Avoid this BIG red flag, when choosing a partner! You'll thank me for sure.

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  • čas přidán 15. 06. 2024
  • I’m Shridhar, a Counselling Psychologist. I share with you a red flag you should avoid before marrying your partner, which is the trap of a mama's boy.
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    0:00 Intro
    1:02 Signs to look out for when it comes to mama's boys
    1:29 Ways to avoid the trap #1 Do not be impressed by the devotion
    2:20 Ways to avoid the trap #2 Do not put anybody on a pedestal
    2:58 Ways to avoid the trap #3 Family decisions are finalized by the couple
    4:02 Questions to ask your partner
    5:49 Answers to validate the questions
    7:10 Survey responses on this problem
    10:49 Do your thoughts need air ventilation?

Komentáře • 197

  • @Shridharlifeschooling
    @Shridharlifeschooling  Před rokem +2

    To share your problems or feedback fill the form: forms.gle/n3SAakwChceESJp47

    • @shalinipal4879
      @shalinipal4879 Před rokem

      What to do when you have married this kind of man??????? Please help

  • @mswr3351
    @mswr3351 Před rokem +42

    I agree this. No matter how good the boy is with you but if he shut ups in front of parents.. it’s hopeless.. stay away from boy who is too emotionally attached to his mom

  • @pushpalatamohan5632
    @pushpalatamohan5632 Před 5 měsíci +19

    I am 66 now . Got married at the age 37 and my hubby a doctor 44. Lived in a joint family with his younger bro family and my ma in law . Both boys were mama s boy . Suffered a lot everything was decided by ma in law . Not allowed to go out . But those days we put up with the nonsense because thought of parents and the child . Decision to leave was not that easy those days . My ma law and hubby no more . I am alone with my daughter. She has completed MS OBSTETRIC AND GYNECOLOGY and working as SR. RESIDENT DOCTOR IN A renowned hospital . Lookng out for grooms now . Your videos help in guiding as a single parent. Thank you Sridhar . Your style of talking and conveying is impressive . Marriage is a indeed a gamble, risks are involved . God and karma helps us

    • @mdg767
      @mdg767 Před 4 měsíci

      You shouldnt have taken that shit

  • @aditi.chaudhary
    @aditi.chaudhary Před rokem +72

    After watching this video.. I really don't want to get married 😂😢

    • @cricketsavy8690
      @cricketsavy8690 Před 7 měsíci +3

      😂

    • @NorthVilla
      @NorthVilla Před 5 měsíci +3

      Ahuh 😂

    • @maverickmaven7168
      @maverickmaven7168 Před 5 měsíci

      Too easy to say but Indian society will not let you live. If ur saying yes to being single u shld be prepared to life long war.

    • @KrishLove3
      @KrishLove3 Před 3 měsíci

      😂😂😂

    • @Rekhaakruti
      @Rekhaakruti Před měsícem

      It's really a good decision.... even the girls who are educated end up being housewives for kids and family and lose their independence .. and not even get to be treated properly

  • @kafir7478
    @kafir7478 Před 5 měsíci +11

    I have been married for 18 years now, but my husband was a mama's boy . Mine was an arranged marriage. We lived with his parents and un married elder brother . Every time they will all team up and talk against me . I was like some person they hired to do housework. My husband would discuss everything with his mother. I felt so lonely in their house . They never wanted to know me, including my husband. They just wanted a lady to understand them and just be a part of their family. I was allowed to wear only a saree. I even tried to run away . Then someone suggested having a kid will help . But nothing changed . Finally, We moved to the US after my husband got a job here, but I could never forgive him . I am in this relationship for my kids . It's sad how I feel about this. Please make a wise decision. It's a lifelong struggle. He may be a good guy, but he is not the one for me . and I am sure I am not the one for him .

  • @ravinamazumdaar5421
    @ravinamazumdaar5421 Před rokem +46

    Absolutely right! This is specifically true for the Indian culture . Thanks for being so direct . I think both men and women need to hear this .

  • @kavitabhojwani4728
    @kavitabhojwani4728 Před 7 měsíci +13

    Yes, my daughter is in such trap, and now she is regretting and contemplating divorce

  • @vaishalisontakke5104
    @vaishalisontakke5104 Před 7 měsíci +18

    This problem is very traumatising. Very prevalent in India. You can never guess anyone from just the set of questions. Also one more eye opener for girls who want to marry a child of single parent mother. and If the guy is mumma's boy. Because of sympathy that mom did not have stable partner through out her life. You will have to adjust to any changed decision for her. your needs won't be prioritised. you will have to come back home early as she is lonely. Will have to skip couple's vacation. Some days you will have to stay alone because she want to have alone time with her son. So if the mom is not having any hobbies, doesn't know how to spend her own time. Will be always a third wheel in the relationship. Girls go into details about this topic before marriage. As children of single parent may or may not stand up for you.

