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- čas přidán 10. 03. 2018
- Daniel explains how triggers work and why it's important to respect them.
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When you first said "Jello, popsicles, and soup broth" my first thought was honestly "Maybe something bad was done to them while they were eating those foods?" and while my thought wasn't 100% accurate, that is honestly more of how people should think. They shouldn't automatically doubt triggers just because they seem strange. Hell, one of my triggers is the feeling of sweat on my skin. For the most part it's very difficult to control when I experience this trigger, but I can avoid it in some circumstances (I generally avoid any exercise on humid days to minimize how much I sweat). Just about anything can be a trigger. It's not anyone else's place to judge
Thank you for this!
My first introduction to the term, "trigger" was in phrases like, "I've been triggered," "that triggered me," and "trigger warning," mostly used by Millennials (my own generation) in the political world as a way of saying, "you offended me or hurt my feelings by saying something I disagree with." I literally thought that's what "triggering" was - saying something that someone disagrees with and therefore makes them feel uncomfortable. And to be perfectly honest, it thought it was a cop-out for people who don't want to have conversations with people with opposing points of view from their own.
So now, understanding the true definition of a trigger, what it means to be "triggered" and why it's important to give trigger warnings has helped me to stop looking at these terms in a negative light and see their true importance and value. I realize that these terms are often misunderstood and misused in the political world. Which I should have known. Since when is any word or phrased actually used correctly in politics? Lol
This is one of the most sensible and well-put explanations on triggers I've seen.
I recently came across this channel and everything you were saying made a light go off in my head. It was like my whole life made sense. I talked to my therapist about D.I.D and after a while we came to the conclusion that I've been living with D.I.D since I was a kid. I freaked out at first and was really scared but your channel has helped me accept myself for who I am. Now I spend most days trying to discover more about my alters and I. I just wanted to say thank you for all that you've done for us. I'm actually starting to feel better then I've had in years.
This is fantastic! I'm so glad you're doing better 😊
I started to have a gut feeling in March, and after I've asked loved ones and my therapist this week about myself, I was confirmed in my speculations - - my paranoia and depending personality have "vanished", now i know it was me, but not me.
It was a chok for me too, my body felt lighter and then the sadness came..
I remembered someone say - "wait untill April" thought it was about my now ex bf, but apparently it was the month i would be reassured (countless times) that I'm an alter and have alters...
I see you wrote a year ago, and i hope and wish you have found some kind of peace and feel safe in your life - And i also thank the entropy system and dissociaDID for spreading the message m, what s bunch of wonderful people 🤍
It’s been a few years, hope you and your system are doing well
The use of triggers as jokes by people without any mental illnesses has always rubbed me the wrong way. I'm glad there's informative videos like this out there! Every time I try to explain certain triggers to people who don't really know me, but can see I'm uncomfortable in a situation, they don't really seem to get it :/ unless it's something more obvious and well known.
One of my triggers is a certain deodorant smell because of a Trauma, and I feel so glad to hear you talking about specific and general kinds of trauma because of that! We have to have self responsibility and not delegate everything just to others, but it's only fair to expect from others to have our feelings respected.
Well said. You don't have to understand it, you just have to respect it. If only more people would just do that!
It's like if someone is allergic to something specific, you aren't gonna tell them that they don't actually have that allergy just cause it's not common. I am allergic to coconut, just because it's not peanuts or bees that doesn't mean I'm not still allergic to coconut
Woah, I can’t imagine being on a clear liquid diet for a month. I’ve had to be on that for only a couple days at any given time. Thank you Daniel, I didn’t realize how disrespectful that meme was, and I’ve never made jokes on the internet about it, but I just want to apologize for thinking it was a joke. Video was great as always!
Honestly I love early mid 2000s songs but I kinda have to be careful when listening to a random playlist of songs cause a couple of songs like Katy Perry's ET is a trigger to trauma I suffered. Thank you for making this video
Daniel, you are killing it with the educational video. I really look forward to when you get to collab with Kati Morton some day. Double the educational video! :)
Thank you for this. I have a friend who was in a mental hospital after hurting herself and now any type of bracelet that has like the papery feel to it makes her hyperventilate, this of course causes problems for field trips and I wish more people would not just watch this video, but all your videos, just to understand all types of, well anything really!
I never had the heart to tell anyone some of my weird triggers until I saw this. My parents always told me that I can't let something so small bother me... And in my head all I'm thinking is: you really don't get it. Thank you for making this.
