Woman Openly SUPPORTS Her HOUSEHELP disciplining her child with a SLAP!
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- čas přidán 12. 07. 2023
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What kind of help do y’all have??? Goddd. My sisters help is like part of the family , genuine love, positive vibes, more like an elder sister to her kids and she can correct the kids when they do wrong
Exactly! Especially the context behind what happened it makes sense.
@@hills9129 i don’t understand what’s happening to this generation honestly, one of them even said she would throw the help from upstairs, like she too doesn’t have a mother????
That tell you how they treat their helpers
I can't stand their way of reasoning in these days
See the mentality of them??? Very low. When you treat your help as 1 one of you guess what? You end up with a loving and caring helper for your kids. I saw how nelo's sister Nneka behaves with her helpers. You can't even say they're there to work. The kids are very attached to them.
@@godgiven316 if you become uncomfortable with your help , then terminate the contract. Simple
If an 11 year old feels it’s ok to push a door at an adult then she deserves a slap. It teaches her that In the real world if she was to harm anyone she should also expect the same treatment or worse coz not everyone you meet is normal 😂
So the fights, bullying and altercation she has at school/church/parties/playdates are not enough to teach her that? You want her to also learn the hard way at home?
@@AdaezesSpace home sets a foundation. If you teach her that physical action can be met with worse then she is most likely not going to do it outside!
Home should always set a foundation for her to navigate through life.
@@AdaezesSpace if you trained your child properly, an 11 year old should know that you are not physical when you are angry. That's how bullies are born. she could have found another way of punishing her.
I understand the way this conversation was going, however we need to get some facts. Morayo’s (the TVC, YOUR VIEW show host) daughter is 13yrs old, hence a teenager (not necessarily a toddler or younger child), the nanny is above 30yrs and more like a family relation who takes care of the kids, anyone who watches the show, knows this as there have been other conversations about her household.
So now to the point, I believe Morayo allowed that act (as she’s quite a disciplinarian + learned parent with intentional parenting as much as her husband also) because the help here is more like a sister to her and she(morayo) knowing her daughter have been quite more naughty lately (she says so on the show). So that’s the context.
As for me , I just would say every one should just train their child/children to be well mannered, because my kids have also been trained to retaliate whenever anyone (especially within their age range) does something to them), they are even well built & bodied 😃like their mum and can’t be easily bullied or pushed about, Whenever the adults come, they can now be tellingly the kids Sorry! and not telling only my kids sorry😃!
To everyone it’s own finally!😊
We all should just raise societal responsibility kids while intentionally parenting. 👍🏽✌🏽
I agree with your submission. No child of mine will be rude and won’t expect instant correction. I am sorry but I didn’t agree with the opinions from the video. The context shows that the child required instant correction.
Nelo's face waiting patiently for Ada to finish the intro 😂
She couldn't wait to enter this gist
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I understand your angle ladies.
What if this help was hurt?
What if the help hit her head and fainted or something?? What would you have done?
I sincerely think that you people have over hung on one side of the issue too much.
Your kids are human. The help is human as well.
That statement "these are kids, they will outgrow it eventually"
Hmmmm
I think self control is essential.
But you guys really didn't balance it.
The lady said that she ran there almost immediately.
I trust the fact that the woman evaluated the situation and saw that the help could have been right.
This woman loves her child too. We cannot claim to love her daughter more than her.
Also you guys didnt follow the entire show.
That lady talks on parenting a lot and she doesn't support corporal punishment.
If you did, you won't just take out that particular thing she said and build on.
This here is the reason why children are disrespectful.
Also listen to the things you women said you'd do.
Ada said she would push the help downstairs.
Nelo said if she were that kid she would bang the door on the help next time. Really??
Anyways i really hope you guys see that you blew this out of proportion.
I am an ardent follower of this chanel and i really love your videos together and as individuals.
Kudos
What if the child had gone deaf from the slap? What if the child had fainted from the slap? What if the child had gone blind? We can say all the 'What if' too for the child. The point is that, the child did not hurt the help and help is an adult. If the child had actually hurt the help not "almost", then the story is different.
@@AdaandNeloUncut you have already said what you'd do if the child was hurt. I really sincerely want to know what you'd do if the help was hurt. Please don't read to respond and uphold your point. I really would like to know.
