Become The Black Cat & have him chase you like a Golden Retriever.

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  • @oambitiousone7100
    @oambitiousone7100 Před měsícem +1105

    I have a rescued black cat . She is easily spooked, so when she does approach and settle down next to me, it feels like a gift. I just need to personify that cat energy.

    • @loredanafetescu
      @loredanafetescu Před měsícem +35

      She already chose you, you’ve already attained it, congratulations

    • @vanetheone8101
      @vanetheone8101 Před měsícem +16

      It's ironic how the whole video talks about chasing the cat but you yourself know that chasing it would spook it, and understand that it has to come to you on its own

    • @MailaSelvon
      @MailaSelvon Před měsícem +2

      Its freaking me out lol bc a black cat just crosser my way out when i was sitting where me and that man im trynna get with use to hang out.

    • @Ceylon727
      @Ceylon727 Před měsícem +2

      😅❤❤❤❤❤Yes

    • @marcoi7035
      @marcoi7035 Před 29 dny

      @@vanetheone8101💯

  • @swatibaruah103
    @swatibaruah103 Před měsícem +986

    “Gosh I bored myself by trying to act like a golden retriever woman” lol

    • @lou15176
      @lou15176 Před měsícem +22

      It’s exhausting! 😂 I can’t even do it anymore. I don’t have the strength anyways mentally or physically. But I’m also 48. In my younger years I needed this info x

    • @MrsBrandiSherman
      @MrsBrandiSherman Před měsícem +8

      Same!😅 I wish I had heard this years ago! I would have saved myself so much struggle!!!

    • @lou15176
      @lou15176 Před měsícem +2

      @@MrsBrandiSherman 😂😂 unfortunately Margarita with still in her little minky years and the internet didn’t exist. I’m talking like I needed this as a 18 year old 😂 x

    • @andisiwepikisa3038
      @andisiwepikisa3038 Před měsícem

      😂😂😂

    • @MrsBrandiSherman
      @MrsBrandiSherman Před měsícem

      @@lou15176 🤣🤣🤣

  • @jacque8236
    @jacque8236 Před měsícem +354

    It seems women are natural attracters of love and abundance when we relax and know our worth. Everyone woman I've met who's in their black cat energy seems at peace, not only in relationships but in life.

  • @dswelam
    @dswelam Před měsícem +645

    Him: “How come you’re always busy”
    Me: “Cause my hamster needs his toenails painted” 🐹 💅🏻

    • @selimaydn8758
      @selimaydn8758 Před měsícem +2

      if that was the case you would not be writing this under a 30 min video loool

    • @karlatrevino860
      @karlatrevino860 Před 29 dny +1

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @Tionaintown876
      @Tionaintown876 Před 28 dny +11

      @@selimaydn8758What’s your excuse?

    • @TheRainbowMagi
      @TheRainbowMagi Před 23 dny

      period.

    • @if7363
      @if7363 Před 21 dnem +5

      You don't need to explain or justify - just can't, and that's it

  • @fateema.assegaff
    @fateema.assegaff Před měsícem +249

    "You've got alot of things going on in your life and he's an addition to it", love this one!!

  • @acd1168
    @acd1168 Před měsícem +646

    As a former anxiously attached woman, I had to do all of these in order to become more secure today. Great tips!

    • @Olga0265
      @Olga0265 Před měsícem +8

      Could you please tell how long did it take for you to stop being anxiously attached? Thank you

    • @acd1168
      @acd1168 Před měsícem +16

      @@Olga0265 It took 2.5 years of consistent therapy (2 times a week for 1 hour each session). Most of the work I did was outside of therapy. So my therapist taught me coping mechanisms and I had to do the work outside of therapy. I still have traces of anxious attachment but that’s normal because it will always linger around.

    • @sneha-qn4jn
      @sneha-qn4jn Před měsícem

      ​@@Olga0265 if you don't mind, could you please tell what was the work you did?

    • @AllUserNamesAreUsed
      @AllUserNamesAreUsed Před měsícem +5

      This is possible?? 🥹 I just talked to the guy I liked the other day and basically cried the rest of the night because I realized he will find a secure girl while I might always be alone if I dont figure this out 😒

    • @acd1168
      @acd1168 Před měsícem +12

      @@AllUserNamesAreUsed Of course it is possible. It was hard but it’s worth it because I was tired of feeling like I was crazy.

  • @allysegraben2196
    @allysegraben2196 Před měsícem +465

    'youve got crochet lessons and you are painting your hamsters toenails' im DEAD!!!!

