If Your Ex Moved On Too Fast, WATCH THIS! (Emotionally Recover) | Matthew Hussey
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Breakups are incredibly hard.
And a split can be even more excruciating when your partner moves on while you’re still healing.
It can leave you with all kinds of painful questions like:
“Why wasn’t I good enough?”
“What does that person have that I don’t have?”
“Have I lost the love of my life to someone else?”
It’s one of the worst types of pain there is. And if we don’t learn the right lessons from our breakup, it can create baggage in the form of insecurities and an unwillingness to open up to someone new. (Risking your chance to find real, lasting love.)
But closure can come faster than you expect with a simple shift in the way you choose to think about your ex, and yourself. I’m sharing this powerful shift with you today.
If there’s anything I want you to take from this video, it’s that while what you’re going through is hard, it’s also an opportunity. A chance to let go of someone who couldn’t see your value, so that you can make space for a man who can.
If someone doesn’t choose you, they cannot be right for you. Period. There’s someone better on the other side of all this. I promise.
Today’s video was inspired by a brave male audience member who was devastated when his girlfriend of 5 years moved on only four months after their breakup. Not only will you learn something from the response I give him, but you'll also get insight into how men process pain. Spoiler alert… we ain’t that different.
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Roy is a reminder that men are as vulnerable as women. I wish him well and everyone in this thread going through heartbreak.
@@SuperMurray2009 I've never seen this, maybe you are confusing lust with love? It's easy to do and that would explain the quick recovery.
As a man, vulnerability is the greatest gift I've found, it has improved everything I've touched, brought me closer, made me happier, made me connected. And intimacy, doesn't have to be with a woman, can be with a man too. I hope some men can discover the gift that it is.
I find a man who can be vulnerable attractive as he can be himself.
Thank you! ❤
Jenie's MindEscape g
Isn’t it crazy how 1 human being can absolutely ruin your life.
I know.. 😕
I regret being that vulnerable to someone that anytime could just destroy me (like he did)
Brandon dont do drugs man kill the ego in the gym brother( smoke some weed every now and then)
Yes I know
For most people it’s ourself
When your intentions are pure, you don't lose people.
They lose you. ❤
very true!!!! god bless
Thanks for this. ❤
Best thing I've heard today!!
Thank you for writing this comment. 🙏🏻
Than why am I hurting and she is happy moving on and dating some other guy?
I listened to this 2 years ago to get over a devastating breakup, I felt like I cannot survive but I did. Now I’m going through another one but this video made me remember how strong I was 🥺 and I know I can move on
You are not alone. 8 years dating have been married for 8 months and she just moved out 3 days ago. Next week it’s my birthday to make matters even worse. Imagine the pain I’m going through. However every day that passes I tell myself that it only gets easier from here. God bless need to talk I’m here for you 🙏🏼
You got it baby
@@Arsnl05 Are you doing well? As someone who is going through equal amount of pain if not less, I understand what you are going through. I now question myself why we choose to get hurt.
I wish you strength and incredible amount of peace.
I’ve been going through absolutely hell myself. My ex and I broke up a month and a half ago now. Found out after the fact that she had been sexting our roommate and it absolutely killed me. It hurts, it wasn’t even two days after I moved out she was sleeping with him. I’ve blocked her on everything and not had anything to do with her. I wish I could have known the things about her past I do now so I could’ve known to avoid her, but unfortunately things don’t work like that. It’s hurts me to know how disposable I was, so easily after everything I did for her. I wasn’t perfect by any means, but I didn’t cheat or consider it once throughout our relationship. I hope the pain eases up soon… 2022 has been a horrible year for me.
Same. Same. Hugs. You ain't the only one who's been through it twice. But in one sense, we know we'll survive. I seen a saying once, you'll get over it, just like that other thing. It's true. Keep trudging through ❤️
I can see how deeply he's hurt from the way he talked.
he probably was the one that ruined it
@@miss.bitchswerve6329 ,why would you think so? You don't know him or his ex.
Yes :(
Yeah..he is crushed. His heart is completely broken 💔
Miss. Bitch, Swerve your name makes me not even shocked that you assumed that lol
When I was hurt someone said to me.
Quote: If you can love the wrong person that much imagine how much you can love the right one. ❤
That's a nice way of looking at it. It's strange how we don't want someone back because they've treated us so badly yet our hearts still love them.
Hi shaun Brabant
Do be friends with me
Could message me back soon lesley Mcconnach
Thats a brilliant bit of advice, cheers sooo much for that 😪
Wow that’s nice
Hi shaun Brabant
You are wonderfull to me please message back soon lesleymcconnach
People that move on too fast are just very afraid to be lonely, I said it
This answered everything perfectly for me. “Unless someone chooses you, they ain’t the one you were supposed to be with. You can be disappointed that she wasn’t the person, buy you can’t grieve like she was the person because she’s not. Disappointment is much easier to get over grieving than you lost the love of your life.”
Yeah this really helps actually
Same here! This is nothing but a WAKE UP CALL❤
it's not truth though. There isn't a perfect person, we are not believing in soulmates etc. Sometimes you regret cause it might have been one of the best opportunities you had. But you can always hope for better.
@Account-br9kc Exactly what he said tho.
I loved this part too ! 😢
What a guy. To go there as pretty much the only man in the audience and stand up and talk about his hurt. I'd like to see more of this.
right??? he showed more vulnerability than i've ever shown in my life.
@@xoz-- Amen. Just reading Brené Brown's work. This is real life vulnerability
Completely agree. I'm a guy and I listen to Mathew all the time cause I learn so much. It's not only content for women, men too!
BaronessStrange ❤️❤️ love that idea
What a brave man. The braveness. It's just so brave. He is the bravest. Give him the Purple Heart for braveness.
Sending a warm hug to everyone who is grieving for someone who had moved on for someone else.
Hi, let me tell you that I had the same bad experience with my couple and I was doing all bad to recover the love of my life until a friend of mine told me about a book that was really helpful to me. If you want it don’t hesitate to write me an email: amandagibson342@gmail.com and I will send it to you.
I just went through a break up 2-3 days ago and we only lasted for 4 months. He cheated on me for the 2nd time, I confronted him, I had proofs of his conversation with his girl and everything else yet he wouldn't admit it instead he told me how dare I am to call him a cheater and a liar. I have never been so devastated in my life. I loved him with all my heart even after the first cheating. He promised me he'd never do it again and won't leave me, but he's completely gone now. I am now isolated with my own thoughts and questioning my worth. Crazy thing is I am willing to forgive him if he'd ask for it. I don't know what's gonna happen. I am trying to find answers for all of my questions that's why I get here. Part of me still wants him, and partly scared of getting more hurt and going through the same pain again. I hope I will surpass this pain the soonest the possible. I want my old self back, the happy one.
Thank you :)
Thank you. I’m currently going through that right now. I saw a picture that I wish I didn’t see when I went on social media. It was a picture of my ex and his new girlfriend kissing. Total slap in the face.