This is the best explanation of triggers I’ve ever heard.
the shrimp thing is such a perfect analogy, well done!
I'm honestly so thankful for this video. When my friends found out about some of my triggers they made fun of them for awhile until I had to pull them aside and tell them why and honestly it's humiliating to have to explain yourself and why you feel the way you do. Sorry for rambling but I really do appreciate this video
I’m sorry your friends didn’t take your triggers seriously. I hope they are far more respectful now. -Wyn
Hey! I don’t have any triggers or D.I.D. myself, but I just wanted to give you guys some love for making this channel and talking about a lot of things that are difficult to talk about. This channel is very educational and with each video I watch I learn something new. I hope everyone who is reading this has a great day! ❤️
I've got my own triggers, and I've always tried to be careful when people tell me they have them.
That said it's saddens me when I see someone angrily demand warnings. If you are in a highly emotional state step away calm down and ask for warnings calmly. You will be received better and a lot of the time that person will be very willing to help others.
This is an issue for me because I have some memory confusion and I will think I put warnings when I didn't. It is hard when people react so harshly to my mistakes.
I am so happy that this content is on the internet explained in such a simple and relatable way! Amazing job explaining this 😁
I'm in love with Daniel - there, I said it. He's so smart and sincere, he just melts my heart. I mean, he could be educating me about organic chemistry and I would still be acing all my tests in a blink of an eye.
We need more of Daniel!
I am very grateful for this video. I have a bizarre trigger of whole apples. Some of my splits (our systems alters) have the apples as a trigger (small t trigger) and some have them (the Trauma holder split) have them as Triggers. This helped me understand why apples were a Trigger for some splits and apples were a trigger for others. It confused me on why even though i knew it was a Trigger and some of my alters treated it like a Trigger why it affected me (host) and other alters like a trigger. When you were explaining the shrimp part it reminded me of how my grandma is triggered (small t) by broccoli. She got violently ill from broccoli cooking while pregnant and now decades later she still gets very nauseous and almost sick from cooking broccoli. (Thats like the guy refusing to eat shrimp) this helped understand a lot more other triggers i have and how to classify them.
This video came up in my watch-later about a week after I had an argument about understanding my trigger vs. respecting my trigger. The argument ended with "understanding isn't the problem, it's just that logic doesn't work on you!" Wish I'd had this video handy, and a much-deserved FU.
Thank you for this video so much! I hate how the internet has morphed the term "triggered" into something equivalent to "offended."
Wonderful and informative video. Thank you, Daniel & all of you. ^_^
It's so incredibly sad when someone "have" to explain something like this. It's awful with careless strangers online, and it's terrible when you need to do it more than once with people in RL, like close family members. 🙄 There are a few things that trigger me but I stopped telling them to be careful or stop talking with me about it all together because they don't believe me, so they forget. I just always try to guide the conversation, and if I can't I just know it will be a horrible day and night. I have two little girls, and I'm trying very hard to teach them to be respectful and caring and understanding (even if they don't "get it", like you said). I hope with all my heart that I'm doing a good job 😐
I have trauma around hospitals/doctors, too, and unfortunately this makes medical visits SO difficult. My biggest triggers are the smell of disinfectant, needles, restraints, and people wearing scrubs. Doctors and nurses always treat me like I'm crazy, or making it up. I think it's hard for people to understand why it's traumatic, when medical care saved my life, and was helpful to me, unlike most traumas, which would be better if they never occurred. I know a lot of people have medical trauma, so thank you for sharing this.
Severe stomach issues made me go on the BRAT(bananas,rice,applesauce,and plain toast) for close to a year until the right medication stopped my near constant vomiting of any other food and now I’m better it’s safe to say I will never eat any of those foods again😅some people do have weird triggers and they should all be respected, great video
Lol my trigger is owl movies so... Yh I guess that’s pretty weird lmaooo
I came across this channel and I am so glad I did. I have been living with D.I.D most my life but didn't really get fully diagnosed until much later in life. While I have learned quite a bit over time...there is still so much more Im still learning. Your videos have been very helpful and inspiring. Made me feel pretty good to know that I have been handling it correctly. My alters used to scare me, but my therapist taught me to trust them because they exist for a reason. As long as they are not causing me harm, to not be scared. I subscribed because I want to continue keeping up with you all in hopes that I will learn even more. I have wanted to make videos as well...(the closest are my performance videos which most of the time one of my alters) but have not gotten the courage to do it yet.
