r/Trueoffmychest My Husband Spent $100,000 on OnlyF@ns
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- čas přidán 24. 07. 2024
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0:00 Intro
0:11 Husbands secret debt
3:28 Reasons for divorce
4:09 Open relationship
6:51 Cheaters and the fallout
13:00 Mom lied about my dad
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imagine spending over 100k buying nothing but only fans, are they like antique, or gold plated fans? damn
How dare you, now have a like.
@@unauthorizedmonster648 🤣
Take my upvote and GET OUT!
@@unauthorizedmonster648 How dare you, now have a like
dude just wants fulfill his dream of owning a indoors skydiving ring
First story: she should get a report. Only fans is a per month subscription. He spent that much money because he’s sending them personal gifts and talking to them. Emotional cheating. If financial cheating was a word this would be the time to use it.
Or paying creators for custom videos, likely of very specific acts
@Lilith-Rose lol. "Creators". They're CamGirls or E-Wh*res. Don't sugarcoat it
I was gonna say, I thought OF was like Patreon or Twitch. Where the base subscription was relatively cheap but you could choose to pay more for additional benefits. Thanks for confirming this.
For him to spend THAT much I can only assume that he has a handful of girls that he spends a lot of additional money on for phone calls, text rp, special videos/pictures and gifts or additional donations. That much money on one girl doesn't make sense to me
@@Lilith-Rose That's what I assumed. Or it's specifically "findom" (financial domination), a specific kink where he gets off on spending money on women who berate and ignore him. Yeah, I don't understand it either, but apparently it's common enough to have a term for it.
@@PinkPandaKatie was looking for this in the comments, a pron addiction combined with a willingness to go into debt and one (or more) findoms willing to take him for everything he's worth, 20k a year isn't the hardest thing to believe.
Nice to see a family not defend the cheater.
That was my first thought too- 'wow! The parents sided with the victim instead of the perpetrators?!? How surprisingly refreshing!'
It's so refreshing
Refreshing. Sadly
@@radhiadeedou8286 It's less a reflection on society, but more of a reflection on what gets the most upvotes. Generally, dramatic stories like the family defending the cheater is more interesting and so gets more upvotes on the circlejerk that is reddit.
After reading so many open relationship stories, I'm convinced that there's no such thing as opening up a relationship: either it's open to begin with or it's not. Asking to open up a relationship is basically code for "I want to be able to cheat on you without any consequences... BUT DON'T YOU DARE DO THE SAME TO ME!"
Exactly
It’s totally do able :) I’ve been polyam for years happily, but happy stories don’t normally get told on the subreddits rslash covers lmao
Pretty much
I think the bigger problem is that they assume an Open Relationship will be any easier.
The irony is that an open relationship with rules laid out can work out im the long run. But, sadly, people just use it as an excuse to cheat
Story 1: taking a loan for him was a TERRIBLE idea even if we don't count in his OnlyFans addiction. Seriously. He can just stop repaying it and if your loan agreement says nothing about it - you are screwed.
Pretty sure its money laundry scam... no way a human spends that much on onlyfans, she should check which "accounts" it went to.
@@haimmaik wouldn't be surprised either way. Since humanity is known for two things being consistent about it: being incredibly greedy and being incredibly fucking stupid. Usually both at the same time.
@@haimmaik I was thinking that. Even if $10/mo is just the base and there's more expensive subscriptions, that amount is too much. Either he's doing something scammy or he have a horrible porn addiction like rSlash stated. Either way OP should avoid getting any kind of money connection like a loan with him.
This. OP said it was a mistake to not have shared finances. This is the wrong lesson to take from all of this. Not having shared finances is actually a smart idea. If things fall through they can't steal whatever you've earned yourself. That is of course unless you let him take a loan out in your name. Then they could steal your money.
Story one the guy probably was going for the celebrity accounts as they easy charge 20+ and that's just from hearing about the female wrestlers closing accounts or getting let go from promotions(Mandy Rose from WWE perfect example) you hear all about how much they make just from CZcams channels alone.
Story 3: Yes, what her sister did was awful and unforgivable. But that OP is even considering going back to her husband is blowing my mind. He is also responsible for this! And your sister killed herself... You don't know what he promised her. This guy is toxic.
I also find it so bad that OP, In the same paragraph said i still love him while also staying she's happy about her sister's death, If I was her parents, I'd be scared Because obviously she cares more about men than blood
op in the final story was bat shit crazy a violent bitch for sure
@@EricA-ds6rs the sister was a scumbag and wasn't thinking about "blood" when she decided to sleep with the husband she ain't no victim she brought the score on herself ,yes it's sad she killed herself but really nothing of value was lost .
In the story about the husband cheating with the SIL, he cheated with her starting from the night before the wedding to almost 2 years later. The OP needs to leave immediately. This relationship is totally untenable for her.
that marriage was ruined before it even started. i know that the sister was super wrong to betray OP like that, but i wonder if it was really her idea to begin with like the husband said. a guy like that, i don't know. also both he and OP knew that the sister was threatening suicide and did nothing about it. i know that its not on them to provide emotional support and using suicide as a manipulation is very wrong, but idk some form of help could have been given. idk. that whole situation is messed up and the only conclusion i can come to is that OP should never get back together with that guy.
