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My principal is legit super ableist, he literally took away a studentâs wheelchair because âyou can walkâ and when he tried to defend himself he used the excuse âI have an autistic nephewâ and used the terms high-functioning and low-functioning :P
Oh wow. Thatâs illegal?
@@OneSpicyDisaster ikr we were organizing a walk-out for a while and we tried to start a petition to get him fired. Didnât end up working out but we do have a group of students who advocate for disabled students now (I used to be part of that group but sadly I had to leave as there were several people there who made it very clear they disliked me and it was starting to effect my mental health and anxiety so I left)
⊠thatâs a hate crime- thatâs literally a hate crime- talk to a counselor and see if they can take it up to the school board-
Wait i didn't know those terms were bad? I don't to use them if they are bad..
Ok burn him to ashes and sacrifice him to he
I feel like teachers should be taught to recognise signs of neurodivergence in kids. Think about it, they literally spend 6-8 hours a day with you 5 days a week, probably seeing you more than some parents. They can recognise when youâre not doing as well, but a lot of the time they just think a child is being uncooperative or lazy when theyâre struggling.
For example, we had a system in my school of praise signings and bad signings. Praise signings were for things like doing really well in a test, or helping clean up the classroom after doing something practical. Bad signings were for things like lateness, forgetting PE kit, no homework, etc. You know, what a lot of ND folks struggle with. The little book you had was divided into classes, so if you forgot your homework for one class three times, youâd get a detention. Five times, a worse detention and possible suspension.
Context done. I went through a point where I was really really struggling. I recognise now that I was in burnout, as well as recently going through some traumatic stuff. I found it really hard to keep up, and a lot of the time I was sitting in the back of the class not doing a whole lot. In the span of about 2 months give or take, I had racked up 14 bad signings, when I was usually considered a gifted student who âhad potential, if she could only harness itâ (how many ND people have heard that?) I remember my teachers getting frustrated with me, some keeping me back after class and shouting at me. The thing that I havenât quite forgiven them for, is that none of them recognised the signs. None of them stopped, thought about why this was happening, or asked me if I was okay.
I have since been diagnosed with autism and ADHD, and I now recognise that I was more than likely in burnout. But they didnât see that, all they cared about was the grades.
I know this is just a personal example but Iâm sure a lot of people can relate to this. Sorry for the long comment and if youâve gotten this far, I hope youâre doing well. Go drink some water.
I really agree with this.
Yes I definitely relate. I also have autism and I've heard "you're so intelligent and have potential if you just apply yourself" so many damn times. The only one that seemed to notice I have a mental problem that should be diagnosed was my PRESCHOOL teacher, but my parents just figured it was ADHD and left it at that. I went through burnt-out as well around middleschool which lead to a meltdown one day (probably one of the most embarrassing moments in my life, I was screaming and crying and said "leave me alone, I have problems" which stills makes me cringe when I remember) and lots of crying in class even though I had no idea why I was upset. Did my teachers help? Nope, the teacher of the class I most often cried in just got mad and was complaining that I can't get everything just by crying.
my friends principle literally told her parents that he thoughts she was autistic and they did nothing about it, 3 years later sheâs trying to get diagnosed
Parents not getting kids diagnosed pisses me off!!đĄ
@@OneSpicyDisaster I know!!! do they not see how harmful it is?
Here is probably my shxttiest teacher story:
One of my teachers, even though we had a HARD OF HEARING STUDENT, refused to use videos with closed captioning. She was told to look at the HoH studentâs 504 plan and she STILL REFUSED-
I brought it to the counselor, my counselor brought it to the principal, and it is now required of her to use closed captioning on all videos she uses[she was a science teacher and so we watched videos often]
Edit: YALL I HAVE ANOTHER STORY!!
So, this one relates to my sensory issues! So, i was in a taekwondo dojo(i count that as an instructor) and the head instructor had the AUDACITY to hear me being overwhelmed(heâs blind) and say âoh [real name], itâs not that big of a dealâ BUT IT WAS!?!?!?
Good for you for fighting!!đđđđ
I swear, people forget the whole reason we have captions are because some people can't rely on their ears to understand what's being said. People just think optional options must be optional for everyone..
That is such an easy fucking thing to do that really should be done even if she didnât have a hard of hearing student. It is plainly obvious that she did this out of spite
WHAT THE FUCK IMA GET UP AND TURN ON THE CAPTIONS MYSELF THEN AND PUSH THE TEACHER OUT AFTER RELEASING MY ANGER ON THEM
Ableist teacher = teacher that doesnât wanna do their job.
then there's me, a teacher who's autistic, dyslexic, and disabled with chronic illness! i love being able to show folks like me that uh,, we exist??? i never got to see myself in school, love that i can be that representation!!
ive thought abt teaching sometime but where i am rn i wouldnât be able to do it for multiple reasons
Man the first one hits hard...
I can't tell you how many times I've been told that "I'm smart I just need to try"
It really breaks my heart...
I really hope I can get a diagnosis soon
Also if you remember me from previous comments my therapist thinks I have adhd but I don't think so
I realized the majority of my "adhd" symptoms are actually from burnout...
And I'm burnt out all the time đ
I have Adhd but have IQ over 140. i got told all the time i was lazy because i couldnât finish projects or do math. I just couldnât focus! (i only got diagnosed like 4 years ago). I think testing for giftedness is actually harmful because it puts more pressure on the child tbh
@@OneSpicyDisaster As someone with ADHD (inattentive) who was diagnosed my Junior year of HS and labeled gifted (even within therapy) TRUE. I am glad for the "honour", but it's not that I am better--I was raised by incredibly educated people, had a lot of good learning materials and opportunities early on, was good at reading (slowly, and I loved it until school put it out--still trying to get it back) and have a different way of thinking.
I am just different and lucky with the motivation to learn. That's all gifted really means.
Edit: Also, IQ doesn't actually determine or measure intelligence. It was created by a French dude to help organize newer educational facilities of the time, but was never actually intended as a measure of any kind of intelligence, but rather to asses various patterns and ways in which someone could learn. So having a high IQ just means your type of learning is conducive to the puzzles on that specific test, and nothing more. Human learning cannot be measured that simply and never has been. Anything that says otherwise was usually a product of classism, ableism, racism, sexism, etc. to weed out people with specific mental traits.
So they weren't teachers, and I'm not sure it fully counts as disability, but in high school I was straight up enemies with my school's nurses. I naturally have very heavy periods with drastic fluctuations in hormone levels (I'm kinda somewhere between endometriosis and PCOS) so sometimes I just needed to call it quits and go home. The nurses refused to believe that I could be in that much pain because "menstruation is natural and you can't just call your mom because of it" (or something like that). Like, it got to the point that by senior year I just called my mom from my cell phone in the bathroom.
Also, they never believed me about my headaches, even after I got diagnosed with Chronic Daily Headaches. And they almost always refused to let me lay down when I was nauseous (which was kinda frequent. Generalized anxiety and an ulcer at 16 helped).
