DEBATE: Is Online Dating bad for us? If you aren't hot, dont bother.
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Im gonna keep it real. Im a woman that likes men and they could be an 11 in looks but if his dick is small i wont even bother. You might ask what my preferred size is and ill say anything over 8. That means the guy could be a 5 or 6 on looks but with the big D it takes them to a 10. Plus points if he really knows how to work it.
Obviously personality is also counted. And i dont discriminate that much on height. Im 5'4. If he is a 5'7 or 5'8 which is pretty average, im fine with it too. Call me superficial but whatever Lol. And, all races welcome hahahaha!!!!
They pinned this shit so people clown yo ass 💀
Good way to end up alone. Dudes with 8+ inches of wang is pretty low, now add in regional, age and other things that might make it tougher. Good luck
This has to be bait lmao
Wow
Every man can have 8 inches. They just need dick sleeves that are realistic.
You thought I was gonna say Millionaire, huh.
As a man, I found online dating is a great place to practice your monologue skills
Hahah! 😆
underrated comment. kudos, sir.
😝
Yeah, it’s great talking to yourself.
I hate that this is true
Removing racial options from an app like that isn't going to change people's preferences; it's just going to make the app less convenient to use.
Exactly
Yea it's stupid
I've never saw an app with racial preferences option. Badoo and Hinge don't have it and they are doing great without it.
@@jenniferjuliana10 exactly i wasn't aware that they had this
@@jenniferjuliana10 those apps are for data miners, bots, & scammers. Thus they don't have to racial preferences,because they(the site) PREFERS EVERYONE. All these apps have fake profiles with real people behind them.Sometimes women didn't know they were talking to "a picture of a hot guy" that was a bot.Why didn't they know? Well, you have to keep the users engaged somehow. User engagement is key to increasing the metric for ad dollars. This technique has been around forever. Women fall for it too.
Being single becomes addictive. Once you’ve experienced peace and quiet, it makes it that much more difficult to deal with people.
Agreed 100%. I was in long term forever, after being single for 2 years I now find it hard to adapt and share my space
Totally agree with you! I’m single af and I don’t make out with nobody or date .. i just dont want to. I hang out with my friends and laugh my head off or I stay in , eat and watch the shit out of Netflix. And I don’t feel lonely for 1 sec. I crave it! 😂 just the thought of a romantic relationship atm just gives me anxiety.
It becomes addictive until you meet the one person you click with and then bring in a relationship becomes effortless
@SimmyJai i don't think i have ever related more with someone. Being with people to me is akin to system overload. I feel like am not made for relationships either. I actually become majorly anxious when someone approaches me romantically. Like they are obstructing my peace and quiet.
This!
"Black women and Asian men are the least preferred on dating apps..." As an Asian man, "Yep."
@Jack Neet why are black women?
@Jack Neet you sound racist mate.
Comment of irony and hope!! Let this be a spark for Asian men and Black women perhaps opening up to love with each other more lol, that’ll help crush the stats lol 💖
I’m Caribbean+Afro-Latina (caramel skin, so aesthetically I look black) and my man’s Punjabi. Met on a dating app and we’re years-in strong. I don’t have a type but surprisingly was approached mostly by South Asian men which I never expected. My hubby and I are obsessed with each other in the sweetest ways, he’s an incredible man...So we beat the statistic!! It happens and I vouch for how amazingly attractive, sexy and adoring Asian men are toward their significant others, I came to understand how a desire to be in a beautiful, committed relationship is more so a part of the culture and prioritized, and they take it seriously. He’s appreciative that I’m a reciprocating strong Black woman by his side. It’s been great.
I've dated more Asian men than any other race. Also I see so many Asian men with so many different race women. I don't know if this statistic is still accurate. I think it really depends on how attractive people are rather than race.
I find asian people in general to be some of the most beautiful looking people and as a caucasion woman I prefer to keep my blemishes and freckles away from such flawless looking men.
“Sometimes your type is the reason why you’re alone”
Man this dude is preachi-......🤔😮🤯
Me😭😫
Hector Silva 💀⚰️🤣
Does that mean that Aba is the Dancing Queen?
I don’t see the lie..
the emoji's got me dying LMAO
"Some of you will stay lonely forever" being alone doesn't make a person lonely. You can be lonely in a room with 50 people and you could be all by yourself in the mountains and never for a second feel lonely. Don't conflate the two.
preach
Nero Archangel Thank you for pointing that out. People really can’t understand that being alone isn’t a bad thing.
Bingo!!!!!
100% agree. There is something to be said about people being social animals though. These are the exceptions that proves the rule.
For most of us, human interaction is as much a need as eating or sleeping. Some people just 'eat' less. Is a hermit in the mountains
an example of a normal _healthy_ human being? I'm not convinced. It's like a lion living outside of a family unit. It's not normal.
@@Oddness or a wolf that has the skills & prefers to hunt alone. It just depends you haven't met every human on this planet to determine their reason as to why they prefer to BE ALONE. In order to explore that line of thought you'll have to get into the extrovert/introvert argument. How do introverts meet people as oppose to how extroverts meet people(*which we can usually speculate how). It depends. Preferences go as far as specific smells. Smells can affect attraction. Symmetry affects attraction. These are just some of the reasons why Jubilee really honed in on this one. Some people are naturally born with the "look". Some have game tons of it. I know a guy who looks like Captain Cave man but can probably charm your wife or girl to sleep with him. Why??? Because he is a man's man. This makes him attractive. It just depends. NOW (what I see at least) is that we've gotten into this overtly HOT OR NOT title shitshow which is pushing the narrative of "YOU MUST HAVE THIS...OR HAVE THAT IN ORDER TO COMPETE". This allowed preferences to become even more of YOU GOT IT OR YOU DON'T SITUATION. Soooo now you are left to say either you want to participate in something like that or try your hand elsewhere. People go overseas & get a better chance at lust or a partner.
