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Lack of Empathy: Narcissists often show little to no empathy for others, making it easy for them to manipulate and exploit. Narcissists use various tactics such as gaslighting, love bombing, and devaluation to control and dominate their victims.
Common Tactics Used in Narcissistic Abuse:
Gaslighting: Making the victim doubt their own reality and sanity.
Love Bombing: Showering the victim with excessive attention and affection to gain control.
Devaluation: Undermining the victim’s self-worth through criticism, belittling, and emotional neglect.
Isolation: Cutting the victim off from their support systems to increase dependency on the abuser.
Triangulation: Using others to create jealousy or competition, keeping the victim feeling insecure.
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When you give your trust to a narcissist all they see is a weak victim willing to do their bidding.
Never share anything about you. People make assumptions about you if you don't share anything but that's better than them using your weaknesses against you and deliberately triggering you and starting a smear campaign that everyone believes.
Never share anything. Because once you are bullied truth doesn't mean anything. Truth is hated or seen as manipulative. Were conditioned into not reacting but provoking people is apparently ok
My sister told me I was too trusting and now I live a lonely life which I believe is a blessing in disguise
Me too. Learning to be comfortable with ourselves and staying close to the Lord, is the journey.
Alone in the world,but all together in God. Could it possibly get any better than this.
Amen sister!!
Yes me 2 🙌 i absolutley love it 🙏
AMEN.
Amazing message, I was in a 15 year narcissistic marriage and cut off from everyone. When I got out and reunited with old "friends" I saw them through a completely different lens. For years I prayed for wisdom. God made it clear. The motives of others and convicted me of exactly what I'm doing to invite it into my life. A month ago I told a friend, I know you, I live in reality, you can lie to yourself but your not lying to me and I cut all ties. I wasn't about to sit around and wait for the next time they were going to hurt me because it's inevitable and it will only get worse. I don't need it.
Normal people type Bible Criticism online and discover the Holy Bible is fiction.
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@@kathk3203 NORMAL people type Bible Criticism online and discover the Holy Bible is fiction, Cupcake. You suffer from Christian paranoia and delusions of invisible enemies. Your husband thought you were brainwashed and freaky, Rube!
@@lookupyourredemptiondrawsn7285 NORMAL people type Bible Criticism online and discover the Holy Bible is fiction, Cupcake. How stupid are you?
@@lookupyourredemptiondrawsn7285 Only true paranoids ignore medical advice during an emergency. You glow with death and you love to be a bottom feeder!!! As long as you remain pathetic, you AND Eric Clapton will spread revulsion and ignorance. You must be very proud. Keep baring your testicles and show how a real adult wallows in disease, Cupcake!
Trust is to be earned
Respect is to be mutual
I'm not even a fan of the idea that I should respect someone and they'll respect me or something like that. I'm more like the last line in No Country For Old Men "I'll be polite"
Christian brainwashing makes you a slimy freak in a creepy cult, with a cult handbook with zero credibility, Cupcake. May the 200,000 raped altar boys' tiny little bleeding and ruptured anuses spew all over you and your loved ones. I'm sure they'll remember this thrill. Normal people simply type Bible Criticism online and discover the Holy Bible is fiction, Mandy.
@@bendowney5822 Give Holy Water enemas to the spiritually constipated and altar boy chastity belts to the tiny working tykes! Christians are victims of 20 centuries of intense Christian brainwashing and keep the Christian hustlers happy, rich and slimy. Normal people type merely Bible Criticism online and discover the Holy Bible is fiction, Ben.
Amen! I have been feeling I dont trust people. I felt there is something wrong with me. Thank you for the clarification. I trust my kids.
@@cymandybro9519 Christian paranoia is great! Everyone should be a Christian paranoid with invisible enemies and everyone is evil, including your relatives, neighbours and friends, Rube. Creepy cults like Christianity always make paranoia a top sensational priority for each and every sucker, rube and brainwashed freak, Cupcake!!! You must be very proud............. Normal people type Bible Criticism online and discover the Holy Bible is fiction, Mandy.
There are plenty of people in the Christian church who have the Iscariot spirit, they are there to do exactly the same Iscariot did to Jesus to you. Be aware of these backstabbers, they are everywhere. I only trust God now, he is all you need. God has taught me how to close doors to darkness and not look back. Good Christian advice ty 🙏🏻
I’ve recently learned this the hard way.
Super powerful when you point out that Jesus already knew that he would be betrayed for money. Thats the power of God. When we are betrayed, stuck in a trauma bond, unable to emotionally attach with those intending to hurt us, our trust in God must be greater than our denial of reality with those who are abusers. We must attach to a loving God not a bullying tyrant.
That's what I love about Jesus.
