LET'S GET REAL! Advice to Muslims about Expectations in Marriage
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- My honest advice to Muslims about the danger of having unrealistic expectations when it comes to marriage. Straight from the heart. May Allah heal and bless our homes, ameen!
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#naimabrobert #marriageconversation - Zábava
So informative. I got married at the age of 18. Have been married for 31 years. Allhumdullilah. We both went through a lot of obstacles and we still are. We love each other just as much as we did when we first married. Brothers and sisters who are thinking of getting married be humble. Don’t criticise and look at all the bad points. Look at your own faults first. We are not made perfect. Allah swt guide today’s youth and and grant everyone who is looking for a spouse with one compatible for them. Ameen.
Aameen to the du'a Ma
31 years marriage masha Allah pple like u deserve to give marriage advice make your own CZcams channel 🤣😅
@@zoyakhan7816 Jazakallah khair. Me make a CZcams channel. Wouldn’t know where to start😂 Respect and listening to one another is the main thing in marriage. We are very quick to disagree and argue over trivial matters. Allah swt make it easy for all. Ameen
Ameen
may Allah protect you from Satan sand all who read this .wondering about how long you wil married. Sister for you I wish it will last long be till in jennah Al Firdaus ☺️😘Of you say in western culture your are married so yound and long. they look at you like This 😳.
Our sisters need to reject feminism. Let your man lead; it’s in his fitrah. Marriage works best when you both are in your natural state.
Dear the key of marriage is humbleness. Because if your partner is angry at times .God will reward you in three days for being quiet at that time.i am married for 40 years.with GOD blessings.
I agree. The ultimate goal is to enter jannah together. Sometimes we simply forget.
I agree
Hmmmm great reminder dear sis
May Allah bless me with a wife to be a reason for entering the Jannah together in sha'a Allah.
Thanks :) I'm about to get married💍
In sha Allah
May Allah bless you and your marriage. Ameen. ❤️
Mabroook! May Allah swt bless you with a beautiful success marriage that is pleasing unto Him!! Ameen !!
Aameen 🥺❤
May Allah bless you and your spouse with a blessed family
The Prophet (Peace and Blessing Be Upon Him) wants Muslim Men to protect, maintain and treat their women well. Our women in turn, need humility, patience and respect for the provision and protection the Man gives to her and her children so that the entire family can prosper from a well ordered home, children raised under Islam, and a Man that can rest well, and work long hours 7 days a week if need be; to insure that his wife and kids have a fruitful and playful life under his continued and lasting provision, even after he is gone. Allah (swt) give us all the strength to be Good Men.
Just got this 👍
I'm so happy to have you on CZcams feed.
I have known habibi since 2014
I live in Hollywood Florida and habibi live in Gaza strip Palestine.
Both sides of our family gave us blessings to continue web cams talks. N were in cam talks.
Soon I will fly to Egypt and have him there and marry him.
My only dowry I asked for is the Quran. I have been through the evilness Israel doing to them.
We are soulmates 💜
I was Ukrainian orthodox until we met and converted to Islam ☪️
Mashallah
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Umm ok I just wanted to say that.
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I'm here sister and you shall be blessed.
Mashallah
You said everything I’ve been thinking for many years, I think these Instagram couples are the main issue
I agree 100% with what your saying. I have been with my wife for 13 yrs and have a baby, BUT when the wife doesn't do anything for herself or the baby and is arguing literally 24/7 over nothing when I work like a dog to support the family and I have to come home and rush to cook for my son while she's barking in ear over nothing. Divorce pops in my head, I have tried everything and nothing changed her
Omg, this is really sad. May Allah (SWT) make it easy for you.
@@raliyaibrahim7061 jazakallah
love is something which Allah places between the couple as He says in the Quran and is a true blessing. However, some of us are tested with this by never being able to love their spouse no matter how hard they try, and in turn struggle with fulfilling their spouses rights over them. May Allah make it easy for those of us who are struggling to maintain a respectful marriage so that our children are not deprived of a secure environment
Jazakallahu khairan for this ive realized after living and hearing so many horror stories about marriage and being ao afraid to try again, i need to focus on what can finallt go right in a marriage instead of wrong
Salam sister,
Just listening to you I realised that I was raised in the household where both parents did the own things and only came together when it was necessary. The only downfall is that I don't know what a love between spouse should look like. Im newlyweds and trying to figure out how to love the right way, hopefully before children come in the picture.
Thank you for sharing the important thing to focus on.
Insha Allah May Allah make it easy for all us
Salaams everyone :))
I feel like constant respect in and of itself is a version of love that we constantly overlook because it’s not super “glamorous” & romantic in the sense that Hollywood gives it to us.
Jazakallahu khyran
Life is cyclic, good times, OK times, bad times, as Rasul saw taught us. It is healthy for children to see this, just be respectful.
Jazakumulah for the great advice sister
Jazakum Allah khayran
I dont understand why people made marriages too difficult. If u feel like can't fix things than broke up n move forward but to suffer to protect the title of married
wow such an eye opener 👏👏👏. . a much needed one. Be blessed.
