Domestic Violence: A Young Mother’s Experience | Almost Lost Her Baby
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- čas přidán 22. 06. 2021
- It is a double pandemic for women and girls in Uganda.
Domestic violence keeps exponentially increasing faster than the COVID - 19 in lockdown. On31st March 2020, media reports in Uganda indicated that “five people had died due to domestic violence since government imposed ‘stay at home ‘measures in mid-March”.
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Watching this... got me so emotional. You know our mothers endured beating in their marriages and made it normal as the boys watched their fathers beat them. These men now know that beating women is normal. If we are to fix this we need to start from the grass root. Am so sorry for the pain. May God guide you through it all. Am so much touched and can relate
We need to raise good men to have responsible husbands.
This is really emotional..you’re a strong woman for walking away ! Sending you love 💕
This is so sad😭😭😭I am so sorry you went through this traumatic experience. I am also very proud of you that you walked out as fast as you could
This is really important messaging. Thank you for touching on it. Let people not suffer in silence because of external factors! We are too loved by a lot of people for one person to make us believe we are not!
This is so sad... But I'm so thankful to her courage to walk away and share her story with us. God bless you
So Sad... Sorry for what you went through young lady.
It got me Emotional
This is so sad, I wonder why such men would even dare take in someone's daughter. It hurts when someone you love and trust the most hurts you. Take heart my dear, thank God you walked away.
Narcissists don't feel complete when they don't have anyone to harrass..
They r dangerous weapon of mass destruction.
@@sarahmartha7224 true, and they don't even get arrested 🤷
Whatever you tolerate during Dating multiples by three times in marriage... something my late granny said to me😪😪 sorry Mama
Very true. Whichever habit you see in dating, It multiplies in marriage.
i hope that includes the good ones
Sometimes the little bad habits tend to overshadow the good ones.
I can totally relate and understand. Thank God you were brave enough to walk away.
You need a professional therapist dealing with narcissists to talk to . You’re still in pain lady I feel your pain 😭😭 I dated a narcissist and it was like walking on egg shells . You literally feel lost . One second they are showering you with love the second you know you’re in pain . They literally make you look like a mad person . And most of our people can’t understand the feeling one is going through most of them mostly parents tend to blame us . Some will blame you for leaving your home . It takes a lot for some one to realize what you’re going through alot . Most parents don’t see our pain but am so happy that you choose to move out . Our African parents don’t and will never understand these narcissists . I’ve been there darling but just know you’re strong the fact that you got out of that relationship it makes me smile . You jumped out so fast some take years others die in those Marriages and no one will ever know what was going in that marriage. Am super proud of you that you ran out soo fast
Hooo. Ive been there. Until i stopped thinking about what society will say . Hooo. Its hell
It's the same in the US. My mother's answer to her daughter's abuse? You picked him. I urge you to get out of the situation before it destroys you. My ex is from Uganda.
It really hurts many women are passing through alot mostly learned ones these days bit we thank God you amd the baby are both alive
I am so sorry my dear! But you are stronger than you can imagine... healing takes time and but all shall be well. I had a similar relationship for 3 years but God's grace set me free. You are not alone but you are among the few courageous women❤❤❤❤
And about our parents mwedeko you kids are on a form of investments or a bank that you made a saving when you gave them life. It's not fair that you you put kids on pressure like that what happens if you send your daughter a way and not expect anything from her do you die? This is not okay this kind of culture needs to change
Thanks 😢 for this .
Aww i know how that feels...ive been in such abusive relationships..God will heal your heart..sweetheart take heart and love your baby!
Manaulleh, this is where l thk your call is specifically and l pray you take it seriously.
Thanks for the show coz it was really really good in all aspects.
Help the women out there with your call.
Thank you.
Ladies, if he beats you during dating, he will kill you in marriage. Please love yourself enough to leave. My dear, you will rise again and build back stronger than ever. Double for your trouble my dear. God bless. 🙏🏽
So sorry my dear.
It's so sad.
Be strong and pray earnestly.
God has away.
Gals, don't ignore those simple signs when your dating. Men rarely change. I remember, I would tell guys - you hit me once then consider that relationship done because I don't tolerate any form of violence.
That is what I tell them. Okunkuba kunobya
This is soooooo emotional 😭😭😭 thank God you moved out it's a rough experience
I am so blessed that you left. Well done girl. Praying for you and your baby!! To your parents, honestly, shame on them. And to such men, you give all men a bad name, you crash our confidence in the institution of marriage and you create bad patterns that our children see and carry on. Shame on you.
You are so strong to get out of that marriage, I applaud u for that, that was the right thing to do
This really got me so emotional. Pole sana dear
Thank you for sharing ...
Parents who put us on pressure, ...plz, let us take our time.....so sorry for u but big ups to u for the strength of leaving him.coz it takes courage..
So sad story but you did the decision to walk away. Well done.
This is so sad and touching
Hugs sister..so sorry.🥺🥺
I'm a very protective mom. I don't think I'd allow my kids suffer even just a slap.