    • @problemsolution267
      @problemsolution267 Před 7 měsíci

      I personally hate mumma's boy or a guy who keeps his blood relations (parents n siblings) on the pedestal n wife at a secondary position. Such guys should go n f**k their mum n sis, no need to get married. A guy says that his parents have raised him so he would prioritise them n won't leave them. That's the basic every couple who breeds their off spring must do for him. That's basic n nothing great. I'd do it for my kid n won't expect him serving me. Instead would secure my retirement apart from raising him. Will i be a bechari? And a girl's parents do that too. They don't expect anything from the daughter nor the daughter prioritise her own blood relations after marriage. Instead from the day 1 of the marriage she starts prioritising her husband. Why can't the husband do the same. Old couples must firstly not breed sons as a retirement plan but secure their retirement financially to be independent. And the young couple must move in a nuclear family. And the husband, like the wife must start prioritising his spouse immediately after marriage n avoid taking financial responsibility of parents n siblings. Marry such a guy. Also he must be a virg*n before marriage. Otherwise people who are physically involved with many before marriage won't be a physically loyal partner. And a emotionally n physically loyal partner is basic in marriage. Luv Ranjan's movies n social media reels - wives are controlling, manipulative n gold diggers n mom's love is unconditional. So be a great son but u can cheat on ur partner. Men these days have been conditioned like this. Pyaar ka punchnama, sonu ke titu ki sweety and baghban.

    • @christineherbert4937
      @christineherbert4937 Před 6 měsíci +3

      Wow well said ! I have personally experienced this. I started a relationship with a guy who was an only child of a single mother. Initially he used to say oh my mom wouldnt interfere in your life. As months went on, when i would meet him, she would call and say i'm not well come soon take me to hospital. Or she would keep calling when he's spending time with me. He also said yea she's behaving that way because she's scared you'll 'take me away from her' . I called it off in 6 months. Never felt more relieved.

    • @technicaltreasures7297
      @technicaltreasures7297 Před 5 měsíci

      Thank you for sharing

  • @PittyPixels
    @PittyPixels Před 6 měsíci +7

    That's why being single is more safe and satisfing

  • @sobiaali8647
    @sobiaali8647 Před rokem +20

    I wish I knew this before getting married.. having said that , there was no way I would know about his behavior before living with him!!

  • @anaghaunnikrishnan176
    @anaghaunnikrishnan176 Před 5 měsíci +8

    You are so right sir.Went through a similar mess and ended up in divorce.He is so devoted to them that he rationalises them insulting me over my colour, job, education etc.And also refused to move out with me when I refused to live with his abusive parents.

    • @ritu9673
      @ritu9673 Před 16 dny

      More power to you.. ❤

    • @tanushreebiswas6585
      @tanushreebiswas6585 Před 4 dny

      Same here. Actually it's very difficult to know people in early stage. They will show having all good equalites but that is not relatable to their actual behaviour

  • @shyamalidasgupta671
    @shyamalidasgupta671 Před rokem +32

    Thank you . This is so true for India . Thank you for talking about it. Women face a lot of criticism for pointing it out.

  • @YashR.
    @YashR. Před rokem +33

    What do you do if you're married to a mama's boy and the situation is not improving? How do we navigate our relationship with our partner then? Coz I think our love for our partner will slowly die with every such unfair incident and treatment.

    • @user-rw4do9po5n
      @user-rw4do9po5n Před rokem +2

      True, need answer to this,cos since past few years have been thinking of going away with my kids to stay peacefully and pursue my career which they together have quashed...

    • @Blushing_Blooming
      @Blushing_Blooming Před 6 měsíci

      Plus 1000

  • @selfimprovement3634
    @selfimprovement3634 Před rokem +9

    Please release a video about red flags in women we need to look out for.

  • @SMRITIPATHAK1329
    @SMRITIPATHAK1329 Před rokem +11

    Then why do these type of guy's marry live with ur parents simple ..save a girl's life ..lord ...such men are so dependent ...😅

    • @RRCS509
      @RRCS509 Před 8 měsíci +1

      Pehle baat to parents k society k pressure se karte hai
      And second men bolke prove karna hai bacha paida karke.
      Dowry gifts milte hai.
      Itne fayde kyon chodega so be carefull when you get marry someone.Move on on 1st red flag which told in this video 💯 % correct he said

  • @tithi214
    @tithi214 Před 8 měsíci +11

    Thank you for this content. Since it feels more real or let's say justified, having an Indian talk about these red flags. I dodged a bullet (a spineless ex-boyfriend who couldn't even mention about us to his parents in our 10 years long relationship and ended up marrying by his parents choice within 10months from the separation) and here I am continuing with my higher studies. Sadly, I am hearing such things happening with my elder cousin (married) and feel for her but deep down I know she lacks the courage to stand-up for herself. We have a complicated past as in, among her parents and mine, so I rather not instigate her too much with my ideas but it makes my blood boil to see her yet awestruck by her husband who treats her like nothing in front of his other family members. Some people just can't be helped I guess.