Same cramps that push out a baby
@@skootergirl22 Well, not quite as strong (according to my mom who Did have endometriosis), but yeah. They were the worst.
lol i had 3 babies and endometriosis. Not like pushing out a baby, but still very painful!!!!
Nah dude, I genuinely hate how period pains are treated by school staff. My period pains got so bad at times I end up vomitting from the pain, and enter psychological shock. But no, no, I'm sure if you just wait until lunch you'll be fine.
when i was a kid a teacher pulled my best friend aside and told her she didn't "have to be friends with me" as if someone was forcing her or she were around me out of pity??
i guess this could just be about my personality but i'd argue almost all the things that made me "different" or weird was because of m autism and adhd
I have so many stories about things like this, but one thing I will always remember the time my high-school put me in one of those rooms that literally only have room for a door and a tiny desk with an attached metal chair. I was in there for several hours and the light was waaaay too bright, I was claustrophobic, and I wasn't allowed to leave or turn off the light.
oh man that sounds awful :( i cant even imagine
Thatâs terrible!!
@@OneSpicyDisaster yes... sadly, that was one of my more mild stories. I have autism and struggle to make eye contact with people that are close to my face, especially when angry. One teacher took me out into the hallway during class and me, struggling to make eye contact, looked around the hall. She didn't like that very much and demanded I make eye contact or she would send me to the principals office which obviously didn't help at all. I started freaking out that I wasn't able to comply and she got angrier and angrier which caused me to struggle more... a lot happened after that but long story short, I was crying, she ignored that, and it got so bad another staff member had to pull her away to talk with her.
@@cheesevelle indeed, and they take the subdued behavior afterwards as compliance so they call it a success. The door is mostly glass so they can see into it and the student is trapped, what do they expect them to act like after more than an hour? They used this room a lot. Honestly, I don't understand how they aren't illegal yet.
its like âoh you want eye contact huh iâll give you eye contactâ *turns into fucking chucky*
I had a teacher who refused to grade any paper that had doodles on it or they would dock points as they claimed it is distracting and proof you arenât paying attention when doodling helped keep me from overthinking and getting frustrated at the questions as I have GAD and high functioning autism. Otherwise, most of my teachers were very understanding of any kind of disability a student might have and made sure everyone was well prepared. My small town school had classes for those that need unique help as well as listing a studentâs disability or illness in the attendance chart so teachers can see who might need help on certain things. Now the bullying from students was very much a different story. Teachers did nothing to stop it.
Ugh. Iâm old so we only had landline phones attached to wall. There were millions of notepads filled with doodles from me and my mom while we were chatting lol. In school (i have AdHD) I was never sitting normal in my seat. I chewed all my pencils and pens and went home everyday with a blue mouth from ink explosion. And my kids are the same. And bullying?!??đĄđĄđĄ
Only my youngest is still in highschool. I just got a call from the school counselor today. He was bullied so bad she was worried about him hurting himself!đ. I am keeping him home tomorrow and the school will be getting a call. He has Touretteâs Syndrome and Adhd. Depression and Anxiety. Learning Disabilities. He has been on Prozac since 8 yrs old from being bullied. Iâve been crying for hours. How can the school let kids get away with this shit still?!
This is awful! Iâve only ever gotten in trouble for doodling when the answers arenât visible Iâm so sorry you had to through that
Iâm glad to know a lot of kidsâ parents advocate for them, because my dad insisted I advocate for myself⊠starting in 3rd grade when I was diagnosed. And it was already very obvious that I had an anxiety disorder. AND he is a teacher and knew how bad the teachers can be about accommodating their disabled students!!
My parents insisted I advocate for myself because at the end of the day, they might not be able to protect me. It was less about being there for me and more of not trusting those around me to hold up their end of the bargain. My parents could make it clear what they wanted but that didn't mean those in charge of me would tell the truth or act with my best interests at heart.
They did fight like hell for me... It was more of trying to empower me to continue the fight should anything happen and trusting me.
oh you want me to actually advocate for myself
â⊠⊠u- uhmâŠâ *dies cutely* fuck this shit im out
The service dog getting worried because they were remembering a stressful time pulled my heart strings. đ„ș
I have a really vivid memory from when I was in 1st grade. For context, I was an undiagnosed autistic at the time (I didn't get diagnosed until like 12)
I was apparently supposed to do tessellations (of whatever they're called, y'know when shapes fit together) with some toys. There was no clear notice or anything so I ended up playing with the toys in a different way.
At the end of the playtime, this teacher straight up said (to the entire class) "Alright everyone, give yourselves a pat on the back...except for you *birth name*"
Fast forward to today and I am now a diagnosed autistic with severe anxiety and possibly other forms of neurodivergence. Thanks, I hate it.
My sister also has an auditory processing disorder and at one point they gave her a speaker to put in the back of the classroom and a microphone that the teachers would wear. My sister was responsible for carrying the thing from class to class. (She hated it lmao) and other students weren't supposed to touch it. Sometimes kids would mess with it and my sister would tell them to stop, and sometimes teachers just. wouldn't do anything. She just felt like an inconvenience. It really sucks how so many disabilities just end up being treated like annoyances and inconveniences.
Itâs the way it is in the current system
i have a story to tell aswell :D so i have ADHD and my teacher usually watches me when im being helped
so today i couldnât do much of the work as it was RLLY hard (division) and i barely could have been helped
and my teacher keeps telling me â___ focusâ or âyour not listeningâ i nearly cried because of that
my teacher also said that if he sees untied shoes he sgonna take off 5 grades and i have ADHD and bad memory because if it
so i can not remember how to tie my shoes SO that will make me lose so many grades and i feel like such a mistake
another story
my p.e teacher DID NOT let me go my special class and i had a mental breakdown there
and i CANNOT her today at p.e i was moving because of ADHD i could NOT stay still i was walking around the teacher got mad at me and i held to ball as i forgetting and then i got out of the game???
true story :)
@@sukisukughost Wow that's awful, I'm so sorry you've been treated like that. I hope you have better experiences in the future.
I don't have APD (I have SPD), but I do have many problems decoding speech so I can relate so much! The feeling of everyone hearing (for example) "Barbara went to the market", and all you heard was "___ went to ___".
I've never heard another person say that they have APD and it feels so validating. Mine is boarderline now, but it was so much worse when I was a kid.
Its nice to be reminded that I'm not the only person in the world to have this disorder. It's nice to not feel alone
I also have APD! I donât see APD represented in most of these kind of videos and itâs nice to see it in this one
Fortunately my teacher has ADHD and he was chill about me being/having a hard time focusing or keeping still. He would say 'Dont compare yourself to the other people. Find something that works for you, your own way of learning.'