    • @la4894
      @la4894 Před měsícem +10

      I literally just screamed at this part😂😂

    • @ofacid3439
      @ofacid3439 Před měsícem +1

      RIP in peace

    • @borednow
      @borednow Před měsícem +13

      I need to remember this sentence for the next time someone invites me to something I dont want to go to hahahahha

    • @graceyeo7161
      @graceyeo7161 Před měsícem +5

      I screamed at this part too wahahahha!

    • @hollyroseXOX
      @hollyroseXOX Před 28 dny +1

      😂😂😂😂😂

  • @jessica11381
    @jessica11381 Před měsícem +76

    Selling stops at 7:10

  • @tydyecat3042
    @tydyecat3042 Před 5 dny +6

    In my current relationship I started as a black cat but quickly became a golden retriever and I am becoming the black cat again. We'll see how things go

  • @michael-gg2rh
    @michael-gg2rh Před měsícem +555

    A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.

    • @laurawheeler-px6oz
      @laurawheeler-px6oz Před měsícem +1

      There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without him, I love him so much. wish I can get him back I can do anything to have him back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

    • @michael-gg2rh
      @michael-gg2rh Před měsícem +2

      Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Shelly renee white

    • @laurawheeler-px6oz
      @laurawheeler-px6oz Před měsícem

      This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks

    • @michael-gg2rh
      @michael-gg2rh Před měsícem

      You wont regret it

    • @marzemarcel9529
      @marzemarcel9529 Před 29 dny +2

      How rough is rough? What kind of hurtful... abusive words have been spoken from either party?

  • @user-ur2fr8yn4b
    @user-ur2fr8yn4b Před 17 dny +44

    1. Learn about femininity and let them chase
    2. Her emotions are active not reactive
    13:42 jornal but don’t just complain
    3. Don’t close anything
    15:13
    Be the observer
    4. U should be slightly out of his league cause u are the prize
    5. 18:50 they are not mama
    Don’t control don’t constantly ask how a man is feeling
    6.don’t try to change people.let them be and dicide if u want to be with them
    7. 20:35 don’t need to make them happy to feel happy yourself.
    8. Stop asking if people like you and start asking if you like them
    21:30
    Make a list why u like him, is it enough?
    9. Don’t wait for his call if he didn’t schedule already move on.
    10. Don’t nag. Take away energy 26:56
    11. Life is so short and precious.
    Don’t be afraid to loose anyone

  • @thehawttomboy
    @thehawttomboy Před měsícem +216

    Black Cat energy is not allowing anyone who tries to instill fear and/or makes you anxious. It truly is about not allowing anyone to take you out of your emotions. If there's a vision you see for yourself, even if it's not written on paper, but you visually see it... you go for it.

    • @RedPilledAsFuck
      @RedPilledAsFuck Před 20 dny

      wouldn’t it be more like not allowing anyone to control your emotions? i’m having trouble understanding “take you out of your emotions”

  • @arinaoliin4807
    @arinaoliin4807 Před měsícem +153

    I was a black cat until I fell in love. I’m trying to be more reserved but at the end I behave as a gold retriever and start chasing him. It’s really hard to control

    • @sylwia0123
      @sylwia0123 Před měsícem +39

      I'm like that too... and I really don't want to be the one chasing him, it's humiliating...

    • @adabelinda
      @adabelinda Před 29 dny +65

      Change his name in your phone to "Stay In Your Power" or "BCDC" (Black Cats Don't Chase) or something that empowers you.
      When you pull up his name to call or text it will remind you to act in the interest of your self respect rather than your fear 🙏🏾

    • @chisomoffor6877
      @chisomoffor6877 Před 27 dny +6

      @@adabelindanow this is good advice , I shall be doing this if I feel my golden retriever coming out

    • @bellabriggs1393
      @bellabriggs1393 Před 27 dny +19

      Exactly ! We can just be a black cat when we have no feelings at all for the man .

    • @jud2152
      @jud2152 Před 27 dny

      @@adabelindaI like this advice

  • @karenmilford7809
    @karenmilford7809 Před měsícem +114

    I loved that she said "Stop. Hammer time." So unexpectedly funny 😂

  • @iconic860
    @iconic860 Před měsícem +104

    I’m watching this video over and over again and other ones of yours until I break out of my golden retriever ways and fix my attachment style ! No more calling texting getting ghosted and crying over a guy and losing sleep over someone that isn’t even bothered to send a simple text back ! Goodness what was I thinking🙅🏻‍♀️🐈‍⬛

    • @Partofmylife24
      @Partofmylife24 Před 23 dny +2

      Omg sis same ❤ I’ll keep watching these videos until I’m done with the golden retriever era

    • @aannwwsalam
      @aannwwsalam Před 22 dny +1

      Time we take our energy back and focus on ourselves 💪🏼

    • @iconic860
      @iconic860 Před 18 dny +1

      @@aannwwsalam yesss🔥🔥🔥

    • @2011cindirella
      @2011cindirella Před 10 dny

      Same as me I was obsessing with this guy. I need my power back. We can do this, no more texting first and get frustrated

