within yourself. Being called and seen as the sex you were assigned at birth is uncontrollably upsetting and distressing. And once you begin to present and pass as the gender you identify as, rather than the sex you were assigned at birth, you begin to feel euphoric and immensely happy and confident.
Science has proven that there are male and female brains and that they are structured differently.
A fetus’ brain and genitalia develop at different times. The brain begins to develop at 4 weeks while the genitalia develop at 6-7 weeks. If there is too much or too little of a hormone(estrogen or testosterone) or if the fetus’ doesn’t respond/absorb a hormone as it should, then it’s brain can begin to develop as one gender while their genitalia will later develop differently.
An example would be a fetus in the womb being exposed to too much testosterone due to an outside source or the mothers body naturally producing too much testosterone at 4 weeks old(when the brain is developing), so it’s brain begins to develop as male. But later on around 6-7 weeks, for some reason the level of testosterone in the mothers body drops or more estrogen is exposed to the fetus, so it’s genitalia and body begins developing as female. That would leave you with a fetus who has a male brain and female body.
Once that fetus is fully developed and born and grows up, that misalignment between the kid’s mind and body will cause gender dysphoria.
Since you can’t neurologically change someone’s brain, the only cure/management for the gender dysphoria is to undergo transitioning into the gender you identify as.
That is what being transgender is from a medical standpoint, but this is my own story.
When I was little, it just felt natural to be with the boys and hang out with them. I wanted their acceptance as one of them, and often had it. They considered me like one of the guys, just as I considered myself one of them. I have lots of memories as a kid and signs that pointed to being trans and seeing/knowing myself to be a guy. In any sort of game I’d always pick the alpha male role and was happiest being the role of male. I was always called a tomboy. My aunt always thought it was pretty weird I was always wanting to be a boy in games. I remember my younger cousins even asking me- when we were all still super little why I always wanted to me a male. My answer was somewhere along the lines of, “I don’t know, I just like it.” When middle school rolled around and males and females became more separate and the guys were less open to being around me because of my biological sex, I felt alienated. I tried the whole “trying to be female” thing. Didn’t feel right. I started trying to hide my chest and make it flatter and would look up videos on how to lower my voice(I still didn’t know I was trans at this point somehow). Didn’t realize I was trans till half a year later. The moment I cut my hair and started presenting as male and started having people call me by male pronouns, it was like everything suddenly made so much more sense. Like all the planets suddenly aligned or something crazy. I felt WAY more comfortable and confident within myself and felt more myself than I ever had before. It just made so much sense to me. Explained so many things. Felt so right. That’s my experience. I don’t now if there’s ever a “how do you know?” It’s just that you know(besides gender dysphoria obviously telling you, but yeah).
I have been living as a male for over 3 years now and haven’t felt more happy and comfortable with myself.
omg your the best and totally valid (I'm cis but I hope I dont sound like an annoying straight girl, I'm bi)
Thank you so much for educating us about (fetus in womb) ......lots of love 🦋
@Walk Straight Path bruh shut up homophobe, also who told u my mom is straight? and this has nothing to do with my mom
@Walk Straight Path so you wanna talk about how straight people are oppressed? ok, let me know when you get called slurs, get hate crimed (for being straight), feel scared to hold your partner's hand in public, get denied jobs for being straight, lose friends for being straight, oh the list could go on but I'm sure you get the flow!
Honestly india could be the safest place for lgbtq individuals because our religion is very accepting and very supporting but like the people are horrible. We have a long way to go :(
Yeah Hinduism was pretty accepting of LGBT but our culture has really changed especially after colonisation
@@notonfire7318 ye Britishers and Mughals invaded
@@asimmangral britishers ko ghanta farak nahi parta humara achcha ho ya bura wo humare hi desh ke log the like Ram Mohan Roy and grear people like him jo logo ne ye sab bandh karaya , or Ha ye sab jo log religion k naam pe karate the wo sab log the pagal. Humare religion kabhibhi esa nahi bolta warna ye sab sabhi karte . So yaa hindusiam dosnt tell to do these things . Or ye sab to bohot hi purani baate hain abhi log apni religion ko acche se jan rahe hain pehle to log jo religion ke naam par samjhate the wohi samajhte the isiliye yesab galat kaam hote the. Or sirf Hindusiam main hi nahi sabhi jaga hote the , tumne shayad Witchcraft ke bare main nahi suna. Plz search it We cant blame a religion , it is the people who potrays it as wrong to others.