Also from the show the child in question is about 11 years old. So the kid is not a toddler. I just thought I should mention that.
If the help was hurt, the right thing to do is 1) take her to the hospital for treatment if it's so serious (2) The parent chastise and correct the child so she can understand her actions have hurt someone and she doesn't repeat it again.
3) The child apologizes to the maid for her behavior in the presence of her parents.
Please It is incorrect for the maid to slap that child why? because 2 wrongs don't make a right! Inevitably what the child is being taught is that once someone does wrong to you, you should retaliate and even do so there and then. These kinds of response has caused people to loose their lives so it's not the best way to react or teach a child to react.
Coming to Morayo, she hosts a lovely program and I enjoy watching them however, she is not a child psychologist, child therapist or certified child counselor so her views are her personal opinions. She is not an expert in parenting. Therefore because she discusses parenting issues on tv doesn't make her 100% correct all the time. Personally like many others, I watch her show but may not necessarily share the same views with her.
@@deinstar2884ou have put it exactly how I see it. There is NO reason whatsoever for the maid to hit the child whether or not she got hurt. The child should apologize for actions, if needed treatment that should be applied, and the the child should be “disciplined” and spoken to whatever effect by the parent.
The only slight thing I agree with OP is about where they mentioned also hurting the help if they laid hands on their children. Still, their point was if the child is hitting, and the help is hitting, why can’t they add hand too? Violence begets violence begets throwing out from the upstairs 😅 Even though I am a pacifist, I will imagine it well well. I don’t think they meant to do it, just emphasizing that beating each other in the moment if it feels right can lead to escalation.
There are so many other ways to sort this.
For those who might not understand my words. "I would fling you from the balcony" is just a way of me saying I will send you out of my house very quickly. It doesn't mean I will literally carry an adult and fling out of the balcony. That doesn't even make sense. 😄
If the help was hurt, I will spank my child, take the help for treatment and make the child apologise. Also I'd collect the device and ban it for a while because this shows that the child is clearly addicted and reacted like an addict.
Thank you ladies for having me. I really enjoyed the conversation. 😊
Soty is an intelligent woman. I admire the way she carries herself and composure 👏🏾. Nelo needs to let others talk without interrupting them .
🤣🤣🤣🤣 omo in this 2023 again. I feel ashamed of this comment 🤣
Babes you must be new here😂. If there’s one things nelo is good at is cutting people off
God bless u Precious, u read my mind
@@NeloOkeke girl pls !! Save your sarcasm for the next person, am not the one .
@@NeloOkeke I know you say you sometimes interrupt because thats how you ladies speak to each other as friends..which is good when you are in your private spaces but you need to bear in mind that we have to listen to this conversation and get the message. So yeah the interruption are a bit annoying as a listener who actually wanted to hear the other person's point🤷🏾♀️
Thanks soty for being here... i looked forward to hearing your contribution and you delivered.
Nelo is always cutting someone off no couth at all
Nelo stop interrupting the other ladies
My thing is if I’m not physically abusing you “the help” then you can’t be physically abusing “my child”. It’s really that simple. Unless we should all start slapping each other too 😂🤣
🤣🤣🤣 Exactly
This was well dissected! Thank you Nelo, Soty, Ada ❤
Ladies stop painting it a child has not right to behave like that!
Once,my teenage daughter cross the boundary of touching an adult,whatever you see you collect.There are actions that require instant reaction. We had a help while growing up and never for once did we disrespect her. We never even thought of it. I don’t know the types of help that you all are dealing with.
A teenager that pushes the door out of anger has anger issues that need to be addressed.
No, .both nelo & adeze are acting like their kids are too special!!!
They don't know a teenager always want you to know you're not in your house.
You see how nelo said if she was the girl, she would hurt the girl head. You realize they think they have money, so they mistreat their helpers. That's the reason they 12 helpers in a year. They hire a helpful babysitting, the help end up cleaning, washing, cooking, and picking up the kids from school. What time does she have for rest.
I look the way they treat their helpers in Africa & I tell myself that if this is in 🇺🇸 they will charge of abuse & throw in jail.
I think there are too many assumptions here. It’s obvious the lady didn’t tell the entire story. What do you also mean by people should not discipline your children. Lots of bias in this conversation.
