19 pieces of advice you didn't ask for but need to hear

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  • čas přidán 31. 05. 2024
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    Chapters:
    00:00 - Introduction
    00:13 - It's ok to let people go
    00:37 - Adults aren't always right
    01:00 - Memento mori
    01:40 - You choose your purpose
    02:10 - Spoil someone while supporting the environment
    04:12 - Don't isolate yourself
    04:54 - Don't ignore the opinions of your loved ones
    05:09 - You'll get over your first hearbreak
    05:12 - Make reading more accessible
    05:31 - Give yourself approval
    05:58 - I live by my calendar
    06:25 - Ask yourself questions that make you think
    06:57 - Don't be a half-asser
    07:24 - Don't assume, ask
    07:28 - Plan but be open to something different
    07:59 - Don't wait around for opportunties
    08:11 - Be less reactive and pick your battles
    08:42 - Regret hurts more than rejection
    08:44 - You're stronger than you think
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  • @LanaBlakely
    @LanaBlakely  Před rokem +137

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    • @NatureDaydream
      @NatureDaydream Před rokem +1

      Lord Fred and Lady Lana. 🥰

    • @randomchannel8912
      @randomchannel8912 Před rokem

      I am lord STEVEN

    • @EllenHawknight
      @EllenHawknight Před rokem +1

      Another Lady over here! :D

    • @drewmanize212
      @drewmanize212 Před rokem +1

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    • @Fernadotube
      @Fernadotube Před rokem

      meow 😻😻😻😻🐱🐱😻

  • @anchalgarg3239
    @anchalgarg3239 Před rokem +1000

    1. It's OK to let people go.
    2. Adults aren't always right.
    3. Memento mori (you'll die one day)
    4. You choose your purpose.
    5. Be comfortable with your own company, but don't isolate yourself. Know the importance of healthy relationships.
    6. Don't ignore the opinions of your loved ones (be open to different views).
    7. You'll get over your first heartbreak.
    8. Make reading more accessible.
    9. Give yourself approval (that's the only approval you truly need).
    10. Plan and write your plan (use calendars).
    11. Ask yourself questions that make you think constructively (for e.g., Would I do this all over again if I could start over?).
    12. Don't be a half-asser, finish what you started.
    13. Don't assume, ask.
    14. Plan, but be open to god's plan too (hope for the best, prepare for the worst).
    15. Don't wait around for opportunities.
    16. Be less reactive, pick your battles (choose to put your energy into things that matter more).
    17. You're stronger than you think.

  • @natemarx4999
    @natemarx4999 Před rokem +2213

    Lana is a great self-help book in human form.

  • @JimmyJaxJellyStax
    @JimmyJaxJellyStax Před rokem +1145

    Never let anyone pressure you into friendships either, we decide who is in our life.

  • @ebadqureshi7040
    @ebadqureshi7040 Před rokem +524

    "You'll get over your first heartbreak."
    Really needed that Lana. Thank you

  • @Jha9124
    @Jha9124 Před rokem +279

    You're always so calm and seeing that I feel good...and your videos just gives me a new perspective to think and work on specific...

  • @abcdefgzywvutsr_
    @abcdefgzywvutsr_ Před rokem +29

    She's my official internet mom y'all could never

  • @daniqsaa
    @daniqsaa Před rokem +100

    Lana stepping in as our collective big sister. I love it 🥰

  • @morningskylark
    @morningskylark Před rokem +17

    1. You're not as bad as you think you are.
    2. Other people have just as many doubts and insecurities as you do.
    3. The only thing that separates successful people from unsuccessful people is perseverance.
    4. It's okay to be scared and it's normal to feel insecure sometimes - just don't let those feelings stop you from trying anyway.
    5. There's no shame in admitting that you don't know something - everyone is learning every day.
    6 . Taking care of yourself should be a priority - both physically.

  • @jebaker2
    @jebaker2 Před rokem +11

    I’ve always been amazed how “friendships” are a product of proximity.

  • @simantsoren1120
    @simantsoren1120 Před rokem +3

    "Assumtions are the devils. Ask instead." This is the suggestion I realized my own a month ago. I assume a lot of things instead of just asking and then I mess myself & my head around for no reason. We should ask, question about stuffs we don't know as it is our right.

