Entitled Influencer Behavior - Is Mikayla Nogueira Ok? - REACTION
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When you’re depressed, getting out of bed and showering is the hardest. Imagine any kind of work
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This ^^^
It’s true. Any kind of work is difficult when dealing with depression. Be it professional, housework, or even self care. These people playing “I have it worse” don’t help anyone, they just invalidate and make depression worse. They’re allowed to complain ofc, but geez don’t make it a competition.
@@laurelrhodes744 Exactly this. Let's say, for the sake of argument, that my problems are objectively worse than yours. That doesn't make your problems magically disappear, or any less deserving of consideration. By their logic, you're not allowed to be happy because someone else has it better than you.
If only everyone could understand this.
I don't live under a boulder. Yet no influencer has ever influenced me.
I think the point is if you don’t know who a very popular influencer is then you’re probably not on the internet much
Yes you have. You just dont know it ;)
I don't have social medias so I don't know most influencers.
The only thing they influence is their own entitlement. They should stop calling it influencing. That implies that they have some importance in society.
@@I.Toverheks 🙄
When you're depressed everything is 10x harder. You always feel tired and down. It's hard to push through.
Survival of the fittest. Except in 2022 you get praised and paid for having a weak mindset. I’ve been depressed and beat myself up for being depressed because I knew it was weak of me to marinate in self pitty. But eventually you need to get your shit together and move tf on.
Agreed.
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*FACTS! 💯 🎯*
*Thank You so much for commenting this! I am in a very dark place right now.. so just getting out of bed and showering makes me wanna tap out for the day! Let alone do anything else!*
*It kills me HOW MANY people do NOT understand, MENTAL EXHAUSTION is just as tiring as PHYSICAL EXHAUSTION! I "thought" most everybody knew this, apparently not!*
*Also, the number of keyboard warriors out there who just HAVE to comment their bull shit and bully people, is absolutely 🤯*
*Like I said in my comment.. I guarantee 💯 these same people would NOT, IRL, go up to the people they bully and say the shit to their face! Because they are COWARDS!*
*Any-Hoo.. thank you for your comment! I appreciate you ❣️*
@@taraharvey8123 Thank you for your comment. I'm also in a really, really bad place mentally. Even typing on here takes a lot. Only people who have gone through this will understand. Everything is so difficult and exhausting just thinking about it. I hope you get through it. I'm working on doing better, just taking it a day at a time. Please take care. I hope your days get better, we can get through this. Much love to you ❤❤❤
Life isn't a pissing match. Just because you feel like your work is more difficult than her's doesn't mean she's not allowed to feel tired, or feel that her work is difficult. As I always say "Someone's broken legs aren't going to make your broken arm hurt any less."
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This is giving me the same feeling when parents say you don't know what tired feels like. I don't understand why it's being made into a competition. If she's tired and she feels it's hard to do, she's allowed to feel that way. And it's coming from someone like me who have no clue who she is.
Yeah, I honestly never understood why people like to stroke their ego with negative things.I do not agree with the superiority complex or stroking your ego, but why can't you say "I eat healthier today", or "I did more sport today", instead of "I'm more miserable than you, and I'm proud of that!".
The point of that is that before one had kids, it was possible to have a little nap when night sleep was bad, get to bed earlier, sleep longer on weekends aso. Take days off when sick, really cure in peace. Most parents need to work perfectly, fever and all. That's really a whole other level as you can't just ignore and neglect your child as you'd ignore work or doing dishes. Before I became a parent I didn't know I'd be sleep deprived for two years during nights and waiting for the time I could do naps in the afternoons. I'll have to wait for a decade for that but when the time comes I'll nap every. single. day. Has nothing to do with being better or stroking ones ego, it's pure envy😝 I wanna sleep so badly🤣
then some people can feel like they deserve to have free stuff. Or Karen's can feel like they are being disrespected all the time. Why you say their emotions are invalid
Same. It’s always “What do you have to be depressed about?” “You’re too young to have back pain. Are you a grandma? Haha” “Why would you be tired? You working? Partying?” No, I’m in pain cause I was in a car accident and got permanent injuries. I’m tired cause I have nightmares when I’m finally able to sleep. I’m depressed because I was abused as a child. 😒 I really want to give the uncomfortable truth to those stupid questions.
Bravo cats over brats. I agree 100% with you.
I feel like so much of THIS would be solved if we all just lived by the attitude, "It's not a competition."
Oh I know. I don't understand why people can't be tired or feel their job is hard or their life being difficult for 5 minutes or for 5 years without people turning it into a competition. Working with people in any sort of aspect is hard, even if it's over a monitor. Having to keep up appearances is exhausting no matter how your look at it, and as someone with depression, easy and basic tasks become exponentially more difficult than usual.
Yes!!!!
This is what I was thinking, but I couldn't figure out how to put it into words!
I support this 💯
AMEN! Life is not a competition. Who cares if your neighbor has more stuff than you. Good for them even if they are in so much debt that it is crazy. You be you. Don’t work yourself to death just to “keep up with the Jones”.
Oh and if you are having mental health issues get some help.
The “influencer job is hard” is something I totally get - is it the hardest? No. But that doesn’t mean it’s not hard. Anything with long hours is exhausting. Anything self-employed is exhausting and stressful - especially if you also have employees.
Difference is how important that job is. An influencer is the least important job I can possibly think of but they get paid thousands, millions a week-month for doing the bare minimum for society. They’re more harmful than they are helpful. Sure they help people pass time in their free time but they’re doing absolutely nothing in reality.
Ngl I think everyone who got on her about and has been attempting to demean her Job (its the least important job....They're doing absolutely nothing in reality) was actually the ones being tone deaf
Like its not easy to gain success as an influencer, and the ones making that much are a minority - people kept posing it as if influencer where making millions instantly. Entirely because your competing against everybody and anybody with a smartphone.
I get so heated when people demean and look down upon others jobs and imply they're just lazy when they say its hard. I've had people look down on me for being in pain working as a teenager, when my job was standing on my feet for hours at a time (both people in question where adults who sat down at their jobs all day)
When someone says their job is hard, I don't care how hard your job is to you you don't get to condescend to them and tell them to shut up
Hmmm.... not real familiar about the job but giving it some thought: a new influencer needs to probably work hard to come up with interesting topics/subjects to get the masses to subscribe. This is probably without getting paid to do so..... So probably working a "real" job to get a roof and food. Ok.... now the the girl people are bullying, she has what millions of followers so now has sponsors so is now at the stage where she is making money for being an influencer (but she didn't start there; because let's face it, if it was that easy there would be tons of people making money as influencers). She can quit her "real" job but is she really large and in charge? No, because she is kind of employeed by her sponsors. She is held to her contracts and what they expect of her. So trying to balance her topics based on what her followers lean towards to keep her followers/subscribers, what her sponsors expect her to promote and having to show up at their events, and balance her life/free time. Not to mention all the other behind the scene stuff the other young gentleman mentioned that he does for his videos such as editing and what have you. I expect it can become time consuming and hectic at times.
@@Analaya749I know this was 10 months ago but influencers are important for the culture.
Not to mention having to be in front of a camera and remain personable and interesting enough to have people want to watch and the anxiety that must enduce for someone with depression that is very hard.
I loved that guy that just kept changing his sunglasses throughout the video. Cracked me up
Every job is difficult in a different way, because it’s a job. influencers have some pros, but it’s also so life exposing. I can’t imagine doing this without anxiety and depression and having to show everyone that I’m “happy” because if I don’t the followers could het angry at me.
Yeah I couldn't do it,and see nothing good about it. I understand that some like it,but with mental health struggles and depression etc,I just could not handle it.
Yeah I don’t see nothing wrong with what she’s said because it’s still a job she has to edit and play happy plus she has brand deals she has to make videos for and other stuff if makayla stopped working she wouldn’t be able to afford her life style really unless she invested her money in other businesses she worked hard for the money
I couldn’t agree more! As someone who has severe mental health issues, it’s difficult to even have a regular social media account! I can’t imagine it being my job!
@@laurelrhodes744 yeah, I'm stressing about it already just imagining how bad my mental health would be.. I've not been on my social media pages in ages,and I'm okay with that!
People think there's a direct correlation between income and happiness. There isn't.
it's like the meme of "you can't be tired because you don't have kids" Come on, everyone can have feelings and no one can invalidate them. It is so sad to lack of empathy.
Freaking hate that one so much, it grinds my gears! One of my former managers used to say that to me all the time and she was only in her 30s. Like gtfo >_
I have a kid. I was tired before I had him, I'm tired now. Being an adult is tiring. I don't know why people think childless people are so rested 😂
I suffer from 4 chronic health conditions, all cause chronic pain and depression and anxiety. At no point will you ever hear me say ANYONE has it easy when they say they are in pain! I totally understand and will offer support, love, kindness, compassion and advice on how that pain can be eased.
Point is, everyone has a right to complain!