"Misery and miserable people tend to be loud"... Well that explains Twitter
😂
A lot of the Internet really. Just compare how long good user reviews are on like Google vs bad ones. The bad ones are always longer
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🤣
Yes.
I feel like there’s a lot of body language, chemistry, mystery, implication etc. that u feel when u talk to someone in person but it simply doesn’t translate over tinder
Exactly
It does when you decide to meet them
No shit so meet them in person after talking online you stupid bitch.
When im really wanting to get dates I can kill it in person. Leave a solid impression, give off fun/flirty vibes and all that. Online it’s just lame and seems like too much work.
My awkward online dating story, was chatting with a guy for two weeks, thought it was going great, ran into him at the gas station, neither of us knew where we knew each other from and we're talking, then his wife walked up..... And at that moment we realized where we knew each other from.... I'm out!!!
Ooof 🤦🏾♀️
😂
The fact that y'all nvr met, tells à lot.
@@berightback99 they were only talking for 2 weeks. How quickly do you meet people after speaking with them online?
@@SmoothOpe_ some ppl do it straight away like 3 days or next available weekend
My father said something fantastic I think about a lot; “a man should never be the same man he was a decade ago”
Words of wisdom
Replace 'man' with 'human being'.
Wabi-sabi8551 of course, just using his words
Fax yo.
a decade is a long time man
It’s interesting how good people swipe right on people that looks good in their photo. Some people are super photogenic but in real life aren’t that good looking. Others might not be photogenic but look really good in real life
Ugh
I look terrible in real life and photos 🙃😳
your comment is severely underrated
Sure, but what else are you going to go by? All you can go by, appearance wise, is their photos, until you meet them. Unless you want to take the time to read their profile, which still doesn't tell you all that much.
@@rationalthought9979 yep, should we meet every single person IRL to make sure they look the same as on their profile or better lol
I haven't used a dating app in years, but I used it almost polar opposite to most people. Pics are nice, but if the profile is trash, boring, or vain? I'm out.
I put on my bio that I had no patience for messaging back and forth. Any discussion would be for the purposes of organizing a date, and we would be going dutch, no questions. 1st girl that agreed to those parameters was actually pretty cool. Glad I remembered to get her an anniversary gift today.
I hope this is legit
@@davidp4270 it is.
@@MrCurbinator W my guy
I'm late, but wish you good luck!
That's great! I love that and wish more men would be this direct! So many men have nothing in their bio and hmmm and Hah around, playing games and wasting my time. I even have it in my bios not to waste my time if you arent looking to meet up in real life and STILL my time gets wasted and wasted...
The African American women and Asian men statistic isn't a new thing. On or Offline.
Yep, they're at the bottom of dating totem poll. The lighter skin black girl is also objectively more attractive than Kendra🤷♂️.
And the funny thing is, they don't usually mix either. Black females don't typically find asian men attractive and vis versa.
where is the love for the Asian man? they never get the media love!
@@ayowser01 if they did neither of them would end up at the bottom because they'd match with each other
Ray Gallardo Which I don’t really get since I find black women really attractive and usually extremely down to earth. I’m not into men, but I do find Asian men to be extremely chill and fun to hang out with.🤷♂️
"This guy is the most assertive low-energy person I have ever seen."
Do you mean: Kakashi Hatake?
damn son!!
He's the guy 💪💪
🤣
W
We got DBZ and Naruto 🤣🤣
20:05
I disagree. Here's why: I met 2 out of my 3 best friends by chatting up a stranger. I prefer in person approaches. That being said: the number of people that look at me like I'm crazy when I talk to them in public, has increased in correlation to the rise of online dating
When I go to concerts (often by myself) more often then not I end up chatting with a stranger. They start a conversation or I do. I know people who became besties at Comicon. I think at events it's natural people will talk to strangers as they already know they have something in common. Or lines - TSA, bathrooms because you can always gripe about how long it it.
@@chrissyb7916 I go to conventions and Medieval Festivals just to be connected with like minded folks. Events truly make it easier than dating apps, at least for me.
Jubilee dude was a perfect example of when the weed hits.
Homeboy definitely smokes that gud gud
@ghostlyghille dude your hella cute!
Choice Paralysis is a real thing and anyone who owns a Netflix account can probably confirm lol
Or a steam account lol
@@QwentyJ bro I own like one game, I don't have that problem
That’s a fact
Omg for me there’s “nothing” on Netflix. It’s just strange.
Edit: I used quotes because it feels like nothing to me.
ShanteRoxxane stranger thing watch that
I live in a small town, and it seems like everyone has slept with everyone at this point so I always try to date online outside of my town!! But it’s hard to find genuine people, so I’m leaving it up to god now
I’m ugly so I kind of just given up on dating apps all together. So sis we in the same fucking boat.