  • @minaal2142
    @minaal2142 Před rokem +102

    You're my comfort person girl.
    Sending you love and well wishes

  • @jellyfishcorpseschannel01

    Lanas hair is so fluffy!!

  • @darrenvong9404
    @darrenvong9404 Před rokem +40

    "I'm a lot stronger than you think. And so are you." - you really have a special way to end these videos that hit in the feels, but it's also exactly the things I needed to hear. Thank you!

  • @32h289
    @32h289 Před rokem +4

    Everytime I hear you talk its like everything suddenly makes sense. I'm glad to know there are people like you

  • @Yoshi_Chang
    @Yoshi_Chang Před rokem +1

    Congrats on 1 million Lana!!! Thank you so much for the videos that you've put out in the recent years, they've really helped out so much & I appreciate them so, so much. Keep doing what you're doing! :D

  • @ChrisGaultHealthyLiving
    @ChrisGaultHealthyLiving Před rokem +35

    Awesome life advice as usual, Lana! I'm surprised how wise you are at such a young age! Keep up the great work!

  • @bollywoodbaddie
    @bollywoodbaddie Před rokem +6

    I love the way you talk. It's so deliberate, well thought-out with the right amount of pauses. And it's so calming!!

  • @cieltheeditor7922
    @cieltheeditor7922 Před rokem +1

    You have such a calming energy, I truly appreciate both the advice and your consideration in even sharing this with all of us. Hope you have a wonderful life full of genuine love, happiness, and success. Best of luck with everything and hope the remainder of your year goes well! ❤️

  • @fabs9525
    @fabs9525 Před rokem +1

    I would like to thank you Lana for these tips for I am already going through so much hassle in life as of now and just can't put my mind straight at things as there are so many happening so quickly and you putting out this video and so many other self help videos are helping me in a way you might not know. Don't stop making these and thank you once again for helping me in times when I thought I couldn't believe in myself! Stumbling upon your channel was one of the best things to happen~ Much Love.

  • @rahuldwivedy8583
    @rahuldwivedy8583 Před rokem +1

    Following you since 3 years. I can't be more grateful. Thank you for being here. 😭😍

  • @adityashrivastava007
    @adityashrivastava007 Před rokem +3

    I am telling you honestly, I was stressed and worried about something and just 5 minutes into the video I feel relaxed. You provide calm and peaceful vibes.
    Grateful

  • @NFSMAN50
    @NFSMAN50 Před rokem +4

    Thank you for the advice Lana, I appreciate you friend!! Always helping everyone out!!

  • @catri4005
    @catri4005 Před rokem

    i’ve been terrified of rejection, all kinds of it, my whole life. but recently i was in a situation in which i had to make the choice, and that was when i truly realized i would regret not trying more than being rejected. so i finally managed to make myself bite the bullet and take the risk regardless of my fear! it really hurt being rejected, but it made me realize this so very important life lesson. i really don’t want to keep living my life in regrets anymore

  • @HalfAsianDerp
    @HalfAsianDerp Před rokem +6

    I hope more people find this channel, you're very wise for your age and the world needs more of this in our younger generations especially

  • @anuragmahajan5919
    @anuragmahajan5919 Před rokem +7

    Those are some of the best advices, especially about the friendship and making assumptions. I really needed the reminder about getting over your first love.
    I did feel good hearing about the control freak part 😂
    Thank you, your videos are very helpful and I really like your insights, they're very intriguing.

  • @lvna_ms
    @lvna_ms Před rokem +8

    Omg she looks like she's 19 or 20 years old

  • @joyligaya121
    @joyligaya121 Před rokem +1

    Thanks for this great reminder Miss!☺️ After all, I thought my thoughts and ideas as invalid but since I heard and watched most of your videos, It reminded me that I have nothing to care about what other people would throw on my way or behind my back laughing because I am never as good as them. You will be forever blessed by helping people who don't even believe on themselves. Btw!! You are so beautiful ❤️

  • @NatureDaydream
    @NatureDaydream Před rokem +3

    Some time ago I found a quote: "Giving up is the birth of regret." We don't want to look back at our lives and end up wishing we had done the things differently.
    After having scrutinized my life thus far I have come to the conclusion that fear is the only thing stopping us from doing what we want. With that being said, we should never let the fear dictate our future decisions in life. We can be stronger than we think.

