What Getting Married in Japan is Really like

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  • čas přidán 29. 08. 2024
  • We got married in Japan and I wanted to share what a Japanese marriage is like. We are an international couple in Japan. Maiko is a Japanese women and I am an American man living in Tokyo. Getting married in Japan is fairly straightforward as you'll see. You have to fill out a wedding registration form and submit the form to the Japanese city hall. We also discuss a Japanese Wedding Ceremony and the related costs for us and our guests. This is my experience marrying a Japanese women and having an international marriage in Japan.
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  • @AngelaTrice
    @AngelaTrice Před 5 lety +4429

    I beat cancer on 1/11/11, which was 11 days before my birthday.

    • @Cat-mu9gp
      @Cat-mu9gp Před 4 lety +200

      That is a gift of life.

    • @primaroxas
      @primaroxas Před 4 lety +33

      Too much one really didn't hurt i see

    • @AzzaYCF
      @AzzaYCF Před 4 lety +78

      Congratulations on beating it! 😊

    • @indigill6610
      @indigill6610 Před 4 lety +28

      Congrats bro

    • @ks070709
      @ks070709 Před 4 lety +23

      Congratulations Angela

  • @killersushi99
    @killersushi99 Před 4 lety +2216

    *I"m from USA. My Wife is from Hiroshima. We have been married for 24 years. I wish you the best!!*

    • @nursyazwaneehadi9200
      @nursyazwaneehadi9200 Před 4 lety +49

      Wow blessed marriage u guys.

    • @salluayar4615
      @salluayar4615 Před 4 lety +40

      Give the tips for dating a japanese girl ?

    • @shamboozler566
      @shamboozler566 Před 4 lety +11

      @@salluayar4615 my thoughts exactly

    • @AdoptedPoo
      @AdoptedPoo Před 4 lety +31

      @@shamboozler566 don't be any other race than japanese or white, done!

    • @kaikawanao
      @kaikawanao Před 4 lety +74

      @@AdoptedPoo Paolo isn't white nor japanese...

  • @discodamo666
    @discodamo666 Před 4 lety +4291

    That is the most unemotional wedding I have ever seen. Love Japan. When can I get married there

    • @Zowie_ralte
      @Zowie_ralte Před 4 lety +50

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @andyw.3048
      @andyw.3048 Před 4 lety +211

      It's because in Japan you don't kiss/hold hands in public

    • @maguettefalliloukhouma4732
      @maguettefalliloukhouma4732 Před 4 lety +49

      @@andyw.3048 so sad

    • @andyw.3048
      @andyw.3048 Před 4 lety +98

      @@maguettefalliloukhouma4732 I think it's ok.

    • @Iamdjj
      @Iamdjj Před 4 lety +187

      @@andyw.3048 I feel like that is good cause not everyone wants to see that and some people don't like public affection

  • @nazsunny5470
    @nazsunny5470 Před 3 lety +607

    polo sitting there waiting to get married.
    Small talk: sooo divorce rate is pretty high

    • @CK-mi3sd
      @CK-mi3sd Před 3 lety +8

      Planning for the future.

    • @ShaferHart
      @ShaferHart Před 3 lety +1

      the chances of Japan's family laws being as insane as the ones in the US has to be very small so it really doesn't matter.

  • @LokiSinweave
    @LokiSinweave Před 4 lety +3514

    *Looks at my birthdate*
    "October 9"
    Maiko: 9 is suffering
    Me: It all makes sense

  • @Suomas
    @Suomas Před 4 lety +1742

    When I visited Japan we were touring around in a shrine and there was a wedding going on, we watched a bit from the side and they actually asked me and my friends to be in few of their wedding pictures.
    It cracks me up every time to think that some couple has wedding pictures where they are in full traditional Japanese wedding clothes with few white guys sweating bullets in shorts and t-shirts next to them lol

    • @Malum09
      @Malum09 Před 4 lety +429

      Suomas
      “Hey, can you be in some of my wedding pictures?”
      “Of course!”
      Years later...
      “Dad, who are those guys in shorts?”
      “Don’t know son, but they were there when I needed them”

    • @beckylg8176
      @beckylg8176 Před 4 lety +55

      Now that's an epic memory!

    • @marksun4292
      @marksun4292 Před 4 lety +13

      @@Malum09 lmao hahahaha

    • @hsun7997
      @hsun7997 Před 4 lety +22

      Because Japanese love white people.

    • @NizarOnTop
      @NizarOnTop Před 4 lety +1

      f

  • @moazahmad2111
    @moazahmad2111 Před 5 lety +3726

    *Goes to get married*
    4:08 : Starts discussing divorce rate

  • @LeeAlder
    @LeeAlder Před 3 lety +394

    I wish you two the best!! My wife and I have been married 41 years now.

    • @vuizh7590
      @vuizh7590 Před 2 lety +5

      Oh. Uhm'wow

    • @lunacontreras5177
      @lunacontreras5177 Před 2 lety +6

      Oh my goodness! That’s wonderful! Here’s to many more to you and your wife :)

    • @hamzadlm6625
      @hamzadlm6625 Před 2 lety

      Wish you the best

    • @jasonlay9492
      @jasonlay9492 Před 2 lety +1

      My hats off to you sir I'm 41.

    • @repost503
      @repost503 Před rokem

      Guess what ....
      That could be a young boy writing that comment down

  • @toraman1010
    @toraman1010 Před 5 lety +14628

    Next episode: What making baby in Japan is really like
    Congrats to both of you

    • @sskhussaini
      @sskhussaini Před 5 lety +542

      A very wholesome/family-friendly comment from a very wholesome guy with a wholesome profile picture!