@@amandagibson5769 Hello! May I send you an email in order to get that book too? Btw sorry for bothering but I'm kinda going through a situation similar
The hurt in Roy’s eyes describes how much pain he is in internally. 🙏🏻💔
That pain he has it what have I felt it. when he said it I saw it in his eyes . It painful. I know 100 percent what he's feeling on my second huge break up one very recent again where I thought I was gonna be with this person the rest of my life and have family . I woke up to this person and then poof gone snap of a finger it hurts .
OMG. I’m a sensitive man. I am going through a very bad break up experience. Thank you for this message. I have tears in my eyes. I’m so glad there is content like this available.
How are you doing so far?
@@MariajoseCharrisArdila-ut8vk Hey! I'm doing much better now. It gets kinda sad sometimes but not feeling like a victim anymore and organizing my life. Thank you for asking!
Going through a breakup right now. Just like yourself, I’m a very sensitive man. This hurts man
I’m going through same 😢😢😢 why do nice people gets hurt soo much
4 years relationship's before she left me i want make purpose. And before propose she break up in hardest way. We even doesn't talk about it. Just reject 5 mins call break up and that's it (
Yeah it's super hard but i accept it and thanks for all to her
Take care guys
1:28 "Theres twenty women that are going to give you their phone numbers"
yet in the moment he knew he only wanted one and she was running away
J Medrano I know she was trying to make him feel better by saying that, but all I could think was that’s 20 women lining up to get their hearts broken because he is not emotionally ready for dating anyone until he heals from this breakup.
If he had abundance mentality he'd be going "Fuck yeah!" Because in that moment, all of those girls are strangers. But so was his ex, once upon a time...
Ya, it wouldn’t help him
That’s the worst fucking part....
This
"You didn't lose the love of your life. That's still to come."
Thank you
I suppose the exception to that is if your partner all of a sudden dies.
@@davecullins1606ouch.. that would be grave.... Get it? ;)
I am sorry. I had a really messy breakup over text and humour is how I am coping with it.
Yes. Thank you 🩷
Then why do so many people die lonely and alone?
@@nihilist6008point of the quote is it wasn't it. It might come but it sure wasn't it.
"Something better for you is about to come. I promise you my brother, I promise you."
Amen
This video came at the perfect time. It’s exactly what I needed to hear. He summed it up so perfectly why she wasn’t “the one” I was making her out to be. Makes perfect sense.
Stay strong brotha! Going through a rough patch myself.
@@Arsnl05 ditto. We can survive!
Hell yeah Andy
yep, it was a fantasy, an illusion. It's time to wake up and see the reality for what it is and move on.
"The right person can only be the right person when it's two people choosing each other." 🥺💔
TRUTH Bomb ,right !
@It's a Bunnay You have not found the right one.
Shiela Chan Obvious, but great point that's 100% true ;-*
That hit me hard !
It's a Bunnay same here but it’s a problem I get bored like the first week and have to go out fishing for more in the mean time. But it’s good that we are this way because we’re not attached to our emotions.
This helped me a lot. “If they didn’t choose you then they can’t be the one”
I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and whoever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️
He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯
Whtsaap him**
True.
I know of a man how help me gat my ex back.
Damn you could see Roy try to suppress his pain through his words and his nervous laughter. I felt every bit of that, I'm going through the same thing myself. I hope he's fully healed since then, and I hope everyone else going through this finds healing sooner than later.
I am working out, going to church, eating well, hanging out with friends, biking, stay positive and take care of yourself on all fronts, not just one or two.
If you’re reading this, I don’t know you, but brother, i wish you all the strength that God can give you. I wish you to never feel that trusting was wrong, to never regret kindness, to have all your hopes manifest into realities. I can’t say be strong, because I know I am not, but as much as I stumble, I strive to be. May the hand of destiny take you wherever you wish to be.
Just needed someone, who would tell me this, thanks ❤
"The saddest part of life is when someone who gave you good memories BECOMES a memory..
It is, sometimes you wish you never met that person but at the same time you still enjoy some of the memories you had with them
@@GDN_Dan Yeah, it's like that sometimes
My favorite quote about a breakup is “how strange it is, that after all of that. we are strangers again.”
Amazing Koala Yeah,that’s true
It’s not. It’s the greatest gift of life when someone choices to give you a piece of their life. How ever long it is. Everyone’s tine is precious and it’s a gift. Change your perspective and everything will change. Cheers
"Unless someone chooses you, it ain't who you're suppose to be with" ~ Facts 💯
I’ve just gone through a hard breakup a few days ago.. and this speaks to my soul. Thank you 🥺
same here bro stay strong im hurting to if uou ever want to talk let me know
I just learned he cheated and she is already his girlfriend. It’s devastating but she did me a favour. He lied to her too and i filled her in. She is considering her next step. She didn’t know he cheated. Thought we had broken up. For me, its over. I do not want him back. She has information to decide her next move. I actually like her. I would leave if i was her but thats het choice. Mine was to move on without him. And is she does too, I won’t take him back.
@@lorrainehagan9044 good move on and keep your head up i had an extrem breakup we broke up 2 weeks got back together for a week broke up another 2 weeks got back together for 2 weeks then we finally broke up for good . Im in my third week without her now and it hurts like hell what helps me is just crying hard let it all out and then go workout for atleast 30min on tredmill then at night wen the memories try to creep in i have a beer just 1 tho i found that these steps really help
@@uscrunch thanks brother I’m going to try that I’m in so much pain now I fucking loved her and she talking to a guy in jail
هونها يا سعود
I think something that helped me a lot is remembering that this is not a competition for who moves on faster. But rather, who can heal healthier and better in order to attract better. Quality over quantity.
wow needed this thank you
🙌🏽
👌
YES.
Heal better ♥️♥️
Thank you, I needed to hear that today 🙏🏻❤️
The pain in his eyes is all too familiar. I hope he’s found some peace by now.
As long as there are men falling in love with the average women, there will be no peace in their hearts.
Men seriously don’t know their worth. He probably thought she was a super hot girl and that alone could be keeping him stuck. He thinks he can’t find another that “good”.
I know of a man how help me gat my ex back
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This is old but kind of exactly what I needed to hear. I had a relationship that lasted 7yrs, “she was the one” but she moved on. She even moved on before she broke my heart. It did kill me, I did die. Yet what Matthew said about them not choosing you, they’re not the one, really resonates with me right now and I’m realizing the only person that’s hurting me…is me.
13 years here. Yeah, nobody is to my left or right when I look. That's right 2 about "nobody is hurting but me", it feels so alone
@@laurenmorgan9946 Damn, 13 years?! You got me there. Although I can totally attest to the loneliness. However I’m working on being alone and being okay with just me. Cause at the end of the day you’re all you’ve got. Keep going, you got this.
It's possible to evolve after a breakup...just take one day at a time, step by step and keep on moving
Never go searching for a relationship, let them come to you. Have faith in yourself and learn to love yourself.
It’s different for guys
@shake it most times they don’t
@@agony4157 it's different for girls too. I had my first bf when I was 25 years old. Mind u I'm not an ugly duckling. But I just find it hard to seem approachable. And Franky I find meeting people in clubs and bars strange, I feel that nothing good ever happens around alcohol. And all my friends and their friends are married. So yeah...
