How to Stop Doom Scrolling | tips to break your social media addiction 📲
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- How to break your social media or phone addiction, so you can stop scrolling and start living your life. Go to our sponsor betterhelp.com/aileen for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help.
If doomscrolling on social media has become a mindless habit, it's time to check in with yourself and understand WHY you do it and HOW to break that habit. If social media has become unhealthy for your mental health, I hope you can take these tips to get off your phone & social media, and create new positive habits and boundaries for yourself. We've all been there, and it's a journey to come back to yourself-and your life. Sending love 🫶
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Thank you, you inspired me to create my own morning listening list. Every time I start and stop because I am accustomed to the Internet, then when I open to listen, I continue from this to that and time passes 😅❤
@@aichaeicha8763😊😅 9:04
The thing that has helped me the most is instead of using my phone as my morning alarm, I bought an actual alarm clock that’s on the other side of my room so I have to get up and out of bed to turn it off. It’s really helped me to start my morning instead of spending 15 minutes in bed scrolling and then rushing around because now I’m late for work.
👏👏👏👏 thank you!!
i've always kept an alarm and i can vouch that keeping the clock across the room works! especially since my alarm is next to my lamp, once i turn on the lamp i can't go back to bed
Oh woww this is such a good idea! ❤
couldn’t you just leave your phone at the other side of the room?
@@mya.xoxo_ Yes, you could. I sleep with a fan on for noise so I fear that if the phone is all the way across the room it may not be loud enough for me to hear it, whereas the alarm clock is definitely loud enough. I also enjoy having an alarm clock so when I wake up in the middle of the night, I can see what time it is. I found one on Amazon that lets you adjust the brightness, which I have enjoyed. This is what works best for me. You do what works best for you!
I recently started leaving a small notebook on my nightstand, in the spot my phone used to be. Now, the first thing I do after waking up is writing a page of things I am grateful for. This has entirely replaced my habit of scrolling social media first thing in the morning, and starts my day off in a much better way!
This sounds amazing! I'm going to try this tooo - thanks for sharing this :)
ooooh I love this idea!
I love the idea! Thankyou
oh i love it! that's great!
Thank you so much for sharing, I really appreciate it🙌🏼
**Summarisation of the video**
• _Swap out of your habit_
~be aware of when you're scrolling
~switch into a new frame of thinking
• _Out of sight, out of mind_
~put your phone away somewhere you cannot see it
~you can turn on silent mode (optional)
~focus on the situation
• _Set app limits_
~you can use downtime settings in iPhone (optional)
• _Delete apps that aren't serving you_
~apps that make you feel worse about yourself
• _Pinpoint the real issue_
~why do you scroll?
~do some shadow work
• _Cultivate more mindfulness and practice being present_
~snap yourself out of it
~meditating
~tuning into your 5 senses
_yk what.. go ahead and copy it_
thank you!!
@@giselle_grey yes, I am haha why?
@@giselle_grey aw
UNDERRATED!!!!! Tysm for your time of making this summarisation :)❤
Thanks for this❤
i love the way this was presented. I do my best on sundays to do a little social media detox, so so helpful
love that 🙏🏼
Great. Nobody cares even. Stop this behaviour and get a job
I love you natalie
OMW!! I searched up this video, and I found you in the comments!!! I love you
Firstly, I have to confess that I was so afraid to watch this video, knowing that I have social media addiction, I didn't want to face the reality and I was just living in a dreamy bubble. Finally, today I got the courage to dig deep into me. Sending you love too, Aileen.❤
Sameeee
we're all social media addicts
I had the same feeling. It's just now that I faced this truth and it enlightened me. 😊❤
never mind, no one can escape from social media addiction only if living without a smart phone
@@wenjay6225 yeah you can. just delete all of them. except like youtube and whatsapp. there are a lot of people i know that never had socials and are doing fine so we can all do the same too, you shouldn't be so pessimistic or you can't get anywhere
Perfect timing, Aileen! I've been scrolling a lot recently, several hours, and my life seemed to collapse. I didn't deal with my tasks, I didn't want to do anything, like I've lost all my motivation, and I just wanted to lay on the bed to scroll and scroll... This video helped with my awareness and the tips are great! Thank you!
you got this!
Same for me i am exhausted and finding post of motivations on social media thinking it can help me on my anxiety and not even realize I lost my focus on important things and make me feel depress even more😢
It takes self discipline honestly because you will see how less productive you have been .
I loke the video thank you sooo much ur words will help me ❤️❤️🫶🏻🌹
Even same just want to scroll and scroll till my mind and body ache laying down on bed asmuch as possible.