@@asimmangral i think you forget that 150 years earlier the british were also burning women on pikes
@@Lica_the_Pui exactly witch samajhkar kisiko bhi jala dete the. Many Women in the whole world irrespective of her hair colour, misfortune , religion, etc has suffered a lot.
Comments are actually supportive 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I agree with him, trans men should talk more about their journey. I am slowly but surely exploring my curiosity in being androsexual. Ive been a straight female for a good while, but then I met a none binary person and dated them. It was very fascinating and interesting getting to know that type of life experience. Then once we parted I saw my options grow bigger, I am curious to know more about trans men and their experiences. And also none binary peoples experiences as well. This world is so big and has many different types and kinds of people, why not try to understand it a little more and become that much more informed? Thank you for making this video!
I love this dude
@David Vanpatten now he is a man. If he wants to be identified as male. Let him be.
@Young Robby Beats Thank You So Much.. loads of love to you 🤗🤗🤗
@@sivaprasadwarrier3171 Thank You So Much Buddy 🤗🤗🤗
I have always been biological man but this transman seems to be much much manlier than me.
he is
“10 questions I’ve always wanted to ask myself”
I am very happy for this guy
@V. Adonis thank you so much 🙏🙏
love him, I hope he’s living the best life
@Alainish Yes Buddy. Thank you So much 🙏🙏. Loads of Love to You. 🤗🤗
Very inspiring, I wish LGBT were not illegal in Malaysia.
I think malaysia was secular country , hope this change future I heard malaysia is beautiful country
I was illegal in India till a year ago. Malaysia will turn around too
@@sasha2794 are you transgender ?
@@sasha2794 stfu
sakurakou2009 nope! I’m a cis women
I tried transitioning at 18 and had to stop because I was not ready,now today I'm starting again at 22 and I'm stokef
All the best bro
All the best!!!
Congrats! Hope it’ll be smooth sailing from here
I wish we can see you as a well grown man .....lots of love🦋
He seems like a really cool guy, someone it would be fun to hang out with
He is a fun person to hang out with.., actually most of the Transman/women are very happy go people ❤️🙏🏾
@@365DwithAJ very true bro. 🤗🤗
@@siddhantmore4493 😊🙏🏾🤗
What a bloody legend he is, such a cool guy
@Robin the Space Boy.. thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏
I always like hearing the mixture of English and South Asian languages. I’m not educated enough to know which language this is tho
Hindi.
My psychiatrist in delhi, a very famous doctor from Sucheta Kriplani Hospital, used to talk about me in front of other patients and he made my health miserable by putting me on huge dose of antidepressants. He was the worst doctor I ever met. I wish he understands what he did to me was so wrong.
I'm so sorry bro , this kind of doctors should be published, in fact now you can actually file a case against him...
@Amiket Wakhloo very sorry to hear what you have gone through. How are you now. Please do reply.
Thank you for being honest and open ing up about yourself. I can only hope that it keeps improving people's knowledge and acceptance. Siddhant seems like a nice guy. I wish him continued happiness! Good to see that things continue to keep evolving in a positive way in many places like India.
@tatsf thank you so much for your Kind words. Really Appreciate it 🙏🙏🙏 God Bless You Always.
That dude seems so chill and friendly, I wish him the best!! I hope to be as happy as him soon :)
i love this kind of man, basicly he IS the man among the man. i can tel just by looking at him.....
@Musa Yobabydaddy it doesn't matter if you were born as a female or not! the thing is, if you live the way you like, then its the real who you are. Just like trans. He was born as a woman but his heart was a man since the beginning. So just accept it in a logic way... GAY MAN WAS EXIST FOR THE OTHER MAN THAT LOOK WITH THE SAME GLARE TO A WOMAN... but for him, he just want to be what he wanted to cuz of that! he want to be saw as the same fellow human, so thats it!
The last question was very funny for him cause it's like asking somebody, "do you miss anything about the punishment of getting trapped in a wrong body" 😅
Good to see a representative who behaves as an average citizen. Just had some unconmon experience in the past. No superiority, no aggression. Just a manly man when it comes to social communication.
I have seen too much of people who go hysterical expecting that one has to know and accept everything they tell about gender things. It shaped a wrong opinion about trans culture in me, so seeing a socially adapted transperson is really refreshing. Hopefully, my bigotry would heal in time thanks to the guys like that.
