What's it like being International Couple in Japan?
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The first couple was so cute. They seem very caring and loving as they should be. Glad it worked out for them
Really? The guy seems to have the emotional maturity of an 8 year old.
@@nr655321 he just seems like a shy and awkward guy what do you mean lmao
@@nr655321 I don't think any 8 year old would go to such extreme lengths for a loved one. :/
@@nr655321 you're just jealous cause he has a beautiful girlfriend and maybe you don't? LOL!
@@nr655321 yes bro looks like he is dominated and controlled by his gf lol
I'm glad he added the second couple. Often times we picture international couples being two completely different races.
It's easy to assume all East Asians, let alone all Asians in general share the same culture even though they do intersect at some points. In the end, there are far more differences than people are aware of.
Same way with African-Americans and Africans. We may share the same skin tone and features but our cultures are vastly different.
Your point would be better made if they had met in Hong Kong. This girl is very Canadian, which is not at all an Asian culture to begin with. And anyone who is surprised that an Asian can come from a different culture has never traveled. The only reason that people would make any assumption, is because this girl can pass as Japanese.
@Micheal DeAngelo That may be but African-Americans would still assimilate in Africa far better than any of these people would ever be able to.
Videos like this make for an interesting study in the unusual but human beings, on average, still prefer to look at faces that reflect their own in their everyday lives. That natural survival instinct will never go away.
It’s definitely the reason why places like America continue to be heavily divided. No matter how much assimilation is forced.
@@chrishudson9525
She was born in Hong Kong so has at least one Chinese parent who taught her about their culture. We have a lot of East Asians here (Canada) and even though they integrate well they tend to keep their traditions. IMO any East Asian would have an easier time integrating in Japan then other foreigners because of having similar cultures
@@cottoncandykawaii2673 Learning about a culture, and being the product of a culture are different things. Did you hear her speak? Did you watch her mannerisms? This girl is very Canadian in how she comes across. Moreover, it's not very traditional for a Chinese person to move to Canada, and then get a Japanese boyfriend, and then move to Japan. So I would say that she's not too concerned with Chinese tradition.
@@chrishudson9525
I don't mean her mannerisms I mean the way they are on a domestic level (house rules, cooking/food, religious/cultural practices, etc) are all similar
Sort of like all Europeans have similarities despite having various ethnicities and languages because they are also all one race with a root religion
The last couple’s guy exuded this aura of confidence, as expected of a guy who feels secure enough in his masculinity to date a taller woman. My dad was like that too, he was shorter than my mom and was the coolest dad I could’ve asked for. Let’s go short kings
Yep he looks very charismatic and not just because he's muscular but the whole attitude, kind of like some celebrities.
true :)i can weak pink no problem and as italian i kiss guy on the cheeks all the time noone questions masculinity
I agree, there's nothing wrong with being short/dating shorter guys. Being shorter does not certainly make you look less beautiful. I actually thought that that guy married to the Russian woman was attractive. In Italy we have a phrase: from the smaller bottle you get good wine 🍷😉
Lol, as if guys not dating taller women has anything to do with men not feeling secure in their masculinity. It's because, generally, women want taller guys.
Yeah it's great if they confident cause they should be. But idk why another of short men, on the other hand are very insecure when they shouldn't be. I mean unless the aren't good looking as well then I'm sorry 🙏🏽
I always laugh at the ending. “Okay how was it?” And then answering himself “that was very interesting” 😂
I even say "that was interesting" too
Yeah, I feel that's odd 😅
I guess what he really means by that is more like
"That was interesting, wasn't it?" Or in terms like " What do you think? I think that was interesting!"
Bro stop i thought it was fine till u pointed it out🤣💀💀
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I feel like a native English speaker should point out to him that it is an odd way to phrase things. But at this point it's kind of cute and funny.