Oddly feel the same way but im in a big city. Well, guess it only takes one right? Odds are stacked against us but, that’s life. Good luck
I don’t live in a small town but I’m in the same boat... it is hard finding genuine people. I hope you find what you’re looking for.
Move to a city with more dating and job opportunities.
Sierra Alexander Can’t relate but I really hope you find a genuine person. Good that you are looking for that rather than someone for sex. 👍
I live in Iowa and I am black. So I chose to never really date on apps. I have made a profile, I'm average looking and I have a lot of personality so I get enough interaction in my personal opinion. I even met a guy that was quality but it didn't work out. But because I live in Iowa which is literally 98% white I've chosen to 1. Meet people in person 2. Open up my options(not limiting it to just Black men) 3. Connect seriously with people with similar interests as me.
I am currently engaged to my partner at 31 years old expecting our first child after 2 years together. We met in person. As a black woman I really don't think that online dating is for me. I am able to connect with people better in person and I understand that isn't the case for everyone. But for me because of statistics I honestly was turned off by the prospect. I didn't have the worst results but I just didn't want to put myself on a place where I feel unwelcomed.
That's awesome and very wise. Thank you for sharing! I'd rather meet people in person as well. God bless you on your future bundle of joy and union.
Awesome! Congratulations, I wish you a safe delivery☺️!
congrats
I’m from Iowa and a BW, I feel like it depends on where u live in Iowa, like if your from a small town in the middle of nowhere vs Des Moines
Congratulations girl! 🥰
Biggest reason online dating is so necessary right now is because neighborhoods aren't designed for healthy spontaneous interaction. You get in your car, go to your destination, meet transactional people to do transactional things, go home, and never brush shoulders with anyone else.
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A lot of times when someone speaks slowly it’s because they are a recovered stutterer. One of the first tricks you are taught are to slow down and think about your words. I wouldn’t be shocked if that dude was a stutterer.
Jhai La personally I stop talking when I stutter think it out for a second then try again on the sentence. I never actually went to speech therapy because my stutter is very mild. But stopping works for me.
I'm a stutterer
@@MrMossMan7272 stutterer here. Anymore strategies dude?
MsDragonbal776 haven’t actually tried it because I don’t speak any other languages but apparently saying the word you’re stuck on in another language helps.
I used to be very articulate as a kid. I would talk fast and I would speak clearly. But after of associating with people who would stumble over their words or had a difficult time with the English language (my granma and ma mostly) I later ended up having more trouble, mispronouncing things, misarranging sentences, stopping dead in my tracks because I lost a "single word" and struggled to complete because that word is temporarily lost in the nexus of my mental dictionary, and then are times when I just "uh..." or mindlessly repeat a word until I can get back to it.
I've also heard people stutter a LOT even as they're speaking slowly and mindfully. Sometimes, the vocalization part of our brain just fogs up.
"Some of y'all gon be alone forever" Hurts to hear the truth. But at the same time maybe there's a beauty to learning how to live alone.
People like that have to recenter their purpose in life. My aunt wanted to get married, never did. She developed friendships and centered her life around her career as a special ed teacher, and her students were like her children. She was pretty much renowned within her district. It's sad, but clinging to what's long gone is gonna keep it sadder.
Fortunately I don't think I'm in that situation, lol
Nah don't tell that to yourself. Everybody needs love, that's how we are
@@hakatapawa7115 Needing love and getting love are two different things. Just being grateful for what you do have is all you can do.
Theres freedom in solidarity. I swear its peaceful.
@@grantog123 great perspective!! The attitude of gratitude is everything. It's important to appreciate what you do have!
"you're pretty for a black girl." damn... somebody down bad. i'm praying for you, g.
Just shows how racism is still prevalent...and dont ever forget it
@@MixManiac120 Not really. Just a preference. Some of my homies told white girls there cute for a white girl cuz white really isn't their preference
@@thomassmith4579 Its mentioning race...its racist bro. Also, preference isn't the same as generalization- which is prejudice. Noone wants to hear about someone's preferences.
@@MixManiac120 i guess. I just don't really see the problem but thats just me.
@@jonathanmorris2283 The point is nobody gives a fuck about your preference when you're making a backhanded compliment dumbass. When you mention race...automatically it becomes racist. It would be better to keep your mouth shut, and not say stupid shit like that. If you dont get it- give up stupid ass. Black women and women of ALL race' come in different shapes...sizes.....and colors. Youre a liar if you say youre not attracted to ANY black women. That's fucking dumb. To single out one woman as if she represents ALL black women is racist. That's the definition of racism. Categorizing an entire race based on one entity. You are what's wrong with the world.
Once you start getting ghosted and learn how to cut ppl off when they annoy you w no emotion it kinda turns you toxic lol
That good or bad?
Lol facts !
@@moonknight4053 in what context is "toxic" a good characteristic?
If I had a nickel every time someone said “there’s someone out there for everyone “ Glad y’all said that! 👏🏾
..I'm sure there is someone out there for everyone, most people just wouldn't settle for that person even if they did happen to meet them...an average American in a large city, active social life, a couple of kids that go to school and plays sports, etc. will meet approximately 470 people in their lifetime (outside of family). The chance of actually meeting your "soulmate" is very slim...
Lol. Right? The universe promises someone for everyone, but it never specifes the quality of that person.
But it's never what they want that's why they are alone.
That is the biggest load of shit anyone can say. When someone says that you have my permission to laugh.