  • @manishkhedkar1309
    @manishkhedkar1309 Před 7 měsíci +4

    I am a Man, and believe me I listened it throughout. Only bcz I am very much balanced out.

  • @Rekhaakruti
    @Rekhaakruti Před měsícem +1

    I should have had this knowledge 11 years ago... suffering with a mumma's boy all my life...

  • @vanshikapatil4a754
    @vanshikapatil4a754 Před rokem +3

    thank you so much Shridhar for such a nice talk. In my whole life I didn't a single man or woman that really deeply thinks foe women. you actually go deep into the heat of women that no one does till today I really appreciate you 🙏

  • @popoeye
    @popoeye Před rokem +8

    Thank you for such educating content ❤️

  • @rachnadesai5289
    @rachnadesai5289 Před rokem +2

    Thank u so much Shridhar. Wish got this knowledge before 18 yrs 😔. But even getting this knowledge now is my privilege ☺️🙏

  • @architachaudhury340
    @architachaudhury340 Před rokem +9

    Thank you!! I was giving second thought to rekindle my past relationship which ended becoz of my ex's family prejudices

    • @SchoolOfFeelosophy
      @SchoolOfFeelosophy Před 10 měsíci +1

      I completely agree with Sridhar. Not that i know of your situation completely, seems like u don't need to overthink

  • @onlineshopping652
    @onlineshopping652 Před 8 měsíci +9

    These questions are hard to ask in an arrange marriage set up....if we ask these questions then the guy would run away😮

    • @Kathakathan11
      @Kathakathan11 Před 8 měsíci

      Yes absolutely

    • @PragatiPatil-pt2pd
      @PragatiPatil-pt2pd Před 4 měsíci +4

      Then it's a good thing it means he is a red flag. Better to be single than to be in toxic marriage. 😊

    • @Terahydron
      @Terahydron Před 3 měsíci +2

      Do it regardless.
      I asked so many women about their past some were open some Gaslight me.
      But remember no marriage is better than bad marriage

    • @Terahydron
      @Terahydron Před 3 měsíci

      My advice stay virgin till 25-30( till you find a good job)
      Ok to be in love just don't get physical not even a kiss.
      After that try to find virgin men women though arrange marriage.
      If it fails look for same old live in relationship and marry formally after 20-30 years.
      You could have a child or freeze your eggs ,sperm.
      Ask your partner to get a vasectomy or tie their tubes.
      Else just hire hookers gigolos and if at 50 you feel lonely get a surrogate mother or sperm donor ( always freeze part of your eggs).
      That's the best solution

    • @Terahydron
      @Terahydron Před 3 měsíci

      If you don't get anyone in High school/college before you are 25 and both of you are virgin this is the only way

  • @problemsolution267
    @problemsolution267 Před 7 měsíci +6

    If boys consider their moms/ parents as an angel or God n Godess who sacrifice everything for them and are very much selfless then why are parents, especially mothers ( mothers are given too much importance in North India more than needed.) ready to spoil her son's married life just to hold powerful position in the house? Parents did not financially secure their retirement n were unsuccessful throughout their life n breed sons only to tc of them in old age. Their are financial dependence on the son makes them insecure of the daughter in law, who gets closer to the son. They often create rift between the couple n play victim card if their dominance is not put up with by the daughter in law. They cry in front of the son that the dil isn't respecting n serving them. As a result gradually misunderstandings starts creeping in the couple's relationship. At times they get divorced. Parents don't care that what will be their son's future without a wife. They just want their power over the son's money and security. So aren't the parents selfish? In fact in today's generation, sons are God like figure than the parents. Parents are damn selfish.

  • @musical_0713
    @musical_0713 Před 5 měsíci +1

    I recently said NO to a guy because he was exactly like this, and everything that has shown in this video. Now I can proudly say that I had
    made the right choice.....

  • @keepflowing7718
    @keepflowing7718 Před 9 měsíci +5

    I know 6-7 mothers who sleep in their sons bed because he is their ladla. The sons are all above 25ys of age.
    I mean 🙏🏼

    • @Terahydron
      @Terahydron Před 3 měsíci

      Are these men married?