Micheala I hope you're OK hunny xxx
I have multiple chronic illnesses, a stoma I got at 15 depression anxiety and PTSD. I get it a lot from people "oh I shouldn't complain, you have it a million times harder than me" and similar comments. My answer to that every time is "Even if I have it hard it doesn't mean that you don't too. We all have struggles, ours are just different abd that is no reason to make little of your struggles. EVER. I am always happy to listen and be there for you even if you don't think what you're going through is a big deal. It's a big deal for you and you need support like everyone else does and deserves"
Yeah but she can pay for doctors, therapy, medication and she should be grateful for what she has. I also suffer from these things, but can still see that I'm privileged in some areas and to remember to be grateful.
ofc everyone can complain, but doing a tiktok in the way she did aint helping her to prove her point. It just seemed like she is a bit ungratefull
I also have many health problems. I had stage 4 terminal cancer at 4, was given a super high dose of radiation, which shrunk the tumour but also destroyed my insides. From then I went on to have irradiated organs, causing a condition similar to crohns & ulcerative colitis at the same time. I got a stoma bag, then had several years of serious surgery on my intestines , my kidneys and bladder. I was then given a second stoma bag and also a drain in my kidney called a nephrostomy, I then had a hip replacement! In between all this I still got myself up and went to train as a midwife. I found I I have kidney failure too, I have had 11 miscarriages, 1 being a stillborn baby girl. I get sepsis approx 7 - 11 times a year. I’ve also just found out I have an auto immune disorder and thyroid problems. I have intestinal failure and so my food doesn’t absorb, so I need a nurse to come at night and connect me to IV fluids and also a special feed with calories as well as another infusion of IV vitamins. I had IVF and recently discovered the hospital had mistakenly destroyed 10 embryos from my partner who sadly is not here anymore. With nothing they can do, they’re gone! I could literally keep going. So I appreciate everyone has the right to have a moan or get fed up, but when someone sits there saying she’s been working since around 9 and she’s just finished at 5.09, I thought she meant am. She actually meant PM. Wow, so she worked till 5pm. I used to work shifts 7am - 10-11pm and do it all over in the morning. We do essential jobs, but you don’t see us being given thousands upon thousands to just use a particular product. I just wish they wouldn’t compare their lifestyle, to a ‘normal’ person! I am promising anyone, I would swap my life for hers any day. We have same mental health stresses, but having a multi million £ bank account would certainly help.
I am in a similar boat. I see other people getting things done, some of these ppl also have chronic conditions, and I feel inadequate. Why can't I do that, too?
But we all must remember that everyone has their triggers. And online lives are curated. And even success can be really stressful (which is exhausting).
The last thing somebody battling depression needs is a whole bunch of bullies when they’re trying to be upfront and honest about how they’re feeling and what they’re going through. Thank you Charlotte for what you said in this woman’s defense. Also the response that restaurant had at the very end of the video… inviting influencers to pay for their meal and then in return for the post, a meal is given to someone in need… I think that’s kind of brilliant. I’m definitely not an influencer, and never could be, but if I was, I would take that deal.
I was thinking that too! I realize people who try to pay in 'influence' really just want free food, but I would definitely take that deal if it were offered. Kind of sad that no influencer has taken it in 3 years.
Agatha Christie wrote in her autobiography about the moment when writing became her job not her hobby. She never had problems coming up with ideas but the work of putting them on paper and making them make sense was harder once she had to produce on a schedule and not whenever she felt like it.
I think it is similar when you are creating sm content. It becomes much harder when you have to figure out what got the most views, not what you want to create because it interests you.
Ms Christie was stuck with Hercule Poroit who annoyed her more and more over the years but her public loved him so she continued to write about him. In the same way it must be exhaustingg to try to find a new way to cover the same ground over and over.
Yep the anxiety of having to potentially please others or make content consistently and not disappoint people must be insane
I was into gaming since I was a child and my job is being a game tester.It's my dream job and it's a lot easier than my other jobs(I worked in retail), but a lot of people forget that it's still a JOB.I have a schedule, bosses, tasks to assign, bugs to find etc, it's not like gaming.
Agatha Christie (no relation) even had a mental break, where she ditched her car on the side of the road, checked into a resort/hotel under a different name and tried to bury who she was for as long as possible. Stress and anxiety can make your life miserable and it is so hard to escape.
Yeah.. the way I see it, if it was as "easy" as some people like to say it is, we all would be successful influencers lmao it's a highly competitive market, and you can do everything exactly right and still any number of things could go wrong and your usual monthly income is cut in half. Or worse. Out of nowhere with no warning it's coming. I imagine it's super stressful. Also it must be time consuming to actually research, write, film, edit, etc.
Gonna find one of her novels in my collection and reread it. Been a long time.
She's one of the most down to earth girls on social media. Of course she's going to get exhausted, burnt out, disconnected and depressed. We all lose it once in awhile.
Sometimes people refuse to believe that celebs, even internet celebs are real people.
Right. People are so judgemental. Smh. *sigh 🙄
Mikayla is anything but "down to earth". Honestly, she's a terrible TERRIBLE person and an outright bully and has a habit of sending her followers after people when she doesn't get her way. There's lots and lots of stories out there by people who've had negative encounters with her, and this later one just proves how horrible and entitled she is. Plus, she promotes false advertising by filtering her face to hell and back when selling products.
Down to earth? She's a compulsive liar
Praying for Makayla’s mental health! Burn out is real. Mental fatigue is real. Depression is real. Doesn’t matter what type of job you have and whether you love it or hate it.
She’s her own boss, if she’s tired she can sell a few of her bags and take a year off
@@Tommyknockars while tiredness can be a side affect of depression, they’re not necessarily the same thing.
If she didn’t constantly lie then maybe people would be more sympathetic. Her timeline didn’t even make sense with her ‘I do so much everyday’ crap.
One thing people often forget is that you and your body get used to the schedule you have. I'm a highschool teacher and in my country that means that I'm paid full time for 20h/week so I sometimes feel guilty about saying I'm tired when I know that my mom works 36h/week. Or on the contrary, when I was in highschool I had to wake up at 5am every morning to go take the train for 2 hours and go to school. To this day I don't know how I did it but I did and still got good grades cause I was used to my schedule at the time. People need to understand that even if you only work 4 hours a day then that becomes your maximum and so working 5 hours will seem like a lot.
period !
Totally. And different work hours can affect you as well. I worked the night shift for years and loved it. Now back to days and I can barely get up in the morning.
The last post about the restaurant donating a meal for every influencer dining there is so smart! The fact that nobody took up on that offer for years just shows how entitled and selfish influencers can be- these are people who are supposedly role models for hundreds and thousands of people.
As someone who has struggled with fatigue due to aggressive autoimmune disease I’ve NEVER judged someone who says they are tired or stressed. Everyone has their threshold. I worked as a nurse for 20 years until I just couldn’t anymore. I hope she is ok.
Abso-fvcking-lutely. I wish more people understood spoon theory. I have severe lupus and fibromyalgia, and most of my friends and some of my family are completely understanding of the fact that my medical status and energy levels can change on a dime. The problems come from the minority of my family and strangers who don’t understand or refuse to acknowledge the fact that not every disability is visible and static.
@@SaphireXari yes! I never know from day to day what it will be like. Just because I can go out to eat one night doesn’t mean the next day I will have the energy. Most likely I’m recovering from the day before. Just because you have one or two good days doesn’t mean you’re not trying on your bad days. It’s frustrating to listen to. I’ve managed to eliminate those people from my life. I’ll occasionally get a comment and I just say well a judge says I’m disabled so….. Sending spoons and good vibes!
Same here! I have fibromyalgia and CFS and can barely get through a day without resting in between. Even trying to relax takes a lot of energy and I need to rest after that!
Worst is, my dad doesn't believe in chronic illnesses and has given me shit throughout my life for it..
Unpopular opinion about Mikayla: when she said what’s in the audio she meant it. (At least at the time she filmed it) she also needs to remember that once she uploaded it it’s FOREVER, even if she deleted it. More context WILL NOT HELP. Y’all got to stop defending this oppression Olympics behavior. I don’t condone bullying but the people getting the ick from her… it’s justified. Being an influencer, even in the early stages, is so privileged in its flexibility and pay. The guy with all the different sunglasses puts it BEAUTIFULLY.
Every job is hard in some way… I think the difference is, an influencer gets paid OUT OF PROPORTION for their job because of popularity. It’s a popularity contest, just like middle school but with real dollars, so it’s weird
Edit: I just find it odd when influencers complain about the stress, THAT THEY THEMSELVES MADE 😂
If ya don’t want the stress of being an influencer, don’t try and become one… I have zero desire to be famous. Zero. And guess what? I make the money to reflect that 😂
I’m glad you pointed out that Mikayla was being bullied. No one who exposes their life daily should be played with, especially when they have depression problems. I’ve met many wealthy people and yes they don’t have to worry about putting food on the table but there’s many minuses to being a public/wealthy figure. They worry that they don’t know who their real friends are and are often lonely. That’s heartbreaking to me.