This is such a precious advice for mariage
Maasha Allah ❤️ I loved your speech sister, strong! Jazaka Laahu kheyr ❤️
👍👍 wise words sis
You always seem to post just at the right time sis SubhanAllah,may Allah reward you ameen
Golden advice dear sister. 13:40 we both need each other, feel respected, appreciated, secure and loved.
Asalamu alaikum. Masha Allah. I love all of the advice that you share. May Allah bless your channel and allow it grow even beyond your own aspirations.
_I thought it was someone else lol, it is you sister Naima!_ :)
Masha Allah, a balanced opinion. Barakallahu Feekum
What a great lecture ما شاء الله
Masha Allah 🥰
Subhan Allah you are %100 correct Naima. I've recently started watching your videos, Alhamdulillah everything makes so much sense now.
Allahumah amiin from eastafrica.
Thanks so much for your advice. This is the send video that I've watch and its so amazing and educative. To be sincere, at first I thought it was directed to me and by listening to it, it's has tough me so much an am so grateful to you MashAllah. May Allah set make things easy for us.
I am very happy with your support this is exceptional awesome
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
جزاك الله خيرا
For the work you are doing, may Allah fill it with barakah
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A’udhubillah - unfortunately I don’t ☹️
I was touched by your book I read a time ago
What’s the name of the book?
thanks sister
Are you a revert sister can you do a get to know me video. I love and I learnt a lot from your videos.💖
Children will see mum&dad sticking to a commitment ANDearn that life and marriage is not 'always' fun and smiles- and that is life. But, they persevere and do not give up. A big important lesson.
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Salam sister Na'ima, do you plan to do a live or full session with ustadh muaawiyah any time soon?
Yes, he has a full episode of The Marriage Conversation dropping next month iA
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You topics about pouses being selected and decided by Allah is very crucial and it be the motivation for the woman also not hesitate getting in touch with the person she love...private and genuine conversation is an excellent motivation for both couples...
It should be the motivation.
Ruzi kahtun will guide you well kids and she will leave a good affect on your future
I received email from you oftenly
I’ve been following you since the black muslim festival
Salam alaykum wa rahmatulah sister, myself and my wife have been married for almost a year soon. I was wondering are you able to make a video about how to go about with inlaw, esp when it comes to the wife and the MIL. Yes, we do not owe our in laws much however It would be great to be given practical steps for both spouses to understand it a bit more.
Jazakumullah khairan
Sister Na'ma, you are really doing great in helping people understand what is expected of them as Muslims.....but, i have been asking questions which i am not able get clear response from those channels i ever posted it to....One of the question is, is it permissible in Islam to talk a woman interested in you before she invites you to any other place....??
Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all). Quran 4:34
It does not say to beat them, it says to discipline them. Please know the difference.
@@LA-jl2hn Narrated Sahl bin Sad Saidi: "Allah's Apostle said "If there is any evil omen in anything, then it is in the woman, the horse and the house." Sahih Bukhari 4:52:111
That's a very dangerous trap, those type of "warning warning" is destroying many families. They put up those ideas, keeping the relationship up for the kids sake, for the pleasure of Allah; You better leave to save your kids from unhealthy environment. But many men and women make mistakes just being naive about those propaganda. Don't give up, men and women in trying relationship pls keep trying and seek Allah swt help. Our responsibility is not to make sure this make sure that rather keep striving to be on right path, raising kids in our home, a loving home...
Allah has a better plan
Have you done any work with Daniel Haqiqatou?
Gem
What if you want the soulmate kind of love too?
Work hard on becoming the best version of yourself and in sha allah Allah swt will grant you your soul mate. Obviously make lots of dua.
I would like to knkw more about ur life Sister Naima, like what brought you to live in Egypt and are u a second wife urself?
Read her book "From my sister's lips". It's a great insight.
What about cheating husband? Do we have to accept that?
Zina is a major sin and you could get an std. He has to stop cheating. See a marriage counselor and Imam.
Not at all. This is the reason divorce is permitted
Zina is not a light matter - it's one of the major sins
@Remy Yes alhamdulillah these actions are not taken lightly in Sharia Law as it can cause a lot of issues in the society like spread of STD's ,unknown lineage which can even cause a brother and a sister to marry each other if their parents or one of their parents are unknown. But the punishment depends on the situation, in case a person repents and doesn't admit his wrong doing to the judge then the main thing is that he repented and Allah has protected him from being exposed , if he admits it and doesn't take it back now that's punishable. May Allah protect us all from such sins.
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I saw the thumbnail of this video and didn't recognise you! You look different, paler. Hope you're looking after yourself, sister xxx
does that mean you're alone in a journey that's supposed to be for 2 people? 🤔
A marriage is sometimes forgetting and Humor .
Put your reading glasses 🤓
Do you have advice when you are nine so the girl doesn't bleed to death!
No exuseme, farhias ,happiness younger women his wife , usus.wewe.3.no respects family iam one of.