@Al Lith I am glad this Video helped you. Thank you for your comment. God Bless You 🙏🙏
Not blaming others for your bigotry and admitting that it’s just because people are different.
Thank u for sharing ur story
Your inspiring, educating the world bout transgender ppl and what transitioning is like
@afsana Parvez Thank You So Much 🙏🙏🙏
I am born male but this guy is much more masculine than me.
@Ankur Karn no shit
@Ankur Karn Testosterone yes. To the average male level so no advantage over you it's just genetic.
Testosterone yes. To the average male level so no advantage over you it's just genetics.
He is so humble.
@Vishu EP 🙏🙏🙏
More power to you Siddhant! So happy for you💖
Thank you Sanya khanna for your wishes. 🙏🙏🙏
Siddhant More can I talk to u pls I need ur help
@@nikolsm3096 are you there on insta
Very sweet guy... Loved the way he spoke and explained ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wow he transitioned really well. 🥰
@Musa Yobabydaddy oh shut up
A trans man is a man not a woman.
10/10 transition success
All the best great future...bro
Thank you so much
HE’S SO SWEET I WANNA BE HIS FRIEND
Good to know about your story or answers....... Plz can you tell me where from you get treated...... And how much it costs??.....
I transitioned for self gratification.
Has nothing to do with sexuality.
I have not dated for 3 years fue to lack of interest in being intimate.
Me too ❤️
He does not look like he was ever a women. He looks good
Good job Bro.. sharp answers 👍
more power to you my guy
Seeing him makes me confident that one day I will pass as a guy too :D
me, a trans dude: "10 questions i've always wanted to ask myself"
Can you add Indonesian subtitles for this? I’m trying to come out and I think I want to show them this video.
I hope everything goes well for you😇👍🏻
Shilpa Karkera
Thank you! :)
All the best bro 👍👍👍
@Musa Yobabydaddy bruh, educate yourself..smh
Been a year, how'd it go?
i lost it when he said you gotta be loaded with lotsa money .. hahahahahhaha
Okay he's adorable!
People in the comment section be like he will always remain female...Bhai cleft lips k sth comfortable nhi rehte ho to surgery krwate ho ki nhi??? Or aap kitti bhi surgeries krwa lo cleft lips ..hai to cleft lips hi rhenge
The last line was the best. ❤️
Thank You Bro 🙏🙏🙏
Its amazing how you wouldn't suspect anything right up until you ask him
He seems so nice !
Thanks vhai
very happy😊😊😊
Last Questions are Awesome
How to date transman in India..I mean where?
Bro, this is how I realized except it was earlier
I'm not trans myself, more fluid, but I'm interested in dating trans men. I'm asexual as well, so I know trans men get more sexual taking T, but I'm hoping to find one who is also ace or at least respects that I express love in other ways than physical. Cause I want something platonic but with kissing sometimes, just no sex.
Badiya bhai . Good decision
congrats x
Am a gay proud of u bro
Why are you gay
@@hunainaghai3342 what a question bro.?
@@hunainaghai3342 u r gæ
@@hunainaghai3342 why are you straight?
@@alishakhan8926 😅👏🏾👏🏾❤️
I love
Where do y work
I could never guess he's trans.
I don’t know why but trans men are more likely to “pass” on their hormones than transgender women on their hormones. T must be a stronger chemical than E.
He seems like a really cool dude, also I think he could definitely pass for cis
I’m alright with my gender, I’m curious about binders, I might need binders
i have a question, what about his genetial part. I know from male to female, penis will be removed and remaining part will be adjusted as vagina. But what is the case here? Does anyone knows this?
AFAIK most transgender men do not have any surgery in the genital area. Even though there is a surgery available, many people think it is not enough. You can look it up on CZcams, they take skin from your thigh or arm and turn it into a penis. For many, that's not satisfying so most trans men don't do it. I assume it's very costly as well. However, the testosterone makes the clitoris grow and it ends up looking like a small dick.
@@lucasgdrezes Thanks
Not sure if it was already explained, but they can take skin from a different part of our bodies and pretty much do the same (shaping male genitals and all) but there are videos that actually go through it if you're interested in learing about it ^^
I hope you live always happy bro
Education is the key
Actually we can't chage our past and future but we can change our present past can't go with us forever
What a great guy!
@David Vanpatten No one loves you. If Jesus is real, then not even he loves you.