He knew that if we made an effort to build & nurture a relationship with God it would protect us from the scoundrels that confront us in our physical , emotional & spiritual life
@@carpathianken 200,000 raped altar boys agree! When they called to the Lord for help, he was a) Sleeping b) Drunk? c) Deaf? d) Playing computer games? The ancient Hebrews created Moses AND Jehovah in 950 BCE. Normal people type Bible Criticism online and discover the Holy Bible is fiction, Cupcake.
@@carpathianken Very clear. Rarely does a person achieve such an understanding. I left organized religion and found deeper peace with God. Hyper religiosity has nothing to do with God.
How can you make it any plainer? Organized religions remind me of mouse traps.
@@franksimmons9242 The Amazing Keskin shut down most American Faith Healers by exposing their frauds on national tv. African Christian hustlers are experts in fleecing the suckers and earn billions of dollars. Organized religions like the Roman Catholic Church were taken over by organized crime and the Vatican Bank is a good example. The head banker was found hanging from Blackfriars Bridge. After 20 centuries of brainwashing the suckers, Christian hustlers are now into sensationalism, paranoia and creepy delusions. The suckers love it!!!!!!
You can't trust an adult child to control their emotions. You can forgive their inability to emotionally develop, but this is where not forgetting and maintaining boundaries is of utmost importance.
Yes Nicholas
Most folks don't give a shit about your feelings, Karen. Normal folks type Bible Criticism online and discover the Holy Bible is fiction, Rube.
Thanks for the wisdom...this is my mother..I Am in a different country,,I will make sure never ever to allow the dynamic that happened while I was busy trusting and being a child to her,,when clearly she is a 3 year old bitter,envious,jealous in a woman's body...she had me thinking and looking at her all powerful, and wise...looking back she has none of these...she destroyed her own life by leaving father,devaluing him,and in line devaluing herself with men...the bad heart she has from decisions she made for her life..ahahaha
According to God no one is classified as an adult while continuing to be unstable within his/ her soul - mind- will and emotion which the body comes into subjection to thus becoming its object which creates an undivided issue
Man says to claim by his made up law a person is an adult at 18 which varies depending where one lives - globally
Here in 🇨🇦 you’re an adult at 18- can drink in a bar at 19 - Saskatchewan and drive at 16 - can quit ‘school’ at 16 without ‘parents’ permission and are classified as a ‘minor ‘ up to 18
The hypocrisy is not just in man made laws when God has already give His law which is actually singular - but there is an extended hypocrisy just for the fact this is not the SAME number and varies THEN depending on the province this too varies
God does not give a mixture what so ever 😎
Age is the amount of time counted that we’ve been allowed to be on this earth
Maturity comes by way of being governed under God renewing our mind will and emotion according to Him- it’s becoming sober in ALL things
Christ does not become one with an immature child spiritually speaking anymore that we are to remain immature while remaining in our body
Trust is not given automatically. Trust is EARNED!
Wow so true 😭 if we are trusting it's because we don't know and if we are knowing then we don't have to trust. It makes so much sense. Especially how you break down how Jesus knows our heart. So he knows who to trust from who not to trust. We need to pay more attention to people's actions so we can be in the "knowing" so we don't have to trust them. They're showing every reason why we should not. The Bible is very clear that we will know them by their fruit. Don't ignore that simple teaching that can save us so much heartache and pain.
Yes
When 200,000 altar boys called unto the Lord when they were being raped by Holy men, they trusted God Almighty and were confused by the violence, their tiny little bleeding, ruptured anuses and lifetimes of nightmares. Trusting Christian hustlers to be honest about the happy myths of Abraham, Moses and Jehovah is fun, but all normal people simply type Bible Criticism online and discover the Holy Bible is fiction, Cupcake.
Amen!!!
@@maranatha8148 You suffer from a common Christian problem, you suffer from Christian Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Normal people type Bible Criticism online and discover the Holy Bible is fiction. Rube. One billion people are completely willing to die for their faith, but never read the fine print on the Christian indoctrination ticket, Cupcake. THAT'S A SUCCESSFUL CULT!!!!!!
Remember the fourth commandment KJV is reminding us of Genesis 2:2&3
Horizontal trust could reflect Christ's words..."Have no fear I have overcome the world!"
Loved this talk Kevin. Bless you for tackling the tough issues.
People are fallible. The right and only place to put our trust and dependence is on God.
Yes Ria
Yes - but first one must actually meet the Real One
When only ‘8’ was saved on the ark and is a physical depiction of the spiritual true- it should be concerning
It’s not a free for all
We too must die
to the self in us 💖👑
Amen. Trust God alone. Thanks Ria
Amen I trust in no man,only jesus
@@joshuaanzalone2060 200,000 raped altar boys trusted Jesus Christ the Savior of Mankind and got raped by Christian Holy Men!!! HALLELUJAH!!! How stupid are you, Josh? Normal people simply type Bible Criticism online and discover the Holy Bible is fiction, Rube.
