how to stop feeling not good enough 🤍 heal your self worth
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- čas přidán 16. 11. 2022
- Tips and resources on how to stop feeling not good enough and heal your sense of self worth. We chat about releasing limiting beliefs, shadow work, self love journaling, setting boundaries, spirituality and more. 🤍
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// resources mentioned
→ Self Love Affirmations | bit.ly/3B2zxZU
→ How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs (reprogram your mind) | bit.ly/3LiIrr7
→ Self Love Journey: Healing My Self Worth | bit.ly/2upFHW0
→ Guided Meditation for Self Love | bit.ly/3rJtVgG
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You have so much to be grateful for. You woke up this morning, You can see, You can walk, you can smell the flowers, you can hear the birds. Pull yourself out of this negative place. None of us know how much time we have left on this planet so get out there and enjoy your life while you are still young enough and healthy enough to do whatever you want. Have a good day and much love ❤
Exactly 💛
Definitely true ❤
Saying you can see and you can walk is a bit insensitive..as not everyone has those abilities. I agree with everything else though!
100! 🙏
Thank you I needed to hear that 🆒👍
That last part hits soo hard.
"Just simply by existing, you are already worthy. So, why do you feel like you're not worthy?"
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It is "funny" because this is exactly the conclusion I had... right before listening to this video.
It's sad society forgets this.
I left my last job because I'm trying to love myself enough to not tolerate disrespect. Now that i have no income, society sees me as worthless. But I still tell myself every day that I have as much value as anyone else. I like her comparison to puppies and infants, I'll try that. ☺
Balled so hard after I heard this…
I wish people around us could take mental health seriously🙁.
Happy to see that you are developing a good community
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Some say I'm just doing drama...they don't believe me...they don't believe I have panic attacks or a whole load of fears and insecurities...they don't know how I feel. It's easier for them to say that I should do yoga or drink tea....I mean I'm british and tea is my solution for almost everything but that's not the point. The point is...I feel like they don't want to believe me so it's easier for them.
I agree. It is so hard opening up about mental health because of this. It’s like you could say my leg hurts but it will sound weird if you say your mind hurts or your heart hurts. I love in England too,Srilankan but loved whole life here. Best wishes to you all , I myself going through depression really need to get self love and also practicing radical acceptance is so hard too
@@hughdncy I believe you whoever you are. If you need someone to talk to I am here. That’s any of you who read this
I needed this 💜 my number one struggle is my self worth. I was never “told” I wasn’t worthy but through neglect and lack of interest from those in my life this belief was created within myself
I understand that feeling, the feeling of not knowing how much I am actually loved. I, like you, was (until I met one particular person) never told that I was unworthy, but I believed I was anyway.
For me it was because I felt like I could never do enough for others. And that feeling was amplified when I met and dated that person I mentioned earlier. The relationship didn't start with her telling me I was bad or unworthy or not good enough or that my life was never going to go anywhere or that I was fat, ugly and "letting myself go" or that I was terrible at conversation, etc, but after a couple of years that's where we ended up. Another year later I finally got away from her, and haven't talked to her in about 6 months, which has been... nice (to say the least).
But now I am mostly on my own. I have a few friends, but it's hard to contact them sometimes. I'm trying to make some more, but that's pretty difficult for my extremely introverted self. Some days I just want to hug or cuddle someone I care a lot about, and who I know cares about me a lot too...
I'm not sure if that last part is something you relate to or not, but if it is... then I'm sending a virtual hug your way. I hope you have a wonderful day, and that you know that there are people who love you, and who think you are worthy. 🤗
Daily reminder: you're enough
Take care cutie 💓
How to stop feeling not good enough ☆
1:24 change your beliefs
4:29 be the person you want to be
7:33 shadow work
10:55 make self love your #1 priority
14:03 create distance a.k.a boundaries
16:27 come back to your true self
18:35 remember your innate worth
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Don't telegram,it's fake
I need this
Going into my 30’s, I have realized that I have spent a huge chunk of my life believing other people’s negative opinions about me and have internalized them as my own opinions about myself. I have been on my self love journey since I was 25 and I’m not gonna lie that it’s been an uphill battle especially in the last 3-4 years.