@@D_Snutz That actually makes sense
There is someone for everyone. But your someone could be in Russia lol
My someone was in Syria and then in Russia before he came here and met me, so yeah 😂
or not born yet...
@@fadlicuy2922 👀💀😂
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@Manga Is you can have 20 years old wife or gf when you're 40, and being a christian or atheist or devil worshiper, and it's okay. what's with these being muslim thing??
Met my wife on plenty of fish. She lived in the next town over, wasnt far but id never had gone there otherwise never would have met her without it. Weve been married nearly 5 years and our daughter is nearly 4 and we have a son on the way and are very happy together
how old were you when you found her?
You guys are forgetting someone: the ones who are born.... "genetically unfortunate." They're going to die alone too, but through no fault of their own.
not only that, but those unfortunate souls will be socially awkward. People generally have a natural disdain for them. For example, an ugly can say hi to a random pretty girl, and she can be like "eww, creep!" A simple "hi". Maaaaaaaaaaannn..... not even a "hi," how about just a smile??
Described me perfectly. Genetically unfortunate! 😂
@@UnknownNev how tall are you
@@AghomiXfit 5’11” but butt ass ugly
@@UnknownNev what’s your insta
I think there is someone out there for everyone, but that doesn't mean you'll ever meet
Damn..true
Wow😂😂
Oh damn...😲
There's honestly too many people for there not to at least have 5 people for you.
Agreed
"sometimes your type is the reason why you're alone" Preach looking at me dead in the eye when I'm trying to hide
you are not alone, sister
Pretty sure most people who have trouble finding a date/partner has this issue (myself included) :/
@@cervixcrusader85 i wholeheartedly agree, it was just a nod to a fellow romanian amongst these comments.
@@ionelstoica7082 I kindly nod back
Just get a Kpop husbando
Learning how to approach women in real life is a huge learning experience for men that builds confidence and courage. Bypassing it via dating apps might get you a girlfriend but you miss out on the personal growth that comes with doing it the hard way.
will you look at that, eh? Jubilee making actually good content. The Apocalypse must be right around the corner.
Around the corner? It's here already!
Well, July is right around the corner. I agree. We need another mini-Apocalypse to add to the never ending year of crazy. This video could very well be the herald of what is yet to come.
@ungratefulmetalpansy they basically bring people of all worldviews on to have interesting conversations. The cringe videos are generally dating related, the rest tend to be pretty good
this aged well
Thanks aba for continuously letting me know I’m ugly
Np.
Not alone bro 😔
🤣 but I'm glad they did. I'm kinda bored with the 'you go girl! You so pretty omg!' But then I'm the unwanted one 🤣 kinda refreshing someone is being real.
Kingly Omar keep your head up king 👑
Lmao. There's only rich people and ugly people. xD
Both of y'all assessment was dead on. Having too many options can be overwhelming for people with anxiety like myself. Social media does make it easier for women to approach men, because it does not happen to me in person👽
As someone with severe social anxiety I find it easier to be myself online than in real life...
Your little baby is beautiful!!! She seems to be very sweet too.
Is it weird that I’ve never actually had a type? I mean yeah I’m attracted to funny and nice people but physically my type changes a lot. There’s so many different attractive physical characteristics people can have and only being attracted to one type of person just limits you on possibly finding the love of your life 🤷🏻♀️
Camille Collins exactly, every day I have a new type of guy. For black guys I have a type, for white guys i have a type, or mixed guys, for Asians, Indians, and a bunch of other races, and it changes almost all the time cause people are beautiful lol.
No, but I want to maintain that I have a type so I can reject people that are objectively unattractive without hurting their feelings.
That's the spirit
I think type exists because some women can't help who they are attracted to
Agreed keep an open mind! I’ll sleep w literally anybody !
"if you're ugly, don't bother."
But they think we're all ugly.
The game was rigged from the start
@@Ori.7g why not?
@ria rel 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣☠️
You not looking if that is the case
@@Ori.7g It's true. Two studies have shown that women consider a man who's an 8 to be "average" while men rated 5 women average.
The best is when a girl messages you first but is trash at carrying on a conversation. They’re just on there out of boredom
Facts dude
Not everyone is good at texting. Facial expression and hand gesture can not be seen as well as sarcasm, wry humor etc.
Aw I hate this. Like why did you text me?
Bumble: where women make the first move
Random Women's first move: "Hey."
Dang. At least say something weird that grabs my attention in a good way 🤣
Theres kinda 2 sides to this coin... some ppl are just better at conversation in person, I'm one of them. Another reply mentioned saying something interesting/quirky as a first line and I've tried this to dismal results. I usually get no reply or the guy is dismal at conversation after. It's a 2 way road. If a girl/guy comes in with a lame "hey" a conversation can still be built after, but if the guy/girl is terrible at convo as well then 🤷♀️
Also u both may just not have anything in common. After a few probing questions the conversation falls flat cuz u guys just move in different worlds really.
I was in Chile, my husband a syrian man living in NY. We have been together 7 years, 4 married :)
Online does connect your best friend/partner that probably is hidden somewhere in the world.
"Online dating", as a whole, isn't just for hookups.
Tinder, however, is primarily for hookups.
Anyone>I'm JuST LoOKiNg FoR FRieNdS
Oh naw, tinder turned into 3 -4 kids, I’m not looking for games and hook ups
MarcusBlue i think the reason why people say tinder is for hookups cause a decent majority is 18-24 year olds which is just horny college kids but definitely can find some keepers.