Wow did I ever screw up my life not knowing the difference between these two definitions. Your right...I don’t trust a living human.
This is the most IMPORTANT message you have sent out there Kevin, in my opinion. Trust and faith belong vertically to the Higher Power and not horizontally to other people - we have senses and reason to learn and know what we are dealing with and should make our decisions on the basis of facts and observation of true reality. I agree that the idea of implementing trust vertically as a very good thing is one of the biggest lies of the enemy as it opens doors to people being betrayed and often irreversibly damaged in the process which will never happen when we trust Our Higher Power. Moreover Trust is a great marketing tool which in turn produces Pathways for manipulation and deception and plays on greed, jealousy, urge for power, domination and control. This is a revelatory video for me. Thank you Kevin. God bless you.
Thank you Iza Waniek
Yes because He KNEW what was in man
spiritual discernment
True Mandy
It wasn't just that He was discerning it was because He knew their hearts. He is God. He knew even their thoughts. He knows our thoughts. This scripture is much more than Jesus protecting Himself. He knew Peter would deny Him three times. Did He protect Himself from that? He knew Judas would betray Him but He did not try to get out of being killed unjustly. It was His plan so that He could die for guilty sinners in their place. He did not try to escape, and He easily could have. That scripture shows that He was and is God and He knews each and everyone of our hearts.
Kevin, your video really hit home with me today. Thank you especially for putting Jesus and scripture into the understanding of support to those victimized by narcissists. After 70 plus years (I admit that I am a very slow learner) of abuse by a narcissistic father, a husband with diagnosed NPD, and, most recently, a toxic relationship with an acquaintance, I recognize that I have deep seated trust issues and am now taking the time to know a person. I trust no one but the Lord. He has been with me all along this journey. My hope is that younger followers take your message to heart and not spend nearly a life time in a very dark and empty place.
I’m so sorry . This was eye opening. I’m later in life and have suffered my whole life w trust at the same time thought I was following God. I’m isolated now I can not trust anyone. It’s too scary. ugh! I feel like i’m too old to get a point where i can make “trust worthy” friends.
My motto since I was a teenager has been Trust No One.
Hear that Chris
Mine too. Psychologist sait to my utterance"I trust nobody"
He said:"If you cannot trust your own mother... How can you trust anybody?"
But I trust God alone.
Sometimes some people can't even trust themselves, for example if someone is recovering from an alcohol addiction. They couldn't trust themselves to be in a room by themselves with a liquor bottle. So of course we don't need to extend trust to others, especially when our own trust in our own actions can be difficult at times.
Wow I love how you differentiated between trust and knowing.
Yes Jody
Me too! A blanket of trust that has blinded me has now been lifted. Thank God and thank you @TheRoyalWe 🎉
Trust Christian hustlers for brainwashing! Normal people type Bible Criticism online and discover the Holy Bible is fiction, Jody.
In Jeremiah it says if you fully trust someone they become a curse
Truth!
Where? Thanks
@@tinaf600 Jeremiah 17:5 Isaiah2:22** edited** Psalm 118:8-9 Philippian 3:3
@@gospelreign3611 thank you so much. I highlighted them, except for Isaiah 22:2-
You who are full of noise, A tumultuous city, a joyous city? Your slain men are not slain with the sword, Nor dead in battle.
Let me know what it was suppose be. Thanks and God bless ♥️
@@tinaf600 🤔😆Excuse my mistake it's bedtime for me 🥱 it's Isaiah 2:22 not Isaiah 22:2, that's so awesome God's Word is always the Way, the Truth, the Life! It's wonderful you did that, keep the faith. Praise the Living God. Take care, be blessed and rest well...smiles.
I have been teaching yoga for 25 years and the New Age Forgiveness/non-judgemental/positive vibes only nonsense allows predatory narcs to roam free and flourish.
Yes Janjan
He could see inside their hearts and minds that’s why.❤
So can we if we take the time to get to know others
@@TheRoyalWe Yes we get to know others by their actions, from observing. Unfortunately it isn't always easy like when dealing with a Covert Narcissist. They withhold showing their true identity until they rage. That's how I found out about NPD
Back in January I was hoovered, I remember saying that he would forget me in June. No, not psychic..it was the narc cycle, summer he was out and about but wanting supply for dark winter evenings .. Jesus observed behaviour patterns and how people treated each other when they wanted something.
@@pallasathena1369 Narcs need supply 24/7 They are quick to secure a new primary supply once they discard or are discarded
@@nicholashudson1283 from what I experienced, I don't think they find primary supply easy to get, so the hidden new supply is just a monkey branch for the thrill of cheating. I was shocked when I saw the woman, I don't like the term downgrade but I don't know how else it would be described.
