“Prince Harry Was Traumatised!” | Dr. Gabor Maté On Childhood Trauma.
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- Dr. Gabor Maté uncovers Prince Harry's untold childhood truths, shedding light on lasting scars and offering profound insights into childhood trauma's enduring impact.
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Trauma served on a silver platter is no less trauma
That's so strinkingly accurate metaphor 😮😢 true. Western countries look like they are rich but full of broken childhood pain
Lonliness, abandonment is a great cause of trauma, not talking, no consoling.
Cruelty is never justified specially for profit
Compassion is highly underrated. Listening to Gabor Maté always reminds me to be compassionate to others and myself - to at least try. It's a wonderful perspective that he shares from lived experience and scientific knowledge
I held my babies.each one for while once born..friends & family told me over over over.your over doing it..don't hold them so much..I enjoyed it.they yelled at me to stpp.let baby cry.i got mad & told them it's my child.i need to cuddle them..
Such a kind, wise and humble man - not many like him on this earth!
Wow what he said about John Lennon's Help ....I never thought about that being literally, a cry for help on his part...this is an eye opener.
Gabor mate is just so amazing. Love listening to him
❤
Yes, PH is traumatized and G Mate wanted to monetize his trauma. Disgusting!
Dr M is a lovely man. Thank God he has tried to help heal Prince Harry.
thank you!
He is not a lovely man...he got plenty of deserved backlash for the Harry Therapy Session., for which I am sure he was overjoyed with the money he took sans guilt. We critical thinkers weren't fooled by Gabe's disingenuous "regrets". He is, and always was a greedy businessman before everything else.
Yh his trauma started before birth. Much trauma is added after his mother's death. So totally overstand his behaviors #even animals hold and touch their kids. Touch influence the brain 🧠 the grandmother and father shakes his hand. He's privileged but still in a dark place. Hope like others he heals.
There are pictures that show otherwise! That's why one-sided stories are just that!
@@Angelabout1there are family portraits but zero casual photos of the brothers with Charles.
@@Gaeliclass That's a total LIE! Do your research!
@@Angelabout1 l have.
@@Gaeliclass Apparently not good enough because there are tons of pictures out there!
I really loved this interview ❤
I’ve always felt so much for harry and what he went through 😪 he was the same age as my son when his mum died and it really affected me so I love him he’s had it tough bless him 🥰
Brilliant honest compassionate doctor
LOVE his transparency. There aren't many men who can admit this. Especially those who have alot to say about Harry.
thank you! I feel the same!!! Harry himself says, that longest reports, if you look fro the source, says " a close friend of crown" or something. Wich means it's planted. Or really someonw who doesnt want to be mentioned by name gives a hint. Roaylty always has been best sellers in media. It's a cat biting its tail.. in a way... because we all feel we know them so close from newspapers and want to get more from that. But really, years ago I stopped watching news, tv, reading newspapers, also the so called alternative media with its consoiracy theories... none of them. I pick out what interests me, and try to check if it's true or not.
Kind regards from Austria, Hedi
i could listen this humble man dr gabor maté for whole day 🙏🏽❤️
Gabor Maté is such a thoroughly nice human being. So compassionate, wise, and gentle. Just the way he speaks tones down the noise all around us. I, too, wish his interview with Prince Harry had been available to everyone but perhaps one day he'll interview him again, this time under different rules.
I watched a video that Gabor said he regretted the session with harry
@@maryray3419 Yes, he regretted it but it was because of the rules under which the interview was conducted, not because he regretted the interview itself.
I am sorry that you are so misinformed about this guy..he is not the man he appears to be.
@@katelyn442 u don't know that
Dr. Mate is just human too. He may be a trauma expert but he too makes mistakes not listening to his gut. My gut also told me something was wrong with the format. Why cant Harry just share for everyone to hear and see? Fantastic example of not speaking up and saying no!
