15 STEPS TO REAL SELF-CARE | no spend, real results & proven habits
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1. journalling
2. energy givers amd takers
3. plan out the week, schedule and time block everything on sunday. plan out ur family time and downtime as well.
4. self care menu:deep breaths, songs, journal, enjoy mundane moments, changing little things, changing ur perspective of everyday things, looking back at old pics, choosing what u want from ever situation.
5. internal work- therapy, shadow work, manifesting, taking actions, rewiring ur brain.
6. alingning who u want to be and who you are.
7. 80:20 nourishment. 80%healthy 20%whatever u like.
8: Your needs change . Keep a video diary . What went well today ? Watch yourself progress . See yourself smiling/crying . Write a letter to urself . Jot down things you wanna do example: dance class in six months write it in your calendar now so u have a reminder in 6 months .
9: Techniques to regulate emotions. Choose how you feel. You can eat chocolate, dancing, 20min walk etc
10: Read
11: Burning the letter . Or tear it out . Write it to the person who hurt you .
12: Movement . Choose any form of movement
13 : Slow mornings. Slow movements . 45 mins just to urself .
14: Romanticizing life. Cup of coffee . I get to put on an outfit .
15: Make urself the commitment . Commit to it regardless if u feel tired . You do it for everyone when ur drained but not for yourself.
thanks queen spending money has been normalised in the self care world but that's just a way to capitalise on people feeling bad about themselves, real self care is free 💕
Yeah most of those self-care contents are not realistic. I'm glad she's speaking out about it. You don't really have to apply multiple products on your skin, buy expensive stuff, paying for gym membership just to exercise etc.
Amen ! 🙌🏼
@@nancycortes6110 bless you to!
"Self-care is a way of being, not buying" WORDD ‼️
Waking up 1h earlier so i could have a slow breakfast and have some journaling, affirmations and meditation has made this period, writing all day my thesis to graduate from uni, SO SO SO SO much enjoyable ❤ i would wake up HAPPY because i knew the first thing to come would be taking care of me 😭❤️
That’s adorable ❤
God bless ❤
My calming therapy ❤️❤️
Here’s the timestamps ->
1. 3:14 Journaling 📖
2. 5:15 Doing things for your futur self ❤
3. 6:33 Organisation & planning 🤛
4. 8:28 Self care menu✍
5. 10:52 Inner work ( DO IT !)
6. 11:29 Identify your time
7. 13:05 80/20 technique
8. 14:34 Your needs change !
9. 16:20 Regulate your emotions💓
10. 18:23 Reading
11. 19:17 "Burning the letter"
12. 20:54 Movements for mental health not apparence
13. 22:21 Move slower baby
14. 23:57 Romanticize life
15. 24:42 Commitment
Thank you❤
Thank you, this helped alot
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@@julyjisa my pleasure 💓
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i read this quote which inspires me alot that says -" from me to me: anything for you queen".❤
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Ain't no way im first comment ❤gurl i want to thank you... because of you im finally loving myself despite having narcissistic parents...i love you so much 💥😍
Keep up ❤
My favorite selfcare tip is to actually make the commitment. I watch so many videos on improving my life, but I struggle to do it. And this is my sign to be there for myself🫡 and slay this year💅
yess start with something small, like tiny, maybe that could be reading a page or journaling a sentence - i know they seem small but once you do them everyday day you’ll want to do more
@@humaira2347 thanks, i am trying that! It seems to build confidence and consistancy before building the habit
What i love about Tam's videos is how almost scientific they feel. This approach of explaining every single advice and idea, clarifying the processes that lead us to point A and what helps us get to point B, etc. This makes me feel like i'm really smart, almost like i'm watching an academic lecture (but fun!) Tam is literally so smart! You go girl❤ Lots of love to you and your audience (including you who is reading this rn😊)
Self care
Journal
Pull back in state from sadness
Make routine
Do inner work
U won't change, if u dnt work
New habits, new cycles
Sleep early
80-200 food (high vibe, happier, myself)
Eat healthy, less
Find wt makes u happy n sad n take action
Do wt u decided to do (rise self esteem)
I usually prefer doing a weekend reset where I do half tasks on Saturday and half on Sunday
They literally make me feel like I have a hold over my life and indeed a very productive yet calm form of selfcare
I love it so much:)
Can you make a video on how you set up your jewellery business and what you did. I really want to set up businesses and knowing your experiences ✨
I second this!
