Contradictory Expectations of some 'Muslim Feminists' in Marriage - Naima B Robert- MH Podcast p2
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- čas přidán 22. 09. 2021
- Episode #11 of the MH podcast
(p1 in case you missed it: • Absent Fathers, Weapon... )
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إن شاء الله
بارك الله فيك
2:32 The noble sister said a Jawami' Al-Kalim (short statement with a wide meaning) there. May Allah bless her.
Narrated Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه:
I heard Allah's Messenger ﷺ saying:
بُعِثْتُ بِجَوَامِعِ الْكَلِمِ
"I have been sent with Jawami' al-Kalim (i.e., the shortest expression carrying the widest meanings)..."
[Sahih al-Bukhari » Interpretation of Dreams - كتاب التعبير » Hadith 7013]
I think you forgot to add your Podcast 11 to your playlist,
and you forgot to name this Podcast 12, it was interesting.
@@Ibn_Abdulaziz here's a verse better than your made up useless Hadith.
إِنَّهُ لَقَوْلٌ فَصْلٌ ﴿١٣﴾
{ Indeed, the Qur'an is a decisive statement, (/AlQuran 86:13 U.M.) }
"You are being professional when you listen to your boss but you are being enslaved and oppressed when you listen to your husband". Shukran so much br. Hijab.
FEMINISM IS A LIE
so husband is your boss ?
@@Rosey-cj2nj no, the hypocrisy is the issue
@@cooljool1 @Mo Kadada yeah that's true. The point of the analogy was, the husband has certain authority for the same reason that the boss has certain authority, but some people smh think that's professional when it comes to the boss, and oppressive when it comes to the husband. But, yeah it was not about who is boss, and who is not, bcoz in Islam, God is the only Boss. God is the one who sets the rights and responsibilities, and No obedience to any creature in disobedience to the Creator.
@@garaad9806
Your husband is not your boss.
Masha'Allah Sr Na'ima is spot on with her advice... commit to the Deen and get holistically healthy... This applies to all of us no matter what age we are or where we are in life.
Yes she had a such good points same with Mohammed hijab
@@IbrahimKhan-ri6qx czcams.com/video/XIBKRT_XsX4/video.html open caption pls thanks
I have been married 25 years brought up 4 kids 3 gone to university, my wife fulfilled her role and I fulfilled my role as MUSLIMS!
My Role model Rasool Allah SAW, the Sahabah Tabaheen, Tahba-Tabaheen. My Wifes Role Model Sayidnah Khateejah, Sayidnah Aiysha, Sayidnah Fatimah and The Mother of Nabi Issa AS. Wallah-he You CANNOT Go Wrong if you follow their Principals and etiquettes!!
KEEP THIS TO YOURSELF. GRATITUDE
@@cemmossi why? Why shouldn't I tell people the best way I found to living a great life.
Amazing family brother
@@cemmossi shut up
Alhamdulillaah. Allah Ta'aalaa grant barakah in your family and preserve you all.
I absolutely adored this! I was truly at the edge of my seat. Masha Allah you and this sister and an extremely enlightening discussion and I'm gonna definitely chew on the things you two have discussed here! Allahumma baarik you guys are helping the ummah
@Mickey Kwame and which values are these that have 'just' emerged... 🙄?
I'm going to speak as a Muslim man having had used such apps and I must say, not all experiences are negative. I will also provide a brief piece of advice, not because I claim to be perfect but maybe my experience can help: I completely agree that there are issues with Muslim women expecting too much but you know what we Muslim men can do? Have those conversations early and honestly. It will save you a lot of grief later inshallah!
or just avoid them and go for other less demanding ones
We REALLY do need to make a lot of videos regarding liberalism (LGBT & Feminism) and Islam's position on it
Check out Gabriel al romani he talks about this stuff without sugar coating it
@@abde4645 I know ;) may Allah bless him
@@nikiakbari i have already did playlist on both of these. you can check it out. Islam And Liberalism: czcams.com/play/PLgrhw8sbiJg0aguMql_QAe-BZ6RnNJu52.html
Islam And Feminism: czcams.com/play/PLgrhw8sbiJg1Vv22K2hmwOCAWGUYGvmvb.html
Maybe, but at the end of the day regardless of what you alone think, or what your faith tells you to think, you don't get to determine and insist on your worldview!
@@shawnmalloy4339 the irony is that it's the other way around who's insisting 😂 we're here just trying to keep our deen and follow Allah's way
"That woman (a Muslim feminist) is a leech".
*woke Muslim feminist
@Bs sS Very Open-minded.
@@alyzak.8997Muslim feminist * don't try to add new word
I watched it all, very informative! Great guest, Mohammed! What sister Na’ima said here 9:57, the whole thing is gold. She touched on the weakness of the Muslim community. "the ideas are all around us..." "...it is really important to have these conversations..." "...to examine the forces around us..." EXACTLY! That's exactly what I am doing, starting to examine the forces around me. I am really grateful to brother Mohammed for introducing sister Na’ima to me! BTW "...wholesale of acceptance without resistance these ideologies of the West..." and the whole thing of "it's a play on lexicon", very good point, brother Mohammed. Feminists are basically the slaves of the capitalistic men. They only talk loud.