    • @iconic860
      @iconic860 Před 10 dny

      @@2011cindirella EXACTLY!!!👏👏👏

  • @rawnaktasnim1590
    @rawnaktasnim1590 Před měsícem +114

    this lipstick shade really suits you

  • @ds3380
    @ds3380 Před 2 dny +3

    > respect your cycle moods bodies signals
    > be confident in being alone
    > do no be responsive
    > Date a little below your league because you are the Prize slightly out of the league
    > do not ask them how you feel all the time
    > read more on feminine energy
    > nurture rather than mother do not control
    > do not change people be people who they are
    > ask if you like them
    > have a life man is just an addition
    >do not nag
    > don't be afraid to lose the jerks

  • @edwardclarkson-ph1kl
    @edwardclarkson-ph1kl Před 9 dny +233

    Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her

    • @Zacharychampion-yy3nt
      @Zacharychampion-yy3nt Před 9 dny

      its always difficult to let go of you love, i was in a similar situation my wife for 12 years left me.i couldnt just let her go, so i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back

    • @edwardclarkson-ph1kl
      @edwardclarkson-ph1kl Před 9 dny

      wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?

    • @Zacharychampion-yy3nt
      @Zacharychampion-yy3nt Před 9 dny

      Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @edwardclarkson-ph1kl
      @edwardclarkson-ph1kl Před 9 dny

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

    • @MA-ey9bf
      @MA-ey9bf Před 7 dny +4

      It’s a scam bro. Come on now, don’t trust this crap, seriously you know better than this!!

  • @878Amy
    @878Amy Před měsícem +130

    Love this! I really appreciated the example of when a man asks what's wrong you're different and you say "Yeah I'm different. I don't like that you did that. It is what it is. For now that's me. When I'm over it you'll know. That's how I feel" GOLD. I needed that.

    • @Paulina-yv7go
      @Paulina-yv7go Před měsícem +10

      Yes! I would love more real life examples!

    • @atroxfortuna
      @atroxfortuna Před měsícem +4

      @@Paulina-yv7gomy ex husband would ogle women in front of me. That’s when my energy would shift and he’d ask and I’d say this 👆🏼and he’d respond by chasing my approval of him.

  • @aixaquinones8937
    @aixaquinones8937 Před měsícem +28

    I was feeling off this days. Like out of balance. Today the guy I was dating for a Year told that he doesn't want a commitment. I was starting to write that long texts when i Think "i Will See this video first". Thanks You so much for your wisdom. I feel peace now.

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 Před 10 dny +1

      Stop sleeping with him. He's not your husband but you stop giving him wife benefits..who knows?

  • @Nocturnal_Lorena
    @Nocturnal_Lorena Před měsícem +117

    The funny part is that I was naturally born this way & I was forced to become a golden retriever by the world, even the women in my life! I suffered so much. I went back to being myself during my late 20's since I wasn'tdependenton my family anymore & life just keeps getting sweeter! The same women are jealous now but still refuse to just stop controlling everything lol. I'm so glad you exist! I feel sane, supported & understood. Thank you, God bless you! 💖

  • @barbarawiacek6557
    @barbarawiacek6557 Před měsícem +59

    I hope this advice applies mainly to the dating stages of a relationship, and how to keep your standards and self esteem. I think being all the time like this in a marriage means something is wrong. A marriage is a connection of souls. You cannot be close with someone in this defensive energy. This behaviour means to me you are cautious about letting somebody into your space. Luckily not all men are out there to use you. Some of them are wonderful and caring!

    • @nile9150
      @nile9150 Před 23 dny +5

      Completely agree, you can make good husband go away by this mindset in marriage

    • @TimeMovie93150
      @TimeMovie93150 Před 19 dny +1

      @@nile9150 agreed

    • @purebysaiima
      @purebysaiima Před 2 dny +1

      No. My husband has started pampering and giving attention after I am behaving like a black cat. Black cat energy has taken me several notches up nit just with my husband but with my girls, too.

  • @queensarahforever7679
    @queensarahforever7679 Před měsícem +40

    You make me feel like a queen each time i listen to you..❤❤❤ I'm a black cat now. I used to be the other one. And it's true, when i got focus on my goals, its when more men take interests on me. I'm married now. It feels so good to feel like a prize.. Women, get busy on your dreams❤ don't make a man a center of your world.. Let them be crazy over you❤️

  • @lastarrwicks3067
    @lastarrwicks3067 Před 19 dny +12

    i just found your channel i am in a 30 year marriage(high school sweethearts) & I have been the golden retriever the whole time! I am tired... your videos are so helpful, ty...Ladies, its never too late to choose yourself and be the black cat that you were born to be

  • @jessgirr1728
    @jessgirr1728 Před měsícem +101

    A friend and I got into a debate over this recently, she said my ideas were 'old fashioned'. Because I said I won't make the first move on a man. She was basically defending her right to be in her masculine energy- which of course is her choice. However...her relationship is dull and she says she feels no passion from her man. She's complained about that for years. Shocker.