1:25 they both got fired for that??? jesus i couldnt get my spec ed teacher fired after 2 YEARS of reporting her screaming at me (including one time in a meeting in front of her bosses) making awful rude and guilt-tripping comments to neurodivergent & anxiety having students, talking shit about me to other teachers for not saying good morning, constantly trying to 'fix' me and overstepping the bounds of her job... oh, and deliberately putting me in an uncomfortable chair for 90 minutes at a time, because she knows i have chronic pain and wanted me to spend less time in the library. and she,, still has a job. probably be traumatizing kids for years to come
Yeah that person is kinda sus
They said they had ADHD(attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) and ADD( attention deficit disorder) which are the exact same disorder, (some doctors consider them different still but overall theyâre the same) and even if they were still considered different you couldnât have both at the same time
It could be weird wording though
@@unusualsheep i mean it doesnt seem sus the way they said it, to me at least sounds like they meant kinda like adhd/add, because they are essentially variations, lol they said it so fast i didnt even catch it at first
@@kalliope420 yeah I guess it could mean that but Iâm 90%sure they said adhd and add though like you said they talked really fast so it was difficult to tell
And the reason I said they sounded sus is because a lot of people fake disorders without understanding them fully or how people with them are treated in society
I also didnât mean it in a hurtful way.
I was diagnosed with add (idk why)earlier than others but when I tell someone that I have that disorder I usually tell them I just have adhd because itâs the exact same thing and more recognizable
If the person is adhd Iâm sorry but I was just trying to point it out.
"you don't need extra time, your good at maths"... Actually I'm brilliant at maths but that doesn't make me magically able to hold the pen to write in the exam
yes
i had a elementary school teacher who had done some sort of training for autism but it didn't work at all. what happened is that she treated all the autistic kids and kids who didn't have a diagnosis but she thought were autistic like they're stupid. she treated us like "an autistic" but didn't assess which specific areas the we needed help with
like âoh dw iâll help you and you wont be able to handle itâ *proceeds to fucking kill somebody*
My answer to the second one: I had a 7th grade teacher tell me to 'learn to take a joke' and 'stop being so sensitive' when I, a pretty visibly depressed and anxiety-ridden 13 year old girl, got upset by a classmate telling me to kill myself in front of the whole class.
I also had a floriculture teacher force me to work with live pine branches for a week, even after being told that I'm allergic to pine. Her excuse was that my allergy wasn't 'immediately life-threatening', so she didn't have to make accommodations for me. So even though my eyes were burning, my throat was half closed, and my skin was covered in bumps that itched so much I wanted to take a cheese grater to them, she refused to let me bring in FAKE pine branches to work with instead, because I didn't need to go to the hospital.
Fucking hell- I feel bad for you, thatâs a horrible teacher
@@catz_circus I had a lot of them, honestly.
Story time!
So I have severe OCD, and, I had this one substitute teacher in the 4th grade that was shaming me for one of the rituals I had to help me cope. So basically every time I went into a room I had to tap the door frame 5 times and when I sit in my seat I need to sit down stand up again and then sit down for the last time. She was telling me that it was a disruption to the rest of the class and told me to go in the hallway. Then I told her about my OCD and she told me that I was faking it and then told me to go to the office and tell them that I was a fraud. Often times OCD can cause really bad anxiety at least for me so I just did what she said in fear of getting yelled at more. So I went down to the office and told them that the sub was accusing me of faking OCD because they new I had it so they new I had trouble in class and stuff. Then they called my mum and then told the sub that she couldnât sub there anymore and to get a new job.
I've got hypermobile fingers, amongst other things, but worst thing that's happened to me is that some teachers didn't know my limits and thought they could dictate them for me
A lot of teachers seem to be in the job for power, not teaching and itâs really upsetting
Thanks for part two! Glad this is still going! Have a good day!
Ughh! You beat me to commenting!!!
Oh man, my shittiest teachers. One I think I could tolerate seeing again, but the other I can't even think of without getting anxiety. You see, during my elementary and especially middle school years I was relentlessly bullied to the point that I had to go to court. Because of that, I developed CPTSD, undiagnosed, but it's so obvious. Now my first teacher was my 10th to 11th grade main teacher, along with maths and physics. My difficulty with the sciency shit already set me up for a bad time with him, and then he watched a movie with us, that was mistakenly ranked too low on the FSK- A beautiful mind. Say what you will about it, but most of the scene were bloody NOT for 12 years!!!! This triggered my CPTSD again and the fucking teachers thought it was appropriate to just openly show movies about children getting bullied and killed (a shit Chilean movie) and about a social experiment about nazis that ends up with a suicide (a shit German movie) without the least bit of trigger warnings. Fuck, did that certainly not improve my CPTSD. To this goddam day, I have to look up everything on IMDB for triggers because otherwise I can't watch it! So yeah, fucking thank you, Mr Langner for starting my CPTSD triggers! Part 2 coming, cause I don't want it to get too long.
If you're open for movie suggestions, might I suggest Wolfwalkers? There is some mild bullying and a character dies near the end, but aside from that it's a very sweet found family story, and especially great if you like werewolf stories (that don't feature the werewolves being mindless killing machines, mind you)
I- what?! How and why was this ever allowed?!?
@@irishuisman1450 Maybe I'll look into it. Thanks for the suggestion :)
@@DangerNoodleReads Trust me, I don't have a single idea đ€Šââïž
Hey a good website for checking what triggers a tv show or movie has is called Does the dog die. I haven't used it too much but it seems really useful and there are a bunch of different categories for different triggers. I use it to see if something has needles in it so I can give myself a warning or skip it or something because I have a huge needle phobia lmao
i dont have disabilities and uave always been top of my class
but i will never forget the moment my physics teacher screaming at me because i was "asking too many questions" (it was like the 2nd or 3rd)
Ah that first one was close to home. You know when the security guard in school once told me it was my fault i was so horribly depressed because "i didn't try hard enough" and that i should "just choose to be happy."
I don't know but i don't think mental health qualifies as a disability but i have really bad chronic depression, both social and general anxiety, bipolar disorder and PTSD (oh and i have an appointment set with my therapist because i might be on the autistic spectrum but i don't have a diagnosis so i don't really bring it up)
I honestly got very little truly messed up things said or done to me by school staff and that was probably because i wasn't afraid to get mad at the teachers for disrespecting me or anyone else. There were a few times though.
I also mentally checked out for the entirety of middle school and missed all but a few odd scraps of information before i got kicked out and had to move to my fathers home, i finally started getting help mentally and began trying again in school for the first time in three years. My science teacher said i was lazy and just didn't want to do the work meanwhile im swamped with papers, i have no organizational skills, im so stressed and overwhelmed my brain is trying so hard to make me check out again and avoid it all and my teacher was like đ€· "you should have learned all of this in previous grades."
Im so glad im not in school anymore
I have bipolar disorder and itâs classified as a disability. I also have cptsd and adhd
I have autism and sensory processing disorder. This all culminated in me being an incredibly picky eater growing up. In third grade, my teacher wouldnât let you go back to class until you finished everything on your tray. I usually only ate one thing because that was all I liked. I ended missing the second half of several days. My teacher actively sabotaged my learning because I wouldnât eat to a standard that she saw fit. She even did it when I didnât eat everything in my packed lunch that I brought from home. I ended up starting to pack my own lunches that year. I felt humiliated.
