WEAK INSECURE MEN asK Women to go 50/50 on FINANCES and SMART POWERFUL WOMEN are falling for it.
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I don’t even identify as a strong woman. Biko I am not a soldier. I am a soft woman, I didn’t come to this life to identify as what society wants me to identify. God didn’t create women to come and be strong. That’s why he gave Adam the work to be farming and toiling.
Period cramps is already enough for me
Period cramps 😂
My dear, it's not only you o.
I'm no strong one bit
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Nothing but the truth 💯 but pple sha hate hearing the truth.
A real/good man doesn't care about how much money his wife make , PERIOD!!!
A real wealthy man o, the heart can be willing but the pocket is lean. Things are tough and everyone should bring something to the table no matter how small.
Absolutely 💯. God bless you, dear
My own issue is the Black tax and her family leeching her dry! How can people not eat if you don’t work?!! Whatttt??? Where are your boundaries???😡😡
Or is it a savior complex??
As in, maybe her husband doesn’t even want to pay because he thinks they request too much and he’s not willing to pay for that
Exactly my point her family ain't helping issues
But the man is the one milking her dry. She is even paying 50% for the house they live in, and also 50% for taking care of his own children that are even not her own biological children ooo. And 50% for even running the house which means she practically pays his bills though he is very rich.
He is very mean and an opportunist. She deserved better, quite unfortunate she settled for less(him)
I was just about to type this when I saw your comment. Let's leave the husband first.
What about the people leeching off her, how long will it continue?
@@xeelvya
It is the man who is parasitic and leeching of her and nobody else because when something comes up or she gives her family money they appreciate her genorousity and take it as a privelledge.
But this so called very wealthy husband of hers has grown children with other women and it will shock you to know that whenever any of them call him for money he sees it as a right and he provides half of the money and she has to compulsorily bring the other the other half whether it is convenient for her or not. So even though he made her sign a prenup so that should she decide to leave him, she will not be given anything from his wealth and still yet she is still burdened with providing 50% of feeding if not him and his children from other women will starve. She has to provide 50% of school fees, upkeep money e.t.c for the children he has with other women which will run into her spending millions of dollars in just a few months for the children he has with other women alone.
It is so disheartening that this man is very wealthy yet so mean as to always exploit her financially.
I hope people around Gabrielle recognise her cry for help.
Most homes in the USA do 50/50 and she said the reason why she prefers 50/50 is because of her first marriage. When she divorced, she had to pay her ex-husband. Doing 50/50 now, will help in the sense that when a divorce comes up they both will not be paying or share any money.
We should realize that this is common in the western world. Like you both said, thank God we are Nigerians. Different cultures!
I let people know that I am unapologetically a spoilt wife. Let everyone vomit and hit their heads. Yes I don’t want to split anything , not even 90-10 😂 please please rest
Abi.. I spend money because I want to not because my husband demands it. Ahba I have never used my money for fueling my car expect for few times it was unavoidable. Abeg I love being a spoilt wife. Abeg abeg
See bah, I thank God for living with my aunt during uni...We always had a round table Convo from time to time and the older women will talk to us. These were all independent women and one thing they kept teaching us was "Let a man be a man." I am totally grateful for that knowledge. Only an irresponsible man is comfortable with his wife taking care of her bills much more his own bills and that of the home. A solid man prides himself in taking care of his family.
Yes o let a man be a man,I ran without looking back when I meet a guy who will visit and eat and drink without asking how I prepared the meal and u notice he was coming for my hard earn money sister I ran without looking back ......please women let this men be men and always sit to have a round table talk it's very good day your mind tell him how you feel about doing 50/50,cos me I no go fit do 50/50 o I keep saying it.
"My love language is cash"😂😂😂 Every Igbo girl gets it.
Their marriage feels like a business contract.
The truth is these days some Naija men are running from financial responsibilities.
This their marriage get as e be. First, he’s 9yrs younger than she is (they will say it doesn’t matter, but okayyy), secondly she insisted they sign a prenup before the marriage, thirdly, people that are advocates for Trans (they probably think men and women are the same). It’s sad shaa.
Financially, she’s married but very single. I guess they won’t even know what going on in each other’s extended families lives. She’s definitely hurting.
Yes,and I see them divorcing reason I don't know cos looking at her she has a lot to spill but not time yet
My husband knows I love to be taken care of, I don't ever want to be a strong woman. Oga please do it, I will continue to pray that God blesses you more. I already do alot as a woman and wife adding financial responsibility is a No No for me except he doesn't have and I step in.