  • @hannabauer4769
    @hannabauer4769 Před rokem +3

    It’s so calming to watch your videos

  • @mandumaoi1242
    @mandumaoi1242 Před rokem +1

    Thank you for these, Miss Lana. You're like the big sister I don't have, but needed. Your wise words comfort me.❤

  • @nicolasnurr
    @nicolasnurr Před rokem +1

    i love this kind of videos. with age u start to understand all this things. trial and error and then u notice what works, what should be done and what kind of human you truly want to become. so dont stress too much on the now cause exactly now, nothing big or extraordinary may be happening, but it will....... if you truly desire it. so work towards it and focus on the process theat leads you to the end goal. sometimes, the journey is more enjoyable than the destination itself cause it is what forms and develops your character and strength.
    loved it Lana. Im new here, im glad you showed up on my feed. ;)

  • @we_fishy_fishy_like0816
    @we_fishy_fishy_like0816 Před rokem +1

    Omg, the letting people go part applies to me right now lately. I hung out recently with a friend and I just felt like we were so different that it was kind of awkward… Thank you for the advice, I really needed this right now!!

  • @Louuuu27
    @Louuuu27 Před rokem +3

    Lana I am so thankfull for your videos, they just teach me a lot and calm me down , when I am stressed.

  • @liyuhh7144
    @liyuhh7144 Před rokem +8

    ive recently become an active watcher of your videos and you truly have become such a mentor to me...just like an elder sister and i love it!💓

  • @RadiantMantra
    @RadiantMantra Před rokem +2

    One teaching in Buddhism helped me slowly overcome my isolation and coldness towards others.
    You never know when is the last time you'll see someone, so every time you interact with someone, treat it as your last time with them, and when you see them again, be grateful you got to see them again.

  • @ahlembenmed8315
    @ahlembenmed8315 Před rokem +1

    girl ! you bring peace to my soul with ur videos🖤🖤

  • @mr.wholeworld2606
    @mr.wholeworld2606 Před rokem +2

    DON'T KNOW WHAT SOOTHES ME YOUR VOICE, CHARISMA OR WORDS BUT THANK YOU

  • @statuswallahadda
    @statuswallahadda Před rokem +2

    This is your first video! Got it through recommended.
    Thank you LANA for these valuable points!.
    :)

  • @xpinkxglowx2961
    @xpinkxglowx2961 Před rokem

    I've had experiences with past friends, who I haven't connected with, and were only with them because I felt I didn't have a choice. I now have come to the realisation that it is important to find true friends, and at the end of the day, it is your health and well-being that matters most.

  • @anubhutichaurasia4371
    @anubhutichaurasia4371 Před rokem +5

    your video always makes me so happy :) also I listened to your podcast after a while

  • @_swe_.e._tie_
    @_swe_.e._tie_ Před rokem +7

    Your voice is nice to listen to😭
    Your wise words are very helpful ✨
    Love from Namibia❤️

  • @jessicaabundo6415
    @jessicaabundo6415 Před rokem +3

    I like the sincerity that I can see through her eyes.

  • @icebobacoldcoffee
    @icebobacoldcoffee Před rokem +73

    1. Let people go
    2. Adults are always right
    3. Memento mori
    4. Choose your life purpose
    5. Dont make yourself isolated
    6. Dont ignore the advice of loved ones
    7. You'll get over your first heartbreak
    8. Make reading accessable
    9. Give yourself the approval, you seek from others
    10. live by your calendar
    11. ask yourself questions that make you think
    you're really so pretty

  • @p.krieger
    @p.krieger Před rokem +43

    Lana you’re amazing, your content is always so inspiring and I want to thank you for being such a great person 🫶🏻

  • @ritchiewong16
    @ritchiewong16 Před rokem +5

    Hi Lana 👋,
    Thanks for sharing your 19 pieces of advice with us. I can definitely say that the vast majority of them are what I personally needed to hear the most.
    Sending you lots of love!!! ❤️❤️❤️🤗

  • @shashijain5084
    @shashijain5084 Před rokem +1

    Agree with a lot of this !!!! Definitely a video to watch & listen to for everyone interested in betterment !!!!