A lot of times, social media is used to find social connection. People scroll a lot, but maybe they're hoping to interact with someone or some people.
If people build their relationships offline, they'd probably spend less time scrolling. Dinner, coffee, walks, just hanging out offline. If we make time for regular, fulfilling interactions with people who we want to be around, we'd probably find that social media isn't needed as much.
Very true
sooo true...
You’re definitely on to something! I do use social média to read about interests and feel connected.
what if i dont have friends or people to hang out
Only if u have enough money😅
Thank you for this. I no longer use most social media. I have come to the conclusion that “if it doesn’t make me money, I don’t need to use it daily.” The only app I use daily now is CZcams. And with YT, I am learning new things daily. I have uninstalled my other apps. They are not necessary for me to stay alive. I am a happier person.
For me its CZcams and pinterest that I mostly use
Fun Fact : your are wasting your time watching how to not waste your time
Why did you click on this video then? o_O
Wrong. Totally misunderstood. Wasting means to invest something over sth which will not bring any benefit, but a harm. Wasting time is spending time over sth which is not necessarily needed. If this becomes addictive habit, seeking knowledge to remove it and share it with others is very good investment in terms of time. It is not wasting at all. It is gaining
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@@dilshodbekshuhratjonov6253 Well said ❤😊
So ig you are too cause you are watching it 😂
Reading a good book feels better than scrolling. Or watching a good movie or show. And of course spending time with family playing board games.
She always uploads things I need the most at that time
Another thing is swapping that time for a hobby that you can take with you. For example, reading a book, knitting, hand sewing, drawing, etc. Funnily enough, I wasn't allowed to have social media when I was a kid. Everyone i knew had Myspace and Facebook, but my mother always said no. Instead, I spent that time working on my hobbies instead. The more activities that you participate in, the less time you have to be on social media. I have since fallen off that wagon and I'm trying to get back on. This video was the perfect boost! Thank you 😊
Ahh nice to hear your story,hope my parents wil do it like you when i was younger. Cause i'm really a social media addicted. Especially when i found internet as kid,who dont know the negative of using it continously. Literally give a teribble effect of my childhood, and the entire of my social life :'
Tjis vidieo is very usefull😌♥️
Found myself doom scrolling later and remembered what you said, and remembered specifically “what am I avoiding, I can do hard things” literally stopped in my tracks and went back to studying! Thank you!❤
I got this video by scrolling 😅😂🤣😂
Same here😂
My personal tips:
1) Turn on the digital wellbeing widget on your phone that puts your daily screen time on your home screen.
2) Start watching more CZcams videos. It makes you used to consuming something a bit longer.
3) Don't take your phone in the bathroom, whether for a shower or for anything else.
4) Don't use your phone while you eat.
5) Start doing "no-screen" time blocks in the day, grab a drink and stare out the window without using your phone.
6) Get into a relatively easy, creative, hands on hobby that takes up your time besides scrolling. E.g. crocheting, coding, origami, reading.
7) No phone during hangouts with friends or dates! Even if your friend is on their phone, let them be and look around. Don't feel awkward, let them finish their thing and get back to you. Don't use your phone, just wait a bit.
8)
I deleted Twitter, TikTok and Snapchat because it wasn’t something I needed. Although I have Instagram. I have set a limit for 1 hour and even if I go past that I’m intentional to use it less. A part of me wants to not have Instagram but it is also useful for staying informed of different events in college. I have noticed I also spend a lot of time on CZcams because I love watching my favorite CZcamsrs and sometimes limiting my CZcams time is the most challenging
It's my first time hearing that we might be so into social media because we are running from our responsibilities. It's slap for me as it is all true.
Yes it's true about me too.
I have time limits on some social media apps but would always click “ignore” when the limit popped up. Now, my partner set the time limit code so it’s removed the option to ignore for me. It’s really helped me be more mindful of my scrolling 👍🏻 great video!
I did this too!! Highly recommended!!!
How did he do that?
How did he do that?
How to do it?
One thing that’s really helped me is adding the Screen Time widget to the page where I keep my social media apps (this may only apply to iPhones, idk if android phones have widgets). When it’s put right in front of me how many hours I’ve spent on my phone, it makes me second guess adding to it 😅
That's a great idea, thanks! I don't have an Iphone but I've just searched for this widget and it's on my phone too !!