But sometimes we think that we need to persists and fight just a little bit.
Some times love means "let it go" but sometimes love means "I need to fight"
What you think?
@@projektbrot I’m in this same boat. I’m 27 and have dated, but have now been single for 4 1/2 years and I don’t know what to do because everyone goes to the bar and the club, and never once have I had a good thing come from being at those places. It’s rough.
Ahh man, that guy's bawling inside, badly.
Bless him, and I wish True Love to all honest and heartbroken people.
This guy is me right now
@@newjerseycitizen3423 scam
I know of a man how help me gat my ex back.
@@999fieldsie ..hope you're better...so much heartache in the world right now; myself included.
I felt it too 🥺
I’m going through so much right now. Everything is so bleak. My ex and I were together for about 1 year+. She went ahead to see a new guy two weeks after breaking up with me. Around those two weeks I got into a pretty bad car crash and I told her about it but she only asked how I was once and then never again. Two days ago I saw that the guy and my ex posted an instagram story of them kissing so intimately in his room. I couldn’t help but to break down and panic attack rushed in. I wish someone can take all this pain away. I know I am just not strong enough. Everything is so heavy and everything hurts so bad.
You will survive this , king
If she started dating him only 2 weeks after she dumped you, chances are she had been cheating on you with him before dumping you (girls always have some guys lined up). Consider her de@d and go no contact forever. Pick yourself up, study/work hard and take care of your mental and physical health (hit the gym). That's the fastest way to recover and I speak from experience. She might try to come crawling back, but that won't be because she cares about you, just because her bf will dump her or wasn't serious about her to begin with and you MUST NOT take her back or she will never respect you again and more importantly you won't respect yourself either.
Instagram shows the highlights of a life curated for public consumption. It's rarely grounded in reality. If you don't need social media - get rid of it. Or block the source of the issue. There's no need to remind yourself of pain while you recover.
Secondly - she's not going to invest time in you (car accident or not) so don't expect it, the best thing you can do for your self respect is to respect yourself. Pick-up, dust off, choose to endure the pain for ever decreasing amounts of time and when you are ready - continue searching for the best person for you...'cause she's probably not it. And if I were the other guy - I'd be feeling pretty weird about how quickly she got with me. Doomed to fail. If it ever does - that doesn't mean she gets you back either - you'll have moved on long by then. Keep it together, friend. Seek support when you need it and picture better days until they come for you.
You are so strong, you wont believe this now, but you will be okay
I’m gg through the same as u rn I feel u..
Hopefully, this is gonna be my last heartbreak.
It most likely wont be but thats just life. Its better to have ups and downs instead of feeling nothing.
how is it going so far?
“Unless someone chooses you, they aren’t the person you’re supposed to be with.” Cheers for this, mate. It took me about a year to realize that I was mourning the potential of something rather than the actuality of it.
Think we’ve all been there
This hit deep 💯
@@KenyaMicheall yeah frfr It's tough to know you truly loved/love someone and they played with your emotions! I find it so CRUEL & EVIL...BUT THIS TOO SHALL PASS
Yeah exactly that’s why it sucks so much.
The way YOU just worded this-- "mourning the potential rather than the actuality"-- is exactly what I needed to hear. Matthew said it too-- but your rephrasing helped me take it in immensely.
I mourned for the 'loss' of this person for 4 decades-- even while I was married and building a family and living my life.
After my divorce, and that former person coming back into my life, I realized he wasn't good for me, even though I'd always believed he was "the one". After several months of carrying on long distance, even a week spent with him in his town, I realized he's toxic for me, and quite possibly NOT "the one". I broke it off with him, this time.
I was grieving it. It was a similar situation to my long term marriage. It ended before I ended it. I grieved the loss even before the divorce. I'm healing from that now.
But YOUR phrasing made me realize this morning, Mr. Toxic LDR isn't "the one" either, and suddenly, I'm not grieving the "loss". I'm feeling much better, and back in my healing and growing journey.
Gotta lot of loving myself to do. 😊❤️🌻
20 women willing to give him their phonenumber. But he already has the one he really wants and can‘t do a thing about it. Life is hard champ you deserve better.
I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and whoever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️
He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯
Whtsaap him**
@@ruthkane5407 no thanks
I know of a man how help me gat my ex back.
Same happened to me. To all the broken hearted, the Lord is your strength. Keep moving, keep your heads up. Thank God you dodged the bullet.
Big respect to all of you whose hearts got broken, ripped off, to all who made not really right choices for yourself, who sacrificed your own wellbeing for the other person. Big respect to all of you who still wakes up in the morning and carry on. Fighting your own demons, taking a lesson from it, learning, growing, healing your childhood traumas which were more likely triggered because that breakup ruined you completely and you having a hard time. Respect to you for being able to still stand up and keep going. It's not the end. It's a beginning of something beautiful 🙂🙏
Thank you so much ❤️😊
This was beautiful!🤍
Anyone seeing this right now. Just know u are good enough and someone will love you for u.. it's not easy right but it will..
I love you
Will you love back that person is the question 😔
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Nice utopia ideology but that's not true at all and live in the reality girls are always thinking this positivity mindset and instead say something that's reality not fiction
My gf actually posted a picture in a month and half with another guy and she wrote you are the person I was praying to find, you can imagine the pain 💔
But thank to god and nice people in this world who uploaded videos like this to help others, I will recover soon ♥️
yea i have 2 exes that did this after cheating. first one got cheated on within 3 months by the guy and the 2nd they seem to be doing well but im sure a relationship formed out of cheating will surely last
Cut off all contact on social media. Block anyone who rejects you completely. Focus on future prospects.
Feeling your pain my ex wrote that the new guy gave her butterflies . You know how much I googled about butterflies. You got this
I'm sorry that happened to you! We've all been there. It's extremely painful when someone you love doesn't love you back. Just know that time is your best friend right now. It will definitely get easier.
To be completely honest, you're way better off without the kind of person who either lacks the self-awareness to realize how hurtful a thing that is to do publicly only 6 weeks after a previous relationship ends, or who is aware and does it anyway. Either way I'm confident you will find someone better.
His speech in the end actually made me cry in tears of joy, relief, acceptance and understanding it, all at the same time. This is 3 weeks after she left of being 8 years together. I'm almost 33. I hope this positive feeling will endure. If not I'll just watch this again in a while. What a wonderful man!
Update? Currently 3 weeks out and still pretty ruined to think she's just moving on like the break up happened months ago..guess in her head it did end months ago 😢
@@dmakepeacenotwar7114 Yes, in my ex's head she also was thinking about leaving months before telling me, they start moving on way sooner than we realize, that's why it takes us guys so long to get over it.
Anyway after a while we started talking again after my anger calmed down, but apparently I found out she sucked some guy off in the car (2x in a row) that she knew from her childhood and he made her cum with her vibrator 5x and she was satisfied for a week, that hit my ego because even if she came 3 times with me she wanted the next day again and again... So I don't know what is up with that.