Hmmm what is this na?. This is an unfair analysis...you people read so much into a few seconds clip
Also, atleast you people should have done your due diligence to know Morayo's name. She is a respected celebrity in her own right. Personally I don't believe Adaeze really doesn't know her.
No problemoo...you have the right to raise your children the way you want, but pls respect other people's choice. At least I know for Nelo and Adaeze, non of you have an 11 year old. She has been a mother longer that you two. You people are raising your kids the way you believe is best...greattt. let us wait an see the final result. It is when they become Adult we would know if your parenting technique worked. We don't know yet.
See ehhnn it is clear you people came your to uphold your view on discipline. Its okay you all have the right to. But pls stop over analysing. You don't know this woman, her maid, her home, personally.
No no no...this is wrong on all level.
Stop equating extreme cases with this case. You don't love the girl more than her mother.
The West culture that told us that any form or physical discipline is child abuse, go and see all their children. Yes there are extreme cases, but I personally don't feel this is. When did one slap become "child abuse". Sometimes we should listen to ourselves.
I was disciplined the traditional Nigerian way, while growing up...where there cases that could have been done better? Sure...but I think I am doing okay as an Adult. Parenting is hard, lets give grace in our analysis of people's parenting skill.
You people where just expanding the issue and forcing in examples and things that may result from it...hmmm
Like I said, you guys have completely condemned the way discipline used to be done. No problem...let's wait and see the result of newer methods in Nigeria. At least in the west we are already seeing it.
Do you gettt!!!???😅😅😅 my own be say I Dey find who start this “nobody can b3at my child thing or i don’t b3at my child thing for this Nigeria first” 😅😅😅
If she was so perfect, why is her 11 year old banging door and being rude to the help? Since she is the ultimate mother with perfect methods. At 11, her child should be disobeying at all. Just cos someone has been a mother for longer, doesn't mean she can't make mistakes please.
@Adaezespace try to reconsider your vision concerning training kids, if the Maid was your Eldest child who disciplined her younger sister I bet you wount address the situation the way you are right now.
@@AdaezesSpaceAdaezeeee...you sef.
I didn't say she was perfect..did I?. Yes I said she has been a mother longer than you guys. And that is a statement of fact. With that I also meant, we dont know her history with methods for disciplining kids...she isn't perfect..but most likely, maybe more experienced.
Your kids are still very young...maybe it will be wisdom on your part to open your mouth small small.
I would prefer you guys just say, I don't like someone disciplining my child, period. Well you have your reasons. But to start insinuating all manner of stuff, and judging and criticising her approach isn't fair.
Also why are you bringing up the girls attitude here..she is still a minor and still needs continous shapening. That doesn't mean the mom has completely failed. When she is an adult, we would know if the moms system worked.
We also don't know the childs behaviour history. We don't know if its was a one of thing or a continuous pattern... plsss
@@tiayahprecious491if there is anything I don't tolerate in my house, it is getting physical..especially among my kids.
I don't care what the other person did...especially if they were not physical themselves. I can understand hitting back in self defense. Anything other than that I consider bullying and I would not tolerate it. Once you hit the other person first, you are the one that is wrong. No matter the story you want to tell me.
I really enjoyed this topic,and i was a victim of this at school while growing up.But thank God for awareness now,so no one will abuse or bully my child
Me too oh
To the point that I still have that teacher in my mind.
I love this combo! Pls more of this. As for the main issue, my help definitely doesn’t have any right whatsoever to hit my kids, let me do the discipline myself. END OF DISCUSSION 😅
BAD and you will have kids that won't accept their faults when they grow up.
They will always believe if I get validation from my Mum,then all other opinions don't matter.
Nice view ❤❤❤❤thanks for sharing
Fantastic analysis. I agree with you ladies 100% . Let them report the children's offense to their parents and let the parents correct their children! Imagine if you were to be slapping everybody who is rude to you or offends you! Naaa youre not even teaching the child the right values. If the tables were turned and it was she who slapped her maid she will be labeled ss a wicked madam! Please children are vulnerable and fragile and in that moment of unchecked physical correction anything can happen. Don't be the one to sell out your kids. Theyll start hating you and you wont even know it!
U guys are on point, exactly the reason why many teenagers give in to sexual abuse even when they're been forced, they keep it as a secret bcos no one can stand in for them..