    • @Falt_
      @Falt_ Před 5 lety +86

      Lmao

    • @fauxmanchu8094
      @fauxmanchu8094 Před 5 lety +30

      toraman1010 😂😂😂

    • @tomisetya
      @tomisetya Před 5 lety +27

      Bwahahahaha

    • @ravenks1sr15
      @ravenks1sr15 Před 5 lety +29

      lmfao I'm ded

  • @kevinknutson7205
    @kevinknutson7205 Před 4 lety +119

    Congrats brother! I remember getting married in Okinawa. I didn't realize that as soon as our paperwork was accepted we were married officially. I remember they handed us back the signed docs and said congrats. I was so caught off guard at how fast it was that when they took my wife's phone to take a picture for us she still had the cat ears filter on her phone camera lol.

  • @georgewang8003
    @georgewang8003 Před 5 lety +2115

    This whole time I thought Maiko was just some bored friend in the background, always tapping on her phone with a straight face in the background.

    • @justaman553
      @justaman553 Před 5 lety +15

      You not slick enough bro 😏😏

    • @AstroMartine
      @AstroMartine Před 5 lety +169

      lolololol. Yeah I was thinking similarly after I saw the new years family episode. I kept thinking oh, who is this chick who would invite a foreigner into her family new year's tradition.

    • @justaman553
      @justaman553 Před 5 lety +101

      @@ghklfghjfghjcvbnc comon why the negativity

    • @AstroMartine
      @AstroMartine Před 5 lety +21

      @@ghklfghjfghjcvbnc my guess is the family does not approve of him...judging by the sour face the father had at the family gathering lol. But that does not mean it won't last.

    • @jb3960
      @jb3960 Před 5 lety +150

      @@AstroMartine Have you guys never been to Asia? Lol, seriously. People just don`t usually act all lovey-dovey over here. And the divorce rates compared to the USA or Europe show that this does not mean less stable marriages.

  • @miracle9445
    @miracle9445 Před 3 lety +256

    I love how neither of them knows who pays for the wedding,

    • @chrisreed26
      @chrisreed26 Před 3 lety +5

      She has no clue. She gets her info from Sex and the City. She keeps going back to well my friend say the man pays for the wedding she’s a gold digger.

    • @chasewilliams9290
      @chasewilliams9290 Před 3 lety +21

      @@chrisreed26 Bro what

    • @williamacheampong1720
      @williamacheampong1720 Před 3 lety +3

      @@chrisreed26 ??????

    • @elements1168
      @elements1168 Před 3 lety +1

      @@chrisreed26 is that a reference of something?

    • @eggdog7888
      @eggdog7888 Před 3 lety +1

      @@chrisreed26 🤨

  • @donel2198
    @donel2198 Před 4 lety +1528

    I deadass thought her name was Michael and I was wondering what kind of parent names their daughter Michael

  • @eeza
    @eeza Před 4 lety +97

    i love how you showed this part of the marriage/wedding. what others usually show is the glamour and the whole ceremony but you guys showed the practical part of it: registration and your planning for the ceremony and i like that :) thanks for sharing this and (quite late but) congrats! and now you guys will soon have a baby!

  • @frinelast3206
    @frinelast3206 Před 5 lety +829

    Your wife can speak English with US slang really damn good. A rare sight to see Japanese speak English. Congratulations btw guys ✌🏼

    • @supernova7966
      @supernova7966 Před 4 lety +65

      She is basically American

    • @darksnow07
      @darksnow07 Před 4 lety +28

      LMAO we're not all ESL people...surprise! We know the slangs, grammar, etc. of arguably the easiest language to learn.

    • @holdenroth5929
      @holdenroth5929 Před 4 lety +14

      She lived in California for a while.

    • @cjinl2428
      @cjinl2428 Před 4 lety +25

      She's clearly spent a chunk of her life in the US. Cmon man.

    • @IlGattoGialloCucina
      @IlGattoGialloCucina Před 4 lety +7

      @@supernova7966 explains why she's so boring

  • @oscarsimonvelasco4263
    @oscarsimonvelasco4263 Před 3 lety +64

    For people wondering why they got married like they were in a DMV. It seems that they had a civil marriage, my parents were initially married like that then they just had a "religious"(those extrvagant type of weddings) wedding sometime after thay had me. Civil marriage is pretty common for young couples who can't afford to host a wedding but they really just want to tie the knot.

    • @lyndaster46
      @lyndaster46 Před 10 měsíci +1

      All marriages have that component in America. it is just done after the actual wedding usually. Marriages MUST be registered to be legal. A license is usually applied for BEFORE the wedding and you usually have like five days to DMV the license (edit) except common law marriages.

    • @ketchup901
      @ketchup901 Před 7 měsíci +1

      In Sweden even if you have a civil marriage there still needs to be a marriage officiant who pronounces you married, and from that moment you are married. Of course there is also paperwork that needs to be done before and after but there is always a ceremony. If you have a religious marriage, you still need to do the exact same paperwork.

  • @sagarfartode3620
    @sagarfartode3620 Před 4 lety +2506

    On the day of marriage he is talking about divorce 😂😂

    • @lucystephanieproperties
      @lucystephanieproperties Před 4 lety +19

      I know right? Surprising. Hahaha.

    • @christiantorreon6146
      @christiantorreon6146 Před 4 lety +60

      they're fucking nuts HAHAHAHAHHA

    • @millertas
      @millertas Před 4 lety +82

      @@christiantorreon6146 The more you talk the less likely you are to get divorced. A good marriage has plenty of intercourse (both sexual and social).

    • @sanafizasana4351
      @sanafizasana4351 Před 3 lety +18

      @@lucystephanieproperties when I was getting married I thought about suicide so they are better

    • @6TomCruz6
      @6TomCruz6 Před 3 lety +8

      Yup that divorce rate for America is pretty true tho that's why we have a saying "half of all marriages in divorce"

  • @idontlikemytag
    @idontlikemytag Před 5 lety +773

    Waiting to marry in Japan is like waiting at the DMV

    • @rob-oy9fr
      @rob-oy9fr Před 5 lety +30

      Its the same most places I believe. Weddings with vows and whatnot are ceremonial, they're celebrations.

