Sir ji, aap ka knowledge, Wisdom, talent... hum maan gaye...🙏🙏🙏 bilkul zabardast hai Sirji ❤ Sir, you are an absolutely straight forward person with supreme clarity of mind. And this clarity gives you that confidence and command over what you believe and say 💯 I can say with clarity that Mercury has a major role in the planetary combinations of your chart with Jupiter 🙏🙏🙏
I did cooking for my wife, I did cleaning house, I do everything, I earn good money, brought house jointly, broken my all relationship with family to make her happy, but still our relationship is not good bcz she doesn't have humanity, if person is diye she don't care, she is selfish, now tell me a man fault
You made her selfish by doing everything for her. It's basic human nature to use the people who ready to be used. Trust me, Amit Sangwan has absolutely no experience in reality. This is reality that a good person will be exploited.
Meri gf ne kaha tha ki wo mere mom dad k sath nahi rhegi, mera surname use nahi karegi, job kregi but nahi krri hai, or ghar k kaam nahi kregi. She used to denigrate me challenges me all the time god knows why. I dumped her ass. HARD. I couldn't take it anymore.
All the above comments from our brothers are right, Sango is just touching basing points . Girls have already crossed the basic limits and trying to totally acquire men. Girls trying to make men slaves to them by working for them, leaving their families , friends ., what not. Men are always free , eventually women will suffer , wait and see in coming years ..
i decide to go without women / wife. I can live alone on my own whole western block is living same way. Nothing new. This was to happen and this has happened . You are right evrything is changed since 2000. So boys should learn to live alone or with parents so long so they are around. If one can live alone that would be best for him indeed in this era. Men should also learn to do their things on their own. They should shed off their dependency on women for food and other needs this will balance the both sexes. Man should earn well, learn to live alone, learn to be independent w.r.t their domestic needs. Things will go balanced this way.
"Ab Ladkio ka Payback time hai" achaa ji, smart people will always exist whether its past,present or future. If today is payback time by women then smart men can AVOID this payback by not marrying. All divorce laws are favoured for women. Enough words for the wise
Exactly! This man is fooling all guys. Not marrying is definitely a good idea in India. Everything is against men in India. You'll be much happier by not marrying.
I think men should learn the household works as well as earn money so that men do not dependent on women as well as live their life happily and freely and there would no need of a woman in their life.
Dowry cases 498A etc which you touched is actually a divorce package , lawyers have big commission and fees for putting these heavy packages on husbands , this black industry is flourishing in India bcos women are getting easy income and property .
I remember in the 80s when my dad was chief superindent of govt office and my uncle was chief engineer. The respect they got in home and society was immense. I listen from my uncle who was chief engineer that when he got a job parents of eligible girls throughout the city flocked to my grandparents house.
Men are only valued for their money. Today women are working so men’s value has decreased a lot. Marriage is a scam, was a scam and will be a scam for men.
Very true, my daughter's say we won't marry, it's only giving in a marriage, nothing to achieve. The man doesn't take any responsibility, why take additional responsibility of the man.
@@shrin210 nah ... It's good for us also no tension of wife ... More money more freedom to whatever you want in whole life .. if at any point you need big family you can adopt child ...
Shaadi mat krao aapki daughter ki kabhi bhi, aise soch ke sath jiske jindegi me jayegi khrab hi kregi and men can handle their situation well now a days, ladies too. Ajkal sabko apni jimmedaari lena ata hai.
My mother earns 2.5x times my father. She usually works for 12 to 13 hours a day and 6 days a week,so,my father prepares lunch and dinner,whereas breakfast is prepared by my mom
I am a retired working woman . I always believed that I am earning to nurture a home and raise a happy family and that was the source of my happiness not what I was earning .
@@ay-by9qs because it's necessary ..money is necessary but money is not everything...but it has the capability to influence every aspect of our lives so it's necessary as well as imp ..along with other emotional quotients of human beings...
@@maitreyeebiswas9849 In old times, Money was not everything but it is everything in this modern era where everything is for sell . I love this new God of mankind....
@@saurabhsingh5263 even in old times money was everything...those who were rich used to live longer ,those who were poor used to live in pathetic condition not to mention caste system was privilege. idk which history book u Indian guys read which says money is not important 😭😭 like living in a fantasy land.
I was born in 1991 in a family in which almost all men were Labour. In 2002, my grandmother got paralyzed and she were not even able to move her tongue, legs & hands. She had been bedridden and lived since 2004. Almost 3 years, my mother took after my grandmother and made her feed, bath, urine etc... It was like a sure hell (Nark) for my grandmother as wll as for my mother. When my grandmother was leaving this world, she raised her hand little bit and gave signal to my mother to come near to her. My grandmother laid her hand on the head of my mother and gave some kind of blessings and passed away. I am the eldest son in my family and we are 3 siblings. Currently, I am class II officer in Government of India and my wife is a Teacher in UP Government. My younger brother is posted in UP Police. When I look my past I feel whatever we are today, it is because of my mother who did humble and kind deeds in her life and got pure blessings from her elders. Sometime, I feel life is not only about the money, enjoyment, comfort, personal choices and freedom etc. Life is more than these things.
