T has made some of my dysphoria go away, but I still have bad anxiety. I still have my friends order me food at restaurants, I still don’t have confidence all the time, and I still feel super insecure around cis guys. It has made me more comfortable within myself but not within the world if that makes sense. But I’m not surprised by this. I’ve always thought nothing will ever get better so I didn’t expect t to make me feel that much better. It has made my dysphoria decrease and I’m very thankful for that.
Yes dude! This is why I've been waiting to start T cause I wanna make sure I work on myself before just expecting hormones to fix my life.Thanks for talking on this.
I like to think that transition is just as much mental as it is physical. It's all good and well to start T and get surgery but if you don't try to work on your mind then you aren't gonna suddenly be happy once you get to a certain point in your transition. You have to put in the work to improve your life.
My doctors, therapists and even fellow trans friends said this exact thing. T won’t fix everything. It sure has helped with some things, but it’s brought some other things I pushed down to the surface. ❤️
I am glad you made this video harry because I been looking for a video like this for years and I could not fine one like this and I am so happy you shared what you had to say about it and thanks and much love to you harry 💙🧡❤️
Nothing can give you all the confidence in the world. Confidence can be complex affected by so many things. There is never a quick fix to self esteem issues.
Well rock guitar 2012 I am a straight cisgender man I think videos like this help people like me understand a little bit more about how it is to be transgender I'm still learning alignment very big supporter an ally of the trans community I just recently tried to help a trans male but it didn't work out because I was ignorant to a lot of what happens to transgender people on a daily basis in there lives and the struggles they face physically and emotionally and believe it or not I am very compassionate to help trans people there is nobody in this world that can tell you who you should or should not be you are who you are and it shouldn't matter to anybody else you are not bothering anybody you just want to live your life the way you need to live your life that much I do understand this video is very informative for people like me and I hope there are a lot more like me cuz nobody should feel ashamed of who they are life is too short to look over your shoulder am I passing am I not passing it shouldn't be this way we're all human beings are all God's creatures I wish you two all respect each other may sound naive but hopefully someday it will be like that it looks like it's going in the right direction there's still a lot of work to do for everybody to accept people for who they are the problem is no communication one-on-one everything is the internet these days and that's so impersonal you can't get to know somebody until you talk to them one-on-one like I said this video helped me I need more videos and I need to talk to people in the transgender community so I can learn more and I don't make the mistakes I did with the last person I tried to help I love him very much I still consider him my family even though he doesn't want to talk to me anymore but I hope his transition goes well he gets to live the life that he needs to and people just accept that
Thanks for this video! I hoped T will give me the confidence to talk to gay boys. I had the confidence to flirt with gay girls while i tought i was a girl. So I'm not sure if T will fix this or not.
I have a question. I’ve noticed your Adam’s apple is becoming noticeable. I’ve always wondered how FTM people get masculine Adam’s apples. Is that a side effect from T?
I've talked about it! I'm glad that you're talking about it too though, it's something that should be spoken about more and you have the platform to get that conversation going. I really enjoyed hearing your perspective on this topic - here's a link to my video in a similar vein: czcams.com/video/qM_bRX4aECI/video.html
This is important. I romantised all the wonders T could do for me - I thought by 4 months id look completely male and everyone would see me after summer and be like woah is that you! In hindsight, I have no idea why I thought like that - I’m 7 months along and the only thing anyone ever points out is my voice drop. A quote that keeps me going is ‘trust the process’. Once I began to think like that and stopped dwelling on the lack of physical changes, they soon came, but of course gradually
I sometimes worry that video titles like this, Blare White's 'I'm detransitioning', Jake Edwards' video on dysphoria after top surgery, etc. can be glanced at or screenshotted and used by anti trans people as 'evidence' against transitioning, even if the content of the video is actually fine. I totally agree with the content of this video, basically, but I think there is a trend in the trans community for these kinds of dramatic titles that can actually look bad to people outside the community.
In terms of voice and emotion - how long did it take for you to feel more stable rather than a emotional teenager with a cracking voice? Or is this something that you're still experiencing? Just wondering. Second puberty is a bit off-putting even if the results are what you want 😅
Hey I’m not Harrison but i never felt like an emotional teenager on t - been there, done that. My acne spiked n my voice cracked a little, (I barely noticed it as it dropped so fast) but as far as emotions go I just felt the same, perhaps merely maturer with a heightened libido!
