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- Mufti Menk shares his experiences with divorce, polygamy, living with in-laws and going to war for his family.
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Lovely duo! GEMS GEMS GEMS! May Allah protect us all and grand us 'ilim and ikhlas, Amin! JazakAllahu khayran 🤲🏿
Thank You.
Ameen!
Alhamdulillah for the kind of zaoj Allah had blessed me with. And with this, I learned more. Jazakummullah khairan to both of you.
Lovely conversation from two of my favorite role models, ma sha Allah tabarakallah! May Allah safeguard you both and increase you and your families with every good fi dunya wal Akhirah, ameen.
Its a balance.....you cannot be too strict neither can you be too lenient. Its about responsibility and making decisions based on your capacity.
Love this two of my favourite Muslims that I’ve listened to a lot in my journey to Islam 💖
It is all the more interesting to listen to both Sister Na’ima and Mufti Menk because they are able to incorporate information in addition to those concerned with the topic of Marriage. God Bless You Both. JAZAKALLAH
Mashallah
Good discussion
May Allah Accept your efforts toward Deen- Amen
Allah loves those who are kind
Thanks Mufti, you hit the nail on the head. Truly the most cause of divorce today is very high expectations on women. We have to practice our marriages as guided by Islam .
Jazakum Allah khaiyran 🌹 it was beautiful may Allah help us be one of those with great deal of patience and Ihsan ameen.
SubhanAllah.
This is so interesting although I knew already, if I would have been married, I would see my wife as equal, I would love her so much and I would die for my family if necessary.
Very beautiful light conversation. Many gems can be taken from this. May Allah bless and guide all of us ameen
Thanks for this
tips kept!!!
JazakumuLlahu kahyran 💝
Such an eye opening lessons.....mashallah the best duo
Asalaam alaykum sister jazak Allahu khairan for the joint effort in the making of this talk with Mufti Menk. I thoroughly appreciated watching it.
May Allah guid us to choose a right person for life inshallah
A really good talk mashallah!!!! Some really good gems mashallah!
Masha Allah tabarakallah. Marriage is truly a sacrifice but your right should not be taken away. Islam is a beautiful religion
I very much regret being a “stay at home mom” for almost a decade. It was very much oppression and it wasn’t fulfilling in the tiniest amount. I sacrificed everything for nothing!!! My child could have been even happier if I had had a job!
you don't have knowledge of the unseen. how can you be sure your child could have been happier?
I’m so sorry to hear that. Did you not feel supported by your husband? Did he use money to oppress/control? I’m currently a stay at home now, so I’m curious. I personally love it, but it’s important to also warn women about the downsides/dangers of it too. It’s not cute to be naïve.
@@PaPa-ko1vg are you in her life? I’m sure she would know better than you or I if it was a positive or negative experience for her family or not.
@@omowhanre I'm sure God knows better than all of us put together. Allah swt decrees that it is best for women to be stay at home moms and wives. There is nothing to warn, nor is there any danger in being in your home. However these women that go out of their homes are putting their whole lives and families in the grasp of shaytan.
asslaamu aleikum, sister. I strongly urge you to be careful with these views. Do not let the Shaytan break up your family. The "stay at home mom" is actually a culturally considered a pejorative term thanks to the feminist. But in reality you are HOME MAKER! The culture you might be living it is making you think your stable, organized, and important mother soul as not being worth crap, while in reality those chasing careers, getting expensive degrees (2/3 college are women, but student loan debt is more than twice cost of US's Entire Nation Defense!)and working 40-50s week for a man who is NOT husband or family who is rewarding you with nothing but a pay check and PTO time, weakly union membership. See? We can turn hat logic around could we?
Be very careful about what you expose yourself too, many these CZcams beauty video tips, and sexy instructions, etc are causing women to want to leave their family, marriages, etc. Its objective of these videos is not to beautify yourself for your husband, but to get another man. So guard yourself against sexy beauty type videos, hot body workouts, etc. All you need is to have Shaytan telling you to look in the mirror, convincing you to abandon you family in exchange for having expensive degree, career, and being promiscuous but calling it (exploring, being modern woman, etc). "Do you thing, girl", "independent diva", etc. Strange enough many of these women with these degrees, titles, etc are on match apps, sleazy sites, and complaining, depressed, maybe on medication, usually seeking therapy, speaking on shows like the Late Kevin Samuels, regretting that they a good marriage and they screwed it up. DONT LET THIS BE YOU.