Man this hit me hard. I was raised in the Jehovah’s Witness high control group and they lean in hard with the abuse of trust
Glad you saw this Alex
Religiosity of man- the cultural religions of man and the cults of man will do that
We are commanded to be born again by the spirit of God who is the only Witness to it for He is the only one who can accomplish this within us
Man has absolutely nothing to do with it EXCEPT to be obedient to it!
Ok people - I keep being stirred!
Most religions are the same I grew up Catholic Church and dismiss it when I was younger but I do believe in a loving God
I grew up in that same religion and 100% agree.
I love this message! I've always asked myself, "What would Jesus do?" As an empath, it's served me very well. Thank you Kevin
Thank you Pam
I’m in a situation with my 24 yr old dtr where she has abused my kindness and support of temporarily watching her baby (my precious grandbaby❤) every weekend (10 hrs ea day) since June 1st until she can find childcare…So yesterday I told her for the 3rd week in a row that I’m not doing it anymore due to the stress. I’m 66 and single so no husband to help me. I’ve told her this for the last 3 weekends that it was getting too hard for me. The first time she got in her car and with the windows shut when I heard her screaming over and over again. Then the next weekend I brought it up again and she called me a child because I questioned her attitude towards me by not being thankful then packed up her stuff and the baby said “bye” and walked out the door. Yesterday I actually took the baby to our drop off point because she couldn’t stop crying all day. I told her I can’t do this coming weekend and I’m done. She gave me a flat look, took the baby and drove away without a word. I stood there shaking.
Tonight she texted asking me “since you don’t want to watch her anymore, “are you free to watch her on Oct 15 for a concert I’m going to?” I said I’m not ready to make any decision yet. I could feel my stomach in knots almost as if it were my boss telling me I need to come into work on my day off after working OT for a month. A physical reaction to that text is never good.
This is only one day after I said I can’t do this. I’ve been too trusting and I get crushed every time. I know that God is directing me away from this and I am so grateful to have had your video pop up on my feed. I have been a subscriber for awhile but have never commented until now.
Good job standing up for your needs! Boundaries are necessary sometimes to maintain our well-being. I know it’s hard, but just remember…your well-being matters just as much as hers!
@@southernbellerising Thank you!!! ♥️
I’m glad your here
@@TheRoyalWe Thank you. I’m glad to be here. Sorry for the “book” comment for my first one. Pent up desperation. Some helpful comments.
No need to be sorry for needing to express yourself - since when do you answer to us?
Apologizing is a symptom of what you are experiencing with your daughter- we all need to unlearn - narcissism comes in different degrees- it’s about the self and we all have one
Welcome to the channel
I’m fairly new myself but to me - that shouldn’t matter- I too can speak like a book - it’s called ‘ detail’ 🙂
Details are needed too - or what would ever be completed? 🤓
I like the silence in this video. No background noise, wind, traffic, etc. Your messages are stronger when given in silence.
Trusting too much sure hasn't done me much good. This was a very insightful message! Thank you Kevin!
Thank you Susan
I really need to hear this today of all days. This blew my mind. I never thought of it like this before but it makes so much sense of why I have been so damaged in my narcissistic relationship of 37 years.
Glad this video reached you today
Time to get out.....have come to this realization after 22 years of marriage to a narcissist.
Love the videos, please have them keep coming. A new Light has been put on me because of Royal We:))
That's a long time to be in a narc relationship, mine was 34 years. It was always extremely challenging to say the least but, when he found out I carried power & authority in the name of Jesus he served me with divorce papers. I would bind up a spirit of pride that operated through him and loose a spirit of humility on him. Funny not funny but, the look on his face when he found out I had power over him was worth using the keys of the kingdom.
I wish you all the best Proverbs as you discover the precious child of God you were created to be. Let your light shine!
Such a beautiful teaching thank you!! King David did not trust people either, it's part of our abuse we experienced since we were very young, we were trained to be our parents parents since we were little. Bless you buddy.
Thank you
200,000 raped altar boys trusted God and Jesus Christ and were raped by Christian holy men. You must be proud of how God helped save them from ants, cockroaches and slimy criminals, Cupcake. Normal people type Bible Criticism online and discover the Holy Bible is fiction, Unc.
Still brainwashed?
King David trusted himself when he had Bathsheba brought to him and had her husband murdered
This is so needed in this time. I truly believe narcissists are the tares of this world... they're going to be humbled very hard and fast soon.
This message is BRILLIANT. Thank you. 🙏❤
I think that because narcissists put us in a lower position and demand to be treated as If they were god, we end up forgeting that we are in fact equals. the only thing that holds these relationships together is faith.
Good point Mands
This is so POWERFUL Kevin! As a Christian I find the most important aspect of looking at narcissism is when you come from a biblical perspective. Narcissism comes from the devil himself. Figuring out how to go about it comes best from wisdom from God, since narcissists have always been around and until Jesus returns we will have to continue to have them live among us.