    • @matthewraya4246
      @matthewraya4246 Před 5 lety

      Juan Chavez lol. Was thinking the same thing 😄.

    • @saiyansnake
      @saiyansnake Před 5 lety

      I want to thumbs up this comment but it has 69 likes ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

    • @arpit72
      @arpit72 Před 4 lety

      @@rob-oy9fr just see Indian wedding

    • @haikusfrombuddha
      @haikusfrombuddha Před 4 lety +7

      It's the same in the United States isn't it? You have to go to your city's town hall and fill out your paper work there. The ceremony at a church isn't anything legally binding I think.

  • @godnessy
    @godnessy Před 3 lety +113

    Most ppl are nervous on their wedding day, Paolo: "Tell me funny and interesting facts mr marriage person man!"

    • @Nathan-bi5nk
      @Nathan-bi5nk Před 3 lety

      Watching My women eating meat with honey covered with it have me week

  • @anthonyrose1494
    @anthonyrose1494 Před 2 lety +63

    damnn this is the easiest marriage i've ever seen! it's amazing and i'm so happy for you guys.

  • @coralie288
    @coralie288 Před 2 lety +47

    I just went to my first wedding in Japan as one of my foreign friends got married to a Japanese. Fortunately, she made a secret Amazon registry for the foreign guests as she herself thought it was too much to expect each guest to give them $300-$500 for their wedding.
    I personally don't want to spend too much money on my wedding. I'd rather spend more money on the honeymoon and on a future investment such as buying a house.

    • @PurpleBouncingBall
      @PurpleBouncingBall Před 2 lety +1

      @@SarcasticCynic not everyone has it like that unfotunately :/

  • @tedlasalvia9668
    @tedlasalvia9668 Před 5 lety +230

    First Paolo, Congratulations on your recent marriage! I'm glad to have found your channel. My daughter and I will be going to Japan in the next year or so (after the olympics!) and I've just watched a number of your videos. You answered a ton of questions I had and I look forward to learning more. It's rather quite funny as I'm much much older than you, but your our styles are somewhat similar. We especially love your take on the "big" wedding versus taking a trip or celebrating another life experience. I wish you and Maiko a wonderful marriage and keep those videos coming!!!

    • @animalkaiserina4950
      @animalkaiserina4950 Před 2 lety

      Well this didnt age well

    • @tedlasalvia9668
      @tedlasalvia9668 Před 2 lety

      @@animalkaiserina4950 tell me about it. I am now turning it into Graduation trip for me and my daughter. just more pent up travel plans, but one we are still looking forward to!

  • @bobbobby475
    @bobbobby475 Před 4 lety +223

    "Guess we're getting married on a nothing day." LOL

  • @ZeusTheThunderGod82
    @ZeusTheThunderGod82 Před 2 lety +11

    My wife and I did just about the same thing you guys did. We went to Idaho where we could get married that day and took her mom and mine and BAM married 2 years now, no wedding debt and happier than we ever thought we would be. Save your money and party in celebration after.

  • @nixxsity
    @nixxsity Před 4 lety +1101

    How do you know She cares for him:
    1. She put her phone away when talking and
    2. She's laughing without anything funny being said
    I hope you guys have an awesome life together and you both look cute together

  • @faisalaldweik1436
    @faisalaldweik1436 Před 5 lety +55

    In Jordan, people, either from family members or friends, give the grooms %50 up to %75 of what they've paid for wedding costs to help them start up their journey - sometime, the grooms will get more than what they've paid, or at least what they've paid.
    The act of giving in Jordan is called Nakoota "نقوطة" which is derived from Nok'ta "نقطة" which means a drop of water, in the sense that this will help nourish the seed between the newly wed lovers.
    Congrats, and I wish you guys all the best. 🌹

  • @Rosh_Travels
    @Rosh_Travels Před 4 lety +19

    I was shocked to hear that the guest were expected to pay roughly $300. I’ve only gone to one Japanese wedding. It was my Japanese bestie... she got married in Nagoya, Japan her hometown. I traveled there by bullet train.. which was pretty awesome. I was invited to the ceremony and the reception...her husband is Chilean and the ceremony was in traditional Japanese kimono garb held at a shrine. It was sooo awesome to see. For the reception they changed into a tux and wedding gown. I was very surprised to see gifts for the guests at the tables. As the night ended my friend and her husband was thanking everyone for attending and gave envelopes to the departing guests... my envelope had 10,000¥!!! I was floored! She said she knew I came a long way from Yokosuka and she wanted to help with my fare. I thought that was very sweet and different that the guests were given gifts. Thanx for sharing your marriage experience. I share your videos all the time, and miss Japan soooo much.

  • @tejaswinisingh6645
    @tejaswinisingh6645 Před 4 lety +544

    Oh lord !! I’m trying to imagine the Indian families reacting to this wedding ! 😂🙈

    • @tejaswinisingh6645
      @tejaswinisingh6645 Před 4 lety +58

      Correct your English first before you call others’ opinions as bullshitting,, it’s “..like is DOESN’T happen..” N I never told court marriages don’t happen in India,, all I was trying to say was if Indian parents n joint families watched this video,, they wouldn’t be able to process any of this as normal,,

    • @otakuu9609
      @otakuu9609 Před 3 lety +54

      @@flyingcacoon3713 she's just mentioning that Indians might find this really odd that's it.

    • @otakuu9609
      @otakuu9609 Před 3 lety +16

      and also finding the auspicious day involves around where Saturn is where Jupiter is etc.
      It's incredible how planets play a role in a marriage date, hahaha.

    • @bjuee
      @bjuee Před 3 lety +14

      Yeah!! In india we have like a gazillion people at the wedding. That's more of a type we enjoy with our community.

