Is It Ok To Ask? Natural vs C-Section Birth | BUMP LOVE
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- čas přidán 6. 07. 2022
- In our opinion, this is a no-go zone.
Surely its the mothers business, especially if you dont have a very close relationship.
But that's just us! What do you think? Were you offended when people asked you how you birthed your baby?
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I had vaginal birth for my first born and it was a stillbirth. Got many issues and was told can only opt for c-section. Anyway, after a near-death experience, I don care ! What I want is my baby alive and us coming out of the hospital in one piece. Proudly had 4 c-sections.
I also honestly feel the question is intrusive *to me* because I went into the hospital hoping for a V birth , been in labour for two days with excruciating pain just to be told that am not progressive. It breaks my heart to always answer that question because am reminded of the trauma and somewhat feel like I have failed. Am grateful for a healthy baby though ..So no matter which birth ,moms are superheroes !
It's the C section mums who are usually touchy about the question but perhaps for those who are it comes from an underlying sense of inadequacy. If u are proud of your achievement your won't get phased by insensitive people - I think.
That said am a V birth and C birth.
Also am an Asker. But I use the word V birth rather than natural because saying V is natural birth implies that C is unnatural- and as mums of this century we should know better
Why do I ask??? Is so I can relate with u whichever which way u birthed. Makes for great conversation (on after birth care or Birthing trauma) with a friend. If we aren't close, I would care less. We can just stop at congratulations
I think to take away its power, when announcing the birth of your baby, simply say, "today we welcomed a bouncing baby X via C- section. We are grateful and super excited! Periodt. Announcing it takes away that power it gets from secrecy and people finding out and the whispers and murmurs 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
This is a great topic I salute all the mothers out there.
Had natural birth with my first child and the other 3 i asked for c section and it what i wanted and its very ok . I am not bothered with who says what, all i prayed for to God was the good health of me and my baby. Period
There's no need to be offended. The other person's rude comment is on them. I usually want to know because medically anyone with a previous surgery can never be the same again. So for me its to gauge the trauma someone has to go through as they heal and to support them accordingly. If it was natural...whew thank God, hallelujah. If it was Csection it slightly breaks my heart because the healing is not as smooth so I really always want to know and know how best to support the person.
It’s usually none of your business. Unless that person wants to share its best you don’t ask such personal questions.
@@jaelynnekit3442 obviously the relationship with the person matters....I don't really care about everyone, I don't even see what's personal about bringing a child forth...
As far as it concerns me, it's personal if I say so!!!!!
Please let's learn to respect people's feelings about sensitive matters like this & not dismiss one's feelings as "overreacting" or being "overly sensitive"
I have had virginal births but I don't feel any stronger or more of a mother than C section mothers. Besides, there is no guarantee when it comes to giving birth. It can go either way, even death. Let's embrace all forms of bringing forth life. There are sadly mothers that have died because they insisted and refused C section births. And let's not try to ask unless we have travelled the pregnancy journey together and are close
Well done ladies! BRAVO
Manuela you've spoken my mind..
Some people need to my there business
I'm so glad finally someone has put to voice my very strong opinion on this matter!!!!!!!
There are people who even go through tough labour pain hoping that they'd under go a natural birth method but eventually end up with a C-section. Regardless of the method, every mother has to be celebrated
And I guess there's no need to ask unless if there's a genuine reason
Some of us were accused of not praying enough 😊
Naye banange people 😭
Rachel 💯 non of their business. People are unnecessary inquisitive and not necessarily because they are concerned about your well being.
It’s not your body nor baby so please don’t ask.
Too much curiosity in this town mostly for gossip.
We need to embrace boundaries even in what we ask.
Before I even listen, the caption triggers me! I have no children yet by choice and I am 30, unmarried too. But from a young age and I mean from 9 years, I would not let people ask others rude questions because it was a if shameful thing. I boldly would say they had a baby. Then adults would speak about was it a knife or natural, and I asked which one is unnatural? If I ask it is to help heal or something etc. but never for comparison. I live the conversation open for the mum to tell.
@Manuella, I REFUSE THE TERM ''NATURALLY' what is unnatural about C-sections? are they cutting a balloon? Is the baby not in the natural stomach or the suck? Ah! Let me stop projection even hehhe. Let me take Pumla's advice and not overreact. Let us maybe change the wording; are you having a vaginal birth or a C-section? Not natural and unnatural...All my sisters have had 3 to 4 kids, vaginal and C-sections. I remember being scared at all times even for the planned C-section.