  • @deutschmitpurple2918
    @deutschmitpurple2918 Před rokem +1

    This is really great video like always. When I listen you, I feel myself comfortable

  • @fictionalcharacter715
    @fictionalcharacter715 Před rokem +4

    Recently I've been very tired. Even though things are great right now and nothing bad is happening, I am drained and full of melancholy. I hope it passes soon because it makes it hard for me to enjoy activities I usually loved partaking in... I also feel very sorry for one boy, who wants to date me - he's really nice but I feel like, currently, the anxiety that I get from romantic relationships would literally destroy me.

  • @pianoboy3225
    @pianoboy3225 Před rokem +2

    Thank you Lana! Much needed video! You are awesome! :)

  • @yeshajain1376
    @yeshajain1376 Před rokem +2

    Lady you made my day
    I literally learned so much from you
    Thanks for the video
    I am 16 and hope these will help me and others in our life
    Hope you have great life ahead

  • @shairasultana3229
    @shairasultana3229 Před rokem +1

    This was in my recommended and I think I really needed to hear it. Thank you

  • @michaelwilson6804
    @michaelwilson6804 Před rokem +1

    This was actually so beautiful thank you sm

  • @AdamHuishStreaming
    @AdamHuishStreaming Před rokem +1

    i miss your podcasts Lana! glad you’re taking a break for your own psyche but want you to know you’re content is missed!!!

  • @cynthiamwako9197
    @cynthiamwako9197 Před rokem +3

    Love from Kenya🇰🇪🇰🇪
    Your content is always inspiring

  • @kflecha1
    @kflecha1 Před rokem +7

    This is very true people change and that’s ok. I think is important to value the good moments and understand that at some point we are going to evolve ❤

  • @thebeachisdark7
    @thebeachisdark7 Před rokem

    the thing about remembering you will eventually pass is so good because it makes you value moments more and worry a lot less

  • @hushasmrchannel
    @hushasmrchannel Před rokem +7

    Your videos help me conceptualize how to "look" at myself "outside" of myself if that makes sense lol. Another great video 🌻

  • @ajuniorsoares
    @ajuniorsoares Před rokem +3

    purpose isn’t found; you choose it and build on it… FOR SURE ❤
    thanks for your video and genuine advices :) xoxo

  • @shenz1843
    @shenz1843 Před rokem

    I really love it when Lana explain things so simple but yet it's gravity is massive😊. I just wanna say thankyou to you for being so humble and kind enough to make such videos that can uplift another individual with more determination. Once again thankyou Lana. Sending love and blessings from Sri lanka❤️🇱🇰

  • @pcchutani9658
    @pcchutani9658 Před rokem +4

    Lana, you are such a wonderful person. Your videos have literally got me through the darkest of times
    Love you for that

    • @fat9457
      @fat9457 Před rokem

      Right now i dont know but i want to hide myself from everyone specially to my parents. My mother. She isn't helping. I kinda depressed.

  • @jassoyouknow2899
    @jassoyouknow2899 Před rokem +19

    I dont usually comment on videos, but this video was so wholesome, I just really wanted to let you know that you're helping a lot of people Lana!

  • @Ad-hy9wg
    @Ad-hy9wg Před rokem +3

    you're the old sister I always want to have, thank u for sharing all the things you learn Lana.

  • @nadiamcghee9447
    @nadiamcghee9447 Před rokem +4

    I love your videos and you really inspire me to embrace my calm and collected disposition

  • @S54321
    @S54321 Před rokem +2

    Lucky to have your video recommended and found your channel

  • @999sudin
    @999sudin Před rokem

    Lana - that was by far, one of the best self help videos I have seen in a while. So precise and such clarity of thought. The whole presentation is so refreshing. You are indeed an inspiration! #Respect

  • @punchaliw
    @punchaliw Před rokem +1

    Thank you so much,Lana

  • @tsababayaraa41
    @tsababayaraa41 Před rokem +1

    You are so sweet! Don't change your heart.

  • @jeremiahbaker6396
    @jeremiahbaker6396 Před rokem

    I love how you explain your sponsor ads . Not straight scriptish

  • @sissa6048
    @sissa6048 Před rokem

    the so are u hit me so hard thank u lana

  • @vianca3443
    @vianca3443 Před rokem +1

    I needed this right now! Thank you!

  • @USEDtoRule
    @USEDtoRule Před rokem +1

    I feel it when I was isolated and no relationship, really made me unmotivated, feel so bad. Was hard time and the most worse time ever been through.