“Be the person you want to be” oof. I needed to hear that. Knowing that I can change and grow and become the person I want to be always seemed so impossible but I love how you explained it and I’ll definitely start working on that. Thank you ❤
yes!! happy you got this out of the video
Right?? It came at the perfect timing for me too!! 🙏 Here's to your alignment with that person you want to be Khalilah!
I'm a 15 year old girl from Italy and I really wanted to thank you Aileen, for everything you are doing. I've been through a lot lately, and you've helped me so much in my journey. You gave me hope, and you are teaching me so many things. I can't explain how much I'm grateful to you.
So please know that you are ✨AMAZING✨ too, and thank you again for everything 💕💕💕
Ciao! Anche io vivo in Italia, ho 16 anni e mi ritrovo in quello che dici :)!
@@boooh8790 adoro troppo
Wow you should be proud of yourself as a 15 year old girl, you’re willing to heal and thrive. Keep being amazing and I hope that you overcome from whatever you are going through! Wishing you the best🤍
@@333tee Thank you so so much! I'll make sure to never give up, because I'm sure I will get through this. If you are in a bad moment in your life, always remember that whatever it is, you can do it in one way or another, just be sure about it. But most importantly know that you are not alone, and you SHOULD NOT be afraid of asking for help. Anyway I wish you all the best 💕💕💕!!!
@@jules3169 yes girl! life is full of lessons to help you become the best version of yourself, things are happening for you not to you💓tough times are always temporary
I recently read this book called Decolonizing Wellness by Dalia Kinsey. While I read this I worked on some stuff and came up with some good affirmations. 1. My needs are valid regardless of if someone else understands them or not. 2. I give myself permission to be the decision maker of what’s best for me and my body and where that takes me. I don’t have a very supportive family in my healing journey and these were things I needed to hear because no one else was going to say it to me.
Thank you for sharing that :)
Everyone is worthy of peace, self worth with self respect. Yes, even you who reads this! It takes quite some time to build it, but it is one of the most worthwhile things to do to fully enjoy yourself and the life you make for yourself. 💜
I have been comparing myself to people online and thinking people are higher than me and having thoughts that I’m not as ‘pretty’ or ‘cool’ as them. I always remember your channel when I have this downs. You are a star Aileen, thank you for helping me loving myself and for helping me become confident in myself. ❤️
You are definitely right because only when we have self love ,we can give love to others
Learn to Love you're self first :)
this video feels both like a productive therapy session and a balm for the soul. thank you aileen💛
Hannah change your surname to baker
1:25 change your beliefs
4:30 be who you want to be (change identity)
7:31 | 8:00 do some shadow work
10:51 n.1 priority self love
Hello , I just wanted to say I thank you for your channel an all the effort you put into it. I’m currently 3 years sober and just got released from prison after doing 11 months and you’ve been part of my recovery through out the entirety. I’ve read many spiritual growth books while locked up. Believe me it’s not easy to be positive in prison but I made everyday count. I always play your meditations that really the only guided meditations I do is yours. Please continue to add more of your meditation practice. “I am here an this moment right now is all that matters “ in the now there is no suffering. Attaining Enlightenment is success , attaining Enlightenment enlightenment opens up space for the universe to allow positive coincidences to occur on our journey. I’m Native American (Navajo) and it’s so true what you said in this video, “We are Nature” and we are all connected. Thank you Aileen for your energy and words.
"Be the person you want to be." I love that! I've been trying to step into the upleveled version of myself and just be the person that I've been trying to manifest, and it's been SUCH a gamechanger for me!
This video deserves so much more views and likes! Much love, and healing to everyone here!
oh I know I'm good enough and I don't need to perfect I embrace my imperfections and I won't be feeling guilty if there's a day when I need a good rest hey guys it's me I'm 17 yrs old and this year will be 18 so let's promise ourselves
: no matter what we won't let ourselves down and love ourselves ☺ because we matter and yes becoming better version of ourselves is our goal
love ya all ❤
So right on time 🥹❣️🫠
Sister you are good enough everyone is. Keep striving for a better tomorrow.