    • @Terahydron
      @Terahydron Před 3 měsíci

      Is it a daily occurance or once in a while?

  • @shonaliss4256
    @shonaliss4256 Před rokem +1

    Greatadvice 👍🏻

  • @akshadapawar801
    @akshadapawar801 Před 7 měsíci +2

    I feel you spoke on my life right now 😊

  • @problemsolution267
    @problemsolution267 Před 7 měsíci +3

    Small children n old aged people get a lot of sympathy in our society. They have innocent faces n r dependent. But they can have evil minds too. Don't just judge the kids n old aged people with their dependence n innocent faces. People make biased opinions against the young people because they think the kids n old aged people can't be wrong. If a 60 yr old woman slaps her dil, it's her right. But if she slaps her back then she will be considered evil. Respect has nothing to do with age. Only cuz someone's born before u that doesn't give him/her to disrespect u. Respect has to be mutual irrespective of the age. It's not called good culture to let an older evil do anything she/he wants in the name of respect n culture.

  • @shampabarman6743
    @shampabarman6743 Před 2 měsíci

    You are absolutely correct.. you can read the mind of Indian society and can explain it in amazing way..

  • @ridhiridhi6158
    @ridhiridhi6158 Před rokem +4

    You are absolutely right but you are 13 years late for me in making this video - now what should I do - struck with such a man?

  • @yadhukrishnancs639
    @yadhukrishnancs639 Před rokem

    great video sridhar, keep it up

  • @_13456
    @_13456 Před 8 měsíci +4

    You create a great quality content...but sadly you have low viewership as you speak the truth which most people and men in general dont want to hear...keep doing the great work and thanks a lot for your videos

  • @problemsolution267
    @problemsolution267 Před 8 měsíci +7

    My husband says that "halwa hai kya ki bas shaadi ho gayi toh tujhe priority dunga? Mere parents ne mere liye sab kiya hai. Tune kya kiya hai? Agar achhi dowry milti ya tu mujhse jyada kamati toh mai consider bhi karta. Tujhe priority sacrifices aur kaam karne ke baad milegi, after 30 yrs. Basically, he prioritises the ones who has more contribution in his life. And blood relations r more important in his community n wives are considered an outsider unless he has spent 30 yrs with him n slogged n sacrificed for his family. Thats his n his community's idea of a wife or gfs like Luv Ranjan's films. Moms are angels n wives/gfs r cruel. My question is the wives starts prioritising her husband right from the day one of her marriage over her parents without the man sacrificing, slogging for her n her family or giving her a large sum of dowry? And the middle men who say that the girls see their salary before marriage is cuz she wants a stable life. Atleast she doesn't have to beg to her parents if u r in a financial crises or have an health issue. Otherwise, how much really does a man spend on his wife in a middle class family? The salary is mostly spent initially on his parents n siblings n then on the children. A middle class wife never spends the husband's money on herself, instead saves it for the time of crises. Just cuz the girls inquire ur salary before marriage doesn't justify ur demand for the dowry. And u spend ur income on ur parents cuz they raised u. Does ur wife do the household chores of her own parents cuz they raised her? A daughter never contributes anything to her own parents. Thats the reason sons r still more desirable. And if ur husband says that u do the household chores cuz u stay in my house n i feed u then a wife must answer that u r the one who has kept me in ur house n I'm feeding on ur salary, ur parents don't feed me. Why should I work for them? Do u earn for my parents cuz I work for u? U only feed me, not my parents. I too will only work for u, not ur parents. If marriage is business then so be it. Itne me itna hi milega.

    • @yavnikanegi094
      @yavnikanegi094 Před 4 měsíci

      I believe, such men shouldn’t marry! They should rather hire a househelp. Torturing a woman in the name of marriage is the cruelest thing happening in the society!!

    • @Terahydron
      @Terahydron Před 3 měsíci

      30 years wali baat sahi hey aise. Divorce hua to usko v biwi milna muskil ho jayega.
      30 years baad to biwi khud divorce nahi degi😂.
      India me we have assumed everyone should have family.
      That is putting a strain on us.
      People should be allowed to just have sex and never marry.
      There identity should be made public so no monogamist marry them.
      And everyone is happy

  • @sn2000
    @sn2000 Před rokem +19

    Aaaaa..... you should have posted this video 10yrs ago...too late now :(
    But I must say, there are mama's girls too. These mama's girls be on phone with their moms for minimum 2hrs a day and do idhar ka baat udhar and udhar ka baat idhar....
    every body needs to be independent....

  • @20dainty
    @20dainty Před 14 dny

    This happens in your own family also one sibling is so devited to the parents and justifies thier mistakes infront of other siblings.

