Jordan Peterson ~ Can You Change Your Personality?
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- Jordan Peterson ~ Can You Change Your Personality?
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"if your lawyer is creative enough you'll end up in jail."😂
Saul Goodman.
@@gregorio853everywhere i go ❤
This man is a treasure for the human race.
He he wouldn't be where he is if he didn't read the 20th century philosophers that inspired him greatly.
GOD loves you all. GOD bless you all. Have a blessed day everyone.!!!!.
Yeah, he's incalculablely genius
He is. BUT I think they're getting to him, much like "they" got to people like John Lennon.
@@jensonphan nonetheless we can agree he took that and many other eras in time put in the work and actually put it in a well articulated fashion.
TLDR: Yes, you can but you'll have to struggle against your current personality for a while.
Hm. Interesting. I read that quote some time ago that said that depression is the expression of your soul telling yourself that it can no longer cope with the character you are pretending to be, take it or leave it, it hits home for me!
@@jbdemarest9913 WOW!, your comment just caused me to gasp, as I struggled with depression while in Iraq in 2003/2004. Made no sense as to why I felt like I did. Thank you for posting that Jb.
@@jbdemarest9913 very interesting
@@georgehouston6327 you’re welcome sir, thank you for your service 🤝
@CL Gaming By chance have you seen a doctor to discuss your depression? I had it pretty bad some years ago and my doctor put me on Lexapro 20MG, for a year then dropped down to 10MG until the depression left me. I still have bouts of it occasionally but it usually only lasts a day or two. Wishing you well CL.
This video, especially from 7mins onwards, is a perfect piece of proof that Jordan Peterson is all about equality, he is referring to all human-kind, not only males or only females. He’s not even consciously trying to be political correct or anything, he doesn’t need to, he’s just being Jordan Peterson, just talking from the heart and from his soul 💙
mr khan Correct. 😁
He is the father , brother ,I needed, and never had .
Linda Hastings You got em now. 👌
Yes, it's amazing that people are offended by him.
Technically, the word mankind has always been femaie-inclusive. The “man” part of mankind is short for HUman.
In order to change your personality (how you think, how you act, and how you feel), you will need to do a LOT of inner work. A lot of reprogramming and rewiring old stagnant circuits and old thought patterns. In order to change, you need to be greater than your environment. It’s a long road but totally worth it.
That last part about having fear chase you towards your goals instead of standing in your way was unexpected, and very insightful.
Bc we're hunter-gatherers, and our philosophy needs to be squared into a hunting image, that is, a goal, and a herbivore prey animal image, that is, something to flee from
Dont mean to sound cliche', but this guy is pretty damn wise.
GOD loves you all. GOD bless you all. Have a blessed day everyone.!!!!.
1:00 "You are hyper-social primates. Some of you are probably checking your e-mails right now." He can be so hilarious!
Nice find, very subtle humor
As I am checking my email...😳
Not really!!!!!
@@Muhammad12035three He cracks a lot of jokes, and they're funny.
GOD loves you all. GOD bless you all. Have a blessed day everyone.!!!!.
Personality is mostly stable, but there is scope of variance and in this scope lies the potential to change. Proof, if you assess a person at one point of time and assess the same person a few years alter, you will find similarities and also differences. Harness these differences. Also note that it takes time to achieve meaningful change.
A good starting point is to assess yourself and identify your personality traits honestly, or to get a friend or a professional to do it for you, then identify the socio-economic-political niches where someone with your personality traits can thrive. Try to fit yourself in such a setting.
Take 2 hours to write your vision for the best possible version of yourself in 5 years time. Write about your friendships, your job, your status in society, your health, your intimate relationships, your place in your family. Write which personality traits can get you there.
Take 2 more hours to write about the worst possible version of yourself in 5 years time. Write about which of your personality traits can get you fired, dumped, imprisoned, made homeless, shunned by society, disowned by your family. Write honestly about which personality traits can land you in that awful place.
The second part is to help you with the first part. Because when you are running towards something, it is also helpful to run away form something.
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Tanx!
That’s awesome my fellow human. Thanks!
Don't spread misinformation and get educated.