    • @sophiedaso9352
      @sophiedaso9352 Před 3 lety

      😂

  • @PaolofromTOKYO
    @PaolofromTOKYO  Před 5 lety +71

    Thank you everyone for all of the love in the comments!!! Love sharing these experiences with you. If you want to see my Marriage Proposal here's the video - czcams.com/video/5EWHg_p8gEk/video.html

    • @michaelpatricio1302
      @michaelpatricio1302 Před 5 lety

      Congratulations..👏👏👏🎉🎊🍻😄

    • @watchdealer11
      @watchdealer11 Před 5 lety +1

      Congrats! Wishing you both the best!

    • @sky-blue.33252
      @sky-blue.33252 Před 5 lety

      congratulations !

    • @nanoevil
      @nanoevil Před 5 lety

      hmmm i think you gave us the wrong link? it loops back to the same video which is this one

    • @Tokyodrew
      @Tokyodrew Před 5 lety

      Paolo fromTOKYO congrats dude! Happy for ya seriously! You are a great guy and deserve the best!

  • @jamesladao9417
    @jamesladao9417 Před 5 lety +16

    Congratulations, Maiko & Paolo! We wish you a marriage full of love and laughter. After dating 13 years, my wife and I got married in 2017. We’re an older couple, we live Los Angeles, she’s Chinese and I’m Filipino. It is common here for the couple to provide guests a wedding registry (specific stores), but we told our guests we don’t want any gifts. Of our 80 guests, most were relatives and only our closest friends were invited - to our surprise, everyone gave us cash gifts ($100 per person, some significantly more). We paid for the entire wedding ourselves, but if we were in our 20s, I think we would have accepted help from our parents on both sides. We love seeing your videos, which helped us plan our 2016 and 2018 trips to Japan. If you have a wedding ceremony and it’s early October, please invite us, we’ll be there! CONGRATS, again!

  • @sarangsharma5346
    @sarangsharma5346 Před 5 lety +383

    She" this only happens once in life "
    He "well for some people..."
    She"WHATTTTTT"
    Savage congratulations to both of you live well

  • @TheBukoStudio
    @TheBukoStudio Před 3 lety +47

    So even during marriage, Paolo is still interviewing people. XD

  • @spun_01
    @spun_01 Před 5 lety +10

    Congratulations man! All the best to yourself and Maiko for a lifetime of health and happiness together.

  • @CynthiaBeaumont
    @CynthiaBeaumont Před 5 lety +220

    Congratulations ! Skip the wedding to much stress. We did not have one and were still together 26 years.

    • @announcedlateryes6478
      @announcedlateryes6478 Před 5 lety +20

      Totally agree waste of money nothing elae

    • @zicovales3064
      @zicovales3064 Před 5 lety +7

      Thats really true buddy dont have to waste money for this bullshit

    • @stoyam7515
      @stoyam7515 Před 5 lety +1

      Oh my word you two are adorable!

    • @RustyPro676
      @RustyPro676 Před 5 lety +10

      agreed, for the cost of a wedding you can buy a car lol... I think im just gonna invite my closest family and friends, make a buffet myself (chef) buy tons of vodka and get wasted with my wife, who hopefully is gonna be okay with it :D

    • @jameschristophercirujano6650
      @jameschristophercirujano6650 Před 5 lety +2

      A wedding is a momentous occasion so most would want to splurge money.

  • @jaijojan1
    @jaijojan1 Před 5 lety +12

    You and Maiko make a great couple, congratulations on your wedding. Blessings and good luck.

  • @aprilbox3766
    @aprilbox3766 Před 3 lety +13

    Traditionally in the US (not so much anymore) the bride's family paid for the wedding, because like you said the groom's family will be taking care of the bride. If you go way back they bride's family gave money, property or valuable items to the groom's family, it was called the bride price or dowry. In addition way back a bride also prepared a lot of household items to bring with her. Linens, clothing and things and they were often in a special trunk. The groom's family pays for the wedding ceremony rehearsal dinner and groomsmen's clothing rental. Another crazy custom: women buy their wedding clothes and men rent them. Then registration: the couple will visit different stores to make a list of the things they want. Like we registered at a jewelry store for fancy dishes. Lots of people today will register at Target or even a hardware store. It's helpful because then you don't get 4 toasters. Also a lot of people are getting married when they already have a house set up, so they don't even need a toaster. Like my sister wanted a nice cutting board. Not every guest will use the list, you could give something unique like art. Also a lot of people give money or gift cards.

  • @sandyamaulana2317
    @sandyamaulana2317 Před 5 lety +25

    Congratulations on your marriage, Paolo and Maiko! You two are an adorable couple! I'm a new subscriber from Indonesia. Indonesia is very culturally diverse and there are so many different ways of getting married and holding wedding ceremonies. Intercultural marriages are also quite common, so sometimes a wedding ceremony is a combination of two different cultures, or it can also be held twice in two different cultural ways! I'm a Muslim Javanese Indonesian; for a Muslim from Java, marriage is usually a religious affair first (first thing to do is to register at a local Office of Religious Affairs), and a cultural affair later, or sometimes (as in my case) both happened at the same time. It is not uncommon for an Indonesian couple to have their matrimony (typically officiated by an Islamic wedding officiant) and wedding reception in one same morning. Usually, the bride's parents are responsible for both marriage administration and about 50-70% of funding of wedding ceremony. The groom (or the groom's family) contributes to the rest of the funds.

    • @PaolofromTOKYO
      @PaolofromTOKYO  Před 5 lety +3

      Thanks for sharing your culture Sandya Maulana! It's quite interesting.