I guess rebound sex can get a lot of things off your mind.
You should try it. I haven't because there's no one like that for me. Besides women can easily get a man, doesn't work that well the other way around unfortunately for us guys.
It's the sad world we live in...
Anyway I feel like she really moved on and really doesn't wanna go back even tho I really have changed for the better and she knows this. The last few days when we were still together and she told me she'd move out, she noticed I was different, better. But that still wasn't enough. She just doesn't see me like the man I once was.
And me chasing her is only making me feel miserable and shit all over again. Just don't do it. There's so little chance she'll get back to you.
Just accept it and move on, I know it's hard!
Yesterday I tried this "Mystie Mai - Getting Over Your Ex JOI" it really helped. You basically sexualize your sadness and hurt and anger and think about it while orgasming to another woman. We're sexual creatures, so therefore it's best to sexually get all of the sadness out.
I thought what is this strange stuff, but it felt so much better afterwards. I guess if no rebound sex is available, that's probably the best advice I could give you. It worked for me at least, but I know everyone is different.
Go talk to friends, family, get new hobbies. Get a dog or a cat, something to keep you busy off the thoughts. Maybe go to the gym if you have the energy.
Stay strong bro. Things can only get better if they're at their worst!
How`s it going since? I`m also almost 4 weeks since, recovering better, have focus on my goals, but the hurt and disappointment still lives inside.
@@dmakepeacenotwar7114 depending how long it went, sometimes one partner kinda starts detaching emotionally well before the breakup, which leads you to think she moved on fast, maybe she didn`t, maybe she did that while you were together and didn`t notice it, or maybe she never had those strong feelings in the first place
I am still married, about to turn 33, just after celebrating our 7th year wedding anniversary he went back and one day said i hv fallen out of love. We were in a long distance marriage since 2 years now and we had our ups and downs but he had been contemplating this for 1.5 years. I am currently stuck. In a loop. Why it happened? How? He wants to separate and i am just still in so much love, not knowing how it all went to this? Is there someone? Was it all me like he says (he said he felt trapped with me and blamed everything on me after 7 years and said he was never happy) i actually dnt know. But he left me is all i know, n i cnt seem to accept it even now after three months of him telling me. I begged him to consider marriage counselling, so mny friends and family spoke too, but he didnt even consider it once. He gaslit and just left.
I dnt know how i m supposed to deal with any of this
Same thing happened to me. After 5 years of being bestfriends and couple, we broke up. And she moved on so fast. Here I am after 15 months getting hurt still, she is already married for six months.
I know the feeling … why do we get to be the ones who suffer?
That hurts a lot
It was just 4 month distance relationship but my feelings were real towards that' guy nd it was my 1st love so I imagined that it will be the last but that person ghosted on me .nd i still hv same feeling for him nd hv wo many questions y did he changed nd y did he came in my life I told him in the beginning if u r serious nd will be with me forever thn only do come nd he promised me ..but it was all lie,😔😔
Bro find people that will listen and that can offer positive advice , going through it alone is not the best thing which I did , you will end up becoming a robot.Peace.
I love Roy’s strength. He didn’t care about stigma. He went and sought out help. Good! More men should do that.
Yes
@What Not To Do At a Stoplight she's just insinuating that most men aren't strong enough to seek help which is whats insulting. Your analogies dumb down the point you're trying to make
@What Not To Do At a Stoplight nothing burger? wtf haha
@What Not To Do At a Stoplight Alright bud because i don't know one saying im dumb haha whatever you say. I've listened to probably more than a thousand podcasts and never once heard it, it just really isn't a common saying :) my comment clearly offended you and it shows. People like you really make me smile ironically haha
@What Not To Do At a Stoplight point i was trying to make by me saying i've listened a lot of podcasts is that the saying really isn't that common. Please tell me how my original comment made no sense. I admit my first comment was a little rude but it obviously struck your ego since you had to call me a dumb child. We can facetime if you really want to keep trying to put me down over messages, you can do the same over a call.
Seeing your ex move on hurts like hell... Sending a warm hug to everyone who is grieving for someone who has moved on for someone else
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I was dumped literally few hours ago. Through text message… we were dating for only year and a half, for someone it might be insignificant time, but for me it was the longest relationship I’ve had. We had a great time together, I can’t say it was my biggest love of my life, but I was happy. And she didn’t just move on fast, she dumped me cuz “she fell in love with other” and see this through text just instantly killed me. It is also just 2 days before my birthday, so yeah, its rough. I can’t say I really cried, but I felt really sick. But after I watched this video, when you said “I don’t want to see that Roy, I want to see Roy that went through hell” actually made me cry like a little girl, cuz I instantly heard my name, instead Roy’s, like you also talked to me directly .
Thank you, I hope you right, I really hope someone really waiting me there
a year and a half is a long time man, thats sad and im sorry to hear it. there will be light at the end of the tunnel i promise. it may seem painful now but you will grow more than you'll realise from it. i promise it will all be worthwhile in the end. the right person is on their way. the universe is prepping you for them :))
I just went through an 8 year break up last Thursday, and everyday has been difficult for me. She told me that I love you I'm just not in love with you anymore, and this video helped me find a way and thought process on how I can overcome this grief, it will be a long process but thank you for your message from the bottom of my heart..
2 weeks ago my boyfriend did the same thing to me. I'm 17 and he was my first love. We were in love for 3 years and our relationship was so healthy. It has shocked everyone in our lives and no one saw this coming. It was out of the blue as well. Just 3 weeks before he broke up with me he was talking about how excited he is to marry me and how I'd be the best mom ever. And then it so suddenly changed. It's so difficult to accept this. Does it get better?
Fuck man. It's me now. Bit different but we were together 8 years. I was hoping to get back together, but she decided to move on saying that she will never stop loving me but she is not in love anymore. Saying that I feel heartbroken is not enough. Though time
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Men being able to talk about their emotions in public with complete acceptance and empathy. That’s that shit I do like.
all the guys on here are so impressed with him because we all know we wouldn't get through that without crying our eyes out and the thought of doing that in front of 40 people feels like the most foreign thing to me. i wish it wasnt like that.
Women are all the same. You say
"that's what I do like". I don't doubt that. I believe you do like that. Because it's honest, pure, true and open. But think about this. This guy is obviously an emotional person. So much so he is willing to pay to see someone who his ex used to talk about with hopes of getting a little help figuring out where he went wrong because he probably tried to be everything she wanted the guy She was trying to mold. But once she got done making her perfect BF. She was done. The new guy. The one she'll probably never leave is the opposite of the guy in the video. Willing to compromise but not afraid of putting his foot down because he isn't thinking about her leaving if he does. He's not worried if she's going to leave because he stood up for himself because the way he sees it. If she leaves because she doesn't like me then ok bye. The guy in the video never wanted her to leave but always felt like she might.
Then stop shaming men for doing that. Even when those emotions aren't as cute as this one or crying on marriage day. Manipulative ppl
@@tromboner6061 it’s praised never shamed
@@lorro4loco It's praised when and if it looks cute. Women, when they say they want men to open up about their emotions, mean they like it when men cry at their beauty or wedding, when men look cute doing it.