Also I appreciate that this time you've asked couples of different ages! The third one is obviously older than the first two right. So they have more experience and they're already married and have a stable ground unlike the first two couples that are just planning their future together. It's nice 'cause it gives different perspectives. It'd be great if you do the same with the foreign man/Japanese woman video !
Yet it seemed he was pretty surprised when she said she dated other Japanese men - his surprised face cracked me up.
@@aaronvaughn1954 OMG, I had to go back and watch... cracked me up 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Honestly you can ser he loves her a lot and is very proud of having her as his wife which is adorable. It did take him aback a bit to hear that.. awww
This was a great video and all the couples were charming but those two at the end were the absolute best. The degree of love and respect was second only to the truly sincere shock the guy still felt at realizing how his life turned out lol, I love them so much
The last couple is amazing!! I love the way he spoke when said his life changed when he met her. He sounds like recognizes how lucky he is. To me, it sounds like both are equally lucky to have each other.
The last couple is my favorite. They both respect each other. The man seems to be honest and reliable, requires her just being her. The woman seems so bright, clever, and optimistic.
Because they are mature and it looks this is really serious.
Isnt it the case for all three couples?
@@erikweber8514 Well, the last couple have stood the test of time, but yeah all three seemed on the right track.
i think the culture point is interesting. russian women and like japanese women and want to be subserviant to the man. but American women are complete opposite
@GodAtum American girls generally don't want to be the dommy mommy. They think they want equality, but then the Overton window will be pushed in one of two directions. So, a lot of American women become the dominant one by accident.
My particular religion teaches that men should lead the house. I have a similar religious tradition to Russians. However, I wouldn't want otherwise, personally.
The 1st guy’s attitude of enjoying the differences is da best, I suppose it’s quite rare for Japanese to have this kind of thoughts
Maybe it's not so rare, they just don't talk about it because they are too shy. 😂
The last guy also had that attitude. I think it's cause he was opened from taking in a big city. It kinda primed him to be open.
@@moma-btrue 😂😂😂
"We can enjoy each other's differences."
Absolutely amazing video, Takashi-san!
素晴らしい！
What the last girl said is so true, I never really intended to date a Japanese guy it just happened. A lot of the guys that I had met and had asked me out just wanted to date any foreigner, it was such a turn off. My husband had absolutely no interest in foreign girls and it was super refreshing because I could tell he liked me for me.
I’m Uzbek-Japanese and Kazakh. I never thought I would fall for Armenian, Russian, Estonian, Arab and Persian girls
so sweet
so romantic)))
I am a Filipina married to Japanese. He is from Okinawa, wish we look cute like these couples. We are like siblings bc we share a lot of things in common. Its like one mind. 😆💖 He is my best friend and we have the cutest children together.
Ka cute sana magtagal po kayo God bless
That's because Filipinos are trying to immitate Japanese and Korean's manners. I've been to both Philipinnes and Japan and the people act totally different and have very different manners.
Enjoyed all 3 couples, but especially the 3rd couple. They seem a little older and, with both speaking Japanese, it was easy to see how well the woman had adapted to Japanese culture. It was also interesting to hear the man admit meeting her had changed his life so much. Very interesting. Thank you.
I feel the first couple so much, it's heartwarming to see they're together now as I have a similar story.
Met my bf in summer 2019 in Japan, he came to my country a month later and was supposed to come back in spring 2020 to meet my family etc but corona turned things into an almost three years wait until we could see each other again. But we are finally being able to meet again in august and spend our 3rd anniversary together in person and not on facetime. The pandemic really made things frustrating but we kept calm and waited.
Much love to all the LDR people out there!
That's awesome. Good luck
@@samuraijosh1595 Tysm!
Hey !! Thank you so much and wish you the best too!! My bf and I had almost the same situation! We couldn't meet before but this year we met some weeks ago (and still together now and for the following months and years(?)) and we were able to celebrate our 4th year anniversary together, finally! 😀 😍. So I am happy to know somebody else will be able to celebrate as well as we did 😃😊! Good vibes for both of u! And congratulations! 🎊
@@NyuAkiyama which prefecture is your guy from? Do you have any idea from your experience which prefecture has the most loyal and reliable guys?