This is so POWERFUL Kevin! As a Christian I find the most important aspect of looking at narcissism is when you come from a biblical perspective. Narcissism comes from the devil himself. Figuring out how to go about it comes best from wisdom from God.
Trust is denial . Wow , that hit me.
Our deeper inner self already knows.
But we deny to know because of our own unresolved conflicts.
So we would rather trust than being true.
This cognitive dissonance is the pathway we allow for the narcissist to enter.
And then finally we experience the cycle of our own unresolved conflicts.
Glad you connected with that point Carlos
Awesome observation about the lie of trusting instead of knowing. RW Gold once again! Stop trusting, stop smoking that Hopium!
Those who are born again spiritually- according to God’s standard ARE the Church
It is not a go- to place
It’s having fellowship one with another thru Holy Spirit
Just as Jesus went to the people
So too Holy Spirit comes to those
She comes without observation because it is spiritual in nature
Only Holy Spirit brings the Unity of the Faith
This so called Church is going to be destroyed just as the Temple was in Old Testament 💖👑♥️🙂🇨🇦
That’s a good analogy between faith - vertical and trust horizontal
True faith is obedience - it’s not a mind- set it’s an action
Trusting people is natural/ physical
Faith in God is not- it’s spiritual 🙂
There’s always so much the More
God only built on His word- Eternal
I’m from the government and I’m here to help, trust me.
Right!
This is disgustingly revealing… and I’m grateful for your wisdom. Thank you. It’s been something I’ve been contemplating lately (that I know I can’t “trust” anyone) yet I allow some freedoms with one or two individuals I “know”
Yes Lexi
Never trust your friends or your family. Only trust the Christian cult and the sleazy Christian paranoia that keeps you firmly in the Christian cult. Lexi, normal people simply type Bible Criticism onlone and then discover the Holy Bible is fiction, Cupcake.
@Anna Normal people type Bible Criticism online and discover the Holy Bible is fiction, Cupcake. Kids, never ever sit on a Christian Holy Man's lap. OK?
He knows the heart of everybody I do think he knows his real friends
Yes Jeff
Very interesting teaching, never heard anything of this nature before. Thank you. It certainly gives me a lot to reflect on. ❤ I remember, while I was with my abusive ex, I always thought that ‘Since I’m suffering now, my reward will be greater. If I stick it out, God will bless this relationship and bless me.’ I told myself that for years, each time my ex physically or emotionally harmed me. I remember beginning to hear a soft, knowing voice, begin to internally tell me, ‘Those blessings only work if the other partner is willing to change, and he isn’t.’ It was so hard for me to realize that. I’d begun to plan and prepare to leave around that time of hearing that gentle knowing, but it still took me years. I am thankful I am out.
When i questioned this man with this disorder i questioned him and he said 'well that is where trust comes in' and so i asked him can i trust you ? should i trust you? and he said 'yes you should' and later of course i discovered he was cheating on me for months.....
disorder? 🤔
Always be wary of anyone that says you can trust me....trust yourself and the lord only..
Thank you, Kevin. Appreciate your hard-earned insights. It is so easy to project our own ability to be trusted onto others who aren't WORTHY of it, at least until we learn the hard way to exercise much caution and restraint....and wisdom with people. Is this a form of throwing pearls to pigs? We give our "treasures" to some only to have them turn around and attack us....betray us? What can be so trying for us Believers is that too much of this kind of thing happens among professing Christians. Take care! Thank you, again.
PS Gorgeous church. I grew up Lutheran.
Thank you Terri
ANYone can call him/ herself a Christian and they do
Not just anyone can BE born again for it requires the Holy Spirit to be a witness to it
a ‘so- called’ does not make the called
man versus God
religions of man versus personal relationship with God
I never thought of it like that. This is rocking me to my core. Almost an existential crisis. But it’s also liberating. I thought trust was what was supposed to be done. I would trust people for no reason, get betrayed and then repeat the process with other people.
To the point when you said, when we trust another, we really do not know them!
I have no doubts God has shown me this video right now for strength n a sign he's with me. I'm shattered n wounded by the enemy I'm fighting hard so this is of great value to me Thankyou PRAISE God
I've been thinking about what you've said about lateral and horizontal trust. You're right. We make idols out of people as a short cut to worshipping God. People are flawed, but if there's that one person out there that can love us perfectly and unconditionally, that one person who really "sees" us, then we can worship them instead of God. We can place our trust in them. And if we can trust in a human instead of God, that not only validates the pride in our own humanity, but it also means we don't have to deal with the fact that we're wretched sinners in need of salvation. We've created a quagmire of sin for ourselves but we don't want to deal with that. We want to point the finger at God and reject Him in favor of our own awesomeness. Remember, narcissists ensnare us by using our own narcissism against us aka the love bomb. This is where we fall in love with the narcs idealized version of ourselves. We all struggle with narcissism and Satan is the author of narcissism. God warned us about this. We can either trust ourselves or trust what He says. God tells us that He's the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. So is the narc, but God is Love, whereas the narc can only mimic love in order to manipulate us away from God. The Bible is true, cover to cover. God loves us so much that He even gives us the choice to believe that or not. The narc can't give us a choice. The narc needs ultimate control because he's/she's a vacuum of evil. I trust God, not man.