But fyi, most of our emotions aren't cute, they are ugly, insecurities, addictions, mistakes, rage, fun, etc.
And women most definitely don't find them attractive or will put up with them. They find them undesirable, weak, idiotic, controlling, misogynistic, possessive, creepy, toxic masculinity and what not.
So simple yet so helpful. Ex moved on in 5 months after 15 years. Not saying I was perfect, but it hurt. I've been trying to change my mindset to help me deal with it.
You got this. The only person who can love you the most in your life is you.
The right person can only be the right person when it's two people choosing each other
That's the most powerful statements I have heard in a while
Like wowww ❤️
He’s a good looking man! And on top of that he is emotionally mature! He’s looking for help, he’s not afraid of being vulnerable! ♥️ I want a Roy
lovetye1000 he seems a lovely man
Omg me too
Men shouldn't be vulnerable. Its unattractive to women
Daniel Borrie as a woman, I can tell you that you're wrong. Anyone showing vulnerability is brave and strong. I'm not talking about constant breakdowns, but this man is more attractive to me (and I'm sure the women in the room and here online would agree) because of his openness and honesty. To be vulnerable shows that a person trusts you and only improves relationships. Being with someone who is closed off emotionally is very difficult. Relationships are about supporting each other, which means each person needs to be able to feel they can trust the other enough to be vulnerable. That goes for all genders.
@@Julia-LArt I think it shows courage to be vulnerable..I love it and find it attractive
If you got dumped, here's a tip.
My best friend said this to me when my ex broke up with me.
You should not be ashamed of having lost someone you loved. Instead, that person should be ashamed to have lost you, who really cared for that person.
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@@adrianblania5565 I know right. That was like a eye opening for me.
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My ex moved on like immediately after our breakup and im still not over that but this video gave me much needed strength right now to not take the shortcut to peace and im grateful that i encountered it. Thank you
Going through a break up or a discard and I am broken. I gave him all of me, physically, emotionally and financially because I was not afraid to love. Yes, I was stupid as well. This video helped me a lot. He moved on so fast that it seemed that I never existed. It's so painful and I dont know where the pain is coming from. It just hurts. I miss him everyday but I know it is over and I deserve better. I just wish it wouldn't hurt so much..
Same happens to all take care
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Hi sister, giving you a super big hug, currently Im also similar to you a little and the pain is unbelievable. I was in a 5 years relationship and it ended abruptly. You are not alone and know that you are so valuable. Take some time to focus and love yourself, when the right time comes, you will meet the right one. But for now, just know that you are so so worthy and so precious, u and deserve genuine and lasting love ❤
"The right person can only be the right person when it's two people choosing each other.." -this hits me so hard..
It's a completely logical statement that's free of BS, right? It lifted a lot of crap feelings for me instantly. Definitely a great video to come back to when you're down. Hope you're ok.
Amazing Koala i personally avoid socially popular, athletic, handsome men as they're already the right person for so many women. I just want someone I can have deep conversations with, someone who'll choose to be the right person for me each and everyday, someone honest and kind and generous--in short a man that does not exist.
General Waste I watch this everytime I see the clip on social media just to remind myself that I have to throw my ego away. It's really been the hardest to do. The progress is slow but Im moving on for sure. Hope you're doing okay too :)
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I love him so much.. But he left again after 3mnth of no contact..he behaved like i am a piece of shit to him..he told many bad words..i have deleted all the pictures.. I have blocked him everywhere.. But cant block all the beautiful memories we had together..i think i cant trust anyone in my life..he was my comfort zone..everytime i cried like a baby over phone call..but my cry annoyed him he said
“You could be disappointed she wasnt the person, but you cnt grieve like she was the person cause shes not”
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Fact: People who moved on too quickly after a breakup never loved you the way you did. You were just an option or they kept you for material gains ☹
I already knew that, no additional evidence was necessary
I learned the hard way
I want to thank Matt for lectures/talks open conversations like this, it is probably by far the only thing that keeps me alive and (relatively) sane! Those words: "I promise you, my brother" hit the base hard!
My girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me around the end of May and not even 3 weeks later said she was talking to this guy and staying at his place. I have never felt so low and felt so unworthy. This video has helped.
Patrick Schimke,Give me the chance to love you truly.
Same, he was my boyfriend of 3 years and 2 weeks later he’s already with other girl..
I don't think people like that don't have very many fulfilling relationships, they think the grass is always greener but they will no doubt always think that whoever they're with.
You may have believed they were perfect but they have just shown you something they always hid since the beginning, you and I both have built up a perfect version of them in our heads and that's who we are missing and that's who we need to get over one bit at a time. You and I seem to be going through this at the exact same time.
We will come out of this, we will talk all about it when we get through this haha
She was probably already seeing the guy earlier than that.. be strong karma will take care of her
Same with me. But she literally left me and that SAME DAY she said yes to the guy she just caught feelings for when me and her were still a thing. It hurts man, here I am 3 days later and still trying to repair myself and get through all the things in life that come with it. My group of friends is really helping. They're very supportive. My advice is find a group of friends that will help you out if possible, and if that is possible, just talk to them all about it. It helps to get everything out. Don't be afraid to cry cause it is unhealthy to hold that in, as it adds to the stress, and we all know stress is very unhealthy for your physical body
the guy dosnt realise how lucky he is, he dodged a bullet
Only time reveals this wisdom, the moment you realize that person was not in your corner, having your back, and was NOT the person you were supposed to be with.
I love how people always say "You dodged a bullet". No dude, I didn't dodge anything. The bullet hit me right in the heart and it hurt.
dodged a bullet 🤔
@@darthcayden3307 But you lived. And it’ll make you stronger
@@vallano8970 Don't really feel that much "stronger". Mostly feeling more insecure and sad than ever.
Thank you Matthew for essentially saving my life in this moment and thank you Roy for your bravery and voicing something we all feel.
I cried watching this. You are not at all like some mental influencer who tells people in an aggressive manner to forget about ur ex. You feel the pain people must be going through. Your advice always and everytime comes from the place of compassion for people. And I am in love with the way you connect with people. Thankyou for making my life better 🧡
I'm in the same situation as Roy. 5 years relationship. He moved on after 2 months. It's been six months and I still cry to sleep.
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I was in similar situation beginning of this year. Same exact number of years. The day she decided to dump me, is the same day I found out she had moved in with another guy. I have begged and cried. I have compared myself countless times, thinking why am I going through this.
Today marks six months since the whole event. I have not healed completely, but I know that there is gonna be light at the end of the tunnel. It may not show now. Hang in there, you are not alone.
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I was in a 3yr relationship and she moved on in 3 weeks. It hurts but it lessens over time, we all will end up where we belong xoxo
Poor guy. You can still see the pain in his eyes.
IKR, they have no clue
tintinesk5 they know.
@@transikk But they don't care? Honest question I really can't tell these days
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@@transikk Gotcha. Why would they love breaking a man's heart? Does it make them feel like powerful, or they laugh at it?