You can't do that self work in 2 hours, for some people it takes months if it all goes well
@@rtrt0789 what are your qualifications? Read my comment again. Carefully this time.
J.Peterson is so insightful! His videoes is so helpful! The finding your niche according to your personality is a wonderful thing for todays young people. With a number of tests available in the internet you may figer out what to do with your life professionally, at least where not to go. It is very valuable to be informed so that one can hope for better fate in his work life. I am a univesity teacher and saw students who did bad choises without considering their personality traits. The video is very useful! ❤
This is all true. I have chosen to 'reinvent myself' (change my personality) twice in order to be more suitable as a business person (fit the mould of a manager and organisational representative). Do NOT underestimate the trauma this will cause you. There is a huge difference between simply being mindful to act appropriately in a given situation, verses changing your personality forever, through deliberate reprogramming of your thinking and internal motivators, such that you will autonomously think and react in the desired manner. I have been successful at changing my personality twice and I would NOT recommend it to anyone.
hi david, i'm interested in how you did it. did you anchor the new personality on a set of different habits? because i'm not erasing my current personality, but rather creating a new personality : )
What's so traumatic about it?
@@charleszhuang6283 You must be an introspective thinker, somewhat creative, and motivated by necessity in order to see this process through to a beneficial outcome. Firstly, identify the automatic behaviours that you need to alter and conceptualise what the ideal alternative behaviours must be. This is the normal process for goal setting and success visualisation that most people are familiar with. Secondly, think introspectively about what it is that triggers the negative behaviours. Once you have isolated the key drivers of the undesirable behaviours you must assign negative associations to those triggers. This is where the pain begins. The association must be deeply rooted to your values and beliefs in order to be powerful enough to alter automatic behaviours to internal or external triggers. That means linking a negative association to the trigger with at least two senses, such as smell and sight, and your primary emotional drivers. For example, I was intrinsically motivated and highly assertive. You might think that they are good personality traits for business people. However, feedback from my colleagues suggested that I came across as aggressive, and my superiors told me I was too passionate about the business. After deep consideration I realised moderation, patience, and respect are important virtues that I possessed but my extreme assertiveness and selfless crusades were obscuring those traits. So, after further consideration I identified that the root cause of my assertiveness and passion to do well was an overdeveloped positive association with alpha males. To make a very long story short, I deliberately exposed myself to unpleasant smells and recalled periods of deep grief and loss every time I recognised a trigger. Because you will not always recognise the triggers, you must affirm that the negative association causes an impact to something you love. That will amplify the effect of the smells, physical, or emotional pain associations and slowly create a subconscious fear/awareness of the triggers. For me it was easy, because my partner very quickly noticed the negative state of mind I was regularly in and it affected our relationship. This state must persist for at least a year or more. You may experience deep anxiety and depression during this period. When you begin to experience bad smells and negative emotions upon exposure to the triggers it means you have been successful. You will actively seek to avoid and disassociate with the triggers at this point. I personally noticed my physique had lost form and I was no longer interested in many of the things that previously defined me. There are many side effects of this process that you should not underestimate but I am now considered to be a changed man at work and I can honestly say that it has opened many doors.
@@davidburke2007 dang sounds horrible, how would you go about learning a habit such as meditating
@@davidburke2007 This is incredible. Thank you for sharing so thoroughly. Is that method based on someone's work or did you develope it?
Very impressive.
I've changed so much, I miss who I was and the things I used to enjoy that I'm getting less and less pleasure as time pass, idk what I'm becoming
Same
To those interested in the topic I highly recommend reading on 'the paradoxical theory of change' in gestalt therapy.
Thanks sir
Thank you, sir!
Thank you.
My attributes are:
Low on personality and mercantile
High on strength and sneak
Mr StrangeCake exactly! I feel like I was born into the Dark Brotherhood.
Sounds to me more like you're highly industrious but low on conscientiousness.
This changed my perception of fear 🙏👏
GOD loves you all. GOD bless you all. Have a blessed day everyone.!!!!.