He said in this interview that he didn't like the format. Gut feeling is overrated, critical thinking and concious thoughts is important as well. Mate speaks sensibly about Harry
instead of saying Harry, put in the name of those who sold all that. There are contracts... as Mate says, Harry and him wanted the interview to be shared openly... thanks, and kind regards, Hedi
When you have a step parent around you have to cry in private and in silence for your lost parent, but he didn't feel it was ok to even do that
Gabor Mate's voice is like warm rain.
There are many traumatized in the world Harry is not the only one..
no... not the only one. But one of them. If you would be in the public like him from your first breath, dont you think you wanted to speak publicly to defend yourself?
Trauma is no monopoly of the poor... 🙏 thank you! And kind regards from austria, Hedi
And so what?Is he saying he is the only one.People like you creating this whole hatred narrative does not make this world any good
Yeah, and...?
RIGHT NOW ITS ABOUT HARRY. HE SPOKE ABOUT IT AND LIKE IT OR NOT HARRY IS A BRAVE WONDERFUL PERSON❤
Takes humility to know when you make a mistake.
TFS ❤❤
Didn’t Paul Burrell confirm he cuddled & held Harry tight after they leaned of Diana’s passing?
What about getting the approval from your parent?
@@mimilindelof8951But Gabor said that no-one ever cuddled or held him
Henry and William was at Balmoral when Diana died, Paul Burrell were NOT at Balmoral bc he was Dianas butler not the Royals, so Burrell didnt cuddled and held Henry tight when they learned af Dianas passing.
Thanks Dr Gabor, great articulation of how trauma. Its hard for people to believe you can have both a trauma and a palace but there is such a huge history in that Palace OF this happening!
Always had immense admiration and respect for Dr Mate (for his dedication and body of work). However, by his own admission, doing that interview was opportunistic. We expected that from Harry (and Co), never from DR Mate, Personally I'd like to forget it ever happened ad go back to the things he speaks on that sincerely resonate with people, and not Harry's over churned story. Not in today's world.
@123 Dr Maté explained that both he and Harry wanted to release their talk for free but were not allowed to for legal reasons.
AFTER the fact. @@Gaeliclass
Harry is a human besides a royal... Mate clearly talks about the"oportunic" part from that interview, but none of that was Harry's or his decision, as he admits
thank you, and kind regards, Hedi
@@wildseifen They both agreed to it, end of story.
@@Gaeliclass- that is the epitome of irresponsible decisions. Both undertook this interview as a way to market a book the dingbat Prince didn’t event write himself, it was high profile and money-making. Only after the fact did both realize it was a commercial scheme.
My mum died when I was 3 years old ,put in an orphanage for 6 years. We were poor
So please
I am able to put myself into Harry's shoes, I really feel for him.😢
There is an interesting mantra (possibly from the counselling world?) which might be relevant here: ‘There are reasons, but not excuses.’
That someone so accomplished in his field, authentic, wise and ethical as Gabor Mate was destabilised by coming close to Harry albeit briefly, shows me how toxic the Harry and entourage machine really is. I remember seeing extracts of that interview and feeling deeply uncomfortable for Gabor like he had been unwittingly manipulated and compromised. I really appreciate this.
I lost my respect for Gabor... he got sucked in so easily by a drug addicted idiot.
Same feeling, but the thing that angers me the most isn’t the royal gossip and the family feud. It’s Harry’s support for association such as Betterup and his “non-profit” that look like the average tax cut enterprise.
I'm a little confused by your statement, 'how toxic the Harry and entourage machine is' that it was Harry being toxic or how toxic the online trolls were? The online trolls were and are very toxic and I believe that's partly why he left.
@@Gaeliclass Toxic people cultivate toxic media narratives around themselves, Harry is just another Beverly Hills Housewife or Kardashian.
I see the vitriol some “royalist” have against him for leaving and frankly don’t understand why they care that much- but honestly, in real life, I’ve never met a person who had positive opinion on Harry’s latest media rounds, and all these people aren’t rabid trolls, some had their fair share of family tragedies so they understand, yet he comes across as extremely contrived, money hungry, addicted to the attention and engulfed in this narrative of actually being “special” because of who his mother and father are. No one wants to be part of the family drama he keeps trying to inform the public about. I don’t want to know his relationship with mummy, daddy and brother dear, yet this whole media campaign never focused on “hey we all face struggles, even wealthy people” but was instead an attempt to frame his brother as a butcher and him as an heroic victim in the eyes of millions of strangers.
but not from Harry. He exactly says.