For years now I have been trying to figure out why I am so scared of owl movies... but now I know why... and wow I didn’t even know I could remember things form I was like 5
I actually gave up on watching OITNB, because of the abuse scene between the guard and the newly religious inmate (whose name I can't remember). It was so out of nowhere to me that I physically felt ill and couldn't stop crying for hours. I couldn't stand to be touched or comforted, because it brought up harmful memories in full force. It was in no way the person trying to comfort me's fault, because I was reliving trauma and didn't want to associate someone else into those feelings.
Trauma is a hard thing to talk about and a difficult thing to overcome. Trigger warnings help prepare or ward away someone trying to cope with their respective issues. Honestly, I wish it were more ingrained in film to have warnings like some series have.
I like that! The upper and lower case T’s to explain trauma. Thanks for that Daniel! And umm entropy system (still trying to find the words to address you all as a whole)
Thank you for this video. I have some uncommon triggers, that are pretty problematic in my life right now. at least in the social part with my lil sister. (the village my lil sister lives in and her mother (my ex-stepmother)) and People tend to tell me to get the f over it and don't be so childish because I refuse to ever set foot in that village again, especialy in that apartment. And I just decided to just simply send them this Video as response. So I thank you hugely for a appropiate comeback, without having to pull to much skelletons out of the closet!
(Btw sorry for spelling or grammer errors, I'm not a native english speaker, my first language is German)
Thank you so much for addressing triggers! You explained this very well. Thanks for making this video.
Hey I have a question. When I was in a hellish school I was suicidal and depressed. When ever people talk about it I start to cry and get really shaky. Is that a trigger? I mean, my mom has photos of me when I was going to that school but when my uncle brought it up in a Chick-fil-A I just broke down and had to go to the bathroom to cry. But anyway I guess i just wanted to ask thanks.
Zappy Games Yeah, it's a trigger
Question! Are your triggers general for everyone in your system, or does one just pertain to a certain person?
Before you hate me for saying this I want to explain that I completely understand the need to warn others about triggers. This is just one of the many things I get mad about that I shouldn’t be mad about so I comment it to get the bad thoughts away.
I really don’t like when people comment asking for trigger warnings on videos that obviously show that the thing is in the video. Saying that to someone who said it in a video you didn’t know had that that’s fine but just like she said in the video it’s your responsibility too to avoid these type of things my main example is how on tiktok so many people in the comments said “please put a trigger warning for self harm” and the video was nothing but someone cutting soap with a exact knife. No scars or anything visible only cutting soap. I get the blade might trigger you but it’s not our responsibility to put a warning on a video about soap...
This video is so important, some people still don't respect that people have triggers ;;
Hello Daniel. Thank you for making this video. Most people we've come across don't understand triggers and don't understand how easily they can affect us. Thank you again for this video. - Nathan
Very informative. Even as a nurse in the mental health field I never truly thought about the trigger warnings and how they are meant to protect someone.
Thank you for putting it into perspective for me. I really appreciate it Daniel.
I love this video, its so enlightening and helpful. You guys are the best. Someone I feel really is genuine and i appreciate that. Keep up the amazing work.
I think this is a great video! I don’t deal with triggers, but I know there is a lot of misunderstandings about triggers that needs to be talked about. Most people think that triggers have to be bad like war flashbacks due to fireworks, or sexual abuse related. While many people do have triggers like that, some people have more mundane things as a trigger. See, I’m an aspiring writer, and when I use something touchy for my characters, I do research. I have a character with PTSD who’s triggers are electronics, cucumbers, and peanut butter. All seemingly normal things, but just like the tumblr post you talked about, some people have a different story. I think this video does a great job explaining triggers, thanks you for making it!
Also this is such a good video. Daniel explained everything so well and I think more people should watch this.
Great analogy and explanation!