"This generation, it seem to be mentally the most fragile generation that we probably ever seen" As someone from the Gen Z I can say that this statement of sister Na’ima is 100% true, even that I hate to say it and it kind of hurts, but it is what it is.
Advice of our sister Na’ima:
1. Get yourself grounded in the deen
2. Make sure you're healthy (mind, body and soul).
3. Choose a healthy partner.
4. Understand what it means to be a wife/ husband.
5. Actively learn and cultivate those qualities within you.
6. Make a commitment that is based on something bigger than yourself (talking about marriage/ starting a family).
7. Make the decision of "that healthy children will come from me".
@TheEndTimesAreHere Just go to sleep and don´t bother us.
Much needed and very refreshing. I’m glad we are making the distinction between Muslim and non Muslim feminist’s. This needs to flood social media
Missed your presence and unique relfections on twitter brother. Hope you are well.
This sister is very balanced, honest and unapologetic in her approach. And I love it.
Jazakallah khair sister.
Excellent podcast, it's made me reflect more on strengthening my mental health and deen.
I as a Muslim man is a prime example of experiencing parental alienation and oppression at the hands on my ex narcissist wife who left me at her own Will to pursue her desires. It’s been 7 years I am in and out of courts although I won the case to have access to my children but she comes up with all kind of excuses and lies, the family courts are extremely lenient towards her, post separation she has made allegations of domestic abuse of the worst kind complete lies and manipulation, she has used Muslim organisations like ‘Nur domestic abuse’ run by Muslim women to strengthen her case and they blindly supported her without attempting to establish the facts. She cut her self off from all our mutual friends or any of her friends who witnessed her abuse and are aware of the facts, to gain support she methodically chose a new circle of friends, who are only aware of her version of events or narrative, they (as in her new friends and her self) with the support of her circle of friends she has been committing grave oppression against me and my children for the past 7 years. In addition she made a claim against all of my assets including assets I purchased many years prior to marrying her. Post separation, She been married multiple times (islamically) but in court she denied being married and when confronted with evidence she referred to nikkah as a form of dating, this is someone who practices Islam outwardly and wears a hijab. During this period, I have been admitted to hospital twice due to nervous breakdown, spent 60k pounds on legal/court costs, due to absent at work, lost over 500k, my close family and friends also suffered by not be able to see the kids. The oppression at the hands of my ex narcissist wife is of unspeakable abuse particularly against the rights of our children. However as men we are made to suffer by the secular court system of this country UK, hence such women deploy the narrative of these courts not the Islamic principles. I survived and surviving because of my faith, my strong mental disposition by the Taufeeq of Allah swt. I intend to write a book detailing all my experience so others can take heed and protect themselves and the precious innocent trust we are trusted with ‘the children’.
May Allah help you through this but have you considered having her killed?
Hold on tightly to the rope of Allah brother! (the Quran). And may Allah bless you and help you always.
Subhunallah surely you are strong with your Iman with Allah SWT he test whom he loves the most , day of justice will be served and so will yours do not forget Allah SWT love and rewards for his striving servant's
A woman needs the approval of her guardian (mostly her father) before getting married. Who was your wife's guardian? Did your wife's guardian knew she was getting married again?
How can a woman find love by being selfish? Women have always been the people who give, who sacrifice, who is supportive. As a daughter as a sister as a wife as a mother she’s a blessing. Why do women want to degrade themselves by falling into this pit called feminism.
Rightly said sister but the reward of these sacrifices everlasting, and can't be achieved by being feminist
Yeah read your comment again
I've taken a look at the MGTOW movement and it seems that even Western men are getting sick of these feminists and modern women (who-dont-need-no-man) and deciding to turn to celibacy instead. This proves that Islam has the solution, the middle ground is always the best way to adopt, not extremism on any side. And we can see the wisdom behind Allah's rulings which as a convert woman, was quite difficilt to swallow at first as I was raised with a feminist mentality. It is hard to let go, but not impossible. What was bitter to swallow now makes sense as I analyse how feminism is toxic and leading to the destruction of marriages and the society.
I can imagine how difficult that change must have been. From one sister to another, I have a lot of respect. May Allah keep you happy and with ease in dunya and akhira .
@@mohsisohal806 ameen. Jazaakillah khayr sister
@@mohsisohal806 may Allah guide us all and grant us all Jannat-ul-Firdaws and make us Muslim men and women partners in good and not enemies.
@@Diaicy19 damn wow...
So u r aware of MGTOW too ?
They r bit extreme like the feminist but theu do have some turth but anyway islam has the middle ground n solution.
Respect to u alot... ir are rare breed nowadyz especially in west.....
I pray Allah keep us in straight path...
Jazakallahu khairan
Mgtow people are basically men who don't care about women and mind their own life. I don't think it is as dangerous as feminism.
I've spoke with Muslim girls in their workplaces and the amount of effort and proffesionalism they put in is 110% but for their families and homes it's barely 10% because they "been at work all day"
what is the problem
And?