My mum will always say “bad as e want bad, I no know how much be rent and i never pay school fees before”
Lol the 50/50 thing is hustling backwards in my opinion
las las 🤣
When I started watching you almost 3 years ago, I was wondering why you were saying these things. Now I’m married and I agree wholeheartedly 😂😂
🤣🤣 I hope more people learn.
@Adaeze's Space please I'm learning 😂, I like listening to married women speak on these topics
My experience living in America for almost 8 years, Americans are not sentimental with money. Their culture is completely different from ours, however in the same vein, I think our culture also puts too much pressure on men. A working woman should contribute something to her home as well. I personally think whoever has more income should take more responsibility. I don't think a man should be 100% responsible for everything in the house, unless he is wealthy and can afford it comfortably. Dwayne wade is very wealthy and this is actually ridiculous.
His wife too is wealthy lol so both can contribute
@@sholay706 I am a proponent of 50:50. It's not a must in that stated ratio, but all parties should contribute to the table. Nigerian men like to pride themselves, but with dwindling economic conditions no one should be ashamed to set the priorities right.
@Lord Naz Exactly, there should be no rule. If spouses like 50/50 then that is fine , once size doesn't fit all marriages
That paragraph " i don't think a man should be 100% responsible let me add EXPECIALLY TO THE LAZY INLAWS who just want to eat someone dry but OCCASIONAL doings i will say
This is the best comment. 👍🏾
Clear example of a married single woman - she just sounds so anxious and worked up constantly worrying about money when she has a “well to do” partner. Not making sense to me 😮
Then he will complain she is masculine. Men are so feminine in this generation
This just reminds me of the movie 'Acrimony.' Till tomorrow i will keep saying it that that lady was stupid providing for a useless man. People keep arguing that she loved him and i usually reject such love for myself and unborn daughters. I just can't understand why women want to take up men's responsibilities. It's tiring abeg. I'm not saying i won't support you if need be but it's your responsibility so do it. Even the bible says that a man who cannot provide for his family is worse than an infidel or something like that. Bible no dey lie o
It’s the way you both wore your shades for this video for me….You guys really came serious with no room to play😂😂❤️❤️…missed you guys !!!
I love this nelo hair style,it's different from your usual style,the both of you look good
Thank you guys so much for this video! My younger sis got married in December to an amazing man really, he’s a very nice man. Since they started dating about 5years before, he had always insisted on carrying her bills and everything that concerns her financially and he has remained that way ever since. What I don’t understand is why my sis for some reason I don’t even want to understand is so obsessed with wanting to contribute to the finances since they got married. By her own admission the man has never complained all these years and I really don’t ever see him complaining because clearly the man takes pride in taking care of her; infact he has even increased the number of bills of hers he carries (including the unnecessary/ vain items) over the years. This girl is actually developing anxiety issues and even getting sad over not being able to contribute because she doesn’t have a job yet and she’s gone back to school. I’ve told her when she gets a job, she can handle little things here and there but she shouldn’t clearly take on any major role and allow him to be the man he wants to be…I’m so tired of telling her not to start something she won’t be able to handle by starting to contribute by force and then later when she can’t take it anymore (and I know she will definitely get there), she wants to change it….then it won’t make any sense and to me she will be at fault for introducing something, allowing him to get comfortable with it, and then she wants to stop it all of a sudden. I’ve told her no one will side her on that cuz it’s not fair on him either for her to just switch up the dynamics of their relationship, especially one she forcefully induced…I tire oo! I’ll just send her this video; maybe when she hears it from people that aren’t me, she might see the sense in all I’ve been saying…
No lies told!!!! Love the video and your hair nelo 😍
Here for the sunglasses aunties! You are both beautiful and articulate 😍
Ada the wig is so cute. You two are a vibe 🎉
This matter eehh...you guys should keep up the good work!
I loved Adaeze's speech soooo much!! preach !!
You ladies have spoken well, added with humour.
Be careful when you're dealing wt a narcissist, 3 major features of a narcissist:
1) Manipulation
2) Intimidation
3) Persuasion
Modern form of a witch/wizard..
God bless you both for addressing this issue
True 👍🏼
This comment right here 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾… I could never put into words how ‘narcissists’ make my heart and spirit crawl/grieved..like dealing with another spirit all together
Love you ladies !!! Keep it up
“I hope she is coming back” 😂😂😂😂
Real facts
you guys look adorable, Nelo your Cornroll is Fire❤❤❤
I thought I was weird for thinking exactly the way you both think! All u said is 100percent my take ! Spread this gospel it needs to go to the end of the world! You addressed everything those commenting the opposite pls watch to understand n not respond
You people owe us so many videos 😭😭😭
😂😂🤣It's the sarcasm at the end, for me
I concur with everything. What is there in being Nwunye odogwu.