Story 3: OP to give you an idea on why you shouldn't go back to him, he didn't take any responsibility for what he did. Sure he publicly admitted what he did but when he talk to you face-to-face he blamed your sister for the affair, she admitted her love, she seduced him, he would just too weak to and stupid to say no for the entire marriage. Then when you needed space he wouldn't leave you alone, and honestly I don't know why he sent you screenshots of your sister begging him to stay with her, I know it's the show that he wasn't responding but to me it was a manipulation tactic.
The husband is scum. He must be thrilled the sister is gone
Ops husband sounds like my biological father who has fathered to my CURRENT knowledge 22 kids with me as the 3rd oldest Op NEEDS to get her [ hopefully soon to be ex ] husband to get a DNA test and see if he has any kids she DOESN'T know about
I also smell a white lie in regards to who was seducing who they both betrayed her no mistake but i dont hear how the bastard got any punishment sounded like the sister (who isn't innocent) was set up to take a bigger hit for it. basically i dont expect op to forgive the sister but she should still be pissed about the fact that that asshole is the reason her parents have to attend their child's funeral and let go of the grudge on the dead, cursing a grave does nothing for no one
The second he said, I figured it was mostly bs. “No no no, you don’t understand. Your sister seduced *me* and there wasn’t anything I could do to stop myself from boning her the night before our wedding! I’m the victim in all of this!”
"it takes two to tango"
He just very selfish for blaming anyone but himself
In the story about the husband who wanted an open marriage, he actually didn’t want an open marriage, he wanted a permanent hall pass. Meaning that he could sleep with any other woman whenever he wants and his wife has no say. As soon as his wife decides to go out and choose to sleep with someone else he loses his mind. Basically he wants all of the benefits and none of the consequences.
men and women cheating or in this case having sex with other people are fundamentally different
When men cheat they do it for lustful reasons and could have sex with anyone and just say it was a casual thing
Women on the other hand, sex for them is more on an emotional level for them where they have a bond with the person their doing it with
So like It being said the wife in that story actually started getting feelings for another dude while the husband while yes being excessive didn't outright say he loved any of the women he was with this proves my point.
As someone in a functional polycule, all I can say is that it doesn't work like this dude seems to think. If it's not mutually consensual between all people involved, then it's just cheating with extra steps.
@@moviemaestro800 Except... that's how it always goes. One person wants to cheat without consequences, but gets mad when their partner even shows interest in someone. I've lived it.
@@wmdkitty Hence why those of us in healthy poly relationships particularly feel compelled to call this out as terrible. It gives us a bad name.
@@rogue9230That's not true, it goes both ways for both genders.
R/Slash: "That guy is spending money like he _hates_ it." That made me laugh out loud.
Story 3: "She seduced me! I couldn't stop myself!" Imagine being that weak willed and honest to god thinking it's a good excuse
That's not even the worst part. The worst part was that he was too much of a coward to cut his losses and go with the sister afterwards - so he essentially destroyed two lives for the price of one.
He 'loved' the wife too much to go with the sister, but he didn't love the wife enough not to cheat in the first place?
This dude is a real piece of work.
Ikr? So pathetic
And was then "seduced" dozens and dozens more times over the next 2 years lol. This guys willpower is as strong as wet cardboard
I know eh? I was thinking the same thing.
It is such a lame, immature, failure to own up to his own actions non-excuse. The guy is a complete butthole.
Excuse or reason, it depends what his goal was, either way she should definitely make him leave, but, and it's a big butt, she should not have destroyed anything or assaulted him.... legally that puts her in a worse place in a divorce, and is not justified either.
Story 1: That isn’t a “pay per video” situation… it’s worse. The hopefully soon to be ex-husband is INTERACTING with the onlyfans creators. That’s the best explanation for the amount of money. They pay higher prices for specific interactions and attention from the creator. It’s a delusional fantasy that the creator is into them, that the creator cares. This is basically OP’s husband paying to have affairs.
It's probably all of it
Story 4: It's disturbing how easy it is to manipulate a kid into hating someone they never actually met. Yeah, the dad cheated, at least according to mom, but what mom did was far worse. I'm glad that the grandparents are on OP's side
Not just kids. There was a University experience I was told about back in high school.
The researchers showed two groups of Men and Women of different backgrounds a video of a woman slapping a man. The first group was given no context and when asked to give their opinions they said the woman was in the wrong and shouldn't have done that.
Then for the next group they were told something like that the man had cheated or spent their savings on nonsense, something along those lines before showing him getting slapped. When the second group gave their opinions they generally said that the woman was justified in slapping the man for being an awful person.
Now of course the people in the video were just actors. None of them had done anything wrong and were good people but because they were told that the man had done something wrong suddenly the public opinion turned against the man with no other context than a third party account.
The funny part about the fourth story is that the dad cheated because since she got pregnant and even after OP was born, the mom belittled him and abused him, and even told him that OP would end up "growing up a failiure" like him. OP asked her and she admited all of that without a single speck of remorse. OP believes that she's also been ruining all her romantic relationships. Her grandfather is helping her into evicting the mother and getting a restraining order because of course the mother started threatening her.
@@GamerGrovyle Generally, I assume if a woman is driven to the point of violence, it's deserved. It's how women -- and those assumed to be female -- are socialized, we're taught that violence is not acceptable in any but the most extreme circumstances. So, logically, if a woman is slapping a man, he did something egregious and possibly dangerous.