Correction on book name by Ashley Montegu. Touching: The Human Significance of Skin
Wow I was just watching the other video lol
It is very obvious the royal family might have been doing good at functions and representation of the country but not so good at being warm and empathetic with kids and family members....
What's sad Is the English media bullying him, after what happened to his mother! Shame on them and get over it!
Are you kidding me, Harry had lots of extraordinary counselling all paid for by, well not sure, but certainly not him. Terrible things happen, but what he has done this past year, after taking his Mum’s $20 million inheritance and then trashed his brother and his family and his Dad whom broke Royal Protocol to step in and walk Meghan down the aisle is simply not manly but reflects how, after all those years of counseling he has’t done any work to be a better man.
I was told the bay will get used to it.ill have to do it lots more..I said that's my job as mom to give love & effection...they were mean
Where was Prince William when Harry was told about his mother's Death?? Surely they both were told together!! Then both boys would have hugged each other.
I love that the report about Harry is turning into good! there was too much hate... love and compassion are much better to understand a person... even a Prince! even a King! Everybody if poor or rich!
thanks for your clear and touching videos!!! It's exactly what is needed if there are negative energies. Thank you!
I do agree with not being seen..
Of course, Gabor is human. Part of the issue with Western society is the absolute fear of imperfection. Gabor needed help, because WE ALL NEED HELP. His choice to reach for help is much more healthy than all the people who completely refuse to look at themselves and navigate through their own inner landscapes and understand their vulnerabilities, weaknesses and humanness. Which are all part of this life. Handled gracefully (reflecting and seeking help when needed, and then going so far as sharing that with this petty world), our humanness is OUR BEAUTY!!
Every family has a scapegoat, and clearly in the royal family, It is Harry. I commend him for being so courageous for breaking away. That must’ve been extremely difficult for him. I’m glad that finally someone is acknowledging that deep core childhood pain that he endured and acknowledges how that plays out in his life.
Agreed
Also agree 😢
No, not every family. Only the unhealthy ones.
Harry is the one scapegoating his whole family
@@AriusBLKfully agreed.
I is strange that someone complainsd about your comments on tge queen, It seems to me that I always knew that she was nota touchey feely Mum. Didnot everyone. The complsainer dies not reakise that we cant all ve perfect.
The film "The Kings Speec,h also talks of how emotionaly terrible life was for children in the royal family.
Then donate the money to a good cause. Instead of keeping it
There was trauma prior to her death. DIanna had bulimia and even spoke about it saying the only way she could get her anger out was through her bulimia.
What else is new? Being alive is traumatic!
So, Harry was traumatized...what about William?
He was older and might not be as vulnarable as Harry and could also be that William is brainwashed to become the next in line if that old lady lived long enough not to let Charles take the throne.
What about him. Golden boy, play boy behind his wife’s back.
It seems that William matured and therapy brought results. At least he has the good public image and amazing wife. We don't know of course his real personality. But in public William is fine. Harry looks like mess
A lot of Gabors work, and modern understanding of trauma, describes how people can go through the same life events and be affected differently. Not everyone who goes to war develops PTSD. Some people are more sensitive to life's traumas and they feel them more deeply.
'no two children have the same parents '. Siblings go through different experience inside.
People don't you understand, the child needs a helping hand, or he'll grow to be an angry young man some day.
He has his therapist on speed dial remember
Well im sure it affected prince William just the same. Why talk about just harry being traumatised. Princess Diana had 2 sons.
Harry was younger and always treated as the spare. William was raised as someone whom one day would become a king.
As a GP (same as Dr Mate) I am concerned for people with diseases/ disorders who will be left worrying that they somehow contributed to their own disease on listening to Dr Mate’s obsessive theories.
As a GP if you don't think that the mind can contribute to creating and increasing illnesses, I feel sorry for your patients. He is not obsessing. He is talking about balance and mental healing. That is the problem in medicine nowadays. You guys treat symptoms not origins. You see the diseases not the person.