It's so funny that the example you used for trauma was getting sick from shrimp, because I still can't eat shrimp at age 22 because I had food poisoning from it at age 10. The fact you used an exact example that happened to me helped me understand triggers so much. I suffer from anxiety and depression but didn't quite understand triggers, or even know if I have anyone unknown ones that may trigger anxiety or panic attacks. Now it will be easier from ne to possibly understand in the future what might be causing my panic attack. My mother suffers from PTSD but fortunately I don't (though we experienced similar Trauma but she was more the object of the Trauma and me the observer) and I never really understood how it works or what a trigger really is. Well anyways sorry for my rambling, but you really sparked a realization for me. Thanks Daniel! New subscriber and enjoyed of your videos :)
Thank you for talking about the physical effects of triggers as well. I have GAD and verbal conflict is a trigger of mine, and I literally got so anxious I vomited the other day when one of my roommates told me he needed me to be a witness when he confronted the other roommates about debt. My roommate didn’t understand why I was so upset.
The end bit reminded me so much of Hank Green in crash course, I'm working on prereqs to be a nurse and he's quite helpful. Such an informative video Daniel! Thank you!
I appreciate this explanation of triggers. I have PTSD due to abuse as a kid, and it's difficult to explain triggers to people. I find it very hard to explain it to people due to the mass amount of stigma around it. thank you
Very helpful! Thank you, Daniel. :)
Thank you for making this video!!! I’ve tried to explain this to other people, but you explained it much better than me.
Thank you Daniel lu all !!
this is such a good explanation of trauma!! i’ve never been able to really explain to other people how being triggered works, and this is such a big help in being cohesive n accurate when i’m discussing the things i need to be warned about. thank you :’>
I don't have DID myself and so far I thought i didn't understand u guys but now, thanks to this video I realize i actually have a lot of triggers and... I even had a flashback which is not the best (even tho this flashback happened 3 years ago and I have recollected a lot of info about DID and flashbacks I never thought i actually experienced one til now)
So thanks!! Your videos are very helpful :)
Daniel I love your videos so much. You are great at explaining and just talking about these things. I enjoy watching it a lot, and I also learned a lot thanks to (all of) you. Thank you so much!
This is so well said. I love it!!
Hi Daniel, tiny question: Would a phobia to something be considered a trigger within that definition? I experience intense panic attacks (with physical symptoms that differ) each time I see a worm and related organisms I prefer not to name, but there is no trauma (or Trauma) associated with that and my phobia was not there one day and there the next (unless somehow I'm dissociated from a traumatic memory, unlikely). People generally consider me phobic. I have in the past referred to worms as a trigger. Is doing so wrong?
Ellie K just a personal opinion of mine, but I think if it makes you go on a panic attack, it deserves a trigger warning. Maybe can find more opinions in places like Quora.com
Ellie K just a personal opinion of mine, but I think if it makes you go on a panic attack, it deserves a trigger warning. Maybe can find more opinions in places like Quora.com
I think that's fine. If it triggers you, it's a trigger; if it makes you have a panic attack, it triggers you.
I relate so much when it comes extraordinary triggers! Depending on the day and time, I can't look at a blank wall and I really don't wanna explain to everybody why I am having a nervous staring contest with my feet
I liked this it explained what I feel when I cry from like feelings cause I would always hear my dad scream at my sister "get over it your fine." And stuff like that if she cried, so my brain goes in insane if I cry in front of people I will blocked myself from the world and just shut down.This post was hard to type but I feel better.
thank you so much daniel, i just found your channel as i was doing the dishes today lol ^_^ i have quite a few triggers that i don't understand quite yet, i wish people (even the people closest to me..) would be tolerant, but they aren't.... maybe people will understand more after this video!! thank you :4
This is by far one of the best videos I've seen explaining triggers. Thank you so much for that! When it comes to trigger warnings there is one art form where I have struggled to find the best way to approach it and I would really appreciate some insight on how to deal with it more sensitively: performed poetry (e.g. poetry slam). When we do poetry slams in our local community, it's usually extremely packed. The lights are on, people are standing or sitting on the floor like sardines, and you never know which poem will come next. If a poet adds at the beginning of their poem that it will be on the topic of XYZ (e.g. sexual assault) and give people time to leave the room, everyone sees who is leaving the room. There is no anonymity. Therefore you hardly (or rather never) see someone leaving, for the very few poets who do add trigger warnings in the first place. How can a safe space be created? Is there maybe a subtle way to warn them but also to keep their anonymity? Has anyone been in a performed poetry setting where they made good experiences and can share them with us? (The same problem can also be seen in classrooms or at university, where everyone knows each other, but some might want to keep their Traumas private and thus not leave the room.)