@@NyuAkiyama Thank you! Honestly it really makes me happy to see that other couples managed to get through all this and be reunited again ☺️
I really like the first couple. They actually gave a whole synopsis of the relationship and gave really great advice. Communication is hard but with trust and constant effort they got past it. And whenever issues came up, they said they would try to quickly communicate to resolve them. Also, he (Haruki-san) also emphasized that it takes a willingness to learn about and enjoy their differences.
My dad is from Osaka and met my white American mom in Japan almost 40 years ago. It’s interesting to see what their challenges might have been. Thanks for the video!
Are they still together?
@@mspacey6230 bro that pfp's embarrassing
@@leobe2104 it ain't. Stop with that BS please.
@@leobe2104 Cry about it
@@mspacey6230 does that pfp means lgbt community is not ok? Then it is totally wrong.
I have been married to my amazing (Japanese) hubby for 20 years now. Despite our differences, it has been an amazing journey. Have two beautiful sons too! Thanks for the video.
友情を自分の中に保つことは不可能であり、あなたの心や他の人に触れることができる限り常に広がります...あなたが気にしないのであれば私たちは友達になれますか
awwww that's so sweet
That last married couple was amazing. It really shows how we are not bound by culture in order to love. We can all change and we do change no matter what.
Haruki is right about the attitude. It is everything even if you are interested in someone go for it and take the leap :)
There is no rush, and getting to know each other is far more important.
"Attitude of enjoying differences!"....the meaning of living. Thanks for this, Takashi.
Thank you so much for watching!!
I’m gonna upload a video about Japanese girl & foreign guy couples soon!!
Stay tuned!
日本ではなぜか上記のカップルの方が多いよね。
Tahashii San,you should date foreigner too
The comment above is kind of ステキそう〜😆😆😆
@@ene8894 でも、国際結婚は男の方が多いのは何故?
@@hanahana2931 たしかに印象と統計は違ってますね。白人との国際結婚を念頭に置いてしまっているようです。
The first couple, so adorable, but my favorite was the third couple 😭
me and my Japanese hubby met in NZ in 1999 when he was doing a working holiday visa there. I fell in love with him the first time I saw him, but I was just a friend as I thought he would return to Japan one day and I couldn't imagine what would happen if I declared my feelings to him. so fortunately for me, he confessed his feelings to me!
in 2000 he returned to Japan, and I went with him for a month to spend time with his family and him. then I moved to Australia to be with my family and then when the sydney olympics were on , it was very cheap to fly to Japan, since me and my hubby (boyfriend at the time) hadnt seen each other in person for almost 6 months, so we werent sure if we would want to continue our relationship etc.
those days there was no face time or anything, and phone calls were very expensive, so we wrote to each other each day and sent the letter off to each other once a month, and we also talked over the phone once a month. we were then long distance after that trip (me in Australia and him in Japan)
after several months we got married in Australia and then lived there for 2 years, and then we moved to Japan in 2003, so almost 20 years ago.
I think the main difficulties is just typical man and woman things not particularly for culture
perhaps the kiwi way of doing things is similar to Japan
im very happy living here and raising our children here
of course some problems will come up in the first couple of years, but that is common for any couple
once you get past those, working as a team, and treat each other as best friend and partner, the arguments will not be common
respect for each other is the most important thing
Very adorable!
The most surprising one has to be the last couple as the guy had lived his entire life in Japan and wasn't looking to go abroad. It is quite refreshing to see that he was open to change and end up getting married to a foreigner!