Peace Out Potato Queen! ✌🏼❌⭕️
Facts 💯
I’m a teacher. I’ve literally taught hundreds of children to read. I’m currently rationing groceries. I’ve taught for many years but can’t keep up on my salary with inflation. I think this is why people are frustrated. Pay the people who do the hard work a respectful wage. Nothing against her, but the world is on fire and we are tired.
What we make and where we choose to work and how much we are paid has zero to do with her tho. It certainly is why certain ...types of people are frustrated, but that frustration is on them and reflects nothing about her.
Nobody has the right to gatekeep how someone should feel about their way of making a living because of the issues in their own jobs (especially if theyve never done hers)...if someone is....they are in the wrong.
I’m a teacher too, 35 years teaching special education, 71 yo, afraid to retire, and tired. I have the best paying job I’ve had in my career but I had to come overseas to get it. I work for DoD teaching military and civilian children and have since 2012 (South Korea and now Japan). Currently the US government is denying us healthcare on base (happened last week suddenly) and off base we have language barriers and get bumped for care in favor of nationals. Literally, even with health insurance, I have no idea where I could be seen in an emergency not to mention maintenance care. Retire where? Not the US. I can’t even go home anymore. My 25 years teaching in the US required I always had at least on part time job so I appreciate what I have here. But what you said about the world being on fire and being tired really touched my heart. I will remember I’m not alone here. Be well.
Why don't you quit be an influencer? That feels like the smart move to make. Then you can have it easy! 🤔
@@VividKei that’s what everyone who thinks like her needs to hear. If it’s so easy then why aren’t they doing it? 🤷🏻♀️ or are they just lazy with no drive 🤨🤨
Everyone have the right to complain the way they want to, she has her moment, bc she is human , is the public are going to unleashed so much hate , frustration & have a pity party bc they got it hard in life,well, better take look inside & check what is making you been so ugly and have the audacity to take on a girl who so the chance and took it and made a life of it and keeps growing has a businesswoman (with depression on top of everything) stop spitting ugliness and breath before making a hate video about somebody who should be an inspiration and if you don’t like her don’t look at her content……and if you are looking for likes … you are doing it wrong, so much hate already , try to use emotion to do better for yourself no to hate what others do.Spread love no hate( nobody cares) Thanks Charlotte Dobre for your content ❤️
I feel like if being an influencer was so easy, why isn’t everyone one? 🤷♀️
the job is easy. but it's not easy to become famous.
Once u get the followers it's easy.
not everyone wants to be famous. not everyone wants to do that kind of work. that's like saying high profile defense lawyers are super rich, if you want money why not become one? because it's still a skillset that not everyone has or WANTS to have. I couldn't give two shits about my followers count. i post things on instagram so that my friends can see the beautiful places I adventure to and so that I can look back on them later myself. if strangers want to follow me that's fine but I'm never going to be the kind of person that wants that as a full time job. (even though even with a 10 hour day of filming, editing, and meetings, I still say it's a way easier job than a lot of us have...and once you're making some money you can hire employees to do the crappy stuff anyway)
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Because most people realize how useless the “job” is. Most people would rather contribute to society than sit around and record themselves doing and saying unless shit. If it’s so hard they can just…stop. Absolutely no one is forcing them to record themselves out on make up. Only people that would care are other people who are doing nothing with their lives.
You don't have to live under a rock to not know who she is, just a person who avoids TikTok. lol
🖐Present!
OK but she is re-posted on other social medias so really it’s a person who avoid social media who wouldn’t know who she is
Yup! No idea who she was until this video lol
@@n0thum4n I Am Literally A Social Media ADDICT & I Never Even Heard Of This Girl So Yeah..... Just Because She Has 13M Followers Doesn't Mean The Whole World Knows Her 😂😂😂😂
@@n0thum4n I straight up have no idea who she is and I don't avoid social media.
She's already said how deeply depressed she is and its the worse she has ever been. She said her self worth and image are zero and she's desperately struggling getting through each hour right now
Well.... all that money definitely makes the suffering easier.
And she make so little she qualifies for government assistance. Wow i guess the life of an influencer is worse than i thought.
Here i was thinking she could afford good healthcare and be able to visit doctors.
@@goodiegoodygumdrops The thing is, it doesn’t matter how money you have, you can still be depressed. Let’s not forget Robin Williams? Successful. Ridiculously wealthy. He KILLED himself. If you think money makes depression easier, you really need a lesson in mental health.
@@Iamaguienapig well said
@@goodiegoodygumdrops It doesnt.. You'd know if you ever had a significant amount. No one who has would say that.
I'd imagine being an influencer and working a regular job 9-5 or even struggles with mental stuff like depression and still try to post content on a daily basis can be difficult. Hopefully Mikayla is doing ok :)
Honestly, it’s brave of you to talk about this. I work with influencers and some of them are friends. They are workaholic surviving on adrenaline about to go on burnout. So I understand what you are talking about on a deeper level ❤
Honestly I'm kind of tired of everybody saying "You got it so hard, look at my life it's way more difficult". I was talking to my niece the other day and she was telling me about how upset she is over things that occurred in her life. She made the comment that she shouldn't be so upset because people have had it a lot worse. I told her yes people have had horrific things happen to them but that shouldn't minimize how bad something affected her. I don't think anybody really has the right to belittle anyone else's life or experience or even reaction to it. None of us truly knows what everyone else has gone through. Something that truly doesn't bother me may really affect someone else and it's not my place to make them feel even worse about it.
well said
I really like the idea that the restaurant has of posting the influencer and giving a meal to the homeless.
It's sad that no so called influencers have taken the restaurant up on the offer. It says a lot.
This! If I were an influencer, I’d jump on this. Yeah, you’re buying your own food, but you’re helping those in need as well. Love that idea.
This! ^^
@@lokicooper4690 that was literally what I was thinking.
It really doesn’t say anything. I bet a lot of influencers would just prefer to give to organizations that they know they can trust to help people and continue to eat at restaurants they know they like when they eat out.
It is not a big enough value for an influencer to go out of their way to that restaurant 🤷🏻♀️
@@sarah18914 I get what you’re saying. I guess it would be more beneficial if the restaurant did this for every meal and the influencer could then be alerting their followers to a cool restaurant. If I was an influencer, I wouldn’t expect it for free though. But that’s just me. I know it’s not financially feasible for a restaurant to do that (donate s meal for every meal purchased), but maybe a % donation per week or something?
We have a buffet-style restaurant in my city that will “fine” you if you leave food on your plate (grab something, find out you don’t like it, leave it, or just have eyes bigger than your stomach), and that “fine” is donated to the city’s “school breakfast club” (giving free meals to underprivileged and poor kids who wouldn’t get breakfast otherwise). I don’t know if it gets them any money, or if it’s just a way to keep people from taking too much food and wasting it. Pretty sure they do donate to (and accept donations for) the “club,”however.
I can't imagine being an influencer. You have to have to be so organized, self motivating, have the equipment, and the desire and push to succeed. I have never had any of those qualities. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety in my early 30's (66 now). Doctor looked at my journals and said that I'd been dealing with depression all my life. A year ago bipolar was added to the list. It doesn't matter how much money you have, your lifestyle, or if you have a job you love - depression will bombard you and you are in the nothingness of darkness and searching for a way out. My heart goes out to Mikayla and all who suffer from depression.
I think the frustration with influencers saying their jobs are hard is that they don’t understand what the average person has to do to make ends meet. Waking up at six every morning and working until five is very normal. It’s OK to say your job is hard but it’s horrible to diminish other people’s jobs who work in ways you can’t imagine. I’m sure a lot of people would rather be influencers rather than working 12 hour hospital shifts, or multi family workers who get cussed out every day, or factory workers who don’t have A/C.
But how do you know they don't know this? I mean a lot of the influencers I watch are people who actually worked in real jobs in retail, teaching, etc. Even those that don't probably had parents that did and know from that secondhand experience.
She didn’t diminish other people’s jobs.
I've been with you from before you left IO, I have never missed a video. I've seen your ups and applauded them and your downs and tried to give you words of support. I remember how nervous you were employing people and I’ve seen you be really down trying to get a video out every day. Even when you went to Mexico you were still getting videos out. What the rewards are have no bearing on how hard you work, they are your rewards for what you do. I thank you for the effort you put in, I’m a disabled boomer and spend hell of a lot of time on CZcams and you saw me through Covid.
I don’t know Michaela, I wish her well and hope she’s ok.
Thank you so much for the kind words, I really appreciate the support after all these years!
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Also; I too have been here since IO and only started watching them because of her. I still watch them... but I never miss an episode of Char, either. I just love her witty, sassiness, she's so funny and quick and just everything that's right with my day. I applaud the fact that she's managed to put out a video every day. Even when crap was tough, she stuck it through like a real boss babe and pulled through. I'm so proud of her.
