4 shady things partners do, that are cheating in reality | Therapist's Advice | 22

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  • I’m Shridhar, a Counselling Psychologist. I share with you 4 shady things partners do, that are cheating in reality.
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    0:00 Intro
    0:41 Shady things that partners do #1 Deleting chats
    2:29 Shady things that partners do #2 Acting on the attraction
    4:44 Shady things that partners do #3 Leading the other person on
    6:45 Shady things that partners do #4 Getting close but denying
    9:21 Conclusion
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Komentáře • 59

  • @Shridharlifeschooling
    @Shridharlifeschooling  Před rokem +1

    To share your problems or feedback fill the form: forms.gle/n3SAakwChceESJp47

  • @prabhachugh1028
    @prabhachugh1028 Před rokem +11

    So true Shridhar sir.. You just spoke my heart out ❤❤❤ Transparency is the key for a successful marriage.

  • @themillennialyoutuber
    @themillennialyoutuber Před 6 měsíci +2

    I think you should make more videos like these so that it’s easy to put this in a man’s head because a woman saying this would be clearly not taken in good faith.
    Thank you so much! I am taking sessions from Shridhar life school and believe me they are the best!

  • @manjushreeinamdar1242
    @manjushreeinamdar1242 Před rokem +24

    Your wife is lucky

  • @anukumar8389
    @anukumar8389 Před rokem +3

    Bang on , you nailed each point just perfectly 👌

  • @tanusreemukherjee315
    @tanusreemukherjee315 Před rokem +3

    i saw many quarries about transparency, people are not agreeable to his opinion but trust me it's easy to be transparent rather than hiding

  • @smitasharma8977
    @smitasharma8977 Před rokem +2

    Wow
    What a clarity ?
    Gr8 daring to explain it so well
    Thanks u. So much

  • @pjpammyj4037
    @pjpammyj4037 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Thank you sir. I appreciate your forthrightness about transparency in a monogamous relationship. It is unpopular to people who act like their single, when married, on social media. If you have to lock your cell and never discuss anything, just be single.

  • @MohitKumar-pv7df
    @MohitKumar-pv7df Před rokem +8

    Really hope this channel gets the deserved attention and reach, you guys do a really great job!!

  • @dd-tn8ur
    @dd-tn8ur Před rokem +1

    Amazing as always sir💙🤎

  • @sweetyteli3599
    @sweetyteli3599 Před 9 měsíci

    Very well explained 👌

  • @iuj1112
    @iuj1112 Před 11 měsíci +3

    Boyfriend is proud of whatever shady nonsense he does beind my back...and feels that I had made his life hell by having his Instagram and not letting him approach or flirt.

  • @loveshell007
    @loveshell007 Před 7 měsíci +1

    If my friend tells me that she found out her husband is gay, it will not be ethical to share it with my partner. Some secrets are too scandalous and have the power to ruin lives. One has to use discretion.

  • @mightyguy079
    @mightyguy079 Před rokem +3

    Many a times hum aisi chats krte hai apne frnds se ya normally kisi purane school frnd se jisko dekh ke partner jealous hi hoga jbki waha jealous hone wala ground nhi hoga, simply friendly talks ko bhi partners bada chada ke dekhte hai ki pta nhi kya hi kr rhe, chats dikhane mai koi issue nhi pr partner ka hr kisi ki chat pe disproportionate reaction aate tb? Chahe ladka ho ya ladki kisi se baat kro, usko prblm hi hogi...itni baat kyu kr ri, itni lambi baat kyu kr ri, itni friendly baat kyu kr ri ? Meri kl chat hui apne school frnd se about anime only, ab koi anime dekhne wala mil jae toh chat ka level hi alg hota hai, mera partner vo chat dekhega toh I knw vo kaha ki baat kahi aur hi leke jaega chahe mai kitni hi loyal Rahi hu hmesha

  • @Gnanapriya98
    @Gnanapriya98 Před 5 měsíci

    100%CORRECT

  • @jahnabidas8649
    @jahnabidas8649 Před 3 měsíci

    I totally agree with you. Monogamy can feel so much better than being in constant change in partners. I have been through this road and i would not recommend it at all. If i could i want to delete my past but sadly i cannot😢😢😢 so please guys its true. Being with a partner without having to hide anything in your relationship is a bliss