@@YukoHoon None of that justifies cheating.
@wmdkitty And it is reasonings like that, which is why so many males never report abuse in their household.
You do know that there are plenty of men who are abused by their wives, too? Size means nothing if one is using implements or have the element of fear or surprise on their side.
So, by your reasoning, anytime a woman beats her husband it is deserved? Even if the reason is he burned dinner, didn't finish it before she got home or juat didn't do the chores she asked for?
Next thing you'll be telling me that men cannot get raped. And i will shake my head knowing you're part of the problem.
Here’s how you know the sister wasn’t genuine. she never went to op and apologized directly.
Instead, she leaves colorful suicide note written with same wording that a textbook narcissist would use.
Ever heard of the Charlie Daniels song "The Trash Took Itself Out?""
Good song, sad it didn't get much airplay.
She tried to speak to op in person. Op refused the visit.
@@Dorvin55 Can’t say I have. And when I tried googling it, I couldn’t find anything. 😕
@@Jackie-McCann I was making a quip actually ^^
@@Tues48 OP did later, though, but she ended up calling the police on OP. Probably a good idea in that particular case, but at the very least the sister could have tried a deescalate the situation and arrange a talk.
Granted, I don't think the sister would have ever accepted responsibility.
I just heard a story about a guy who murdered his parents and brother over anger that they wanted him to clean up his act and stop talking to a cam model who he'd spent 200,000 on of his dad's and brother's money. They sent him to rehab instead of pressing charges, unfortunately. He murdered them and then used his dead brother's credit card to purchase time to talk to the model like 30 minutes later.
The one about op's sister n husband cheating. Ironic the sister wanted this. She was the one who said for the husband to come out and confess or she would do it. It was what she wanted. She should have expected the consequences.
Well, it seems like all she wanted was the husband, consequences or not - but this way, she got those consequences but not the man.
1st Story: GREAT GOOGLY MOOGLY! BAIL! ABANDON SHIP!
2nd Story: Should’ve broken it off the SECOND he started pushing the topic. Being a single parent sounds scary, but better off get that divorce ball rolling than raising children in a home of growing resentment.
3rd Story: Well, this has to be the first story I’ve heard where the OP’s parents ACTUALLY support OP and not the partner’s infidelity with their other child. It shouldn’t have to feel like a breath of fresh air for parents to actually be parents. Though, I don’t believe OP’s sister deserved that outcome, (Though she did deserve that busted tooth and eye) I feel she did it out of selfishness and spite. If OP gets back to that POS she still calls “husband”, he’ll spend the rest of their lives thinking about HER and “what could’ve been”. OP needs to cut him off permanently. She deserves so much better!
4th Story: I hear so many stories of divorced parents separating children purely out of spite. Filling children’s heads with lies, telling authorities rehearsed lines of “abuse”, or spoiling the ever loving crap out of the kids to tilt the odds in their favor. Afterwards, the “winning” parent does a 180 and treats their kid like a burden, or an ATM as they age. OP needs to lawyer the hell up.
Lol, my favorite quote from the movie Evolution.
Dude is so consistent lol.. if you ever miss an upload you better warn us because we would be worried...
True! I've been listening since he was below 20k subs almost 3 years ago and he has NOT missed a single day.
I think about this often lol
I remember once the video uploaded a few hours late and so many people were concerned and trying to reach out, lol. Turned out the scheduler just went a bit wonky, but the concern was real.
There has been a couple days an upload has been later or he'd forgotten to post one and there were comments when the next one came up wondering what happened and if he's ok
@@luvondarox I remember that,. Many people were genuinely worried.
"They seduced me! You know I'm weak! I have no control over my own autonomy, it's not my fault!"
🙄
What sad, pathetic creatures use such excuses.
And they call women emotional!
Agreed. I have zero respect for any guy (or girl) who can't keep their d!7k in their pants.
Story 2 : Yeah, you don't want to be a single mom, but you know what's worse? Being a miserable wife and mom. Cut him off, get the fu away, you can't fix that relationship and your kid will get fkkd up by that environment of grudge and resentment. Don't die miserable, I know what it is, you do not want that.
Agreed. Not to mention what kind of example is the setting for your children. If you have a son he thinks that's the way you treat a partner if you have a daughter you think that's the way she should allow herself to be treated. No absolutely not show your kids that you have enough self-worth and value to walk away from a toxic man or toxic woman
men and women cheating or in this case having sex with other people are fundamentally different
When men cheat they do it for lustful reasons and could have sex with anyone and just say it was a casual thing
Women on the other hand, sex for them is more on an emotional level for them where they have a bond with the person their doing it with
So like It being said the wife in that story actually started getting feelings for another dude while the husband while yes being excessive didn't outright say he loved any of the women he was with this proves my point.
@@rogue9230 this makes no sense lol
@@jessyxit high value men can and have the ability to be around other women while having a main one
@@rogue9230 cheating is cheating regardless if it’s just sex or emotional. Just say you’re sexist and go
9:23 "...she begged my mom to forgive her..." uh...she should have been begging OP to forgive her, not her ma. Not once, until the note (if you can call that an apology) did she try to apologize and the ex is such a pathetic excuse of person. He refuses to be anything other then the poor victim, seduced by the evil Jezebel sister. I really hope OP doesn't go back to him cause its not a question of if he cheats again, it's when.