Edit: forgot to mention that I am stubborn as hell when it comes to eating food I donât like. My brain would rather have missed learning than eat food I didnât like.
Iâm the same with food
I COULD MISS LEARNING FOR NOT EATING FOOD PLUS I COULD THROW A FIT WITH IT?! YEA
My Shittiest teacher that I am still mad at is prob this story: this happened with my old Christianity teacher (I live in a country where that was a thing ys, but it isn't anymore) so this was like when I was like 6 or 7 years old, so it was in the middle of class and I felt I sick and so I ran over to the trash can in the class room and I threw up, and I just then noticed how shit I felt and I told my teacher "hey I am gonna go to the staff room and have them call my mom to pick me up" Now, I have been fine terms with my teacher for a while now and I have a hard time in class and with social things cause I have autsim and adhd and a hole butt load of other stuff, and this women said to me: "No you can't leave class, the lesson isn't done yet" when I say I was socked is to say the least, and she had taken my arm and tried to get my back to my chair I was screaming and fighting back at this point, screaming how I want my mom and dad to come pick me up, this is the point where it gets fuzzy since I have a shit memory but I think I manged to get out of her hold and I ran to the staff office and had them calm me down and called my dad to come pick me up, and he did after a while. I now know that was she did was illegal in my county and I am pissed more than ever since she made me a lot more untrusting of staff at that school. I will say that was the last lesson of that class I had since it was taken out of the school, but I still saw her in the halls years later and I am still pissed even at 18 years old.
A smaller story is from my science teacher, we watched a lot of videos in his classes, but a thing with my brain is that I have trouble telling videos and reality apart, now this has gotten better over the years but it was a big problem back when I was younger cause I thought whenever a character got hurt that they really did get hurt even if it was a 3D animated movie, and an even bigger problem was gore and the insides of the human body,
but he was showing us a video about some science shit with the human body, and that movie had a man who had dissected a human to look at their organs and shit but it was only shown though the shadow so it was fine, but my brain being itself made me lose it and I ran out of the classroom so sit in the hallway to calm down. My school allowed this since I was the only special needs kid in my class when I really should have been in special ed, but I later learned from my classmates that he had something like "For fucks sake not again" and as a kid who still was struggling to understand myself and was dealing with a LOT of self-hate, it really hit hard and I, once again became very untrusting with my teacher. so yeah :/
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wow. that sounds rough. đą I hope you understand now that it wasnât your fault. I remember being in first grade and had to potty. I had anxiety. I asked my teacher and she told me to wait. I peed myself in the classroom. I told all the kids i spilled my apple juice. I remember that 35 years later. what a bitch.
I have ADHD and have some memory issues, especially whenever I'm told to remember something if I'm overwhelmed at the time I'm given the information.
a teacher told me to go to a class and give a message (verbal, not written) to the counselor. I was overstimulated and overwhelmed by the classroom, and went out to do as the teacher asked. I forgot what I was supposed to say, so I told the counselor my teacher had something to tell them. The counselor was more understanding about my situation, as they were also the special Ed teacher. when the counselor told the teacher what was going on, the teacher rolled her eyes and said "well, now I know not to let a stupid child that can't listen send a simple message to someone down the hall" right in front of me and my classmates. I was in fourth grade đ
Wtf
VERBAL?! FUCK
A teacher said to a bunch of deaf students "no, I will NOT use sign language. You need to stop being lazy and learn to LISTEN with your EARS!!!"
dw iâll use my not very evolved sign language bc itâs better than nothing
"You're very smart, you just need to try"
translation: we don't care enough to provide you with the proper stimulation or even attempt to pique your interest
"You can do it, just try harder"
translation: we know you have a hard time with numbers, we just don't give a shit
this is why I moved onto online school
I had straight Aâs and Bâs and had previously earned 16 college credits, but was seriously (and understandably) struggling to balance my severe mental health issues requiring frequent hospitalizations with the regular school day. I resorted to doing school from home because, you know, they have to offer this as an option because of COVID-19, but that only lasted a month until they said âsorry we donât feel like updating the google classroom weâve had since you were in middle school lolâ. They said I should come back to school and wear those silly headphones or be stuck in a cold cubicle all day to work alone. I ended up dropping school entirely.
Now, they have me set up on an online program (completely unassociated with the school, it doesnât make sense) where I have to complete 366 1-HOUR ASSIGNMENTS in 86 DAYS.
Now I have no fucking will to live because it feels like Iâve wasted my chances of education, but Iw ainât getting educated or cared for, anyways.
Damn, I hope youâre able to get through it. What happens after the 86 days? It honestly seems illegal for them to put you in this positionâŠ
@@okyeah2335 After the 86 days, I would have had to have every assignment completed or my grade would obviously drop no matter how many 100âs I turned in. I think it is illegal, actually, being that weâre in the middle of the pandemic and they are not offering a home-bound program directly from the school teachers.
Sometimes I think of giving up my fight and rejoining the school system to go through everything I was before, but I have to remember:
Mental health is far more important than Academic health? See, doesnât even have the same ring. You canât get the work done before you get out of bed.
What the fuck
@@sticks8489 I know this is old and it's since been 86 days, but I'd consult a lawyer or sth about this, not having at least a hs education extremely fucks you over later on in life, or at least get a GED or something, and that does not sound legal imo
My mom always knew there was something different about me, and contacted my counselor multiple times to try and get me tested for autism, they said no. It was jus5 because I didnât âlook autisticâ or âact autisticâ and I did well in school and got good grades so they didnât think it was necessary. We had to go get privately tested. I probably would not have been diagnosed to this day because of them, luckily my mom is great :)
One teacher I have says mental health is nothing and if we need to take a break we should just smile and try to be happy
My science teacher literally has these questionable posters in the back of her room, one of them has a silhouette of a blind girl on it saying âCarol never wore her safety goggles, now she doesnât need them.â And another has writing in Braille, and below it in regular letters saying âwhich one would you choose?â They give off threatening auras
I mean I understand that in a science class in a setting where the average student doesn't have the foresight (no pun intended) to understand bad actions= consequences
Obviously not the best thing, but not the worst I've seen on a teacher's wall
My 4th grade teacher didnât believe I was autistic, despite my IEP, because I seemed âtoo smartâ... her entire class was executive function hell I donât know how she didnât notice how buried in work I was all the time compared to most of my class
The tiny hand at 4:30 caught me off guard. It seemed off until I realized it wasnât actually her hand đ
6:20 oh this would kill me. I don't have epilepsy, but I have hemiplegic migraines. Basically, I get auras too, visual snow/tv static, and if that happens, my motor function and sensation is gonna go soon. I freak out every time I get any sort of visual static so props for even managing to stay in class long enough to _talk_ to the professor. It's like my worst fear to have a migraine in college cause I'll be stuck there until it goes away.