@@erikarussell1142 You're the sweetest Erika! Thanks for being here!
@@CharlotteDobre AWE!!! LOVE YOU CHARLOTTE! ❤️ Thank YOU for always being here.
Very well said! EVERY job is hard. It’s akin to grief, everyone grieves differently but it doesn’t mean one person is in more pain and heartbreak than anyone else. Plus, you still have to get out of bed to care for children, parents, go to school/work.
Bullying is never acceptable...
"I should be happy"... It is when the guilt hurts so much... Especially since people still call depressive people lazy. This "scandal" won't help her.
Ok common - Mikayla has been called out for using filters, it’s very obvious. She was called out for her behaviour in a restaurant & for buying followers. When you are a public figure as big as she is people expect her to be genuine & trustworthy., to be as kind in real life as she is in videos. She is very young to navigate this sort of lifestyle. Her followers bought her $3 million house. She needs to appreciate that. I’d love to see her get some career counselling & coaching so she can navigate being such a popular person. It’s a lot for anyone but at 24 you need a bit of help. She’s dealing with Senior Directors of companies but she has no corporate experience & that’s ok. Hence her need for some help & educating. She clearly feels pressure to perform & sometimes we all need a bit of support & expert advice with our work. BUT no matter how you package this. She put out a false & misleading review. That’s not ok. With fame comes responsibility & she let the team down. Us genuine creators feel the hit for this. It’s disappointing & people are hurt. Let her learn & do better. She needs career guidance & clearly some psychology to work through her issues that she has bought up recently. Such as her depression & perhaps poor time management. It’s an opportunity for growth. Demand better but be kind. You never know how people are coping behind the scenes. Xx
Never heard of her and had to google her because I'm not into make up tutorials, but I really relate to her statement. I became a 2D animator because I loved drawing cartoons so much and thought that if I was working in something I liked, it wouldn't feel like work; but once I graduated from my art school and got my first jobs, what once was the light of my life quickly became a burden. I think that's the case in most jobs for most people unless they're extremely self-driven.
So not loving your hobby anymore as much as you were used to, plus the marketing, and the research in order to stay relevant on a platform that is constantly changing, and the bullying... I feel for her. It's not like she said she had the worst job. She's just a human with her own limitations.
The hate towards her is waaaay too much, and two years ago she had just switched from working at Ulta to being a fulltime influencer... I'm pretty sure she was under a LOT of stress, plus the mental health issues on top of that... Everyone can have a bad day.
she says she is mentally unwell but on tik tok not to a frigging doctor, and you know why
I do agree with you. While she may not be my cup of tea, I think it's really pathetic that someone took the time to go through her content to find this.
She doesn't deserve hate, nobody does, but seriously, she needs to talk to her circle of people about how "hard" her job is. Especially these days with how so many people are struggling to survive and would be willing to put in ten times the amount of work she does to make a fraction of what she does. She should read the room.
@@christineschaefer8216 Have you even been in her position? She's already worked regular jobs, but most of the people complaining haven't had her job. Different content creators have very different workloads and she was describing hers at the time. She was right. That much work is *not* for everyone.
@@joan1609 and do you think she would even consider going back to those jobs? If her job is so hard and life is so much easier working low wage jobs, then why not? Because she makes way more then anyone could ever dream of while working whatever schedule she wants. In not saying she doesn't work for it, I'm just saying most people would work a lot harder for much less money. Including me. There are many jobs people do that are far more difficult, not to mention dangerous, and they make pennies compared to her. If she feels the need to complain, maybe she should not do it publicly because I understand why people are angry with her. And no, I have never been in her position. I have worked my ass off my entire life and still am one paycheck away from homelessness. I'm sure she couldn't say the same.
What's happening to Mikayla is one of the major dangers of public media and yet one more reason I don't participate in Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and other stuff of that nature. Obviously I have a You Tube account and that's it.
People will pull up stupid comments someone made 5 years ago or when they were a teenager, post it and make it seem like it's happening now. Then the person suffers consequences for something that is not representative of who they are today. That means that people can't change and grow? That means you can never make mistakes? It is honestly quite scary!
I agree with this 100% and it wasn't until this year when I started my own small jewelry business that i even participated in social media.
Exactly. I think Reddit needs to be added to that list. Maybe they are serious, maybe for lols but THAT 15 YEARS OLD KID NEEDS TO HAVE THEIR WHOLE LIFE DESTROYED AND NEVER GET TO SCHOOL OF DREAMS BECAUSE THEY DID STUPID TEEENAGE SHIT.
I have freed myself from all other platforms except YT (so sorry Charlotte, idk who this influencer is)
But the other thing is... I don't think there is a job that doesn't get told by someone it's not that hard or "you don't know hard"
I am farmer and I get told I get money for doing nothing (because EU has created system that gives substitutes to keep food prices low instead of letting the prices go up in free market) that all I do is sit on sofa and watching money pour in.
Teachers get told their job is easy. Healthy care pros are told their job is easy. Executives are told their job is easy because all they do is sit in office and "others do all the real work"
Campaigns like these probably just are another way for people to feel superior.
I assume it's reason why people watch "reality TV" ("my life sucks but at least not that badly that I need to go f*** strangers on TV")
Mikayla has been traveling a lot, has been openly struggling with depression and an eating disorder, which can and typically will make ANY job exhausting and difficult. Not to mention, she treats her influencing job as a 9-5. She has a regular schedule and routine just like anyone with a desk job. She loves what she does but hates the way people treat her. I work in social work. I love my job but hate how I’m treated. Everyone can complain every once in a while and should be able to without the world attacking them and calling them lazy etc.
Honestly I love what you have said about this current "scandal" this shit is disgusting, if she is depressed on top of this current piling on her... I get the "I'd rather be depressed and have money than be depressed and broke" but I'm currently depressed AND broke, and don't wish this kind of bullying in her, I'd rather be not depressed and broke because then I'd at least enjoy the good things and appreciate them, I feel guilty for being depressed even if I'm not as privileged as her, I feel guilty when I can entertain my niece with sincerity and a smile, not being able to smile when someone wishes you happy birthday or even the smallest things, some days you even think you don't even deserve to eat because you don't make any money why should you get to have anything at all, it gets worse now imagine feeling that way with so much more, the constant "I should be happy" "I don't deserve this" and THEN having to defend yourself online for the sake of the sake your literal job and lively hood because of the sponsors and contracts, this shit doesn't get easier with the more things you have, it gets worse and the more you have to defend yourself the more you feel like giving up
So yeah, it's right if someone is concerned about her, because among all the entitled influencers I've seen and read about even the posts in this video, Makayla is not the villain anyone is looking for
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I'm so happy you decided to speak out on the Mikayla thing.
We all have days where we hate our jobs. Mikayla shouldn't be forced to be any different! As someone who suffers from extreme depression, I can definitely relate to how she feels! I was wondering why I haven't seen anything from her lately. I hope to see her again soon!
If it's so bad ,she can pack it in and get an ordinary job like the rest of us plebs.
Any job is hard, and creative work IS work. I'm a very talented artist. I won a TON of awards growing up, got the senior superlative, went to art school the whole 9 yards. But I couldn't make money at it. It's like trying to be a pop star, without connections, intense drive and a competetive nature and knowing how to sell yourself it's all but impossible. AND I had mental & physical health issues. I couldn't do it. I have made money, but NOWHERE NEAR enough to live.
I switched to psychology, got my BA ontop of my art degree. I did work in day programs & schools for MRDD kids & adults for awhile. My brother is severely autistic & profoundly handicapped so I thought it'd be up y alley. But I kept getting attacked physically b/c my empolyer refused to hire enough staff to keep clients & staff safe. I'm super petite, it was all bad. AND I MADE JUST OVER MINIMUM WAGE!!! Like $2 over after my BA. Plus changing diapers, moving clients w mobility issues, having no resources etc.... Ya, no.
Now I work in a factory. 7-3:30 so up by 5am. I kinda/not really make enough to almost live. I'm lucky, I get to leave work at work. But my job is SUPER PHYSICAL. For the 1st time ever I have to make sure I'm eatting MORE calories. I kept dropping weight, getting dizzy at work, headaches
I get that creative work IS WORK. It's hard to never turn off. It's hard to consantly self promote. It's hard to be that driven & focused. I couldn't do it w art- altho to be fair people care WAY more about youtube & tic toc than oil paintings lol.
BUT: This girl is still priviledged and tone deaf AF. While in college I worked every crap low paying job EVER. Waiting tables, phone centers, retail cashier, Chuck E Cheese, office work, cleaning hotels, changing diapers- done it ALL. IT SUCKS!!!
Getting treated like a slave sucks. Dealing w Karens who think they own you sucks. Getting up at the butt crack of dawn sucks. Getting paid sh^t sucks. Sexual harrassment sucks. Bosses who want to micro-manage EVERYTHING sucks. Cleaning poop sucks. Going home exhausted & hungry while making barely enough to EAT sucks.