Story 2: that marriage was over the moment he started begging her for an open relationship and wouldn't take no for an answer.
People who hate open relationaships r so weird yay monogamy its like watching the same movie for the rest of your life i love it. Lol wtf
@basstfestivalvlogs7684 A)no, it's not like that at all.
B)I don't hate open relationships. I was describing a very specific instance where a couple is monogamous and one partner starts begging for an open relationship and won't take no for an answer.
Open relationships are fine when they are mutually agreed upon by both and gone into at the beginning with no pressure from either side. When a relationship starts monogamous and one party starts pushing the other for an open relationship, it's less about an actual open relationship and more about a way to cheat without feeling guilty.
Story 3: This is just tragic. Nobody is responsible for the life of another, but the sister clearly needed help. It is sad overall and a terrible way to lose someone. I lost my sister that way when I was 13. It took a long time to feel the pain because we didn’t get along well at that time. Later in life I came to accept everything, but I wish she was here sometimes to this day. I’m sorry for your loss OP.
We had fought for years. At the time I hated her for what I saw as ruining my life. I now better understand the pain she was suffering with bipolar disorder 😔
I'm sorry for your loss
Yeah I remember the 3rd story. She didn’t even say sorry to her sister and did it because he wasn’t talking her and ghosting her. I can understand why she didn’t feel anything about her sister committing.
Story 3: I know this might sound controversial but…when an a**hole ends their own life…they’re STILL an a**hole…
The sister was sleeping with Op’s husband, told/begged him to get with her instead, and was only sorry because the husband wasn’t responding to her messages.
Op while nobody deserves to have their life ended…i agree with you, i cant bring myself to feel sympathy for your sister.
If i were you though, i would end things with your husband, you will NEVER be able to trust him again.
If it was me, I'd probably feel the same, but also even more anger and grief at her not being here anymore and effectively escaping the consequences and never being able to either face consequences or (unlikely) fix things
Imagine being such a coward then instead of attempting to make amends, you act like you werent in the wrong and emotionally blackmail and gaslight the person you cheated with making it like they were the couple and shes the victim, probably attempting to bs her family, friends, co-workers and everybody else in to believeing she was the hard done one and then killing herself when it didnt work. Shes a piece of garbage that deserves to be forgotten
Its practically equal to prisoners who did unspeakable things (example:p3d0) unaliving themselves before their death sentence, or before trial etc
Third story: OP. You can not love a man who lied to you every time he told you he loved you for TWO years, lied to your sister every time he told her he loved HER for two years, ruined your marriage, ruined your sister's life, and led to the end of it. Yes, she actively participated in all of it and she deserves the fallout for it. But you can't really believe that you two can live and laugh and make love after this. If he could do that, if he promises that? Then he's honestly a monster.
Third story: Op is 100% justified to be angry, her husband cheated on Op for more then a year, that’s like a year wasted because a man is fantasizing over another women while they do the dirty, if he was really committed to his marriage he’d stop himself and tell Op or his parents in law about the sister coming on to him, not go behind Ops back and sleep with her sister. And the sister, even though she un a-lived herself it doesn’t disclosed the fact she basically Stabbed her sister behind the back and sleep around with her husband.
… but then she destroyed property and assaulted someone.
Justified being angry, sure. Justified in being a psychopath? No... multiple forms of physical assault? Destroying her husband's stuff? Dismissing the reason for her sisters suicide? OP is an awful person. And I seriously think stuff is left out showing her in an innocent light. Someone doesn't turn into such a psychotic person just because they were cheated on.
@@TheWeakMindedyeah, like. The sister was terrible, no doubt, but OP’s actions in the aftermath paint them as pretty unstable. Like… Jesus.
@@TheWeakMinded yeah. I agree. She's likely left something out. I understand her anger, but violence is never ok. Sounds like she doesn't care her sister is gone. This can be the consequences of one's actions, I hate it when everyone turns on someone, but equally, people need to take responsibility for their actions and they need to realise this instead of just thinking with their lust
That last story hit hard for me..
My sister and I were taken from our parents very young. All our lives we were told he molested my sister and that he was a monster never to be talked to. Come to find out 20+ years later that he was only accused of it, that there was never any proof that he did it. By some stroke of divine genius the state of Washington had us removed because he "failed to protect his children". When we finally met him and had the chance to talk about everything, the way this bald 40-something year old man cried while describing how he lost his kids and how we were conditioned to not trust him broke my heart and I knew he wasn't lying. To the last story's op, I hope you're developing a great relationship with your father and I hope to whatever cruel god is looking down at us that your mother gets everything she deserves
You're full of it. You wouldn't have been removed permanently if there wasn't something to the accusations.
@@wmdkitty Maybe there are details I was never made privy to. Regardless, that's the situation as I understand it. Dad was under investigation, mom failed a drug test, no other family wanted us, so off we were sent. Thanks for the love tho ❤️
@@thesexysanghieli7818 I’m sorry that you had went through all of this and I hope you are doing better. However regarding the last story the mother raised her daughter and lied to her daughter to separate her from a cheating drug addict. I know lying and telling a kid her dad abandoned her is not the right thing to do, but I wouldn’t want my child to be around bad influences and if that bad influence is their father I would try to cut them off too.