Wrong correlation. Easy to lead a life saying it's not money, enjoyment, comfort, freedom when you have all those to last a lifetime. Live without any of those. And the value is preserved
Good example of a mother's sacrifice.....these are noble deeds without expectations ..... only having self belief & faith in God while wishing bright future for her children. Her belief & faith gets realised when her children look after her with love & affection..... that's extreme happiness for her. Sanatan dharma focuses on achieving pure feelings & emotions (unconditional)
I am a man 42 and not married....best decision of my life, enjoying my life spending money having fun and travelling the world....Men should not marry it's the worst thing possible
@@livingwithswati7699 staying unmarried is the best thing for men even I'm unmarried being 34 and feel the best decision of life looking at the examples of friends and family stuck up in disasters being married disturbances in work lifeental peace and regretting the decisions of getting married, instead be single earn good roam around countries enjoy all luxuries in life and stay away from worthless liabilities of marriages which aren't worthy even to be thought of
Completely agree with you. I wish i had never married. I would have also lived very happily and travelled all around the world which is my passion. Really wish i was aware then. Am a woman though 😂
Bhai tumhare maa baap n bhi yahi socha hota to. 2 ndly you are in category of animals if you think only of yourself. Human is an intelligent animal so have some responsibility. Bhag nahi sakte.
I know all household work (cooking, cleaning, etc.). Thought I'll be a good husband to my wife, have a good life. Go together sharing all responsibilities and live happily. But after interacting with so many girls (many my friends), my whole perspective changed. The institution of marriage is not worth the risk anymore. I've seen unhappily married men living a far worse life than alone single men.
Sir you are highly realistic.. Nowadays Men and their family wants well educated girl, working and does all household work like 70s women. Inspite of doing everything possible along with job, in laws are not happy.. This message should spread like anything.. Thank you for creating such content..
That is true to much extent. But in almost all households, there are maids for household work. There's been a lot of change in relationship dynamics now. Most women, especially modern women, aren't fulfilling what a man wants in a wife. Maybe it's also true the other way around. But as a female, only you can answer what qualities are missing in today's man whom you see as your future partner.
@@2.0JUSTDOIT Among all my cousins and relatives, maids are there to take care of household work. But still they're unhappy. Husband and wife work full-time and don't have much energy to spend time with each other. Major household work is done by them only on special occasions when maids don't/can't come (like parties at night time, etc). As a man, except having to have children, I don't see any good coming out of a marriage. Even when the man and woman are earning equally, mostly (>90%) men will need to do the heavy lifting.
@@2.0JUSTDOITman has to be a real man but at the same time need to keep balance. They need to accept changed women and keep clear communication. If does this, woman is ready to share 50% financial responsibility.
@@2.0JUSTDOITTere Baap ne divorce kiye the 70s mei? 70s mei aur bhi culture strict tha. Ladkiya "kaabu" mei hi rehti thi. Aur India bhi conservative hi tha. Divorce ab kaha jaake normalise ho chuke hai. Aur wo maintainance fees har uss party ko deni hoti hai jo wo case haar chuka hota hai. In case ladki ne divorce le liya hai aur wo baccho ki custody nahi chaiye toh usko bhi child maintainace dena padta hai yahi west mei bhi hota hai
You are a true realist, Sangwanji I have never heard anyone speak such hard truths about the Indian middle class on a public platform like you I sincerely hope your talks bring about a positive change in our society
Most marriages are sexless and problematic. Nobody talks about this because sex is taboo in India. Sex is one of the most important part of marriage life, maybe the most important.👍👍👍
My mother was very worried when I used to teach my brother the kitchen chores he is in class 9 i started his learning when he was in class 5 and today he knows all the kitchen work even gol aalu ka Paratha. He is no more dependent on us for cooking like things and he loves it. The girl who is going to get him in later life path will be very happy I hope.❤
Sir, you are a realist leaning towards future generation irrespective of gender. I am myself middle aged and I strongly stand by you in interest of the new generation.
F: I think it was Feminist. Let me tell you why, Men has also covered the distance you are talking about around 70-80% of my friends know how to cook, how to handle babies, in fact most of my friend's kids are more loved and attached to the father than mother as they are giving more time to them than mothers. One of your point was valid, women were oppressed a lot and now they are evolving but for the current scenario i still see women of my age group don't know how to drive only 10% can drive that to not for long distances. Now am glad women are earning even more than men, but they are now more money focused and very less focused towards marriage and family. The number of unmarried women's has increased drastically, You haven't covered this part that why is it happening as it is connected to topic. There is huge problem, women are also not able adjust with men even without in-laws and there are many cases like this. So to be realistic you have to cover for man and women both. As even if both are earning still women feel men has to handle the house expenses and women is earning for herself(that's again not for every woman i am talking about but largely that is the case). I am not making this up, i meet friends and they feel this and share this problem. So i would say this was from the stand point of Females majorly and the male part was not covered.