I have a mild eye disability and in middle school I was was put in an âextra helpâ English class. This class was the punishment for children who were failing English. Instead of the middle school version of recesses you had to go there and do scholastic magazine work. I was kept in that class for at least two quarters and I never had less lan a 90% In English for all of middle school.
Were you a "pleasure to have in class" kid or a "you have so much potential if you just applied yourself" kid?
i was a âpleasure to have in classâ but to the point that if a teacherâs tone w me changed even a little bit iâd break down. like sobbing in the middle of class bc i thought they hated me
Both I was "potential" in my elementary school which caused me to mask completely into oblivion my autistic self, and fight myself daily to "fix" myself so I would unlock my so called potential. After years and years if training I finally became the "pleasure to have in class " gifted kid.
Same
Second one, but also definitely not great in class
2 and also just fucking nightmare
As someone who wants to be a teacher some of these TikToks make me so sad, a teacher is there to help you not hurt you.
Same Iâm studying this profession.
Christ my 11th grade English teacher treated us like we were fucking four. I don't know if the rest of the class had that Special Flavour of Neurotic that I did, but holy fucking god it was like all she knew how to do were group activities which we all despised since none of us wanted to work together.
Several teachers of mine have publicly ridiculed and embarrassed in front of the class, mostly 1st-6th grade, because throughout all that time span I had undiagnosed autism, adhd, and social anxiety, which made a lot of stuff really hard. Mostly it was teachers calling me out in front of the class for failing to understand directions and using me as an example for doing it incorrectly, and one teacher screamed at me in front of the class for several minutes because I have auditory hallucinations, and thought I had heard the bell, so started to pack up my stuff, and the teacher got all pissed. Honestly, school is hell, but it is a bit better in high school, with more understanding teachers. I also have a 504 but it isn't really helpful because I always forget to use it due to terrible memory, unfortunately
Probably should also mention: I also had a sub fired that I forgot about when I wrote this last night (as of the time this comment is being posted): The sub in question was known to gossip about students and say untrue things about them behind their backs, but acted nice when you talked to him. I was told after he had been fired by several students he implied he wanted to call me r*tarded, mentally unwell, and had "some gender thing going on". What he was talking about was the fact that I have social anxiety, autism, and the fact that I am an out transgirl and very open about it at school. He sucked, but at least he was fired. Also, some students found his TikTok account, and he regularly made fun of his mother, who was also disabled. His mother was also the first and only female mayor of the city I live in, so congrats to her.
This only happened yesterday but here is my story
I have missed the school up to Thursday this week so this was my first day back. I have bad anxiety and it gets a lot worse during school so me and my parents felt safer with me not going. I also have some undiagnosed thing that makes me really tired and even more so when I have physical or mental challenges. We had a test and he told me I can look at the study guide and take the test the next day. I am on good terms with this teacher we talk after class and share interests like sports. He knew about my anxiety from my 504 plan but didnât know anything about my fatigue issues because there was no ongoing tests or diagnosis. I did the study guide and there was still 20 minutes left of class. I knew that I was completely exhausted from that day so when I got home I wouldnât be able to do anything that required physical or mental strain such as studying and retaining that information. I asked him if I could take the test that day because I didnât think I would be able to study that night so I might as well do it right after I learned it. He said that studying was a choice but if I wanted to I could try and take it. I know he didnât mean it in a way that was supposed to down play what I was going through but that really ruined my day. Iâm not mad at him at all Iâm just mad that I have to go through this. For most able bodied students studying is a choice but for me I donât get to make those choices. Recently I have been better at not pushing my body to immobility or pain so I knew I wasnât going to be able to do it. I started the test that day but barely retained any of the material and didnât finish. Today Iâm out of school again because it is to much for me so Iâm probably going to finish the test at home.
Here's a positive story for everyone to make them feel better;
My music teacher was relieving for our socials class, and me and my friend have dyslexia so we need a different coloured paper. I never say anything because i hate being a bother, but my friend asks if we can get it printed. The teacher was like "Yes of course" and then today i walk into music, and he was like "I remembered this from yesterday" and handed me a different coloured sheet.
(my friend isnt in my music class so he didnt know i needed different paper before then.)
He sounds dope
Guys you donât have anxiety - you have ongoing trauma. Itâs not something wrong with you - itâs others causing you ridiculous trauma stress.
Itâs not your anxiety thatâs the problem - itâs their shittiness.
Iâm so glad me and a few of my siblings are becoming teachers, because I know for a fact that my siblings (brother and sister, heâs training to to be a preschool P.E. teacher, sheâs training to be a music teacher and I want to be a high school English teacher, might not be able due to dyslexia but atm Iâm not letting it crush my dream!) will be amazing teachers.
4:55 omg he is so handsome he deserves this đ
4:54
this is completely unrelated but why is he so FIIIIIIIIIIIIIINE
also since it looks like we're sharing our stories, i have a few different developmental + learning disabilities, but in this specific instance only dyslexia and dysgraphia are important, and in my world history class, we take a lot of notes, and he is weirdly against anyone doing anything digitally in his class, so. basically im screwed because im not allowed to take notes on a google doc or on the notes app, which is a lot easier for me, and i have to write them on paper, which, again, since im dyslexic and dysgraphic, really screws me over!!!
Since you have that you should be allowed to have a tablet for notes! My sons IEP says he is to use a chromebook instead of writing
That mom around like 5:20-5:30 seems so nice đ„ș
Pacer tests as someone with a heart defect as a kid. My stamina was NOT up to par and I got shamed a lot for not being able to keep up. And, when we did it in pairs, I was paired up with the girl who had Asthma. Ya...good fucking idea having us do the pacer.
Popcorn reading gave me anxiety and my teachers loved me during Shakespear because I understood it. But I studder when I read since I am a slower reader and have had a history of reading issues (currently undiagnosed on what it is specifically and if it's a LPD). I understood/understand the material, but public speaking always made me wanna die even if I was "good at presentations". I was just loud because I was anxious.
A few days ago I had a test in science. I thought it was going to be paper but turns out it was a Kahoot. If you donât know, Kahootâs have time limits on every question. Now I have autism, and a 504 ( a 504 is a list of accommodations for students with disabilities, things like being able to test in a different location, and getting printed copies of presentations etc.) and something Iâve noticed at all the schools Iâve been to at least is that teachers donât really care about 504âs despite being legally obligated to follow them. I have an accommodation that allows me double time on tests and quizzes so I ask if I could maybe get a printed version of the test ( I used to have an accommodation that said I can take a non-times version of test and quizzes but that one recently got removed but I forgot) he said âyou want me to print a Kahoot?â I kind of fu,bled for words and he continued âthe time limitâs a whole minute, youâll be fineâ I have anxiety and didnât want to argue with him because I know he has more authority than me, so I just shut up and took the test. I didnât do good :(
I'm not sure if this counts, but in highschool I had PTSD and our teacher made us read/watch The Kite Runner and I tried to voice that it made me extremely uncomfortable and anxious but my concerns were dismissed. I probably should have tried harder to voice my opinion, but don't you think the should be warnings about potential triggering themes or something alternative for kids who feel uncomfortable about a certain topic? Being in that class made my skin crawl.