  • @damomani6905
    @damomani6905 Před rokem +11

    Mother is the ultimate...wife/husband are secondary only. Basically a husband - wife relationship are transactional. Thats why it is very problematic. Like OSHO says without marriage most of the psychoanalysts and lawyers will be without job.

    • @gamesbond0074
      @gamesbond0074 Před rokem

      Right No Problem No Job

    • @mdg767
      @mdg767 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Then dont get married and spoil someones life simple

  • @EagleButterfly
    @EagleButterfly Před 6 měsíci +1

    I agree.. First I thought he love his parents it's a good quality.. Later that's becomes a problem. Even to speak, spend money and time, sit near me, to wear a dress they should choose they should allow. Etc

  • @prettyall
    @prettyall Před 8 měsíci

    OMG!!! So true!!

  • @sridevni
    @sridevni Před rokem +5

    I wish I had known this before marrying🙄

    • @mswr3351
      @mswr3351 Před 5 měsíci

      Muze pata chala before marriage.. now I am watching these videos and making myself cool that it’s good I got to know

  • @Madhra2k24
    @Madhra2k24 Před rokem +3

    *Superrrrrr !!! 👌*

  • @deenadhayalan9931
    @deenadhayalan9931 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Even its applicable for a man who is choosing his partner. Because, when a girl is folllwing her mama instructions, there will be no peace in home. Girl's mama will always poke their nose into a couples problem. Even choice of a man dress is decided by girls mama😂

    • @mswr3351
      @mswr3351 Před 5 měsíci +1

      This rarest thing to occure

  • @greenleaf7186
    @greenleaf7186 Před 10 měsíci +4

    Son has to love his mom. That is absolutely fine they can even give his money to his mom. But in my case my fiance ask to give my money too to his mom. Mother in law rule the house.I have to ask money if i need. If the reason is valuable my mother in law will give money. I accept for him. But slowly He shows his domination, egoistic, doesn't like in equal gender.

    • @Happysoul_3
      @Happysoul_3 Před 9 měsíci +1

      This is really sad. You should tell them that your parents have never asked you to hand over your money to them then how can they have the audacity to ask. Father in law and husband are enough to give your mother in law.

    • @greenleaf7186
      @greenleaf7186 Před 9 měsíci

      @@Happysoul_3 thank you for ur support mam/sir.

    • @_13456
      @_13456 Před 8 měsíci +1

      Take stand for yourself...tell them that it is your hard earned money and only you will decide where to spend it and whom to give it...if they agree then its fine otherwise leave him...dont think about the societal pressure...after marriage they will rip you off your money...youll be begging for your own money...its called economic slavery

    • @greenleaf7186
      @greenleaf7186 Před 7 měsíci +2

      ​@@_13456thank you for your support sir. I actually called off the marriage because of his character

    • @yavnikanegi094
      @yavnikanegi094 Před 4 měsíci

      Happy that you realised early on and saved yourself a lifetime of misery! ✨

  • @Shil131
    @Shil131 Před rokem

    Every girl should know these. But it’s not that easy.

  • @praseeda7070
    @praseeda7070 Před rokem +3

    My father and his siblings are ike this ..they just justify grandma bad behaviours and my father always gave importance to his family over ours ..now he is experiencing the after effects

  • @anthanth8713
    @anthanth8713 Před 10 měsíci +2

    This goes both ways actually…. There are women who does the same

  • @vcgowda8306
    @vcgowda8306 Před 3 měsíci

    Very true .. I ruled out my ex with this trait, when he came back I did ask him these questions. He said he need a day time,😃 I knew why so, did confront him “want to discuss with family?” He was silent 😂😂. Between its mama boy and also papa’s boy.And is papa is a big criminal minded person. Thank you for helping me . I was under total manipulation, gaslighting.. and what not. They always made it feel like am the issue when I vocal my opinion. Best part is his father asked his son..my ex to break up, since I have a dream to buy a house for my single parent. That too before marriage.karma has there back for using my feelings, love, trust and efforts.

  • @ankitaaush5027
    @ankitaaush5027 Před 18 dny

    Marriage is a gamble. That's it. Here, it is impossible to know a person before marriage.
    Mat he karo shadi sabse best hai

  • @jayashreepawaskar8062
    @jayashreepawaskar8062 Před 8 měsíci

    Thank you😢😢❤

  • @aranshataneja3984
    @aranshataneja3984 Před rokem +1

    im also in the same situation... your video is 7 yrs late Shridhar...

  • @SamSam-tp2md
    @SamSam-tp2md Před 3 měsíci

    This vedio is made on my life.
    Now, I feel as marriage is a big mistake of one's life .