Now it's a trend to degrade efforts of men and boost the ego of women. A feminist man is more dangerous than a feminist women. In my office I have seen, even a woman would some time agree that being a woman they have to play the role given by nature and confirm to societal norms, however this feminist men they provoke women and make them feel they should be independent and break all norms of society. Now a days all MNCs follow this trend so that women come out and spend more and more which will fill their coffers eventually. Go to any cancer hospital 9 out of 10 cases are women. Lifestyle changes have induced serious health issues in women. When a woman is down in a family with a disease how can a husband or a son or a brother can be happy.
I also found it biased....on the name of equality, women are earning same as men but gals still prefer guys who earn more than her. They even have backup in mind that if I don't work or get fired from the job, I have my husband who can take care of me. Gal still expect men to take care of home expenses even when gal is earning equally. Gals who are settled financially, they don't feel to get married. Men wants to do simple marriage in less budget but gals want it big celebration because they are earning now and have already saved the money for their marriage.
Reita Faria Indian born Miss World (1966) set the ball rolling for 1955 & beyond, born women. Not only was it about beauty. It also imbibed the spirit of education, courage & wealth back home amidst her Indian sisters.
Sir, i lived alone for 5 years; so i can cook (decent, not greatly), clean, wash clothes, sweep and mop the house. Buy stuff, do everything a woman can do. Sakht launda in life. The problem is that when you move up from lower middle class to middle class, you do still have dependencies of family, not always but at times. It does create marital issues.
By seeing the comment section, anyone can predict whether the topic is biased towards one gender. If the video is for one gender, the same gender will applaud/celebrate in the comment section. Sir, your videos are very informational n unique, but sometimes it divert towards showing the shortcomings/problems in today's Male. It is not a privilege to be a Male, in fact it is a Lifetime Slavery that we have to take care of parents, kids n even wife (if she is not Earning). You are correct that the Male has to think and see what is his life's Preference/Priority, we have to cook, iron, clean and be self dependent which most of the Males are doing these days. Rest of the Males will learn when they realize that no one actually cares them. We are meant for only Earning n Responsibilities. The Male/Female topic is always debatable and the winner is always who can Speak n Express more - which Men cannot.
Well said 🤗🤗🤗. Life is not easy for a man also . Even though I m a woman but this video seems biased. Taali dono haatho se bajati hai. Not always women r right.
@@movietadka7393 , that can be right. Sir, we need wisdom/unbiased/true words which we are looking here not any Script which is common. Most of the CZcamsrs (including MEN) publish the videos of Bashing/Demoralizing MEN as they think they will get highest Subscribers/Likes which indirectly gives them Money. But soon they will realize that they are loosing the sensitive/intellectual audience. I surprised sometimes that what is the plight of humans these days. Because of Fame/Money, they are loosing the real judgement of what is Right n what is Wrong. Whoever or where ever they are getting Money, they are ready to dance. What i understand that the Men belong to category of Powerful, Rich or Influential also cannot understand the condition of a Common average Men. They are also cursing MEN !!
@@prvinsharma I agree with the seclusion part. I face it myself a great deal. But I think living in loneliness is a skill. Humans are social animals and need company I agree, but the problem of loneliness is over-hyped I think. While a pain lingers for all near and dear ones having abandoned you, it's possible to continue with the pain, it's a matter of perspective. There is no guarantee the family will take care, there are old age homes and hospices for that. Why drag on with a relationship right through someone's life to be looked after in the end, you would already have suffered enough if its a toxic relationship. I think everyone should be prepared to die alone, if by luck, the family stands by you consider yourself lucky, else you are on your own. But be happy and rejoicing always, that makes the exit less painful.
Loneliness in old age is no joke. Except immediate family (kids, spouse) you will realize too late that no one else cares for you, though they will pretend.
@@hummingbeing Nothing is for certain in life. I have many insurance, mutual fund products which I know would not give me as expected. Family is like that. You can only do your part. As for living with parents and caring, I have done that and see many are doing in my apartment. We should see bright side of the life. Shaadi ke laddoo khaaye to pachtaye na khaaye to pachtaye. I believe in having it. You have your choice. Living lonely is an art which I do not trust. I have seen many suffer and those who married also suffering. The issue is with the person himself.
Sir, You are really doing a great work by highlighting the truth required to be known in today's world for Indians and countries with similar mindset. Lots of disputes and problem would be resolved if people open their eyes.