If you think about it, you can learn both a personality and language in the same way, you learn them easier when you’re younger, but you can still learn both when you are older, even if it’s more difficult
This is a big problem for me and I have tried to be better in the past but I have not be determined enough. Thank you for the information and the video
Truly a personality is also an emblematic representation ,description of our entire style manners characters emblems and symbolism.... God bless Professors Jordan Peterson and more power
brilliant man.
everyone should see this
For what it's worth, here's a quick thought. Personality traits aren't particularly malleable, although you can learn insight and actively suppress or increase specific attributes. Also, while accumulating wisdom, you can better reflect on your beliefs and ideals and form a more accurate picture of yourself, after which you can retake the personality test for a potentially more factual representation.
Psychology even clinical psychology isn't considered a "hard" science where everything can be quantified. Many basic concepts depend on definition. And definitions are somewhat flexible. "Personality" is one of those flexible things that depends on how you choose to define it.
I believe every word is flexible.
Or open ended.There is not
One word that can’t be
Augmented Hence it comes
Down too belief why waste
Time ! Arguing over a fixed
Belief!!!
Mary Wilkerson
Hello Rebirth Resurrection
Hello Rebirth Resurrection
Whatever heading you choose
For your place in eternity, be it
Called “ Fate”or Heavenly Home etc! The name is not
Yours alone , others are with
You. We are linked by Gods
Plan and it was formulated
In the beginning and does
Include others.You do not
Own the word “Fate” !
Thank you
Mary Wilkerson
Yes. I have done it.
Top advice. Especially, the last part
I believe music 🎶 can change ones personality I go from laid back and chill to super energetic and positive idk why.
This is what I expected college to be like
Perhaps this is what Ivy League is like
The answer is yes 👍
Personality - Learning and transformation are possible to a certain degree..... comes at a cost - change causes instability + pain..... --- eventually this can expand personality.....
D&D and life align yet again...
I want to be more outgoing, bubbly, and charismatic
Me too. How's it working out?
GOD loves you all. GOD bless you all. Have a blessed day everyone.!!!!.
For me GREAT!!!! Really improving.
Thxs for asking.
Wellbutrin is good, although there's a possibility of tinnitus and hearing loss. It's a high risk high return strategy
In order to change personality one may be want to set a goal for life, only then you can see what have to be changed in your personality to reach that goal. Without setting goal first you cannot change personality.
Yes, I do, my personality now to know the other side. As a orange with two sides.
I’m a person who doesn’t know what to say or how to act proper when somebody in rl asks me something. I’m like my father, I wish I wasn’t. I’m antisocial too, my mothers screams at me for that. I’ve always wanted a therapist but like my mother thinks I don’t need one since I always laugh I just wish I had somebody who would listen to me without getting bored.
Being quiet is not a bad thing
We could be friends lol
And talk abt things like this
Sure wish he was our prime minister
not the prime minister but someone involved in decision making alongside them
I'm here for quantum (rapid personality) change...
I always wonder how much a person can change because there is a hell of a lot I want to change about myself e.g. bieng smarter, funnier, more social, more mental clarity/better comprehension of whats bieng said/what I am reading I guess that goes
with bieng smarter and more things but I'm not just about to list everything I would like to change/improve
I know exactly whats you feel i have this oroblem too
not a lot
You can change alot. I did. I was one of the most akward kids at school, now im very socially aware and calibrated, strong body language, etc. Did it by watching hundreds of videos on self development for years then actively applied them daily with conscious effort. Dont think that just be cause youre a socially akward incel with 0 social skills, that thats who you are and its set in stone. Change it by daily effort, like you do with your body when going to the gym by lifting weights. Its easy to see you can change personality when you see people in their 40s with such dumb personalities, i see them everyday, they bought into the "just be yourself" lie. Its our job to constantly perfect ourselves
Me too
He says that there's variability between tests. That could be a testament to the reliability of the test as a measure of the personality trait, not necessarily a reflection of actual variability of the trait itself.
This is a good point.
A stick is a stick, but it can be bent a little.
...To make it a boomerang that can travel distances and return to its initial state without influence from outside
@@EtherTheReal Our temperament is fixed, but experiences change us forever.
I’d like to be more industrious, less neurotic.
you could try to do more and think less, get yourself busy for example(with meaningful things), or develop habits that get you going.
meditation has been helping me a lot with it.