Madam mulondo's hair is stunning 😍 looking beautiful as usual thank you all for the program
People that ask how the baby came be as if saying that's what's important yet for me the how is irrelevant,the most important thing in that moment is that baby n mum r alive n well.... like someone I know says..."there r no trophies in the labor ward..-tebagabayo bilabo"....so if u r intending to go visit let it be a moment of we thank God you are both here n r ok.... period
Wow wow thanks so much for the topic I have a role to play to change our society
I 💕💕 love this conversation. Am a victim of this bse a have 5 children and all are C-section. But the way pple treat u it's like u are not woman enough. This really hurts to the bone😭😭😭....
I lost my first baby through natural birth...the rest of them I had ELECTIVE C-SECTIONs ( as in I made an appointment with the doctor ) to have my babies ... So oyo owa " tewazaala" what would she had told me after I lost my baby that I birthed vaginally?
Anyway I people ask for different reasons... curiosity, mockery, lack of mboozi etc. Let's just celebrate motherhood.
Atte now epidural is here in Uganda so what will they talk about painless vaginal birth??
Thank you Mrs Mulondo
The degree of offense may be due to hormones of mothers close to the offense taken by a bride. Weddings and birth are all crucial times in life. Guard your hearts ladies it’s a wellspring of life.
Could C-section be God’s wisdom to man? Could He be making an alternative way to bring life where the enemy tended for evil? Could He be making all things work for our good? Those who love Him and didn’t have their Labour progress! 😍
Spot on...
I had my 2 kids natural birth but trust me i preferred to be cut at some point.I don't even want to remember that kind of pain i went through.I was screaming for a C-section but no one even cared.Girl,just ask God for a healthy baby and the rest is history.And those for C-section never feel offended,eli wansi teli kalungi its life and death.Be proud and thank God you were able to hv that child thats all that matters
I have had my 3 babies through c-section but it's not easy as people think.I didn't ask for it but it was the only solution for me and my babies to come out alive.It doesn't offend me at all if someone asks .
I’ve had 3 babies via vaginal birth and I think it’s easier. ..When I visit my friends who’ve had csection I think it’s so hard!! They don’t eat before and after surgery I think. No bathing. No sitting eh. It’s too much. For me I eat during labour and even after giving birth. Immediately after stitches I sit in water. So csection really isn’t easy.
It depends on how you ask because like me the baby was sitting in the womb but I also did everything like Manuela and Pumla. The last month I knew that my chances of the baby turning were slim but I did everything and finally the baby didn't turn.
It really hurts when some1 tells me that I didn't give birth. Actually I faced it rough when a midwife who handed me over to the theater said"you say it's short people who don't give look it's a tall one this time" I really felt bad I was in too much pain en praying to God to help me survive the surgery with my baby. So careless talkers should really watch their mouths we are fighting with emotions here ba dear. No one wants to wake up with a scar that will never disappear. Infact all C-sections mom's are stronger than you think. It's the only surgery that it's up to you to heal or not, big up to all C-moms
I also feel like it's intrusive to ask since we've brought babies into the world, regardless of how, so it's enough to just congratulate mother upon the arrival of their bundle of joy "kulika baby" period!!
The 9months are very enough..✍️
I know right am woman enough already to wait for the nine months
Huh.....4 me my 1st born was a breach for the whole last month n i had 2 gynaecologists ...one gave me an extra week to turn..but it was not the case, but my 2nd gynaecologist looked at me n he said there's no way the baby was going to turn according to my body makeup. But the amount of hate n negative words i got from some people for having a c-section. Also some one told me i was not praying well. So i prayed as i was instructed but it didn't change the scenario.
Those old folks ask that question in a mocking way that makes it feel rude n unappreciated. But big up to csection, it saves life, for mother n child when u are faced with labour hardships. Its good luck to have a viginal birth, but its a miracle for us who have csection babies and only those who go through it can celebrate that emotional strength.
I wonder why you would even take offence. What matters is that there is a healthy sweet angel to be shown. P.E.R.I.O.D
Much love to my neighbours ❤️🇰🇪
I always tell people that giving birth "naturally" or C-section is all a matter of life and death. We should choose to celebrate the newborn and congratulate the mum regardless of the way the baby came out.
It all by God's grace.