@@Chiguiro345 so I take it you haven't watched the video or learned much , it's basically saying women would rather give honour , time and effort to a boss for a bit of money instead of to their families in the household , because they see that as beneath them or below them . But giving all your effort and best years of your life to a boss is ok. Hijab comes off and western morals come into affect also .
@@nasirakhtar1233 exactly. Women today have traded in the husband for the boss.
@@najatbouk4789 you must be a woman with that response , SubhaanAllah can I ask are you Muslim ? Because we were told that women would flock to the dajjal , and men would have to restrain their women to stop them running to Dajjal ,
What a breath of fresh air! You've covered some very crucial points that unfortunately isn't addressed in today's Muslim communities and is quite the contrary, as highlighted in the podcast.
There's been times for me on a personal level, begin to question my own sanity and feel if there's something wrong with my outlook on this.
Please make more videos covering these topics so that we can raise awareness of the cancerous hypocrisy in our societies.
Someone needs to share this video with Mufti Menk and others alike, so that they can make a more balanced representation of roles, responsibilities, feminism and family structures.
The more I see these type of discussions the more I am convinced Islam is the solution to this new red pill community appearing. Feminism liberalism secularism. All isms are in the 🔥 except Islam.
Mashallah you are right. I was red pilled and Islam has saved me with a more balanced approach.
@@garrettdanielsii2305 in the same boat, especially as islam recognizes both male and female minds and how they work differently so they are commanded different. If both stick to Islam, feminism and red pill are not needed. The problem is the cowardly father generation that doesn't have the balls to lead, teach and enforce Islam in their households leading to these bs issues. The man is the leader and the women is subject similar to the us president and our selves
@@NadeemAhmed-nv2br I would not be so harsh on the father's akhi, because if they do try enforce Islam within their houses the government will come down on those men hard. I know a man that tried to discipline his daughter, she called the police and he was arrested. They have forced us to be effeminate.
@@garrettdanielsii2305 Ma sha Allah akhi Allah guided you and made you balanced. As Allah says in the Quran 'And indeed We have made you into a middle (balanced) nation'. As the other brother just mentioned if people applied Islam in their lives. There would be no need for feminism and red pill in Muslims communities.
@@ninculus3042 btw father forced in wht btw bro ?
12:55 this generation, mentally, is the most fragile
Spot on, ukhti
@TheEndTimesAreHere it's inappropriate to comment out of the context, brother. I'm sure if you're Mu'minin you'd know about that.
Al-Baqarah 2:6
إِنَّ ٱلَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا۟ سَوَآءٌ عَلَيْهِمْ ءَأَنذَرْتَهُمْ أَمْ لَمْ تُنذِرْهُمْ لَا يُؤْمِنُونَ
English - Sahih International
Indeed, those who disbelieve - it is all the same for them whether you warn them or do not warn them - they will not believe.
JazakAllah Khair to both of you for this video.
This is what I needed! Subhan’Allah may Allah bless you both
Awesome conversation...we need more such podcast
This was much needed.
Ma sha allah brother and sister that was great to talk about these Problems wich we facing today!
Beloved sisters, Men and women are not equal. I'm a sister too. Why do you want men and women to be equal? Men and women are equivalent. 1kg orange = 1kg Apple in terms of weight, they are equivalent. We have different roles. He's superior in terms of strength. A man is a protector. So what do humans protect? Something that is precious! Allah has given a beautiful status to women, jannah under her feet when she becomes a mother. 3/4 love to mother and 1/4 love to father. Stop fighting for being equal when Allah has made you far superior in certain aspects, like giving us the status to bear a child and the status of a mother. In some cases men are given superiority like protection and knowledge, just accept it and move on. May Allah grant us all hidayah and happiness :)
Stfu nah, just because ur a mother,sister, or a daughter doesnt mena ur good.
@@nomejest5919 Go say all that to your mother and sisters
Sister you explained the concept so nicely. May allah grant you goodness
your comment makes no sense
you claim women should stop trying to be equal and then claim they are far superior.
@Ayesha parvez you cannot say all man and women are equal beacuse we judge people who is better depending on their Taqwa some women are superior to man and women and some man are superior to man and women depending on their taqwa man and women have their role but when It comes to who's better not everyone is equal It depends on taqwa
I'm feeling the new haircut MH
Thank you so much to Br Mohammed and Sister Naima for discussing such important topic. May Allah preserve you both!
MashaAllah Jazakillah khayr Sister Na'ima
WE R SOOOO PROUD OF OUR SISTER NAIMA 💪👍💙
That last bit of advice by sister Naima is golden
Excellent discussion , both speakers are very concise and well articulated. Excellent advice by the sister in the end.
@TheEndTimesAreHere salvation is not needed, its a scam dont fall for it, you need no intercessors to God, ask for Him alone.