  • @weavernutz22
    @weavernutz22 Před 4 lety +58

    I got married on Valentine’s Day. I think she had a hidden agenda. Meh, been married coming up on 12 years, still the best thing that’s ever happened to me

  • @mystic_auroria
    @mystic_auroria Před 4 lety +15

    You two are way cute😍 and congrats on the pregnancy! It’s beautiful to have a bundle of joy in your arms😁

  • @skiddy3715
    @skiddy3715 Před 3 lety +125

    “We’re married yes!?” Straight up actually gonna be me. No ceremony

  • @aikteru3698
    @aikteru3698 Před 4 lety +745

    Guy on the counter: You two are now married
    Me: WHAT
    *Later*
    Me: AM I MARRIED?!?!!
    Cashier: Sir, for the last time, this is a supermarket...

  • @Chloe-xn4dw
    @Chloe-xn4dw Před 5 lety +13

    So interesting! I live in Hawaii and I work in the wedding industry. Our average wedding (with about 200 guests, which is an average "large" wedding here) is at least $50,000. We've had many couples say their budget was $75,000! (¥8,000,000) Our average client is a middle to high class couple in their mid-30s, so they've already been working for at least 10 years. Usually they pay for as much as they can and they do get help from parents. Sometimes relatives "gift" part of the wedding, like "gift" them their photographer.
    Here, the "go-to" rule for guests attending a friend's wedding is to "pay for your own dinner." So if the wedding is a dinner at a fancy buffet, you might give around $100 per head. If you are a relative you would probably give much more, but especially if a friend is younger, they might not even give that amount.
    In this way, couples usually don't make back the amount that they spend on their wedding, they end up just eating the cost. I think the "$300 per head" rule in Japan is expensive, but that's nice that it helps the wedded couple so much more!!

  • @MillennialTravelConfessions

    Congratulations guys! Thought you were going to have your wedding at Meiji Shrine, I'm sure all your subscribers will be there 😁

  • @teresitaono6234
    @teresitaono6234 Před 3 lety +15

    I'm your new subscriber here from Philippines🇵🇭 and I am so glad I found this channel.I just love watching couples who got married to a foreigner or in japanese language, it's called 国際結婚 like my husband and I.Although, we've been married for 25yrs now but I know there is still a lot of things to learn from you guys.Thank you for sharing your thoughts and ideas🙏❤

  • @sherylwhauwhau7966
    @sherylwhauwhau7966 Před 5 lety +10

    Congratulations from New Zealand, you guys look like a nice couple, and all the best for the future.

  • @lop295
    @lop295 Před 5 lety +43

    Congrats Paolo and Maiko! For Singaporean Malay traditional weddings, invited guests are to give money but there is no hard and fast rule.. The amount is to be a sincere wedding gift and minimally about Y$1000 only.. So typically, the bride and groom fork out most of the money and depending on how big you want your event to be..

    • @legoman9421
      @legoman9421 Před 5 lety +1

      Cool. Even I being a Singaporean didn't know that.

    • @phyllischua275
      @phyllischua275 Před 5 lety

      Same! I’m Singaporean, have been to an awesome Malay wedding, but had no idea! This is great. Thanks for sharing!! :D

    • @phoebella
      @phoebella Před 5 lety

      Malay weddings are so fun !!! Personally I prefer a honeymoon over a wedding ceremony

  • @cyanide9663
    @cyanide9663 Před 4 lety +1284

    "Traditionally, in the US."
    Bold of you to assume we have traditions.
    Edit: 1k, nice

    • @Ftnvbee
      @Ftnvbee Před 4 lety +78

      You have traditions: newly created within states and the fact that north America is a 'melting pot' created a new culture in itself. And this is coming from a French person. Appreciate your culture xx

    • @sbgreatness
      @sbgreatness Před 4 lety +7

      @benry hell yeah
      *MERICA* 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸

    • @normanjoestar4574
      @normanjoestar4574 Před 4 lety +3

      benry our culture is that we don’t have a culture even tho I’m Hispanic but live in the u.s

    • @Ecstasia1
      @Ecstasia1 Před 4 lety +8

      @benry Cultures and states that emphasise so much on how "free" they are, traditionally are the least free.
      The US has by far he highest incarceration rate of the world. So statistically you are the least free country. Your government throws more people per capita to jail than the government of El Salvador. But they keep on telling you how "free" you are. Funny.
      en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_incarceration_rate

    • @gordito4716
      @gordito4716 Před 4 lety +12

      @@Ecstasia1 You don't have any idea what you're talking about lmao

  • @robertjacobs6304
    @robertjacobs6304 Před 2 lety +3

    I really like these two…..so warm so gentle and so informative.

  • @damiakemi1091
    @damiakemi1091 Před 4 lety +37

    This is a late congratulations but it is from the heart, I just discovered your channel and I am so glad, I love the everyday life videos and I think you guys are the cutest couple! You make me feel closer to Japan even though I live in NYC. Thank you for all of your videos and I wish you both so much happiness in your newlywed lives!

  • @charlesdoan4226
    @charlesdoan4226 Před 4 lety +7

    When you register for a gifts in the US, you just go to the shop(s) and and pick gifts that you would want. Some stores give you a scanner to scan bar codes. Then the shop list everything. You then tell your guest where you registered and the shop will give them the list of things the couple requested

  • @mohamedaref8201
    @mohamedaref8201 Před 5 lety +5

    Hey Paolo,
    Greetings from Egypt! I'm visiting Japan and I have been watching your videos for like 10 days now! All your videos are amazing and even sociable videos like this one! Thank you so much for sharing everything and I wish you the best of Luck!

  • @GFUncovered
    @GFUncovered Před 2 lety +2

    I love how logical and down to earth this process is for the both of you

  • @visx1792
    @visx1792 Před 5 lety +474

    I got married on April 1st - it was great, I even made "I swear this isn't an April Fools joke" into one of my vows 🤣🤣🤣

  • @onemanshow4116
    @onemanshow4116 Před 4 lety +132

    Oh... So THAT'S how you get married in Japan?!
    I think I did that once here in the States. Here, we call it the DMV.