I hold a very specific trauma... It's more like, lots of recurring little scary things that share a similar thing. It means that, I can't put my phone on vibrate, I can't deal with landline telephones, I am terrified of smoke alarms. I get teased but, you know, I can't help it. Sure, I don't hold the Trauma, but I deal with stuff that's still frightening -Damien
Very well explained!
Thank you for making this video! (Out of respect, I want to say that the below story may trigger some who have witnessed violence). I worked in a facility that housed at-risk youth & underage victims of trauma (emotional, sexual, violent, neglect, etc), so I do know that triggers can come from the most unassuming of sources. During my training, I once read about a 2 year old girl who when placed in foster care was terrified of door knocks, loud, sudden noises & milk. Not necessarily together. Her caregivers (who eventually adopted her) came to learn that prior to her coming into the foster care system she lived with her mother who was a drug addict. Apparently one night there was a knock at the door. The mom was very high, but let someone in There was a conflict, a gun shot & the mother was killed. The little girl hid & was unharmed (physically), but was so young that after the intruders left she thought her mom was sleeping. She tried for days to give her mom milk (the only thing she knew to give). Days later she was discovered and taken into state custody. This is why you should NEVER judge or demean someone for their triggers. The smallest thing in your mind might just stem from the worst thing that ever happened to them. True Story!
I have borderline personality disorder and having a completely really bad time excepting it but I love your whole video on triggers because I’m still trying to figure out all of mine I know some of mine are hospitals because when I was very young I had at least more than a half a dozen surgeries on my eyes and heart surgery and a hernia surgery so I am thank you for sharing this and telling about triggers because I’m still trying to figure out my own somethings do trigger me and then sometime the same thing doesn’t trigger me I don’t understand it at all although I do understand that I’ve had flashbacks of somebody laughing at me and I was very young and the person was in a white shirt white pants and I was in the hospital in a hospital bed and they were right by my bed and all I get the sense of was being raped as what I felt like
Love this.. so well explained
I had a really bad year when I entered high school, it was a time where everything in my life was wrong and I was able to get through that, but everytime I'm in a very similar situation, even if I see one of my 1st semester classmates my brain starts to remember and tells me to go away, it happened to me on one class last semester, there was 3 of them and I just ran to the bathroom to cry, I didn't understand why even if that was 3 years ago I still have so much fear to be in that position again and now i think I know
I just rewatched this episode and thought I should say something. Something that triggered the shit out of me was watching 13 reasons why. I don’t know why I watched it, but people were like ... “maybe you will get it from a different perspective “ or just “you should really watch it”. And I did. And let’s just say I haven’t been that depressed for years, it threw me backwards into all the thoughts, and emotions... I see that they did something different when they made the second season (I am not watching it though), with adding helplines and so.. which they didn’t before. But seriously, if you have a mental illness where suicidal thoughts or severe depression is a part of it, I really recommend to NOT watch it.
Thank you for this! I have a lot of common triggers, but I also have pretty specific ones - including Mr. Bean. Yep.
In 2014 two of my friends were killed by terrorists. During this time there was a lot of arguing and yelling in my class because one of my classmates had severe paranoia and the class didn't understand so they fought daily. Fastforward to 2017 and 2018, I'm in another school, I have healed from self harm and other symptoms but yet I get anxiety attacks when there is a lot of noise in class. I didn't understand why but I told my classmates this. All they heard was ''you are not aloud to have fun and be loud'' so they continued to do it and sometimes did it on purpose. I still struggle with them and I still get anxiety attacks because of them, I've considered leaving school over 20 times
i really appreciate the bit about the "dragon" trigger. i knew someone who would use their triggers to force people to censor their lives and not talk about their romantic partners and alike because they didn't understand what triggers actually are. i think they know better now?
I hate soup for the same reason (hospital) and nobody ever understands, so it felt validating to hear that story!
Triggers are weird and so bizarrely personal. For a long time the smell of eggs made me gag and shake in fear, and it took many experiences that were positive to allow me to bear the smell as just uncomfortable and even be able to eat omlettes and other foods where the egg is not the only or dominant flavor. Without fail to this day it drags me back to specific moments and I have to remind myself that I am free of those times.