Anima B. Robert show is speaking this video has interesting CZcams video about single mothers seeking remarriage:
MashaAllah Mufti menk one of my favorites
Assalamualaikum everyone nice to see both of you.... jazak Allahu khair sister niama 😍
SubhanAllah
Jazakallah khair
Would like to listen Mufti Menk's Wife if possible.
May Allahtala bless them in both the worlds'.
lovely episode jazakhallah khair to the fantastic duo
Jazakumu laahu khairan to you all
Naima B. Robert my inspiration may Allah preserve you both
Subhanallah.. both the Gems together... masha allah..
May Allah give us good Muslim families and guide all our dear ones!
Jazakillahu Khayran
How does this only have 21k views in 8 days?!
sister keep doing such meaningful sessions, i would like to know your journey also
Love your words.
Jazakallahu khair Jazakallahu khair Jazakallahu khair
Assalamu Alaykum, Masha Allah.
MashaAllah ❤️❤️❤️💯
Masha Allaah
Very interesting,
I appreciate the personal disclosure from mufti as it helps us see he is human. However, and important and very much needed these talks are on marriage, I felt sister naima has not experienced south Asian pressures of marriage or toxic in law's and does not appreciate that families can read this when interviewing which is why it is a deal breaker. Also it was confusing because if Ur not ready and say no and decree is planned, why was that the one?
I understand the point it to access each situation and base a decision on that and not stick to what one plans. U feel deep down whether this will have consequences but, no this talk has left me more confused.
Sister is talking from an outside prespective and I don't think this is helpful.
She is very strong willed and hard working but not experienced marriage as to why things have become why they have.
I really want things to change but ...
Thank you once again for a very insightful and interesting view points
Agree with you 💯 she's happily going the other extreme to show her "support of men" - you should hear her talks on polygamy they are so ridiculous. She's forcing women to love sharing husbands and offer them into marriage with other women. Whereas polygamy is permissible in islam but not everyone has to practice it.
@@aleenaarif9422 *There's no harm if everyone practices polygamy as it in Islam, if you have to accept Islam 100%, don't take only what you like and don't give fatwas like these sister aleena*
@@shariqsalman92 for clarity I'm not giving any fatwas because I'm not qualified to but I'm giving my opinion just like everyone else here.
MashaAllah tabarakAllah 👍
Never knew mufti had more than one wife,much respect for him.beautiful video.jaxakallahu khair sister Naima and mufti.
Masha Allah 🥰
May allah grant us the right spouses ameen
What is the eye opening message? Seems like its women should accept anything and shut up or they are labelled picky.
12:31 describing the dire conditions of his 1st marriage
I was hesitating to listen to this video because of the lady in the video not my favorite person to listen to but when I saw the Mufti Menk I knew it was going to be a good discussion. He always speak the truth and give a fair advice to both genders my Allah grant Mufti Menk Janahtul firdoso. ❤️
Brother , just know sister @Naima B Robert she is an eye opener.
I agree with u, I have watched some of her video’s and feel she is very patronising towards women and I don’t mean in a feminist way alhamdulillah I’m married with children etc but very patronising and stereotypes women
100 % sister and brother
What if you as the woman make everything easy for the man for marriage, older than the man, and yet it gets turned against you where the man now feels no need for anything to support of fulfill the woman, and wants the same role expectation? What does Islam expect in these situations?
Some daughter-in-laws can make their inlaws life hell. It’s not always the mother-in-law.
Subhan'Allah 100%.... i have alot to say on this but will leave it at that lol. I'm also a daughter in law and have married brothers also so can see both perspective in shaa Allah.
Agreed
I was hesitant to listen to this because I don't have any how you any marriage plans as you covered many topics happy, single and list from others that I have given up I lost the family connections as a teen-ager and being younger every one went to they're own lives and family relationships didn't become as your family extended Also it is hard to find those mature enough to marry. I could go on and in but listening to this is interesting at the least. I hope to hear more about your lecture on marriage and I learned something.
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I am a new revert and need to know why a brother would seek another wife, since it is not obligatory what is the reason. As a woman I would feel very hurt especially if our marriage is wonderful
You may need to ask people who has knowledge,
Seeking answers for topics like that on youtube comments will not help,
Besides anyone can say what they want or think, and you may not get the right answer ,
I hope you ask the people with the right knowledge if you want answers about anything in islam
Salam Sister do tour research about it in Islam and you do not have to understand man. If Allah allowed it, it means it is beneficial to majority of human civilizations.
Dear Sister,
Many reasons;
Research it yourself for better understanding.
Look at the history of Ibrahim a.s and Hajar and Ismael a.s.