Don't worry about others between the best of your type. Thanks for the great reminder that they should always end up writing the longer gratitude list than you think you will
Thank you so much ❤
I love your self help videos because the tips actually work!
You are fantastic! Thank you Lavendaire!! 🌸
I'm grateful to God for all the people like you , who helped us in a lot of difficult times even with a word 🙏🏻 🌸 wish u a happy life
thank you for everything, for every word
Thank you for sharing I choose to be a happy person
Always appreciate your videos they really come when I need to hear these words ☺️
Being alive is so much to be thankful for
your energy in this video is contagious, thank you for sharing your love ♥
Everything you said in this video resonated - thank you! ❤❤
OMG😯
The examples that you told us about babies and puppies were outstanding🤯
You're absolutely right. We deserve love and we worth just because we are alive.
Thank you so much for this video. I needed to hear something like this
Thank you Aileen ❣️
Your channel is so healing, you made your listener feels they are loved , understood...you are enough, is such a powerful statement!
Yeah i understand sometimes it hard but just got till work on healing 🥺❤️🙏
this came at the perfect time❤
Same
I feel the same
Seriously 😢
Agreed. I really needed this today.
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PLS U ALWAYS POST THE VIDEOS I NEED THE MOST AT THE MOMENT 😭✨
18:40 - 19:20 this part made me so emotional. I really needed to hear that.
Thank you so much for this video. Since I was younger I always dealt with confidence issues but now that I’m older it’s a lot worse. Especially since I’m a senior now, it’s hard focus on school and doing well when I’m constantly overthinking and second guessing myself. I feel like another thing that impacts me a lot is my family. They’re always dragging me down any chance they get, always make me feel like I’m doing something wrong even if i do it the exact same way as them :(
thanks for your love 💌
This is beautifully done.
Thanks for sharing. 🌷
A lot of energy in your spiritual soull🫀
i'm really thankful that i found your channel ♡ i think it's been a year already and i found a lot of tools to use during my everyday life when things are difficult. so thank you🌈
Yes, operating from a place of self-love is key. From childhood to my teenage years, I've struggled with the idea of feeling good enough. Even as an adult, it's still a challenge but what I'm learning is that the impact of kindness towards yourself is huge. We are sometimes quick to be kind to others but not to ourselves. So self-love to me is simply being kind to myself.
Also, the point about being the main character in your story is also a big one. When you are the main character, you start taking action towards the life that you want. You start to make things happen for you.
im so glad that i found your youtube channel ive been binge watching your videos for weeks now . i learned so much from you and your videos saved me from my dark days and up until now im still working on myself to better. thank you so much!!
I came across your channel for the first time today, and want to thank you for this precious video, a journey to self-love feels more clearer now that I've listened to your tips.
You can be the best if you love and confident of yourself 🥰 thank you Alienne
You are so special and precious 🥺 I don't usually comment but I couldn't see myself leaving the video without doing so. Besides the fact that your advice is very sincere, unique in its kind and also the fact that it differs from other personal development videos that you can see everywhere, you give off a different energy, a benevolence that emanates from you. You give this advice with all your sincerity as much for us as for you. You seem to have been so successful in developing self-confidence while being modest and it's really beautiful to see. Know that you touched me and rare are the personal development videos that achieve this. You're beautiful 🤍
Thank u for saying all the things I needed to hear. One day when I am able to love and accept myself wholly and be at peace with myself , i'll make sure to be a source of wisdom , warmth and positive energy to people around me and make this world a better place.
I just want u to know that I've always wanted to be someone like u , so thank u for existing ✨💜
Hi! Thank you for this video🤍 Your words mean a lot to me🥺
I can’t thank you enough, Aileen! I’ve been the prisoner of my own beliefs for way too long and I thought I couldn’t change, that I was an absolute failure. Although, I kinda feel old and sometimes I get sad because I wish I would’ve taken action before… I’ll try my best to change my beliefs. Thank you!
Thanks for this I love you're channel and tips getting tired of feeling unwanted and not good enough often
Thank you for this! Even with a several chronic disease these tips are possible to do. ❤️
Thank you❤😊 We all can do it, we did a great job
currently crying. thank you so much for this video. ur such a positive light and i love you
Thank you for your warm words and i really love your video and you too, Aileen
Sometimes when I feeling down and unmotivated I searched your videos and this really helps me. Thank you ❤️✨
These videos are amazing, just found her yesterday.