Great idea thank uhhh❤
“Practice being an observer of your life” that was a wonderful way to put that and I don’t want to go through life mindlessly. Great video!! ❤️❤️❤️
Oof, my brain felt screen sick just watching the intro! I really appreciate the nuanced discussion here and that you acknowledged that social media is designed to engage our attention. One thing that helped me stop doomscrolling is getting familiar with that yucky feeling (eye strain, slight nausea) so I can stop myself before it’s too late!
Over breakfast and coffee is the worst time. I spend way to long on social media when I want to do something else. Having a hard time with this, its robing me of my life!!
I don't scroll social media, I scroll CZcams LOL
me too, but that is social media i think, its just in video format
Here too 😀
This was great I’ve been wasting hours on social media getting nothing done. You’ve given me the push I needed to delete the apps and stop scrolling thank you x
The idea of putting on music in the morning instead of scrolling through social media is something I will definitely try out!! I notice that in the morning its hard for me to get out of bed because I just pick up my phone and start scrolling but this might actually work.
ive been spiraling and been on a slump for a couple months now and ive been trying to break through it. i have been watching other self help videos to try to be productive but i wasn't succeeding. this video though is very insightful and are like tips that GETS me you know. especially, the affirmation part that i can do hard things! i feel like im already a better person. thanks always aileen!!!
I needed this tapping session! I am sorry you went through hard times with your parents. It really sucks to be hurt by the people we should be loved the most and should trust. I am glad that you found ways to forgive them, it gives me hope ❤ Thanks a lot for thus video 🥰
Tips to break social media addiction
1. swap out your habit
2. Out of sight, out of mind
3. Set app limit
4. Delete apps that aren't serving you
5. Pinpoint the real issue
6. Cultivate more mindfulness and practice being present
You came right on time! This has been my dilemma for the past weeks. Thank you for this 💖
My fear of doing bad on important things has, ironically, led me to procrastinate on putting in my normal work ethic. I'm usually pretty okay with social media usage, but it's hard to know when you actually need a break. Rather than you simply wanting to be done with the task
I love the idea of using our five senses because I never really think about that. I only think of what I see. This is a really nice idea and very impactful in life. Exactly what I needed in the over developed year 2023, thank you ♡
I needed to see this video so badly, what you said about procrastination & running away from doing things that are hard. I feel that wow thank you. This is all great advice. Thanks for helping us evolve. Appreciate you!
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Thanks ♡
This Year, My Birthday was on March I turned 37, amazing Thanks for the advice because I am having a Social Media Crisis... Thank You.
wowwwww
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I've been scrolling several days recently, and it made me really disappointed and overwhelmed. this video is relatable to what I'm struggling now. thank you!
the leaving your phone far away helps so much in the morning even if its just somewhere thats not your night stand, it helps you really wake up and be more present and sets the tone for the day !
This makes managing your screentime so much more achievable!
Thank you for this and all of your videos. This was so relevant to me right now. Thank you for showing me that people who are kind can also be bold and purposeful.
Thank you so much, I hope I could express it more. I really needed this because I've been feeling unproductive and down for the past few days and I use social media as my escape goat even though I'm completely aware that it's one of the roots why I feel down.
I usually wake up and go straight to my phone to endlessly scroll to wake me up and I love music. So, I think instead of going straight to my phone in the morning I will use the opportunity to play my favourite music, and maybe in my downtime I can even make my own personalized playlist like you did it. When I am stressed from work and I want to take a little break, instead of scrolling through my phone and loosing track of time, depending on the weather I will go outside and sit and focus on the weather and the nature, it is spring right now, so if I want to take a break I should use this time to bask in good weather. On the other hand, if its not good weather, I'm thinking of reading some of my books, because I have so many favourite books and so many books I haven't even read because my time on social media. I really like this video because its very positive and you showed me other ways i can avoid social media. I am subscribing, right now. :)
This is the work I was sharing on my social media account. Sharing the healthy routine I was incorporating in my life on mindfulness then something happen where I stopped doing the good work
Wow. Everything you said in this video I related to so much for past couple months. I watched other videos but yours is the one I felt like, that's me!! and you really helped me give examples on how to stop. I set timers on my apps already and hope to get back on track with myself doing things I love to do instead of running away/being scarred/anxiety!!
love the idea of tuning into my senses and focusing on whats around me rather than doomscrolling!
wow just exactly what I needed this days. I feel so sluggish and demotivated. Starting to gain back my energy and be back on my track. Thank you so much Lavendaire. So so helpful. I'm a follower
That's my biggest challenge. On my days off I find myself on my bed or couch just glued and not doing anything. I needed this video
That is what I need now! Thank you so much, Aileen. You are the best.
I swear this is the best video I have watched today. I am not happy during the past week and scrolling is my really bad habit, I guess after watching this video I start understanding the reason in my head.