I was fortunate to be able to pass this off in most part as just hating a food, with some people even assuming I had an allergy and easily letting me avoid them. Even this though took quite a toll as any of my family and friends before the point where this started knew eggs were one of my favorite foods up to that point, and often insisted I eat eggs even as I gagged and choked. Dont misunderstand, they were well intentioned and confused, and once it sank in that I really couldnt they stopped. To have a stranger insist I was faking on top of trying to navigate handling a new trigger would have been devistating at the time. Just leave it alone. It hurts nobody to avoid things specified as triggers.
not too long ago I used to think the whole trigger and trigger warning thing was ridiculous and that people were just being too sensitive about everything ect. then my son started experiencing the effects of triggers (the things that trigger him) and flashbacks from triggers. now I realize how insensitive I was. triggers are real and can be really scary for some people. (even the people watching someone get triggered). i try to avoid them as much as possible but i also worry i shouldnt be avoiding them because my son should learn to cope in order to funtion in the real world. idk but I do hope more people will be understanding of this someday.
I completely relate to the lower t trauma and a trigger! When I was 17 I had my wisdom teeth extracted and I developed a dry socket, which for those who don't know what it is, its when the gum that had the tooth in it (the socket), prematurely looses the blood clot and it is very painful because there is nothing to lubricate that socket. So what happened with that, was the oral surgeon put a gauge packing soaked in clove oil into that socket and was absolutely disgusting tasting and gave me horrible stomach pain! So probably 10 years, the smell of anything that had been made with cloves; such as cookies, baked ham, pumpkin pie, etc., the smell would trigger the memories of that event and it would literally make me sick to my stomach! For anyone who believes that it's a crock of crap, hasn't experienced something traumatic enough for this to happen and needs to educate themselves concerning triggers and trauma! I had developed a trigger with going to the dentist prior to that because in the earlier part of my teenage years, my dentist literally sat on me to extract teeth! So when I became an adult, there were many many years I didn't go to the dentist! Thank goodness I was put under anesthesia when my wisdom teeth were removed! Still now when I go to the dentist, my hands are tightly grasped on the arm rests of the chair and my knuckles turn white due to how hard I'm grasping the armrest! There are other triggers to events that happened in my teen years and early adulthood but I don't want to get dinged by CZcams for sexually explicit comments! I don't have DID but I'm a nurse and have a good understanding of it! Human bodies do what they have to do in order to cope!
Thank you so much! Not only do I suffer from PTSD from childhood abuse, as well as being autistic, and high pitched noises trigger me, and no one ever understands. Remember the 'mosquito' ring tone that teachers 'apparently' couldn't hear? I'm extremely audio sensitive, and loud high pitched noises cause me physical pain. I can't tell you the number of times I was called a 'snitch' because I had an obviously extreme reaction to the ring tones... Not to mention other instances.
I have triggers, SJWs and feminists kinda stretched and misshaped and basically led the term to being a meme. That kinda pisses me off cuz I don't want to say something like "don't say that cuz it's triggering for me" most people are going to be like "wtf are you talking about?" or just won't take it serious cuz my host is typically a happy and funny guy and most people don't know of me, love the video bro, keep it up and I'm gonna do something similar in the future
-Dennis aka Michael
Space Gay Kinda confused about but what you meant but: New wave feminists and "SJW"s used the word 'trigger' to describe or in reaction to situations/things they disliked, but weren't genuinely distressed from. This was then made into a joke/meme because the way it was used made it funny.
I've never once seen a feminist or "sjw" use a trigger warning to mean something that obviously doesn't require one. I've only ever seen them used when, as Daniel said, someone is discussing a topic that can actually trigger someone with something like PTSD. The people that I have seen misusing the word "trigger" are the typical "edgy" anti-SJWs who clearly don't understand what the word means or just don't even care.
Same! When I was in a mental health facility, it was so awkward bc they ALWAYS talked about our 'triggers', and the people who were in there who didn't have/understand triggers would laugh and tease and make jokes. It just makes things so awkward and complicated
It's awful how true that is. There are people who go through real trauma and need trigger warnings, but when people use "triggered" to mean they are offended or dislike or disagree with something someone says (i.e. I've met a few people who refuse to talk about some political topics because in their words it was "offensive and triggering to people who don't think that") It turned trigger warnings into a joke through a "boy who cried wolf" scenario and that's so infair to people who really require these warnings.