If a student doesnât want to do something they shouldnât be forced to.
Not about teachers, but my doctors wouldn't even give me the RESULTS of my ADHD diagnosis. They didn't claim I didn't have it, they didn't claim I did. They literally said nothing about it. The way the ADHD test I took works is the family members and teachers of the kid trying to get diagnosed have to fill out some questions. When my mom requested to have the papers that everyone filled out, they gave her hers and my father's, but not my teacher's, and we were never told by anyone involved what my teacher answered. On top of ALL of that, my doctor was actually reluctant to diagnose me or disprove a diagnosis. I went up to my mom about the whole thing today because this video really reminded me of it, and she said this to me: There are very little doctors out there who know anything about diagnosing ADHD (My mom's a nurse whose clinic works with disabled kids, a lot of those kids being ones with ADHD). They either underdiagnose or over diagnose a kid. It really sucks that so many people don't know very much about this disorder. I display all of the symptoms of it and my school life suffers from having poor focus and time managing skills.
WTF THATS SO MESSED UP. I hope youre doing ok right now!
@@tsm8004 Thank you! I really appreciate the consideration. I actually have a therapist who can help with diagnosing ADHD or point to some methods to help me, and he's pretty cool!
The person talking about how their teacher got fired for calling them stupid in the second grade hit me pretty hard. I also had a second grade teacher say that âmaybe you wouldnât get bullied if I wasnât so stupidâ while she kept me after class. No one believed me, not even my own parents who were normally in my corner fighting for me (even against the very same teacher). It was the first time in my life I learned I couldnât truly rely on anyone in authority. After hearing how my story never changed over the years Mom regrets not believing me and has since always believed me first. Oh well, that teacher got hit by a car and went into early retirement so I guess Karma got her in the end. Iâm 25 and still bring it up in therapy. I have autism, dyslexia, anxiety, and depression fyi.
I had a similar experience! I once had a teacher call me a 'freak' when I was in elementary school. Neither my parents or the principal believed me đ
So, probably should share my story as well, so I have high-functioning/mild autism.
When I was in 2nd grade my teacher hated me, she hated me a lot. My school never took an evaluation for me having autism also, autism includes fears and anxiety. I hate the sound of washing machines and automatic toilets for sensory reasons, I remember Iâd get yelled at for not using the regular restrooms, and I always had to use the nurseâs toilet. My 2nd grade teacher got frustrated at me for not using the automatic toilet. Also with my music teacher,
I canât remember why but I remember asking to use the toilet, (donât remember how long ago) but I got yelled at for walking around the bathrooms confused which I should use (also remarks my gender dysphoria) my music teacher got mad at me for using the wrong restroom. I got in-trouble for unknowingly getting stressed over automatic toilets.
My teachers always thought it was just some stupid fear and Iâd âget over itâ
To this day, yes mark any day, I still have a fear of the automatic toilets, it hasnât been found out why yet though. (Not completely)
You might want to look into functioning labels, they are quite bad
Also by automatic toilets do you mean ones that go off after a certain time or with no motion? If so I agree those are horrible
@@ThylineTheGay oh ok thank you,
And yes Iâm talking about the ones that go off by itself.
I have c-ptsd and they scare the shit out of me!
"don't call yourself dyslexic. only dyslexic people can call themselves that." "ma'm I literally have dyslexia." "no you don't. only dyslexic people do."
WHAT IS THIS NONSENSE HOW DO PEOPLE LIKE THIS EXIST
I have adhd and my teacher would either lock me in "the quiet room" aka a closet sized room with no lights and a door that only opens from the outside, or they would tape me to my chair if I even moved my hands in a "not normal" way
Thatâs so illegal! đłđł
These videos make me very greatful for what I have. My teachers are amazing and they have definitely supported me. I'm blind and autistic and I have had nothing but great experiences with my teachers. I hope everyone who has these experiences can eventually get out of them. And to those who are dealing with them right now, best of luck to y'all and I hope you can find the light at the end of the tunnel.
My biggest problem with teachers is actually that they follow the IEP plan and it annoys me because I hate it and I can feel every other student is annoyed with me too even though it's a special needs class and everyone in there has some sort of disability. The teacher has to follow or they'll get fired even though I really don't like it and the school refused to remove it like they flat out refused. I can't even vent about my problems because I'm always viewed as having internalized ableism or some trash.
15:18 I have many disabilities and couldnât participate in p.e most of the time. I could participate sometimes but wouldnât be able to get changed because of dysphoria. My p.e teacher would get all angry and say something along the lines of âyou not wearing your p.e uniform is distracting and hindering my ability to teachâ which just discouraged me more. Then he would get pissed off to how I was not participating but when I would participate heâd send me to a âcorrection roomâ for not changing uniform
I remember one time in my science class my teacher humiliated me in front of everyone because my exam was messy and unfinished.
He literally held it up and showed it to the whole class and I had to death grip my best friend so I didnât just get up and run out of the classroom.
He didnât even let me explain why it was like that because he just chalked it up to me being a bad student even though Iâve always had trouble with completing exams due to how hard it is for me to concentrate.
I never wanted to show my face in front of him or that class ever again.
Not really anything anyone said to me but, as a child I was constantly put far away from other students and even locked in a little cell for "acting out" when in actuality I have autism and when I was kid I was very high energy and couldn't sit still for 6+ hours every day
When I was a wee lad in I was locked in a closet whenever I had meltdowns that were cuased by students harassing me cause they thought it was funny
I was in 4th grade
The amount of times teachers ignored my dyslexia because âsmart people canât have disabilitiesâ is infuriating
Thatâs so weird. Because the lady that explained a learning disability to me, told
me that to have the IEP for it the child has to be highly intelligent, but not able to do that certain function for some reason. (my son has executive disfunction and dyspraxia and Adhd along with his Touretteâs Syndrome and on spectrum low support needs) but has a genius IQ. đ€·đ»ââïž Disabilities are so weird to me. Iâm the same as he is. Without the TS. I do have tics and Stims. no dyspraxia. Adhd
im pretty sure mine is what makes me remotely smart
and at the same time i act so fucking dumb
omg story time. Ok so I had to get out of a physics lesson that was becoming too stressful and anxious so I left and my headteacher went "where you going?" and I said I was going to the place students could take the work back with them if things got hairy and he went "You should be spending FIVE MINUETES outside the lesson and then going back in" and I just stop and stutter I then quietly carry on and he says sumn like "Go back to lesson" so like I just end up crying and shit until a TA from there finds me and takes to that place. ugh like I should've just told him to fuck off but he was known for shouting at people loudly like really loudly ffs
3:30 first of all, the person who posted this should definitely call the school! Like she said, there were *5* other parking spots. Second of all, Grey (I assume thatâs his name?) sounds like a wonderful person! Shame on that staff member for taking away his parking spot. >:[
i felt that first one way too much. like. god all of those have happened to me, both from teachers and my mom
That first one⊠oof. Good to know being completely ignored about your mental health is common. Always feel like I just didnât advocate for myself hard enough. I remember in Elementary school telling a teacher I didnât feel well and they brushed me off saying to âSee how you feelâ⊠Except I knew how I felt. Just never brought it up again. Thanks for teaching me nobody cares, school :)
I am a(platonic) simp for that one ladies son, mans is an absolute vibe.