@@exclusiveboi1723 Thanks for sharing. Obviously not having a go at teens - just I've been there once not keen to go there again lol. How long do you think your voice cracked for?
I think we’re just better at dealing with things the 2nd time round. My voice didn’t really ‘crack’ in public if that’s what u mean, but i think it was dropping overnight from a couple weeks in to about 4 months. Haven’t had much change since then. I think if you need T then this part should certainly not sway you away, the changes will be so fulfilling you’ll forget it’s puberty
Everybody has a different experience on T so just because I felt a certain way doesn’t mean you will (obviously). I didn’t really get too emotional maybe the first month but it levelled out fairly quickly. Voice still cracks from time to time but month 3-4 was where it started to “drop”
I'm so surprised doctors give referals for HRT to people who have unrealistic expectations or don't know how HRT works. The belief that HRT changes who you are as a person apart of not true is also stupid. HRT can only fix your body, not your character or personality. If you hate yourself before HRT you'll also hate yourself after HRT. There's no hormone or medicine that can fix yourself. And 'fixing' the body is not always what people need and that's why many people are so happy the first months after going on HRT while experiencing changes on their bodies and after a while they realise that HRT wasn't all they needed, so they then start blaming top surgery for their unhappiness, but even after getting top surgery they are still not happy enough. People should really be mafe to understand what transitioning is before they get through that path. But I also think that social media and all these people who call themeselves "trans influencers" play a really big role on making people believe that HRT is a magic hormone you take and suddenly everything is great. I really don't get why people are trying to pass being trans as something cool and fun while anyone who is actually trans knows that being trans is only something associated with pain amd dysphoria that you wouldn't wish for anyone to go through it. Stating you love that you've born trans indicates you loved going through pain and dysphoria, you loved being born in the wrong body and having to fix that and that you love not being able to have children and not having the right genitals, which it just can't be true, so trying to pass it as if it was it onlt results to spreading the wrong idea about being trans.
Michael House being trans is not just about dysphoria and loving that your trans is not a lie. These blanket statements are very harmful. How could you know what every trans person is feeling or going through? Yes there are hard times and being trans wouldn’t be my first choice but now that I’ve gone through it I am grateful for the experience. I’m able to view the world through a lens that very few people can. I’m empathetic, kinder, and more understanding. Also having to work for and fight for the person that you are inside makes every experience where you’re seen as yourself that much sweeter. So I would disagree with your statement and say that you are the one spreading the wrong idea about being trans.
@@HarrisonBrowne24 You have no way to know how you would be as a person if you weren't trans. And maybe you would be as empathetic and kind as you are now. Or maybe you even be a better person than what you are now. Or maybe you'd happen to have to overcome a different struggle in your life that woupd make you a stronger person . Also accepting being trans as a reality and enjoying being trans aren't the same thing. I personally don't believe that whoever claims they love being trans actually believe that, but they are just trying to make people not see them as freaks and appear as cool and interesting in society's eyes by making being trans seem like something cool and trendy to be and people who are trans should be grateful about that as they are privileged towards cis people which is obviously not the case. Being trans doesn't make anyone more privileged or better or cooler than someone who isn't. So, no I'm not the one spreading the wrong idea about being trans. The ones who do are the ones who present being trans as a joyful path with no struggles, pain or deprivations. And I really believe that that's exactly the reason why the number of detransitioners has increased in the last couple of years, because confused teenagers watch these videos about how cool being trans is and how transitioning fixes all of your problems and they start associating with being trans while they aren't.
bruh i despised myself before t and as soon as I accepted I was trans, those morbidly hateful feelings went away. i understood myself, why i am like i am, why some things bother me, etc. i was then able to be more gentle with myself and also see a future for myself. so i dont think it automatically makes you like yourself, but it helps you be gentle with yourself and understand why you might be how you are.