Omg me2 😘
Your so amazing i really wish to see you in the best place it’s ever exist! 🥺❤️
Good morning, another great way to start the day.
First omg 🤩 exactly what I needed right now, I've caught myself a few days ago on talking poorly about me and my job and I immediately relised I am waaay more harsch on myself that on anyone else, I would never say that about anyone else
you broke it down soo well thank you.❤
thank you for creating these videos 💗
Thank you for today ! ❤
Wow thank you so much for taking the time to make this video! The last 5 minutes literally moved me to tears. Keep doing your thing and again thank you for sharing!
So happy for this video, I missed this style of video, I know you have been super busy with your podcast and shop, just really appreciate this type of content, thank you so much!! xx
Just saw this video and I wrote all the things that are pulling me back , making me sad . And yes it helped me..
I also wish the one reading this to be blessed with whatever they wish for
And don't forget to be grateful for everything you have right now
This was such a wonderful video ❤❤ One way or another I speak to many of our practitioners about these topics you touch upon and the importance of self-love, compassion, awareness of themself. There are many adults who are suffering from trauma from comments and actions that were said or done to them from their teenage years. It's so important to understand that we all have intrinsic value and worth 💕💕
I badly need this thank you Lavendaire. 🥰
Laveindaire i am really grateful to you ❤
Thank you so much for this video💕💕 So grateful for this...
Was anxious for no reason now I'm good listening to u tnqs alot 🙏❤❤❤
You're an amazing lady
Need someone like you close
You add so much value to my self improvement.. i really love on how you share every words. You really want to help us...
Love you Aileen
you are so pretty and kind, also I needed this 💗 thank you
Thanks to you, I can start a new life again. It's been a long time since I've felt the power of love like this. I love you. Start now.
You are brilliant. This is great work that you are doing! Thank. YOU! Thanks Aileen 💌
Thankyou for this ❤️🥺
perfect timing...just when I needed it
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I'm grateful that I found your channel💕
i appreciate you!! 💗
Perfect timing. Thank you beautiful!
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Your videos are awesome. I always find something I need.
Literally I have been feeling this way these past few days and then this video popped up on my notifications
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You know i fast follow you bcx you went straight to the main things and make me feel so good and your sharing is also pretty well thanks for that ❤
So good and helpful! For me especially the part about taking a break from social media if you need to. Thank you so much. 🙏❤
Hellooo 🤗
Thankyou so much for making this video! I lack alot of self confidence and find i hard to be myself some days. I love all the positive words your saying and im learning to say thses more to myself when a negative through pops up. Your a very kind person, thankyou so much ❤🤗 Hope your having a lovely day!!
Perfect timing
Thank you for all your help and kindness
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Thank you for this Aileen! 🥺❤💫
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I really need this, thankyou Aileen for this video. It's mean so much for me, I went through for this feeling and have a hard time. Sending you a lot of love 💓💓
i love you lavendaire thanks for helping me to have a good life🥰since last year
I love you so much lavendaire your voice is so soothing for me to meditate
Thank you so much, i needed to recognise my self love. I feel much better after watching this video.
This video was like a warm hug I needed. Thank you!! 💕💕
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Needed this, especially now.
I needed this vid so badly ...thanx a lot my love ❤️💯
Thank you so much for this ❤ I‘m going through a really tough time right now and I have been for almost a year because a man I was madly in love with crushed my self-esteem and made me feel unworthy and unimportant enough to just throw away like I was nothing. That‘s exactly what I feel like right now. Nothing. This video has made me feel so at peace and has really touched something deep inside me. Thank you so much ❤
Thank you so much for this amazing video! You really made my day🥰
Omg, thank you so much for sharing! I've been doing shadow work before, but like you say, it's a continuous process 🍀😍 Thanks for good tips and insights on these important yet invisible things, like reflection is.
Thank you for sharing this topic. Now I’m going through such period in my life. So this video essential for me 🤍✨
I come back to this video when the feeling comes over and you help me so much ailin... Thanks❤