This girl has MONEY. No boss. She can CALL OFF W/O GETTING FIRED. Even my current job doesn't care about doctors notes. She doesn't have to risk her life driving in 3 feet of snow. She doesn't have to clean poop & pee. She doesn't have to slap herself awake otw home so she doesn't drive off the road. No toxic coworkers. She has fans who LOVE HER. Haters too- but so do we all. She has her own place, no going home to your roomates/parents/inlaws. If she has an appt- she can just GO.
And again- THE MONEY. I sometimes have to think- do I risk driving on fumes or do I skip lunch? I'm one emergency away from debt or homelessness. My medical insurance covers almost nothing. I have medicines I have to save for EVERY MONTH. And if I had kids .....
Like C'mon, yes she has a 'real job'. Yes I'm sure she works hard, and it's not easy. And she has alot of skills & talents.
BUT SHE IS SO PRIVILEDGED & LUCKY. If car breaks down she can fix it. She can go to the ER w/o crushing debt. She has a beautiful home- including the 'old one'. She can afford treatment for her mental health issues. She can TAKE A DAY OFF!!! She can afford to have SOMEONE ELSE cook & clean- FOR HER!!! She can hire people to edit for her at this point!! She can buy clothes & makeup w/o worry. She has all the latest tech- on & on.
Most of all she has a safety net. Most of us don't.
I'm sorry but I don't feel very sorry for her. Yes life is hard. But she has resources to help her most of us can't begin to dream of. Most of us are on our own.
She needs to learn to read the room. Sorry for rant lol.
Best of luck with your situation and I hope your job is going well. My former colleague has a degree in creative arts and has the same issues. She has amazing artistic skills but is struggling to market her work. She lives in a regional area where art is not valued and does not have the resources as a single mum to move elsewhere. She has a few friends and loyal customers who she does commissions for every now and then for a few hundred bucks if she's lucky, but nothing she can depend on as regular income. She has so many large canvas paintings but really struggles to sell them, even at less than $100. She's been working in retail for decades and at times feels like she wasted time getting a tertiary education. All the best with everything!
Pretty sure that video was made when she wasn’t that lucky. Back when a broken down car really would have been a major struggle. Sure she’s super successful now, but clearly she hasn’t always been. I find it odd that you would assume those things about her.
Also the lack of a safety net seems like a weird dystopian America thing. The state should be providing that for you. She isn’t super privileged, no you are just underprivileged. I’m telling you unions is where it’s at.
It’s her tone of “my job is harder than yours” that people aren’t happy with and that irked me too.
Majority of people think their job is hard but I’m not gonna sit here thinking my job is harder than a doctor or something.
I completely agree with your point about the mass abuse, absolutely not okay and disgusting behaviour. This is the only thing I’ve said about it. Sometimes it’s better to say nothing.
She also got in trouble a while back bc she was using face filters and more recently she hasn’t been so clearly she listens to constructive feedback and I really appreciate that. This is not constructive.
It’s also the audience right?! Like I am lucky in lots of ways. Obviously I have stresses too. But I’m not going to complain to someone less lucky.
For example, I have a home, I’m annoyed because I got a new dishwasher and turns out it’s faulty. Already been a month. Now it’ll be longer. Annoying!
Ok. But am I going to complain to someone who I know can’t afford one? Or doesn’t have a stable home even? No. I complain to ppl who aren’t worse off than I am.
Know your audience.
She can complain but shouldn’t do it on CZcams. That’s the point imho. Complain about depression is ok. That’s a mental illness
And she uses slurs, but apparently white creators are ok with that. This really disappointed me.
@@Mama_Bear524 Agreed!!
@@MutantRobot602 Oof, which slurs has she used? I've never watched her videos so this is the first I've ever heard of her
@@MutantRobot602 do you have evidence of this?
I notice how they didn’t try to cancel her until she actually succeeded at being an influencer.. video has been up for years and never turned heads. Similar to the disgusting Tiffany haddish scenario..
would love to know how many followers and what her income looked like back then when she was just beginning ❤ bullying is never acceptable
The inevitable backlash of popularity: so American.
I was going to say! I remember this from so long ago, why is it a problem now?? So confused lol.
She's insufferable, don't get me wrong, but this is old news.
@@thomasjoseph5876 I noticed some sadness in her too. But, interesting enough, I didn't took from that guy's video that influencer job is so easy. Easier, but not easy. Personally, I could never had that drive and discipline to work for myself. I was always the least important person to me.I could never be selfemployed...even I'm great 9 to 5 employee.
@@britvica I think the beauty of it, like the guy points out, is the freedom. Having freedom to set your work and schedules and vacation times feels quite luxurious instead everything being decided for you.
I am farmer so I have some freedoms (animals need to be fed and all daily so not that free) and this being physically hard job, there are people still telling I have it easy and I don't really have to do anything.
I am in point where I have to run down my farm (outside reasons forcing me to do this) - so I just always make remark I now need to get "a real job"
@@duckeh1952 it's just another mental load. I think that's the difference. You have your freedom of making decisions on your farm, but as you said: no spontaneus vacations because the animals must be fed. I think 9-5 job if noone is micromanaging you but also you are not to make business decisions every day the best...because it's not physical exhausthing but also not mentally exhausting.
I can only imagine what it's like living as a content creator in the public eye all the time, and especially when you're suffering from depression. I'm a fiction writer in my spare time, have been for over 10 years, and I rarely let people see the things I write; I also live with severe ADHD and bipolar disorder. Those things together is a horrible mix, because no matter how much you want to create, no matter how much imagination and how many ideas you have, sometimes you just can't get it out at all. Sometimes, even thinking about having to do that thing is the worst thing and I'd rather write an essay where everything is structured and organized (though I don't like that either on some days.) I can only imagine how it would be for me if I had been a published author with high expectations and constant pressure of spewing out content, only to then get harassed and ridiculed by the masses because they don't see your pain as actual pain. I hate how society feels the need to 'justify' your well-being. Why do we need a 'real' reason for being depressed/tired/anxious/overwhelmed? Why isn't it enough to say 'yeah I'm really tired and this is really hard even though I love it'?
Prime example; a close relative of mine passed away a week ago, and one of my first thoughts were ''Oh, great. Now I have a reason to be exhausted and depressed that people will accept'' because me being bipolar and having ADHD isn't a real reason. That's how stupid that entire rhetoric is. It's just as dumb as the 'you don't have kids, you don't know what tired means.' Don't invalidate someone's experiences just because you think that it's ''not that bad.''
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Charlotte you're awesome. Thank you for understanding that everyone is different and that we don't share the same experiences for the same things. We are allowed to complain. 💛 Burnout happens..
Just because you're doing a job that you love and are so passionate about, IT DOESN'T MEAN ITS NOT A REAL JOB! This is one of my pet peeves. I am so fortunate to own and run my art business , doing this makes me very happy. I won't lie I get mad real quick when I am accused of not having a "real job" because I get to do something that brings me such joy. Yes, there are days I am exhausted, days when things go wrong, days when you don't get the contract, days when the art creation doesn't come to you, days you have to take a lost ($)...So yes any job worth doing correctly with love, passion and commitment is a REAL JOB!!!
If you are getting paid, then it
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Never heard of this mikayla. Don't feel like I'm missing anything
Well that’s not very good judgement from a clip of her feeling overwhelmed and it being a long time ago. Geez she’s actually really open and talented.
You're not! Most of the stuff she promotes she doesn't show in true lighting. She highly edits her photos and uses a very blurring filter on her videos so it's hard to judge whether the products she's promoting are even worth it.
@@saraa1741 you realize the finished product photos get edited like any influencer or model out there and the videos are just as clear as you see in this video. Just stop
@@saraa1741 it’s so weird how so many people are obsessing about videos years old at this point and with many people cameras such as Sony cameras have automatic filters which is why you now see so many people updating to other brands which is on par with the rush of influencers content looking dif nowadays. Also, what part of makeup is so hard for people to understand that a full beat can look very altering? It’s so strange to me
What kind of influencer is she?
People want to create a pissing contest to validate their lives. Maybe just maybe, Makyala at the time, felt that she was working very hard. Who the hell are we to say what isn’t hard. We certainly do not walk in anyone else’s shoes but our own. Way to get up on that high horse. Poor girl. I love her. Love you too Charlotte!
Maybe because it sounds like a 1st world problem. Someone earns her life by telling people what to do or think or buy, gets stuff for free, and gets more money than people that are really essential to society. She may be tired and depressed, but that doesn't automatically make people feel bad for her, because her situation is privileged, it isn't really relatable.
Re the first influencer. As someone who works in marketing, I understand how much work goes into producing videos, editing and ensuring your portraying the right message to your audience. Bear in mind, some of these influencers had a ‘normal’ life beforehand and suddenly they’re known across socials when their audience hugely grows. The transition between being a ‘nobody’ to a mass audience knowing you, must be hard because your life is suddenly on display and open to criticism. You have strangers commenting and messaging you all the time. Positive and negative.