I watched Nezeville story on child's molestation (her help and d uber driver..)🎉
I am sorry but I don’t agree with the position of everyone in this video. Context is everything is all I will say.
Thanks for coming our guest speaker
Dezo I like your dress ooo . You all look amazing beautiful ❤
Thank you😘
Good topic, l have made that mistake before l regretted it. I acted out of anger to please my house help.
I valued your taughts Sotee Mummy
Wow learnt a lot
I love sotee😂😂😂
You, ladies, are funny 😅 Exfoliating cracked me up
Please have Soty back as a co-host again 🙏🏾
Gentle parenting doesn’t work for all kids. Of course don’t spank to the point of hurting the kid but definitely spank/scold to a degree. There needs to be a level of fear instilled in a child or else they will grow up to disrespect you! Taking their toys/device away doesn’t suffice.
There should never be a level of fear. Your child is never to fear you but respect you.
@@benitaakolo4760 fear and respect go hand in hand! You fear/respect God don’t you?! So when I say fear, it doesn’t mean you are so scared of your parents you don’t have a relationship with them or scared to be in the same space as them but rather fear them to where you are scared of the repercussion when you do something you know isn’t right!
You’re right that gentle parenting doesn’t work for every kid. What the ladies are talking about works for some kids but not my own kid. I was abused as a child living with people and I tried gentle parenting on my kid but it was making him worst. I rather discipline him myself than for him to get it from outside because of his behavior. I always say that if my son stays with somebody else, they’ll kill him because I know my son. I definitely do not agree with others beating my child because he did something wrong. Report him to me and I’ll do the correction myself.
Lol let’s focus on the topic. Should ur help beat ur pikin or not? We are not asking if u should as we CLEARLY stated we discipline ours. Let’s try and be watching videos in full before dropping comments l😅😭😭
I understand the way this conversation was going, however we need to get some facts. Morayo’s (the TVC, YOUR VIEW show host) daughter is 13yrs old, hence a teenager (not necessarily a toddler or younger child), the nanny is above 30yrs and more like a family relation who takes care of the kids, anyone who watches the show, knows this as there have been other conversations about her household.
So now to the point, I believe Morayo allowed that act (as she’s quite a disciplinarian + learned parent with intentional parenting as much as her husband also) because the help here is more like a sister to her and she(morayo) knowing her daughter have been quite more naughty lately (she says so on the show). So that’s the context.
As for me , I just would say every one should just train their child/children to be well mannered, because my kids have also been trained to retaliate whenever anyone (especially within their age range) does something to them), they are even well built & bodied like their mum and can’t be easily bullied or pushed about, Whenever the adults come, they can now be tellingly the kids Sorry! and not telling only my kids sorry😃!
To everyone it’s own finally!😊
We all should just raise societal responsibility kids while intentionally parenting. 👍🏽✌🏽
Nelo should allow others talk I want to hear from magistrate 's daughter
Soteee special 🎉🎉🎉
What if the child is abusive to the help? How will you address that.
The help is someone’s child too, we should also learn to tell our kids to respect their help, I don’t think the slap was that much, cos if not the mum wouldn’t have keep quiet …Abeg everyone is just concerned about my child , why will your child slam the door on the baby , some thing needs instant action. What if she waits to report to you , would you have beaten your child.
That's the thing. You don't have to beat/hit a child to correct them. You can use your words or other methods of correction
A slap that made a child scream out for her mum. Also, she didn't say the child hit the help, she said the girl pushed the door! All the other almost doesn't count cos no one was there to see if it really "almost". Also, as long as it wasn't the child's intention to hit the help, hitting the child was wrong. Hoha!
The help is someone's child too!
God will bless three of you for this!!
Morayo Afolabi Brown is the host on Your View TVC. You can read up about her or watch the program she anchors.
If Morayo says its fantastic her help slapped her daughter, Sisters it is fantastic 😂
Lmaooooo😂😂😂😂 Ndi don’t beat my child…
Make person child no shaa beat me first
My point exactly 😂😂😂make everybody train their child well ooo to avoid 😂😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣. Try it and get beaten. Nonsense!!
Lol y'all re raising spoilt brats in the name of being modern, n y'all re talking abt domestic staff as if she's not someone's child, says alot how y'all treat ur staff esp Ada, so wat if it's ur sister or ur mum that beat ur child, will you beat ur sis or throw ur mum from the balcony, you shud jxt create boundaries to wat punishment someone can met out to ur child.