Very good❤ in was surrounded by narcissists for more than 33 years, now that i read the bible i can commit that the whole bible is about to warn for narcissists. I think the whole world is full of that evil beings
Great message Kevin. This is my biggest issue - TRUSTING and after the betrayal I experienced from him. I will never be so quick to ignore my inner knowing that was alerting my instincts. Never ignore your inner voice.
Good bless u Kev 🙏🏽
Thank you Rosie D
Yeah. I 'know' how narcissistic bullies are. That's why I don't 'trust' them. They can go ahead all the way they want with their bullying. They are not going to change my stand with God.
Trust must be earned and maintained in any relationship 💯
This has been one of the most profound messages I have ever experienced. Beautifully executed and explained and backed with scripture. Extremely proud of you and following the holy spirits guidance in manifesting this creation.
Sometimes I have a feeling that this crisis we experience now in the whole world can obviously not be only an economic crisis on a material level, but we have to start to question all the values and virtues on a spiritual level, too, because maybe we were wrong all the time about some of them. Or in other words, just because we didn't know the real meaning of them, now we are in this huge crisis, but storm has to sweep the dry leaves away
Thanks Kevin
Thank you
Crisis is from the Lord . Human beings as it says became lovers of the self .
We live in a narcissistic soceity .
We feel entitled and lack gratitude 🙏
Now everything will be taken away leaving us to rely on our true nature for strength
True strength of character is when walk in the Lord on the righteous path and deny the desires of the flesh and wear the armour of God we are protected
The time has come either u are with God or you are not
Kevin this message is so important and powerful.
It's right at the heart of Narc abuse, longterm trapping, I mean years, and destruction of quality of life.
It spoke volumes.
Thank you for helping us understand how this abuse just goes on and on.and how we can understand our part in the continuing cycle.
Kevin... this information is so important for us to think about... I've always trusted people before getting to "know" them. Thank you for studying, gleaning and sharing such important understanding of the messages of how Jesus lived his life here on earth. He said "I am not of this World"... he knew the evil in man's heart... he looks at our heart and he knows us intimately. When I really think about the people in my life that have betrayed me, I already knew their heart... so why was I so surprised? God choses the time of our "Awakening" to this evil.
Thank you for another wonderful inspiring message.
Michele
Thank you
Yes Michele God heard conversations that we didn't and he removed people from our lives for protection
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Yes Joshua and I can recall times when these people, not even realizing that they were straight out telling me about the evil they were doing... exposing who they really were! I KNEW at that time that was My Heavenly Father revealing the Truth and therefore helping me to break through my Cognitive Dissonance! As an innocent child, Growing up in a Narcissistic family who used that gaslighting behavior on us, in essence, programs our young minds... resulting in the Cognitive Dissonance that keeps us stuck in these Toxic relationships with them. It literally Blinds us! As a child, we may know they are lying etc however where do we go? We are stuck with them. So being stuck in a situation with them becomes a "Normal" pattern and we become in a way, "comfortable" with the deception. This sets us up to attract or seek out and accept these Toxic relationships. Without God revealing the lies and people like Kevin who are gifted with gleaning these truths from God's word, we would remain programmed... We are definitely a product of our childhood environment. This is the much needed process of Us being "Born Again"!
I am Praising God for giving me this Freedom!
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Michele
God bless you Michele and that was a powerful message. I needed that
I went along -to get along - while being strung along - as God would tell me 😷
True Mandy
I'll be the first to admit that I am not very religious, however this has been one of the most original and beautiful messages I've ever come across. It does give me some great food for thought, and I know this one is gonna stick with me 😊❤️
Glad this video found you Lala
Come on! How about a nice Holy Water enema? Tempting eh? How about a pretty altar boy who loves anal sex with Holy Men? Tempting eh? Normal people type Bible Criticism online and discover the Holy Bible is fiction, Cupcake. But think about it. Being in the creepy Christian cult and being brainwashed to believe that invisible enemies are to be blamed for your social negligence - is pretty slick, eh, Cupcake?
God is not about a religion It’s about a relationship with Him
That is the only requirement of His towards us
I’m in the same boat and I’m pretty shocked by the Bible, I said “oh wow this really is a GOOD book”. I think it’s referred to as the good book lol. Turns out the Bible is not owned by religion! It is it’s own thing and it’s full of helpful stuff
@@theinnerworkclub6060 Sober people type Bible Criticism online and discover that the Holy Bible is complete fiction. Hebrew myths are plentiful. Do you also believe in Greek myths, Rube?