First Story: $100k within 5 years on OnlyFans...OP's husband is addicted. This is pure addiction right here. He either needs to get help or OP should reconsider this relationship
Comment: Pretty much
Second Story: Oh here we go again. Another story about an open relationship, that will end VERY well (sarcasm). Aaand there it is; OP starts to see someone, is about to go sleep with that someone, and then all of a sudden her husband regrets begging to have an open relationship. This is the same song and dance. OP should just divorce this guy and move on, he simply wanted to be the only one to sleep around while OP stays the loyal wife and allows it. In fact he encouraged OP to do it as well and then when OP is about to do it, he changed his mind and is now "sad"
Third Story: Wow, that story was a rollercoaster. I find it bs that the husband says he "couldn’t help himself"; yes HE COULD HAVE, he chose not to. As for OP's sister...sheesh. Honestly she did deserve the consequences of her actions because she shouldn’t have went after her sister's husband but damn, it all ended like that
Fourth Story: I can’t stand a "parent" who will use their own child as a weapon to harm their ex for hurting them. People who do that are absolute scum and deserved to get hated by their child when they find out the truth. So OP's mom here got exactly what she deserved. OP definitely needs to cut her mom out of her life. This woman is an entitled brat who thinks the world revolves around her. To add on the "using ur kid as a weapon bit", using ur kid as a way to get what u want also makes u scum
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@@Spanu96what?
@@Spanu96 Are you alright?
And if it isn't several people, he probably has a sugar daddy type relationship with a person on there
Forget to mention, OnlyFans is FREE, on torrent websites. Filelist is one of them that cracked the OnlyFans chicks. They got busted open.
I was married like that girl in the second story, the next time my spouse asked me to sleep with other people, I would say ”yeah sure but you must find these papers first” and give them divorce papers
OP won't be a single mother at all... She can easily find someone better
Sounds like she already did! Hopefully.
women with kids have a lower chance of finding love
I love how everyone sided with OP when her husband and sister slept together. I’ve seen so many stories where everyone tries to justify infidelity.
The thing that kills me about women who wanna marry the person who’s cheating on their partner with them is…bitch he cheated on his partner with her own sister do you REALLY think he’s gonna stay loyal to you??
LMFAO real
Yeah, how often do they marry their side pieces? Yeah. It happens, but not always and with her sister! If he did, they'd both be shunned from both their families
@@timallardyce1216 And it's pretty likely that sidepiece relationship will end because of cheating too. If a person does it once and "gets away with it", the chances go WAY up that they'll eventually do it again.
Sure it's /possible/ they'll stay faithful to their next partner... but as with any big hurtful act, the first time is the hardest. After that it's a slippery slope of easier and easier to push the guilt away. Unless something big changes in their life, they're going to keep cheating.
@@HumbleWooper yeah. I think you're right
I could NEVER imagine cheating with my sibling’s partner and would never sleep with their partner the day before the wedding. What a slime ball mindset, she poses slime in all pores
I've never paid for porn either but as I understand it, OnlyFans is more one-on-one. Like you're not just paying money to watch exclusive content, they will actually address you personally and if you pay enough, do exactly what you want them to do on camera. Now I don't know what some folks are into, but I can conclusively say my shit is normal enough that I don't need to pay strangers on the Internet to do it lol.
The flat fee for a subscription being around 10 bucks does not consider requests, personalized content and unlocks.
Sometimes a girl will post something that you have to pay to unlock and see, you can make requests for personalized videos and photos like on Cameo, there is a lot of stuff that can rack up your expense on Only fans and other similar services.
The flat subscription is just the tip of the iceberg.
Story 3:
I’m gonna say it
She definitely Unalive herself for her husband she has no guilt for destroying her marriage
Husband should be ASHAMED of himself especially what happened to her wife’s sister
I hope to get an update on the last story. I want to know the look on the mom’s face when she gets served her 30 day notice.
Story 1: When Rslash was saying "believe it or not". I honestly thought Rslash was admitting he started an Only Fans. 😂
I learned about Only Fans and similar sites recently. I have been told that the $10 gets you some relatively tame content and just gets you in so that you can pay this woman who is willing to please men for money to interact with you and you make requests to them and they charge you for your personalized content. They pretend to be your girlfriend and please you however you want. That really adds up. And of course there is the variety issue too, which makes things more expensive. More girls, more money. This is how it is nowadays.
Yeah, paying for personalised content adds up fast. My guess would be that he has a specific interest that isn't as common so he pays for custom videos to get what he "needs". Custom videos and video/photo packs can easily get up into the hundreds if you are talking about premium niche content. Then there's livestreams where a hundred dollar tip is common just to get you noticed (you'll see that regularly in the bigger streamers on twitch and youtube who don't do adult content, people drop big money there and they aren't getting more than at most seeing the streamer get slightly flustered at multiple hundred dollar donations in a row and saying thank-you)
@@Lilith-Rose It's pathetic... and it will only expand, it will never stop. I'm glad I don't have a husband. It doesn't affect me. I mean, they cheat at the best of times. My exhusband left me and moved in with a woman whose father was rich and owned apartments. He didn't have to pay rent for 10 years until she divorced him. Too bad he didn't have Only Fans then. She would have kicked him out sooner. But that's what they do.