I was like wait a minute, set time limit isn’t work for me, but reflective definitely help out in my situation. Thank you so much for your suggestions.
These are such helpful tips! 😊❤ Especially when most social media platforms are starting to have the fyp feature that tiktok has, and then you get addicted to endless scrolling on the fyp
swap your habit
out of sight out of mind
app limit
delete apps that are not serving you
pinpoint the issue
cultivate mindfulness and be present
I NEEDED THIS VIDEO!! THANK YOU FOR POSTINGG ITS SO TIMELY
Wow, there isn't a better time for this video! Most of the problems mentioned are probably what a lot of us can relate to, and the points on how to act on them are quite doable as well! Fantastic video
I really needed this thank you Aileen!
Legit my most favorite channel on YT. I’m struggling with this now, no wonder I get more anxious easily nowadays. It also has been shaping my mindset to always turn into instant gratification whenever I’m unconsciously avoiding something :(
thanks for your support 💖
this is the worse feeling. I feel so ugh and sluggish after doing this. It is mostly to of boredom that I scroll and then when the time goes by, it is like I could have accomplished so much more.
4:40 _ What I personally like to go for when swapping habits of scrolling on social media or even using my phone altogether, I like to: read, pray, make a little snack, sit with my fam, go around the house/move, draw (if I has the energy), color in a coloring book, write, journal, clean/reorganize any area, do makeup for fun... these are what I usually go for; though I still haven't broken the habit at all, but it is much less often for me to fall for it again. And when I do fall back into the cycle, I directly DELETE my socials out of my phone.
Aileen you have no idea how much I needed this right now. I think this was a sign!
Same here 😭
I think everyone need to see it. :(
This is so timely. Thank you so much for doing this video. I really need this since I've been so unproductive and "sluggish" since I became unemployed right bow but I'm always glued to my phone since I'm seeking a work online here in the other country. It's been so tiring and depressing at this stage.
Cheer up!! U can do hard things❤
Wow what a great segment ! Thank you for creating it !
Aileen has helped me a lot. I needed this rn and here it is 😭 now I can finally leave my phone after watching this video :D
This is so crazy...this morning I uninstalled Instagram because I kept reading negative comments and people's opinions and some of them wound me up but I can't stop! this video is a god send thank you!!!!
I deleted my tiktok and Facebook because I felt it was making me depressed and comparing myself to others. I’m glad I made that choice of deleting it now I’m becoming happy again
Yes i also deleted instagram. Now i have more time to listen to myself, talk to myself, and i actually became pretty productive :))
@@saruulodkhuu8328 same!
thank you Aileen!! this is so helpful! love your channel❤️
I really needed this today, thank you.
instead of reaching for my phone in the mornings, i'm going to start the day with a brisk walk + music
Yess love it
I am grateful more and more people are uninstalling apps including CZcams if you have to because of the "Shorts" that came out that are basically tick tock and just make YT more unhealthy. Thank you for addressing it.
i needed this i knew im doing a lot wrong things but still you need to hear it. being alone doesnt help
I needed that video today. Thank you so much !! Can't wait to see your new videos. Love from France
i feel like this was made for me, much needed reminder and support
i barely use social media but i think one of the most important things is that you need to find something else to do with your time otherwise you just feel lost, i remember when i deleted social media, i didn’t know what to do so it was just replaced with a webtoon addiction
so then, i made a list of things i like to do or things i’d like to do or things that may not be pleasant to do but will benefit me and so in times of boredom, i turn to that list and try something from there
i found that what really hurts me is doing the same thing for a long time, i like to switch things up to spice up life
I have been doing most of things you shared. I just walked slowly on front yard, watched sky and stars and enjoyed with light wind. I watched your video at 7pm 😊
Thanks for the reminder Aileen 💕
This video is from like 2 months ago, but it appeared on my feed. This is so timing for me because I'm battling with social media addiction these days. Thank you so much for this content ❤
thank you!!
Your videos always come at the perfect time. 💖 I spent three hours last night scrolling when I could have been doing so many other more exciting things!! 🙃
same here! perfect timing thank you💜✨
Thanks for the advice that we all need to cut down on social media that it has its both positive and negatives that start my morning off with doing some journaling and also do out for walks and do some drawing to get some time away from social media.
Exactly!!! I was just thinking of avoidance. I totally resonate.
When I feel negativity, I really like to watch your videos because you have a high positive vibe that also makes me positive instantly ❤
I appreciate this. My New Years Goal was to stop the scrolling.