Me too!
I wanna know too
Me too!
Yes and invite Marnie to contribute to the talk
I’ve always done video journals instead of paper and pen journal because my hands get exhausted from my job every day so if anyone hates writing try a little personal rant vlog to look back too it’s my favorite
facts. i make voice recordings and sometimes videos. it also gives me a check of my voice and facial expressions
Guys have just noticed only 5k to 1M!! we're DOING IT!!
I'm just grateful to Tam and to all of us who have build community, thank youuuuu❤❤
I'm already seeing Tam with that CZcams silver thing( sorry i donno what's called) written 1,000,000 subscribers🎉🎉
Thank you TAM❤
I'm favoured, $22K every week! I can now give back to the locals in my community and also support God's work and the church. God bless America.
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I like to use my journal to reflect on what happened in my day, what I thought and felt throughout the day, and what I have to look forward to tomorrow. I set out goals and write out my plans to reach those goals and reflect on when I reach them and how I feel. Sometimes I vent and sometimes I just show grattitude. Whatever is on my mind, my journal is there to recieve it and it has been therapeutic and allowed me to truly make changes in my life and take care of me. It is the best thing I ever decided to do aside from therapy for my mental wellbeing✨️ I just finished my first book of 2024 and I am onto my next
Tamanna but why don't you post on your Spotify "Tam Kaur" channel anymore? We can't listen to these videos on the go now😢😢😢
I didn't use to like the way that all of these "Pinterest girlies" could spend so much just on their self care alone.
And due to all this influence, I'm pretty sure that many of us felt that we didn't "fit in" this type of a system, to the extent that I felt like I just wasn't MADE for self care, or it's not made for me, or that I m just not capable of doing that..
But let me tell you Tam, the journey-from learning how to love myself to how to treat myself my way, u've been THE GREATEST HELP!!!
I look up to uh so so muchhh, and I love you like the many of us🥺❤️
I never thought selfcare can be done without spending bucks , so I used to think that selfcare is shit , when I'll have my own money I'll do it but ALL THANKS TO TAM to bringing up such topic!
@@ayushitripathi9476 and THAT'S motivation, isn't it??? To be able to do smtg rn, but also to be able to do the same thing in a better way when you have it all??!!?! U GO GIRL! SO PROUD OF UH FR!!🔥🙌🥹❤️
TTPD and Tam's video in the same day omg such a luckiest day ✨️♥️🤌
what's your fav song? Mine is SL,L
Omggg frrrrr
I can't choose, cuz every song is really really good but well ig I'll choose Guilty as sin
so so random but you saved me when I was going through it girl! I appreciate your videos so much never stop making them!!
Good for you! Tam's content really helped me out too. I literally pulled myself out of a depressive episode thanks to stumbling upon her videos at the right time😊
Same💕 I'm so proud of ourselves 🫶🏽
TOTALLY AGREE WITH POINT NO.12
"WORKOUT BCZ YOU LOVE UR BODY & NOT BCZ YOU HATE IT"!
Self care is creating a life you don’t want to escape from.
My fav self care is working put just to feel strong hoewever the way you decide to feel it
I deserve to take care of myself. The fact that I don’t have a lot of friends the moment doesn’t diminish that at all, because deep down I know it isn’t my fault and just due to the circumstances.
You are literally a God send. Your videos are as good, if not better than therapy. Since discovering your channel a month ago, you have honestly helped me transform my life/mindset into an absolute dream. I cannot wait for your book to be released. You deserve all the success and happiness in the world, as you have changed the lives of many.
Thank you Tam ❤
Yayyy!! 1 million subscribers!!!!! Congratulations Tam. You really deserve it! Happy for youuuuuu
Tam, you’ve helped me SO MUCH with school and self-love, YOURE THE BESTTT 💗💗💗
It reminded me of this quote "your perception of me is a reflection of you and my reaction to you is an awareness of me"
Came up in my recommendation that you posted & wow you’re glowing !! I haven’t sat to watch this yet but just want to say I’m loving the natural soft girl look❤❤❤❤❤ so beautiful
Congratulations Tam on 1 MILLION subscribers!!!!! Love your channel, thank you for all you do keep being amazing.