Unfortunately I cannot help your case if you don't realise how dumb you sound when you actually think I would literally throw someone off the balcony🤣🤣🤣
You know when she said she’ll throw her out of the balcony is a figure of speech right😊…….
I understand the way this conversation was going, however we need to get some facts. Morayo’s (the TVC, YOUR VIEW show host) daughter is 13yrs old, hence a teenager (not necessarily a toddler or younger child), the nanny is above 30yrs and more like a family relation who takes care of the kids, anyone who watches the show, knows this as there have been other conversations about her household.
So now to the point, I believe Morayo allowed that act (as she’s quite a disciplinarian + learned parent with intentional parenting as much as her husband also) because the help here is more like a sister to her and she(morayo) knowing her daughter have been quite more naughty lately (she says so on the show). So that’s the context.
As for me , I just would say every one should just train their child/children to be well mannered, because my kids have also been trained to retaliate whenever anyone (especially within their age range) does something to them), they are even well built & bodied like their mum and can’t be easily bullied or pushed about, Whenever the adults come, they can now be tellingly the kids Sorry! and not telling only my kids sorry😃!
To everyone it’s own finally!😊
We all should just raise societal responsibility me kids while intentionally parenting. 👍🏽✌🏽
Exactly, moral lesson try to train ur child well to know the difference between good and bad
Thank you so much people just want to talk especially becos is involving help. How can ur 13 years old still behave like that,, the nanny have been working there for long and you think she don’t have the right then u mothers need to train that child of urs well
Nelo nelo
To be honest I couldn't leave this video without writing this comment.
You all have valid points but I just feel you are guilty of the same thing you have accused this Mom. How can you tell that the summary of what you heard is the entire story?
Also do you know if the nanny is way older than the little girl's mom? Not all Nannies are as young as yours.
Nobody should touch my child is all I could hear in this video. Is this because it was a Nanny? If it was your Mom correcting your child would you say the same?
The only thing I see in this story is a Mom that knows her daughter's character trait 100 percent and that of her Nanny. She knows why she chose to do what she did, about that incident please don't judge her... Every Mallam with his kettle. Some children do not know when not to cross the line and we need to teach them to understand that it is not okay to bully an adult too.
On the other hand, I just believe abuse and correction are different. A Nanny can correct a child but NOT Abuse! If you can trust your Nanny to feed and nurture your child then you should also be ready to teach your Nanny how to correct your children as well, because they will eventually, even without your knowledge.
Lastly, I think making your child stand in judgement with your Nanny is a No No as it will only spring bad blood and hate for the little child. It is best to have conversations with your children privately and if the Nanny seems to be bullying your kids, she wouldn't even realize when she will be out of door.
Please also bring neze peperempe to conversations like this for a balanced opinion.
Well done all the same!
May the Lord helped all of us in Jesus Christ name amen 🙏
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In my opinion, no one is allowed to lay hands on my kids, however, if they are in the care of an adult, I would want that there should be a level of authority. The adult should be able to correct my kids without abusing them - physically or verbally. The nanny/help in question should be able to mete out punishment that corresponds to the "crime". If not, one would have kids that respect their parents and are uncouth outside. A point worthy of mentioning is; the lady in question might also be beating the nanny.
Please we should all understand that these are their opinions about this issue,they aren't saying this is what to do, or this is what everyone should do, if you watched and listened well you'd hear them saying "I would do, if it were me".
I'm just here laughing because I know what I would do if it were me though 😂😂
Thanks for another episode ❤️❤️✌️and it was glad seeing Sotee Sprinkles here ❤️❤️❤️
Sotonye is composed with choosing her words
Kids will try you! You see that eye thing, my daughter ignored me giving her serious side eye one day. I quickly switched to speaking Igbo and made her understand that I'm not playing around. She fixed her attitude immediately because oma na aka Jehova na eme nma 😀
Soty special
Not me just sitting, smiling with a plate of chin chin 😊
God bless you; beating is not effective and even if you must beat it should be last resort and certainly don't beat a child whilst you are angry! Every child is different and the same punishment/abuse that was given out to us is not necessarily the right one, so many other ways to teach and punish which in the long run will be more effective.