    • @anki3336
      @anki3336 Před měsícem +8

      I would not consider showing interest and letting a man know you like them to be a bad thing if that's considered to be like making a move. It could be passive with a smile or telling them you are cute etc. That's not making a move. Guys like when girls approach them in this way but after this the guy has to pick the ball and make the move and reciprocating and asking for a date/number etc.

    • @jessgirr1728
      @jessgirr1728 Před měsícem +9

      @@anki3336 I agree with you. A signal of interest is fine. She likes to 'change a guys mind' about her. Like actively pursue him. I won't do that as it doesn't feel good to me and you can end up with a lazy unmotivated man who doesn't feel passionately about you. Like said friends current relationship.

    • @lightsandstars
      @lightsandstars Před 23 dny +4

      @@jessgirr1728 you judge to much…

    • @cherrylane79
      @cherrylane79 Před 21 dnem +1

      Some guys don't ever send the first message.

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 Před 10 dny +2

      ​The best way to make a move is to smile and be warm. If he likes you and he's 'normal' he'll ask 4 a date.

  • @renata.7
    @renata.7 Před měsícem +103

    Perfect timing! 👑 I live in Croatia and it is currently 4pm. I just sat down on the couch with a coffee. Today you are my coffee buddy! 🥰☕🖤🐱

  • @MandyJRoss
    @MandyJRoss Před měsícem +95

    I'm just going to be a Unicorn 🦄💖

    • @sawsen2518
      @sawsen2518 Před měsícem +1

      😂😂

    • @riccibill-mp5eg
      @riccibill-mp5eg Před měsícem +1

      Hahahaha

    • @GoodVideos-ry5ie
      @GoodVideos-ry5ie Před měsícem

      There are no unicorns, especially not when it comes to women. Most women are quite boring and bland. Fortunately for women, men do not expect much from them. Men do not chase, especially not high value men. Men do not want to waste their time and women are experts in wasting men's time. If women think that is going to change, they will wait in vain. Men will approach a woman once or twice, if he gets a no, it is over, he will never approach you again. The chasing that women are doing today, is towards chads and f#&k boys, and that is and has always been a waste of time. Chads are not marriage material and you are not going change that by being in a situationship with him for a month or two. The most important thing for a woman to figure out is how attractive she is - objectively (never ask your girlfriends). To do this you take a picture without makeup and ask random guys to rate you. Men are not like women, so they will actually be honest. Most women are average, a 5 out of 10. If you know your number subtract about 2 points, you are probably delusional. This woman who has this channel ie Margarita, she is a 4.5, just below average in my opinion. If she has managed to score a high value man, it must have been to a much older man or a man with confidence issues, or perhaps an Asian. When you know your attractivness number, you can target the guy who you deserve and not waste your time with guys who you don't deserve. A 5 should never go for anything more than a 6 (a guy you think is a 4). It is usually a good idea for a woman, in order to satisfy her hypergamy, to secure a man 1 point higher than herself. Finally, men value youth (below 27), beauty, fertility and purity (low body count 1-4). They do not give 2 sh!ts about your career, job or education. You are very welcome. The 7.

    • @lucidaandromeda
      @lucidaandromeda Před 15 dny

      🦄💕

    • @pegasusflameheart6479
      @pegasusflameheart6479 Před 7 dny

      Me too

  • @DuskDaimon
    @DuskDaimon Před měsícem +31

    I'm absolutely the 'black cat' by nature, at my core, but someone in the last year had started to bring out the worst, anxiously attached side of me. Now the more inconsistency & distance he gives me, the more I reconsider his presence in my life, and why I even liked him, or why I should want anything to do with him. This has been paining me as a form of self betrayal, "golden retriever" energy is not who I am, and I had been playing that role even though it feels awful and I honestly know better... ugh

    • @jud2152
      @jud2152 Před 27 dny +3

      I feel you

    • @de3207
      @de3207 Před 15 dny +1

      Be safe, you will never switch 100% on "golden retriever" energy. You are just experiencing the other side to find balance. Cant stay polarized ; life is about evolution, not stagnation.

    • @HoneybeeHearts52
      @HoneybeeHearts52 Před 12 dny +1

      Girl, same timeline. I forgot who I was, but I worked on getting back to myself. You'll learn the lessons you need, and you'll get back to self. Much love ❤

  • @viixkyy
    @viixkyy Před měsícem +254

    Really tho!! If a man aint chasing you like a puppy then he doesn’t really like you

    • @MakeUpTraffic
      @MakeUpTraffic Před měsícem +25

      Or he is a fboi.