Every word you've spoken is absolutely true. My in laws just could not tolerate that I am in armed forces and independent. They started turning my husband against him. He is stuck between them and me. And of course, he's choosing them. We are heading for divorce now
Burst out laughing when he said "aadmi rondumal ho gaye hain" And it's "payback" time!! But on a serious note, we need to change the way we raise our sons..... And it needs to start in our homes.... Otherwise, men of future generations are going to cry!!
yeah if men expects traditional women he is crybaby but women can have all the traditional expectations. the fem,sm havent reduced mens providing/financial burden
Amit ji, aapke views ek tarfa hi hai. Aapne kaha ki koi ladki wala jhute case kyun karega. Apko kuch nahi pata iska matlab. SC ne khud mana hai ki wife ke dwara kiye gaye 85% case fake hote hai. Recently Delhi me ek 60 saal ka insaan riha hua jiske upar 20 saal case chala uski wife ke dwara aur case galat tha.
Sir, your view are 100% correct. Boys and their parents are struck in 70s and 80s thought about girls. They expects girls to be well educated, highly modern, well employed, well versed in household work, quick in adjusting to in laws house n their family members, bear kids immediately after marriage, take care of children without troubling husband, sacrifice their career, support husband's career...... the list goes on and on...... endless. But boys haven't changed. Their parents never raise their sons to cope up with today's requirements to supporte their wives. Couple should be encouraged to live separately. Share family responsibilities equally and lead a more compatible and understanding life.
@@preetamyadav7952 teach this duty to your daughter you would be a great father. Reseve this thinking for your own daughter not for other daughters they are capable to become anthing in life.
So what you are telling is that men only has to adapt, bcoz time has brought in a lot of change in women and it's their turn to exploit. And for men - it's like u better get exploited without making noice. Men have literally lost everything to women. Surrender to women and men will be entitled to have peaceful life and so have you done.
I don't know Hindi. I watched the entire video. The English subtitles helped me. Sir, you are amazing. We need people like you to understand the present situation and lead a happy life. Thank you sir.
this is very real sir, I was Bron in 89, I am 34 now, I don't know if I am young or old, my body feels young my mind feels , slightly experienced if not old, but in any case I am feel the tiredness , feel the burn, feeling the changes, big or small, birds have migrated routes, the seasons are shifting, the poles are moving, just yesterday I was using dial up internet, and now we have 5G, access to all the info in a second, the struggle has changed, the learnings have changed, am I in the centre witnessing evolution, good or bad, who knows :)
Interesting you mentioned 498a. I think you should also talk about why gender specific laws exist in India when you only mentioned that women have move ahead and are now highly capable ( to which I also agree with ). Why men are always treated like criminals ( kuch to kiya hi hoga ladke walo ne ). A simple divorce remains a stigma in the society still, hence it is often accompanied by misuse of laws like 498A.
You really think he will talk about the false cases. This guy is justifying false cases. Social media is saturated with This kind of femineest scammer who will justify the wrongs of wo men directly or indirectly. He talks about the dependency on men being reduced but will never talk about the alimony demanded nor the outrageous demands put on matrimony sites. But then again we have men such as this who are always to eager to bootlicking.
Pehle toh yeh socho aise laws ki zaroorat hi kyun padi in the first place..definitely not "all men" but more than enough men have, since time immemorial, participated in heinous acts ki in laws ki zaroorat padi...maine aajtak koi news nai dekhi ki kisi aurat ne kisi aadmi ka rape kiya ho...and aadmi against ke against bhi sexual offences are done by other men only...toh yahi hai ki society sudhregi toh apne aap in laws ki zaroorat hi nai padegi
@@asrasaqib9554 if you don't look outside your belief how else you are going to know whether a man has bee n rap ed by wom en. A punjab labour has been gang ra ped by 3 rapis t wome n. Just because the mainstream media does not show it, does not mean it is not happening. Every day we got news that ma n has been murde red by wife and her paramour. It is a well known fact that wo men misuse the laws that were meant for their protection.
@@asrasaqib9554 no need to say " not all man" We don't need that. Wo me n are murd erous and far more dangerous than any ma n. I know you will reject what i have said. And also sexual offences by wo men on men are much common but the law does not provide any provision for registering a complaint and is dismissed. So reap the benefit of these biased laws till you can. Oneday me n will fight back against these oppressive system.
Sir ,homescience is not only about cooking food ,delhi university offers this course in its 4 Colleges and there are many branches of it in which one can build her career, it's a request not to say that homescience buits wives only .
Really apt content, the side effect of this societal change is the delayed marriages and the removal of the happily ever after concept. Most people if lucky to find a like-minded partner should hold realistic assumptions about marriage and always account and provide for it not lasting a lifetime. More often than not the openness regarding a mutually understanding exit route will help more than hurt the relationship.
