HSP: Dealing with Non-Sensitive People / The Empath's Role in Society
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- čas přidán 11. 09. 2024
- In the last episode of 2018, I share tips on how to deal with non-HSPs, discuss the Empath's role in society, and share some subscriber comments. Happy Holidays!
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You’re hilarious! That “DUH” story made me laugh so hard because how you interpreted it is exactly how I would. This just made me realize I Have to find other INFPs/HSPs/empaths because our stories are usually unintentionally funny, but with serious undertones. It’s a weird cool little life when u think about it. We meet some of the coolest characters and end up exchanging life stories. I can see how we become writers/counselors that always feel a little bit offbeat.
“We need coffee shops and parks”
“We just wanna read.” 😂 So relatable.
Great video! “F@#ck you, your dad left you when you were 9” 😂😂😂
Merry Christmas from England
i almost cried listening to this thank you so much for making this i really needed it and i appreciate you so dearly for making this
I'm glad you like it
Great insights that move from the hilarious to the profound. Many thanks. This video is special.
Real cool video! It gave me a lot of relief and I could relate to everything that you said. My name is Steve as well btw My only concern is how to not be too sensitive to people who are unfriendly and inconsiderate. That’s where my judgemental abilities kick in. I’m well aware the times have changed and people aren’t as in the moment like they were in the 90’s. Social media ruined that! Anyhoo not to get off my point but people need reminding that no one in this world is a mind reader. Healthy communication is key!
Hi. I just discovered your videos recently, and i just wanted to let you know, that they help me a ton. It helps to know that there are so many other people like me out there. I can relate to you in so many different ways, and that gives me a good feeling inside. Thank you and keep doing what you do! (-:
I got to listening to this podcast just now, and I wanted to put something out there, to see if someone can relate or 'explain' maybe. I am super empathetic as well and feel sooo grounded when people really need to talk about the hard stuff, but I for many many years now I have the feeling that nobody really needs me and my empathetic ear 🤷♀️ I wish people would share their stories, but not the complaining ones 😅 I get really tired of people complaining to me 😂 but when they just need my empathy,they need to tell the story most people can't handle, I feel so honoured,but so hardly anyone seems to need that,I don't know. I'm an introvert as well,so I'm also just not around people that much maybe 🙈or it seems to me, like you said: 80% is just not as sensitive as we are,so all of them don't need to talk about that stuff, maybe that is why 🤷♀️ the only moments in my life I really connected to my mom was when sho was feeling extremely broken after her divorce and finally she would stop judging me and lay her weapons down and so finally we could just talk about the real stuff. When she got better, we lost that again 🤦🏼♀️ Same with my sister, always judging me until she had a burnout and I was like,don't worry,I know how you feel,I'm here,I don't judge etc, and finally she put her 'you should be like this' down and we could really talk. But when she got better, the judging just came back.
Can anyone relate to that? I feel like my empathy gets used so little 😕
Yessss.. I could totally relate to this "they need to tell the story most people can't handle, I feel so honoured" ...I always feel grateful when someone tells me their deepest darkest fears and traumas... when they share those things, it takes the negative energetic charge out of it and it has less power in their lives.. We hsps/empaths just take their story and energy and toss it into our endless pool of empathy and that's that.. We can handle it.. It feels good to help heal people. You are probably using your empathy more than you know.. Sometimes we we practice active empathy (talking/listening), and sometimes just our presence gives of empathetic vibes (passive empathy) that people like to be around...even though we might not even be talking.. I can tell you are legit HSP... Thanks for the comment! :-)
OMG yes! I realized this over the years. I like it when people tell me these stories. Helps the person to heal. I also feel honored the other person trusts me and feels safe with me to tell me those types of things.
you did an interview with my friend Ferral and since then i have been bingeing your youtube channel lol
Steve man, thank you for a great video. Some excellent points in there. This is my contribution:
- there is a reason why women are attracted to bad boys; it's their first stage of the Animus (out of 3). If a woman (not a teenager) has not yet passed this stage she is not a good choice for a HSP man (and vice versa).
-as for women calibrating their expectations towards 80% of men, this belongs to a well-known problem that is called clash of the Animus and Anima. We all do that, including HSPs.
-for HSP person it is crucial to learn to verbalize their feelings.
-everything in moderation, even empathy.
-as a software developer myself, there are no better or worse solutions. Maybe more suitable. If you put something into application there are pros and cons, same with putting something into the database. If someone suggests something, ask why he / she thinks that way. Challenge them, ask from several different perspectives why they think it's better, we HSPs are very good in this, embrace your power. In this way team members will see the depth of your insight and you will gain a lot of respect.
Wish you all the best!
Glad to see you back! I think I am one of the few HSP males that actually like sports. It maybe due to the fact I grew up in Kansas and there wasn't much to do besides play sports. The benefit is it has helped me connect with non-HSP male friends and family members. Sometimes the discussions about certain sports teams and games do breakdown due to the fact that when I watch a game I am consuming it in a completely differently way than my non HSP counterparts, so I pick up on things they may not due to our astute pattern recognition and emotional reading. Hope your holidays went well!
Awesome that you''re back. I sincerely LOVE the content you're providing. Keep it up. Finally someone that understands us HSP Men :D Happy Christmas! - Charles
Thanks Charles! Good to hear from you...You're an inspiration to me! Peace!!