  • @odeplugged
    @odeplugged Před 5 lety +66

    4:48 look how excited she is 😂

  • @bill8100
    @bill8100 Před 3 lety +43

    damnn this is the easiest marriage i've ever seen! it's amazing and i'm so happy for you guys.
    kinda bum that in my country, marriage is kinda a big deal so there's soooo many documents, preparations, even agreements from both of the parents side (they need to sign, so if they not agree to this, well ya, it'll be hard)

  • @holly9539
    @holly9539 Před 4 lety +11

    Traditionally in the states, the bride’s family paid for the wedding and the husbands family paid for the rehearsal dinner...I think the husband’s family also paid for the honeymoon. Certain areas still practice this to some degree but depending on financial ability.
    Loved the video! I’m over a year late - congrats!

    • @Esandeech2
      @Esandeech2 Před 2 lety +1

      I cannot believe a rehearsal dinner is a thing! It seems so.. extra?

  • @stargasior
    @stargasior Před 5 lety +6

    Congrats! Maiko seems like a great lady!
    I’m also an American and I’ve been married to a Japanese lady for 13 years. We didn’t even have a ceremony because we were too busy at the time.

  • @jadecummings8093
    @jadecummings8093 Před 5 lety +262

    Congratulations, Paolo and your cute fiancée Maiko! Hope you have a great time being good parents as well. 😀👍

    • @HelpingPanda
      @HelpingPanda Před 5 lety +6

      Wife* :D

    • @katmumn
      @katmumn Před 5 lety +2

      Congratulations!! Very happy for you both Paulo and Maiko

    • @grisebankventer
      @grisebankventer Před 5 lety +2

      they are just going to have sex all day long

    • @riccky33
      @riccky33 Před 5 lety +1

      Hura hurra heyyy.. Congratulations to you both .. You deserve each other .. Just don't get many kids OK, Cus we will miss then your utube clipp .. We need you too here olso what do you think 😂😂😂

    • @jadecummings8093
      @jadecummings8093 Před 5 lety +1

      @@riccky33 yes, I agree!

  • @user-xx7pg3vw9k
    @user-xx7pg3vw9k Před 3 lety +3

    OMG, this is literally the cutest thumbnail I have seen all week!

  • @travelpockets
    @travelpockets Před 5 lety +8

    Congrats!! We just recently started watching your videos and they're very informative :) Interesting that a lot of couples get married on Christmas.

  • @chacruz2708
    @chacruz2708 Před 5 lety +6

    Congrats Paolo and Maiko!
    Love and Respect each other!
    Live a happy life!
    Love both of U: GOD Bless!🙏🏻

  • @nikkohime8064
    @nikkohime8064 Před 5 lety +20

    Congratulations! I' m originally from Romania and there u pay to attend the wedding as well. Traditionally were gifts to help the newlyweds but now basically you pay for the menu and ideally something on top of that... so at the end not only the wedding is covered but u can also be left with some money for a honeymoon. 😀

  • @grossomodo3544
    @grossomodo3544 Před 3 lety +478

    Getting married and renting a car feels the same in Japan

    • @cleocleo9986
      @cleocleo9986 Před 3 lety +2

      Lmao😂😂

    • @rohankun8246
      @rohankun8246 Před 3 lety +2

      😂😂

    • @limwowo5902
      @limwowo5902 Před 3 lety +11

      It makes it actually easier for introverts to survive in Japan. I hate big weddings and they give me pressure when I have to get married in the future.

    • @Ma5jay5dontxdoxthat
      @Ma5jay5dontxdoxthat Před 2 lety

      @@limwowo5902 is it hard to have a small wedding or a court house wedding where you are from?

    • @Noa.Shakti
      @Noa.Shakti Před 2 lety

      😁😁😁

  • @katyminou3808
    @katyminou3808 Před 5 lety +24

    Congratulations! My husband and I are traveling to Japan in April for our honeymoon! We got married in July in Las Vegas, but we delayed our honeymoon so we could come to Japan for cherry blossom season. We actually registered at TravelersJoy.com where our guests could choose to contribute to our honeymoon fund. although, we did include a note in the invite that said gifts were not necessary as we had a destination wedding and those who attended paid to travel to our wedding. We did pay for our own wedding ((around $20k)), but both of our parents contributed a bit for the extra things we didn’t want to splurge on. Thanks for all of your awesome videos, they are super helpful!

    • @PaolofromTOKYO
      @PaolofromTOKYO  Před 5 lety +3

      Thanks for sharing Katy Minou! It's nice that there are sites like this to allow you to also fund your honeymoon,

    • @TheAntibyte
      @TheAntibyte Před 5 lety

      You might want to research into when the cherry blossom peak season is. Apparently this year is going to be earlier due to the difference in weather this winter.

    • @katyminou3808
      @katyminou3808 Před 5 lety

      TheAntibyte well we can’t change out plans at this point unfortunately! Flights were booked in October. The good news is we’ll be there in early April and we’re traveling to Tokyo, Kyoto, Osaka, and Hakone, so hopefully we’ll get lucky at one location at least!

  • @lalina1304
    @lalina1304 Před 3 lety +31

    I like this... Stress free. He is lucky to find a lady that is not fussy. The point is being together.

  • @panayiotakonizou9019
    @panayiotakonizou9019 Před 5 lety +12

    Congratulation!!! so happy for you! Bίο ανθόσπαρτο ( vion anthosparto) is a wish given to new couples in Greek and it means may you life be filled with flowers and joy.

    • @agigips2799
      @agigips2799 Před 5 lety +1

      Και καλούς απογόνους.😁

  • @stevelucky7579
    @stevelucky7579 Před rokem +15

    Wife’s family pays for the wedding, husband’s family pays for the honey moon. But depending on financial situation, it determines how things play out from there.