Literally needed to hear this today. Avoiding journaling and falling off of my self care the past few weeks has really put me out or sorts!
Such a perfect timing with this video! Thank you Tam
Tam, you were one of the few people I listened to when I was at my lowest. I want you to know that you're not only one of the most empathetic and emotionally mature person I've seen but also one of the most intelligent ones. We all love you so much 😽. Thanks for showing me there's always hope ☺️. I truly love and respect you a lot.
I have an idea for your content: add clips of yourself doing the things you mention in your tips. For example: if you cooked a yummy breakfast of yourself, show us clips of you doing it. I would have suggested you adding clips of others doing it while you talk but I figured that you enjoy a certain aesthetic in your videos. ❤
I'm so glad you addressed this 🙌🏼 so many people copy and paste, that they don't realize their 'unique-ness'. We need to customize our lives accordingly ❤🌟
5.000 subscribers until 1.000.000 omggggg I am so excited!!! So proud of you! Love uuuu ❤️❤️
THIS WAS GOLD!!! 👏I really loved the commitment part of it! I never thought about it that way, but it was spot-on!
Such a wonderful coincidence! Just today I burnt this emotional letter to a friend who is no longer in contact for good. I feel so relieved, makes me believe that I’ve burnt hurtful memories ❤
THE TIMING I LOVE U TAM
tam you are the best and you already know it!!!! what a queen, tysm for this video, so helpful❤️
Thank you so much, Tam. This is a gem for someone who wants to turn their life around but doesn't know how and where to start. You're saving a life.
This is amazing! I was looking at my old pictures and it made me feel good. I didn’t even notice it’s a form of self care.
I'm so glad I found Tam's content. You have to have a book and pen when watching her videos. She always has fresh, very informative content every single time and I'm here for it. Thank you Tam for making videos for us.🤍 You are changing lives.
This is the best self care video I ever watched on CZcams! Thank you Tam for this!
I was just watching your "How to find your passion?" Video and this dropped. Love your videos ❤
self care to me also means coming back to ur videos whenever i feel like i need to
Thank you for explaining these steps in such a clear and practical way!
Queen just posted to save all of us i love you😭
HAPPY 1M TAM AHHH ILYSMM
Journal has been a major game changer in my life, and as wall as reading books. Sometimes I jealous you of how mature you are, and i honestly don't know how to describe you. I watched this video at the right time because i can't control my stress and i got a lot of ideas from you.
A Bunch of thank you for your help .
CONGRATULATIONS ON THE 1M SUBS TAM!!
Video starts at 3:06
thank youuu 💕
@@samara.dadonnn 🤗
@@samara.dadonnn 💗
i just found your videos when i searched up how to get to know yourself because all along i just hated the space in my head and rn since im alone after such a long time i feel very lonely and anxious all the time. Came across your videos and girlll you have no idea how much motivation i have received just watching one video of yours. Im really looking forward to going on a self healing journey with you one day at a time. Thank you so much for what youre doing! All love
i watched this video after work sitting in front of a river, sun was ever so slightly shining (uk weather lol) but i can say that this is one of my fav things to do when im stressed out !!
CONGRATULATIONS ON 1 MILLION TAMMMMMM
Girl I called off work today cuz this week has been extremely hard and I felt it in my bones to just take a sick day. I woke up took one of those “take care of everything” shower, then I see your notification. It was literally perfect timing! Thank you so much Tam 💖
TAM YOU'RE ON FIRE GURL!🌸❤️ Your timing couldn't be more accurate!
Thank you so much. I needed a reminder not to burn myself out, and take time outside the gym for some extra hobbies I said I'd love to do, but always tend to push aside. It's great to come see your videos again!
CONGRATS ON 1M!!!!!!!!! YOU DESERVE IT SM OMG
Soo useful!! I'm going through burnout I need to practise the 80 20 rule. The "things that make me feel good" sounds perfect!!
I’ve been trying to do self care and work hard recently,but kinda stuck in the middle and lost my power and don’t know which part is wrong ,but thanks for your tips,I find peace and kinda regain hope.🌹❤️You’re an angel.
Thank you so much for this video Tam! I've been sabotaging myself for the past weeks and I realized that it's because I'm getting fed up with my routine which I started doing since I was senior high and now, I'm in college.