Yes, I know what you mean. Some people will judge and blame people with cancer or other illnesses for "bringing it on themselves". He should make it clear that while positive thinking is important, compassion must be there when people get sick. There are many other factors that lead to disease.
Each of us can choose to not beat ourselves up about considering this way of thinking. And then, using the idea as a tool in self healing. Many pcp's I've met are not helpful in the healing process unless they are in control of it completely.....which is not helpful in my experience.
HAHAHAH ''i wish they had''. omg savage
the John Farnham cover of "Help" is so much more poignant
You know but no one stands up to the fool and says that wasnt your issues about your mother and fathers relationship you were a baby. He still is. He needs to take responsibility.
For me asling for help is not a problem if you have a support group.. If you dont have friends and ask for help, you will be told it is paranoic to think so and so is getting at you or some such.
Shakespeare writes about it, Hamlets only friend I s a captain in the atmy. Bad situation to be in.
In the hundred years war the kings had supprt groups and lost or won wars according to whether or not their grouo was strong. People can identify with kings more easily than with poorpers, we too need a support group.
Women will support their husband having friends as they miggt help him get jobs. It is better to have friends yourself, then they might help you or your husband. Look after yor own interests. Your husband might not bea true friend.
If you firget to have avgroup of your iwn friends you are done for. You can see this in animal documentaries. It is not a questikn of asking for helo but of having friends.
Maybe if the ginger winger did not monetise the memory of his mother’s death at every turn I would have more sympathy for him . Dr G you have dented your reputation considerably by being involved in this never ending soap opera which is sad as I think you have contributed much to our understanding of mental health .He is not the only one to have lost a parent or a loved one and it now has reached the stage where people wish he would just bugger off to the privacy he and his wife said they were looking for.
Is this for real? Harry isn't that difficult to diagnose, wow
"Birdee Pruitt [Hope Floats, movie]: Childhood is what you spend the rest of your life trying to overcome." EVERYONE! No one has perfect parents! Find a way to get through it. Put things in perspective and move on. Rather be a member of the "Royal Family" or scrounging for anything in a pile of rubble in India or China??? Geesh!
seems like harry doesn't want to heal his trauma, he just wants to make money and get attention from it.
What tells you he isn’t trying to heal ? Maybe leaving is part of the process
You do not personally know him, so your judgment says more about your character than his
@@lcg3737
why bother explain to these dreadful mob of dweeds hell bent on being insudious with contempt and ignorance.
Winnie Wallace..Harry who???.
If a one-time event and its bad press and social media negativity affected a 79-year-old doctor who specializes in mental health this much, is it any surprise Harry and Meghan had to cut ties with the royal family?? I really don't understand all the hate against them. Unless they're his family, what's it to all these haters? Get a life! Don't like he got a book deal? Don't buy it, don't read it, and don't watch any coverage on it! All these people hating on them are all profiting from it, but oh no it's not ok when it's Harry and Meghan doing it! Seriously think all of this vitriol is racially motivated like how dare Prince Harry marry a black woman! You'd think they can't do anything right if you read and hear all the people who trash them!
Oh please, from what we now know she hade always intended to cash in on the royal family. It was when the queen told her the facts of life that she realised she screwed up big time and her Hollywood fantasy of clawing her way to be queen one day was delusional . Every thing that has followed with this soap opera initiated from then . The only reason people are interested in reading or watching on social media is they are waiting for the finale in the divorce courts !
I have seen mothers who dont pick up male kids because they think it will make them soppy.
Orangutangs get carried around as babies and turn imto big confident males.
If you live in a safe place, you can go out into the world more fearledsly
Well I wasn’t born with
This guy is infuriating...he's got a hammer...thus everything looks like a nail to him. The nail being trauma.