I think when the mother got there, she should apologize to the maid on the child’s behalf and also let the maid know that on no account should she react like that next time, but come report to her, the mother. And the mother should teach the child to respect people. Everyone deserves respect. But the 11yrs old acted naughty first, u would not judge the maid so much for her impulsive reaction. Like I said teach the maid what you expect from her to do better next time.
Love 💕 you guys
What if she waited and reported to you will you best your child
Let her talk
That is so wrong, that woman that said that. Nobody should ever hit your child. That is so wrong. This is the reason why children being abused do not speak up. If something happens to that child in future, she is very unlikely to see her mother as someone to come to.
Nelo and Ada another good topic to talk about is "the church, parents, school and sex education"
Abuse is not the way to go !!!
People should not hit other people’s children. I firmly believe that hitting children is rarely warranted, RARELY!
I hear what you laddies are saying. However, I suggest you invite people that have different opinion from you. To have an objective conversation.
I would never smack other peoples children either neither would I expect the same.
However, I watch your view regularly and I watch this particular episode and I don't think Morayo was praising the help as its been portrayed in this episode. And her daughter does have a relationship with her.
Lets looks at the full picture and be objective in our conversations and look at differing opinions.
And why people say or act how they do.
Some things have to be handled immediately. Of course your help should not ABUSE your child but small spank here and there, and kids shouldn’t feel like the ruler of the house. They will take advantage of it. Your help should be given the right to discipline, they are with your children more than you, and without anger. If my help didn’t beat me growing up, I would have been something else. All depends on the child and the family dynamics.
No yeye help should discipline my child oooo most times self it pains my heart when my husband shout at our daughter ooo lols na only me know what I see for pregnancy and labour biko
That's one thing I love about the Law here, teachers cannot beat children here. I remember the way my teachers used to beat me in primary and secondary and I feel so bad for myself, I didn't deserve those beatings at all. Chaiiii
In my opinion, this is more than a case of don't beat my child for me or beat my child. If you don't want anybody to hit your child teach your child not to hit people first. Because if we decide to look at it from the angle of abuse the nanny was the abused one and acted in self defense. Same way women can physically abuse men, children can also physically abuse adults. The person in question is not a toddler or a little child. This is a teenager that should be able to take some responsibility. I hope the child learnt that as she couldn't control herself, someone else too lost control so when she's out of the house, she would not try that nonsense either with her mate or an adult.
In this case, thankfully it was a non destructive slap as the barging of tge door too was an 'almost almost' hit me and hit head on the wall.
God forbid she tries this nonsense outside and meets someone that is more brash.
Whatever we do as parents, teach children that its never okay to hit ANYBODY! Not maid, not the poor, not their mates, not the gateman, not anybody!
Label on the child ke?!
Na wa ooooh.
Abegi.
This conversation sef,Morayo has this episode way back and YES! ALMOST ALL COMMENTERS on their channel said same.
The child was disciplined instantly and it is fine.
I won't sha raise my kids to ONLY accept my counsel or reprimand as correction.
If the baby in question did same with either of our parents and the parents slapped her out of anger according to the narrator slap the child, will this reaction be the same?
This is not an age mate thing!!!
In as much as slapping her wasn't the best approach, if that was her first time or rare time ever doing so, then I won't question her authority on that situation, cos everyone have limit even you as the parents. The underlying issues here is why is an 11 year old child feel it's okay to band the door on an adult's face,
If she can be that disrespectful and the mother in any way supports that action at the moment, then believe me one day the mum will get same treatment from her.
Even if there should be any atom of caution on the side of the help, it should totally be away from the child's presence.
And if I'm the mother whatever reason the child has for doing so is unacceptable, she will learn to react better next time, cos if she does same outside she won't be spared either.
No one talked about the disrespect to the maid, who is obviously an adult. You can't beat a maid for offending you because she's not a child except y'al have kids as maids.
But she said a teenage child...
I remember one time in my childhood, I disrespected an elderly person, my mother had sent me to buy something from the store, so I sang a sung that was offensive to her and immediately she came for me. She followed me right to my mother's kitchen, got to the kitchen and said nothing to my mother ,she seized me and gave me a few spanks and then turned to go back out😅😅😅. My mother got up from her chair held her from behind and pulled her back inside and gave her the beating of her life😊😊😊 and then she asked her if she was too small that she had to walk in to her kitchen and can't report to her what happened. Then she was even patient and you still did not give her the courtesy to explain to her even after beating her child. When she left ,my mother now gave me the real beating for disrespecting my elder. How I love that woman .May God rest your soul mom ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Your mum wouldn't beat that lady if the lady didn't disrespect your mum by not acknowledging her presence. The lady was rude period but don't think you mum didn't want you to be corrected by an outsider you offended.