I love the way you corrected yourself after saying "aurat". The world must know the true meaning of this word. Mahila and naari are more appropriate. Similarly purush is more appropriate than aadmi.
Great thoughts sir Aptly put I have been trying to teach my son cooking who is now in USA but family tradition comes into play and he is always hesitant to cook his meals. Though I wish when his wife eventually comes he states contributing more You are funny and realistic Keep it up You can try to keep your videos short so that more people listen to it Best wishes
You are a realist sir! The way you explain things by adding some humour is too good. If people rightly follow what you say, it will definitely strengthen their relationships and the family system in our country.
Congrats for adding the new feature of English subtitles. Hilarious to watch you trying to avoid the usage of word "auratein"!!! Great content as always.
If there is something wrong in word ‘auratein’ then there must me something wrong with word ‘aadmi’. You should call us ‘purush’ if you want to be called ‘mahilaaye’
S , even I have seen the changes. Many in my relatives [ boy side ] have spent totally 100 perc in the marriage and the girls who were earning are giving their earnings to their younger siblings' education. A huge change . It's just acceptance of the change.
REALITY. I'm a silent listener, but I had to comment on this because the content is a harsh reality difficult to digest today! And the fact you apologized every time you realized you were using specific words is amazing👍🏻. Generally, self-acknowledgement isn’t easy to find these days. I feel, too, that women have learned & are trying to meet shoulder-to-shoulder with men and have grown independent financially, emotionally, socially, physically & mentally. Thus, men need to evolve emotionally, socially, mentally, etc., to meet women at the middle ground.
This was one of your best and most hard hitting ones. Very much necessary for all to see. And the mockery of the mcps and their moms was hilarious as was your attempts to not call out aurats.
Sir you may be correct..we male hv 100 issues, may be more, also we are imperfect. 1) Man who earns money is responsible has to take care of all the member needs & wants.. without exemption 2) Man is expected by his spouse to be matured like his spouse father or like her terki jilaji.. 3) By default man is expected to handle his wife "all needs" even if he is going through financial tight, job insecurity, investment taking care of his own family. But whereas female when she becomes financially independent.. She never like to share any expenses especially of her spouse.. She try to avoid sharing.. for eg: homeloan emi, husband in laws any contribution to his family members.. She always pressure you, by giving to many demands.. she expects her husband to earning like her boss or behave like her boss.. Basic issues are coming of parenting itself..I blame both male & female culprits are their parents and society.. I don't see now a days anybody is asking dowry atleast past 5 yrs I hv not heard any of.. mostly marriage are between well off families.... even though groom family dont ask or expect..bride family their daughter as per their capacity...
By, the way sir, I am Christian ✝️ but as I am from India 🇮🇳 I respected all religious spirit and you are great person on these platform working for the people.
Wow sir... you echoed my comment on another video. Maine bhi yahi mere comment me bataya tha ki jab dependency kam hogi, log akele sab karne lagenge, tab jo rista banegi wo true companionship hogi.
Only option left now a day’s is either don’t get married or ready for divorce or at last suicide no option left. Sir i earn around 1.3L per month, after 12th and till i got married i lived in PG, Hostel etc. I can cook, clean my clothes, clean my house. No matter what i do there is always a some fight going on.
Not agreed. I am earning and wife is not earning. She wants to decide that i should not give money to my parents. I know better cooking than my wife. I clean the toilet,wash basin etc. I change diapers of my boys.My wife wants i should not drink beer , is it not my choice to drink 🍻? If wife earn then it is money , if husband earn , money belongs to both
Why’d u marry in the first place bro, it’s 21st century and women see us only as the BANK. it’s the modern era and we are expecting wife’s to become like our mums (which is impossible because of modernisation), marrying itself is a gamble in this era.
Sir,totally agree with u,time has come to change the relationship,between a man and women when both are working, and can operate independently,the sooner the society realize this the better.
What happens agar is concept ka ulta ho kalesh ka reason.. For example.. husband is open for everything but wife despite being well educated don't want to grow personally and professionally.. Tab kya kre??
One more point that was missed in this video is earlier men had to do all the expenses for every family member back in the day.. now most working women take care of some expenses in the household (depending on their earning)and ease that pressure off men to some extent and in the exchange of that we expect them to take equal responsibility of the household.. everyone should understand when partners don't control each other the couple stays happy without resentment towards each other.
women take care of some expenses in the household (depending on their earning). -----> take equal responsibility Some expenses doesn't let to equal responsibility. Equal expenses let to equal responsibility.