  • @zarnashah5833
    @zarnashah5833 Před 8 měsíci +1

    I married to a mamma's ; papa's and sister's boy.. I get to know this after marriage...

  • @therebelliousdreamer215
    @therebelliousdreamer215 Před 3 měsíci

    I'm dealing with the same problem, the guy I've been dating for last 1.5 years, is totally biased and only supports his mother instead of knowing that his mother was wrong and tried to break our relationship. I was so helpless that I didn't know what to do but this is definitely a red flag and it's still not too late so I'm going to break up with that guy. Just because I loved that person too much, I tolerated every insult done by both the mother and his son but enough is enough.

  • @vaishaligupta5513
    @vaishaligupta5513 Před 6 měsíci +1

    It's really so ossam video
    Befor marriage I always make fun about other how they each n every tym complain about their inlaws and husband
    But since last year,I continuously making complaint against my in-laws nd husband..
    In word there are only tiny problems but together they are like mountains
    And above all,if husband is mamms boy,then lyf really becomes hell
    My MIL choice becomes husband choice,his color taste, curtain liking, bedsheet color,rice taste everything changes as per my MIL
    My mIL complaint dat my father sent contro rice ie cheap rice, sudden my other in-laws nd my so much educated hubby find tasteless those qualitative rice

  • @preetim2564
    @preetim2564 Před rokem +1

    But wen already suffering all these..wat to do? Is it right to get separated

  • @problemsolution267
    @problemsolution267 Před 8 měsíci

    Sorry for my too elaborate comments but want to give clear picture of whats happening around.

  • @anjalinaik2844
    @anjalinaik2844 Před rokem

    I would like to share my problems in life and how i am coming out of them. How should I contact you?

  • @swethaanand1274
    @swethaanand1274 Před rokem

    Please do a part 2 of this vedio..

  • @ashishranjan9500
    @ashishranjan9500 Před rokem +3

    But what if someone is the only child of his/her parents and he/she needs to take care of them due to old age? Like, in that case too the guy/girl should move out with his/her spouse just to favour their career? 🤔🤔

    • @_13456
      @_13456 Před 8 měsíci +3

      You should live separately near your parents' home or somewhere in that city...so that you can take care of your parents and privacy of the houses can be maintained and everyone can live according to their wishes...but dont let anybody interfere in others matters...use your own brain..dont be under the influence of anybody..

    • @_13456
      @_13456 Před 8 měsíci +2

      Harsh truth is your mother/father wont live with you leaving his/her spouse..that shows marriage is the most important relation in life...but parents generally expects their son to choose them over his wife

  • @samadhanjadhav4225
    @samadhanjadhav4225 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Watching this video I can say I am perfect man 🎉🎉

  • @reshmaroselinemony6267
    @reshmaroselinemony6267 Před rokem +1

    Wt will you do if you married a mamas boy

  • @ravindrabosamiya9837
    @ravindrabosamiya9837 Před rokem +1

    make same video for men also

  • @saurabhraut5135
    @saurabhraut5135 Před 5 měsíci

    In brief ...he is suggesting to be single

  • @Kathakathan11
    @Kathakathan11 Před 8 měsíci +1

    How to become a therapist?

  • @sharanyahebbar4904
    @sharanyahebbar4904 Před rokem +2

    I'm confused....! Actually even though I knw him closely as bestfriend we started a relationship few months back.. i have seen him and his family closely... His elder brother is far from home so my boy is living with his parents... His brother is able take decision independently as he is far, parents opinion might not affecting him so much..but in my boy case he could not even say no to some things or he could not stand for his opinions.....i have been saying him to stand for his decisions but there is no much improvement.... Since he is not saying his opinion his parents don't get that they will thnk as he agreed to the point bt in reality he is not.,
    Now I could not completely blame both...how to decide who is right or wrong...
    Or any suggestions to solve this situation plzz....!

    • @Antimgupta16
      @Antimgupta16 Před 7 měsíci

      My nly suggestion dont marry dear…u will end in big trap trust me

    • @yavnikanegi094
      @yavnikanegi094 Před 4 měsíci

      Run for your life if you don’t wish to get entrapped in this crazy cycle!
      However, give therapy a try but only if he is also willing to change himself for the better. Mostly, these guys don’t know any better than this.
      But, you’d need to have a lot of patience. Do it only if you’re so in love with him, and literally sure that he also loves you.
      IMO, men who suffer with this mumma’s boy issue are rarely capable of loving a female other than his own mother.