Well said
I have had my babies cs, 2nd time was even elective, for me its because I know when I enter theater, I know my baby is safely out of womb in shortest time without me worrying about the cm I have to make.
Don't be easily offended is the moral of the story. Don't give your power away
Personally, I have chosen c-section, twice! Never offended. I guess the bigger question is having a healthy baby the rest of the details are negligible.
i have had all my babies thru C section and i absolutely have no problem with any one asking me such a qn. i will happily and glady tell u how i brought my babies into this world, if u feel c section is an easy one please i love easy things u should try it
Me too! I love C-section. I have never been shy about it. All my 3 babies.
Had my babies via C-section. I am not shy about it. The second one was a walk in. No labour pains, just walked in the theatre and 30 minutes later I was out. And God is great, I heal really quickly.
People need to get over CS shaming, am one and always thank God, he knew i had zero pain tolerance. So when things didn't work out,i was almost relieved.
Am a proud mother of two by caesarian section.
Now what would that aunty do if she heard that people even get their babies through serogacy?
She will go house to house spreading the word of laziness
What about those who ask boy or girl? When you are still pregnant, mbu what did the scan tell you, banange, to Me all such questions are intrusive. They lack what to talk about
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It's really sometimes hurts sure
I honestly never ask,I don't even like to ask and it's coz am soooo afraid of their responses triggering my own memory🙈 I just shout my congrats and disappear
They actually ask Did you give birth normally in luganda WAZADDE BULUNGI Oba NEDDA….
My gynae actually answered one of my visitors who asked me was it a normal birthday or???my gynae said whether vaginal or C-section they are all Normal births
C-section is actually a Major Surgery medically
Your doctor was awesome! A good doctor stands up for patients!
I love pumla alot.
U shld also know sm women ask for c section,i hv had pipp saying mbu nze i can't bear the pain
Hello ladies,this time the volume was too low
Rosette's colour is definitely red
one reason that makes people think that women who under go a C section are not strong is because now days, there are so many girls/women who opt for a C-section without any reason. You find doctors begging them to have a natural birth but they opt for a C-section either because they are having planned activities ahead of them or functions among other reasons. Unlike before, doctors were the ones recommending. Now, its the women and thus the comparison.
leero Racheal nsiimye, well discussed
The problem is that society has made it feel like when you have had c section it’s a crime..But people should to be open to both methods because it’s all child birth..whether u had c section or vaginal birth it’s the same.it’s starts with out mothers.
Askers need to first know what someone has gone through to have that baby out to some of us we be already traumatised after going through a lot and still end up in the theatre and you hear someone say "so and so is a woman she has had all her babies by natural birth..." so me I'm what??? The reaction after me telling you my c-section birth matters ba dear.
All these ladies look great................wow!!!🥰🥰
Manuela sorry Bambi that visitor of yours needs deliverance, personally I have given birth normally but like rosette I feel c section mums go through near death experience more than us. And I keep telling mums out there to stop asking such questions besides it's none of their business even... Hehehehe
It's impolite to ask what kind of birth one had.
As if trying to know what respect to attach to the mom and respect the natural birth mum more.
Politely ask how long the new mom will be in hospital.
And there mothers like me who have had it both, but as long as the end result is good no problem
There is nothing wrong asking...c section Or natural at the end of the day..you blessed with a beautiful baby..and the baby is healthy...the rest don't matter.. Why would you get offended..life is too short guys...
I think it’s an irrelevant question. That’s like asking if a man proposed on his left or right knee lol, doesn’t matter does it?.😅. But with that being said, it’s a circumstantial question, someone might ask because they’re curious about the recovery process if they just went through one of either birth. Lovely talk ladies.
Every woman shld go thru a c section only then will the stigma end it's really painful.
As for those ones who comment about the colour of the baby's skin...................................................
Some one called me on phone and he was like Rachael you are a strong girl how come you couldn't push....not knowing the trauma I had to go through even to sign the papers.......the anger I had towards the doctors coz they seemed to be money makers .....coz I wasn't given a clear reason as to why I was going for c section...
So I will agree with Rachel it's non of your business call or visit to find out whether baby ,&mum are fine period. temutukooya
And the ministry of health needs to do some more research and find out why it's more rampant these days..coz some hospitals use it to as a window to extract money.