@@true_human_007 my uncle is a lazy fellow, lost all his earnings in business and stopped providing to his family with two daughters. My aunt on other hand is working as private school teacher for min. wage. He blackmails her that he will do suicide if she asks about earnings. He don't even help in single homechores and my aunt is the one that is suffering with both physical and mental work. We asked her to divorce him, but she is thinking of her daughters marriages and thinks no one marries if they know that their inlaw is a divorcee. I'm like WTH! So this is how there are many families where still woman is a home slave and men are the bread winner. Why can't both men and woman be both? Now those two girls landed in their induvidusl jobs and are thinking of not marrying be z of the environment they are exposed to growing.
@@5004-x7o Salute to your aunty. Even if know many women, even my colleagues, seniors --- who put a lots of efforts to family. My salute to them. But, with changing world now, such women are rare.
@@Ascendify5 totally agree. But, women now a days, do not appreciate hard work done by men in office. Specially when women is not employed Or when women is earning enough.
Realist! Can you also make videos on what MIL should not do? Like they can’t see their sons working in the kitchen, how they taunt their bahus, how they are biased towards their son and every tradition is just for the bahus and not for their sons etc.?
His steadfast opinion on that is for the couple to leave the joined house for a small but separate flat. Dont bother trying to change the old syllabus.
as youngster we busy in some crazy stuff & there was lack of advise about future from a person who've seen many things like you, your advise about todays society is great.
I find u a realist sir. Sir, it's a privilege to listen to u everytime.... This video is eye opener for all.... Your views are pragmatic but still not acceptable for all...CONTROL and DEPENDENCY are being explained very nicely and still families/spouses tries to be superior over one another.... Equality still can't be attained,but empowerment for girls and shedding preconceived notions about boys needs to be dealt from the very starting, we need to brought up our kids in a different way so that they will not get trapped in previously made gender roles of society.... Thanks a lot sir.... More power to u :-)
I think men should learn the household works as well as earn money so that they do not depend on women as well as they do not need women in their life and stay away from all the tensions and burden brought by women and do not take the responsibility and live their life happily and freely.In future,men would stay away from women and focus on their dreams and goals and their happiness.this will surely happen in future men will avoid all sort of woman things and I wish it happens.
I agree with some points, but as a consultant, stop demonizing one gender.. Kindly raise issues on the misuse of laws done by women. Also, if womankind was harassed in the past, that doesn't give them the right to do wrongful things. Be a responsible content creator and if you raise issues, raise issues of both the genders. Hope this helps you
Just FYI, there are also a category of men who are happily MGTOW ( contrary to popular beliefs ). Not angry or frustrated at any women. Just pure freedom, self respect and zero compromises.❤
Great video. Yes, please make a video especially on this aspect: that the parent-child relationship is not a transaction, and that the son is not their property who has a life-long obligation to serve parents in every way. And that the parents and son is the unit in which the bahu has to ‘adjust’ in every way.
@@saurabhsingh5263Yeah kick them out once they turn 18. But then they'll suicide because we're not America. We can't even work part time at a McD because our population is so huge & the job openings are so less. If you want to reverse the tables, I'll just say it: Your parents decided to have s*x one night & conceived you. You weren't asked to be born. Now take up the responsibility as you were the one to pop out kids. Or else just give up children for adoption since early days that'll be much better. A child is not a retirement plan of parents because parents WILLINGLY chose to have kids, not kids willingly choosing to be born. So they shouldn't be expected to take care of their parents.
I prepare my breakfast and lunch ( for family also), press my clothes, pack meal and go to job, then in evening prepare dinner still married life is stinky 😂😂
Another great point you touched towards the end, which I have personally experienced: boys who are not well-educated or earning very less keep waiting for a ‘good’ girl, who is one who is highly educated and earning well, or whose family has no financial problem, instead of settling for a girl of same status or background as theirs.
Girls also should settle up for equal status boys. If you think ki nahi aisa nhi hai toh fir jab love affairs chalati ho boyfriend se zyada kamane ki expectations kyun rakhti ho shaadi karne ke liye aur parents se kyun expect karti ho tumhare liye zyada paise kamane wala ladka dhoonde? Boyfriend agar kam kamata hai ya berozgaar hai toh usse shaadi kyun nhi karti? Ya parents bhi kam kamane wale ya berozgaar ladke se shaadi kyun nhi karate?
Sir nameste, mere mama ki bahu ne 3rd day hi jhagda karke police bula li thi, ab case kiya hua hai 20 lkhs demand kiya court ne 10 lkh Mei settlement kiya hai. Mama ki death ho gayi hai. Usne unnecessary kiya hai woh chahti thi ki makan uske naam karen, mama taxi chalate the. Woh itne paise wale nahi hai, ladka gau hai ,Kya Karen
Is equality possible? I assume you mean 'fair'. What women seek is fairness. But if you think deep, marriage doesn't serve much if anyone has individualistic ambitions. Real love is over rated. If true love is valid, then a major chunk of divorces shouldn't happen, which initally was love marriage.