You can do it. I was very neurotic growing up in my teens and 20's but when I started doing something meaningful and allowing myself to fail with the aim of improvment then that neuroticism went down and my industriousness went up. I can still feel the remnants of my neuroticism but it is definitely s lot less powerful thsn before!
F Jerez solid advice. Thank you
I suggest you remove the 'ears' photo for starters.
"we don't consider average optimal" very strange indeed. When I taught I always jokingly said we should have awards for those kids who hit the exact average grade.
I thought that personality was who you are (fixed and unchangeable) and your behavior is how you act, which can be changeable
But how you behave is undeniably linked to your personality in some way. If you drastically change the outside, something will happen inside.
@@mikael9325 the last line, what does it mean?
@@anujmhatre. The way you act simply changes your surroundings which then affects how your personality is manifested.
@@mikael9325 so if I don't like the way I behave naturally/my authentic self and I change/work on that consciously, it'll also change/develop my personality to that change and become the 'new authentic seld' ? Can I put it this way?
@@anujmhatre. "you are what you repeatedly do"
Yea cause you can. Iv got a few personalities rattling around up here. I change them regularly. Sometimes I'm the cat Sometimes I'm the mouse but I'm always the snake 🐍
As much as I have fun with the Enneagram, I don't trust it because it's hard to quantify. For instance - a person who sees himself as passive who has done many aggressive acts would test differently than someone who sees himself as aggressive yet just brushes more issues off easily. Maybe the Big 5 since it sort of goes for a more broad perspective but seems like there are too many nuances
I heard it described that the 16 personalities are your mental hardware defaults and the enneagram is the software. I don't know all I know about that.
Creativity can be "economically viable" if one embraces entrepreneurship and the game of capitalism. Own your talent.
Difficult but I agree
What he's describing sounds more like temperament than personality. I thought that while temperament is in born that personality is more of a lifelong developmental phenomenon.
i never changed my personality but found it
"I am the eye in the sky looking at you. I am the maker of rules Dealing with fools. I don't need to see any more to know I can read your mind. I can read your mind I can cheat you blind". What sort of personality would that be like? A deniable concept and so on of course.
@Nathaniel Birthurth Any idea how that song and Mesopotamian mythology could be related? Try this, they aren't, and the song has no relation to the divine. Try Jordan's video's when he starts in on malevolence. That's why he's always trying to get people to stand for themselves because the heavens are no longer benign rather they have become occupied by the malevolent humanity. Being tough is the way to go otherwise you'll get killed. Mind you this is an age of a killer scenario so getting killed may not be the worst thing that could happen and that's another Jordanism.
@Nathaniel Birthurth I would encourage you on how to read. You don't get what I'm saying that's for sure. Good discusion
@Nathaniel Birthurth Let it go.
@Nathaniel Birthurth Love it, new language, no understanding. What else?
Malcolm Watt Not sure but you must be from Asia
And if you take 100 most popular celebrities today, and test them, you'd get the results similar with the 100 most creative lawyers.
Jordan, I'm gonna need you to define Conscientiousness as it relates to personality types.
Its industriousness plus orderliness
basically means you like a schedule and u want to follow it. Do repetitive work everyday. Accountants, bankers, cashiers, data typers, coders, all those jobs where you can sit in one place all day and do the same thing. For a creative(Openness) person like me these jobs are hell. Just thinking about them bores me already.
I switch my personality every video I watch
thats why I'm watching this one
Whats my actual personality, how to find out ?
AND how to stop switching every sec
you are probably a teenager
and when you are a teenager you produce lots of hormones and that makes you emotionally unstable
you are open to every idea and you absorb every knowledge you learn so you are changing every minute
these are just my opinions, i am not a psychologist
@@ilhanaknserefoglu5812 I agree with what you have said, thank you for answering
Hmm the ending was interesting. So will being fearful of a dystopian future preclude you from being afraid of, lets say, being successful?
Dr Peterson fears no man!!
Because there are none his
Equal! But he does fear God !
So there Phillis Diller
Mary Wilkerson
That's an interesting thought. I would say no, it doesn't. In a sense, fear of success is a fear of a dystopian future. You fear the success because you see and fear the problems that would come with it.