    • @navscheiecoaching7800
      @navscheiecoaching7800 Před měsícem +28

      He may like you but doesn't want you.

    • @Harry-fk5of
      @Harry-fk5of Před měsícem +23

      If a woman makes me chase her I lose interest. It's boring and basic. I think showing mutual interest in each other is attractive. You don't give away too much too soon, you keep each other mutually interested. No chasing. Men need to know their worth, if they're chasing they probably don't.

    • @Harry-fk5of
      @Harry-fk5of Před měsícem

      @@drunkencitizen6168 Guys who chase women are insecure or have issues they need to deal with. Imo women who want guys to chase them are equally insecure

    • @Harry-fk5of
      @Harry-fk5of Před měsícem

      @@drunkencitizen6168 I agree. If a man's chasing a woman he either wants to bag a 'prize' for one night. OR he's insecure and doesn't know his worth. I feel like women (and men) who want to be chased are equally insecure and come at relationships with an angle of control/mind games from the outset i.e. Red flag.

  • @Sunnahlife7
    @Sunnahlife7 Před měsícem +80

    Hello moosy here 😂😂😂😂 you are so funny sometimes.

  • @milkamunozsaavedra8767
    @milkamunozsaavedra8767 Před 29 dny +18

    I feel like all my life I was dressing like a black cat for aesthetics because I like it but I wasn't embodying that energy, never realized that my personality was really like a golden retriever.... and this one was a HUGE call out because honestly, this makes so much sense now and I don't know what else should I add.

  • @OO-ct4hq
    @OO-ct4hq Před měsícem +47

    Girl you're the only person on youtube I'm not bored of watching again n again!

  • @CassieAfricanQueen
    @CassieAfricanQueen Před měsícem +20

    Black cats are sooo unbothered. I love this ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @magssilekova1274
    @magssilekova1274 Před měsícem +26

    Okay but the last part really is the most important.
    Because i have got this short life and I am worried why whoever is not replying and does not want to commit, gosh it is actually so boring.
    (The funniest part is the second I pay attention to my life and not his endless bullshit, he comes back in the fastest way possible :)))) )

  • @SarahMcLain1
    @SarahMcLain1 Před měsícem +51

    Just over here painting my hamster’s toenails 🐹💅 😂👏

  • @noopuradhika
    @noopuradhika Před 22 dny +4

    This video has truly brought in a different kind of energy in me because now that I think of it, I was always the "Golden retriever" and never a "Black Cat". I have now found that hidden divine feminine energy within me. Thank you for sharing :)

  • @lou15176
    @lou15176 Před měsícem +9

    I think the part about resisting the temptation to close the gap is very important…..Because sometimes we start of with the black cat 🐈‍⬛ energy but we can’t maintain it as we think if its TOO hard for him or too much chasing he will lose interest. It’s difficult. All the time online we are hearing “don’t chase, don’t react” but until you can fully be in this energy and actually feel it in your body, then you will always believe that a man won’t chase you x

  • @__.angel1111.__
    @__.angel1111.__ Před 26 dny +18

    11:15 How to get chased
    1.
    Be in your feminine energy
    Get enough sleep
    Be in tune with herself
    2.
    Be active not reacting
    Be comfortable with who you are
    Keep things to yourself
    "What are we?"
    "What does this relationship mean?"
    Don't ask questions like this
    He needs to take the initiative
    3.
    He needs to see you as the prize
    21:22

  • @LouOutta92
    @LouOutta92 Před 21 dnem +5

    I love the message here, and want to mention the possibility of a Golden Retriever finding another Golden Retriever, or the black cat finding another black cat...because I am quite like the black cat, and I'm definitely not into Golden Retriever energy. It still feels like a game of chase, and I'd rather have energy that matches mine.

  • @cecehectori9579
    @cecehectori9579 Před měsícem +19

    Thank you Margarita! My mood was low and anxious but after listening to the new episode my mood is light and hopeful. You feel like a safe mentor or friend and your vibe makes me feel so nice

  • @joshliam1967
    @joshliam1967 Před měsícem +42

    I've been the golden retriever for a long time and I'm over it, watching this video to learn how to be the black cat instead.

    • @yudollia
      @yudollia Před měsícem +5

      Noooo we need more puppy boys. Who else is gonna worship me. Yall are my type

    • @SS-rg5di
      @SS-rg5di Před měsícem +1

      Sounds like black cat is an avoidant energy and golden retriever is the anxious attachment energy
      So... A typical anxious avoidant trap... Isn't it ???