Henry is 40 now, so being traumatised as a child, does that give him the right to be abusive and self centred? I think we understand his being upset when he was young, there are plenty of photos where Henry is being touched and having affection given to him by his dad! Or do you Mr Mate just accept the words of a proven liar! Can you help Henry Mr Mate? , as a professional you would have had legal with the Sussexes and how much they lye and grift! And oh yes, they want to be seen, but what we see, isn’t very nice! advice about that contract! It got to you because you didn’t investigate recent events
How has Harry been abusive?
Firstly it's Dr Maté. I've been researching and following online the events with the Royal Family for a few years. I was in three Tudor history groups for several years and they became very toxic in regards to Harry so I decided to research what was going on. It's sad that Harry had to take his wife and child and leave the UK but it was becoming unsafe for them and it was the responsible thing to do. Unfortunately.
Ridiculous comment.
@tinaari88
Get your facts right.
Harry is 39 hrs old not 40. When was he abusive?
Is it willie boy who hit him while his wife was away? And when Harry fell on dog dish he told Harry not to tell Meghan that he hit him?
Who is the abusive now.
It seems like your characterization of Harry is straight from the tabloids and the talking mouthpieces of the unroyal family.LOL!
I am pretty sure Harry is traumatised. Being Royal and grow up wealthy does not mean you cannot have. In my view this is never an excuse to act like Harry does. I mean making public private info of family members, accusing them publicy , telling untruth, victimplaying. He can get good mental health care and could have learn to deal by now. It seems to me he is dwelling into it. Damaging himself and his children.
Please Harry is a highly manipulative person who learned how to manipulate his father, the Queen and the public. Trauma would have come from witnessing the death of his mother . He suffered a loss which he has used to manipulate the public and his family in order to do what he wanted. He was given everything, but he was never taught about boundaries, accountability, or about consequences, both positive and negative. Millions of children suffer the loss of a parent as children. I list mine at 8/2 years old. I was not indulged with the luxury of using it as an excuse to get my own way and not be responsible for my behavior or life decisions. It makes those of us with the luxuries that Harry had to grow up fast. I would like to remind you of John F. Kennedy Jr. It was shown on tvs all over the world of him about 3 years old standing in front of the Whitehouse with his mother and 5 year old sister saluting as his father's coffin passed by. Both John Jr.and his sister Caroline were amazing and accomplished young adults. Harry was a spoiled brat as a toddler and has remained one to this day. It is time to let his mother rest and stop using her as an excuse not to grow up. Instead of being grateful for his blessings, he is angry and bitter because William was born first.
You should have known better
Harry also knows and understands the philosophy of the Royal upity, descriminating Archike,, racist, classist, Facist, System he was born in. His wife is a black woman, and his children are not considered white they are black. His uncestors must be rolling in their graves. As far as they concern, he tainted and staind their Lily White Commonwealth. That has been around dominating the world for centuries. He doesn't want what happened to his mother, to happen to his wife and children, he knows what's up!!!
This system is COLD and EVIL.
Have you seen his children...? They are white 😂
For Harry's first 12th years, princess diana never touched her son?
Nobody said that. He was talking about how he was told about his mother’s death.
I think she might have been one of the few people who did regularly show affection to her children, but she had her own mental health struggles too. It doesn't like regular affection was freely available growing up in the Royal Family because of the way they've all been raised, to 'be proper' and being emotional is not it.
Diana was distracted with her romantic affairs after Harry’s birth. Charles’s was not into a relationship with Camilla for several years after Harry’s birth. Did Harry witness Diana’s affairs?
@@blr4076What you just said is a perfect example of one of the main tropes spewed about Diana online to this day nonstop.
Diana is no longer with us to defend herself and there is zero proof that she stepped out first.
Prince William is traumatized too and he’s not trying to profit from it.
William has not been bullied online near in the way Harry has. Not even close.
There is nothing wrong with Harry telling his own story.
Are you not aware how the RF has profited over centuries?
I have lost my respect for you. You never knew Diana, how can you declare her “unbalanced???” Why have you taken everything Harry said as truth? You should try fact checking Harry’s veracity. Whike done if what he says is probably true, many untruths have been fact checked as untruths. And yet, you have used your platform to amplify negative statements without proof of veracity. You have overstepped. Shane on you!