You know
Some children keep quiet. They fear stigma of divorce
Bi emotions bintwaala. May the Lord complete His Healing in that lady.
This is such a sadddd story...may God help us be better parents!
Its amazing that u got the courage to walk away..many hang in there and end up dying ...I wish I can meet you
Girls here pick aleaf or two never ever ignore the red flags during dating ..and remember evaluation is always done in the board room not bed room, be open minded and look closely, don't let yo emotions drive yo body to the bedroom so fast as many open their legs and leave the brains behind...And to the parents, whoever is reading always remember this one statement, "A parent can not take u further than they went" she stayed with an abuser so she'll advise u to stay and assure u its okay he will change,,but remember, they never change that's who they are "DEVILS" if yo mom tells u to hang in there after violence,, just know she's toxic as well. I mean there's no normal person who thinks that abuse and love can co-exist. Walk away while yo soul is still intact ..it only gets worse.
So sad 😢
This got me emotional I found myself crying 😭
This is so sad, May she heal from the trauma and pain. And the baby’s kicking during violence is called prenatal trauma. May God healed her & help her build her life for her & her baby.
Her parents had a part to play in her feeling pressured to stay in that abusive relationship! How can you kubanja dowry money as if your daughter is a cow????? That pressure from a mother to get married!! Parents be serious!!! Do you want to pick up a dead body from a man's house?
My mom pressures me too but I decided to keep a distance for a while. Thank God I work upcountry. And to make matters worse am single with a child so kika...
Some parents are toxic, hers were toxic. She got into marriage because she was escaping something from home. Oh dear. Sorry for what you have been through. You need serious healing
This got me emotional but am glad you got out of that marriage. May God bless you with a better person.
So sorry dia. You are a strong woman.
Am really hurt broken and sorry about your situation darling,you will heal
😭😭😭😭😭😭m so sorry my dear just pray for better thank goodness you walked away
oh my God..u did right to follow uo heart and decided to leave...may God protect us from such violence
Women should see narcissistic men when dating . Most times the red flags we ignore while dating these men are the same that come back to bite us . Sorry bsmbi
True
Sorry mukazi about that life. Such men are in bondage, they can't really tell what happens but it's prayers that delivers them. They lack confidence, get angry at everything and yet wish they behaved differently. Forgive him and find peace in your heart.
And forgive your parents, because they kind of exchanged you for money not considering your happiness. Parents please avoid such mistakes
Exactly 😢 I wish she walked away when the violence started when they where dating
Parents, please teach your daughters that coming home from a failed marriage is better than coming back home in a coffin!!
Having watched my mother being battered by her husband left me with so many questions about marriage and till to date, I firmly stand to say Marriage is not the ultimate goal for me!!
Dear Lord bless every woman going through the same.
And fellow parents please let's love our children and not the riches
Am sorry that you have toxic parents. there are many African parents like that. Hope you get yourself positive friends.. You're healing, the fact that you can talk about it openly. May you fully heal and may God help us learn from your story. All the Blessings darling
One of the disturbing videos I have met😥
Please name and shame this man so that other women don't fall in the same trap with him.
You made me to cry it's soo torching story
It's quite a pity for such an experience, morover which started at a time when the fresh love was meant to make memories...
Just one thing, let's not use this time to blame your parents , they did what they did, good or bad..whatever happened did, with or without their awareness or even anticipation... May be, this could be an eye opener/lesson to countless of us who are (already)/ yet to be parents
Otherwise, we thank God who has preserved you, we're persuaded you're destined for so much more...even better
Peace
I'm weeping not crying 😭😭🥺 my lord
Nobody deserves to go through this! Sorry about this! Ladies don't accept anything less..you are not a punching bag! We are fixing this country,we are not Less humans,walk away when it's uncomfortable!
Goooooosssh😥🙏🏾Praying for you dear one.
Apart from the physical abuse ur story reflects mine. I was in an abusive relationship for about 3 years and he ruined my life psychologically, financially,morally,socially, mentally but I haven't healed after 1 year out of that mess. I will recommended you mama to Dr Ramani on CZcams, a professional therapist and expertise in narcissistic abuse and healing. Keep being strong for baby. Big love
Dr Ramani helpedme understand my situation and hope vs reality. Thank you for recommending her. I hope that this queen will follow Dr Ramani
Sorry dia. This is so sad. May the almighty God heal you mukwano
I can't just hold my tears
Am crying.i cannot help this
So emotional
This is so traumatizing ............its so hard to hear this or moderate it. so unfortunate
That was really bad, thank God you moved away, let us educate our parents
Thanks to God u got the confidence to walk away
God comfort you🙏
Sometimes violence is homes is spiritual ☹️ satan really hates marriages ..May God comfort you
I am glad you finally walked away. Marriage isn't meant to be a warzone
I could hear a coach in the way Manuelah asked the questions.
Mothers let’s
Protect our daughters from such,it’s such a pity you had to go through that.sooo sorry and I hope
You heal from the truama you have experienced.
Parents should learn from this. Girls are not for sale🙏🙏🙏🙏. Sorry about everything that you had to go through. May you heal fully dear🙏.