    • @joshliam1967
      @joshliam1967 Před měsícem +1

      @@SS-rg5di I'm a fearful avoidant so have elements of both, but in the last year have been working hard to heal both my anxious and avoidant elements of my attachment style. It's been amazing how much of a difference that's made in my life, and I'm starting to see what being securely attached can look like.

  • @unknown1667
    @unknown1667 Před 26 dny +4

    As someone naturally shy and cold to strangers, I always wondered why men are so much more invested in the conversation when I don't know them vs when I know them and am intentionally making conversation - when this happens the tension/sexual dynamic just disappears. It's definitely that "push/pull" dynamic which is best when the man is pursuing. thank you for this video.

  • @victorious1503
    @victorious1503 Před měsícem +9

    This video is amazing Margarita. I wish it existed when I was younger and didn't know myself and constantly chased validation through other people. It is so true - Live for YOU.

  • @josiejuless796
    @josiejuless796 Před 15 dny +2

    Thank you soooo much , I’ve been the golden retriever lately, thank you for reaching me truly . It’s time to change !

  • @elisaluana123
    @elisaluana123 Před měsícem +11

    Absolutely loving all these content about black cat energy! If you would be SOOO KIND to do a video focusing more on stay at home wives.. I feel like it’s a Lot easier to embody this black cat concept if you’re just dating or not living together/seeing each every day.
    You’re doing the lords work, thank you so much for all the tips 💖

    • @heather88888
      @heather88888 Před měsícem +7

      Imagine a black cat 🐈‍⬛ energy in the home … keep it clean, aloof, classy … don’t hover around him - space is good… let him wonder what YOU’RE thinking and doing … work on projects , put AirPods in, say less… make beautiful meals and take pride in your housework

    • @SephraBoo
      @SephraBoo Před měsícem +2

      @@heather88888yup all of this! And I would add have a hobby that yours even if you do it from home. And try to have some time with friends every once in a while. Even if it is just brunch or a yoga class with the girls.

  • @intuitivemamadrea8166
    @intuitivemamadrea8166 Před 28 dny +3

    “Stop! Hammer Time”!!!! Yas preach sista 👏🏾I spent to much time being a Golden Retriever, it’s actually quite embarrassing 😔but it’s time for me to step into my black cat energy 🐈‍⬛❤

  • @kandy731
    @kandy731 Před 19 dny +2

    I'm a young woman who probably like everybody else here, had a whole history of being the best golden retriever there is, and of course, that led to suffering and actually losing the person I was interested in. I acted precisely like you described a golden retriever acts, and I ended up confused when that only pushed the other person away. I thought I was nurturing, I didn't know the difference of smothering and nurturing.
    I decided I want to learn how to properly keep myself safe and act in order to not repeat the cycle I created in the past. It's hard, like you said. But I am willing to put in the effort to be more in tune with my feminine. Thank you for making such an amazing video, I truly enjoyed it and had so much to learn. I cannot wait to learn more from your wisdom.

  • @mmlacuesta
    @mmlacuesta Před měsícem +12

    The funniest, the wisest, the sassiest. You crack me up so much!

  • @ladyofspa
    @ladyofspa Před měsícem +15

    Dayummmmm girl! That was so powerful. Life changing. Please do a part 2 just as a reminder. And please do alpha beta omega men explained. You might have already...❤
    You are awesome!

    • @ladyofspa
      @ladyofspa Před měsícem

      It would awesome to curate movies and books that demonstrate this Black cat woman for reference ..❤

  • @galk-io9bp
    @galk-io9bp Před měsícem +3

    Thank you. I’m learning from scratch after 12 years of abusive marriage… The divorce is still ahead but I can’t wait for formalities, the life is so short and precious, just like you wrapped up your podcast! THANK YOU 🙏

  • @mayamhsen9460
    @mayamhsen9460 Před měsícem +5

    😂 painting her hamster's toenails. I love your theatrical performative voice and body language Margarita ❤😊

  • @landyray444
    @landyray444 Před měsícem +29

    honestly i've got things to do like paint my hamsters toenails and now i want a hamster to do this... thank you for this, ive been so tired of watching people chase and me being the chaser no wonder im so angry and exhausted all the time, no way to live unless you want that life

  • @annamarsch6091
    @annamarsch6091 Před měsícem +11

    You look fabulos in that shirt.
    I love the allegory of the black cat / golden retriever energy.
    love your wisdom, insight and spicy self.
    Thank you, as always for your gret content and no nonsense attitute.