Unlike celebs, these influencers don’t start out with agents to guide them. I understand why she must be suffering from her mental health. You’re suddenly a brand and it’s so personal. I wish her the best she seems very down to earth and ‘normal’
I have my own house insta with a very small following. If it was to ever grow so big, I don’t know how I would handle it either.
it's definitely hard to put yourself on camera when you feel like hiding from everything!
I imagine that being an influencer sometimes can be even harder than a regular job. especially at this scale. imagine the pressure to live up to, and the responsibility on your shoulders to be as everyone expects them to be at any given minute. then add mental health on top of that.
when I was depressed I could bare take a shower before I was depleted, this woman is getting dressed, getting into a persona that might not always align with her actual moods, filming for hours, and editing again on top of that. and then she allows herself to talk about how hard it is for her right now and everyone attacks her for it.
she is a human with fluctuating emotions. money doesn't always translate to happiness, and happiness doesn't always translate to energy to spend.
I wish more people would be able to see that
Yeah as an influencer everything you do is critiqued criticized and watched when you work a normal 9-to-5 you’re allowed to have a life outside of your job that for the most part is completely private influencers don’t get that privacy no matter how hard they try to maintain it
I had a cousin that wanted to be an influencer but she got depression because people treated her so bad.They called her "ugly, whore, slut" and other insults simply because they could or other people that hatrd her encouraged her.And keep in mind this happened even when she was just 14 yo...
@@tiannaconstantine9606 yes, however it doesn't matter how secure you are if you're stressed and mentally in a bad place. Things can still be hard to do. This is not a case of champagne problems imo
@@tiannaconstantine9606 so people who have money aren't allowed to struggle?
The number one thing I hate hearing as someone under 40 is that I’m not old enough to be tired. Everybody goes through shit, it can be mental it can be physical it can be emotional, but everybody goes through shit and the toll it takes on you is different from person to person. She might be tired from just life in general. Just because someone seems to be doing well on the outside doesn’t mean that they’re OK with themselves. I can only imagine how much more tired she is now having to deal with all the hate and bullshit coming her way just because she said she was tired. Imagine having to still get up and put on a front day in and day out when you don’t even want to get out of the covers long enough to even go to the restroom. But you do because if you don’t you risk becoming irrelevant which intern for influencers is detrimental to their income. at least for those of us who do work a traditional 9 to 5 we can call in sick and still get paid for the day. Influencers do not have that luxury. They can either get up and put a smile on and pretend to be everybody’s friend when they’re out in public or they can tell you how they really feel and produce crappy Content and hope that you all still like it. All these people need to sit down somewhere and shut the fuck up. Try putting yourself through emotional turmoil for a paycheck and then tell me how you feel.
As the quote from Fame goes...'fame costs and right here is where you start paying for it'....be careful what you wish for.
I have a lot of respect for her because of how transparent she is. In the first video I found of her’s she non-chaloatnly admitted to/mentioned she had lip fillers, which automatically convinced me to follow. Thank you for stating all the facts and context bc so far all I’ve seen is those 7 seconds taken completely out of context along with people complaining about it. And I see why the outrage happened, especially in today’s economy and with how much pr and money influencers make in exchange for 60 second videos (which often take hours to film and edit). But like usual with cancel culture, a statement was taken completely out of context for drama and while other influencers are gaining from it, she’s suffering from it. It just goes to show how similar social media is to a cat fight. Drama gets views, views Make money, and money is all some influencers care about.
This is the one time I don't agree, it's OK but I think there's more to the Mikaylas story you didn't talk about or show. No she doesn't deserve all the hate but she does need to remember her privilege of being her own boss bc that in its self is amazing and not everyone wants to be an influencer but I believe most people would love to be their own boss. ♥️ Times are tough and salary/lifestyle is a touchy subject for everyone.
Also she "doesn't hide behind filters"..? OK!
@@tinaa8419 also her fake, exaggerated voice and accent. There are recordings out there of her real voice, at least one being a video, and people who meet her in real life or have known her say she doesn't really talk like that....what's more, people from Boston say that no one really talks quite like that. And all of this as a persona would be totally fine, if she would at all own that. But when asked, she totally denies that it isn't her real voice/accent and gets all defensive 🤦🏼♀️
So much to consider... Especially if you understand things like "spoon theory" and she's said she's dealing with depression. Depression can kill your motivation, energy, increase your physical pain, decrease concentration, etc. I've no idea what it's like to be an influencer but I live with Complex PTSD with sometimes severe depression and anxiety. Most days I'm good but sometimes... Like when I had a violent stalker... I was so not okay. Stalker came from online. I'm sure she's got way more attention in one day that's like a tsunami. We've no idea what she's living. I'm sure there's a lot she'll never discussion with the general public. If you want her to use compassion... How about you extend it to her first? Hurts no one to do so.
A lot of people are being crushed by invisible pressures, challenges and fights. Empathy costs nothing!
What’s the spoon theory? Also, hope you’re doing okay!!
I really really wish more people were aware of spoon theory. I have two major chronic illnesses, incurable and classified as severe. The amount of hate I’ve gotten for being disabled in a way that people don’t understand and can’t always see is such a constant problem for me, and its the same for a lot of people who have mental illnesses. I wish more people understood that not every hardship is immediately apparent.
@@bubblebeean I am mostly okay these days. Nothing's perfect but thanks for asking.
As far as your question about Spoon Theory... It's metaphor that people with chronic illness/pain (mental health is included in this) have a limited amount of energy/bandwidth or in this case "spoons" to do what they need to do in any given day. Having "no spoons" means you're have the bare minimum amount of energy it takes just to exist and not have a complete meltdown... Physically, emotionally, etc.
en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory
There's a lot of sources explaining it pretty well in different ways. Wish I could share some infographics but you can find them with a quick search online.
I hope this helps. 😊
@@SaphireXari I do too. I think the example of the "spoon" needs work but overall I like the effort to explain to others who might not know the challenges some people face just to be alive/breathing. And you're right, they're is a compounding effect those living with more than one challenge at the same time. It's a true juggling act!
Actually you are making rhetoric error, not on purpose i assume.
"If you want her to use compassion... How about you extend it to her first?"
I want to point out that what she is doing is showing herself some compassion in reflecting her situation. Our entitled opinion of what an influencer job is like.. its the joke.
>.> In case someone thought OP literally ment it like she is not showing compassion first.
My son spent last 5 years training to be an editor and his tutors in last year always drummed in to all of them never under price ur work u have a skill a very specific skill and he took this to heart on his tube channel as dose stuff like logos for others and now charges them per logo
Thank you Charlotte for standing up for a fellow influencer and being an awesome person
I think everyone is having their own bad place right now. I hope she's okay. I hope we're all okay!!! Prayers and thoughts to anyone and everyone!!
I think this opens up a bigger conversation about people in the public eye.
Yes your job might be hard at times and you are aloud to think that and feel that.
But I think it’s still important to be aware of how privileged your job still is. You get to pick your own hours, have lots of travel and experience opportunities, not have to work for someone else and be your own boss.
I think it also partly comes down to us as the viewer. Without us watching, liking, commenting and interacting with influencers content then they wouldn’t be where they are. If no one is watching them then they aren’t making any money.
Why do pro sports players, influencers, actors etc who are making millions and millions for what. I’m not saying they don’t work hard at what they do and that they don’t put time and effort into it.
But how is it that a TikToker doing a 15 dance clip or something like that is making more then someone in the healthcare space. Or someone trying to fight climate change or anything else going on in this world.
We put these people on these pedestals and they make millions but what about the people out there saving lives, or helping out after a hurricane. Where are their millions.
But again we put them there. We helped create this society imbalance.
It’s really all about taking a look at the bigger picture.
I took a class in college called the Sociology of Fame. Why do we idolize celebrities and what effect it has on society. It’s really eye opening.
Again I think it’s important to have these discussions and really take a look at society.
Yes!!! 100% agree!! So what does Society need to do to remedy this, Like anything realistic? Sounds like an interesting class! I think people are obsessed with celebrities because it's a fantastical distraction from our boring ass lives, when one of these celebrities shows they're human too by showing emotion ( other than happy), or real life problems, then they ruin the fantasy for folks. People literally just want them to shut up and look pretty. If as a society we valued having huge hearts and doing for others than people like Mother Teresa would be the famous one not Marilyn Monroe, I mean at least that Nun wasn't having an affair with our very married president and his very married brother, then stalk them until her death. It blows me away that people just kinda ignored or excused terrible deeds because she has a pretty face/ figure. As long as they don't show emotions and act happy, then we're 😊
@@jenniferwilliams9548 It was an interesting class! Of course I had this class back in fall of 2017 so TikTok wasn’t what it is now. Social media as a whole isn’t what it is now so it would be interesting to take the class now with this different social landscape
I mean those people that are now paid a lot have historically been heavily exploited. Like the great iconic sports stars back in the day were uneducated and were promptly taken advantage of for that. Same with actors. What changed were laws protecting them from being basically owned outright by their employers. I would say that we need more laws protecting ordinary people too. Better government programs, increasing minimum wage, etc, would go a long way. People just need to want change to be enacted, and push for it.