  • @ji-ah3186
    @ji-ah3186 Před rokem +1

    Thank you Lana💗

  • @sanjitpandey552
    @sanjitpandey552 Před rokem +1

    your man gotta be the luckiest one among us! you have such a charm, keep it up.

  • @rahelheeb5624
    @rahelheeb5624 Před rokem +1

    i loved this video! by the way your hair looks amazing :)

  • @zephyrine1448
    @zephyrine1448 Před rokem +1

    u are the person i aspire to become, i just love you and find you very inspiring. thank u BIG TIME.

  • @JASWINDERSINGH-uq7ev
    @JASWINDERSINGH-uq7ev Před rokem +6

    Lana is a therapy session in person free of cost ❤❤

  • @stillvibing
    @stillvibing Před rokem +3

    4:44 I don't know why, I am in full of tears

  • @minhazsahriarsaif
    @minhazsahriarsaif Před rokem

    I come back to Lana just to listen to her voice sometimes! So soothing.

  • @_sarge_
    @_sarge_ Před rokem +1

    wow i rly needed some of these... thank you

  • @rishitakathi6836
    @rishitakathi6836 Před rokem +3

    i love this woman so much

  • @_straybts
    @_straybts Před rokem +1

    Such a positive and calming energy

  • @tatrotzz3643
    @tatrotzz3643 Před rokem +4

    I just love your hair for some reason. It's so thick it looks good

  • @chuiyich
    @chuiyich Před rokem +1

    Great advice, all of them, thank you, Lana🥰 I can definitely see myself coming back to this video to be inspired again❤
    p.s. Would you share your hair styling tips as well? Cause your hair looks amazing🤩

  • @joymae
    @joymae Před rokem +1

    Big sis always dropping the knowledge

  • @Agent-57
    @Agent-57 Před rokem

    Being rejected yesterday in a painful way this is something I needed to hear. To be fair few days before in conversation with her I realized how it was going to play out. After that I just threw a lure to see what kind of person she is.
    As I found out, the toxic type. The type who demands your attention without making time for you. I said it anyways because I knew the answer. The answer was a no.
    Which got me angry for a minute but I was happy. A lot happier than I was for the past few days. I knew the answer but I didn't know if I was right or wrong. I wanted that clarification. At point I didn't care about her yes or no. Just that Unknown factor was feeling like a shard of broken glass stuck in my throat.
    Well like they say "If she calls you a brother, there is always another and her mother"

  • @shreby7719
    @shreby7719 Před rokem +1

    needed it ❤️

  • @berryXjerry216
    @berryXjerry216 Před rokem +4

    You're the big sister I never had!! ❤️❤️

  • @roulettxxl9941
    @roulettxxl9941 Před rokem +2

    Looking for the approval of others will always lead to your dissapointment. You need to be proud of yourself first. Great vid, you're a smart woman.

  • @experiencesperspectives5984

    Thanks for these much needed advises, ❤️❤️

  • @DianaBeautyLA
    @DianaBeautyLA Před rokem

    I thoroughly enjoyed this video thank you for making it❤️

  • @zukoshonour6447
    @zukoshonour6447 Před rokem

    Lana..you are such an angel...I needed this. Love your content ..wish you the best of the best honey

  • @Workinghard7
    @Workinghard7 Před rokem +1

    Thank you so much Lana , these advise are in my journal now

  • @kartikverma8389
    @kartikverma8389 Před rokem

    All of them were amazng. Thanks Lana!

  • @millenabatista215
    @millenabatista215 Před rokem +1

    this comforted me

  • @juliashq
    @juliashq Před rokem +1

    1:04 i think this is important because it helps give you confidence to be whoever you want or do whatever makes you happy knowing you’ll die anyway. so even if it’s embarrassing, you still have the fact that everyone will die someday, so just live life to the fullest

  • @josuepacheco6876
    @josuepacheco6876 Před rokem

    It relaxed me very much. Thanks Lana for doing these videos they are all helpful ..

  • @HannahMarieee
    @HannahMarieee Před rokem +3

    Some of this is (well probably all) is just what I needed today 🧡

  • @mariatsovaa
    @mariatsovaa Před rokem +3

    you will get over your first heartbreak- I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS

  • @josevasquez907
    @josevasquez907 Před rokem +1

    A lot of videos in such a short time!
    I'm not complaining tho, i love it.