Making your partner do what you want | 13 Do's and Don'ts

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  • čas přidán 15. 06. 2024
  • I’m Shridhar, a Counselling Psychologist. I share with you dos and don'ts when it comes to making your partner do something for you.
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    0:00 Intro
    0:11 How not to make your partner do something #1 Focus on what's lacking
    0:41 How not to make your partner do something #2 Demanding and ordering
    1:21 How not to make your partner do something #3 Comparing with others
    2:30 How not to make your partner do something #4 Personal attacks
    3:04 How not to make your partner do something #5 Threats of leaving
    4:09 How not to make your partner do something #6 Taunting
    5:12 How not to make your partner do something #7 Verbal or physical abuse
    5:59 How not to make your partner do something #8 Silent treatment
    7:40 How to make your partner do something #1 Use reason and logic
    9:30 How to make your partner do something #2 Use reciprocation
    11:01 How to make your partner do something #3 Use love
    12:08 Bonus guidelines #1 Always be prepared for a No
    13:43 Bonus guidelines #2 If it's your desire, you do it
    14:25 Do your thoughts need air ventilation?

Komentáře • 40

  • @Shridharlifeschooling

    To share your problems or feedback fill the form: forms.gle/n3SAakwChceESJp47

  • @veerendra1997
    @veerendra1997 Před rokem +4

    Wonderful! I think this advice applies to all kinds of relationships be it couples, friends and family and even parent-child relationships as well!

  • @chiccharipidugulu1692
    @chiccharipidugulu1692 Před rokem +1

    As always another useful and great Video😊

  • @sweetyteli3599
    @sweetyteli3599 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Thanks a lot for detailed guidance 🙏

  • @abinashsahoo3239
    @abinashsahoo3239 Před 4 měsíci

    One of the best video of this channel.

  • @mona-ht9zd
    @mona-ht9zd Před rokem +1

    Wat a video👌🏻 keep it up man.. gbu🤩🙌

  • @nilofarattar6294
    @nilofarattar6294 Před rokem +1

    Dats lovely.... thank you so much ❤️

  • @dikshamahendru2388
    @dikshamahendru2388 Před 2 měsíci

    U speak really well...reality... I will surely watch Ll of ur videos

  • @princetharak
    @princetharak Před rokem +1

    Ur amazing ur very helpful to me love ur videos

  • @jayashripattar3918
    @jayashripattar3918 Před 3 měsíci

    Really very nice talk ❤

  • @manjut4005
    @manjut4005 Před rokem +1

    Great thoughts

  • @amarrookie1097
    @amarrookie1097 Před 5 měsíci +1

    What if you are living with a narcissist and can’t leave him .
    Please make a video about that

  • @rashmikhanduri329
    @rashmikhanduri329 Před rokem +2

    Shridhar you are awesome

  • @rakshithajanani5823
    @rakshithajanani5823 Před rokem +1

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🤐no words brother

  • @limpalora8178
    @limpalora8178 Před 6 měsíci

    Really helpful ...

  • @nandinimadanala2334
    @nandinimadanala2334 Před rokem +2

    Wonderful 🎉

  • @hetalchawda673
    @hetalchawda673 Před 5 měsíci

    Very learning happen sir, Thanks lot, please talk slowly to batter understand 🙏😊💐

  • @HasdaRocks
    @HasdaRocks Před 3 měsíci

    Now, I see problems in things which I used to Ignore. 😩

  • @chocomellie
    @chocomellie Před rokem +1

    After requesting and asking for more help in household: it still not makes a different. Also if i tell it is
    My love language and i feel unappreciated.

  • @sg_j1547
    @sg_j1547 Před 5 měsíci

    My partner keeps me blocked most of the time. So he doesn't listen to what I say and I don't know where he is. Complete peace. 😊😂❤

  • @shikhaverma8367
    @shikhaverma8367 Před 2 dny

    If it is going to be a solo journey then what is the need for a partner

  • @rupalipalit2773
    @rupalipalit2773 Před 2 měsíci

    Thank u..bt it is not possible for me to make him understand that we need quality time ..we should talk.. if I m thinking on this then he should also feel the same na bt he is very much busy always.. and I don't want to ask him or force him for the time..

  • @anamika2688
    @anamika2688 Před rokem +1

    Make Vedio on dominating and conservative in law’s

    • @anshmittal3098
      @anshmittal3098 Před rokem

      I don't think it can be fixed
      Best solution is to do job and if you like tqking care of children than a person cqn try work from home qnd have a kam vali bai so that they can have time for part time

  • @apnizindgi8395
    @apnizindgi8395 Před rokem +1

    ABI Jo video upload kiye tha wo delete kyu kiya

  • @bharatr2615
    @bharatr2615 Před 5 měsíci

    Either you follow all rules... relationship fails if the marriage is based on cheating...