I used to frequent a Computer science course, and one thing that it kept bugging me was that I didn't want to participate in the rise of AI. And I think that AI will bring a lot of good things, but "skynet" and "big brother"? I don't want to have anything to do with it. On the other hand, I wasn't doing too well, I was not motivated, I was dealing with personal issues and that dystopian fear didn't occupy even 10% of my reasons for bailing on the course. So, yeah, just sharing a testimony. I wouldn't say it was decisive, but it weighted at least on my rationalizations for abandoning and being unmotivated.
@@brain0nfire Elon Musk talks about this very fear and actually warns about AI being more detrimental to the human race than nuclear weapons
life is like 5 card draw
“If your lawyer is creative enough you’ll end up in jail”
I'm watching this genius....and then a presidential ad comes on...and I question life and why we have these fools running to lead our country and these geniuses like jordan are nowhere near or around campaigning
Altough Mr.Peterson knows his shit and what he is doing. I higly doubt any one would be capable to be the president of such a big and divided country that thinks and acts so strange
Why to change? And what change?
timestamp in the full lecture?
Transform like Michael Corleone
No, *Don't* Do That - That's *WRONG.* Michael is Cain, not Abel - There is *Nothing* he would not do to protect His Family.... Including *murdering his own Mother's Son.* Which is exactly what he did - *He killed his Father's Son.* How can you pretend you loved you Mother, and then do that? How can you have any respect for or even basic decency towards your late father, having caused his soul to be so agonised by what you have done, of your own free will and choice...?
"Your Sins are Indeed Terrible.... and it is *Just* that you suffer. Your Life, could still be redeemed but I know that you don't believe that, *YOU WILL NOT CHANGE.* "
Don't transform like Michael - Transform like *Vito* : "I *Worked My Whole Life,* I don't apologise, to take *CARE* of My Family -- and I *refused* to be *A FOOL."*
I need a million dollars Batman.
The problem with this sort of thinking is it’s just that. It’s like the fat guy that is in the habit of over eating junk and not exercising. He can envision all the goals he wants 5 years out. But unless he takes the action of eating better and exercising he isn’t going to change one bit. Change requires action. This is why therapy doesn’t work. It’s just talking and imagination. You can deep think all you want if you’re fat you can’t think your way into losing weight. You have to act your way. Even if your thinking is negative you will still lose weight if you get on the treadmill every day and eat better. Getting on the treadmill and eating better are actions. It’s the actions that produce the change. The thinking about it is going to produce 0% of the change. So if you have something you want to change, what are the actions you plan on taking that will produce that change? This is the only thinking that is required. Developing your plan of action. Then taking the action.
Depends on what kind of change you want to make.
The fat guy has to make a physical change and therefore he has to take physical action.
But what if I want to make a change to my psychological software? To me it's logical that this requires psychological action aka some form of thinking. Of course combined with external things to get reference experiences.
Great because I don’t really like my personality. 😅
😆
There was one real creative lawyer, his name was Saul Goodman.
I was hoping for a how…
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I want to be more charismatic, funny and outgoing.!!!
Really? Why? What do you hope to gain from that change?
I want to be like that too... cuz i was but i changed maybe cuz of quarentine
I dont know about u guys but... i changed my personality many times...
Same my friend....my beliefs keep changing and the way i act, treat , view the world constantly changing....
Funny how this guy is an expert on this, and on stuff like the wage gap. Jack of all trades...
Interesting point. But I think his main quality is introspective motivation
Interesting a well educated a d intelligent man can understand concepts outside of his immediate field 🙈
Jessica Lee-Botes yeah but most dont act as if theyre authorities on the subject
@@fredriksvard2603 I think most educated people and well informed people can seem confident in speaking on a subject, it may not be in this clip but he is generally quite open a out things he dosnt quite understand or know and that hes not an expert in such other areas. If you dont like his tone of voice or way he is present information is arbitrary if that information is of quality and factual.
Jessica Lee-Botes so then why speak on it at all, when there are actual experts
Why do I get different results evertytime i take 5 factor personality test? Because it's not scientific at all.