The dude with the glasses nailed it. I feel if you do your own editing and everything that comes with it, then it's definitely time consuming and not "easy" work. However, not worth what they get paid. (Also feel the same about athletes) when people that are actually putting something useful into the economy and wrecking their bodies to do so can barley put food on their table. I'm just saying pays need adjusted.
Thank you for creating this and taking this stand. I love how positive your brand is. And how your happy to go against the the trend. Really well done.
No one should say who's job is hard or not hard . And bullying is not cool ever . The fact that's she's suffering is horrible. I pray she gets better .
“…that was before she moved into her new house…” 👀 that made me laugh because you kinda proved the point of people feeling she is tone deaf. But also-Bullying someone is never okay. If you break your finger but someone else breaks an arm…you’re both still in pain. A broken arm doesn’t negate the fact a broken finger hurts. Same applies here. At the end of the day, most people struggle and THAT is okay.
moving into a new house from the income you've made with hard work isn't tone deaf at all?
...so people with new houses can't have depression?
@@ResidentMilf ….says who?
@@jessicastakes-upshaw9575 I mean, the other option here is that having problems while also having money is tone-deaf somehow, I went with the less offensive scenario.
@@dogdog1913 people disagree. It’s that simple.
My friend works at gold mine as an engineer, very very difficult job, specially the workers who work under her have more difficult and risky tasks. Every single one of them come to work with a risk, mine is not a safe place regardless of how much you take precautions in. Then this Mikayla thinks her life is hard, lmao. The dude at 1:50 is absolutely right.
Thanks Charlotte for speaking up! You da bessst 👽💞✨
Charlotte should be the first influencer to accept the invitation from that restaurant. Take some friends, record the whole thing & show the world that there is a caring influencer out there.
It'd be nice to see an influencer show that they aren't all entitled.
Just a thought. 😊😇
I don’t think Charlotte is a an influencer per se but more of a CZcams presenter.
I've been depressed for over half my life by now. last year I was in college with only 4 classes in my schedule (so about 12-15h of class a week) and wasn't working a job. everyone around me kept telling me how lucky and privileged I was as if I had the best life. it just made me feel even more guilty for the fact that I was just as exhausted as when I had 8-9 classes in my schedule.
there's a difference between complaining that you "have it so hard" when you don't (which is entitlement) and simply stating how tired you're feeling (which is... literally how you're feeling, so it's valid). it's also important to keep in mind that depression and most other mental illnesses do make every single task seem extremely hard, even simple or easy ones. just because someone is an influencer doesn't mean they can't get depressed, have a hard life or struggle with work.
I think the thing that grinds my gears is that even if influencers are working the same hours as myself (full time job, plus parenting and side creative work and volunteer work), or as much as people who do 12 hour shift work or multiple jobs, they're getting compensated muchhhhhh more and have more flexibility and freedom and privilege. If I'm depressed I can't take a week off and then resume my job. I don't have brands handing me free PR to aid me in my job, or sponsoring my vacations. Sure, being an influencer can be grueling like the average persons job, but they still have immense wealth and privilege
And the freedom and flexibility comes at a cost like everything els. They don’t have health insurance through a job, their very job security is highly unstable, they are exposed to the stresses that come with being public personalities. I wouldn’t chose that life.
@@MissCaraMint Health insurance through their job? They can afford health insurance EASILY through their immense income. Are you kidding? (Plus lots of jobs have shit healthcare offerings or none at all.)
EXACTLY.
Her job is NOT hard at all. If I were good looking enough for CZcams no way in hell I'd be doing the work I am now
My ex always pretends he's the hardest working person who deserves all the good stuff. Never occurs to him there are other people who work just as hard, and even in more difficult circumstances, and never get a break. Drives me nuts.
And depression is SO hard. I function while at work, because its my happy, safe place, but once i get home its all downhill. Self care requires discipline.
Not one influencer in three years has accepted the opportunity of feeding the homeless by the restaurant they are supposed to endorse . Shows how generous and large hearted many influencers are . 😂 .
I find that sad as well. The first one that does it deserved all the perks and love they get from it. Would make a great news story.
@@Birdbike719 But they would only do it for publicity because they are so full of themselves.
And being an influencer is the easiest job to quit. You are the boss and the worker, so it's all on you.
I think you should sit this one out Charlotte. I think the way she went Shot saying it is entitled. She’s saying it as if it’s so hard and others can’t do it. Except everyone works long tiring hours, actually longer. It’s true she shouldn’t be bullied. She should also not run her mouth. I hope she gets better mentally.
She’s such a sweet person, and everyone is entitled to a bad day.
I would never be able to do it. I started getting a following on a few apps and the hate and expectation was way too much for me. I couldn't post everyday much less a few times a day. My relationship crumbled because my ex has thousands of followers and posts everyday and become upset when I wouldn't. IT'S DAMN HARD!!! I appreciate content creators😍 Special thanks to you Charlotte for always putting a smile on my face with your videos ❤🤗
THANK YOU for being here Chanel and good for you for trying to put yourself out there!
I bet. It’s difficult when you’re posting everyday. Especially, if you need to edit videos and filter out noises and such.
He got upset YOU would not post about YOUR life??? I'm sorry that happened, please don't take this wrong but if any relationship crumbles because of something so shallow and insignificant, was not in a strong relationship with a SANE person. Better to count your blessings for his true colors to show so you can find a genuine and authentic person to spend your time with.
Hot take: I don’t think it actually has anything to do with how hard the job is. It’s about the intricacies of the relationship between the audience and the influencer. Influencers primarily make money by selling the audience’s attention through brand deals and ads. Each audience member’s attention has value that they give to the influencer. When the influencer complains, I think it can feel like an attack on the value of their audience, even though it’s obviously not.
This coming down on people for saying that their job is hard is a lot like the pain Olympics. Your job can’t be hard because they feel their job is harder is exactly like when people say you can’t feel pain because somebody else has been in more pain. That all makes about as much sense saying you can’t be happy because someone out there has it better than you. Much love to her. I have mad respect for you guys. I couldn’t do it and I have the self awareness to admit and be ok with it. We are all meant to do different things and have different talents and that is what makes this world beautifully diverse.
For me I absolutely love my job. I am excited to go to work. I can still find things to complain about from coworkers to just an annoying day. Yes and a teacher in a daycare people can make comments on how I am "just playing with kids all day". Yes I get that as a perk but I am also trying to teach the kids and make sure they don't die. I grow strong connection to the kids in my care and I want what is best for them. I worry when they dont eat their food, if they are home sick and if they get hurt. I am on the ground playing with them and making sure they enjoy going to school. I love my job but I am exhausted at the end of each shift. But I look forward to my next one every time
I feel like yeah, being an influencer can take a toll on your mental health. But I feel like SOME- not all- influencers will complain way too much. I'm not saying Mikayla is, because she isn't. But there are several who complain more often than not.
Hi charlotte, I just wanna say that I subscribed because I have so much respect for you. I’m so happy that you were able to form your own opinion and didn’t go with the crowd. I also see where Mikayla is coming from. When you’re working towards being an influencer, it takes a lot of work ethic (esp when you’re trying to keep up that momentum long term.) I can see why for some people, being an influencer is a real hustle. For Mikayla she probably wasn’t an overnight sensation, it was likely years worth of work that payed off overtime. I can understand that filming content and editing is a lot of work. I’m not even an influencer, but the times I had to film and edit my videos, took a shit ton of effort. From the outside it may not seem like it, but it drains the fuck out of you. Another thing people ignore is that being an influencer is also hard bc there’s a ton of commentary you have to deal with. You have to put your mental health at risk and develop thick skin. I hope Mikayla doesn’t allow the negativity to get to her. It’s not a one size fits all situation… there are shades of grey. I’m gonna leave it at that :)
Lol offs please! No she doesn't have a job like everyone else! She absolutely deserves the ridiculing!
I love his rant!!! He is absolutely right influencers have it good. They are so privileged!
I have never heard of this woman...ever...nor will I go to TikTok to watch her videos. She could never influence me to do anything...not even eat a salad. The fact she has "13 million followers" is a testament to today's world. We're screwed...and the world is going to hell in a handbasket. I do videos...very few...and I don't ask for money...and yes, it can be "hard", but in comparison - my used-to-be regular job working 9-5 (which is usually 7-7) was way harder. Although...being a stay-at-home parent was the hardest of all. That's a 365/24/7 kind of job. So, yeah. Shout out to all the stay-at-home parents.
this is what a responsible influencer (charlotte) looks like.