Omg!!! You guys said it all. My mum never allowed any help hit us or “discipline” us. She always communicated this on day 1 when they resume. It’s a no no for me, no matter what my child does, report to me, I will discipline them.
Please raise your kids on your own then, without bringing helps. Cuz these are people from different homes too with different temperaments and upbringing. And kids do take advantage of some of these rules knowing the help can’t do anything to them.
Ada and nelo I'll love you guys to invite someone with a different view to spice things up not really on this topic but in future
Am a mother and my 14 years should never try this even if is not my maid,,, respect everyone even in anger… I don’t conduct rubbish,,,, children of now adays are becoming something else… Imagine 13 years old boy beating up his mother in our present the other day Jesus tufikwa abeg mk Una Dey discipline if them FK
I feel she should have reported it, the kid did not hurt her, she was just doing the wrong thing
9:15 9:19 Adaeze 😂
Interesting thing. I'm not a mom yet, but as an older sibling do not touch my siblings when I'm there. If they do anything tell me. I've had to be rude to an elder for beating my brother.
I can slap him but please, don't.
Thank you.
One of the main reasons why i would not allow anyone to hit my kids is because u dont actually know if it is ok to hit him at the particular spot. U can imagine slapping my son 2 months after a nose surgery???? Nooooo, pls alow me to handle him. Thank u
There are other ways you discipline I realized that shouting and threats doesn’t work for 2 years old but once I say go and stand at the naughty corner 😂 she would instantly behave but she’ll still go there for some minutes and you see her sober or even fighting tears.
Discipline your children while there is hope. Otherwise you will ruin their lives.
Proverbs 19:18 NLT
This internet age sef. The most embarrassing thing I see nowadays is parents making videos as they discipline their children and putting it online.
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Another thing is children should be taught how to respect their help, the said woman knows her kid is very naughty for a 11 yrs old , another part of this story is the help must have report this issues to the mum many times. Omo every body should try and train their children well because i nor know y a little child will be angry to the extent of barging the door . The mother knows her child that's y she comend the help . My mum legit followed me to school one time when i was accused of doing what i didn't do, because she knows her child can't do that.
This is the angle that I was waiting to hear that i didn't hear. You don't know that woman's child more than her
There are two sides to this. I support that discipline but at the same time, I would be careful to permit the maid to do it because you dont know what is their motive and what they will do behind your back. So I always tell them to report to me instead, and I will discipline them.
You see that mindset that it takes a village to train a child, it has messed up a lot of people.
From this video,stop training your kids to ONLY accept correction from yourself their mother,and perhaps their class teacher.
It takes a village to raise a good child.
We won't be ignorant of bullying, molestation and so on.
But how a child acts at 11years,it is clear this same boundaries as Sotonye is raising was clearly in play and she believed ONLY,Morayo could correct her as her Mum.
That is how we indirectly raise kids that will NEVER ACCEPT their fault and always be the victim even with their friends.
I agree!!! A lot of Nigerians need therapy with the kind of things we see as normal by default. If your partner hits you it's domestic violence. If an adult hits another adult it is assault so why is it okay to hit a child; it makes zero sense. If anybody should be hit at all it should be adults because they know better..
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Y’all spoke my mind and I’m not even married or a mother yet 🤣
The first thing that came in mind when I saw the video was ah ah this can never be me
People be like oh it takes a village to train a child . As in you pushed the child out with me ?Abeg Rest !!
I agree to a very large extent especially because I want to raise soft, gentle and loving kids, I don't like that we were raised on survival, the punishments, the anxiety and fearfulness is a NO NO. I'm already unlearning a lot as a newly married, we must get this parenting right.
The help(age unkown) and the childs emotions are of. Thank god the mother dont have to explain to the "helps mother" that her child sent the help to the hospital. And thank god the slap didnt cause significant damage to the child. The help and the child are bout crazy in there own way.
At list the child and the help are on the same page, when it comes to what happened.