To my best aunties in the world.......na only una fit advice me in this life❤❤
Watch the full interview again fully . He said something like “ this is 😂my house “one time so she got upset and said to him this is the last time you would say that to me! Hence the 50/50.
Sometimes some men treat their other half disrespectfully just because they are the one providing.
This was the context of the 50/50
Your comment made it for me. Bcos the presenter are Igbos and should understand Wade's comment better. Most Igbo men make that comment to their partners, worst still same reasons they see their wives as property.
God bless you guys for this, man support to be the provider not another way round, a real man need to provide all the need in a home, not 50/50, me I not come to this life to do 50/50 in marriage 😀, am born for soft life,.
I am stuck to you guys now . what!, The gist is gisting. Subscribed like osiso
Nelo your hair is giving 🔥🔥
I wish I could like this video a million times. D. Wayde gives off covert narcissist vibes!
When I see them shades I know shade is about to be thrown for sure 😂 Truth 🎉
I love your shades😁.
I'm learning.
My dear that’s the western world for you. When I relocated, it dawned on me so I stuck to not just Nigerians but igbo cos I must enjoy the benefits of marrying a fellow igbo man. Igbo men take pride in taking care of their wives with their family whether their wives are extremely rich or not. Plus, financial support from a man is my love language 😂😂😂. More seriously, we all have our roles to play in families and no matter how we try we can’t go against nature. I am not woke in anyway and I don’t wish to be. I love traditional men and I respect traditional values and I have the most caring man in the world.
I love this topic you guys talked about abeg.
If it’s working for them… then I’m happy for them 🎉
But this video make sense!!! No cap!✅
Nelo I really love this hair on you ❤
You guys look so good
It's Adaeze's swag for me
As for Adaeze's wig if she doesn't find it, na me steal am 😂😂
Why haven’t i been listening to this podcast 😊😊
My two lionesses, you are speaking the truth 😂
Wow you both looking beautiful ❤
People hate the truth but THIS IS THE TRUTH ❤
I thank JEHOVAH for my husband, he his a present and responsible man, and he provides 💯 %, and people think i am lucky. No, me and his kids are his responsibility. So help us, GOD ALMIGHTY . i am not an independent woman, p 11:57 lease. GOD ALMIGHTY protect and keep blessing his pocket forever in JESUS' MIGHTY name, amen.
Adaeze's hair is foinee....this style fits you differently.
I was literally expecting‘Ngwanu bye’ at the end of the video 😂😂😂
Nelo, I love the hair. You shoukd rock it more often.
With regards to Dwayne's comment about his house that he paid for and your opinion about it being childish, that brings me to the age gap btw them. Dating or marrying a much younger man will leave you dealing with immaturity many a time.
Hi I understand everything that has been said and I agree the man is the head of the home and should provide for the family. But I would like to draw our attention to one of the reasons Women,in general and Nigerian women in particular "changed " so to speak. Remember instances where the man is the sole provider but dies leaving his family and wife who has no means of livelihood to cater for children.
I'll say best the version of feminist ideology we have today is more of a ripple effect .In a bid to prevent the kind of hardships these women( now) saw their mothers experience when their father passed away. They just seek to change such narrative ....
They did not say women should fold their arms sit and not do anything to be financially independent they clearly said responsibilties like providing for the family should be done by the man i bet you if any of them loses their spouse God forbid the home will not suffer so much bcos they have the resources to step in
Seriously I learnt a lot , people should learn to know what the principles of the Bible is … The man is the head of the family should sink into our heads as women
A real man doesn't care about what his wife makes
He should even feel insulted! Ughhh! This whole thing is pissing me off! God forbid o!
She’s attaching her value to how much she can work and provide. You see it with her family and her “home”!
That’s why I don’t admire online relationships and pda because they are always not happy in reality.
God will bless you Ada and Nelo!!!!!! This vid is everything ❤❤
Very interesting and fun video
A lot of people these days feel like marriage is a competition. Husbands and wives are trying to outdo each other. And I’m just like why are you making yourself suffer when someone wants to talk care of you. Who independent woman epp. A lot of these women who claim to be independent and happy doing it deep down want to be able to rest and say let someone come and take care of me. But society won’t let them rest. Because society feeds women that they don’t need anyone to take care of them. Like relax, relax and let someone take care of you 😂😂
My take is everybody do what works for your marriage
The truth is that,there’s no straight rules in marriage;what works for A may not work for B
The only comment I was looking for
But in 'relationships' it can't be 50/50. Sometimes someone may have the capacity to give more. It's not just about finances tho
But in 'relationships' it can't be 50/50. Sometimes someone may have the capacity to give more. It's not just about finances tho
By the way Nelo you hair is 👍🏾. Make you look younger vibrant show your natural beautiful self
Even my husband who is a Nigerian have said that to me. This is my house.