God forbid, What if something would happen to you physically when you couldn't fulfil the rights of your husband, would you like that he fulfil them by having affair or lying?.
Research Ahmed deedat response on CZcams on this. He explains how there are more women than men on the planet.just in the USA. So in theory if every man marries one female. What happens to the millions remaining?. Should they live their life alone or wait until a female dies to have a chance?.
True Brother - Men must be "Responsible" for the entire family. I don't see the point in a 2nd income, that is part of providing, that the Man provides. I have gone to war, and I would rather go to war, than have my wife work - my kids will not suffer, nor my home because of my inadequacy. I work hard every day to take care of my family, and I have been my entire life. I agree brother - to listen, but at the end of the day, the Father makes the final decision; wether anybody agrees of not.
Mufti, May Allah Help You.
inshallah
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Assalamualaikum, how do we join the conference?
Were you able to join today?
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@@NaimaBRobertTV _Sister Naima, what time would tomorrow's session begin? I couldn't see the scedule of Jan 1, 2022!_
@@seekfactsnotfiction9056 Have you registered? The programme was emailed.
@@NaimaBRobertTV _Yes I was among the first to register. The email just gave info about Friday's schedule only!_
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I noticed sister tone changed when mufti mentioned it’s ok for divorce as she is a big advocate for no divorce and women need to stay or else most of time it’s women fault as they ask for divorce. Please note men do not need to divorce they can re-marry but women have to divorce to re-marry hence why stats are not a true reflection
Urdu subtitles is useful sister if be arranged
The most important husband at the side of every woman is her own brain, because your own brain is responsible for managing all your emotions, thoughts and it is your brain as a thinking organ that looks for ways to keep your body healthy and prosperous, your own heart is the wife of your own brain, Of course, if you feel the need to have a life partner and children, you can look for an additional husband, but with him you will never have such a strong emotional relationship as the one between your own Soul, heart and mind.Husbands come and go, but your brain, heart and soul are always with you
Is mufti his name or is he actually a real mufti?
rasool (saws) said that divorce is a necessary evil. my wife who was 6 years older than me was pure evil, during intercourse she used to finger me in the anus ( and this is a regligious woman who wore hijab), I hated that and at times I used to bleed....she started slapping me if I wouldn't let her do it, and this was every night or during the day whenever we made intercourse.....a mad crazy woman....embodiment of evil....Alhamdulillah we are divorced, the who ordeal has left me traumatised. im 23.
OMG! That is so saad, my brother. May Allah help you in your hardest times. I'm a muslim sister. I had a question though. In islam, you (men) are allowed to divorce so easily (just verbally) & get married so easily (yes, the dowry is a hard one but you don't need a wali or anything & you can even get 2,3 & 4 but a woman needs the permission of her guardian & she cannot herself divorce the husband) then why a lot of men (like you) hesitant to divorce their women. I mean you could just divorce, get married again, divorce, piece of cake but why you don't do so. Why you all endure the nagging & torture of women. A big question for me. 🤔
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the person is...am..I ?
The host is too excited she intervenes alot with the Mufti , remember Menk is disclosing something sensitive
May Allah preserve you and protect you my sister in deen. I appreciate your works and good intention on raising awareness about marriage relationship but at the same you have to be very cautious in your platform whom you are promoting. What is the point of having good relationship but have very bad or corrupt aqeedah on the likes of Mufti menk. He literally participated in kufr interfaith ideologies promoted by UAE. Marriage is the last thing or relationship is the last thing i worry about when you are promoting deviants who are spreading kufr completely diluting fundamental of islam.
LOL Naima just her opinion based onher feelings and anecdotes and no facts or statistics. This is a very weak way to make points.
Too many people are selfish
I am ....not ....learn....and i have not want duny
Sister doesnt talk about the polygomy. Very obvious the main wife is the most important and if she's smart and tolerant she will remain the main wife. While I would not like my husbabd to have a second wife it would be worse for my heart to be the second wife. She is barely acknowledged by him.
Not if she knows her worth and adds value to his life!
I ordered to have multiple wives u are supposed to treat them equally.. im sure he knows what he's doing since he has knowledge..
Alhumdulillah. I appreciate your comments. Always enlightening.
Disgusting men, i dont ubderstand why polygomy is hallal, sinces you can spread diseases because you have intercourse with more than 1 spouse. Also very messy psygologicqlly and emotionally for everyone involved. I dont understand this, if your smart, sorry but you stay far away from a man who is not monogamous.
Islam doesn't have main wife. all wives are equal
It's disrespectful how you told Mufti Menk to stop and kept interrupting him.