RELATE SO HARD TO THE FIRST ONE
i have something that i wonât name that definitely affects me in school environments but thanks to my luck and a 504 i never had any stories like this :)
3rd grade math teacher called me stupid in front of the entire class because I could only finish 5 out of 100 multiplication problems in 2 minutes, also refused to let me go to recess and called my father (NOT my legal guardian) because he was married to her cousin, turns out I have dislexia and discalculia
âYouâre struggling to make friends? Well you have an easy target on your forehead. Thatâs your own fault.â
Thatâs my favorite and I still donât understand what the fucking target was for. (Disability, not being hetero, somethingI was but didnât do or could fix anyway.)
Nothingâs changed.
3:30 I ALMOST STARTED SOBBING FOR THIS DUDE. IM SO SORRY FOR THAT CHILD. That's so twisted. How can anyone be like that? Does anyone have an update? What happened? Did she ever get a call back and did her son ever get the proper notice with the conflict and get left alone? Please tell me they did.
The mum seems cool tho
@@ThylineTheGay indeed she does, but I want to know if the principal ever called her back. I feel so bad for her and her son. Especially her son
@@faithharris7173 yeah
my reaidng teacher literally didn't let a student with asthma get her inhaler when it hurt to breathe.
Hi, Nurotypical here(to my knowledge)
I have learned alot about different disabilities(mainly nurodivergence) from a friend and so I tend to try to be the understanding nurotypical friend for people and also have permission from the friend who taught me to refer someone who messaged me to them.
I'm so sorry that so many people have to go through stuff like this. It's horrible and should never happen to anyone.
"You won't be able to get through uni if you can't do your homework in highschool"
Well, I just found a uni that provides all the accommodations I need for doing homework, accomidations that are basically impossible to supply in most highschools without making me feel awkward and anxious, sooo... (a quiet room that isn't in the building I live in, with a computer that is not my own. Surprisingly hard to find in a highschool unless you wanna have to move room every hour or two)
"You need to work on how you use time in exams so you can answer all the questions, this isn't GCSE, you can't get an A* by only answering 3/4 of the paper"
I sorry, I just found out I qualify for extra time, something nobody noticed before coz I could get an A* by answering only 3/4 of a paper in GCSE, if the student isn't failing, the teachers never notice there's something wrong.
"Sorry, we can't provide evidence for the autism assessment"
They say it like they didn't spend the entirety of my primary school punishing me for stimming, not looking at their face when they talked, organising things, forgetting to filter my words, etc...
5:07 I love wholesome country moms
Kicked me out for haveing vocal tics for a week đ đ„°
The one at 10:08 is my favorite for being simultaneously funny and sad. It's heartbreaking that people go through that at all, but the person behind it is genuinely talented as well and clearly has a gift for comedic timing...which honestly just circles back and makes the incident even sadder.
I has asd and was almost murdered and it's caused me to feel like I always have to wear a hat or I'll crack my head open, I explained this to my teacher, while sobbing and she told me that hats inside are rude and she can't bend the rules without a good reason. I had to get a docters note, 10 in college therapy sessions about the matter and fight for months with her for her to leave me alone, she's still on my case though
Sheâs horrible
Shoutout to that one time someone in my class leaned back in their chair but had the chair rotated so they were leaning back on me and then gave me a nasty look when I pushed their chair back because PERSONAL SPACE WTF also that class had a massive lack of chairs and a horrible layout (U shape with two tables in the centre)
4:54 off topic but their son looks so cool
This has nothing to do with ableism (least not in the extreme way), but I am dyslexic and in 2nd/3rd grade I had to go to Special Ed. We would go while everyone else went to the cool classes (art, music, exe). And of course that made me sad, because I love art, but the worse part was when we would break off from the class line to go a different direction and every time a kid would say something like "That's the wrong way" and every time we would have to explain something that we weren't quite sure of. I recall saying "We are too dumb to do normal things so we have special classes" because that's what I understood. No one ever took the time to explain what was "wrong with me" until 5th grade.
I showed them, though. Ended up in advanced reading classes because I wanted to spite a cruddy teacher in 5th grade.
The existence of special ed basically shoves all nd people into a corner to ignore rather than improving the classes to be better for everyone
third grade teacher told another kid with aniety to k*ll himself, told me i was a waste of soace and oxygen, my parents raised me wrong, i was an r word, i was stupid etc etc. she got away with it all ebcause her husband passed away from cancer. that is not an excuse for putting two eight year olds into a deppresive spiral that still affects them even now, years later.
Thatâs terrible!
Keep up the good work!
TW: Details because I'm still pissed
My French teacher told me that I needed to stop missing their class for doctors appointments. I have ADHD and I had recently been diagnosed with depression and was being monitored to see if there would be any side effects to mixing in a new medication. Speaking of depression, I have episodes were I literally can not take care of myself and will fall behind in school work and disassociate for long periods of time during the day.
Flashforward a year, the pandemic hits, we are completely virtual, and I am taking French again because my school required it. I am struck with one of the aforementioned episodes. This one was probably the longest one I've ever had, it lasted at least 3 months. I was not showering, I was not brushing my teeth, I was barely eating and when I was it wasn't much or it wasn't good for me, and I was not doing homework for ANY of my classes. Long story short is I WASN'T DOING WELL! By the end of it I was in very poor health and I didn't explain this to my mother because I was in 8th grade and relatively new to everything regarding my health, so I was still going to school in person like a FOOL.
One day in her class she has one on one sessions with everyone regarding grades. I was failing of course. She asked me why I was failing and I wasn't comfortable sharing details about what I had been going through because it was none of her business and I'm proud of younger me for that because that was the first time I didn't explain myself when I was uncomfortable doing so! I can't remember if I said anything like "My health has been horrible"(I'm pretty sure I did) but I do remember saying I was trying to do some self care. You know, taking showers, actually eating, taking my anti-depressants EVERY DAY like I needed to, trying to catch up on CORE CLASSES THAT I WAS STRUGGLING IN BECAUSE I'M FXCKING DISABLED, and trying to fix relationships I had messed up unintentionally. "Self-care includes doing homework for my class. I understand that you want to treat yourself but that doesn't mean you should let yourself fall behind." I was very happy to leave that break out room and go back into the zoom call were she basically called out the fact I fell behind(who am I kidding I had always been behind).