I already experience many things, bad and good that my past self can't even imagine that she would experience but here we are that's why I needed a new routine for my current self since I'm no longer my SHS self.
this makeup look makes you look amazing Tam, thanks for the videos, love them so much, keep up the great work !
Tam , you are the only reason i feel so good...i feel alive watching your videos !!❤
You are my absolute fave CZcamsr. What was I doing before 🫶🏽😭. Can you make a blog where you show how exactly you structure you days. And give tips to us? And how you also finish your weekly schedule.
her second channel has all of it
Follow her vlogs channel!
@@charlottemlld Her vlog channel is awesome I wanted more in depth
Congrats on 1M subs!!!!!!!!! I love your vids❤️
I did not know I needed this video as much as I did, Thanks Tam ❤ I feel better just listening to you.
You're a queen Tam! Your videos have helped me soo much in all areas of my life!! Could you please make a video on time management!
all the love
Queen has posted 🎉❤ the energy she gives me is actually insane
You motivate me a whole lot! I was procrastinating when you posted This 3days ago i kept saying to my self ever since i got the notification of this video that " I'll watch it tomorrow and the tomorrow never ends 😄" but i decided no matter how busy i am today I'll watch this video now i did and im happy cause your self care tips are so real!! Thank you 💙✨
Hi Tam,
It's been two months since I followed your advice from various videos and concluded that I matter too. Watching your boosting self-esteem videos legit helped me out in multiple fields. Thanks, gurll🥰
Im so glad a younger woman is discussing the need to look into holistic self care that doesn’t involve a lot of spending. teach on the 9 pillars of self care for women on a healing journey and it includes so many facets of being that we aren’t taught and don’t learn. Loved this video Tam!
I really love your new make up, you are totally glowing and your natural beauty is shining🥹✨Ofc, I loved your usual make up too, but I’m here to appreciate and admire mew side of you and your beauty🫶 I love you my queen.
I can totally relate to the journaling .. whenever I have something going on which I can handle i write down everything in it even and bang my mind feels relaxed.. i write both happy and sad and try to motivate me through it ❣️
I really like the idea to list things that make me happy and things that make me unhappy. I started to do it while watching the video and it made me very happy. Thank you!! and congrats on your 1M subscribers. You deserve this :)
Thank you so much for the reminder that self care is different for everyone :). I also wanted to say ur makeup looks absolutely gorgeous!
The last step 15 finally doing it is what the push I needed ❤
Yayyy mother posted 😭❤️
Tbh Tam, you're literally life changing and I'm so happy that i discovered you right after my discard breakup from my avoidant ex.. exactly when i needed this the most and I've honestly improved so so much.
Also, gonna pre order the book asap.. reallyyyy excited
Congratulations on 1M Tam Kaur!
Your videos are making my life better, grateful for the content you are putting out❤
Both our Queens Tam kaur and Liz posted their videos and its literally heaven!😊❤❤
Wait wait wait m the Snapchat video diary is literally something I’ve been doing for over a year now *mind blown* I literally woke up to you so much and I cannot believe you also used to do this.
Thank you for the vid! These are some great tips, my favourites included getting up early for yourself and looking back at old pictures :)
Oh my god🙃 this girl gonna make me the first ever successful girl of my whole family✨it's just i feel like i got that big sis that i always wanted 💙 luv uuuuuuuu♾️
OMG! My best elder sister is here with an amazing tea! Thanks Queen😍😘❤❤
I truly needed this video
Tam is back I missed your videos girl 💕 self care can be freeing and relaxing.
Could you please make a next video on dealing with toxic co workers, boss and classmates?
Thank you tam❤ Can’t wait for your 1milli video!
When I see the bubble baths and going to places that involves money I stress out due to me never having enough so seeing this actually! Made me feel alittle better more of reassurance due to it being mental self care :')
Omg tammmmm green looks so good on you!!! Slay queen 🎀💅💋💗
at 22:43 how i needed to hear this !!! cause up until now i feel like im that friend of yours
Our girl reached 1 mil!! Congrats!❤❤
Mam thanku so much .....in my very tough time where i m suffering from fear ....u helps me alot .... now i m in my healing journey
Congratulations on 1 million subscribers!!! 😍
your makeup looks amazing Tam
tam, your videos are amazing and literally so helpful 💜
Tam, you look SO good with this makeup style
whenever i look at you i feel so much eased and i love you so much because you truly changed me.......