T has made some of my dysphoria go away, but I still have bad anxiety. I still have my friends order me food at restaurants, I still don’t have confidence all the time, and I still feel super insecure around cis guys. It has made me more comfortable within myself but not within the world if that makes sense. But I’m not surprised by this. I’ve always thought nothing will ever get better so I didn’t expect t to make me feel that much better. It has made my dysphoria decrease and I’m very thankful for that.
Yes dude! This is why I've been waiting to start T cause I wanna make sure I work on myself before just expecting hormones to fix my life.Thanks for talking on this.
I like to think that transition is just as much mental as it is physical. It's all good and well to start T and get surgery but if you don't try to work on your mind then you aren't gonna suddenly be happy once you get to a certain point in your transition. You have to put in the work to improve your life.
My doctors, therapists and even fellow trans friends said this exact thing. T won’t fix everything. It sure has helped with some things, but it’s brought some other things I pushed down to the surface.
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I am glad you made this video harry because I been looking for a video like this for years and I could not fine one like this and I am so happy you shared what you had to say about it and thanks and much love to you harry 💙🧡❤️
This is a great point!
Exactly right, Harrison! Thanks!🙂
i really needed this
I really needed to hear this because I’m seriously thinking this way just waiting til I start T to make my life feel better.
I live autopilot too.
I have been searching this word for so long.
Nothing can give you all the confidence in the world. Confidence can be complex affected by so many things. There is never a quick fix to self esteem issues.
Well rock guitar 2012 I am a straight cisgender man I think videos like this help people like me understand a little bit more about how it is to be transgender I'm still learning alignment very big supporter an ally of the trans community I just recently tried to help a trans male but it didn't work out because I was ignorant to a lot of what happens to transgender people on a daily basis in there lives and the struggles they face physically and emotionally and believe it or not I am very compassionate to help trans people there is nobody in this world that can tell you who you should or should not be you are who you are and it shouldn't matter to anybody else you are not bothering anybody you just want to live your life the way you need to live your life that much I do understand this video is very informative for people like me and I hope there are a lot more like me cuz nobody should feel ashamed of who they are life is too short to look over your shoulder am I passing am I not passing it shouldn't be this way we're all human beings are all God's creatures I wish you two all respect each other may sound naive but hopefully someday it will be like that it looks like it's going in the right direction there's still a lot of work to do for everybody to accept people for who they are the problem is no communication one-on-one everything is the internet these days and that's so impersonal you can't get to know somebody until you talk to them one-on-one like I said this video helped me I need more videos and I need to talk to people in the transgender community so I can learn more and I don't make the mistakes I did with the last person I tried to help I love him very much I still consider him my family even though he doesn't want to talk to me anymore but I hope his transition goes well he gets to live the life that he needs to and people just accept that
Thanks for this video! I hoped T will give me the confidence to talk to gay boys. I had the confidence to flirt with gay girls while i tought i was a girl. So I'm not sure if T will fix this or not.
I have a question. I’ve noticed your Adam’s apple is becoming noticeable. I’ve always wondered how FTM people get masculine Adam’s apples. Is that a side effect from T?
I've talked about it! I'm glad that you're talking about it too though, it's something that should be spoken about more and you have the platform to get that conversation going. I really enjoyed hearing your perspective on this topic - here's a link to my video in a similar vein: czcams.com/video/qM_bRX4aECI/video.html
This is important. I romantised all the wonders T could do for me - I thought by 4 months id look completely male and everyone would see me after summer and be like woah is that you! In hindsight, I have no idea why I thought like that - I’m 7 months along and the only thing anyone ever points out is my voice drop. A quote that keeps me going is ‘trust the process’. Once I began to think like that and stopped dwelling on the lack of physical changes, they soon came, but of course gradually
I sometimes worry that video titles like this, Blare White's 'I'm detransitioning', Jake Edwards' video on dysphoria after top surgery, etc. can be glanced at or screenshotted and used by anti trans people as 'evidence' against transitioning, even if the content of the video is actually fine. I totally agree with the content of this video, basically, but I think there is a trend in the trans community for these kinds of dramatic titles that can actually look bad to people outside the community.
In terms of voice and emotion - how long did it take for you to feel more stable rather than a emotional teenager with a cracking voice? Or is this something that you're still experiencing? Just wondering. Second puberty is a bit off-putting even if the results are what you want 😅
Hey I’m not Harrison but i never felt like an emotional teenager on t - been there, done that. My acne spiked n my voice cracked a little, (I barely noticed it as it dropped so fast) but as far as emotions go I just felt the same, perhaps merely maturer with a heightened libido!