  • @user-zh2mg9rj9u
    @user-zh2mg9rj9u Před měsícem +5

    I love the black cat/golden retriever imagery. Super clear, and fun, too. Thanks so much Margarita! 😁

  • @innal8244
    @innal8244 Před měsícem +5

    Margarita, you are a star. Need to listen on repeat😂. Sending to my friend. Sometimes we need this reminder of being in feminine accepting energy. However not an easy task in modern world full of choices and not so masculine man😊. Thank you for the reminder put in wise and humorous way❤

  • @Vanillaaxo
    @Vanillaaxo Před měsícem +8

    Black cat energy✨

  • @sungoddess_
    @sungoddess_ Před měsícem +5

    Right on time. Thank you for sharing your gifts through your voice with all of us.

  • @stard8631
    @stard8631 Před měsícem +21

    Please do video on Alpha men. I am married to one and I would love to learn more about being in a relationship with one.

  • @pittifulbeauty
    @pittifulbeauty Před měsícem +2

    I soooooo needed this!😢
    The animal analogy is spot on. Thank you for this. Divine timing ❤

  • @ivatan1214
    @ivatan1214 Před měsícem +2

    You are one of the most authentic person I know. Been following you pre pandemic days. No kids back then 😊 and Happy for you now that you have 2 wonderful kids ❤

  • @MelBlossom
    @MelBlossom Před měsícem +5

    I love you... hit play because I'd just got off the phone with a guy I was interested in that showed me "nope... you should probably just forget this one" and I was bummed looking for help staying in my power. I'm actually a professional artist that uses crochet as one of my mediums and have been using it heavily in my work since the end of last year so I spit out my soda laughing when you said, "You've got crochet lessons...why would you wait for him when you have crochet lessons?" Bwah! That's right! I do actually have endless crochet, knitting, sculptures, and paintings I'm working on and I have a Stitch n' Bitch group to go to this week so I will just stitch n bitch this guy right out of my skein. 🤣

  •  Před měsícem +7

    I love your energy and ty for the service you’re providing for us recovering golden retrievers! 🙏🏽♥️😌

  • @user-bs6vz2bt6c
    @user-bs6vz2bt6c Před měsícem +1

    Damn girl you’ve got this so RIGHT! I’m 59 yrs old and I’m still learning about this stuff called “men”. I happen to be stupidly caring and this works totally against me. I need to seriously work on this. I’m not controlling but I do tend to cook and just take care for my man. Darn I want to kick myself for over doing this shit. Not any more. I’m in a relationship with a man that says he loves how I show him how much I love and care for him but I don’t want to bore the hell out of him. You just activated my Black Cat mode woman. Thank you!!! ❤

  • @Ourbubcub
    @Ourbubcub Před 3 hodinami

    Absolutely love this! I needed to hear this this morning. Thank you 🙏

  • @evahusak8291
    @evahusak8291 Před měsícem +4

    I have a beautiful black fluffy cat and I can see how her qualities align with this video. Thank you Margarita 🩷 perfectly said. And I also had a little giggle at “painting your hamster’s toenails” 🤣

  • @brutalxbear
    @brutalxbear Před měsícem +4

    Living for the consistent youtube content!! Love you Margarita!

  • @sofiaa5255
    @sofiaa5255 Před 21 dnem

    Everytime I feel anxious and start overthinking I listen to you and everything is calm again

  • @lilboozey
    @lilboozey Před 6 dny

    love your chill way to talk, you have a very chill aura

  • @dianajane03
    @dianajane03 Před měsícem +7

    Here while it’s fresh!! 💗💗

  • @kylaszone
    @kylaszone Před měsícem +3

    I just adore you, you've helped me come into myself/less in my masculine over the past 2 years, thank you so much.

  • @Pecabeth4ever1214
    @Pecabeth4ever1214 Před měsícem +2

    Every time I listen to you I get so pumped up. You are a Queen!

  • @BreJax
    @BreJax Před 2 dny

    You go girl, spoken like a true Queen ❤

  • @s.tapley9531
    @s.tapley9531 Před měsícem +15

    Thanks!

  • @leospectrum
    @leospectrum Před měsícem +3

    Thank you Margarita ❤

  • @maggiesgrroovyhabits
    @maggiesgrroovyhabits Před 4 dny

    "Stop, Hammer time" I love u for this

  • @marjoriecruz7890
    @marjoriecruz7890 Před 19 dny

    Thank you so much for this! I needed to hear this. I’ve been the golden retriever and now I’m going to embody the black cat energy!