All couples are soooo cute. Great interview topic, perfect interviewee selection and very nice interviewer’s personality 👍🏻
友情を自分の中に保つことは不可能であり、あなたの心や他の人に触れることができる限り常に広がります...あなたが気にしないのであれば私たちは友達になれますか
I love your channel so much. I’m probably not in your demographic I’m a 78 year old grandmother living in Minnesota,USA. My grandson lived and worked in Tokyo during the summer of 2019, he is now preparing to teach English in the Hyogo prefecture. I really enjoyed the interviews dealing with relationships that have cultural differences.Your channel is wonderful l learn so much watching you. Thank you.
Along have you been following their channel now ?? Lol 😃 mine is two months now and I have been living in California for 4 years now
Where are you from ?
It’s so refreshing to see men being humble enough to work on themselves for a strong relationship. All of them mentioned growth and caring for each other 🥰
Yes, I noticed that.
最初のアメリカ人めっちゃ可愛い！
2番目の香港と日本のカップルめっちゃ良い！
3番目のロシアと日本の夫婦もめっちゃ好き！
Haruki is a man of focus, commitment and sheer fucking will. He fought for his dreams and made them real, what an inspiration
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babayaga 😂
What a great video! Hearing about the longevity and the stories of these couples was very cool. Thank you, Takashi! Looking forward to the next one!
I am from Europe and have been with my Japanese partner for almost 9 years . Best decision of my life ! We are living in Japan and I couldn’t be more happier.
👍💕⛩️💞)
@@mariposa2221 ☺️
Good for you 😍
do u see many japanese men with foreign woman?
@@tednguyen7258 I see but it is very rare .
Your english intonations have improved a lot in this video! Keep up the good work!
Another fun and informative video! And everyone was so cute and wholesome! 🥹 Thank you, Takashi! I’m looking forward to what comes next!
Loved the last couple. So honest and comfortable with the essence of what they wanted out of their relationship❤
I really enjoy your channel. Thank you for the work you do to share this content!
It was fun to watch! Every couple is different and to learn how to communicate with each other is important to everyone! Waiting for the next episode!! 😊
I heckin love watching these videos. It’s so interesting looking in on Japanese culture, keep churning out these videos Takashii!!
Cute couples
The second couple reminds me of my wife and I, I mean how our situation was when we were first dating. I’m Canadian, and she was there studying and yes, looking for a guy as well. 😆
And also like that couple, we came back to Japan expecting to only stay here for a couple of years before moving back to settle in Canada again.
But… still in Japan 20 years later!
Thanks for conducting these interviews! I am white and American and my fiancé is from Japan. I love hearing the stories from other Japan-Foreigner couples like us! 😄
Thank you, I am really enjoying your channel! Very interesting and wonderful. Love hearing about the cultural differences and seeing how people grow and change as they learn more! Great job👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I watched this video when it first came out, but I had to come back and watch it again because I just love that married couple so much. They're clearly a bit older than the other couples you interviewed, and they're the only ones who have gotten married, and I think that gives them a different perspective from young couples who are still just dating. I love that they talk about their relationship and how it started, and how much it's changed their lives, especially his. I wish them the best for the future ♥
Same with us !
I have a japanese boyfriend for almost 6 years now, he's in japan and I'm in canada.
We've only seen each other for a total of 40 days in 65 months ! We met as a co worker here in Canada when we was in a working holiday here. We only dated about a month before we got official.
He came to visit me here in Canada last August for 10 days and next year March I will be going to japan and will stay there for a month ! 🥰🥰
Love your videos !
My wife and I were LDR for 3 years, me here in Japan and her in the Philippines, it was a real struggle and we had a lot of fights online but we held on, now were married for 11 years.
Let's go deeper into culture differences in relationships! I've noticed a trend where Japanese men and women see the goal of a relationship as getting married and having kids. As a Westerner, our goal of a relationship is companionship, and many people are choosing to be child-free and sometimes not even getting married, but live like a married couple. But in Japan, it seems like people who want to be child-free simply don't have any relationships.