  • @virensridhar4079
    @virensridhar4079 Před 9 měsíci +1

    The only thing I don't agree with in this video is transparency...Well, couples must of course be transparent with each other, but transparent about each and every thing? About even the secrets that other people tell us? I don't think so...
    For instance, let's say you have a very close friend who has lost a job and is depressed, and confides in you about it because he trusts you, because you are his very close friend, and doesn't want you to share this with anyone. Should you still share it with your spouse? I don't think so. In my opinion, this would be completely wrong, and would be breaking your friend's trust. What your friend has shared with you is something pertaining to his life, and has nothing to do with your spouse or with you and your spouse's life or relationship together. So your spouse actually doesn't have the right to know your friend's secret. Your friend has the right to decide who should know how much about his life...after all it's details pertaining to his life...
    What is your opinion?

    • @Terahydron
      @Terahydron Před 3 měsíci

      just tell him that its not romantic or friendly matter. then show him and promise him that if he ever judges your friend you would leave him. not because your friend is more important , but because you promise to your friend is like your partners promise because you are one team. if he cant honour your promise then whats the point

  • @theeyeopener1033
    @theeyeopener1033 Před 9 měsíci

    Yup... Drop them...like rain&tears🥵...it's there way of thinking that is the mistake ...the behavior is just a result of ...or just wait until they change there way of thinking ..& when your done you could come & keep cleaning my messe😃👍

  • @shubha2308
    @shubha2308 Před rokem +10

    My partner has no right to know what my friend or sibling or any other person shares with me (which has nothing to do with my relationship with my partner) and expects me to keep it a secret. I don't share close relationship only with my partner. I have to maintain integrity in my other relationships, too. It is not practical to allow each other to have access to each other's emails or chats or call logs. In earlier times when we used to receive letters through post, we would never open any letter addressed to any other person in the family. The same respect and trust must be observed in this digital era as well.
    Besides friends and relatives I may be under an obligation to keep secrets of my clients or patients or my employer. So checking each other's mails and call logs and chats is neither proper nor practical.

    • @indiraUS
      @indiraUS Před rokem +4

      I too think so Even my friend's secret I am supposed to keep it with me right? Why she want to expose herself to my partner too..

    • @ts7371
      @ts7371 Před rokem +5

      Agreed. It is ok to have one's space and privacy. What this guy is suggesting sounds stalkerish and paranoia about getting into the partner's business. Not nice behaviour. Very stupid advice and hence unsubbed.

    • @sowmyagangahanumaiah4310
      @sowmyagangahanumaiah4310 Před rokem

      @@ts7371 😂

    • @dd-tn8ur
      @dd-tn8ur Před rokem +2

      @@ts7371 dont marry then

    • @anukumar8389
      @anukumar8389 Před rokem +7

      I think you just missed his point, he said everything that concerns him and you both as a couple. He is not talking anything about someone else's personal matters. Just because you hold someone's secret, it's not yours ok. If you think monogamy is a farce, then this is not for you.

  • @archanadikshit8188
    @archanadikshit8188 Před rokem +1

    👍👌

  • @manjulagovindaiah1060
    @manjulagovindaiah1060 Před rokem +4

    My husband started deleting chats which he ahd with his female colleague ..day n nights chats after my delivery when I was in mom's place ended up having relationship with her ...n hid n locked his phone ..I could find out only after 10 long years...when questioned before was shut my mouth saying she has tied Rakhi n like my sister ...she became friend his special friend n later his life ..but eh doesn't want me to give divorce n go n marry her ..but wants to stay with me...three years later I m still trying to come out of this trauma.. n elders will not support females n put too much pressure on us saying we have kids especially daughters ..men better change

    • @vlog_with_saba
      @vlog_with_saba Před 3 měsíci

      Atleast you should cheat like he did with you,let his karma slap him hard😂, believe me you feel nice 👍

  • @JenniAlbert
    @JenniAlbert Před rokem

    Hi Jennifer Charles separate from 9 years I'm staying in the mother the house family problems

  • @richierich9723
    @richierich9723 Před rokem +1

    What about those partners who know everything about you when you are fully transparent just to use it to comment or torture you later on.....and put every possible restriction like you can't talk to opposite gender ...not for any reason and try to limit and restrict your world just in them just because they feel insecure???