  • @cahbagus1132
    @cahbagus1132 Před 5 lety +40

    Happy married bro ....I just watch the ads till finish I hope it will give u something...

  • @flowerpower1054
    @flowerpower1054 Před 5 lety +4

    That’s great! So happy for you both.
    I love this channel and watch it all the time. I’ve told many of my friends about it.

  • @kayy787
    @kayy787 Před 5 lety +16

    Is it too late to say Congrats? Doesn’t matter! Congrats guys! You’ll be an amazing couple

  • @ivankaran6487
    @ivankaran6487 Před 3 lety +3

    Congratulations to both of you!
    I really love the channel, it's very kind hearted and instructive.
    Best of wishes from Croatia.

  • @lostman65
    @lostman65 Před 5 lety +13

    congrats paolo and maikosan. my wife and i got married in japan almost 30 years ago. her parents paid for everything... i just showed up and tried not break anything. we got some great pictures out the experience.

  • @lisakaye6923
    @lisakaye6923 Před 5 lety +23

    I got married July 24, 1981... We are still married!! Congratulations!!

    • @The_NSeven
      @The_NSeven Před 5 lety

      That's nice :)

    • @Carlos-wj3nu
      @Carlos-wj3nu Před 5 lety

      It's really nice to see marriages that last.

    • @lisakaye6923
      @lisakaye6923 Před 5 lety

      @ABC , treat each other with respect, never fight when you're really mad. You say things that you don't really mean. Just sleep on the issue, talk about it after you've had a minute to think. But the number one thing is RESPECT! Keep God in your home and never, never, never talk about your spouse with anyone. God luck in your future.

  • @ladychips
    @ladychips Před 4 lety +26

    I already know he's going to be a great father. He already talks to his audience like they're kids(and i mean that in a good way)

  • @CatieChapman
    @CatieChapman Před rokem +1

    We’re both getting married! together! ❤ The little voice crack is adorable. So happy for y’all even though this was a few years ago.

  • @spiritawaywithme
    @spiritawaywithme Před 4 lety +22

    I think I went to college with your wife in R, California!!! I was telling my husband that I think your wife looks like our old friend! Congratulations!!

  • @PrimeMinistification
    @PrimeMinistification Před 4 lety +6

    The video is so cool, like a conversation with your friends.

  • @charaseac
    @charaseac Před 5 lety +346

    Nobody gonna ask about why there's Doraemon on the marriage license form?

    • @ryeryeflow
      @ryeryeflow Před 5 lety +20

      It's killing me! I want to know! xD

    • @kansaibeyond
      @kansaibeyond Před 5 lety +88

      In Japan, you can buy these marriage forms from stationery/novelty shops with character designs on them. It's pretty common to see them in a Tokyu Hands and LOFT.

    • @bitcointeacher6601
      @bitcointeacher6601 Před 5 lety +1

      can you help me

    • @jame254
      @jame254 Před 5 lety +3

      I know right lol!! Thought it was cute though

    • @ian-ob5ht
      @ian-ob5ht Před 5 lety +24

      its japan guys why still asking? haha

  • @bhargavmanohar507
    @bhargavmanohar507 Před 3 lety +13

    I am from India and marriage ceremony goes on for around a week here. So u don't have to be like "that's all? Yay, we are married now" XD

  • @umeer.94
    @umeer.94 Před 5 lety +239

    1:50 Wait what!?! Why there is a Doraemon on the official marriage document?

    • @srl9374
      @srl9374 Před 5 lety +7

      I may be wrong, but I would assume that the footage was just b-roll and that his friend is a pediatric doctor. Therefore the "document" is not a document and maybe a medicine prescription.

    • @markmckeown87
      @markmckeown87 Před 5 lety +12

      @@srl9374 But you can see the same image on the back of the doc when he hands it to the employee for checks loll

    • @srl9374
      @srl9374 Před 5 lety +2

      Mark McKeown ~ 2:15 I stand corrected. It just seemed odd and I believed in only one logical explanation. I guess it is present on the official document.

    • @JoeMarGonzales
      @JoeMarGonzales Před 5 lety +37

      I did a quick google search and apparently, you can buy custom themed marriage registration forms (konin todoke). I found one with pikachus in it haha

    • @umeer.94
      @umeer.94 Před 5 lety

      @@JoeMarGonzales 😄 wow nice!

  • @jamessupamahitorn4985
    @jamessupamahitorn4985 Před 5 lety +14

    Love your videos, keep it up!! Super big congratulations on getting married!! Best wishes and all the best!! :D

  • @jimabrahamguillaume3301
    @jimabrahamguillaume3301 Před 3 lety +401

    The most weirdest video I've seen in a long time.
    1.official marriage documents have doraemon in it.
    2.Guy talking about divorce rates in his wedding day
    3.Finally,Both of them didn't even know they're married until the staff prompted to inform them.
    Really can't understand what I watched in the last 11 minutes (mental breakdown).

    • @tazgg4589
      @tazgg4589 Před 3 lety +19

      hi american LOL

    • @sniperoth
      @sniperoth Před 3 lety +23

      Nothing shows true love better than doraemon marriage documents. LOL. Maybe I'll also get married in Japan if only for that.

    • @5kom5
      @5kom5 Před 3 lety +11

      4. Most people get married in Christmas Day 🤣

    • @thineevee7345
      @thineevee7345 Před 3 lety +1

      @@sniperoth LOL

    • @nursahidassafaat6283
      @nursahidassafaat6283 Před 3 lety +1

      wtf lol

  • @amoeba5547
    @amoeba5547 Před 3 lety +202

    No one:
    Paolo: lets talk about divorce rates randomly just before we get married.