@@exclusiveboi1723 Thanks for sharing. Obviously not having a go at teens - just I've been there once not keen to go there again lol. How long do you think your voice cracked for?
I think we’re just better at dealing with things the 2nd time round. My voice didn’t really ‘crack’ in public if that’s what u mean, but i think it was dropping overnight from a couple weeks in to about 4 months. Haven’t had much change since then. I think if you need T then this part should certainly not sway you away, the changes will be so fulfilling you’ll forget it’s puberty
Everybody has a different experience on T so just because I felt a certain way doesn’t mean you will (obviously).
I didn’t really get too emotional maybe the first month but it levelled out fairly quickly. Voice still cracks from time to time but month 3-4 was where it started to “drop”
Me so hard! Everything you said is exactly how I feel and felt
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I'm so surprised doctors give referals for HRT to people who have unrealistic expectations or don't know how HRT works. The belief that HRT changes who you are as a person apart of not true is also stupid. HRT can only fix your body, not your character or personality. If you hate yourself before HRT you'll also hate yourself after HRT. There's no hormone or medicine that can fix yourself. And 'fixing' the body is not always what people need and that's why many people are so happy the first months after going on HRT while experiencing changes on their bodies and after a while they realise that HRT wasn't all they needed, so they then start blaming top surgery for their unhappiness, but even after getting top surgery they are still not happy enough. People should really be mafe to understand what transitioning is before they get through that path. But I also think that social media and all these people who call themeselves "trans influencers" play a really big role on making people believe that HRT is a magic hormone you take and suddenly everything is great. I really don't get why people are trying to pass being trans as something cool and fun while anyone who is actually trans knows that being trans is only something associated with pain amd dysphoria that you wouldn't wish for anyone to go through it. Stating you love that you've born trans indicates you loved going through pain and dysphoria, you loved being born in the wrong body and having to fix that and that you love not being able to have children and not having the right genitals, which it just can't be true, so trying to pass it as if it was it onlt results to spreading the wrong idea about being trans.
Michael House being trans is not just about dysphoria and loving that your trans is not a lie. These blanket statements are very harmful. How could you know what every trans person is feeling or going through? Yes there are hard times and being trans wouldn’t be my first choice but now that I’ve gone through it I am grateful for the experience. I’m able to view the world through a lens that very few people can. I’m empathetic, kinder, and more understanding. Also having to work for and fight for the person that you are inside makes every experience where you’re seen as yourself that much sweeter.
So I would disagree with your statement and say that you are the one spreading the wrong idea about being trans.
@@HarrisonBrowne24 You have no way to know how you would be as a person if you weren't trans. And maybe you would be as empathetic and kind as you are now. Or maybe you even be a better person than what you are now. Or maybe you'd happen to have to overcome a different struggle in your life that woupd make you a stronger person . Also accepting being trans as a reality and enjoying being trans aren't the same thing. I personally don't believe that whoever claims they love being trans actually believe that, but they are just trying to make people not see them as freaks and appear as cool and interesting in society's eyes by making being trans seem like something cool and trendy to be and people who are trans should be grateful about that as they are privileged towards cis people which is obviously not the case. Being trans doesn't make anyone more privileged or better or cooler than someone who isn't. So, no I'm not the one spreading the wrong idea about being trans. The ones who do are the ones who present being trans as a joyful path with no struggles, pain or deprivations. And I really believe that that's exactly the reason why the number of detransitioners has increased in the last couple of years, because confused teenagers watch these videos about how cool being trans is and how transitioning fixes all of your problems and they start associating with being trans while they aren't.
bruh i despised myself before t and as soon as I accepted I was trans, those morbidly hateful feelings went away. i understood myself, why i am like i am, why some things bother me, etc. i was then able to be more gentle with myself and also see a future for myself. so i dont think it automatically makes you like yourself, but it helps you be gentle with yourself and understand why you might be how you are.
what’s da point dude? you mean you had problems getting a girl? just be yourself, it’s the attitude.