If Mufti Menk is not offended, then we shouldn't too.
BTW this video is like a Podcast (or conversation) & not a lecture, so its Ok.
It was meant to be that way. Good discussion.
they are well acquainted with each other. She is friends with his wife. nothing disrespectful
Naima i don't believe that women should be public speakers as the man has religious authority in Islam.
But now I see you with mufti menk i got the confirmation that you are a MICKEY MOUSE!
99% of converts convert for love reasons let's face it.
Chew up the meat spit out the bones.
Mufti Menks explanation and insight in to marriage is much better than Naima B Roberts. I have to say I don't like her at all. She's misogynistic and has no compassion at all. What a disappointing woman.
Be careful with your words it’s haram to be misogynistic. You can hurt the feelings of your sister
Ismail menk to be honest is not as true to islam as we thought.
Have you guys seen the video where he tell the danish reporter that he supports democracy, accept homosexuality and don't condem it and that he would shake other women's hands if they came to greet ? Subhanallah it shocked me that he never mentioned his stance on these really important issues but only made them clear when he tried to be taken of the danish hate preachers bann list.
hahahahaha
Guys don't get married.
This lady is giggling her head off about Muftis wife’s extreme sacrifice. Why is it we like a woman to sacrifice everything and a man sacrifice little? My dad raised me to not be a domestic servant and he hates that very much, I also don’t want this. It doesn’t come with happiness under normal circumstances!
your dad raised you to be a man then, why didn't you find a soy boy husband? Who say men make little sacrifice. get psychiatric help
man sacrifice little, how come so?
actually both sacrifice alot. men especially!
His both wives are very lucky. Because he's a righteous man. One good man is better than 100
learning that mufti menk has multiple wives just shattered my image of him in a million pieces. it doesnt mean that he did anything incorrect in allah's eyes, but i can never hear his advice in the same light anymore knowing how very different we are in our core principles...super disappointed :( he was an icon in my insignificant eye
He is even more icon knowing he has multiple wife’s, it’s no easy having 1 wife and Mufti’s is doing well Alhamdulillah hats off to you @muftimenk
Sumaira I 2nd your sentiment 100%
@@Triedandtruecooking hey, no matter how you feel, his family and mufti menk is doing something hallal. Dont open doors for shaitaan to start gossip and talk about him, his wives and family indirectly. Stop it. Mind your own life and business please.
So sorry that's how you feel,if that's your yardstick for respect?it's fine,but it has nothing to do with him, he's still mufti irrespective of his marital status.may Allah soften our hearts to stop judging people.Amin
Agree with you completely
ASC..So let me get this right 🤨….he said he’s first wife served his parents for 22 yrs & married him when he had 2 kids , no job & lived with his parents & after all that sacrifices he gone married another woman… I’m sorry I’ve lost respect for this man 😏
24:00 women should not wait for marriage, women are less desirable when they are older as their beauty, fertility etc. will fade. Men should marry women of young age as they less disagreeable and will be more easy to coach to be your ideal wife.
Its both ways, men shouldn't wait either and fall into haram relationships or porn addictions or not lower their gaze just because theyre bachelors. I doubt a 25, 27, 30 year old man has a mind 100% guilt free of those of thoughts when they are left unmarried.
There is no hadith saying you should only marry a young woman, our Prophet's wives were all widows prior to getting married to him except for Aishah r.a.
Aishah r.a. was a young bride as well and she was known to be strong minded & opinionated - dont mix your own culture & personal interests into this & label it islamic.
@@HQR000 I am unsure if it does say but nowhere does it say to not marry a young woman. However, there are Islamic scriptures about having many kids if you can to grow the ummah which can not be done with older women in their 30s as their eggs are in a bad state.
Just because men might have those thoughts it is not haram, Yes it is best for men also to marry young however men and women are not the same, men appreciate in value with age where (as they can grow their wealth and also men can have kids even if they're at a very old age) women depreciate with value with age since their beauty, fertility and also they are less likely to be agreeable with old age so it is harder for men to coach them to be good wives whereas with a younger woman this can be done.
@Dulquer Deesh that made no sense. There is only Islam. Culture and everything is secondary and anything that is haram in culture is not worth even talking about.
@Dulquer Deesh What? are you muslim? what are you even talking about
@Dulquer Deesh Why are you tlaking about other religions? nobody cares about them. It is better for men to marry a young women as she is more fertile and will be more good looking. These things fase with age this is just facts. you are talking nonse about something something else which makes no sense.
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