    • @Antimgupta16
      @Antimgupta16 Před 4 měsíci

      @@yavnikanegi094how much he loves her he will choose nly mother nt her…they are incapable of taking dicision by own…they are nly grown up by age not my mind…just run away be single but never marry mammas boy…she z lucky she got to knw before marriage

    • @Terahydron
      @Terahydron Před 3 měsíci

      ​@@yavnikanegi094even women would love poor men of stay single this won't happen. Rich guys who don't earn often become dependent on their parents

    • @Terahydron
      @Terahydron Před 3 měsíci

      If

  • @iarpanbose
    @iarpanbose Před 3 měsíci

    Agreed with 99% of the things you told but what if the parents are old and have healthy issues and dependent on their son? Will the guy still leave his parents alone and move to another city just bcoz his wife needs to move? Is it morally correct?

  • @shalinivjaiswal
    @shalinivjaiswal Před 8 měsíci +1

    I got this video very late as i already got married to a person like mummas boy. Can you pls share a video about how to tackle this type of man.

    • @tarunkushwah1131
      @tarunkushwah1131 Před 7 měsíci

      see , till now u have understood the emotional , intellectual and understanding level of him , if he is well in that then u should talk with him about what u want and tell the feelings u feel about him , tell how want u spent time with him etc.
      If dosen't value you and your opinions then it is tough nut to crack but a tactic can be played on trial basis , increase the time and dedication with his parents as he and his parents want ,but on the other hand reduce the emotional ,intellectual and physical with him gradualy and then least possible .

  • @indiramadala2228
    @indiramadala2228 Před rokem +2

    I do respect your opinion Mr.Sridhar. Because I myself faced a lot of problems because of such thought process. But now a days it's getting reversed also. So what you advise can happen in both the cases. It's not right for the girls also to be "Sravan kumari"

  • @Pingpkb23
    @Pingpkb23 Před rokem +6

    Please make a video on how to avoid a papa ki pari

  • @sheelarani4392
    @sheelarani4392 Před 3 měsíci

    Mama boy atleast they can't like their own blood even though they are highly qualified.I am suffering from 6 yrs

  • @pixie89
    @pixie89 Před měsícem

    👍

  • @lovelygrace3094
    @lovelygrace3094 Před 9 měsíci

    I wish i knew this before marriage but now its too late...i repent now

  • @poonammehta7706
    @poonammehta7706 Před rokem +1

    What should I do if someone who I am dating is spends alot time hanging out with his friends... Staying late till night and playing group online games with friends...should I marry such guy??

  • @mansukh41
    @mansukh41 Před měsícem

    What an absurd thought process

  • @tanusreemukherjee315
    @tanusreemukherjee315 Před rokem

    👏👏👏

  • @sanghatidas3616
    @sanghatidas3616 Před rokem +1

    😅 this is the reason of my divorce

  • @pb1248
    @pb1248 Před 3 měsíci

    So much against mama's boy ,..... actually mama's, boy are the ones who really cares abt u in future.....and will treat u with so much respect and be a ferocious protector

  • @jennifermorais4160
    @jennifermorais4160 Před 7 měsíci

    Are there any content on red flags regarding women?

  • @RRCS509
    @RRCS509 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Pehle to maa ko pyar karne wala biwi ko bahut acha rakhega kah kar bolte the which is wrong.independently o decision nahi kar sakta aur kuch bhi nahi.They destroy wife life.Mental trauma upar se so be safe.check 7 generation formula is best for both sides

  • @drsareekakatkuriphysiother5376

    Who asks such questions on a date.. what curtains colourway etc

    • @pixie89
      @pixie89 Před 7 měsíci +1

      Not date but such things should be discussed before marrying someone.

  • @ghkhari1709
    @ghkhari1709 Před 2 měsíci

    This is reversed in my case who will listens only decision from their family & not bothering me ...instead of me & my family
    Pls talk about mom's daughter & daddy little prince ..

    • @keerthynair5961
      @keerthynair5961 Před měsícem

      Parents are equally responsible for spoiling their daughter or son

  • @Blissfull__artistry
    @Blissfull__artistry Před 5 měsíci

    I married twice and got diversed... As a Indian I lost my life...

  • @veer431
    @veer431 Před 4 měsíci

    Make video for boyz, i just meeting girls who are social media and me me ego addicated. Dont want to go town, want city life only, dont need mommdad.. Dont want to share things.. How can i go with such girl..

  • @pankkaj.sharrma
    @pankkaj.sharrma Před 6 měsíci +1

    The questions and the correct answers expected are wrong.
    Its not bad for a guy to take care of his parents. It should be bad for him to leave his parents in old age and disease to just go in other state to live his life. What a moron would he and his wife would be.
    But if he is staying with his parents and take care of them he should divide the work equally with wife. He should also take stand for his wife. He should also respect his wife's parents. That would be more real person.
    If he can take care of either his wife or only his parents it means that he is selfish. With everyone we live there will be confrontation but one shall not run from them.
    (here I am leaving out thise scenarios where either parents or wife are too toxic. That can change the equation drastically.)
    In short, man should be one who can take responsibility and stand for what is right and who also knows how to create sane environment around him.