Harry has proven to be dishonest, disrespectful, dishonorable. No excuse for his cruel behavior. He needs to grow up and take responsibility. What a cop out
I mean, all you need to do is watch Diana's interviews from the 90's to know she was struggling. She was open about her eating disorders and mental health struggles and I bet plenty of people were grateful for that. It took the stigma out of talking about those things a bit at least.
Wow, do you know William and Harry personally? What actually happened? We’re all listening.
🤣😆😂
@@lourdesgreen2213 You are likely basing this on tabloids that twist the truth. He hasnt been dishonest. Some people might call him disrespectful I grant that, but I understand his wish to tell his story when lots of lies have been told about him.
But she was unbalanced...from her own childhood traumas.. that's the truth, whether we like it or not. Yes she was a great woman in many respects, but not perfect, nobody is.
Diana cheated first get it dtraight
No way !stop lying, Charles cheated throughout his marriage to Diana
His brother William also lost his mother and now his to deal w his jealous, envious and spiteful younger brother the narcissist Harold. Where’s the empathy for him? Also many many women are in the Royal Family doing just fine, Megain’s is not a representation of women or a minority ppl.
Oh for gods sake dont give any more excuses for him. No body held him? Rubbish. How do you know that, were you there, NO you just listen to this whinger and believe him. William his brother was in the same predicament as his younger brother. He had had his mother LONGER THAN harry but didnt act in the way he did.
I don’t like Harry. You should talk real people’s problems. I really hope you’re not trying to make a buck.
Are you saying that Harry isn't a real person?
So is HE
It’s mind blowing , people think because someone comes from wealth , they can’t have trauma or experience loss ? ❤️🩹
No. Someone who comes from wealth have access to the best doctors in the world. Harry said on the Oprah interview that his mom left him money that he used to buy a $14 million house. Did he really need that huge house for just him and his family? Why did he have Meghan buying furniture on her credit card (listed in Spare)? Why didn't he use some of that millions he got from his mom to seek out a professional therapist or doctor who specializes in traumatized adults? Instead, he made the media rounds talking about his trauma. Never saying whether he was healed or not but did say drugs helped him see things clearly.
Sooner or later we will find out that Harry's drug and alcohol use traumatized his own kids. For the record, I was taken away from my parents at the age of 7 years old and placed in Foster care where I was mistreated physically, mentally, and emotionally. Harry can afford to go see a doctor. Instead, he decided to make deals worth millions while putting his trauma onto the public.
@@giftofspeechyes when you have money you can access the best healthcare I agree . What I meant was he experienced trauma . I am sorry about mt your trauma and wish you the best
@@giftofspeechHarry and Meghan put a lump sum down on their house and are paying imstallments.
@@giftofspeechYou are making bold accusations about Harry. That is all mere speculation and an example of the online toxicity and a big reason why he left.
@@Gaeliclass That is where you are wrong. On their Instagram page dated Jan 8, 2020 they stated that they were leaving to become financially independent. When Meghan was called a golddiger, that was when they switch their "truth" to "toxicity" because many of us realized Meghan was always planning to leave. She never gave up her Hollywood agent. In fact, they spent Christmas in Canada coming up with the SussexRoyal website and demands. They also started applying for SussexRoyal trademarks before the Queen pulled Sussex Royal from them which led to the Sussexes telling the Queen she didn't own the word royal. When the Queen started pulling their royal patronages, the Sussexes started screaming about racism.
You need to sit down and do a timeline and get your head out of the Sussexes behinds.
When the race card didn't work, Harry just this year decided to tell the world his family weren't racist but had unconscious bias. That was AFTER he and Meghan won and accepted an award for fighting racism within the royal family.
Harry and Meghan have been throwing one big adult temper tantrum because they were told no. I followed them because I wanted to support them but truth is Harry and Meghan are liars who made money off of their so called trauma. Now that no one wants to hear their crap, they are struggling to find more million dollar deals to pay for the lifestyle they thought they would have had. "Billion dollar brand". All they have now is pap walks, word salads, and pretending to be a perfect couple. Talk to me again when the divorce hits.