I’ve never thought of Charlotte as an influencer. I think of her as an CZcams presenter. And a dayum good one, too.
@Crazy Cat Lady lol…fair enough. My oldest son works for Oracle and I took his advice for computer security. It wasn’t Nord VPN but he says they’re a fairly decent security provider.
Well done for using your platform to stand up❤️
Why is it that every time someone is being called out on their poor behavior- they want to pull the mental health card? Just admit your poor behavior and actually work on it.
Even if an influencer is lazy, and finds their job hard. That's OK. But I think the tone of delivering how you feel makes the biggest difference. It's like when someone has a broken arm, and the person next to them is in a full body cast of all broken bones; it doesn't mean the person with a broken arm only can't feel the pain and complain about it. It's just again a matter of the tone and delivering it. I think complaining the way Makayla did is where she went wrong, heavily. I have no doubt she gets fed up and hates the job sometimes. Like majority of us, we all do. It's OK to feel that way, she just did it terribly and she's seeing the repercussions of what she said - as she should, putting her word out there it's up for commenting by the public.
I agree with you about the tone, but I think people just went completely out of hand with this. People are being completely awful, they are not just saying "you are lazy", they are going to the point of saying she should kill herself. The Internet scares the shit out of me.
I agree!
I don't really agree. I get where you're coming from but everyone can moan about their life at any point. And everyones feelings are valid. It doesn't matter if someone next to you is in a full body cast but you only have a broken arm. You're still allowed to complain and have someone tell you that they understand and empathise.
She just wanted to vent. If being an influencer was so easy then why don't all the people wailing about how easy it is give up their terrible jobs and become and influencer? Why can't she complain to her audience? They want to feel as though she's their friend (as weird as I find that because it's a person who won't ever even know you exist but hey) so your friends do the same things weekly. If she boasted about how amazing her life was she would still get hate. People need to take a breath and stop. This isn't a dig at you BTW. It's just how I see things. Your comme t just happened to be the one I replied to 🤣
@@somedumbbroad what you just said is literally exactly what I said. I said everyone is allowed to complain. I said the person with the broken arm is allowed to feel pain and complain about it. You just argued with me agreeing with exactly what I said lmao. Way to go 😂
As a marketing manager managing social media managers - this job IS hard.
You have to constantly be on your toes comming up with what can entertain people and provide multiple creative ideas every day and implement them often without any outside help. This chase is very stressful, and I didn't mention still gathering the spreadshits with statistics and actively engaging with community. And big influencers are always larger than brands, so it's a lot of work that implies deep involvement.
My job as a brand manager implies doing more long-term stuff, I ussually have a couple of days or weeks to come up with something or organize something, but social media... it's productivity hell.
I find it hard to have any sympathy for influencers complaining about it's hard. If you want to be successful it takes a lot of hard work, long days and quite honestly a lot of sacrifices. Now, many years later and after going back to school, as a photographer I get "influencers" asking me all the time for free photos for "exposure", sorry but it's not going to happen. I work too hard and value my passion too much to give away my services.
I think others compare the amount of MONEY to job instead of realizing she is a human as well who has emotions about her everyday life just like the average worker. Money does NOT mean she is happy/ enjoys every part of HER job!!
The way charlotte handling this shows why she is the QUEEN, yes we can laugh and have fun but we can also understand human emotions and when others are going through mental illness . I don’t need to watch anything anymore i just watch charlotte i love the laughs and how humbled she makes me feel . Lots of love from Libya, North africa.
Artists, even influencers, are working and deserve credit for their work. That includes being tired and frustrated with a hard day.
I saw how your face changed watching Mykala saying how depressed and down she is lately. I know you have mentioned that your mental health isn't always great. You're doing a great job Charlotte. Never give up beautiful lady. Stay blessed 🤗 ♥
Thank you Charlotte for thinking for yourself and not jumping on the bandwagon like everyone else. Glad you posted this.
Oh I love u Charlotte!!! Thank u for this video, I'm so glad this is the direction u took this video bcuz I agree 100%
I think the problem with 'influencers' is not that the job is hard, is that if they are complaining that it's impossibly hard, they can just get another job. No one is forcing them to 'influence'. I do a job that I love, and I am freelance, I will say my job is easy BECAUSE I love it, because I choose my own hours etc. The job itself is hard but I would never consider it so hard that I have to complain because of all the perks that come with it. So no, I don't think they have a hard job. If they don't love what they do, or if they simply work too much, they need to change it and not complain.
Hmm... She didn't say that her job is hard out of the blue. It was a response to so many people that say that her job was 'easy'. Imagine being told that in a regular basis. It just blow up at some point for her and she made that video. It wasn't a smartest move but I can understand where that come from.
@@kiorodjirane8517 I wasn't talking about her, just in general.
I'm glad you're picking this topic up. I think a lot of the general hubbub about it was just a vicious cycle in mutual lack of empathy.
Everybody runs into situations in life where they might feel burned out, where they might suffer terribly emotionally and physically, even the richest and most sheltered of people who technically never had to lift a finger to feed themselves. No matter who you are, chances are, if you do have the spare mental space to look around you, there will be someone who has it worse than you. Does that mean your feelings of being burnt out or suffering are invalid? No. Those feelings are real to every single person respectively. And it is okay and healthy to vent those feelings from time to time.
HOWEVER, and that's a big however, one should pause a moment and reconsider who you are venting those feelings to. Again, no matter how tough your position in life, chances are there will be quite a few people who will feel they have it worse and thus will perceive your venting as entitled. You just lost your beloved dog and are grieving? Of course you are, it's understandable. Dogs are like family members. But maybe don't chew somebody's ear off about it whose actual beloved parents just passed away. You're suffering a mean cold and your head is killing you? Damn, that sucks, I'll happily make you a tea. But maybe don't whine too much about it in front of someone who's just started their chemo. You feel it's terrible how heating costs increased? Of course, that sucks. It may mean a significant hole in your pockets. But it's also understandable somebody whose house was just bombed out and for whom winter is now an actually existential fear, will shrug their shoulders and advice you to wear double socks to bed. You get my drift?
If you put yourself out there - which btw. super brave, I could never - publically on an app that millions of people of all walks of life use, many during their short breaks while working awful grueling shift jobs just to make ends meet somehow... it is kind of a given that a significant amount of viewers will consider your - absolutely valid to you - complaints as entitled whining, and from their point of view they are also not wrong.
Now, I do not believe that being a successful influencer or content creator is easy by any means. At the end of the day you are your own product, you are self-employed, and every outcome of your business, no matter if good or bad, falls to you. Your views and subs stagnate or even drop? You have nobody but yourself to blame, and I do believe that this creates tremendous psychological stress and will drive many people to overwork themselves (some really seem to run on just 3-4 hrs of sleep) and burn out. I have a slightly similar experience from the side lines since marrying my husband, who has been running startups for the last 15 years. If you don't hustle, you'll just sink like a stone. Something like 'time off' or a fixed sleep schedule doesn't really exist. When an opportunity rises, you better take it, cause it most likely won't come back. It's fun and invigorating, because you are your own boss, yes, and because what you do is what you chose to do, yes, but 100% of the responsibility of failure and success being on your shoulders alone can absolutely weigh very heavily.
I could never, frankly. If I wasn't with him I'd much rather push my 9 to 5, where even bigger f-ups can most of the times be smothed away by admin and pr somehow, where i clock my time, faithfully get my money transfer every month and am left in peace once I go home. And I really worked some shitty jobs, the worst being shifts in an insurance call center where you would be basically yelled and cursed at 8 hours straight every day. I did plenty of night shifts too cause it meant more money. It was awful. Still if the question was something like that or starting my own business... I'd again go for employment. I'm just not cut of the cloth to bear that kind of responsibility, just like my husband is not cut of the cloth to be just an employee. Both my job and him being an entrepreneur are tough occupations, but guess what, neither of us would be able to opt for the other's way to make money.
Do I think her complains about being burnt out were valid? Of course, because I am sure to her it was that bad in the moment.
But did she chose a good platform to vent about it? Nope. It was bound to seem tone-deaf to countless people.
Is being an influence/creator a harder job, or being employed? Well, that really depends on the person, doesn't it.
See, if she was suffering so much from being an influencer, there is an easy remedy for that, throw the towel and find a job.
Similarly, if being an influencer/creator was that easy, why isn't everybody quitting their job and doing it then? Hmm? You need to be ready to take the financial risk and be ready for the grind with a minuscule chance to rise to the top... that's also far from easy, because else, again, everyone would be doing it.
And no, it is not okay to bully anybody over something like this. Have some empathy, even if it came across as entitled to you. See it as what it is, somebody needed to have a venting session, like we all sometimes have to have one, regardless of if there are people worse off than us (spoilers: in 99.99% of cases there always are).
5 hours of meetings a day?! She's lying, or really really really bad at getting out of unnecessary meetings.
So... because she doesn't want to pay an editor and is overworking herself.... she wants pity?