Nothing "nowadays" about it. Read "Nana" from Zola. It's the same kind of story, but from the 18 hundreds 😉
@@brag0001 What is nowadays about it is that it is readily available to everyone, mostly men though, at the snap of a finger. It is more than abundant, it is now the way of the world. Maybe not all men are into it... but more are than anybody can imagine. It affects relationships. Maybe it did before too, I don't know, but it wasn't the major thing it is now. It is rampant now. Dispute it. Go ahead.
@@Bevity it definitely was a major thing before, even centuries ago. And something you seem to gloss over: the number of cheaters is even slightly higher among women than among men in some societies. So it's not even that just men do it. It's what many humans engage in, and according to anonymous surveys even the majority of humans seem to engage in at least once in their life time. For the US the ratio appears to be 57% of men and 54% of women admitting to infidelity in a relationship at least once in their lifetime. Hardly any difference between both sexes apparently.
I agree that some content is more readily available today. Especially graphic and video content. But other than that only fans isn't much different from the good old strip club. So availability hasn't changed much on this specific kind of content.
And I'm not even convinced that it's a bad thing in general (though only fans definitely seems to be problematic). As the availability of such content went up, rape rates went down. Today rape is most prevalent in societies which shun pornographic content.
As for such content harming relationships: I don't see that. My wife and I have been enjoying watching such content, and even visiting burlesque shows, together, and our relationship is going great for more than a decade now. Neither of us has been cheating even once...
General thought for Story 2: If your partner begs for open relationship, no matter if it's your hubby, wife, bf or gf, they most likely already have somebody lined up or someone in mind. And if you by chance go out to find somebody for yourself they want to close the gates real fast. Kind of like a rule for thee but not for me. It is practically just asking for permission to cheat. Divorce/break up territorry imo.
Story 2: The minute they ask to open up the relationship it's over. There is no salvaging it from there. Divorce and go on with your life
That second story, if your SO comes to you wanting an open relationship, just say this:
"Tell you what, I'll agree to this but ONLY IF I get to sleep with someone else first and once I'm done, then it will be your turn to sleep with someone else. Deal?" and their reaction will tell you if they truly want an open relationship for the both of you or just for themselves.
Listening to Dabney go down the "P*×n Costs What"rabbit hole had me cracking up in public.
I have been with a adult content addict. Never ever again. R/Slash you are on point today! Awesome. 😊
im proud of you! it’s hard to admit that, especially as a woman for some reason. good luck!
The first story reminds me of the Grant Amato case. He's a nurse who murdered his parents and brother that spent at least 200k on a woman online he was simping for in an attempt to appear rich and appealing. They told him to get therapy for internet/s*x addiction. The guy had everything good going for him in life but threw it all away.
If your partner asks for an open relationship, act excited and say yes and pretend you already have someone in mind. Odds are they'll back off. Or, if they get mad, call them a hypocrite.
3: the cheating is a bit more understandable when you realize OP is the type of person to resort to destroying property at *PHYSICAL VIOLENCE*
Cheating on her with her sister... Hes lucky he is the one alive. I know people who would be in jail if this story happened to them.
Story one: Yeahhhh OPs husband has an addiction. Should they get divorced? Ehhhh it's hard to judge it would depend if he paid to do a fan "meet up" and if he is willing to get some help. I really wonder if the guy knows he has a problem but was too embarrassed to do anything about it or if he just doesn't care. I hope we get an update soon. I feel so bad for OP to end up marrying someone with such a bad addiction and not even know it. And no matter what happens with the marriage I hope the husband gets the help he needs because 100k is a huge amount to be in debt over. He has blown up his life :/.
And the OP in story 3 picked up felony charges for assault, battery and property damage
Yea, that whole story was just... Yikes.
@@THEDubbleHelixx I am hoping it is not a true story
Look, it sucks that your sister unalived herself, but I don’t think she felt guilty over the hurt she caused you, I think she only felt bad because she no longer had your husband. She continued contacting him, left voicemails, made online posts, she was madly in love with him and that seems to have been her breaking point. Not destroying her own family, not destroying her sister, but no longer having your husband.
Your marriage is broken, you need to divorce, there’s absolutely no way to recover a marriage that’s been built on lies from the very start. If he was happy to cheat on you the entire time WITH YOUR SISTER then what’s to say he isn’t carrying out other affairs, or that he’ll stray? He can’t be trusted, and I’ll be honest, I don’t think it’s healthy to be with a man who has such a grip on two sisters. He’s happy to sit aside and watch two sisters destroy their family and their lives, that’s not someone you can ever trust.
It's so cute that Rslash doesn't know how only fans works! The subscription to the model is just to get you in the door. After, the content itself is PPV. So if a model posts a video, you have to "tip" them a certain amount to view it. He may only follow 1 creator, but is tipping them extreme amounts to try to get their attention or whatnot.
I suspect it's more likely he's following a few, and requesting custom kinky/fetish stuff from them. Onlyfans creators tend to charge a premium for niche fetish content. Partly to make it worth their time (+ even more if it's outside their comfort zone, or needs specially bought supplies or multiple actors), and partly because they know people with "specific interests" will generally pay a LOT to to see it.
Had a coworker get a divorce over this same thing, dude was spending like 200+ bucks a month on OF while she was working overtime pregnant for rent. Oh and btw you can get a month of premuim PH for a dollar (not to mention the FREE STUFF) soo this dude was going HAM.