Eeeeh Jesus!!....this is sooooo bad nobody deserves such treatment
Emotional violence is a form of domestic violence.. It's sad that many people don't realise that at the start of relationships. We need more education on forms of domestic violence.
Domestic violence can even be emotional . It hurts but we will be fine.
That's why I love my pastor Bujjingo,, he will always tell you to leave if you're in unhappy marriage!! Life is about starting again & living in reality not pretence. You did best to walk away & all will be fine with you just keep in prayer
I love him too very open
I think you are confusing two things. There’s a big difference between promiscuity and domestic violence.
Your Pastor committed adultery which later resulted into separating from his wife.
He never saw that his wife was bad until he had an affair.
Pay attention please.
Wel said Manuel, I also put the blame on parents partly coz right from beginning the were on her case to get married
Second here...oh my...sad story...sob sob
Parents we need to be careful we can be toxic to our children.
This is one of the reasons I fear to date and strongly fear marriage...I have failed to date a guy cs I think they are harsh hence not trying to try it out cs I hate violence, manipulation and everything...I mean I grew up in a violent environment and I wouldn't wish to face it anymore...my eyes are tearing
Am struggling to watch this . My goodness sorry this happened to u
Oh my ive been there. Till i woke up one morning and moved out. Left the ring and evrrything on the house and handed the keys to his friend.
I have something that I always tell everyone my friends my family and people that i always get in conversations with, if a man raise his hand against me first time it's the time I leave his ass or i might stay and commit murder and end up in jail I will plan for him because I know i can't beat him if we start flexing so take my time and plan so instead of doing that i will just live. There is no excuse for doing that even when i am the one in wrong you don't raise your hand and hit someone's child that is a no go. Never ever find excuses for an abusive person it might not be necessarily hitting you but also words can be a form of abusiveness if someone can't find away to communicate with me then I can't be such a person violence is violence it can't be in anyway justified so ladies men take note. Thank you for sharing your sorry sweetheart.
This is soo sad 😥 but y are some men like this 😔
I am so sorry mukazi.
This is so painful
So sorry mi dear
As longer as I’m still dating and a man pulls up on me in a disrespectful manner like hitting me?!!! I swear to God I can’t marry him or move in with him that was a serious red flag 🚩 but thank God u free. Ladies let’s learn a reason an abuser will always be.
Ladies let me tell you if notice a behavior which you are not comfortable with while dating don't marry him, this behavior won't go even if he apologize, it just improves, if your parents think your too old to leave, the get your ka small house keep your ribs there, always remember marriage is the institution where we spend our longest live, you got get a job, career for yourself, love your self pray to God and wait patiently, but this business of I was pressured to marry is gonna kill you gals, it's never too late to marry, much love bumb love
Oooooooh my God couldn't control tears
Woow am touched by her story. My advise to women is that you should learn to walk away at the first red flag. Toxic men do exist I believe but it's our responsibility to walk away violet men can never be good boys
For sure ,why !
I wish her voice was muffled. I know for me a lot of people know me by my voice.This story is way too emotional. The toxicity of a lot of African parents and emotional manipulation is partly the cause of such problems. It's almost as if this man had a troubled life and was projecting. Poor woman fell victim of his troubled life.
Sorry about that. Shame on that foolish man.
Thanks for sharing your story, your courage in walking away is inspiring. May God protect you and your baby. I advise you seek professional help of a therapist too.
Parents, relatives and friends should stop pressuring people to get married. Marriage is not an achievement. It's better to take time and get into it prepared for the consequences. Many people die from domestic violence every day.
Families should are learn to welcome their daughters back home from failed marriages. Don't tell them to hang in there, it could be too late one day.
Manuela is a good listener.
The Flowers poem of partner violence
How are we going to bring this to our parents’ attention who with good intentions push us to get married because our biological clock is ticking or because they’re faced with their own mortality?
Wht good intentions are doing while letting your own child stay in such marriage?
I would trying being independent and assertive when of age. It's you getting married not them
I literally went through da same, da guy could evn remind u ov da items he took to your parents for kukyala. Beat you up as he pleases en always told me dat each tym he started beating me he felt like he was fighting a fellow man😭😭
All men are da same... Dis one cud evn cry while apologising. Kyokka ma ear drum damaged coz ov da violence
My dear sorry about that,but not all men are the same!
Very sorry tht you went through this terrible time,while your were pregnant, your parents played abig role in ur domestic violence. Let's not ignore red flags .When people show who your believe them.
Ladies learn to walk infact Runnnnnnnn ! Thankyou !
I promised myself that the day a man slaps me the first time..that will b the end
I promised myself the some
No one actually teaches young girl what makes a good man ... even our own Mathers .... can we please know where we can send her same help please
Can you please talk about bride price also
"Domestic Violence refers to acts of violence that occur between people who have, or have had, an intimate relationship in domestic settings. [4] These acts include physical, sexual, emotional and psychological abuse." Men also face domestic violence/abuse but they rarely report it or talk about. In this case children end up suffering the most.