Benificial contents Sir! As always and as expected.. Its called real debate and eye opening facts. We accept it or not..this is the harsh truth Thanks uncle for this kind of counselling. I listen u carefully and treat ur words as a Son 🙏🏼
Mazaaa agaya. No one talks about these topics. I just keep on listening you sir. Like a elder uncle. Giving unbiased advice. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Superb uncle superb. । am just watching your video, couldn't stop myself from commenting today. I always want to comment on your video but while doing some task I am watching or hearing them and just miss out.There are so many videos that are so relatable.I am 39 years old intelligent female from Dehradun settled in Pune; IT engineer but left job 11 years back was in a top IT company in Pune, due to many reasons that you cover in your videos,was once independent in terms of finance.Your videos just make me smile,strike inside.I tried to show one of them to my husband,he was wondering why I watch your videos or how I got to watch,will share this 1 with him,this has been my analysis too.My elder sister too,45years old, an IIT passout,US returned,divorced,faced all these issues.Just your videos give solace.Someone is talking out.I used to look out on google,search and read a lot ,to these modern day problems,but one thing I think am I doing it right,leaving my job etc.in the name family,to balance out,to keep the man feel superior (I knew inside) to keep the martiage intact because we were just about to break our marriage due to the chaos.But atleast these videos give peace
madam i have been following his videos for quite some time. and have learnt a lot , i have shared these videos in my family and the reactions have been quite interesting. i do have have a different problem though and maybe it is geographical. I am unmarried 27 male and i have corrected many of my issues thanks to my mom and sir here but i seem to be stuck in a loop of dating women who have 0 skills that would work in a relationship and the women i meet who are working on themselves carry dangerous amount of baggage to bring to a new relationship. I am not sure what to do.
One of the best videos ever i have seen in CZcams. Really real video. Thank you
Sir ji, aap ka knowledge, Wisdom, talent... hum maan gaye...🙏🙏🙏 bilkul zabardast hai Sirji ❤
Sir, you are an absolutely straight forward person with supreme clarity of mind. And this clarity gives you that confidence and command over what you believe and say 💯
I can say with clarity that Mercury has a major role in the planetary combinations of your chart with Jupiter 🙏🙏🙏
Sir is not a male chauvinist
But sir is surely MC😆
This old fashioned uncle may be a joru ka gulam 😅😅😅
Realstik ❤
I did cooking for my wife, I did cleaning house, I do everything, I earn good money, brought house jointly, broken my all relationship with family to make her happy, but still our relationship is not good bcz she doesn't have humanity, if person is diye she don't care, she is selfish, now tell me a man fault
this is a valid point. A video should be made on this as well
You made her selfish by doing everything for her. It's basic human nature to use the people who ready to be used. Trust me, Amit Sangwan has absolutely no experience in reality. This is reality that a good person will be exploited.
Meri gf ne kaha tha ki wo mere mom dad k sath nahi rhegi, mera surname use nahi karegi, job kregi but nahi krri hai, or ghar k kaam nahi kregi. She used to denigrate me challenges me all the time god knows why. I dumped her ass. HARD. I couldn't take it anymore.
All the above comments from our brothers are right, Sango is just touching basing points . Girls have already crossed the basic limits and trying to totally acquire men. Girls trying to make men slaves to them by working for them, leaving their families , friends ., what not.
Men are always free , eventually women will suffer , wait and see in coming years ..
@@shubhamsemwal2070 गुड डिसीजन
i decide to go without women / wife. I can live alone on my own whole western block is living same way. Nothing new. This was to happen and this has happened . You are right evrything is changed since 2000. So boys should learn to live alone or with parents so long so they are around. If one can live alone that would be best for him indeed in this era. Men should also learn to do their things on their own. They should shed off their dependency on women for food and other needs this will balance the both sexes. Man should earn well, learn to live alone, learn to be independent w.r.t their domestic needs. Things will go balanced this way.
MGTOW
Living alone is a big ground, how someone can resolve it
Living alone and now want to have a baby through surrogacy
@@familyguy160 Also east is quickly catching up Korea, India etc.
I had also decided to live alone a while back. And the moment I made this decision, I got new wings, a sense of freedom beyond words
कहा थे सर आप... पुरानी बाते करनेवाले बहोत है.. पर आज समाज में जो चल रहा है उस्का इतना सटीक विश्लेषण.. धन्य है आप.. :)
Outstanding sirji🙏🏽great eye opener
"Ab Ladkio ka Payback time hai" achaa ji, smart people will always exist whether its past,present or future. If today is payback time by women then smart men can AVOID this payback by not marrying. All divorce laws are favoured for women. Enough words for the wise
Exactly! This man is fooling all guys. Not marrying is definitely a good idea in India. Everything is against men in India. You'll be much happier by not marrying.
Sir, nice video. Pls make video on 2 topics
1. Extra marital affairs
2. Rising number of divorces
I think men should learn the household works as well as earn money so that men do not dependent on women as well as live their life happily and freely and there would no need of a woman in their life.