  • @Monika-xb2tk
    @Monika-xb2tk Před měsícem +4

    Great video, I do agree with almost all of that, except one thing. You said that in order for the man to chase you, they need to see you as out of their league. I would rephrase that to 'they need to see you as the prize'. Because you can meet a guy that is handsome, wealthy, intelligent and it doesn't mean that you should drop the idea of you beeing together, just because you can't be 'better' than him.
    For example you have this guy at work that every woman dreams about, and you can't really 'beat him' in terms of looks for example, because he's really handsome, and you are equally gorgeous. And then he thinks 'ok, there's this gorg chick that everybody swoons over, I'm going to make her mine'. I mean he doesn't need to think you are better or that you are out of their league and they can save their efforts, but they still need to think that you are this kind of a luxury item that not everyone can get (and for me it's not about ideal looks, money, more about mindset, how we carry ourselves and present ourselves to the world).
    That's how I see it.
    Because otherwise we would need to seek for guys that are not that attractive, wealthy etc and for me it's a thinking trap.

  • @regalbeauty88
    @regalbeauty88 Před měsícem +5

    This was absolutely incredible advice. Love it.

  • @user-rc2kk3rx3t
    @user-rc2kk3rx3t Před 27 dny

    You don’t realise how amazing and life changing your videos are… you are the best on CZcams that I’ve come across for helping women

  • @xcamrc
    @xcamrc Před měsícem +1

    Perfect! Thank you for this

  • @raraavis1097
    @raraavis1097 Před měsícem +3

    This episode is SO GOOOOOOD 😻 thank you!!

  • @sonnenschein553
    @sonnenschein553 Před měsícem +7

    Such a glorious episode ❤

  • @realitywithnetavian.4941

    Been spiraling out of control lately with my emotions, so I needed this. Time to reset my energy in a way that better fulfills me. Thank you so much. Divine Timing

  • @abethajeevarathinam1640
    @abethajeevarathinam1640 Před měsícem +1

    You're doing amazing margarita!!♥️

  • @angievalenccia
    @angievalenccia Před měsícem +5

    So spot on- with or without I’m going to be ok ✨ cuz everything works out for me in this glimmer of a life.

  • @leche1971
    @leche1971 Před měsícem +3

    One of your BEST videos. 🎉 Well done.

  • @Nobodytonoone
    @Nobodytonoone Před měsícem +1

    Wonderful advice. Needed this - thanks Margarita!

  • @Carmenmzmz
    @Carmenmzmz Před měsícem +1

    i'm learning so much from you Margarita thank you!!! i always feel so empowered listening to you

  • @rochellebartholomew
    @rochellebartholomew Před měsícem +5

    Suuuuuch good wisdom Margarita!!!!!
    Thankful for you ❤

  • @jessicajoyhardee6668
    @jessicajoyhardee6668 Před měsícem +6

    Yes! I love more frequent chats! This feels like a sisterhood! Thank you! Yes!!! To a podcast about the different types of men and how to interact with them! Have a beautiful day!!!!☀️✨☀️💝

  • @wendyswintona.juma.4949
    @wendyswintona.juma.4949 Před měsícem +1

    We've been together Margarita but I'm sure our journey is still on and that makes me happy...you are wise. Lots of love from Kenya ❤️❤️❤️

  • @rebeccaly
    @rebeccaly Před měsícem +2

    always powerful and encouraging stuff. Thank you Margarita as always!! ❤ appreciated the ads at the beginning so I could hear the whole message at once

  • @jef13dead
    @jef13dead Před měsícem +3

    As a man with avoidant attachment issues due to past trauma that I'm working on, you just described all the elements that give me peace in a relationship.

    • @saedaissa5949
      @saedaissa5949 Před 15 dny

      I have anxious attachment I need to work on this I feel my gf is avoidant so idk how to apply this

  • @sky_woman111
    @sky_woman111 Před měsícem +6

    Definitely needed to hear this!

  • @myriambenromdhane1703
    @myriambenromdhane1703 Před měsícem +2

    You're honestly one of the best women I listen to. I wish I had someone like you in my family to get inspired from.

  • @AnettPato-gk9io
    @AnettPato-gk9io Před měsícem +2

    You are sharing some really valuable insights, I particularly liked when you talked about simply letting him know you have these feelings and otherwise not bother and drama about it. Appreciate your content, thank you!

  • @LL-dy8id
    @LL-dy8id Před měsícem +4

    When I heard "hello moosey here" on the podcast version of this, I cried laughing 😂 and I knew I had to watch the youtube to see your face when saying it! It did not dissapoint 😂 love you and your content so much! Can't wait for the book to arrive, I've pre-ordered ❤

  • @19671967ang
    @19671967ang Před měsícem +3

    OMG I learned so much. Thank you.

  • @Lime-limee
    @Lime-limee Před 11 dny

    I deleted these dating coaches i was following and switched to mindset channels like yours and my confidence has skyrocketed and i feel more magnetic.

  • @judyconte6566
    @judyconte6566 Před 27 dny

    I loved that you got all the ADS out of the way in the beginning. You didn't have too many Ads & because of that I subscribed to this podcast. Moreover I am gonna buy some of those products.