This topic needs to be talked about more often
All Muslims whether Arab or Non Arab must unite to form one nation. ✌️❤️
Sure but cant be done since people have nationalism and these so called "leaders" above! All the people above in every country will loose their power and worldly gains so they will never let muslims do that plus muslims are then further divided into sects so that they can never get united. Unfortunately muslim scholars are not doing what they should be doing but eventually war is waiting for us all cz in order to unit muslims again we need a solid blow from above ☝🏻or we'll stay busy in worldly gains!
Pan Islamism
No
3:103 "And hold firmly to the rope of Allah all together and do not become divided."
@@zahidbloch9144 why?
Brilliant points from both speakers, Mashallah keep it up
💯
@TheEndTimesAreHere You clearly have not read the Quran, you have cherry picked some verses ignoring the context,. Why don’t you do your ignorance a favour and read the whole book perhaps you will have an informed opinion at the end of it.
What is your religion/ belief anyway? If you have any proof for your own position feel free to present it and let’s see who’s position stands up to scrutiny 🧐
Those who live in glass houses really should not throw stones.
@TheEndTimesAreHere
The angels said, “Mary, God gives you news of a Word from Him, whose name will be the Messiah, Jesus, son of Mary, who will be held in honour in this world and the next, who will be one of those brought near to God.
He will speak to people in his infancy and in his adulthood. He will be one of the righteous.
She said, My Lord, how can I have a son when no man has touched me?[The angel] said, This is how God creates what He will: when He has ordained something, He only says, Be, and it is.
He will teach him the Scripture and wisdom, the Torah and the Gospel,
He will send him as a messenger to the Children of Israel: “I have come to you with a sign from your Lord: I will make the shape of a bird for you out of clay, then breathe into it and, with God’s permission, it will become a real bird; I will heal the blind and the leper, and bring the dead back to life with God’s permission; I will tell you what you may eat and what you may store up in your houses. There truly is a sign for you in this, if you are believers.
I have come to confirm the truth of the Torah which preceded me, and to make some things lawful to you which used to be forbidden. I have come to you with a sign from your Lord. Be mindful of God, obey me:
God is my Lord and your Lord, so serve Him- that is a straight path.
When Jesus realized they [still] did not believe, he said, Who will help me in God’s cause? The disciples said, We will be God’s helpers; we believe in God- witness our devotion to Him.
Lord, we believe in what You have revealed and we follow the messenger: record us among those who bear witness [to the Truth].
The [disbelievers] schemed but God also schemed; God is the Best of Schemers.
God said, “Jesus, I will take you back and raise you up to Me: I will purify you of the disbelievers. To the Day of Resurrection I will make those who follow you superior to those who disbelieved. Then you will all return to Me and I will judge between you regarding your differences.
I will make the disbelievers suffer severely in this world and the next; no one will help them.
God will pay those who believe and do good deeds their reward in full; God does not love evildoers.
We relate to you [Muhammad] this revelation, a decisive statement.
In God’s eyes Jesus is just like Adam: He created him from dust, said to him, Be, and he was.
This is the truth from your Lord, so do not be one of those who doubt.
If anyone disputes this with you now that you have been given this knowledge, say, Come, let us gather our sons and your sons, our women and your women, ourselves and yourselves, and let us pray earnestly and invoke God’s rejection on those of us who are lying.
This is the truth of the matter: there is no god but God; God is the Exalted, the Decider.
If they turn away, [know that] God is well aware of anyone who causes corruption.
[Quran 3:45-63]
May Allah SWT bless our Sister Na'ima and May Allah SWT bless our brother Muhammad Ameen
Masha Allah very important and beneficial
May ALLAH bless you both ❤️
So called feminist Muslims should be able to carry heavy things too like men.
@Yoel Cohen where is he from?
@@ummzaynul370
Hes the Theocratic ruler of Iran.
Shia Muslims, no offence irrelevant.
@Yoel Cohen
He's irrelevant and a Shia.
So no.
@@cinna_sultan JazzakAllaahu khairan.
I already know there's dumb people who will call her a "pick me" for speaking out.
I've never heard this term. Thanks for enlightening me!
Yep, and if you're a man you gotta stay away from those women who will call her a "pick me" .... jokes on them cus she is not blinded by feminist ideology or woke culture.
The last advice was very well put and highly crucial
The mental health point is spot on. The sister is a critical thinker mashallah, Allah bless her & bro Hijab 😊
@sham kay your medical argument is a bit weak, on the contrary more health benefits come with wearing a hijab and covering up, I'm saying this as a medical doctor.
Anyway I liked this sister's acknowledgement of mental health, I sympathize with psychiatric patients regardless of the cause.
I must admit your philosophy is quite interesting. Thanks for your comment and nice time.
You cannot be a feminist and a muslim at the same time.
Those two ideas completely contradict one another.
One is a Destructive Agenda, the other is the Creator's Constructive Manual/Guidance.
@@basiouny96 No, the other is a supposed guidebook of a creator, ripped off from another religion, which is a ripoff of a different religion before that.
@@2l84me8 you high bro?😭
First time listening to Naima B Robert and MashaAllah how articulate she is! May Allah bless you both for presenting us such an amazing and important discussion!
Mashallah, Excellent advice from the sister.