Story 2: Yeah, I hate those sorts of people. The cheater only wanting an open relationship just for them to cheat and have it justified.
Like, we see through it, husband
Thanks for the stories rslash. I really like how you are so passionate about these stories.
I’m going through the first story nightmare! Been married 25+ years and he hid it all from everyone. We’re separated now. Husband is in therapy, I’m in therapy…what a bloody nightmare. He never spent money online but would buy adult magazines before the internet made it so easy. That explains the random convenience store charges! Could’ve knocked me over with a feather. I’m no idiot and I’ve caught him in lies multiple times throughout our marriage. I was ready to file for divorce 11 years ago when I caught him trying to pimp me out to his best friend. I don’t know if there’s any coming back from his 40 years of P addiction and hiding it our entire marriage. I have all the money so I’m set. He is back in the States living with his mum. I’m liking this arrangement.
If someone proposes an open relationship then he/she has already opened it
He's spent 100k? But the real cost comes in tissues and socks...
I was listening to this at work and my coworker recognized your voice! Love your content Dabney, keep up the awesome work!!
I’m convinced that there’s a very small subset of the absolute worst people who unalive themselves expressly to hurt other people, at least that’s the impression I got from the note detailing that the sister just couldn’t bear the thought that Op hated her.
Story 1: what gets me is there is free adult entertainment on the internet, he doesn't have to spend all this money, and I don't care how pretty the girls are that is an obscene amount of money to spend within
5 years and I'm impressed that he's only 17k in bete. Don't get me wrong that's ridiculous that all that money is going into onlyfans but still.
But all jokes aside OP your husband has a has a serious addiction and I would not let him anywhere near the financial until he completes some sort of counseling with results.
Oh yes, my daily dopamine fresh of the press! Thanks Dabney.
My ex (the greatest man I have ever known), ONCE asked me for a threesome. I said, "I don't know, who would the other guy be?"
"No, no, I mean with another girl."
"What would I get out of that?"
He never brought it up again.
3rd story is horrible and we need an update. Not only did this POS cheat on his wife with her younger and likely quite impressionable sister, but she told him she was considering unaliving herself and he told the sister and they kept it quiet and let her die based on how this reads. Yes the sister did something terrible, but the husband is just as bad.
"I want an open relationship"
"Ok"
"Why are you cheating on me?!"
BRUH
Story 3 holy moly that’s a really aggressive reaction wow op I hope the next man you’re going to date won’t cheat on you cuz he is going to suffer from your wrath I am honestly baffled and I am glad it backlash on them and Jesus Christ the sister unlive herself because she couldn’t see op’s ex that’s extreme
thank you, I nearly choked to death on "he's been at home passionately hugging himself" SNORT lol
"Passionately hugs himself" got me laughing so much
Rslash at the end of a highschool day, perfect way to relax
Where are you from? It’s 9am over here and my day is just starting 😅
@@amazinglynn I'm from Finland, it's just a little past 4pm for me
nice timezones its 2pm when he posts for me
nice timezones its 2pm when he posts for me
@@stillhere4226 aaayyyeee hello from Georgia, USA!
But... Rslash doesn't have an OF yet... Maybe Markiplier... Then Rslash (｡•̀ᴗ-)✧ That's where all the cost has been going
For the first one, as someone who does SW from time to time. Prices can start from as little as 0.99$ a month for just a subscription to a OF account but ontop of that you can buy albums, pics and videos from the creators, prices can run up to hundreds even thousands of $$$
I appreciate you getting in the weeds of the cost breakdown for story 1 OF addiction bc I was already pulling up my calculator bc HOW?!
I'm learning English and I like to imitate your voice to improve my pronunciation and copy your accent. I find very interesting the stories you share here on youtube, I'd love to read the original posts and the coments of the people. It'd be very helpful if you put the links to the reddit posts. Thanks for this content, it's one of my favorite youtube channels.
If there's one takeaway I'm learning from these RSlash stories, it's that polygamy and "open" relationships are a sign that relationship is just pretty much over. There's a reason it's just between two people.
I've seen it work but only when it's open from the start so both knew what they were getting into
I've known two throuples last for more than ten years, but they went into the situation knowing they were going to be a throuple. In both cases, the relationship disintegrated, leaving a couple and the "third one out." I must say that the average length of a marriage in the US is 7 to 8 years, so they beat the odds in a way.
Cheating on someone is not the same as being poly. Tons of polyamorous people make their relationships and marriages work just fine and the main difference between those people and the assholes in these stories is plain and simply mutual consent.
My parents are poly and have been for years and they've worked perfectly, so.
Hey R/Slash! Thank you providing us so consistently with amazing content :)
I noticed that you have covered very heavy subreddits for a while now, maybe it would be good for you and your headspace to dive into some more positive/light-hearted topics for a change? Just an idea.
OP #2---Sweety, you already ARE a single parent. Your husband checked out when he first asked you.
Obviously the sister is way in the wrong for sleeping with ops husband, but why is she not blaming her husband AT ALL???
My nanny always said, "Don't let anyone on matter how long you know them how much you love them have control of your finances, credit, birth control, and yourself worth. If a potential partner has a problem with any of those things, they're not worth your time. Or if they try to say if you love me, you'll let me do X. What you say to them it's if you love me you wouldn't ask me to do X" . My grandmother had a long happy marriage and contributed to the household even when that was an unusual thing to do. She ran the nursing program at a university after years of working in intensive care. How many of these stories do we read if people have been given the same piece of advice my grandmother gave they wouldn't end up in that terrible situation.