  • @anonymousbutthetruth.135

    We are in a quite new relationship, but yes serious one. Due to our highly competitive studies preparation we are involved with ourselves to some extent. But he's actually communicating to me too less, not replying for my msgs even. At this time, I wanna know sharing this video will be which kinda of act. Isn't it staying silent n asking him to learn how can a relationship work. Isn't it rude at times

    • @anshmittal3098
      @anshmittal3098 Před rokem

      Rather than making him watch video
      Just sit with him discuss things with sweet talk and try to explain him like in this video
      And also share your feelings by telling why want this

  • @hianisargee6443
    @hianisargee6443 Před rokem +2

    I have literally tried all these do's and don'ts before even seeing this video.The result is a big zero.Logic becomes useless when I am dealing with him.

    • @anshmittal3098
      @anshmittal3098 Před rokem

      Well it basically means your partner is not ready to give sone efforts and a relationship can not work for long with only one givng efforts
      So its up to him if he wants to save yhe relationship

  • @Shri_Laksh
    @Shri_Laksh Před rokem +1

    I need some assistance in terms of financial terms post marriage.. the guy i am thinking to marry, doesnt have a regular income, it is only based on the projects he get.. he needed financial support to run the family(my income too) he said.. i asked him, what if i need a break from career or if i needed break after we have kids, he said he wont be able to manage without my income.. he wanted me to work atleast he gets income and we get settled in life(not sure how long this will take).. what should i do in this case.. i already have responsibility to tc of the expenses of my parents.. and i feel i may be having additional responsibilities of taking care of his family or expenses too..

    • @anshmittal3098
      @anshmittal3098 Před rokem

      I think you should ask its solition from a professional
      It will take some fees but definitely they will give good solution

  • @shivangisingh395
    @shivangisingh395 Před 5 měsíci

    My man doesn't takr stand for me what to do??
    His friend's mother has little bit of knowledge of astrology she said wrong things about me and instead of supporting me he said why i said bad thing about his mothers friend what to do??

  • @DuoIndo
    @DuoIndo Před 2 měsíci

    Point 10... My husband starts my character assassinations
    And just after 1/2 an hour or next morning he wants to make a happy sex relationship with him.
    How should I react? What u expect from me Nd the worst part is we both are running in 50s

  • @tithi214
    @tithi214 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Why though? Ye jhamela sar par paalna hi kyun ki you have to make somebody fully grown-up listen to you in the first place ? You do you, let the other person do them. 😅 Both at peace separately.

  • @DuoIndo
    @DuoIndo Před 2 měsíci

    Sir I understand your effort and want to share with my partner but I can't bcz I m not in state of listening the counter attack.
    Mai aapke points sunti hoon samjhti hoin aur khud pr hi apply krti hoon.
    I pray to universe some day he also connect to you.
    Thanks for your efforts

  • @jayalakshmi9513
    @jayalakshmi9513 Před rokem +1

    My husband tried all the way(abusing, silent treatment, beating, fighting, arguing) to get my salary. He started abusing me along with his family from 1st month of marriage. I was pregnant in 3rd month of my marriage, he and his family tried all the way to abort it. Even after delivery he tortured me with his family. From last one year me and baby are staying in the separate house. Now in last 4 months my husband is staying with us. But now I don't like to be with him. He never realized what he did, just for name sake he is staying with us. He wanted some reason to leave us. This is what he did for last 3 years. Everyone are asking me to forget the past and live with him. But I couldn't forget what he did. I explained these things to him, he didn't care about what am saying. Simply approaching me for sex. I don't like him, I hate his behavior. Till now am taking care of baby and me financially. He is just staying with us. He never took care of baby or me.

    • @anshmittal3098
      @anshmittal3098 Před rokem +1

      Their is only solution for q such a case
      Just divorce
      1st i want to tell i am that type of person who will try to fix marraige till lqst breath but in your case its just toxic abusive behavior of your husband
      Their is no way it will workout
      Qnd also by your description i feel your baby is danger
      Why if you ask
      A baby learn things from pqrents
      If he watch you both growing up their qre many chances he or she will get in toxic relationship too
      Its a psychological thing which some psychologist find out with surveys and study human behaviour

    • @jayalakshmi9513
      @jayalakshmi9513 Před rokem

      @@anshmittal3098 yeah, even am worried about my daughter future... she might start hating opp gender by seeing us