Mohammed Hijab, going strong as always mashallah, Alhamdulillah.
34:00
I know women that really do weaponize intimacy, about a couple of years ago one lady told me she wouldn't allow her husband to sleep with her for over a month as a punishment because he didn't bring her a gift when he came back from Europe I told her you literally pushing your husband to go to Haram she said well my friends and my family asked me what did your husband bring you when he came back and I was embarrassed?
I mean who cares what people think about what my husband got me ?
And I know another woman even worse than that.
She can't refuse, it's one of the right of the husbands.
My friend once told me he was on a promise because it was his birthday...
If she’s not having sex with her husband for a month, what what was she doing in the meantime? Red flag
I agree that women shouldn’t weaponise intimacy nor should we agree with feminism, but likewise there are some men who weaponise the hadith about angel cursing the women if they don’t provide their husbands sexual needs even when the wife is extremely fatigued or not in the best condition physically/mentally. Bad apples are on both sides. Both genders have their own roles to play and do so with mercy to each other. May Allah grant us beautiful marriage like that of our Prophet’s (pbuh) and his wives.
@@lalala94872 Ameen. Both sides could make mistakes that's how life has always been
Hijab just said what I have realized of our Muslim feminist and been saying it only to myself. I would rather be with a non Muslim feminist than a Muslim feminist.
Best comment ❤️ and I completely agree with you. Inshallah 🤲, I will marry a Christian or Jewish woman and convert her to Islam. It's better than Islamic feminism. The problem is that they are spread out in large numbers, and even in my Muslim country, may Allah curse them and cause them to enter Hell.
If I could give this video a million likes, I would. May Allah guide us all.
What a blessing for people like them. Alhamdulillah
They want traditional benefits but not traditional responsibility ..... brilliant. Sr. Is a breath of fresh air in understand the changing dynamics in Muslim marriages
A very interesting and valuable conversation. Mental health comes with Prayer, Diet, and Remembrance of Allah. Other things fall into place when you remember Allah.
Mashallah may Allah protect our brother Mohammad and sister Naima.
Mashallah. beautiful video!!!
When it comes to charity, if your hand is tied due to a fear of poverty, know that Satan has succeeded in his task. Allah Says in the Qur'an "Satan threatens you with poverty.."[Surah Al-Baqarah 268]
@TheEndTimesAreHere so you an idiot who came up with an idea of creating contents by taking out verses out of contexts, cutting before and after part then proving your point and spamming how idiot you are in the comment section. can't you get a life?
Jehovah Witnesses believe that too.
I don't understand how one can be a Muslim and a feminist at the same time !?
Feminism is basically a way of life where you take your own desires as a standard.
Like if I say now: I'm atheist and Muslim.
May Allah save us from this and guide them and us.
Who has gone up to heaven and come down?
Whose hands have gathered up the wind?
Who has wrapped up the waters in a cloak?
Who has established all the ends of the earth?
What is his name, and what is the name of his son?
Surely you know!
@@maluill
Yogi the bear?
@@jamalatmaca8071 nah
Ma shaa Allah amazing guest!
FANTASTIC PODCAST BOTH SPEAKERS HAVE SAID THE TRUTH THAT NOVODY ELSE WANTS TOO
Idk if this is the video to say it, but I do think it's best sometimes to wait a little while in marriage before having children. A good time to fully evaluate the person you're with and if you want to be having children with them. Also good time to enjoy marriage as a husband and wife relationship solely before having the responsibility of parenthood too.
I don't know if there is such a thing as "fully evaluate" a person. It sounds a bit unrealistic.
@@commander1044 Of course, you can't know anyone 100%, but I do think any major issues would make themselves clear here. Mufti menk advocated for it too. It's also nice to enjoy married life without the pressures of parenthood for a while.
@@mohsisohal806 if it's discourage blind expectations towards their future spouse then i guess it is strongly reasonable. after all we are marrying another human being. best not to pressure one another towards a certain thing unreasonably.
I understand the point you've made and to some extent I agree but people change. After kids, after 10 years of marriage, after ups and downs in life. You won't be with the same person you married ten years down the line. You will both change. That's why there should be a common goal between you both and that foundation should be agreed and built upon.
I had 9 months to enjoy marriage without the responsibilities of parenthood😅
It would have been nice to hear different perspectives within the boundaries of Islam. Maybe examples from women in Islamic history who made significant differences and how they managed their personal and professional relationships. Also I think their needs to be a conversation on superiority and inferiority in terms of the sexes and how this power dynamic is very often abused by some men.
Reading is the most realistic route for that these days. The contributions and diverse lives of righteous Muslim women in the past and present is now boiled done to stay home and cook. Alhamdullilah this narrow view is not representative of our history, but you wouldn't know it listening to social media or popular figures these days.
Masha allah thanks guys.
Wonderful conversation Brother hijab
Muhammad hijab hit the nail on the head, leech is exactly what they are. My nephew said the same thing, sisters want traditional and western ways as long as she gets it all.