Personally was told by a nurse mbu now days it's good not very fatal like those days as if it's a trend
Referring to C-section
It really hurts when some1 tells me that I didn't give birth. Actually I faced it rough when a midwife who handed me over to the theater said"you say it's short people who don't give look it's a tall one this time" I really felt bad I was in too much pain en praying to God to help me survive the surgery with my baby. So careless talkers should really watch their mouths we are fighting with emotions here ba dear. No one wants to wake up with a scar that will never disappear. Infact all C-sections mom's are stronger than you think. It's the only surgery that it's up to you to heal or not, big up to all C-moms
I don't think the means justifies the end. The offense is on you..not on the one asking..If she or he feels you didn't give birth because of a c section..thats on them..you know you have a baby your well and so is the baby and that's the most important thing.. So like Rosette says..why do you get offensive..if that's how society sees it..Thats on them.. ( whether one sat in the car or walked so long and they ended up with a c or natural birth).. question is is there a baby.. it wasnt a still birth, it wasn't death Glory be to God a miracle..I think there should not be a law on how whether i push or c section..its a mindset issue.. Grace is given to all women and the babies born are the tangible result of that grace not the process
But that's the exact problem, women are judged because of how they had the baby, that is a reality. So yes, I agree, it is on the people that say it, but it negatively affects the mums, and they (mums) shouldn't be blamed for reacting! A new mum is emotionally vulnerable (what with all the hormones...) so if we as a society learn to respect boundaries and celebrate new life instead of unhelpful comments like ''tewazaala'' new mums will feel more supported. Each birth story is a unique beautiful miracle and should be celebrated.
@@evelynkabahuma7035 its not as obvious to change the whole society..Hormones yes..etc etc..but you had the grit to have a baby and that's what matters..
Whether c or v a baby is a baby , lwakuba mentality ya bantu ba wano , they say vaginal yazadde ate c section they say bamujemu omwana teyamuzadde
Could we have a topic of why there are more C-sections than natural births compared to before? What aren't we nolonger doing as mothers?
Dynamics have changed ranging from preference to complicated medical conditions.
Anti my problem is someone asks mbu,”wazadde bulungi oba?” Like really if my child is healthy then nazadde bulungi🙄🙄
That society narrative & perspective leaves mothers feeling so inadequate you doubt your strength as a woman, your ability as a mother all because of the means by which you brought forth your child
I had a normal birth of mi twinz,mi friend asked me mbu y i allowed normal.birth,mbu it enlarges the Virginia,but from.mi experience am still ok so pipo shld not opted for c section mbu in the name of fear to enlarge down
Those in the name of not enlarging down are 1 in 100,000. Most are taken for CS as a matter of life saving for either the baby or mom or both, it's not a choice to many.
What of us who have experienced both v birth and c section hehehe but am ok with those questions from only relatives
I have had a C section 4 ( four) times with 3 kids and the last one for an ovarian cyst. However, i dont pay attention to such questions and comments because my major point then is having a child and life.
i have a friend who almost died because she wanted to prove to her husband that she is a strong woman who can have a natural birth like others. she had a C section for the first baby and on her second, the doctor still recommended a C section but she refused and insisted unlike her life was in danger and she had an emergency C section which almost took her life.
for heaven's sake I don't know why people would even want to know about that. like it's always the first question on people's lips, I don't get it, like yoh wtf!?
It's disrespectful. People should stop asking this.
Naye Manuela Mbu GDP. Who wants to hear about the economy after giving birth. 🤣🤣
Ooohhh wooowww am a C-section of one beautiful baby girl... Hmmmm I hear Manuala on this... You guys, I wasn't prepared for C at all, and the way people make it look like see this lazy woman who just choose the easy way out eeehh... Truthfully, at first I would find it offensive but now, I certainly care less... And now, I never ask, I just celebrate the new born.
Honestly it's rude. And because child birth is still painful either viginal or C section
Hahaha. Naye this thing that did u do it naturally or ??.
I hate it
Who cares? As long as woman brought forth baby
Some people choose c-sections for personal reasons and that is also OK. Banange Ugandans and their bad manners! Oh!
As for me I will not go and labor for 20 hours screaming ng'wee ng'waaa all over the hospital so people can say I gave birth the right way. Let's normalize elective CS. With all the advancements in technology and medicine why should I opt to suffer for a biblical crime that happened over 3,000 years ago?
First of all you have no business knowing how that new mom brought that child into the world…mind ur business please…
I 💕💕 love this conversation. Am a victim of this bse a have 5 children and all are C-section. But the way pple treat u it's like u are not woman enough. This really hurts to the bone😭😭😭....