@Musa Yobabydaddy lmfao pal you seem more interested in what's in HIS pants than HE does, so much that you took a lot of time off your already pointless existence to reply to everyone's comments what are supporting HIM!
What does he think about trans men competing in men's sports?
Guy is cool
bro plz help to I want to female to male surgery plz help to me bro
Are you on Facebook
Huhhh shame on u .
@@sehreshbakhtiar7966 it's his choice dude
@ i know but its wrong r u agree with ths transitoning do u want to change ur gender?i cant even think about it i m muslim n its a great sin.Allah raham karo hum sab per.
Alright man so I’m not trans, I ain’t even a guy, but here are some tips and pieces of information for passing(being able to present as male to society) and transitioning.
This is obvious but shop for clothes from the men’s section and get a sharper, shorter, and overall more masculine haircut. If you can’t cut your hair, then beanies, hoods, and bobbie pins are your best friend. I suggest looking at videos on how to hide your long hair and style it. Walk with a wider stance (feet further apart). Try to lower the tone of your voice, there are many videos on CZcams that explain what I mean and can help. There’s also this thing called an STP(stand to pee). It basically makes it so you can use a urinal if that’s what feels most comfortable. Bind!!! Binding helps flatten down your chest and decrease the appearance of boobs, but please please please be safe with it. I don’t know if these are available where you live, but I suggest ordering a gc2b binder. They’re much safer and are good quality. Also don’t wear a binder for more than 8 hours at a time and try to avoid lots of physical activity. Packing can also be pretty useful. You can buy a packer that you put inside your boxers to give the appearance of a bulge. There are many many options, but if you can’t get one, then socks work just find. There are videos of how to fold them to give you the best results which I suggest you research.
Alright now to all the medical stuff. Try to talk to your doctor about it and see what they can do to help you possibly get on testosterone. Starting T will deepen your voice, redistribute your fat, make your hairline recede some, give you a little bit of acne, etc. you basically go through a second puberty. Now for surgeries. The most important this is to DO YOUR RESEARCH. Find a good and trustworthy surgeon who knows what they’re doing and who you can talk to. Top surgery(to get rid of your boobs) tends to cost about $3500 - $9000USD. Bottom surgery(to help change genitalia) can cost over $50000USD. They’re both quite a lot and the prices can certainly seem intimidating, but please don’t go to a doctor that says they can do it for really cheap. This is the type of thing where you need a good professional. Also, both of these surgeries tend to take a while to recover from and it’s HIGHLY recommended that you have someone to help care for you when you’re in recovery.
I have a lot more, but this is about as much that I can get out for the time being. I hope you manage to get what you need to feel comfortable in your own skin. Remember there are people who support you bro
The first sight I can’t regconize he is a trans guy.
hatsoff to u dear. even m a trans girl.
Isse contact kaise karre
im friends with this dude on fb
I love how a western media company not only felt the need to subtitle a person of color but does it inaccurately to make him more PC
Changing what is being said, is weird unless he actually made mistakes. I want to remind you though that there are people who do not speak english well enough to understand someone with an accent they are not used to hearing. If you learn standard british or standard american english on a mediocre level you may not catch everything a person says and subtitles help with that.
Yes, I also love how a western media company lets those who can't hear (or have no audio/are watching in public) hear the story of this cool human!
@@Slavaisusukhrystu that's what the regular subtitle function is for. They tend to be added by people who think carefully about any deviations they make from what was actually said. Of course I'm for accessibility - that's why hard-coded six are terrible. There are many people, like me, who find it impossible to do anything but read large words flashing in front of them. It's distracting, and that's before we get to the little changes that seem to say "oh, honey, you aren't a native speaker, here's what you meant"
Subtitling is important. ALWAYS important, no matter who.
Agree on the inaccuracy
They subtitle for people who are 1. Hard of hearing 2. Because he's not just speaking English but also Hindi.
hi ... whats your name ?
I have a question, do trans men still have their periods?
Yes, they still get periods unfortunately (including AFAB non-binary people) :(
some of them
@@confusion. but what about after gender recon surgery? also doses of testosterone should be affecting periods somehow right?
@@kaavyaramachandran5486 Yes if you're taking testosterone. I think it would have some changes in your periods and it might stop later on. It doesn't stop for everyone though and some trans men (and other trans people under the Trans umbrella term) don't go for medical transition. So some trans men still go through periods but once they are take testosterone, it would definitely change things. I hope that makes sense :P
(I'm a trans guy who is pre-T so I still experience periods which sucks)
@@confusion. yeah that does. thanks a lot!