Kevin Samuels on youtube talks about the problem of religious feminism. He mentions how men in america have left the church because of christian feminists. They are fundamentally feminists first but find religion has benefits of secure marriage over the liberal lifestyle of boyfriends. Problem is they want the best of both worlds.
Excellent podcast.
Wow mashallah, sister Naima is an amazing role model for muslim women and girls
Pray for me to be istiqamah. Alhamdulillah i have converted to Islam. Islam is a blessing❤️
Alhamdulillah. May Allah bless you and your family and make upon the sunnah of prophet Muhammad SAW.
100% true, this is what Muslim females demand once married.
@TheEndTimesAreHere you are unclean pagan 😂😂🤣🤣🤣
@TheEndTimesAreHere you scared to death
@TheEndTimesAreHere have some beef, it will calm you down
@TheEndTimesAreHere too much 🐖 Pork
@TheEndTimesAreHere your salvation is cheap your law according to you died on the cross ,
Loved her advices.
Very beneficial
MashaAllah ❤️
@TheEndTimesAreHere get a life
Does the sister have a CZcams channel or an account?
@@abdelghafarqwert9041 yes search her name
Hijab is an inspiration, so insightful.
We are so consumed by the issue of equality , and tricked into believing we have to be where men are. Not only we are selling ourselves short, but also missing out on the advantages of being women, whilst dismissing our right to enjoy the privilege that states what is mine is mine, and what is your is mine 😉
@@nomejest5919
Shes not wrong.
@@nomejest5919
Allah said men will be controlled by women.
This is so true, all men are used by women... Although to be fair they're wired for it.
@@cinna_sultan where did it say that u liar? Go f urself.
@@cinna_sultan No they are not. Go f urself
This sister hits the nail on the head with the list people come up with as they get older. As a single Muslim man I'll tell you straight, the sheer amount of tick boxes women have today is insane and keeps them single, ESPECIALLY on apps. They look for reasons to exclude you and move onto find a better man while wanting him to be X height with Y job and Z flexibility to adjust to her lifestyle and location. Feminism is a poison to our Muslim women but they do not know it.
Its about equality with men...
A lot of "Islamic" cultures are patriarchal based.
@@cinna_sultan I disagree. It seems that way because it's easier to criticise a man when he has to walk with his wife when she wants to go outside as her mahram instead of realising his role given by God is to protect his wife, even from prying eyes. It's easy to see a woman being worth half a man in her inheritance but more difficult to realise that it's because her husband's money is Islamically hers, while her brothers month is his wife's. People are too short sighted
Couldn’t have put it any better myself. You literally hit the nail on the head. Don’t worry keep searching, do your part and leave the rest to Allah. I too experienced this for many years while searching for a spouse. But alhumdulillah i found that old school, traditional girl that i was looking for, all thanks to the almighty 🤲🏼
@@cinna_sultan no it isn't about "equality". it's about being delusional with your demands and looking for unicorns.
@@LagunaLeonhart
Oh so in Saudi Arabia where women couldn't drive until 2021? You call that "Islamically" permissible?
What about countries such as Afghanistan and the UAE where women do not even have freedom of dress.
What about marriage in countries such as Pakistan and Turkey? The girls get a lot to do and don't get enough for it.
I am a Muslim, all for Islam of course but the mindset of Muslims in todays cultures need to meet what the Qu'ran and Allah actually tells us to do.
True said, brother
its really important this debate is really important we need this debate in muslim world we need to enagage this muslim feminist in this debate
Hi Brother Hijab, I've been watching your videos for a very long time. But, can you have a debate with this Christian Prince? We've been all waiting for this. Assalamualaikum and peace 🙏😊
I’m Christian. And I believe and agree with this 100%. I don’t think women can have it both ways, or should even want it both ways. My husband is Muslim, and even though I am a Christian, when we visit his family or really any time he would ask me to do so I wear hijab. Sometimes I wear it on my own just because I like the way it looks and makes me feel. After meeting him I also started dressing more modestly as well, not because he asked me to but because I respect him and his religion and his family and his reputation, and our relationship. I will say that I am bossy lol but I don’t consider that being a feminist that’s just my personality! And we laugh about it a lot. But I found this video to be very enlightening, And good for all women to watch not just Islamic women but all women. Sometimes we need to check ourselves… I’m just saying…
And Naima… The day you decide to have hot girl Summer, let me know! I’m coming! 😂🤣😂🤣
But men have it both ways,do some of you women. Even sit down and think? Most women are working while also taking care of the kids and doing the cleaning, women can't have it both ways but men can?
Jazakallahu khairan
This was an amazing podcast and covered a lot of topics, and we need more of it.
I do feel it’s weird how as a whole, conversations are always more about women issues when in reality even if it’s true, men are more of an issue. We need more discussions about men in marriages etc.
I 100% agree with you. (I am a man)
Some muslim women is influenced by feminism which is destroying marriage and it is pandemic nowadays and to discuss it is not weird in fact it should be discussed more. Look at the title It's about "muslim feminist" so of course they are addressing about that more. You are right that we need to talk about men issues in marriage...INSHALLAH it will discussed in another video.