Sydney Lyman
Forgive me if I am blunt here, but I have to agree. The whole orginal meaning and purpose behind TWs has been so diluted down by certain, extremely radical, feminists, and SJWs, that it has become a meme. Take for instance the insistance that TWs are used at the mere mention of colonialism. Granted, it is still happening, but to most students in English-speaking universities/colleges, the chances are of the students involved having being directly traumatized by the effects of colonialism, would be rare, and only in very specific circumstances. Heck, my mum was raised in a British colony, but as a son of an colonial immigrant, I neither feel Trauma, trauma, nor oppression, because of it. So why would anyone, who hasn't been traumatised by it directly, demand a TW for it ...? If there is no thought, or experience, that may be triggered, only a personal offence about the subject, then it makes the TWs meaningless ...
If you are going to college, or university, to study psychology, philosophy, theology, or even a subject like English Literature, often you will find yourself confronted by tough themes and discussions, which will be challenging. There is an argument which says, at the age you enter college/university, you are, technically an adult: thus, you must prepare your mind to be challenged, since the study environment is more like a crucibal, in which your knowledge and expertise is refined, especially at Masters, then Ph.D level, by which you yourself become an expert, in your own right, in your field of study, especially so at a post-doctorial level.
Thus the argument against TWs is, since its usage has become so diluted, so diffuse, and so meaningless, it actually stops the hard learning from happening; since they are too often used around imagined offense being taken, rather than actual Trauma, they thus preventing constructive learning from happening ...
Can you maybe talk about accepting trauma too? I was sexually abused at age 8 by a girl, that was also 8 or 9 years old. Everytime I told someone this, they laughed at me, told me I was overreacting (that it was just playing around) and even went on to insulting me. Just by telling them the whole story, which I was at the time not really comfortable with, they acknowledged, that I was hurting. I think nobody has to explain themselves when it comes to mental health. Just accept it as it is.
Great video by the way!
Greetings from germany,
Lumi
i actually experienced a fairly similar trauma, cosca is a very misunderstood experience and shouldn't have to be invalidated just because you were both kids!
When I was 12 years old I learned how lobsters were captured and eaten and after that I couldn't eat any fish for like eight years I finally broke that when I went to England and I ate some absolutely delicious Cod now I love fish again
Hay, you guys are doing A M A Z I N G!! keep it going.
It’s sad because everybody uses the word “triggered” as a meme and as a funny thing now. If you say this word around people who use social media a lot, they’ll probably laugh thinking you’re joking /: (some people)
Gosh you are so smart Daniel! I wish I could be your friend!
I really look forward when all of you guys get to collab in a future Kati Morton video
Very good Explanation!
Thank you.
Very important video and so well done :)
I have a really specific trigger of the smell of a car being worked on in someone's garage. It's different than it being worked at in a oil change garage. It's very specific and I don't know if it's the smell of oil, brake fluid, gasoline, I don't know. But it makes me dissociate most of the time.
I have two very odd triggers. One i can understand but the other, even I don't understand why I have it. Maybe it is a blocked memory. Orange citrus scented candles and taco meat seasoning.... The tacos are because of some family issues growing up but as for the orange scented candles... I don't know. It makes me extremely eradicable. The smell of normal oranges are fine but in candle form, just don't...
I get the same responses when i tell people. Telling me that is stupid or to get over it. I been fighting with the taco thing for 15 years now. I can at least stand the smell being around me but can not eat it still. As for the candles, nope. No matter what, it just makes me ticked. I wish I knew why...
Daniel you're so cool!!
I was always aware of how the world was and made to believe that in order for us to survive you have to allow certain thing to happen so certain people or my self can go forward like allow someone to steal and lie to you because with out them you wouldn't have a home and you would be out in the street plus there family so you can't go against family so nothing get resolved, imagine never ending trauma that goes on and on people outside that circle do something that remind you of that trauma it feels like a prison, I always wanted to do something about it but I was told fighting back is point less even in my wife's family did similar things that put me in a place of trauma over and over again now my wife might divorce me but I didn't do anything wrong
3 years ago a day before Easter the 3 yr old came into the kitchen and she almost freaked out. I was about to dye eggs. Please don't do that. I had no clue but I looked over and said I'll never do it again, and I never will. My wife fronted and asked me what I was doing as I threw out the ingredients. Our 3 yr old asked me not to dye eggs. Her face went pale and she walked out. It's not my place to delve into why not, just accept it was a trigger, a line that I won't breach.
