Single on Purpose - How I Changed the Course of my Dating Life (from Toxic to Healthy) | Nika
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- čas přidán 23. 04. 2022
- This is how you reset your dating life and change the course of your relationships
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It would be amazing if You made a video about leaving the "being victim" mindset. Loved the video
Love the growth and transparency. Definitely helpful for others navigating the dating world 💛
Getting into a healthy relationship after so many toxic ones makes me appreciate my partner even more. Wish I didn’t have to go through that time but I can totally relate to choosing the wrong guys! Can say I am truly grateful for my lovely boyfriend. Loved this! Very well said and so happy for you 💕
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@@SheIsTired Being single gives us the full freedom to get right with GOD, to build into existence once lost relationship, between GOD and creation, between PARENT and child.
1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV
32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
this world presents love as lust, and if you`re not always touched, then you are not loved = lies and fear propaganda. All of it because the MK ULTRA PROJECTS from masons.
John 15:13 KJV Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
And being ALONE (not on your own) does bring forth sober mind.
What I have witness in my short life so far is, souls get together for money and because they are bored and the 3th reason is, the pressure of peers and older generations. “People around me repeated daily, get married and have children and move out, so I did. Am I happily living after? NO, i`m bitter, angry, sad, broken, in fear, heavy leaden, in darkness, always in somewhat contests with people around me, who has something better, something more and so on…, I succumbed to the fear of the opinions about my life of others, thats the hurtful truth.”
KJV Bible says;
Matthew 6:31
Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?
Luke 12:22
And he said unto his disciples, Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat; neither for the body, what ye shall put on.
Matthew 6:25
Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?
This was so interesting! Thank you for sharing.
I think it’s important to distinguish between “toxic” and abusive. Although you could classify abusive situations as toxic, the clarification affects how people view themselves. In a toxic relationship, you can recognize your own toxicity…but generally in an abusive relationship, you are being manipulated or controlled, which is not your fault. Any abuse (emotional, physical, sexual) that happens to you is not your fault.
Edit: I know there are mutually abusive relationships, but most of the time there is a clear perpetrator and anything done in response is for self-preservation.
i appreciate this video! the only thing, as someone on both the aromantic and asexual spectrum, not having romantic or sexual attraction does not necessarily mean that someone is just a friend. lifelong partners come in many different forms and with various attractions, including but not limited to sexual, romantic, platonic, sensual, aesthetic, etc.
Thank you so much for this video and sharing your journey it has been really helpful, I would love a second part!!
Love love this video!!! Ive been on this healing journey myself and Im so glad you shared your exercise, Ill definitely use it!!! Thank you 💖❤️✨🥲🕊💐☀️🌿
Omg Nika, this is me! Thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable.
This was really insightful and too relevant to my life right now, thanks for speaking so honestly. Would love to see more about this journey, especially on the work you did to feel ok about yourself and how you found your authentic self, specifically any shadow work you did.
such an amazing video, thank you for the tips and being so vulnerable with your community🌺
loved this video Nika, thanks for being so open and honest!
This is a very informative and useful video, thank you for sharing your experience! As someone, who came out of a string of toxic/abusive relationships at 33 - and have done a lot of reflective work - I'll do your exercises for my past relationships. I know my patterns already, but I think it will still help me further my analysis.
It's amazing that you're so open about this topic 👍🏻
Such a good video! Also, your top is so pretty and it looks beatiful on you 💕!
Thank you for this! So valuable to everyone 🙂❤️
This is life changing advice for me when I need it most ❤ thank you so much ❤
Thank you so much for the video. It was really helpful. And congratulations! ❤😊😊 You look really happy! 😊❤
Thank you for sharing! ❤️
Oh my gosh, you´ve actually explained my whole life 😃thank you so much for these insights! They really helped a lot! 🥰😍
Thank you for sharing! This is so helpful to me
Thank for for sharing vulnerably 💖
I'm going through the same thing. I learned more self love and care after my last relationship I was singing 3 years it was so peaceful and I learned alot about myself. I didn't have a dad in my life so i didn't know what a healthy relationship looks like I need to work on. myself to. I also realize it's hard to find a good man that I'm attracted to 😊
First one! You’re the best Nika! :)
Thanks for sharing🙂
very interesting exercises
Please do more videos like this
It was very interesting! Thank you
Great video ❤
Nice to see you 😊
respect for this video.
OMG Nika, I guess we are twins 🤣 I can relate with every single word you said, thank you so much for sharing, hearing you was healing for me ❤
I resonated with almost everything you said.