@@TheHSPExperience Thanks for the kind words Steve, likewise! :) - Charles
These are great clips. I can so relate even as a HSP women. Have just come across your channel! Love it!! 👍
I like your vids. They make us aware of the struggles we have as HSP, and reassure us as the valuable sensitive humans that we are.
One of my greatest struggles in life is dealing with other people, of which most of them are (inevitably) the non-sensitive type. What I have done most of my life is getting very angry at them for hurting me. Or if they treat me with their ego-based lies and manipulation. If it happened more than once I rejected them strongly, openly and ostentatiously. Mostly that meant that I ended up quite lonely. Because most people are non-HSP, and have a habit of doing ugly/hurtful things. It is only recently that a close family member pointed out to me that most people are in fact very insecure, and that their ego behaviour is just a cover up of their insecurity. I am going to try now to realize this every time I meet someone, and to approach them with this in mind. If it is not too bad, maybe they open up to me in a more vulnerable way, so that I can trust them more, and maybe even build a friendship. I will just give it a try. But for all other HSP's out there: maybe it is good to realize that most people are insecure about themselves, have a lack of love, and actually need sensitive types like us who understand many things and are able to give genuine affection. (just my 2 cents, ... and thanks for another inspiring episode)
I agree with everything you wrote 100%. A few times, I've become great friends with non-HSPs that I thought were major assholes at first.. but once I got know them, I found out there were pretty nice people behind the egoic facade. A lot of people view the world as a battleground and are in fierce competition for resources, jobs, women (or men), etc.. and they will talk shit to you and try and tear you down... but once they realize we (HSPs) generally aren't at war with them (or in extreme competition), they sometimes tend to be nicer. Like, I always run into these alpha male bro types that want to be the group leader and run things, and they always try and "test" me when I am new to the group... but then I tell them, "you can be leader bro.. chill.. I'm just trying to have fun. I'm not gonna try and steal your women or whatever.. " haha..Stupid caveman!! LOL!!.. anyway.. you get the idea.. we are just different... in a good way!!
@@TheHSPExperience Thanks for the reply. I can understand the struggle with alpha male behaviour in the US, because it is a (very) masculine culture over there. Here in The Netherlands it is mostly the arrogant and dominant smart ass we have to face. Being an HSP keeps being a challenge, wherever you are.
Thannk you man ! Still going strong . A lot of great gems in this video
Powerful message at the end! I needed to hear that, thank you. Great tips to keep in mind as well. Would love to hear you elaborate more on your tips for dealing with small talk, great topic!
Glad to see that you're back! I've missed your videos.
I find that I can't drink alcohol out in public as it hits my emotions like gasoline and I just get overwhelmed too easily..
Happy Holidays Steve! I'm glad you're back, and I always enjoy listening to your insights. I relate to you when it comes to emotional sensitivity leading to quick reactions. I've been working on brushing things off such as mean comments. The more I embrace my nature, the more naturally I attract people.
This: "The more I embrace my nature, the more naturally I attract people" So true! I saw this quote the other day: “The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.” Happy Holidays!!
@@TheHSPExperience That's so true. I still struggle with that sometimes. I've found it helpful for me to be around positive influences.
I loved that story, very touching! I think I see him daily walking or sitting on a bench near my place. I have always wanted to stop and talk to him. Just had a feeling he was a nice man and was lonely.
no matter what you do non hsps will always notice you are different. They don't know exactly what is wrong with you but they sense difference. It kills me when I can see this moment when they decided to reject me due to my trait they don't understand but it is enough to get rid of you. Therefore I decided not to explain myself. I accepted the fact that I will be rejected by some people because of the trait . If they reject me , they reject me. I have to go somewhere else to find people who will accept me. Unfortunately, majority don't.
Great tips in this post, Steve. Thanks for putting this on YT
Great videos. Could you please make a video of HSP and INTJ personal relationships and friendships.
I finished the book, the Four Agreements. Started the power of Now book, yesterday. I am feeling like i am getting more in-touch with my spiritual enlightenment.
On the judgmental comment- for me I am trying to remember what the Four Agreements book taught me is to not make assumptions. When I make assumptions I find I spiral into a complete creative, imaginative scenario and dialogue, which most times doesn't materialize or isn't the real reason behind someone's behavior. I recommend reading the Four Agreements. I'll let you know on the Power of Now when I'm done. Thanks for the podcast.
This: "When I make assumptions I find I spiral into a complete creative, imaginative scenario and dialogue" ... I can so relate. Also, The Four Agreements is one of my favorite books and I am going to do an episode on it soon. I have also read The Power of Now and A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle, and I loved them both. Anything that can help us be more mindful and detached from our ego is a good thing, I find. :-)
I know this is a really old video, but in case you see this comment and you still see your friend on the jogging trail, please tell him that Parkinsons can be healed through short term high doses of vitamin B1 or Thiamine. Have him search on CZcams for the Italian doctors that have healed autoimmune diseases with this protocol. I wish you both the best.
Over-sharing - Yes! LMAO
...it's what we do! LOL!!
Great video 💞💞💞
Great story, I live for those moments!!! :)
Love your channel man
A thought I had toward the end of the video when you were talking with the dude on the bench... How many INFP HSP types have chronic illness and pain because of all that we absorb? When we can't express enough, I think we get illnesses. I have a few chronic illnesses and had/have chronic pain. In trying to get better, I've learned there are many like me who are dealing with the same. There's a question for your listeners... How many deal with chronic health issues? It is a result of sensitivity?
Great video
Emapth.
Forest person lol Wood nymph Don't look up with your mouth open!