    • @tanusreemukherjee315
      @tanusreemukherjee315 Před rokem +5

      though I am not suppose to answer this question, cos I am not sridhar,but would like to answer this
      when you are choosing your partner you must be aware of his character, you must identify what kind of person he is, that is why shridhar told us take time to choose a partner

    • @Terahydron
      @Terahydron Před 3 měsíci

      leave them

  • @shikhaverma8367
    @shikhaverma8367 Před 10 dny

    Ah what about midlife crisis

  • @comicalgamer7820
    @comicalgamer7820 Před 7 měsíci

    Pls make video in Hindi also ❤

  • @mightyguy079
    @mightyguy079 Před rokem

    Frnds ya siblings aapas mai bht si aisi baatein share krte hai jisko leke vo bht sensitive hote hai , bht baatein aisi hoti hai jo aap as a frnd smjhoge pr baki log judge krenge including ur own partner, supposedly my frnd did something stupid in a relationship nd i go on to tell my partner he will make judgements on her or maybe on my friendship with her...ya toh partner aisa ho jo smjhe tb to koi baat nhi... Dekho hr insan life mai bht si befkoofi krta hai , sbne ki hai, mjhe ladko ke aise aise secrets btaye the mere ex ne ki cant even tell aur uske frnd ne itni badi baat usko kitne trust ke sath btai hogi ... Dusro ka secret jaan-ne mai maza sbko aata hai pr khudke sath aisa ho toh koi pasand nhi krega. Tum sbke secrets tumhare dist apni bandiyo ko btane lge toh btana kaisa lgta hai!!

    • @Terahydron
      @Terahydron Před 3 měsíci

      everyone knows couples talk

  • @kunalgaba6595
    @kunalgaba6595 Před 7 měsíci

    Stop screwing relationships for money... Do something productive.

  • @DuoIndo
    @DuoIndo Před 3 měsíci

    Sorry not agree for this video
    My partner is very shaqqi even he creates chais with my parents chats and siblings chats even with his sisters, and hus sisters donot want this that he came to know about chats

  • @panktislifestyle2354
    @panktislifestyle2354 Před 7 měsíci

    R u single? 😂

  • @sowmyagangahanumaiah4310

    I guess you are still in your 30s shridhar that s why you are giving these tips .when men hits 40 .men are men.nothing can stop them😂.i guess u too normalize thesee microcheating when u hit 40.but anyways it's nice to hear from a man s mouth.

    • @shamithacn
      @shamithacn Před rokem

      😅oh gowd😅😅😅

    • @meghananemlekar8411
      @meghananemlekar8411 Před rokem

      Actually....he has emphasised on monogamy...but in reality....according to Osho....nor man neither woman is monogamous by nature...both are polygamous.....we can't stay with one husband or one wife....in a lifetime....it's boredom after few years in marriage...but just fr the sake of kids...we are bound to stay together

    • @dd-tn8ur
      @dd-tn8ur Před rokem +2

      @@meghananemlekar8411then for u, better not to get married like osho did

    • @sowmyagangahanumaiah4310
      @sowmyagangahanumaiah4310 Před rokem

      ​​monogamous is fine
      It is needed for relationship to sustain...what is he talking is about micro managing partners behaviour..which no partner would agree...everyone has their private space..they have their talks with their friends which need not be sharedword by word to partners.partner is not a mother to report everything with whom n what we talk .but both partners should know where to draw boundary when they have friends of opposite sex.but invading privacy of others not giving space to partners will give rise to crack in relationship.

    • @Terahydron
      @Terahydron Před 3 měsíci

      @@meghananemlekar8411 iska koi proof? psychology has no proof like cardiology. we havent got any physical evidece how brain works, only corealrtion . psychology is an accrual science . just because Osho said so doesn't make it real. 50% are polygamous. 50% are monogamous. my guess is 90% of ugly people and 10% of beautiful people are polygamous. because they arent ever satisfied.
      after that sexed up society can fry your brain

  • @De-tw7by
    @De-tw7by Před rokem +1

    He is making marriage very miserable. It is impossible to keep everything open.

    • @sowmyagangahanumaiah4310
      @sowmyagangahanumaiah4310 Před rokem +2

      As per him eye contact to strangers is also micro cheating i guess.we have to bend our head n walk on streets without seeing people face.

    • @Terahydron
      @Terahydron Před 3 měsíci

      it is possible. if you are clean in heart and don't have a formal marriage you can share everything