Tinder is for people who wanna hit it and quit it
Reverse Ben Shapiro is cool. Sometimes you gotta speak slowly for people so they don’t jump to conclusions.
Derrell Davis ...
Ah yes, reverse Ben Shapiro
@@HiddenOcelot I call him Shapiro Ben
He might just have social anxiety. I have social anxiety and whenever I got called on in class I would speak and act like that. He might be nervous about what people would think of him and want the conversation to be over.
@@stinkerpops or he just speaks slow
I read somewhere once that the reason the grocery store Trader Joes (USA) is so successful was from the idea of the paradox of choice. The company uses primarily their own brand with limited options of each item and that's what makes them so successful. The buyer is less overwhelmed with the amount of choice provided. It's one of the most crowded groceries in my area so I believe it lol
i recently started a profile on a dating app. ITS EXHAUSTING!
Yo they violated the first dude putting his head on Goku’s body 😭😭😭
Lmaooo I take it all in stride. My hair is my signature
Mr.NoDaysOff lol true nuff respect
@@sanyatesGRIA I appreciate it bro
😂😂😂😭😭
“That’s not micro, that’s mega” my thoughts exactly.
The correct word is macro
@@ion7016 it's more of a continuum
micro < macro < mega
it all comes from greek
o(micro)n o(mega)
Yeah that is weird af
@@missNCW english is a broken language dont question it.
@Hana Ayo Alemayehu No they haven't lol.
She is telling the truth! I was raised by a single parent and we have those talks about what happened that led her to being a single parent. At first her and my father were married and divorced shortly after. I ask both of them because it took two to start and it took two to finish. My mom had it rough, as all single parents do. She fussed at me, she took out some anger on me but she never trash talked my dad. As a teen and young adult I asked my mom often "why?" and told her I will never be a single parent. I dont want kids. Its hard, I'm grown and still call my mom and ask how to do certain things! So I can only imagine having a kid for LIFE! You're a parent for life! It takes a very strong person to be a single parent. There were times she cried, she didn't know I heard her. I saw how she had to sacrifice what she wanted to do for the better of her children. She did a great job in showing me how strong one person can be but she also never denied that it can be easier with two parents. So for me and my uterus we won't be having any babies anytime soon.
I see online dating as people collecting cards. I think the aspect of is the next one going to be better plays a big part as well... You have to treat it as you would if you got a number in real life, time is of the essence. I have a business like method with dating apps as far as time goes. Two weeks in conversation is still dragging? Unmatch. I'm not going to wait 6 months for you to ask me out.
"I see you came with your little research or whatever "🤣🤣🤣
Right that one killed me
Did they do an episode of those 2 people?
Talking slow is one thing. But this dude had to stop and think about his own age 🤣😂🤣😂
Can't say it hasn't happened to me.
I do that every time someone asks my age... I don’t really keep track and have to do the math.
I do it sometimes as well. I tend to keep to myself on most days. Getting a sudden call out from someone I know still throws me off guard.
@@Zango25 relatable 💯
Well it be like that sometimes 😅
"some times your type is the reason your alone" 15:50, damn that was straight up a truth nuke!
That choice thing was actually done in a study where they had two groups of people choose ice cream from only vanilla chocolate and strawberry and the other group choose from a line up and the first group ended up being more content with their choice and the group that had a lot of options had a higher chance of feeling dissatisfied with their choice
Cant find someone IRL Created a ok cupid account, 8 months later never been matched. Feels awesome
Get tinder!
No worries man that just means you aren't 6'4" with a 6 figure job and a full head of hair...welcome to the 90%
Hope u find someone that fits you’re personalalitt bruh!! It’s hard, but I’m sure you’ll find someone. If it makes u feel good I’m an ugly cunt and I’ve gotta girl; peace brotha!!
@Rybo Stain front & back?It's so Funny When I was younger I was like ewww hairy chest, till I met my husband and he usually buzzed it - until he didn't and I was like ohhhh mama likes...I was in my 30s then....How do woman respond to the back hair??
Hit the gym. Focus on yourself. Don't look for gratification from others. Worst thing that happens is you enjoy your life. Don't expect someone else to fix you.
I would like to see a dating app where, if the person's standards are too high, the app replies "Get over yourself. You ain't all that."
@Average Mo Only for people with that much ego.
Average Mo that would be interesting going to university for computer science and business wish me luck lmao
Average Mo thanks man much appreciated!!
Wait, doesn't Tinder actually rank you and after a while match you accordingly how hot other people think you are? Or when you get swiped right a lot, you're shown more and vice versa? And then you "can" pay to be more visible.
@@deluulujee I don't use Tinder because I'm not a ho, so I don't know. : )
As a pretty attractive female, I have to say to the statement "online dating makes it harder to commit to one person" that it depends on the person. I have had 2 relationships, one previous and one I m currently in both long distance and both I've met through the internet. Even though I have many options and there were many dudes hitting on me, I could choose and stay faithful. I just feel like online dating enables the behavior of people who already have trouble committing in the first place because it makes it easier.
Perfectly put.