Im a longtime listener and these stories have made me so jaded regarding marriage and love in general
Cheating husband story: depending on what state your in. Cheating in USA is a crime. That said, you vandalizing his stuff and causing physical harm to sister is a crime as well. Not sure on suicide law though if you would be responsible or not. I remember a case person was convicted for causing a person to suicide.
Story 3: Jesus christ, you're right to be angry but you went off the rails
The line, “he sit around passionately hugging himself”. I almost died.
Last story hit hard, my mom was convinced my dad had a drug addiction and forced him into rehab (he was in the hospital dying and on pain meds? NOT a drug addict). Used that against him in court! She also would spread around how he cheated (1 night) but didn't mention how she cheated for literal years with random men and ex bfs... I can't imagine not knowing my dad my whole life, he's one of the best people I know and he STILL regrets cheating. My mom tried to pull the same BS op's mom did! Thank god I'd known my dad till around 7 or I would've trusted what she said, but I didn't. Live with him now and my life is SO much better
Cheating sister: Everybody in this situation is toxic af. OP physically assaulted both her husband AND sister.
Yeah. Even the parents. I wouldn’t want to be anywhere near any of these people
3rd story, the wife is a psycho, 1- Never be mad at the lover, be mad at the spouse, the husband in this story had an option, to cheat or to stay loyal, cheating is a choice, in every relationship there will always be a 3rd party, that has try to hook up with the spouse, their job as a spouse is to resist temptation to cheat, as the feelings will always be there both ways, but the bond and trust you build with your partner should always be strong enough to resist the desire to commit infidelity, 2- Never ever destroy property if you plan on divorcing soon, as it will cost you in the divorce court, if they find that you are a nut job, they wont have any empathy for you, 3- Never attack anyone regardless the case, the sister is not the one in a relationship, she shouldn't have been punished for it, that said, it's okay to hold some kind of resentment, but the court system will not see it that way, and you can be charged with assault, and the fact that the wife tried to show up at her door step for round 2, would have put her in jail for a very very long time, if the husband and sister decided to press charges against the wife, she would have been in jail for a long time and she would have been charged with a lot of money, keep in mind cheating is not illegal (For some reason), but it's very much Taboo, and it's not excuse to cause destruction of property and assault, if the wife had kids with the husband she would lose full custody, be smart and think logically.
I love when rSlash does the math. I picture the numbers floating around Dabney's face like in the meme.
Seriously with how many stories there are of opening the relationship and it backfiring, why are people so confident that they're the exception to the rule. A closed relationship that opens up is just prolonging the inevitable end of that relationship.
The line -where the sister seduced her husband in the bathroom....come on!
It takes two to sideways tango.
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He needs to go.
I think based off the first story, I think we have answered the question of who buys porn videos and content
I’m cracking up at “passionately hugs himself all day”
I’ve watched this video at least 4 times, and I die every time r/ does the math lmao
50$ a MONTH can get you multiple brazzers account. 50$ a day is stupid
I was about to comment the exact same thing lol.
Like, what the hell are you watching that justifies spending 50 a day? 😂
@@artzyparty2377 Probably personal conversations with his favorite creators, or a bunch of custom content orders. Or a few elaborate kink/fetish custom orders, maybe. Supplies, new costumes or outfits, specific locations or settings, multiple actors, haircuts, getting hair dyed, stuff that's outside a creator's main comfort zone but they're not totally opposed to it... any or all of those can up the price of a request. Sometimes by a lot.
The woman who freaked out on her husband cheating on her with her sister went overboard with her reaction. She has every right to feel that way, but by being aggressive and even assaulting her sister, she's not going to get anything in the divorce. And how it ended makes it that much worse
I just love waking up at 8 and listening to rslash on my way to high school
About OPs onlyfans addiction: you can also pay extra for "custom" content from some models, i have to wonder if thats the bulk of where the moneys going
Story 3: I feel for OP, really, but beating the shit out of her sister, that’s not something that can be excused even in that situation. If OP’s sister had pressed charges for assault, OP would have been in a lot of trouble and that would have been well deserved. Just a slap would have been forgivable and understandable. I think OP is just as much responsible for her sister death as her sister herself.
Have a great day rSlash fam!!! ❤️💗
Enjoy your day 👋
@@bridgetdebourgh5698 Thanks so much! 👋
@@Jennifer_MB 👋
The way I choked on my drink when RSlash said "He's spending money like he hates it" x_x
For story 2. It's so refreshing to see OP's parents not defending a cheater
That open relationship story upset me. I was in a relationship with my boyfriend when I asked to have an open relationship and he was against it at first. After waiting a while I brought it up a few more times and he eventually said yes. I badgered him for it and I regret doing so. Well, that was about 6 years ago and thankfully my boyfriend decided to forgive me and we worked through some stuff. As of last month, we’ve been together for 9 years total and we both identify as polyamorous, though we’ve only had tangential partners, actually my bf has has more partners than I have and I’m perfectly okay with that, I never had a jealousy problem at least. Anyway, I got lucky, don’t push people into open relationships or polyamory…