And I'm glad that none of my teachers are like this about my autism, ADHD and dyslexia
6:01 I have autism, SPD and I get tics. Sometimes these tics can be light or sound-induced, or they can happen on their own. My teacher saw me ticcing once and asked me, "It's so annoying when you move your head like that. It's ridiculous, just stop doing that." I explained to her quite nicely that I have autism and I get tics and I can't just stop ticcing. She then called the office and kept me there for the rest of the period. Shitty teacher vibes.
Iâm very blessed to be in a school where everyoneâs needs, special or common, are cared for. You simply have to tell the teacher and theyâll try to understand. And this is just a regular rural public school. Me and everyone else at my school are truly blessed to be where we are. It pains me to think how some of my neuro-divergent friends couldâve been treated had they been born elsewhere.
My city is like that, yet we still have karens and homophobes. Like my 7th/8th grade social studys teacher allways said. We live in a bouble surrounded by a bigger bouble to the rest of the world. I am glad you had a safe place, I hope this whole safty spreads to more states and even countrys! It is such a nice thing to have. HEY WAIT YOU POSTED THAT COMMENDT AROUND 30mins AGO-
I had a teacher that said in front of me she thinkâs I might be retarded so had me tested I tested with an IQ of 152 she then said your not stupid so you must just be lazy. It has taken nearly 40 years to discover I have severe dyslexia and autism. I am now in a wheelchair because of collapsed discs in my spine due to the heavy manual labour I was forced to do because of the failings in my education
People: what would you do if your where these people?
When I was 9, I had surgery on my knee. It was to fix a congenital defect (discoid meniscus) that had caused my knee to lock up after an injury to the cartilage. It was arthroscopic surgery, so I only had to get three little incisions. I was young and healthy, so recovery wasn't that bad. Had to stay home from school for a few days and use crutches for a couple weeks. My classroom was on the second floor, so I had to use the elevator to get to class. One day, about a week and a half after surgery, we had an assembly in the gym on the first floor. My teacher had forgotten to get the elevator key before hand, so she insisted I just use the stairs. "You can just hold onto the railing. Your other leg is fine." I'll never forget hobbling down the stairs in pain while my teacher tapped her foot impatiently at the bottom.
It was far from the last time a teacher made me feel terrible for needing "more" than the other kids, but it stuck with me. I was diagnosed with EDS as a teenager, which wasn't the cause of my defect but likely why my meniscus tore so easily. I was diagnosed with ASD in my early 20s. I've worked as a teacher's aide, and am in school now to become a teacher. My experiences in education weren't all bad. But a part of the reason I decided to become a teacher is because I want kids with different needs, like me, to be supported and not shamed.
11:04 HIMIKO COSPLAY
"Whats the worst thing a teacher said about you accommodations"
Me: I don't know, maybe that one teacher in second grade who called me stupid when I just had dyslexia
Second person right after I thought that "a teacher called me stupid. I actually had undiagnosed dyslexia"
Oh god fucking damn it. Why is this a thing????
bc some ppl want my face to be the last thing they see
Iâve got no stories to share bc I canât deal with ableism directed at me if I wasnât diagnosed until transferring to online in 2021 đđ [cries in adhd and autistic]
I canât even bother trying to get an IEP because itâs the last semester of my senior year. with how difficult the staff (outside of my home room teacher, my biggest advocate đ) is being, itâs not even worth trying anymore. which is sad because I need the help and the process just takes too damn long.
I WAS THINKING BACK SO HARD TO SEE OF I HAD ANY STORIES AND I DO EVEN IF ITS REALLY SHORT.
Alright so for clarity I have depression, sever anxiety/social anxiety/social phobia, and last but not least panic disorder. This actually happened at the beginning of this school year, so Mid august 2021. I basically have been on and off going to physical school and online school for a few years (for reference Iâm in sophomore year (10th grade) and Iâve been on and off since 7th grade) and it obviously got worse with the whole COVID thing. Iâve been fully online since 8th grade so for 2-3 years or so. 9th grade was half online (like online programs like Edgenuity and FLVS) half physical (not really physical but I mean like it was teachers from the public school but we were still on zoom). So 10th grade rolls around and my therapy had been going really good so my parents and I decided that I would try to go full physical but actually going to the school. So for basically the first half of august Iâm dying inside having panic attacks but none the less, the first day rolls up. Great. I go, teachers are okay, classes are OVER CROWDED AS HELL LIKE TO THE POINT THERE ARE STUDENTS STANDING UP. I stg we looked like sardines packed into a can. Anyway I digress, I barley remember anything from the first day (yay repression) and I tell my parents this and I was scared as hell for day two. Woke up in the morning and wasnât able to move my body having panic attacks (donât know if anyone else has this?? Like your anxiety/stress gets so bad you kinda go into a weird paralysis state? Idk comment if this happens to you). I had multiple panic attacks day two and couldnât breath and didnât go. Next day same thing happens. Next day 504 coordinator and âbehavioral health specialistâ call my mom telling me I canât quit after one day and I just say âthatâs why I tried going the first day but it didnât work dumb bit-â I didnât say the last part but itâs what I thought. They then told me I would show up to school the next day and me, the 504 coordinator, and the âbehavioral health specialistâ would have a MEETING (uppercase for later weâre getting to the good part) with me and discuss what was happening. I felt better knowing this so I was like âcoolâ. Okay, went the next day, panic attacks for days, panic attacks for everyone, get to school and go into the office with my mom. 504 C (for short) arrives and tells my mom to leave and that Iâll be fine. PANIK. Tried to calm down a bit. This last, this absolute bit**, takes me outside, to the front of the school, where everyone was arriving, takes me to the âbhsâ and talk to me for 5 minutes OUTSIDE, WITH MULTIPLE PEOPLE WATCHING, TALKING ABOUT MY ANXIETY, AND ME CRYING ABOUT HOW HARD THIS IS. 5 minutes of talking, they tell me with that oh so very fake smile plastered on their plastic faces âwelp, itâs time for you to go inâ. LADY WTF YOU MEAN THAT WAS THE MEETING?? TF?? this absolute corn haired ass grown woman told me the bhs was âbusyâ SHE WAS STANDING AT THE FRONT OF THE SCHOOL WAVING TO THE STUDENTS TF?? so yeah, I go into the school, have a silent panic attack which almost makes me faint, text my parents with the texts not sending through, and then relief floods through me because 5 minutes later I get called down to the office because my mom received the texts, and Iâm full on balling at this point, run to my mom, and basically do that scream cry when we get in the car. To say I went into a depression spiral for 2 weeks after that occurred would be an understatement. Stg all my energy was drained. Just thinking about it gives me anxiety.
Anyway! TLDR; school staff shove my socially anxious ass into the middle of a school with 1500+ students after being told I had multiple panic attacks beforehand because of it and pretend they wanted what was best for me.
Sorry that was so long I think I needed to vent a little haha! Iâm not usually so angry in writing but just thinking back in it makes my heart hurt! Anyway, if you made it to here, thank you! I hope you have a wonderful day/night and if you wanna leave a comment please do! đâš
The R word is equivalent to the N word but still people say it