Classic Dr. J Peterson...before 24 rules Lol
I dont really ike the big 5 model, think theres alot more in depth and study going into Myers Briggs, like the study of neurological pathways in relation to type.
my poor English could neverrrrr
Does everything have to be this intense or important (or am I projecting is it just me who thinks this way) , can we “know what we want” and develop a way of circumventing conscious thinking to get this?
To change a Personality from the Heart, A Person Must have the Spirit of God for a Teacher, and Comforter, Forever, in the Bible book of John, chapter 14, verse 26... The Spirit is Our Teacher of Truth Forever, for those who want it... Immanuel, God With Us Teaches this... Be Comforted, The Son of God, will Return... Peace
Is it just me or is JP like a cuddley Teddy Bear?
So this means i can change my personality . I am very syraightforward person and expect answers from ppl and when i am told to shut up and not express anything i feel a want to say , it really makes me uncomfortable and irritatable . I want to change that aspect and be laid back and cool for a while. Can i do that??
If there was your only problem, it is way less stressful than changing a whole facet, like conscientiousness.
@@Matheus16905 lol i also suffer from conscientious issue
YES
Canadians say
niche weirdly
yep,
i was wondering if it was some sort of reference to nietzsche...
Nietzche*
It seems to me, that if our personality is NOT changing, we are not learning anything new. Example as follows.
From the book ... From Apostle to Apostate: The Story of the Clergy Project … authors … Catherine Dunphy, Richard Dawkins
Welcome to the Clergy Project. It is hard to think of any other profession, which is so near to impossible to leave. If a farmer tires of the outdoor life and wants to become an accountant or a teacher or a shopkeeper, he faces difficulties, to be sure. He must learn new skills, raise money, and move to another area perhaps. But he does not risk losing all his friends, being cast out by his family, being ostracized by his whole community. Clergy who lose their faith suffer double jeopardy. It is as though they lose their job and their marriage and their children on the same day. It is an aspect of the vicious intolerance of religion that a mere change of mind can redound so cruelly on those honest enough to acknowledge it.
The Clergy Project exists to provide a safe haven, a forum where clergy who have lost their faith can meet each other, exchange views, swap problems, counsel each other-for, whatever they may have lost, clergy know how to counsel and comfort. Here you will find confidentiality, sympathy, and a friendly place where you can take your time before deciding how to extricate yourself and when you will feel yourself to stand up and face the cool, refreshing wind of truth. Richard Dawkins
i do not think it is possible.
Why would you want to pigeonhole yourself in a construct of someone’s opinion and give away your own power to shape the world in a framework that suits you where you can act without limitations.
For me, it's not about what others think but it's about what I think. I want to become one way but I'm naturally another way. The way that I am in completely unacceptable for me and it's something I want to change for the happiness of myself rather than others
I want to sell my art, and continue to make new art, and to continue to learning
To play on cello, in relationship, I want a good friend, partner, and intelligent and interesting
Person,
Our entire penal system should consist of throwing vegetables at people collectively.
Or maybe better treatment for drugs and alcohol, which seems to be a bigger commonality than neuroticism.
Ahh... Classic Jordan Peterson..... Father of unknown people
0:33 astrology in a nutshell
Yes you can change your personality it's called being bipolar
i am an isfj i want be an infj can anyone help me in this chnage...
Why would I want to change my personality? I like myself.
Go than and explore your shadow self 😉
Why not be better than good? Your opinion is subjective, what about the opinion of others?
I like myself too, but I conscious about the possibilities to make myself better.
Good question. Why would you? You are obviously watching this video yet you are happy with your personality. I am glad that you are blessed with contentment of self :)
To improve, or for the people who do have negative personality traits. (Like for people who are shy, lazy, mean, unfriendly, etc) could try and change if they wanted to.
Peterson will also make a claim to acknowledging the thing that frightens or disgusts you and the necessity to look there for maximizing growth.
I find it somewhat contradictory. To the claim that success is found by conceptualizing yourself as an other, or someone you are responsible for, and aiming at a vision of the future most optimized....
How could you want the fire of transfigurative enlightenment for yourself being that it is the most noble goal, (meaningful) also the most real, thus painful, and also the most complicated thing you can do. (But also dont make life as complicated as it needs to be. (Dont fix what isn't broken) and to make it worse there is no certainty that it isn't purely a will to a utopian standard thus the aim is perpetual futility. A future of excessive straining and deformation.