    • @debalinapandit2248
      @debalinapandit2248 Před 2 měsíci

      And what about wife's parents?

    • @pankkaj.sharrma
      @pankkaj.sharrma Před 2 měsíci

      @@debalinapandit2248 Wife's brothers should take care of them. But if she has no brother or her brothers left her parents then the groom and wife both should take care of wife's parents just like his own parents.
      In any case an old parent should never suffer.

  • @prabinprabhakar4687
    @prabinprabhakar4687 Před 11 dny

    How many women side wid der parents 😂😂😂

  • @ishasharma8408
    @ishasharma8408 Před rokem

    If a boy says in arranged marriage if needs a baby untill we turn 35 ...is it ok?

    • @nikitafernandes461
      @nikitafernandes461 Před 10 měsíci

      For me in an arrange marriage set up a boy told me can you adjust with me if I want to have two kids

    • @_13456
      @_13456 Před 8 měsíci +1

      If you think the same way, then its ok...otherwise leave him...such decisions should be taken mutually and not forced on to the partner.

  • @problemsolution267
    @problemsolution267 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Nuclear families r need of an hour but men of this generation (in their 30s) are typical mumma's boy thanks to f*ckin Luv Ranjan's n other such bollywood movies n its conditioning . They feel mom's an angel n wife an outsider witch. And in many urban cities, the parents, even if healthy enough to tc of themselves are living with the decently earning son, not the less earning son. They torture that son's wife n impose their dominance on her saying that they have the first right their son. And these parents, in many cases, the fathers havent earned only for survival n havent either secured their old age or inherited anything to the sons but inherited all their responsibility to the wealthiest son.

    • @mswr3351
      @mswr3351 Před 6 měsíci

      Best thing is no not marry the elder son.. sons are programmed in such a way that they are born only to serve the family .

  • @maitrayparikh321
    @maitrayparikh321 Před rokem

    Thumbnail😆

  • @lonelylunatic
    @lonelylunatic Před 7 měsíci +1

    Papa k pariyo ko tension aa gya

  • @Sports590
    @Sports590 Před 5 měsíci +3

    But I have seen a Man who Over-Respected his Wife above his own Parents and ended up being Disrespected by her 😂
    Rules don't work 😂

  • @mdg767
    @mdg767 Před 4 měsíci

    Dont feel like getting married at all man

  • @ThePareshkhaneja
    @ThePareshkhaneja Před rokem +2

    Toxic and biased mindset. Life lessons must apply to everyone in this society and not only to specific gender.

  • @garima5487
    @garima5487 Před 2 měsíci

    But I want to marry you 😂

  • @mswr3351
    @mswr3351 Před 5 měsíci

    Ye questions puchne k bad ladka bhag hi jayega… boys these days are like Sharavan Kumar… they r like my parents comes first .. wife needs to compromise

    • @yavnikanegi094
      @yavnikanegi094 Před 4 měsíci

      Bhaag gaya to acha hai na, bina time and emotions waste kiye pata chal jaega sach. Baad mei rone se toh achha he hai.

  • @CoachAmritMishra
    @CoachAmritMishra Před rokem +3

    now day girls ask one thing : how much you earn.
    done deal 🤣

  • @TechnoTweet
    @TechnoTweet Před rokem +1

    What about mama's girl whose mother be on phone all the time and spoil the life of her own daughter ?

    • @_13456
      @_13456 Před 8 měsíci

      Dont marry a person who has no brains of own...who's under influence of his/her parents, friends, siblings...who doesnt stand for himself/herself and take decisions himself/herself...applie to both the gender

    • @drnaishadhpatel4399
      @drnaishadhpatel4399 Před 8 měsíci +1

      That's what nobody wants to discuss....in society always husband and parents are questionable not wife's parents

  • @sg_j1547
    @sg_j1547 Před 5 měsíci

    My bf is a mammaz boy. Hasu ya rodu 😂😂

  • @madhavapai4684
    @madhavapai4684 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Apke customer bahut banenge. Aise hi bakwas batein pehlate rahiye. 😂

  • @caughtontext9526
    @caughtontext9526 Před 7 měsíci

    Im mamas boy lol 😂

  • @misty-ki8zi
    @misty-ki8zi Před 3 měsíci

    Bhai tum to ghr tutwa doge aesi chhoti moti baate to hr ghr m hoti h ...😂😂