The ose who are too trusting always end up not being able to trust anyone.
True, but before CZcams I thought everyone wanted peace , naive 😞
I can’t live in a world without real connection and trust. No man is an island. However, I’ve found that in other countries, families are more intact and trustworthy
Bang on Kevin! So true! He trully didn't trust mankind...
I need this, 100%
That’s why devils in form of humans very easy to tricked me.
❤ thank you, Kevin! Powerful message - resonates with me to my core. This is the kind of gospel my soul is craving right now. ~ Denise R.
Thank you Tracefx (Denise R.)
Brainwashing makes the Christian cult powerful! Invincible! Normal people simply type Bible Criticism online and discover the Holy Bible is fiction.
Still brainwashed?
A lesson I learned very late in life, also my "90% rule"...if you find yourself (or someone else you might be trying to help) in a somewhat tough situation and you ask others, family, friends even fellow christian to "pitch in" and help nine out of ten will turn tail and run...seen it time after time..so don't get upset...look for the one out of ten you can count on.
Wow, this was incredible Kevin. I feel like you opened up a part of my mind that was so clouded and gave me so much clarity regarding exactly what I've been doing and how trusting I've been my entire life. Trying so hard to see the good and believe in people that didn't warrant it. I guess the real question is why..but I think I know the answer to that.
Thank you Sadaf.
"To know love is to know trust; to know oneself is to know truth."
cc. 👀🐡
This is the most important message I have heard. SO important. A narcissist will demand you trust and then abuse you and then has the nerve to shame you when you have no trust. They have no self reflection so they don't even see how they are the ones who destroyed any and all trust you may have have.... Bravo to this message!
This totally makes sense. I just don't trust the narc at all. Knowing allows me to let go . It won't ever change
Yes CKN
Ok and what about separation anxiety?
Or maybe that’s not an issue like a bad habit 🤔
PROFOUND !!!,, Awesome Kevin !!👏👏👏
Thank you
I like this perspective. Trusting was my biggest downfall. Now you have to earn my trust.
I hope you don’t mind me sharing. God showed me to trust Him and Him alone. Yesterday afternoon a semi truck cut me off on the freeway.
The only option I had was to pull to the left shoulder lane,since there was one because of construction,to prevent hitting the semi. It took me about 400feet to gain control of my car. I ended up hitting the cement divider and my window airbags deployed. Funny, it wasn’t the accident that upset me, it was the fact that nobody, in a spand of 20 minutes, nobody called 911 nor stopped to check to see if me or my autistic son were ok. I ended up calling 911 myself and I couldn’t get through right away. Boy, God really showed me to trust in Him and Him alone. He alone got me through this. Talk about Jesus taking the wheel. If I had lost control of my car, it would have spun in the other lane, possibly hurting other people.Talk about a miracle. My son and I sustained no injuries. I am so grateful and blessed. The CHP cut my airbags and allowed me to drive my car home.
I had no injuries.
WHO would know your son is autistic under this circumstance? 🧐
Tough reality but deep truth!! Thank you
I greatly appreciate that u gently point out mistakes we probably made and "How To ..." now apply what we just learned. "Knowing" allows for better decisions and I have no doubt can be a life saver. Thank u so much, Kevin. 👍
This makes so much sense. I will never trust another human being again in my life
One of the most important message I heard to get out of narcissistic relation.
I can't thank you enough for the insightful explanation and the wonderful video, Kevin. You're so right on this issue. For the narcissists the meaningful word of trust is manipulated as a marketing ploy, when deep inside there's no appreciation whatsoever on the meaning and consequences of performing it. Have a wonderful day and blessings to you 🙏🏻🎉
So true Julia
Christian brainwashing makes you invincible, delusional and creepy! Hallelujah! Normal folks type Bible Criticism online and discover the Holy Bible is fiction, Julia. Kids, never ever sit on a Christian holy man's lap. OK?
Kevin I'm kicking, screaming, and clapping right now. You hit the bull's eye with this video. All your videos are good but this one is ggggrrreeaaatttt💣🔥 in my Tony the Tiger voice lol 😁... Big up 1Luv 🙋♀️😇👏🙌💥🧿🧞♂️
I’m kicking and screaming with you! Thank you
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Thank you Kevin for this extremely important message and your great analysis. Jesus trusted nobody and we must follow in His footsteps. Trust is to be given vertically only, to the Absolute Power - God and if we live life trusting people we live life based on the imaginary and illusion, if we live life based on facts and knowledge we live life in reality and that style is projecting us from the devastating trauma caused by betrayal. We should not trust people and walk in our power of discernment and awareness of the dynamics of the world we are living in. You have nailed it again Kevin. God bless you.
Thank you Iza
@@TheRoyalWe Thank you Kevin for everything you do on your channel.