Anyone notice how Aba was acting weird when Preach was talking about how some people are going to end up alone 😅
i feel Preach was directing it towards Aba 😂😂
Oh my goodness yeah I felt the mood, I felt for him in that moment and thought Preach could've been more sensitive but he knows his friend so all good
Also, I broke my ankle a few weeks ago and CZcams was keeping my mind busy, it got boring until I found your channel and I managed to watch all your videos, even “dear mother” from seven years ago, you guys are awesome!! 👏🏼
@Jesse Gutierrez You're an idiot. They're liking a positive review from a viewer and thats it. Stop reaching and projecting your own simp insecurities!
I found out about them because CZcams recommendations and i really appreciate their vídeos💯
Lol u the small town girl ?
Dang no wonder u haven't found a relationship yet
When I hear someone describe a woman as "wholesome" it sounds like a polite way of saying they don't think you are particularly attractive.
I thought it means she doesn’t seem like she’ll put out
I think they say that about women who won’t put out right away.
ungratefulmetalpansy fax lol.
asdfghj13579fly Taylor yes.. it doesn't seem like they put out.. because they're unattractive.. ig 🤔
@@asdfghj13579fly I think you're right. That seems like the thing tbh.
This was really good commentary and a great discussion. Y’all a great duo 💯
The paradox of choice is actually really hard to overcome for people like me. I wasn't ever pointed in a specific direction as a kid & because of my versatile personality & skillset, it was hard for me to choose a career path and college to attend after high school
"This guy is the most assertive, low energy person" 😅
Same
It's like in Modern Family.
Jay: "Do you really want women who only love you for your money?"
Manny: "🤔.. I'd like to have that option 🤷♂️."
🤣🤣🤣🤣
😅
Manny was 15 going on 45
They wouldn’t have been like that in real life because most ppl don’t have confidence to approach very attractive people.
Yeah it’s very tough world online. Even when we go out, very few are looking to connect with new people, so it’s kind of hard too.
The difference about picking someone based on looks on dating apps is people get to choose the version of themselves they would like to show (specific poses, lighting that make them look the most attractive). Vs in person there’s no filter, the you people see is the real life you do there’s probably also lower standards for beauty. Online all you see is the best versions of people so the standard for attractive is higher
Very very good point!
i know a female is overweight when she just takes shoulder width selfies
- True 🤷♂️👍!
@DJHart facts.... _if_ they even have a personality at all
Online dating seems more fake to me which is one reason I never bothered with it. You are seeing a scripted and edited version of everything about them, from their pictures to their carefully worded profiles. It seems like it could be a narcissist’s playground to gain victims for supply.
Preach looked at me in my eyes, and told me I will be alone forever...big sad.
Ok
appreciate his honesty at least.
*HE'S MAD, HE'S MAD..! BIG SAD!1*
That's tough buddy
but was he right?
Agreed 100 percent. All the variety is so overwhelming for me. Not even in a dating concept just in general! I had all the options we are given these days
7:30. Sounds like you found one of those anime “pet and master” rooms...
The guy in the yellow sweater almost always resonates with me, he is 10x smarter then he realizes. He formulates his sentences so god damn compact. I love it. Excuse me for my terrible English.
It’s always the people who say they have terrible English that have great English LOL
@@deripfina i've noticed this as well.
@@deripfina I think people whose English is not their first language try harder.
@@deripfina very humble
@@sedftnio true. When I first started learning English I was hyper-aware of mistakes, then once I became pretty much bilingual I stopped caring lol
"Brittney, Holistic healer and yoga instructor"
...unemployed, you're unemployed Brittney
Thank you for the genuine laugh!
🤣
Lmao for real tho
my exact thoughts 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂
I had to get off of it. It took up too much space in my mind and was preventing me from having peace. I was always thinking of what other people thought of me and if i was dateable. Been off of them for about a year now and things are great. I mean, im just as alone as I was on dating apps but it makes it a lot easier to not be on it. Dont let it swallow you.
4:20 I've been on dating apps on and off since 2013. I've been in a handful of relationships 'tween then and now. 1 started in a beach bar, two in after aproaching in coffee shops and the other after getting to know each other at a variety of local community events(neighbourhood watch, etc). None of them started from online matches.
I have been turned down, in public, more times than I have been accepted. I have been approached once or twice. Lately, when I approach someone, no matter what I do my best to make sure it is a good experience for them. If they aren't having a good day or whatever, I back away and I don't take their shit on.
He called me a Dragon Ball Z character I'm weak Lmaoo I appreciate this reaction though. Hit the Like if you think I look like Goku. Follow me on IG @Mr.NoDaysOffpercy
ahahahaha its is Yoouuuuu. everyone love DBZ. the best anime ever
Holy shit lmao
Best cosplay I've seen this year 10/10
@@aydeepeperoni6018 you know how I do 😭
@@ayileenenga9670 lmaoo dont tell anyone
I see the top pinned comment is from a girl saying that sex is all men are looking for on those apps. The thing is, and this also applies to real life, men DON'T want just sex, unless sex is all that you have to offer.
Rip Patrice
all men want is some intimated cuddling
Some boys just want sex thou and some girls just want sex as well and dating app is easy to find sex there
@@Spider-Too-Too 😂
True, if you have nothing to offer but sex then men will only come to you when they want sex but not when they want to do other stuff but most single women won't understand that because they themselves never tried anything what a man wants with a man beyond sex.
I'd love to spend time with women that have the same interests.