100% but I don't know why conversations are seemingly only considered from a female perspective rarely the man's.... I can't help but feel it is getting boring, and a lot of men appeared to be jumping on the bandwagon just to attack women now......
@@shajar8187 if you read what i wrote then you'd realise most of your response was pointless. Nothing to do with what i said. I made a point and was specific about the overall discussion on marriage. You did the typical misogynistic thing and somehow flipped it on women.
I hardly see men denying women’s Islamic rights such as her right to receive mehr, but I regularly see women denying men’s Islamic rights such as his right to be obeyed. So who’s really the problem?
Someone tell me if im wrong. But if you accept feminism doesn’t that mean you believe Allah Swt, hasnt given adequate rights for women through islam and the teachings of prophet Muhammad pbuh? And that borders major sin?
I think despite of Islam, women are in many societies deprived of their god given rights, I think this pushes a lot of women into becoming intolerant feminists who push for rights and positions beyond what is rightly theirs,
That said, if you believe feminism is a movement which seeks to entitle women to the rights they are already islamically entitled to yet are deprived of in the societies in which they live, how are you committing a major sin?
or any sin at all?
I think feminism was bourne out of injustices against women, but has now become an oppressive movement towards men AND women.... but everyone has their own interpretations of what they think feminism is and their own understanding, like shia for example you cannot call them non Muslims without first establishing what is it they actually believe in, you cannot call someone who ascribes themselves to feminism a non Muslim or accuse them of committing major sins without examining what they actually believe...
@Potato Man Wrong. Where do we go? Back to Islam.
Feminism whichever way you interpret it is 100% haram, no debate, because its core belief goes against what Islam teaches. Don’t confuse islam with culture. If women are denied their rights, almost all of the time it is the culture/society and corrupt ppl. Islam is the law, the way of life and it is perfect. It does not need a substitute.
Allah (SWT) has given women many rights but those rights aren't followed by Muslims men. The feminist cause protects Muslim women's God given rights. Feminism is not a religion but a social movement. Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) actively spoke for the rights of women and that when a person is oppressed they should speak against their oppressor. So no it's not Haram. In fact it's encouraged. God has given women voice and intellect so why shouldn't they use it?
@The Alpha I love Islam and I am a Muslim. I specifically said that feminism isn't a religion but a movement. I also expressed that Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) actively spoke for women empowerment. He specifically said "the best of men are those who are best to their women."
He has also spoken against female foeticide and has urged fathers to treat their daughters and sons equally. If we look at his life, he married Hazrat Khadija (RA) a woman who was 15 years his senior and was a successful business woman. He had four daughters whom he loved dearly. He would also help his wives around the house. What I said in my earlier statement is Islamic. I didn't say anything that's against Islam.
MH barber finally fixed him up اللهم بارك
its the firat time i have seen Muhammad Hijab having a conversation with someone smarter than himself. Mashallah. And this experiemce really showed that how humble he is. Also a lot of prayers for the sister who is doing such a good job mashallah.
Seeing a lot of female Muslims in the comment section being vexed by the podcasts.
To all of them, it is important to look both sides of the coin before you come to a decision. Since, modern society has prioritized only one narrative and that too of victim hood. Therefore, this talk is enlightening as it provides fresh context and angle.
Instead of being offended, listen and question yourself rationally while not assuming everything about each gender.
Brothers and sisters never forget our oppressed brothers and sisters in your dua and raise awareness for them specially the uyghur brothers and sisters. Our brothers in kashmir are also in great pain. Remember dua is the biggest strength of a believer.
Our beloved prophet(sm) said ,'‘Whoever of you sees an evil, let him change it with his hand; if he is unable to, then with his tongue; if he is unable, then with his heart - and that is the weakest of faith.’' Narrated by Muslim in his saheeh
I see you reposting this in several threads and videos to raise awareness. May Allah reward you for your efforts.
@@muneirovalibas6194 ameen and jazakAllahu khyran brother
Sr. Naima brilliant
Mashah ALLAH very informative
what needs to be discussed in the community is the bait and switch tactic in marriage.
Scenario 1: Husband says before marriage, you can work, and i won't force the hijab. After marriage - stay in the house and cover up!
Scenario 2: Woman says, we are a partnership, and we'll build a foundation together. After marriage....yeah that's my right to not work so i'm going to stay at home, and make demands now.
ruins the point of the hijab if you're forced to do the hijab. if you're forced to be modest, its not really modesty coming from you now is it.
@@Zero-fh2wbthat's completely false. It doesn't matter whether your son prays because you force him to, or because he prays out of his volition. You as a man have been charged with the duty of ensuring your. Children abide by the Sharia.
@@KingKhan-vo4zg intention is a central aspect of islam. Praying with no intention to pray is a meaningless and forced prayer. You aren’t truly praying, but praying for for external validation and under the condition of not facing irl consequences. This kind of prayer has no faith
@@Zero-fh2wb that doesn't matter for the father however; the father must still ensure his son prays, and that his daughter observes the hijab.