I'm out of a 20 year relationship. Met as teenagers and I just turned 40. We have 2 sons, 4 and 5 years ago. She left and left like a speeding bullet. This is 7 months ago now and I cry and cry and cry everyday. All the time
❤️❤️❤️😞 know that someone still loves youuu
Hang in there buddy
Same story as mine, except one child and he left me two days ago. Been binge watching Matthew’s videos ever since and they help so much.
I searched plenty videos on how to stop looking back and being sad about my ex. This video is the one for me. Thanks Matthew, words change a person 🙏🏽
I was with my ex for 6 years we married August of 2019.. she cheated in October and filed for divorce she has everything still and is still with the guy she cheated on me with ... it’s been 7 months .. I’m trying to get the big picture but the hurt is there every day . I know better than to look for something else I’m not ready and won’t be for years if ever again ..everyone always says better now than years down the road .. but it makes no difference . I feel absolutely empty I try to do things to occupy my time.. people want me to have fun to see me happy again . I’m trying every day just to exist I truly wouldn’t wish this on anyone . Roy and for anyone going through this I hope you find your person.
Brother to brother. I feel your pain. But it’s not the pain you think it is. It’s growing pains. My ex was borderline and I fell into the whole love at first sight. After five break ups, multiple “new boyfriends” that made her so happy after me, I’ve learned that she will never be happy. Instead, I’m going to find my happiness wether it’s with another person, hobbies, my work, or just life in general. Love yourself, and when you least expect it, the right woman will enter your life, and it will all make sense. Love you like the brothers we are
You become a hero one day maan..god will help
Ive been through this. I just have to say. Take your time. The fact that it hurst so much, means that you gave all your heart and soul and that is something you should always be proud of. You took a risk. It didn't pan out. It will take time. It took me at least a year to date someone, and after that I just wanted to be alone and grow as a person and succed by myself. It's been 6 years now. I'm glad I took my time to giref, to be with myslef, to grow. I'm glad I didn't try and make people confortable by having fun or looking for a hook up. I did what felt right to ME. All I have to say, is keep growing, take your time to feel what you are feeling and NEVER LET YPURSELF BECOME BITTER. That's when you loose. When you forgo to become bitter, a better life awaits you.
I think i would be happy if me ex found another man, i would know that she is not mine anymore
Im so sorry. I’m going through the same thing. You aren’t alone. Please keep your head up for the rest of us, and I’ll keep my head up for you.
Here’s a piece of advice: when she moves on too fast, it’s mostly because she had someone lined up way before she left you. Best thing you can do is let her move on. Because the grass is not always greener. And when she realizes this, she’ll come back knowing she screwed up. There are few things In this world more painful than being walked away from by someone you love.
Don’t spend your time thinking you’ve been replaced, and that you’re not good enough. Spend your time showing her from a distance that you were never replaced...you’re being missed out on. Then, once you realize you’re a better man for what you’ve been through, give that to someone who is willing to drink you up and accept you and all your improvements.
RubTheRock64 That was beautiful
Thank you.
RubTheRock64 yepp, you will always find somebody who is for you
Kry Kry me rn with my ex, pre much just cut all the hope. slowly healing which is good thi
Oh no.
He cheated and hurt me so many times.
I left him.
Right after that, trying to date.
Not because there was another man lined up.
No! Because I needed to get away from him emotionaly (by the way no hitting up!)
And now he is the one screaming I left him.
No! He did with his actions!
I’ve watched this video at least 10x and it’s completely changed my perspective on what I thought I lost and what is out there waiting. Thank you Matthew
Had to watch this a couple of times to let it sink in. Every time you go to the part about having to die to come back stronger it really got to me. Dealing with my wife leaving me out of the blue and moving on with someone else instantly hurts, but hearing someone reassure that better things will come gives me hope.
"the right person is the one that chooses you not the one that doesn't want you"
THATTTTT
“Not being chosen by someone should be the biggest turn-off in the world” yep
What a courageous man telling his story. And what a wise man giving the advice. It brought a lot of comfort. Thank you for this.
I’m happy to see you guys here! I pray for peace and healing for all of you who are hurting! You are NOT alone! I cheated on my sweetheart multiple times. I thought I had it all figured out and could stop and everything would get better. I regret the hell out of my immature actions and stupid ways because in turn, I am now currently suffering a 9 day break up. Went and snooped just to find her car at the new guys home both nights of day 7 and day 8. 12 year relationship. Most will say I deserve it and I’m sure I do. Just wish I had never made those poor decisions to ruin my 12 years with her! I love her and now someone else is making her happy and I can’t stand it: 😪😪
"It hurts man". I felt it
Jeruel Rubas, true love never die don't give up anything in life all hope is not lost forever.
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Yeap. I say don’t try to rationalize their choice. Otherwise you’ll be stuck wondering why for a lot longer than you should. I know it’s not that easy, and it’s gonna take time. But asking for a reason why, and then also trying to answer it by yourself is a brutal game to play with yourself. Instead focus on you and what will make you feel happy again.
Zach Stone yeah man for real... I kept torturing myself but the more I thought aboit it the more I wanted to move on
im grateful for roy being strong and standing up in that crowd and asking that question because not only did he do what many of us wish to be able to do and not only did he help me get answers he helped thousands of people get answers to that question, so thank you roy💯💪
Roy I respect you a lot, I’m going through hell myself now.
My ex moved on herself and it has hurt me a lot but the last past weeks I’m trying to find myself.
I’m gonna be a much better partner in the future, I have learned and I’m getting stronger by the day.
I hope everybody that read this to remember themselves that everything will be alright, no matter what.
Maaaaan i felt this man’s pain when he said he didn’t feel like he was good enough. That shit hurts. Me and my ex, We were together for 5 years and engaged for a Year and a half before we broke up. It was the toughest shit I ever had to deal with in my life because it was such a huge chunk of my life that got ripped away without my consent and all I was left with was memories that no longer comforted me but instead haunted me as a result and I had to live with that highlight reel in my head even though I wanted those memories gone. Plus, as a man we are forced to hide behind culture constructs of an emotionless man that society has painted us to be so we climb such a steep uphill battle. But after climbing this hell of a mountain, it’s truly a liberating feeling and I understand how that pain has grown me into this version of myself that I didn’t realize I needed. It never makes sense in the midst of that valley but when you get through it, you gain so much more perspective and insight as a overall human being. I’ve learned that their actions are never a reflection of your self worth, and You did the best that you could as the version you were in that relationship. Like the saying goes “when you’re in a dark place, sometimes you think you’re getting buried but you’re actually getting planted” give yourself time and watch yaself grow into the version God intended you to be.
Sebastian Lafo I like this idea of getting planted 😘 very true! Continued blessings and happiness as your life unfolds 😘
Sebastian Lafo You prove that societal constructs are complete bs. Kudos to you for all the hard inner work you’ve done! Even though I don’t know you, I have no doubt you’ll meet your true love and have a wonderful real (not a Hallmark card) life. 💕
Thank you for sharing this.! Touched me, such a powerful and vulnerable experience
Love this!!!!