But then again human beings are messy and what we "need" seems egocentric or superimposed instead of natural.
Find what you are good at. Find a profession that allows you to exercise what you are good at. In that profession, work on what skills you lack. Round yourself off by working on what you lack.
You can’t only do what you are best at. Life requires everyone to get better at things that they are bad at to succeed. Also, if we are to grow as people much of our personal transformation has to come from a personal death and rebirth of self. Descending into the underworld, by various means whether our own mistakes or circumstances out of our control, and then transforming ourselves in response is one of the key mechanisms through which we mature and grow. Part of this is also the archetype of dragon that must be slain in order to gain the treasure that he holds. Another way of looking at this is that what is holding you back from success probably isn’t found where you are already looking.
@@paxpoggi9398 while I agree that people shouldnt focus only on what they ar good at, I think you missed my point. You should focus on what you are good at, and fill in what other skills you need after. The dragons will rear their ugly heads whenever you set out for any goal, no need to go search and find dragons.
Someone who is 5' tall should not strive to be a basketball player. Someone who has no innate ability for art should not strive to be an artist. However, someone who finds themselves good at logic can look to become a lawyer, but they will need to work on negotiating skills, memorization, dealing with difficult people (e.g. clients, judges, etc.).
Depending on your age. At 10 years old, it takes 1 traumatic experience to change. At 20 years old, it takes 5 traumatic experiences to change. At 30 years old, it takes 10 traumatic experiences to change. At 40 years old, it takes 20 traumatic experiences to change. At 50 years old, it takes 40 traumatic experiences to change. So now, you can see it is most likely impossible to change your personality after age 30.
Change isn't always bad. All change does not come by traumatic experiences. Just thought itself can make a person feel different, if you became addicted to good thoughts, and dont let bad ones bring you down consistently, you can change. Me and a lot of people are examples of this. If any of you doubt this, you can watch Eckhart Tolle, Tony Robbins and many more.
GOD loves you all. GOD bless you all. Have a blessed day everyone.
Its all fun and games till you are stuck with 2 personalities
If she's low social level she's low esteem level which equals high cheat level.
Ok, what niche is there for highly open, very unconscientious, disagreeable, introverted and highly neurotic person?
Creative, evil and spiteful, lazy hacker supervillain ?
I am getting more and more convienced that i can only be a looser forever trying to be a good person ( so forever dissatisfied with life, doing things that going to put me at the bottom of every hierarchy that is good, like being a good conscientious worker that cares deeply about society) or to be a decent criminal / bad person and die eventually due to not controling my desires.
It seems like its a fucking joke, a rigged game before i could ever even start to do something about it
And so it is. You said yourself that you have convinced yourself that you "can only be a looser forever 'trying' (aka not succeeding in your view) to be a 'good person' (Subjective value based on personal morels)". Such a commitment would absolutely cement that in your life.
It IS rigged. You just rigged it. In order to get to the place you want to be personally you need a clear image of what it is you want from yourself.
Note: None of that is reliant on how others respond to you and your actions. Only how you personally respond to the world and your position in it. If your self value is based on other peoples views and responses that is yet another way to "rig it" negatively.
You got this bro! Keep on with your search. Put what you learn into action over time. Break and create new habits one at a time. It takes a couple weeks per habit. I dont know you personally but I KNOW you can get to the result you want if you can picture it clearly and walk towards it. Good luck and good skill!
@@thebedroomintellectual2460we need more people like you 🫡
He sounds like Rick from Rick and Morty
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I think he has some form of ADHD, he struggles to keep his idea on track.
No he just has to much informations to say
Why is JP so popular? He doesn't say anything particularly revolutionary. Is he an intellectual father figure or something? What I heard him say one time that was a red flag for me was when he said there are "ghetto queens that have more wealth than the queen of England". Now, come on. Why did he go there? And he does sound like Kermit the Frog
i like my coffee no sugar, no cream, just ghetto
Perhaps because it is a fact that some of those queens are definitely happier and more content with the life they have? Uncomplicated by fake public appearances for the adoration of the "plebes"?
Socialists see average as optimal, and the problem in Africa is...