I don't know what part of Europe you're from, but Poland, Ukraine, Belarus still belong to those more traditional unions. A woman who has many partners, according to the rules of these countries, she simply does not respect herself. There are a lot of singles, but they're not into fun, they're more focused on work.
yep, 100%. asian cultures date to marry. family is very important as well.
great interviews, people seem very comfortable opening up to you.
This was such a sweet watch! It's beautiful how who you choose as a partner can change you for the better, change your life, and open you up to new experiences that you might have never had if you didn't date them! Love your videos and what you're doing Takashii!
Damn, I wanted each of these interviews to be a lot longer! Very interesting stuff
11:05 interview made me have a baby tear 💧 This man . She says “ A Japanese partner is always indirect and never says what they’re thinking”.. “I always have to guess what he’s thinking ” a little back and forth and he says 12:05 “I’m getting better, day by day”. Some times if you break open tough, hard, things? You find unique, “maybe soft”,and wonderful things inside .
Some very loving couples who admire each other! That is a beautiful relationship. And the level of Japanese is amazing once again.
Thank you so much Takashii for this Video! It really portrays the realistic standpoint dating between foreigners and local Japanese. I plan to move to Japan for school and I do hope to have find that certain someone :D
I like the way you interview - it is very gentle, disarming and to-the-point.
Thank you for the work that you do!
I'm planning a trip soon
more of this, great content!
Very interesting interviews. All the best to these young couples. The third couple speaking all in Japanes was very nice. Thank-you for the subtitles.
Great video so interesting to hear all their stories!!
Great interview Takashii!! Love will ALWAYS find a way!!! This video just gave me hope again❣
Great Takashi!! Love these couples?? Very opened minded people good luck to them all💖💖
ohhh its so nice to watch this and that some couples were also in the same situation than me and my Japanese boyfriend. We are in a long distance since January 2020 due to COVID but we will finally meet in autumn :) ! I wish those couples all the best ! Thank you for the video Takashi :)
how did it go?
Another amazing video!!! Well done Takashi!!💯👏👏🇺🇸
Love this channel. Thank you
Takashii, I remember meeting you on hello talk and watching your videos since last year. It’s so good to see how far you’ve come. So glad CZcams worked out for you! I love your videos keep it up :)
Thank you so much for the interview! It was fun✨
I only recently discovered this channel, but I love it. Thank you for making this channel. It’s very interesting to learn new things about other cultures, but also some of the things that we realise are a little more universal that we, or at least me 😊 thought.
Each relationship was so precious to see. They're so beautiful. Very cute & sweet
I immediately recognized Shota and Carolyn on your thumbnail and clicked on this video 😂 I'm glad you included them in this interview. A lot of the time when people think of mixed couples, they imagine a Japanese person and a Westerner but it's often overlooked how many mixed Japanese x other Asian couples there are and how their experiences are different from other mixed couples.
🙋🏻♀️ that is my situation! And I’ve never seen videos about couples like us. Thanks for this comment, and thanks Takashii-san!
Perhaps there is more nuanced similarities and common to date someone more identifiable within ones race?
Great channel Takashi! Very informative and great for a person looking to learn more about Japanese culture and customs.
Another fun video. Thanks Takashii!
Another great video and insight to dating and relationships.
Carolyn & Shota have such a similar story to mine and my Japanese boyfriend! I met him when he visited my university in America, and I also moved to Japan eventually. We’ve been together for 7ish years now?
A lot of people tend to forget Asian-Americans or Asian-Canadians also count as foreigners when it comes to “Japanese-Foreigner” couples ahaha. My facial features can be similar to a Japanese girl’s, but the culture I grew up with is sooooo different.
This video was so sweet I was smiling through the whole video :D
I just found your videos and really enjoy your content! My dad served a 2 year mission to Japan before I was born and I have always wanted to visit the country. I can't wait to visit one day.
your videos are great! wonderful job!!
"Attitude of enjoying the differences,
Just because it's different it doesn't mean it's bad.
We can enjoy the differences & we believe in each other to grow."