She was the one who said, actually insisted the bills must be split 50 50.
Expérience and environnement is of influence. Roles are helpful for easy management. Whatever work for them is ok. Everyone is brainwashed. If this 50/50 works for them it's ok. No way is the ultimate way
Is the sarcasm at the end 😂😂
Feminism or traditional values. Women can’t have both within the West. I understand the Nigerian female mindset expressed here, but you have taken the impact of the Legal system in the West and how it influences marriage. Stay blessed
She’s a king and more oh 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Godforbid say I pay school fees😩 a man’s most important worth is provision period!!
Women are not providers..
What Adaeze said
It's so sad the way she seems so exhausted
I love Igbo men 😊
Hilarious human beings...king of queens.....😊😊😊
I like how Nelo is throwing stats here and there. 90%, 95%, 99%. Wahala for who no know statistics 😅
It’s the alcohol he was holding😂😂😂
I personally think every rich couple is like this. If you watch videos from Adrienne Bailon with her and her husband they both said something like this. I really don’t believe anything these celebrities say personally because they say one thing and do another. They say things so ppl can make blogs and content but I really doubt that’s how things are in their household, but I could be wrong. As an American I feel a man should carry most of the responsibilities because he is the man of the home but a woman should be hard working and have responsibilities as well. You ladies look beautiful 😘
22:04 🤣🤣🤣 It’s one of the few things that men have to do in this life, Allow them do it🤣🤣🤣
Exactly. She makes money. What works for us in africa don't maybe work here. I see no issue here to be honest. If you are in opposite position and fell blessed than feel blessed. She don't complain. They love and is married is what matters to me
Personally I take offence when you call me a strong woman 😂😂😂. I’m member of soft life gang. Spoil me sir
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I always jokingly say that I am only independent among women and not men. Men will guilt trip you if you let them only to share 50:50 and they use their own 50 to care for another woman. Ask Wendy Williams 🤣
Being married to a man and being worried about the next meal is crazy, wish Gabrielle Union the best!
There’s nothing like having your own as a woman and also having a man who is proud of being a provider. You get to work if you want to and not because if you don’t, someone won’t eat.
This topic wear shoe that’s why both of you are wearing goggle 😎😎. The sun is too much so sun shade is needed. Some women will be lying my husband did this my husband did that pepper them gang ..Nice one ❤
It's cultural differences...here aboard couples split the bills for household expenses and each couple takes care of their family members. We can't compare it with our Nigerian settings oh .
Exactly
Now I am wishing I was an Igbo babe as well. 😂❤
Some people just take on too much.
Its the black tax for me...why do i feel her famiky are like leeches. Because a family member becomes wealthy/famous doesnt mean you render yourselves unless and solely depend on them. She needs to set proper boundaries and cutoff those that need to be out. Why give yourselves anxiety over family members who cant help themselves? You dont have 2 heads
I want to have my own money but please give me that money no bring any independence inside biko🤣
First of all, in this part of the world, it's individualism. Now as a Nigerian, and a Christian, I do not subscribe to that. However, in this case, there's a boundary issue here. From what she is saying, it sounds like her anxiety stems from her inability to say no to her extended family. And being anxious does not mean that they both did not come to the agreement of 50/50 together. His wife likes to present as an "independent" woman. In the black culture, some women misunderstand what being independent is, and there is the power struggle with men. Another too, could be something in a person's past, hence why they each are trying to protect their wealth.
Aunty that’s not it ooh. He told her she is living in his house, she now responded in trauma by now insisting on going 50/50.
Whatever they agreed on is not working for her which is what this video is about that culture or approach is unhealthy
When I saw that part of his interview where he said why she decided to do this 50/50 thing I was like there you go! Now we know why.
And he's richer than her too!!!!!!!.
My own is we can split any other bill but you see that child care financing, it’s 100% his responsibility but my dream is to marry someone that can handle all the bills 100%
......Marriage in the abroad is considered as a contract(basically the purpose for prenup before marriage) , while marriage in Africa is more of an investment..
8:56 Adaeze asked how many months did he carry his own 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Please I really want to know, did you guys discuss how bills will be paid before getting married with your spouse?
At least they did 50/50! Omoh some women do 100/100 and Oga will still fumble 😭😭😭