SLEEP OVERS: How Cautious Are You?
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- čas přidán 19. 10. 2020
- Sleep overs... love ‘em or hate ‘em?
Sleepovers are a great way for you and your little one to spend some time away from each other in a safe and controlled environment. They’ll have to learn to ask for things and advocate for themselves - and that’s a necessary part of growing up.
Many parents, including ourselves, are however concerned by the lack of control they’ll have not only over their child, but over their child’s safety when their kids are at someone else's house.
How cautious are you when it comes to sleepovers? Have you hosted one before? What kind of family would you trust your child to have a sleep over with?
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Parents have to watch out. It’s not always the opposite sex that’s the danger, and certainly not just people the child isn’t related to. As a young girl I was molested by older girls from the same home and they introduced me to things I’ve struggled with as an adult
Iam in my 30s and still traumatized over the things that happened to me everytime I was sent for holidays when I gave birth I quit my job to be with my kids. It sounds stupid to many around me but that trauma is real. Am struggling to try and do anything I can to earn something from home while close to them.
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Am not a mum yet but always looking out for these episodes.. You always have something helpful to say.. Thanks ladies
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Me too
Same here 😊
Same here
Sleep overs whether with relatives or anyone is tricky... experience has taught me to not let my guard down.
I was molested at a sleepover by a family member and I will never let my children go anywhere for sleepovers
Oh dear!!! What a nightmare that must have been..
I am sorry that happened to you❤️
I know a number of people who were molested by their cousins or uncles. Saaaad!..You need to be hawk eyed. Look at the sleeping arrangement before you send your children for sleep overs. Are different genders sharing beds, or bedrooms, are teenagers mixing with preteens, the domestic staff, houseboys, gate men.....Will they watch movies, which ones? Will there be a trusted adult? Is alcohol kept in the home, etc
@@mariansamba13 ❣️❣️🙏 let's make sure it doesn't happen to our kids
Sorry this happened to you! Its sad but very common especially by family members.
Boarding School Was the 3-month long sleep over, which took place 3 times a year. So those were 9 months at school. Full of fun!
Very insightful topic, parents please, whatever you do, be very mindful where your leaving your child for sleep overs, don't trust no one, i repeat, no one....uncles, cousins, coz i was down that road before, many years ago,especially around our baby girls, from as little as 2yrs!!
Great discussion ladies, great to have all of you back...
I loveeedd this discusion. Interesting perspective. I am so protective of my daughter I don't think I can trust her with anyone else except myself. The idea of hosting I think is great, letting her go on the other hand..... I don't think I would sleep that night.
Sleep over??? Nga bazunzaaki?? Visit during day n come back home period hehehe. Maybe to family members and just a few.
Child can be molested even at your parent's place. Sleep over okay if guardian where the child is sleeping over is available and watchful and set healthy boundaries as far as watching TV, sleeping arrangement and or use of personal space is concerned.
I had a very bad experience when my parents went to burry and for two weeks we saw pain. We would take black tea with bitter ginger and aka piece of biscuit.....
Note at 3 & 5 we were made to sit outside while everyone is in the house. You must trusted to take my girls
@@Mukisawhite6740 sorry dear.
Perfect timing , i really needed to hear this about sleep overs thing
I first had a sleepover at my aunt's place only because I had allergies that would not allow me to be in the village for a weekend and ready for school the next week. But my son has enjoyed them. Still with relatives.
Sleepovers wouldn't be bad perse, it's just that our society has become so perveted and I would think more than twice before allowing my children to go for a sleepover!
With this, i swear by the time i become a mom, i''m going to be the best. Every woman needs to watch this.
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Sleep overs are very dangerous !! People be very careful ,
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I love you ladies bannange coz this topic was good ive learnt alot thank you for this
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The issue of values is key on both the children and their parents' side. Children really need attention, guidance and protection and so if they're going to be left under someone's care. It's best that it is with a person who can ensure they're okay. Speaking from both a good and bad experience of sleep over's.. Thanks for the show ladies.
Glad to see u ladies, Angie we missed u..
I am very cautious about sleep overs,and would also do same sex,for now I take them to my mom's...if not I tag along and it's usually a friend of mine..
I loved this episode 😍
I enjoy these shows.
Loved this though I can't risk...
Wow! I have liked that Idea and I will try it out
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I was soooooooooo unsafe with both genders growing up and i think that too contributes to the reasons i don't want 2 have kids. But if i had kids, heheeee they wouldn't dare say nothing about going anywhere to me. And i wouldn't have maids and other workers. Eh i salute people who can be brave enough 2 put kids in this world. Yooooooooooh weeh.
No sleepovers at ours. The negative things ive heard about sleepovers banaye... Not happening at mine. Ever. My kid's friends will visit and leave before dark. But sleepover things...nope!
That's right. You have to ensure a safe and secure home if you are to do sleep overs. Sexual harassment is real 😬
Hello ladies, thanks a lot for all u do for the viewers.
Bump love is so educative and inspiring.
Am so concerned about how some parents should handle little children who have seen and copied sexual activities.