Well said 6:06 👏😊
The first couple reminds me so much of my relationship with my wife. She is Korean and I'm from Texas, but we met at grad school in Kentucky. I was so impressed with her intelligence and ability to understand such complicated assignments in English after she had only lived in America a few years. After visiting her family in Seoul I realized our cultural differences were actually an asset to our relationship, because these differences require you to learn from each other on a daily basis and as the first couple stated you can't have a fixed mindset. International couples have to commit to a growth mindset, which is incredibly healthy in the long run and a huge benefit is that you never get bored.
This is a great video. Good job 👍🏻
Nice video! Could you do a travel tips video about Japan? Like what places you must visit if you're here for vacation...
Omg, the first couple was so cute, I definitely understand why Haruki was smitten with her when he first saw her, They both seem so intelligent and both being bilingual is definitely a pro. I like how the Boyfriend of the 2nd couple was interested in Living in Canada, Dating cross-culturally definitely requires growth and communication on both sides.
This episode was particularly interesting!
Wonderful video! It really shows that each person and their lives are unique, and that little choices can lead to big changes as long as you are open-minded and honest :)
Before moving to Japan I didn't really have any preferences, but the japanese guys I meet now are all really nice and easy to talk to, so it's definetely changing
Nanna nice to meet you again 😊 it has been a while lol 😃
These couples were utterly cute and I also loved the advice of the first couple.
That was so fun listening to their stories 😁 rooting for them all to have wonderful lives together ❤
I love your videos Takashi! You're the man. You have such a chill, approachable vibe when you interact with your guests. It's made me really want to go visit!
I wonder if you would be interested in interviewing foreigners and experiences in Japan for the first time
Cutie couples!!! Especially the first one they're so in love 💗 that's a lot of effort! their eyes glow when they look at each other too ✨ This was nice thank you!
友情を自分の中に保つことは不可能であり、あなたの心や他の人に触れることができる限り常に広がります...あなたが気にしないのであれば私たちは友達になれますか
The Aomori/Russian couple were definitely the most interesting.
I loved 💕how straightforward and sincere she is in sharing her experience in Japan. 15:46
The discomfort between TAKASHii and the husband was very evident in their silent but obvious body language. That was very Cool. Both guys were in "Stealth" mode 🥷as in.. "You're going to edit✂️ that out right?" ... Very cute and cool couple.
I didn't get what you're talking about
He didn’t edit it out…
Very sweet first couple! Good job. Keep it up!
The world may seem on fire right now yet watching this video instills hope. Thanks so much, Takashii ❤
One of my favorite video's so far.
Love is an UNIVERSAL LANGUAGE 💞
It doesn't matter the size, the color, or the clothes you wear, but what you truly feel in your heart 💖
another fascinating insight into how people's minds work. keep them coming.
Very nice. All of the couples are so lovely!
Thanks for this video
As a kiwi woman married to a Japanese man it's always interesting for me to see interviews with other international couples and hear about their experiences 😊
This was such a great topic! Hope you do more like again💕
Hmm 🙄🙄
I'm K by name from Germany, where are you from ??
Glad to see that they’re still together! Saw their first interview a year ago. Really rooting for them.
I just want to say I absolutely love this channel. I love learning more about Japanese culture and just seeing how they think.
my parents were a long distance relationship (america and greece), albeit in a time well before social media or the internet, so the idea of long distance is pretty okay with me, but even with that, the way covid inserted itself into the first story sounds so excruciating, i don't know if i could bear it
major respect to all the couples for coming together and using their differences as a way to better each other. love to see it
(also, great video as always!)
Loved the last couple. Her Japanese is impeccable.
They were all so cute together-
but especially the last couple allmost had me tear - you could realy feel their genuine love for each other!
I love the story of the last couple, it is amazing how the Japanese guy was opened minded, even though he doesn’t have experience abroad. Thank you for this interview!
The Chinese-Canadian woman is very pretty.
I agree she's gorgeous 😍