Gena Holden I know exactly how you feel saying your self esteem feels nonexistent because those were all the things I felt when I was in my dark place. We don’t really realize it but we sometimes connect all our value and our self esteem to a single person which can break us in half if that person ends up leaving. And I didn’t realize how much I depended on others to give me value and how much of an empty well it was. My advice to you, Their rejection is God’s protection. I promise you this is not the end for you. Put yourself around the right people that can help you heal. If you know spiritual people or just people with a good head on their shoulders, Be around them and soak in any advice or guidance they have. You don’t have to face this mountain alone.
“Unless someone chooses you, they are not the one, you’re supposed to be with”.... I didn’t lose the love of my life! Something better is coming to me!
Lucy Maynard this hit me really hard. The scar is real. When you’ve done everything but she still wouldn’t choose you
Why do I always stumble upon Matthew Hussey during breakups😂 . One in 2013, 2018, and 2024. 😅 May we find the relationship that's right for us.
I’m totally praying for you Roy. I’m not even religious or a Christian but it think it helps. We all need to do things like this and strive to relate and create oneness with each other. Especially men. You’ll be okay guys. It is so hard, it means so much to us, but we have to find strength and wisdom within ourselves to move on and better ourselves. Love all of you❤️
We’re all gonna die many times in our lives. I felt that, too.
That how we grow stronger
Same :(
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"You can be disappointed she wasn't the person, but you can't grieve that she was the person."
Love that perspective.
Best quote I’ve seen
Well said!!!
@@Bowcaster67 I’m sad to hear that, I also got dumped yesterday and it hurts really much and I just came back from another video which was very helpful to watch. I can understand that you think it was all fake or lies and you both thought you were meant to be I think that at the moment you said all those things to each other everything was true but that it wasn’t meant forever and that it was in the past, so you are dwelling about the past and I get that, we are afraid of changes and when we look at the past we think about all these good moments and memories but we forget that there were also painful and sad memories where we got hurt and you have to learn to respect yourself that it’s not worth it to grieve over someone who doesn’t want you (although I understand that it’s hard to accept and takes time, but it will get better). In the other video I watched the person said that you have to think about this: if she was your soulmate she would choose you, your soulmate will choose you and not not want you and that may be hard to accept at first
@@Bowcaster67 FACTS.
@@Bowcaster67 I don't know if my words would be applicable at all, but it would be much better if you accept that you did all you could at the time. It's better than trying to oppose the negative feelings (I've suffered with this a lot). And the love you had, has always been with you, as it came from your heart. So, once you will be able to look at this experience with peace at heart, the love that you carry inside, will be able to bloom again, as it was yours to begin with, and can't be taken from you. Sorry it sounds so cheesy, but I hope you get me. At any rate, all the best.
I really needed to hear this. Really hard to get up and out of bed right now, but things will get better. Cause he wasn’t the one! He’s not the one. This will be a blessing in disguise. I’m going to grow into the person I’m meant to be, strong, loving, interesting, compassionate, smart, brave, and the full package. I need to kill my ego!
I like how Roy was so opened about his situation, he's a true warrior i hope he is doing ok, more experienced, wise, but real as he was back then, it's good to get stronger but not to lose are kindness
Not going to lie...seeing my ex moving on two weeks later with one of the people they cheated on me with and go out to the same place I introduced him to has to be one of the most hurtful things I've ever experienced. Bumping into them at my favourite place really crushed me and I don't understand why they would do that knowing I go there every weekend. The lack of compassion a person who no longer loves you has is out of this world. It leaves you feeling unwanted, unloveable, ugly and your whole self esteem is destroyed. I am a mess but I hope I get through this and that in a few months come back to this comment and see how far I've come.
EDIT:
Still tough sometimes tbh because I still bump into the person he cheated on me with and sometimes I can’t resist the urge of looking them up online and wondering what they have that I didn’t have. I’m way better than when I wrote the comment though I won’t lie heeey. I was in a really dark valley back then; I wasn’t eating, sleeping and was about to start a new job which I didn’t have the energy for. Every morning on my way to work he’d be all I’m thinking about. He recently came back into my life talking about how he’s sorry and he realised I’m his soulmate. I was happy to hear that and let him back in. Until two weeks ago when I woke up one morning and I realised he hasn’t changed a bit. He still gaslights and lies to me. I also realised that when he came back into my life I was really happy …like his texts about wanting me back changed my mood. I was starting to eat, go out and sleep. I hated that because why did he need to text me before I could be happy? I’ve given another person so much power that my happiness depended on him. I don’t like that. I’m really just working on forgiving and falling in love with my self. Most importantly treating myself like someone I love.
UPDATE: 18 May 2023
Hi guys, I’ve been avoiding making an update because honestly a part of me still feels bad that I haven’t completely healed. Don’t get me wrong I am not crying over them or even want them back but I lost and endured so much that I can’t believe I allowed all that to happen. It stings when I think about some things such as, breaking a few of my expensive stuff (e.g. a new iPhone 13 Pro Max) because of emotional meltdowns I saw them with the person they cheated on me with. Like I seriously can’t believe that happen to me. I can’t believe I drank alcohol that much during and after the relationship ended…like almost every day because I was avoiding feeling anything. There was a time I couldn’t stand being by myself or even looking at myself in the mirror. There was a time I would go to the club and drink by myself or invite lots of friends to have a drink with me just because I feared my inner thoughts and what I might end up doing to myself. Love…what a concept.
Anyway, earlier this year I went back to my ex and fell for all the BS again. He had not changed…the same old narcissistic behaviour where he’s not sure if we’re meant to be together and when I try to move on he tells me that he loves and we belong together. The difference about this time I was aware that I was not necessarily in love with him but the idea of being with him so it became pretty clear that he was obsessed with how I loved him and that he had never been loved like that so he didn’t want to let go but was not willing to put in the work or make effort. Lol I even showed him the original comment I made on here and he just read it and continued with life. I planned for us to spend Valentines Day together but he was nowhere to be found. I remember this one specific time we were talking while they were planning the piano…the atmosphere was sad in the room (well at least from my view and the piano wasn’t helping). I’m over there pouring my heart out, in tears and them saying he thinks we should let go of each other. I say I respect that and will work on myself and heal from the breakup…fast forward to them saying a few minutes later “maybe we should try again but I’m scared of hurting you”. I don’t think I could articulate it into words how watching someone play with your emotions with no care at all feels like. I’d just look at them and ask myself why this person has power over me like it’s been 6 months since the breakup I was okay in December and early January now what’s this ???!! He would hang up on me when I called and tell me to stop calling at night, I’d find text exchanges between them and multiple other people where they tell them the words like “I love you” or even talk to on a daily basis when he’d only call me maybe 3 times a week if he doesn’t forget or misses me and the call would be like 5 minutes long if I’m lucky. They were literally talking to if not sleeping with someone in their 40s…how was I in my early 20s going to compete with that??? Lol, it’s not funny but it is. The last time I saw him we decided to make things official and give the relationship another try… I have never heard from him since that day he left my house on the morning of the 25th of February 2023. I contacted them a few weeks ago and informed him I left his clothes with the security at his place. He texted back “I love you”….lol 2 months later after going AWOL. I blocked him and moved on.