@@KingKhan-vo4zg the son also has hijab. Every Muslim has a hijab. The best way to ensure your kids follow the hijab and prayer is if you guide them to have the willful intent to do so. Forcing them arrogantly not only goes against the proper way to treat people, but its counterproductive to actually trying to make them want to pray or wear hijab. So yourr point is completely hypocritical
at last some one addresses this problem
Mashallah may allah bless the sister. Inshallah i hope my daughters become like her inshallah. Righteous n pious.
Mashallah nice conversation
Masha Allah we like to hear this topic every night.. Thanks brother hijab be blessed.. From Kenya Asalam Aleykum..
The fact that grown women need to be told that is mind boggling
femenism, where women want both the privileges of men and women, but the accountability of a toddler
Every human needs to be told what to do.
You are a creation and servant of God.
@@profanotherletter4346 can I take this quote?
@@ZaineBization thank u for notifing me there was a grammar mistake lol
The fragility of this generation is manufactured. If the advice for them to get help means go to a "therapist", then know they won't find any solutions there. The "mental health" racket is precisely the same people who have manufactured this fragility in this generation.
Everything on point
As a Muslim women, I have never ever felt the need to be a femimist and to talk about women's empowerment / accomplishments or big women up in some special kind of way. I really have never felt the need to do that and I guess I owe that to the environment I grew up in and how my mother raised me. She's always been the breadwinner of our family as a single parent, my aunts, female cousins all of us women in the family have been independent since childhood alhamdulillah and we never saw any hierarchy mirarchy patriarchy bla bla whatever. Or feel like we have to celebrate women in some special way whenever they achieve something.... To me that's like making women lesser than men when they do that. It's like because she's expected to be less smart, less of an achiever, less of everything hence when she achieves something, she's celebrated in such a big way. I mean men don't get that?! There's no International Men's Day, masculine movement or whatever.... Men are just men and women should just be women. He achieves something, great. She achieves something, great. Human beings achieved something not "wooow this gender actually achieved something!?" Why make is so damn complicated?! I seriously never understand this
Please Mohammed hijab even though you are very knowledgeable and you make good points, you don't let the guests speak enough on your podcasts. I wanna hear them speak more. Jazakallah khair Sheikh
It's a podcast, not a Q&A.
@@krosskross1221don't start arguments over nothing
13:50 she's soooooo true. So true
I am curious for this, i am waiting for my teacher to give us break at least, today she is taking longer
If husbands respected and didn't humiliate their wives for being financially dependent on them, which women would want to work outside? Why on earth a rational human being would want to put herself under so much burden of both household duties and office duties and child nurturing duties? Yet many women choose to do so, just for the sake of basic human dignity which their husbands deprive them from, when they are dependent. They also have parents whom they would like to support. Why do you blame it on feminism? Since men are natural leaders, they must have lead to this nonsense situation. I want to stay at home as a homemaker, I would like to cook, clean, raise children. Can you give me a guarantee that my husband would not humiliate me for not working, being dependent on him? Can you guarantee that he would not cheat on me when I get old, put me in a humiliating position of having to share him with another woman? What options do I have other than not working?
JazakAllahu khayran for your comment. It is good to see some sense.
MH has a pornography addiction.
For a woman to say "I don't cook and don't clean at all for you" and for a man to say "I don't do nothing in the house either", aren't both of these cases extrem? I'm not saying it should be 50-50 rather why shouldn't it be appropried to each situation, where both party are satisfied?
If a sister works part-time, and wishes to use her earnings to clean the household,
I think that is reasonable.
Also, the point is What is the primary obligation of wife? And husband? . Of course men should. Not sit around doing nothing. But their primary obligation is towards fulfilling his financial duty and then spending time with wife+ parenting and then whatever time is left should be used for household chores in that order.
This is different from each household. If a man works 8 hours a day at a construction site will OBVIOUSLY be more tired than a man who works 8 hours a day in a white collar job. Thus, the office worker will be able to contribute more towards chores compared to the blue collar worker.
The Bible says in John 3:16-36 that whoever believes in the Lord Jesus Christ shall not perish but have everlasting life, the Bible also says in Romans 10:9 that those who declare with their mouth that Jesus Christ is their God, Lord, and Savior they shall be saved. Revelation 1:8 says that Jesus is the alpha and the omega. Luke and revelation is the ending times, and Jesus is returning back. So are you going to submit your life to him or no? Narrow is the path that leads to the gates of heaven, but only few people find it. The gates that is the path to destruction is where many people find it! Jesus loves you SO MUCH! That he died on the cross, and was resurrected from the dead 3 days later to give us eternal life..!.!.!.
Stay away from the people opinions or the society fitna of an opinion and go back to the Quran and Sunnah surely you will find the Haq of your existence and responsibilities for one another may Allah make us sincere and accept our doings
My brother Hijab says as it is!
"They want the traditional benefits, but without the traditional responsibilities." 2:55
JazzakAllaahu khairan we needed this, the sister nailed it Alhamdulillah. Sadly Muslims women are forgetting their duties.
Men are too
@@cinna_sultanyes. in this case its the so called feminist Muslims.