We are humans and some actions just invogue instant reaction. I dont think the slap was to caution/decipline the child. Just reversed energy! The help is going to get cautioned for her reaction cause its not the ideal path to go. Even if her angrymode is understood. And then cautioned on how not to let the child get under her skin.
As for my child, there is a respect level that is of between him and the help. Cause i cant imagine the child shoting the door on his mother or father, uncles or anty...no matter the anger! The child is getting a cautioned too on people bondaries. His respect and sence of action/reaction is out of line.
Dont want to let the "he/she is still a child" "my child" gets into the childs head.
I twas your turn I was
I dont agree with you Ladies on this one.
Social media validation from the woman on national tv, so people don’t say she treats you help badly.
The behaviour of her daughter towards the help is a glimpse of the extension of how the mother treats the help, Trust me! Tell whoever cares to listen that I said so.
There’s something I say when my friends and I talk about the beating we got from our parents growing up, I didn’t grow with respect for my parents, this doesn’t mean I don’t love them, I grew up in fear of them, when they’re around I try to behave and when they’re not, trust me I act. I was stubborn and naughty and everything sharp mouthed 🙄🙄🙄🙄
One time, my dad the almighty hot tempered Igbo man while beating me, threw me up and gave me the kick of my life, I broke my thigh bone, I was 9 then, funny enough I didn’t do what I was been beaten for, na the man still rush me go where them threat me. It’s healed oh, but the leg get comma wey only me Dey see.
In terms of beating children, i hardly do but I do and I don’t like it. Which from this episode I’ve learnt a lot. Thank you. ❤❤❤
Is it me or soty looks like Adaeze's first daughter?...
Be like Adaeze was around this soty mama when she was preggy with her first😅
That woman must have no the attitude of her daughter before reacting that way you will throw another person child because she slapped your child that is wrong you can stop person from working for you not Killing the person 😢
Lol honestly ehhn we cannot just listen to what the mom said online and then start judging or supporting either the mom,maid or the child.
Firstly,children can be naughty and really annoying we know but an 11 year old banging the door at an elder is a NO NO.
But come to think of it we weren't there to see if it was a mild slap or an hard slap,don't touch my child no matter what but then the maid is someone else's child too so therefore she shouldn't be disrespected.Ok what if she was injured???let's call a spade a spade please
On know account should you slap my child. If you dare try it hmmmmm (if a child did something wrong nothing stops you from telling me that is the perent
It’s “On No account” 🌚
Nice! Your child must never hit someone too. If he or she does, and the person reciprocate, no wahala.
When your child does it outside and is getting the beating from outside, I hope you’ll tell the help to come and call you to stop the people who are hitting her outside rather than her stopping them instantly.
The child definitely needs to be taught that her behaviour was unacceptable if she did what they said she did. However, slapping the child in anger does not teach her anything just as you ladies have rightly said. I believe that if you leave your child in the care of other adults eg teachers, nannies etc, there should be a clear behavior management procedure agreed by you, the adult and the child (if they are old enough to understand behavior consequences). Each time the behaviour management is used, the adult should detail clearly to you the parent, what happened and you should also hear from the child.
some helps do lie. if a child is at the age she cant defend her self, the help might be lieing, you cannot lay your hand on my child, i will rather discipline myself. there is boundaries. i allow my husband discipline them bcos i i use motherly heart , i will be doing everything for them. they will continue to bully that child
Perpertuating child abuse. My helper should tell me if my child does anything wrong. If the mother has been reacting this way,then I understand that child's reaction she probably doesn't think she has an ally in that house. The mother especially shud be an ally to their children
Eh you guys, this type of beating you experienced in school means they owe you free therapy 😂 jokes aside, how can you beat a kid because their fees hasn’t been paid
I respect Morayo of the View and her views, but this time around, her comment felt wrong, I even felt she felt wrong saying it... Talmbout Resetting the Brain 😅
It would have been better if the help said she retaliated in anger but that was a mistake that wouldn't happen again. The child and the help should have then both been corrected. Maybe more discipline meted to one or the other as she deemed. But justifying that slap wasn't it for me at all.
And the comments I saw, I just concluded that a lot of people are actually abusive and lazy, because slapping and hitting aren't the most effective forms of discipline.
I totally disagree with you ladies on this matter.