I’m sorry if my update is not as uplifting as you would have hoped it would be. What I have learned so far though is to be patient and give myself as much time as I need to heal. I wish I had listened to the 1000000 CZcams videos that talked about the “No Contact” rule. I think that would have definitely helped and I would have moved on a long time ago. Having a support system could’ve helped earlier on maybe idk but heey I made it here by myself without friends even.
In conclusion, life and love has been unkind but I’m grateful that I am still standing and able to have happy moments throughout my day. Please try to appreciate those small happy moments and take care guys. 🫶🏽
I can relate on this also. This video with Matt and Roy brought up a lot! I must kill my ego to move ahead and delete my past. Like you my ex did all the same things to me except when he left me I was in the hospital getting surgery! He slept with said...now girlfriend as a.one night stand...and realized he wanted the whole package with them .crushed ia beyond what I'm feeling. The fried, pain, hurt etc I'm trying nro move away from . Progress and let's kill that ego. ,❤️
Thanks for sharing what you are going though . I know you are going through the most difficult time as Im going though it right now, but as Matthew said this pain will only going to get better. We will try to do the best we could today in our life and make ourselves the most incredible version of ourselves.
Something similar happened to me 3 months ago. My gf of 4 years moved on with a childhood friend she told me not to worry ab 2 weeks later
@@jenniferproulx3478 I'm so sorry for what you're going through 😢and thank you for the kind words ❤ We will most definitely move on and life without the people who hurt us will get better. If I'm being honest with you 3 weeks later I still get triggered, however, I'm feeling way better than I did when I typed the original comment. Also, with time I was able to realize a lot of things I looked over and allowed in my previous relationship...like relying on the person for my own happiness and ignoring the red flags because I loved him. I'm constantly forgiving myself for desiring love from an unhealthy source and learning to love myself everyday. Through reflection I've also realized love is not enough as a person has to choose to be with you and if they don't then they're not meant for me. My focus so far has been on healing and learning to love myself. Also, I'll be going to therapy soon. I wish you well with your healing and please come back in a few months and tell us how life's going with your newly found love...which is yourself. I know life may seem dark sometimes and we will feel like texting/calling them but we've truly got this. Love and light. ❤
Yes ik the pain is too much, sometimes I have bad thoughts😞😞
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I am going through this hell for 6 months now. Thank you!!! Thank you for telling me who i can be instead of who i am now, instead of this sniveling loser who just wont to give up on life. Thank you man. From the bottom of my torn hearth than you!!!!
I listened to this video first back in the beginning in 2021. In the fall of 2020 I had a pretty messy breakup. This video helped me a lot. Now I'm happily married, and we have a lovely little daughter together. So his advice was an eye opening, and set me on the right path. So thank you Matthew!
You can actually see the agony in his face. I wish he's doing well now.
As a man that survived a breakup and her moving way to fast (a week) this video gave me so much comfort and confidence to move on, hope it helps everyone else
My girl move on with this guy just three days or four days after we stop talking i beeged her in every means I cud possibly do but she moved on and I'm like
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Instant 80%move on and inspired after watching this video. These are the words that I was looking for, I'm also came from 5 years relationship then dump by my ex girlfriend they are went away together with our daughter. Now little bit of work to gain the fully recovery from my ex.
@@mrbans4006 You can almost count on it that soon in the future she will come back to you begging to bring her back because let's be honest guys nowdays avoid single moms like vampires avoid garlic...she will realise she messed up and it will be up to you to decide would you take her back
@@HoodBoyOt man I'm almost sure as I'm writing this. It just a bit of effort then boom she is not welcome anymore. But my daughter will always be. It's been a month.
Thank you Matthew. I don't know what's going to happen after an hour or maybe week, but I cried like shit and thank you for giving me that channel. A lot of blessings to you mahn
I admire this guy so much, you can feel his pain, still he is standing there and talking in front of all the people, huge balls
It is extremely difficult when you love someone and they walk away from you.. I've had my share.. What I have learned is this.. FEEL IT... Feel all of it.. This is what life is all about. Yes, we all get broken hearts at some point but that is called living. The hurt will make you appreciate the love even more the next time you recognize it, and there WILL be a next time. Never be afraid to try again, otherwise this life will pass you by before you know it. Be strong, open to opportunities, and most of all positive!
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@ A Marino exactly true.... Somehow what you just said did kind of helped me in my current situation... Am trying to forget and move on from my past... After all it's been three months I am still hurt but life goes on
Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful what you said. Very well put the words. 👏🏽
@@kingdomofanimosity2684 keep ur head up bro same position do no contact move forward chase new girls , I’ve realised girls will chase when they see you doing better but who cares it’s a win win both ways you attract more girls or your ex runs back wondering where you went
"I've died motherfuker, you cant scare me" that hits home hard. Thank you for the great advice.
That's one brave guy, total respect for his honesty, humility and bravery. Rocking it man.
Going through a nasty breakup right now. She gave me the ring back, got up, and left after 4 years together. Sadly, she got drunk, cheated on me and left.
It’s insane how someone is willing to make a horrible choice and throw away everything.
I’ll be okay. I’m broken, but I know I’m time, I will heal. I know I am struggling now, but understand it’s a blessing in disguise, and that I 100% dodged a bullet. Thanks for this video. Best wishes to everyone going through something similar.
Broke up with my ex 4 months ago, she already went with two guys. Dipping her toes in the water she said. Helped her through her hardest time. I was there for her anytime she needed me. Only for her to break up out of nowhere. I felt used and hearthbroken. Gents and ladies, put yourself first always. Nobody will say thank you in the end.
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Same I was always there for her but at the end she cheated and stupid me forgave her but at the end she broke up with me, didn't want to put the effort in to fix it, I tried even tho it wasn't my fault that was my mistake, now i'm hurt and in pain still missing her wondering if she still thinks about me or if she is with someone else. The stupid thing is she unblocked and followed the guy she talkted to with. I feel so pathetic why I can't hate her and why i still think about her
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@JustAGuy InBensalem My girlfriend broke up with me for the most stupidest reason. It was all perfect until she got cooped up with the thought of leaving the country in an year. She didn’t put efforts to find a solution or discuss shit with me. She simply backed off and refused to give an explanation. It hurts. It hurts so bad. It’s extremely disappointing when a potential relationships ends this way.
It must’ve been devastating for you too. Stay strong. I hope you find peace & an amazing person to be with.
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I feel the exact same hurt man. I'm with you bro Just stay strong and know that there is someone out there for you. Talk to God 🙏
We need an update! I hope this guy is happy and settled. What a guy to be honest and raw about his experience. Very brave!
Man Matthew has some high emotional intelligence to handle the question. I would break down and cry with Roy and curse his ex to hell and back. Mad props to Roy for braving that question!
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