I'm still trying to figure out if my triggers mean I have DID. Sometimes I'm me, but sometimes I'm a "character", my voice doesn't change, but everything else does. My likes, dislikes, who I like, who I date, and even what I want to do with myself or my hair and etc. I know my triggers are cuts and self harm, and other things, such as being near hospitals or diseased people, for various reasons, but people tell me I'm to young to have DID. I'm horrified of going to a therapist to talk about it. But I'm pretty sure I have DID. As of thus far, I have Ace (who's completely taken over for the most part) Acelyn, Or summer, Zurlo, Draven, Salem, Luciel, and Angel (if I do have DID that is) but for all of them they're very irregular, and most people just say they're characters in my head, like Ocs. I do enjoy art a lot, but I also draw what I believe are me alters and scary alters, who I cannot get rid of. So, to top this off, is it really worth going to see a therapist at a young age, or shall I wait until I'm older to see if this could be DID?
So... This is something I've struggled to get around a lot, and I don't have DID so I'm not an expert but I do have anxiety and such, and I think that a lot of the time, we get so focused on whether our diagnosis is right or if we're taking or if we need therapy, that we forget what's more important. Your health, physical and mental, and your well-being. I would definitely recommend therapy if you believe you have DID, regardless of whether that's correct or not, because you probably have some issues, they're not gonna go away on their own, and a therapist can at least give you insight and safe coping mechanisms. I hope I'm not overstepping, but I feel like I've been in that mindset and it's not healthy to get stuck there. If you're debating if you need therapy, the answer is probably yes, even if you don't have mental health diagnosises.
DID has to first form before the age of 7-9 and some form as early as infants... so there is no such thing as "too early." Find a DID specialist in your area, if possible, or if not find a highly regarded psychiatrist and therapist for help. No matter the condition, its best to have a professional confirm a diagnosis so proper treatment and support can begin.
No matter how old you are, if you have DID or other condition, please know that YOU are VALID. What you are feeling is VALID. No one but you can know your pain or your struggle. Reaching out for aide is both one of the hardest thing to do and the best thing to do because you don't have to do this alone.
thank you Daniel !!!!!
Very interesting and informative 😘😘
Do you guys have any tips for helping not triggering a specific alter out? I live in a city where there’s a lot of sketchy stuff around especially at night, and one of my head mates likes to pop out whenever something scary comes our way. Last night it happened twice, once when a homeless man stopped us to ask for money for iced tea, and then again when a couple of guys pulled up in their car next to us at the bus stop. Chandler (who was out at the time) isn’t the kind of person to get scared by this kind of thing, but he still can’t really stop Smiley from coming out. I’m only asking because he’s kind of creepy and weird to be around. Kudos to the homeless man for actually having a conversation with him, but it’s really not great to have him out in public even though almost no one saw him. He usually just gives up the front when the perceived danger is gone. Chandler got really upset yesterday that he couldn’t stop him last night (he’s kind of our gatekeeper). Smiley is also really hard to talk to in the headspace and normally we can’t find him. Anything you guys can recommend would be great! Thanks. -Cullan
I have had multiple trauma experiences. Some the lower level like was at a friend's house running our childhood lemonade stand when we were like 9 & she gave me Reese's PB cups (in July, from the previous Halloween) that once I bit into on it had worms in it. I spit out what was in my mouth & wasn't able to eat them (& still avoid them) 35 years later. My other traumas are a lot bigger, though. Could you please pm me?
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I have a trigger word that sounds very stupid but it really hurts to say or hear. I'm not going to say what it is because I don't want to trigger myself but it isn't a very common word for people to say so I have never had much of an issue with hearing it but it happens sometimes. I remember when I was around 13 I was at a sleepover and my friends were talking about their childhood and as I was close to the people there, I told them my trigger word. I managed to write it out and then they started laughing at me and saying it over and over again (I don't think they thought I was being serious) and I just started crying... They then realized that I was being serious and I was really hurt about what happened to me that had to do with that word and they said sorry. No matter how 'stupid' a word or thing sounds a trigger is a trigger and people shouldn't make fun of you for it
Great video!❤️❤️❤️
Interesting!!
Thank you for explaining that triggers can be something simple
My, major one, and I'm going to censor it 'Cause even seeing it written out makes me anxious, is the word "r*l*x"
Which, I guess is kinda ironic. Since, it's supposed to mean "calm". And yet, it stresses me out
EDIT: Another one, I guess. Is that I cannot lay on my back. I always sleep on a side (usually facing the wall closest to me), or my stomach
Love the explanation
I thought this video was going to be about triggers in general (including positive triggers), can you still make a video about that? I find that you can explain things seeming so simply.