I remember for the tiny amount of time i was using online dating, there was a really handsome Polish guy looking for a polish girl because he wanted to pass on traditions and have someone who spoke the language. Unfortunately, i am Dutch, but i think it was an interesting example that people can have very specific preferences, and it's good that they know what they want.
The bit about having too many freedoms making choices hard reminded me of a great quote. "Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom".
3 in the morning, good stuff guys 😂😂
Sameeeeeee
yesss lol
Fr man
eastern time zone gang
It'll probably end up deleted and reuploaded. That seems to happen a lot when they post early.
"When I was, like, seventeen, I would write letters to my future husband..." *Goku-lookin guy looks at her like she's crazy.* That face says it all.
Yeah, women like that are truly frightening to me. STAY AWAY.
I don't see how that's weird tbh. Maybe I've just been overexposed to seeing weird stuff on the net but I genuinely cannot see how daydreaming about your future husband is weird.
@@shrapnel77 although she was a kid, not a woman
Ok I get it now, she's Christian. I've seen a lot of religious women do this and religious men tend to appreciate it.
I think it’s more of facial features than skin color. We did a little experiment with different people on Twitter just among friends and stuff. People with stereotypical black features got less matches than other black women with different facial features but they were both the same color. It was this Somali girl and a African American girl. Same skin color just different facial features. Then we did one for the males and our Asian male got less matches compared to his white or black counterparts
Gents, 2nd video of yours I've watched and I'm hooked. Lot of wisdom on show.
I met my wife online; was dating for 4 years and have been married for 1.
Online gave me more confidence and allowed us too learn about each other’s personalities before meeting up in person
That is interesting. Glad you have a successful connection.
Light skin and dark skin women live totally different life experiences and its sad.
Strange, when the people i know show me their DMs its mostly to tons of Black women
Its sad that nobody fucking asked
@@Ramboo339 black women come in different shades
@@64-b64 I did :)
It’s men that suffer not women.
God the solipsism of women
I’m so glad Preach called out Aba on that “c’mon ride that train o’reilly” 😅😂 I thought that’s what he said like “oh oh oh oh reillllllllllly.... auto parts 🎵
BUT then Aba ass talmbout 🗣
O’RALLY! (Like a pep rally)🤦🏾♀️
What
Same! I was thinking, um, am I the only one who heard O'Reilly. I started singing the commercial tune too. LOL
That Macy Gray bit had me rolling from the first line lol
I think dating apps are all about looks, validation and attention. It’s almost impossible to find someone who can like you for who you really are.
That’s why even when a lot of guys end up getting matches, it’s almost impossible to hold a conversation with the other person because they actually don’t really like you, they just want the attention and to validate that they can get whatever guys they want... it’s all about ego basically.
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Dating is initially about looks and validation. Online dating make it more accessible for the dopamine high.
With all of the dating apps that exist. I’ve heard more dick appointment stories than date appointments. At the end of the day they’re all designed for hooking up. We are all social creatures and are designed to procreate and recreate not finding true love.
Not true we‘re made to make deep emotional connections. We have some of the most emotional komplex systems there is.
Yes we‘re not made for monogamy. But not for hookups only
Not to mention women can't hold a conversation at all, its so much work just to get down to the meat and gravy of... we just fucking or what
I used to be a hopeful/hopeless romantic, then I found my inner peace.
That’s why I’m single...and very happy about it.
Jj J because I enjoy this channel. They are insightful and funny. And at a certain level I like to see the train wreck that is modern America. Plus I had 20 minutes to kill.
There is nothing wrong with being single. At least you don’t have to deal with foolishness.
@Elkjaer Delemos if you have to tell everyone you're a player, you're probably not a player.
Latonya Hewitt other than your own. ;)
Peace
@Jj J maybe hes subbed to the channel and watches the videos.
I enjoy your grounded style and your humor in every video, appreciating your calm and patience for ideas you don't agree with. I hope more young people watch you because you're good influence.
How many times can i subscribe? I really appreciate both of y’all’s take on life. Thanks @ Aba&Preach. 😊
I never understood the idea of "discrimination" in dating. People have preferences and they find you attractive or not. Sure, sometimes you may become attracted to someone by getting to know them even if you weren't interested initially, but that doesn't mean that everyone is entitled to a chance at seduction.
edit: I mean discrimination in a negative way. Discriminating in and of itself isn't generally a bad thing, but it is often inferred colloquially as negative, hence the quotation marks.
People like to be victims in 2020... poor them
If you think all members of a certain race are disgusting and all members of another race are all more attractive, and you chose to ONLY date one race then it is discrimination, based on race. Same goes for religion or ethnicity.
@@ghostofmisao. you poor incel
I stop when you said you don't understand the discrimination (and used quotes which is stupid) in dating.
It exists, it happens.
@@tmselection9321 I am not an incel? How is anything that I said related to being an incel?
"I want a six foot tall guy with a six figure salary and minimum six inch pen1s but I'm only a 5/10 myself" - literally every woman on tinder
Girls be having 2 or 3 kids and have the highest standards but the prettier girl I match with got lower standards and be chill af
Hard nope on all these ladies from me
And I’m 6 foot and make a good living. I don’t want to date someone who only want my money and height 😂
not true, but I have had to accept only being in open relationships with good looking women. To expect a hot woman these days to be faithful to you, unless you're basically having the relationship be a business transaction, is becoming a fairy tale if you're meeting them through a dating app.
@@michaelangst6078 it mostly is true.