Loving everything you said. I totally agree with you when you said that thing of feeling yourself with your partner. For me, things that makes me realize I was in love with my husband were a) I’ve never be able to be fully myself with someone until I met him (also not feeling like I’m being judged) b) I was (actually I am) always in peace with I’m with him (like being relax and, like you said, not anxious) c) No one makes me laugh like he does d) Having the feeling that I wanna to know him, to discover what he likes, dreams, projects… And also, e) the attraction part, of course 😋
I recently discovered ur channel. Your channel is amazing... ❤❤❤❤..
You Krazzy Nikki
Can you please make a video where you recommend books or podcasts about female energy, motivation,etc?
She is the therapist 🙌🏻
No
I think the lesson that is learned last is : would you and your partner stay together even if the hormones and intense feelings of the beginning disappeared ? Would they even stay respectful if they weren't in love anymore ? Would you ? Would there still be love and this existing relationship if the in-love feelings disappeared ?
Missed this kind of videos! Thank you, it's really helpful💕
P.S. Blue colour looks so nice on you!
I understand all that
I love the advice but my situation seems so different that I don't think I could do some of these strategies. I have never actually been in a relationship, been on a date, or got close to it to know what I draw myself to or what is not healthy for me. That's where I still struggle is that I have been single my whole young adulthood so that brought me more insecurities. Any advice for that?
Maybe You could do for example the ghost partner exercise with people that You are attracted to in movies, books, celebrities?
I would suggest you do some exercises on your beliefs about love and relationships, figure out how you feel about being single, how it makes you feel and why you want to be in a relationship. This is great to really get to know yourself.
And then I would suggest just really working on yourself, growing and doing what’s most important to you and a great relationship will somehow find you 😁 at least that was my experience
You can't safe your self they'll attack on you again And you encourage for all that things
Just God and his words can give you internal comfort and safe from all devils and sexual spirits not any human
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Can I ask what kind of therapist do you use? Is it life coach or psychotherapist? I'm looking for a therapist as well who will help me with better relationship with myself and the world. I like that your therapist gives you exercise etc. and hi or she sounds like great therapist.
Thank you, Ola :)
Well, year 934 greenwitch
may God be with and watch over to you take Care bye
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Glad I found this video! I came to Australia 5 years ago and I’ve been with my bf for almost 4 years. Sometimes I am just confused with the definition of a toxic relationship or culture different🥲 for example: my bf is still being friends and seeing one of the girl who was used to be his booty call (he is not cheating on me now I’m sure but I just don’t like the fact they used to have that kinda past). I was so hurt and upset, but he told me it’s very common for Australian, it’s not a big deal. He asked me to grow up, I shouldnt be over jealous…. And there are many things like this🙁 your video gives me the hope and guide that I’m worth and deserve a better guy who is gonna respect me and treat me well. I am gonna work on myself now, I hope you keep making video more, no matter what topics. You have no idea how much courage and positive vibes that I gained from your videos😌🥰
Aim high you
Going for a beer
In Jevus Allah Buddha Shiva name young lady, aim fkn high
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Woman, stop it, beer, you're killing me
you being single on a purpose and wanting to be single doesn't count because you are attractive and you could get virtually any man you want. now try talk about being single and happy if you are an extra 50 to 100lbs heavier and no guy is checking for you.
Use that time you are single to lose that 50ibs and improve your life
@@bendoyle5023 I'm a 6-ft guy that is fit. I'm at a proper weight and body fat percentage.
What does your comment have anything to do with what she’s sharing?
She’s talking about improving yourself to attract better people she’s not talking about looks here. If you struggle with getting people to be attracted to you then you’re clicking on the wrong video.
@@melcoastalxo self improvement does little to nothing in a free dating because nature rules everything. I clicked on the Right video and I just had to tell her and people like you that information that she's spewing from her perspective can be misleading. her information cannot be applied across the board to all people.
Hi means First you have done every desire of your heart and also your sextrul desire now what you thought about you aloneness is that solotion of all that?
now you realized that you were on wrong road on it. be strong and courges God will help you on right path just ask him for help and keep away your self from evil companies
That's good you accept your self without any shame but now need to ask forgiveness your all sins which you did to God
Oi coach, why are you wearing that top?
Bloody hell, any chance to get you? Um, ...
Oi, coach, you babbling bubbling?
You're a perfect Boo Boo Hoo Hoo ;(
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