    • @thejmr
      @thejmr Před 3 lety +4

      not a subject you want to talk about in a wedding day
      but i guess he wanted to know the successful rate of this marriage

    • @apticunotoo7065
      @apticunotoo7065 Před 3 lety

      the look on her face when he asked too lmao

  • @xxwallzxx4509
    @xxwallzxx4509 Před 5 lety +6

    Congrats on your marriage. May you two have many years of happiness. 😋

  • @zaylatakaoka3825
    @zaylatakaoka3825 Před 5 lety +11

    Congrats on getting married!!
    I hope you guys do a ceremony TT^TT
    Maiko would look BEAUTIFUL in a wedding dress!!!

  • @katdenning6535
    @katdenning6535 Před 5 lety +15

    I was married in 2006. My husband and I paid for the majority of the wedding but our parents did help with some stuff. We had 200 people attend (75 his family, 75 my family, 75 mutual friends were invited). Some people gave $ in cards (usually US $50-100) but mostly they gave gifts (toaster, game console, towel set, etc.). We had a very affordable wedding compared to many people (around $8,000-10,000).

  • @brownboyfriesrice
    @brownboyfriesrice Před 3 lety +5

    This is weird but CZcams recommended me this on your wedding!
    Happy 2 year anniversary!

  • @amaansiddiqui2030
    @amaansiddiqui2030 Před 4 lety +55

    *Starts discussing about divorce rates even when getting married*
    Happy Marriage Paolo

  • @MiaMizuno
    @MiaMizuno Před 4 lety +209

    2:18: official marriage papers do have Doraemon on the top???? OH MY GOD, Germany is so boring

    • @shashankshekhar3791
      @shashankshekhar3791 Před 4 lety +1

      HAHAHA

    • @asterios4888
      @asterios4888 Před 4 lety

      Lool

    • @weltschmertzz
      @weltschmertzz Před 4 lety

      😂😂

    • @ravenfist5958
      @ravenfist5958 Před 4 lety

      Deshalb werde ich auch auswandern xD

    • @Ayusa
      @Ayusa Před 4 lety +3

      Nur zur Info nicht jede Stadt in Japan hat Doraemon. kommt also darauf an wo in Japan du heiraten willst. Die beiden haben wahrscheinlich in Shibuya geheiratet da sie dort gewohnt haben, also hat Shibuya scheinbar Doraemon.
      Meine Stadt hatte zwar auch ein Maskotchen auf den Dokumenten allerdings kein bekannter Charakter oder so.
      Ich persönlich finde aber die deutsche Art zu heiraten definitv schöner. Selbst wenn man keine eigene Zeremonie plant, hat man wenigstens eine schöne Standesamtliche Hochzeit und nicht nur Papierkram den man bei einem Schalter einreicht.

  • @kadlee
    @kadlee Před 5 lety +626

    r u kidding me??? u researched divorce rates on the day u got married??? 😂anyway, congrats!!! 👏🥳

    • @alfreddelatourquipenche8287
      @alfreddelatourquipenche8287 Před 5 lety +26

      If you're careful, you'll even sign a contract for the allocation of wealth on breakup, that very same day.

    • @noname-fp3kh
      @noname-fp3kh Před 5 lety

      @@alfreddelatourquipenche8287 damn really??

    • @MrNotgoth
      @MrNotgoth Před 5 lety +6

      @@noname-fp3kh if you're not expecting things to last long...it's a smart idea...if both parties are consenting lol

    • @Singing-elephant
      @Singing-elephant Před 5 lety +11

      Your are right about that's I haven't thought about it... I hope he's playing around with the video. A lot of people in the development country take marriage very lightly. At the end of a love story ..its either forever after or a broken hearts .. alway the innocent children who will suffer the most .we should take the vow of marriage with sincere love ,when a man and a woman make the Choice of tying the knot. It's should be a life time of commitment, responsibility and sharing .May the valentine God looking out and blessed theese young couple for ever .

    • @Aaron565
      @Aaron565 Před 5 lety

      prenups are not actual contracts, and can be invalidated by a judge if requested

  • @lorenzocarrillo
    @lorenzocarrillo Před 2 lety +3

    Congratulations to the beautiful couple! May life bring you many joys and prosperity together. Blessings 🙌

  • @JumpStyle212
    @JumpStyle212 Před 3 lety +42

    When your “wife to be” won’t get off her phone on your wedding day😂

    • @michaels3003
      @michaels3003 Před 3 lety +5

      It was just a get-marriage-license day, not a wedding day.

    • @jamesde4428
      @jamesde4428 Před 3 lety

      Well in fairness she was being recorded by her husband the whole time, I know I wouldn't want to be recorded lol

    • @theaqshow1390
      @theaqshow1390 Před 3 lety +1

      lets talk about divorce 😂😂

  • @TheMagnificentGman
    @TheMagnificentGman Před 5 lety +6

    Best of luck to you two and may you have a happy life together

  • @horses4555
    @horses4555 Před 5 lety +8

    In the United States it used to be the brides parents would pay for the whole wedding but nowadays usually the couples pay and the parents help a little.

  • @ajfitness9041
    @ajfitness9041 Před 3 lety +4

    Congrats on the marriage 🥳

  • @aliciaborstad23
    @aliciaborstad23 Před 5 lety +17

    Yay! CONGRATULATIONS!! 🎉🎊❤

  • @PradeepPant007
    @PradeepPant007 Před 4 lety +177

    2:33 Official Document has Doremon it in. Impressed with Govt.

  • @OneTechTraveller
    @OneTechTraveller Před 5 lety +5

    Wow you got married on my birthday haha. NIce one, congratulations! Keep Being Awesome

  • @sharoncharles4818
    @sharoncharles4818 Před 3 lety +2

    Getting married in my country Nigeria takes at least 6months of planning because every single family member both extended are all invited from far and wide and then tons of food cooked, the ceremony itself lasts the whole day with music, food, dance and sharing pleasantries with a lot of people you don’t even know. It is fun and very memorable.