I caught on to the song quoting immediately and Preach’s confusion gets me😂
Lol i loved that "i try" bit. Love your content guys, pls never stop !
Ironic that she brings up the OkCupid study on race, but then conveniently forgets to mention that OkCupid also put out a study on preferences and found that women rated 80% of men as less than average.
that's pretty much the checkmate in regards to online dating for men. Women with an inflated self-worth. Unless you are a top 10% guy, good luck..
90/10 and 80/20 rule
Don't forget that men rated women on a nearly perfect bell curve. They even felt the need to explain that they had not normalized the male ratings.
They like to bring one statistic that fits their narrative. They do not talk about the entire story. Women saying they struggle online dating I'm not even going to take serious.
She didn't mention that because she was talking about race. Why would she talk about women rating most men as below average when she's talking about racism?
I've just recently deleted online dating as I've found it so frustrating to be constantly talking to timewasters, a lot of women are on there for you to stroke their ego's, anyone thinking of online dating, give it a try, but never pay for it, maybe you'll have more luck than I did, but beware, there are alot of women who will want to use you
Timewaster are in huge numbers
Exactly man they just want to make themselves feel good they don't expect to meet their soul mates on there.
And a lot of guys are on there cuz they want you to stroke their heads. 😂
@@DJUniMekaju 😂😂😂
This channel make me look at things from both perspectives instead of being on one idea/view
I am one of those guys that's gonna stay lonely forever and I have already made peace with that fact.
She’s a holistic healer. Break out the crystals and chanting guys
Time to wash the stones
@@chicoandthem4n holistic healers are similar to homeopaths. Both are based on bunk science
@@doms.6701 herbal medicine is not bunk science... believing crystals/rocks have mystical powers is definitely bunk science.
That's the same thing as a Jedi
@@chicoandthem4n We aren't taught to be delusional so am happy that I didn't turn out to be someone like you. You and Karen would make a great team.
To the other guys:
The perfect woman for you DOES exist but, I married her first.
Black Lanner I hope you get some after you show her this lol
Lmao that means she cheating on you
Awwww you gone get some.😂😂
Oooh someone wants to have a good day!
lol
I think you can Be a platform to get closer to what your looking for in a partner. The cohesiveness of a relationship is what makes it last and have substance. If your into anime for instance or gaming finding a chick who’s into that might make the relationship have more substance beyond the sex .
Tdlr: it isn’t just attractiveness that determines preferences. I won’t say I’m beautiful, but I know I’m not ugly. Regardless of not being ugly, I still experience discrimination due to my skin colour. Stats back that up.
For those who don’t agree that black women and Asian men are on the bottom of the totem pole are being purposefully obtuse. Not only are there hundreds of studies, but it’s in our media. How many attractive Asian male celebrities do you know. How many attractive black female celebrities (who aren’t light skin) do you know. Only recently, has the media been forced to acknowledge these groups; and even then, they still try to lighten dark complexions and photoshop features. We should be more willing to be more critical of our experiences and be more open to the experiences of others. Just because some black women got a couple dozen messages online, doesn’t mean discrimination against those two groups isn’t prevalent.
People still say: you’re pretty for a dark skin, I only date light skin women, dark skin women are aggressive, I’d never date a black woman (sorry Asian dudes, I can only speak to my experience as a black woman; feel free to share below). Most dark skin black women I know struggled with feeling beautiful because no one was saying it to us and we didn’t see ourselves being represented. I recently watched a CZcams video and was astonished at the comment section. Hundreds of black women sharing their childhood experiences and the trauma of being a black woman; experiences exactly like mine. Before, I couldnt put the trauma I felt as a young black girl in words until I read those comments. I still cringe and have flashbacks, that fill me with a lot of sadness and disgust, thinking about what was said to me and the resentment I felt toward my white female friends. I still have to be purposefully aware of internal racism. I still have to tell myself you’re beautiful even if no one else agrees. Now, more often, I don’t give a shit what anyone thinks, but I still have moments when those memories arise. This info is out there, you just gotta look.
I am so sorry this happened to you
There is definitely a generational difference in thinking here and I'm sorry younger women are so sensitive about their skin color. In my case the discussion is interesting, but not really relevant because I don't want to date white men, online date from a Black site and actually ignore white guys because the reason I'm there is it's supposed to be a Black site. Perhaps I'd date a non-Black guy if we met in person and hit it off, but theoretically it's not really something I feel is a good choice for me and I don't particularly care if they find me attractive or not because I'm not all that attracted to them either. And, though throughout my life I've experienced a comments about skin color or knew that some lighter (in my family and when I was in school) may have gotten more perks in life, I never felt myself unattractive because of it. I think we were built a bit stronger internally than the younger generation and that may be that without an online environment we weren't confronted with all of these kinda dolled-up images and so much blatant racism. But, since race is really a social construct, we are actually talking about skin color and even were "race" not a thing, some are going to differ in what's attractive to them. Additionally, even when actual "race" as a discriminatory tool is a factor, knowing the history of Blacks in this country is helpful. For those of us who are the descendants of the enslaved, the question is how did any of us become lighter in skin tone? Three generations into my family tree the birth certificates are marked "mulatto" and that notes that someone on the plantation was with a *saying it nicely* a darker skinned women and its not logical that its because they were not attracted to them. I said all that to say let truth guide you and don't get caught up in smoke and mirrors.