Social media is destroying our life if we are not use it Wisley. You have explained it well.❤
Thanks for the tips, Aileen! It helped me a lot! ❤️❤️
Three things helping me to stop doomscrolling: not to be hungry, to have more sleep and sit less. Especially the last one is a key point. When I sit more than 30 minutes, I need to put something into my palms, that's why I took my phone :) I used to put limits for apps and did not work for me. But when your phone is not in a accessible area it also helps
Also, I would suggest removing the app off your phone. This helped me a lot
thank you so much for this video, I really needed it these days. Thank you!
I think the reason i find--and a lot of people find comfort in it and are scared of changing things. The outcomes of difference in change is probably my biggest fear. Its like a little box with your favourite customised thoughts, who couldn't love it? Because of this i done't really open myself up to new things and stay inside my little box of comfort. Your video made me delete tik tok. Its really the only social media app im addicted to. After this big step i will work on stopping myself to be on my phone constantly and finding better things to do.
I also used to immediately go on my phone when I wake up. I have noticed that when I just wake up, I can concentrate really well. I like to take this opportunity to read a book. I like to keep a book on my nightstand. It has helped improve my patience so much. I like to read something light and it gives me a small dopamine boost. It has made me start my days off with a much more positive mindset!
The intentions behind this video are so important and I want to incorporate these tips into my life.
Also, your phone case is so cute! Can you link it?
I really needed this today… thank you💕
Your video editing skill is sheer professional. It’s praise worthy.
I don't scroll on social media 1 - 2 hours after waking up and I still do the same. But recently I scroll through more longer, and i find out the reason that is when i am too tired and sometimes exhausted after completing something really difficult. One thing that helps me go through this bad habit is to have a to-do list of what i want to do during the day, by doing so I know other importance is more worth it.
1. swap your habit
2. put your phone away
3. set app limits
4. Delete apps you don't need
5. Reflect on why you scroll
6. cultivate mindfulness
Thank you so much for sharing, Lavendaire! 🥺💟 This is what I need because I'm guilty huhu hehe. I have activities or schoolworks to do and I need to get out of scrolling too much on social media. I need to focus on what's more important. ☺
Thanks for the video! It feels ironic that I came across this video as I was doom scrolling through CZcams.
As a Muslims, we can't listen for music . So, we replace it with listening to the Qur’an . I really feel comfortable when I listen for Qur’an And meditate What the Creator has made , I think it's really the best thing how can I started my day with 💗💗.
@@ttt-id9oo sorry if my comment let you remember your friend , But the scholars differed in verdict . Some of them said it was forbidden , And he inferred the hadith of the Prophet Mohammed , I am with this majority
Everyone has their own conviction , And knowledge is with God 💗💗.
I definitely spend way too much time doom scrolling & have wanted to break out of it! This made me question a lot of what's behind it. I have chronic/mental illnesses & sometimes it feels hard to do anything else. Things are too daunting or painful. Finding an app that limits FB should prob be my first step. Finding something else to start the day off, such as scripture reading, prayer, journaling, or Bible studies would be a good idea to set up. Putting together small project bags when I am doing good would allow me to easily pick up something like plastic canvas or knitting instead. Not sure how to limit my CZcams usage. I love hiding my phone when I'm doing focused work, & it only comes out at meals for pictures lol. A good guide to help me begin to deal with what's definitely become a problem.
I just needed something like this now and I got this piece
I really like the format of this video. The lighting is great, I loved the intro music/ format, and I like the structure ☺️☺️
I probably should be thankful that my job doesn't allow me to have my phone while on duty. It's definitely helped me cut down a lot of my screen time since before I got the job
Yes i feel this. My ADHD is reaching the sky. And i cant pay attention or concentrate very well now. Due to this i failed my university entrance exam too. I had this constant urge to check my phone even though the phone was far away cuz exam. But i had this urge and couldnt focus. 😭😭😭😭 im addicted to instagram. I hope the tips help. Im so worried.
Hope it helps!
Thank you so much. I've struggled so much this. I feel like social media is a distraction.
I also stopped following celebrities and more mindful posts on instgram, which has helped with a little bit. I often scroll like crazy when my fiancé is playing video games or when it's my days off from work. 😅😅
I need to set more limitations on my social media timer..
Also, binging shows/movies also hinder me like crazy.
Thanks Aileen for sharing these tips. I realize that I escape the challenges the reason why I keep scrolling on social media.
My biggest takeaway from this video is reflecting on our WHYs :) it's way easier to deal with a problem if you know what that problem is. And trying to reframe it ' I can do hard things' - beautiful :)