Education is the key definitely. And there are millions in india who needs to educate themselves.
He is so handsome. I feel attracted to him.
40 Sec, Yup same here. Meko bhi Tabhi clear huwa
I think he must be happy to be a man in India which is a very anti femsle society.
He is very masculine looking and i do wish him all the best!
Don't hold your breath 🫁, because most people are not going to accept you. Accept yourself and live your life in ways that please you! I believe in respect,and tolerance for us all. However, none of us are going to agree on anyone thing,let alone one thing. We have to deal with people who may not accept us for whatever reasons,or another. We don't have to worry about what others think of us because God will judge us all individually. We should be more concerned about what God thinks!
3:24 awww so cute
💖proud of u
He said he was uncomfortable with his body so he changed genders. How did he know he would be comfortable in a mans body. Many transgenders say they feel like they are the opposite sex. I would like a transgender to explain that feeling to me. I am a man and I don’t understand what feelings have to do with gender.
Hi, my name is John Wumsh his feelings about his body are not for you to understand.
Amrutashree Sukumaran : I believe there are only two genders. I am also trying to understand what trans people are going through, so I am asking questions. You are just being a dick.
Belthazor22 I believe there are only two genders. I am also trying to understand what trans people are going through. That is why I am asking questions. You are just being a dick.
Hi, my name is John Wumsh The person who talked to you probably had a misunderstanding and thought you were trying to offend the community. I apologize, I get that you are just trying to understand and I appreciate you taking your time to. Being transgender actually does not create another gender (though this may be hard to believe at first, just keep at open mind. Also, I am in no way a professional in this area so I may get some things wrong.) transgender individuals can be male or female and strictly that. It doesn’t create a third gender but some people think there are other genders, I do not know where I stand on the topic. Women and men’s brains are different. Though this is a controversial subject, science has proved so. Transgender people are born with brains that are much more like the gender that is opposite to their body’s anatomical gender. Y’know how when somebody calls you a man or called you a boy when you were little, you automatically subconsciously knew that they were correct? Well let’s take somebody who is transgender who was born anatomically female for example. When somebody called them a girl, they automatically subconsciously knew that that was incorrect. It’s a bit of a complicated subject to explain and if you really wanted to look into the topic, I suggest you research using credited sources. There’s a lot of “fake news” or misunderstandings about transgender individuals out there. Some people think that gender is a social construct. I personally believe that you need a mental disorder called gender dysphoria to be transgender because I believe that is what science has proven. I am most certainly not an expert, I am just trying to help and not to offend. If you have any questions, feel free to ask and I will answer to the best of my ability!! Thank you
weñeden : thanks for the reply. I agree it is definitely complicated. I may never understand but it is very interesting to think about and to discuss.
Um... I have other questions I wanna know
Ask away
Kathy Coca ask them
ok keep it to urself
Wow I love how he admitted that his body is still female from the inside.
Trans people know their biological sex
That makes no sense if he had all the surgeries he won't even be female from the "inside"
I Don't understand LGBT thing but gotta respect them for what they're .
omg wanna cry im so happy that he is so happy
If you cant have baby so what is worth in changing from outside
So baby is everything you live for?There is no other purpose of life?He transitioned because he felt happy,inside and out,not to have babies gosh.
Hey how to baby producing to female
It’s definitely easier being a woman
Why is he being interviewed in the middle of a park? 😂
Because I was attending Pride Parade.
What ur life expectancy??
There's no change in life expectancy after transition, aside from suicide, in which case life would be extended after this process.
Can I (a cis-male) be a woman without medical intervention? If I can't afford it.
You can make yourself appear female, but since you were born male, you will remain biologically male forever, no matter what you do to your body.
But he is very strong muscle structure
he looks like Nana Patekar.....🤷🏽
These comments make me want to eat an entire jar of mayonnaise
Jay ok buy from supermarket n eat
lmfao
what is transgender ?? like i have no idea !?!
Google is your best friend!
Transgender is basically not identitying as the sex you were born as.
In this case, he's ftm which means he was a female and transitioned into a male :)
You can have children as a transman if you are in a relationship with a man and still have your female genitals, or with bone marrow into a female egg I think.
well he look like man if I didn't know I would think he just another man
He is
Being trans doesn’t make you less of a man
cause he is a man.....
@@deewee965 he is woman on steroids