My situation could not of been different, I lacked awareness and my parents were emotionally immature.
he's onto something here. I really like this idea. it gives substance to the biblical imperative to trust no man for the heart is deceitful wicked beyond all you could think or imagine
My life is so decimated it’s unreal. I was once a faithful Catholic who loved his faith. I loved Church. I find it hard to believe in a good God, a loving God, who would allow what happened to my late brother at the hands of my mother.
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Prayers my brother. Indeed it is a fallen world, Satan’s domain. However, because of His love for us and the sacrifice of His Son, Jesus Christ, this world and the suffering within it is only temporary.
Wow I just now understand why.... I have lived my life in not trusting and letting people and family show me who they are. And they are the people that came at me the hardest because they would say something is wrong with you. And now I get it, you have made it make sense. Thank you so much
Trust opens door to narcissists - Exactly!
That's why churches tell you to base your life on trust - 'cause they want to abuse you
And when they preach to trust God/Jesus, they always add that God comes by other people (and they mean themselves of course)
Awesome msg! I trusted too much and it bit me back. I was betrayed, lied too and ostracized. Now I see. I am accepting the hard reality and now rely on the Lord to guide me through and out of this abusive family.
I am saving this as a constant reminder. Thank you, Kevin.
Thank you
After this particular message, I'm revisiting my understanding held of 1 Corinthians 13:7 (Love always trusts...love always hopes...) - wow.
Yes Chelsea
You are so rigth here that we as citizens trust in a wrong way instead of having an observing mindset. We are prisoners of our own denial which makes real rigths as rigtness and decision making on all levels a trust nightmare of narcissist entrapment.
I do not trust anyone anymore until they earn it. Trust is to be earned over time through evidence
This is the most important message to the world right now. Thank you ❤
Very true! I thought if I truly love my husband, I need to trust him- big mistake. I thought trusting him lovingly made me a good wife- no, it made me a fool. I put my trust in the Lord, but in nobody else.
In Jesus Christ name, amen.
Amen
ThankYouuuùu for All You DO in life for others that are in pain and stress of all this Amen In Jesus Name Amen
Thanks Kevin. So powerful. I love that you are inside Gods house teaching, not preaching. We need this type of teaching. I’m 66 years old and was never taught any lessons like this. You are so right that our churches are not serving us. They are allowing the wolves in sheep’s clothing to cause toxic turmoil. Many are in the pulpit. It seems like we only get half the story because we can’t offend anyone she says sarcastically. I’ve been abused by so many wolves that claimed to be Christians. I finally have the armor of God and I will not trust horizontally again. Blessing to you as you continue this teaching ministry.🙏🏻
Trust vs Knowing brilliant! Big difference
Yes B Anderson
Wow, this is just mind blowing to me. I think, by growing up in a narcissistic household and then marrying a covert narcissist I have instinctually known knowledge is healthier than trust (in people). Unfortunately, I have allowed others to convince me otherwise. This is a powerful message and I’m still digesting. I’m curious where we came up with the idea as a society (or maybe just in Christian circles???) that in order to love well we need to trust. I have been taught trust is a basis for love. Why is it that someone who “can’t trust” is thought to be deficient in some way?
I've never fit in anywhere. It would always hurt my heart. As humans we are persistent on living our will. When you really, truly seek GOD'S will and live it..... You will walk a very lonely, isolated life. Just like JESUS did. The great news is that we are not alone. JESUS said. He would never leave us nor forsake us. 🥰
One of the most eye opening videos
Absolutely brilliantly conveyed
A totally new concept for me regarding trust and betrayal
Narcissists will lovebomb you until they gain ur trust
Once they have your trust they will start the process of tearing you down bit by bit , until they have completely anhilated you
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Yes the game of life this is what they seem to do
I have watched 4 of your videos now. Amazing how I identify !! Being raised christian and finally someone getting this right. You are 100% right that the church does not help you! The counselors don’t
get it either. I love and pray for you Kevin to continue to help those that are dismissed in their real trials of narcissistic abuse.
I also allowed trust over knowing.. and I got burned!
Boom! You hit the target! 🎯🎯🎯 Excellent presentation. Powerful truths. 👏🏻👍✨
Thank you Southern Belle
Kevin, if there were ministers like you, the church could be restored and transcend its problems. (I'm not Christian, but I have them in my family. I appreciate your spiritual take on narcissism so much. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.)
Christ does say my people, perish for lack of knowledge, after this video, I am interpreting as “knowing.” Jesus never said my people, perish for lack of trust. This teaching makes perfect sense to me. I finally understand this concept. Thank you. ❤
Keep your friends close.....if you have just one......and your enemies even closer......that is a Truth
Jehovah knows us by name, by character, by what we do, what we have done, and what we will do.
This is a truthful powerful message! Take heed saints of God
Thank you Donna
Love it! So true. Reminds me of those shirts that said: "Trust me I'm a doctor"... when you know that they arent. Same concept. So done trusting people.