I have experienced two boys whom I think saw their parents dangling and boom they go spoiling other peoples kids.
They are as young as three years how can a child as young be sexually active and how can they be stopped and prevented from such acts so they can discontinue doing it.
Please help,thanks!!
I am really terrified when it comes to sleepovers for my kids
The thing is most child sexual abuse are by someone either within the family or a close. The problem in our community is that we think that the molester is always some stranger, but in most cases is someone very close to you. You could send your child to the closest person to you and they end up being the molester. That's why people a very hostile toward sleep overs.
Very true
As for me i have two boys but its only the elder i have ever accepted to do a sleep over at my friends place. My friend has a son of the same age like him
I host sleepover, but don't let him go😅
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Angie, we missed you. Glad to have you back.
Thank you ladies for the insightful shows always. Not yet a mum but my own experience is interesting. I am 26 but there's still an alarm at home when I spend the night else where!!! The questions I am asked my dears, hmmm! You could think I am still 10yrs old. Growing up, we only had "sleep overs" at relatives' places. Being a girl, I hardly even visited my own friends, it's either a relative or very close family friend.
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Esp.Mrs.Agie.it hz been a long tym 😁
It also depends on the age on which you could consider a sleep over
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Sleep overs are not happening at mine, period!
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I love to participate in such conversations
I can't imagine me without my child
Kale bambi I don't think I can let my son to sleep outside.... mbu sleepover my foot!
I will never allow my kids to go for sleepovers honestly what's if something terrible happens to them how will I explain to their father already he told me he doesn't want kids even to visit relatives for morethan 2days..he wants to watch over them 24/7🙌
I can never let my child go for sleep overs only to my mums home or mum in-law coz I don't want any problems.....no no no sleep overs nothing
It’s interesting to hear of the different treatments of girl child vs boy child. I know the two are different but what are we implying here? And also bad things can happen to boy children and I think it a harder for them to say because we have built this narrative of nothing bad should/could happen to them right because for them it’s always green light.
I’m giving an opinion from an Islamic point of view:
• Girls should not be sent for sleep overs between the age of 10-19. They can visit relatives for sleep overs after 20.
• Generally all kids should only be allowed to pay a visit in a home trusted by the parents irrespective of whether they’re relatives or not.
• Lastly, keep a keen eye 👁 on the friends of your kids.
Play days may be but sleep overs Avery big NO for me regardless who is watching them.
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Been ignoring this but hmmm I guess I might learn some English. Generally sthg
Hahahahha but you teach alot i cant wait to have my own kids
Hello bump loves. Thank you ladies for this exciting topic. Pumla I agree with you on values, character and beliefs.
And I know I would be very okay with my son sleeping over after knowing the family hosting compared to when I have a daughter. Just like Angie girls girls girls. 🥰
Sons can also be molested
@@shiellaneeza Exactly ❤️
Baraka has had his friends asking him to go for a sleepover. His reaction is always the same," mummy so and so wants me to go and sleep at their home. As if I don't have my bed at home or as if I will not see them at school next week."
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My mum didn't allow sleepovers not until I joined university
Great topic ladies.
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My sleepovers are with relatives,my sisters,their jajjas....
Nze sleepover is at jajjas place but mbu friends,hhhhmmmm...am a traditional mum nze...am safest with them around me
I won’t allow my children to sleep overs at peoples home. It doesn’t matter if it’s family or friends. I need to be present. Molestation happens in families and children won’t tell you because they think they will get in trouble.
That’s why we should teach our children the proper names for body parts and where people shouldn’t touch them, and let them know it’s safe to tell ya if they do touch them in these areas. Better yet, teach them how to defend themselves through self sentence classes. It’s not just through sleepovers that this can happen, even at school. We need to give our children the tools to protect themselves when we’re not around. The decision to do sleepovers Is a personal one indeed
The only 2 sleepovers my kids have had is when I went with them.Can't imagine being away from my kids
Sleepover for what. Have you no bed at home? That’s what it was for me growing up. And kids always did it to as if show for us we are rich at our home😂. Anyway; children are precious and I don’t even trust my closest friend with my little one... I feel like you never really know someone completely and you never know which ka word they will tell or ka habit they will pass on to your children that will stick. And molestation and porn ( in this era of gadgets) on these sleepovers are real.
We do not need sleepovers in Uganda. Board school is more than enough for Kids to enjoy nights together!
Sleepovers are very great ....its not all paradise for every one who lives in those beautiful castle walls. sometimes, sleepovers are an escape fro children, away from the chaos going on in their homes. So if your friends kids, your child's schoolmates or neighbor's kids wanted to come over for sleepovers and you know them, welcome them - that's God testing you.
actually
More-so, observation is the greatest form of intelligence, so I believe children learn a lot through these sleepovers. It's through such that the greatest lifetime bonds are created. eternal bonds where someone sees another as a brother or sister yet they are not blood related in anyway - strange but true LoL .......The opportunities outweigh the risks 100%
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Some boy was taught homosexuality from a sleep over at his friendz place by the friends elder brother. So even same sex these days is not safe
So sad 😞