@@Tom-px9hd
I'm learning bro
@@stephenwilson4931 in future there would be machines and robot for cooking.
@@stephenwilson4931 In future there will be automation AI will make food, caretaking & household works etc
@@stephenwilson4931yes, modern woman will never cook.
Dowry cases 498A etc which you touched is actually a divorce package , lawyers have big commission and fees for putting these heavy packages on husbands , this black industry is flourishing in India bcos women are getting easy income and property .
Mat karo shaadi
Women are misusing their rights. Shadi hote hi dhamki deti hain ki case kar dungi. Ye bhi ek side haï jo cover nahi ki gayi vidéo me.
Yes, so many cases I have seen. But one who suffers is still suffering. Many women are misusing this IPC section.
True words
Let's not forget the love affairs outside have increased in ladies MORE than in Men.
How more than male. Ladies ladies affair kar rahi hai kya?
Kaise? Koum sa arithmetic lagaya hai?
May be many women after one man.
@@ravikumar-nd2ju may be?
Have men started sitting on kothas? Have set up R Lite areas of Men to serve many women clients? 😂
@@ravikumar-nd2ju get into reality
I remember in the 80s when my dad was chief superindent of govt office and my uncle was chief engineer. The respect they got in home and society was immense. I listen from my uncle who was chief engineer that when he got a job parents of eligible girls throughout the city flocked to my grandparents house.
Chief Engg in which company/govt. Please tell. Mujhe apni school crush se badla lena h
Chityee hai sab
Men are only valued for their money. Today women are working so men’s value has decreased a lot. Marriage is a scam, was a scam and will be a scam for men.
@@saitamapreetsingh3057 🙃😂
@@saitamapreetsingh3057 IIT crack krlo acchaa package uthao
Realist to the core....unbiased and Hard-hitting
Realist. Sir intercaste marriage pe video banaiye.. Please
Real istic
I regret I missed out to follow......
Realistic ..... 100% Shuddhh
Feminist who supports false cases by women
Very true, my daughter's say we won't marry, it's only giving in a marriage, nothing to achieve. The man doesn't take any responsibility, why take additional responsibility of the man.
Yup, this modern generation is great for girls, Good for your daughter. And we boys will suffer this age😂.
@@shrin210 nah ... It's good for us also no tension of wife ... More money more freedom to whatever you want in whole life .. if at any point you need big family you can adopt child ...
Haan yaar truee
Shaadi mat krao aapki daughter ki kabhi bhi, aise soch ke sath jiske jindegi me jayegi khrab hi kregi and men can handle their situation well now a days, ladies too.
Ajkal sabko apni jimmedaari lena ata hai.
This is not right thing . Understanding men and women also exist .
By the way wrong person doesn't come with certificate.
My mother earns 2.5x times my father.
She usually works for 12 to 13 hours a day and 6 days a week,so,my father prepares lunch and dinner,whereas breakfast is prepared by my mom
Pro feminism woke uncle giving lectures …
We are enough educated to see what is happening around us …
And how indian law is radically feminized …
😂Ye banda simp ko praise kr rha h. Aur simp aur feminist chaude hue ja rhe h ki kya teer maar diya h humne😂
Sir you are great.
Don’t feel offended on your opinion. Speak freely. Don’t fear of society.
I am a retired working woman . I always believed that I am earning to nurture a home and raise a happy family and that was the source of my happiness not what I was earning .
If earning was not source of happiness,then why were you earning in the first place ? 😂
@@ay-by9qs because it's necessary ..money is necessary but money is not everything...but it has the capability to influence every aspect of our lives so it's necessary as well as imp ..along with other emotional quotients of human beings...
@@maitreyeebiswas9849 In old times, Money was not everything but it is everything in this modern era where everything is for sell . I love this new God of mankind....
@@saurabhsingh5263 even in old times money was everything...those who were rich used to live longer ,those who were poor used to live in pathetic condition not to mention caste system was privilege. idk which history book u Indian guys read which says money is not important 😭😭 like living in a fantasy land.
@@ay-by9qs did you fell on your head
Even in olden times men used to cook , make aachar , wash clothes etc ... Women didn't even have to leave house
My advice - Stay away from marriage.
Good advice
I was born in 1991 in a family in which almost all men were Labour. In 2002, my grandmother got paralyzed and she were not even able to move her tongue, legs & hands. She had been bedridden and lived since 2004. Almost 3 years, my mother took after my grandmother and made her feed, bath, urine etc...
It was like a sure hell (Nark) for my grandmother as wll as for my mother.
When my grandmother was leaving this world, she raised her hand little bit and gave signal to my mother to come near to her. My grandmother laid her hand on the head of my mother and gave some kind of blessings and passed away.
I am the eldest son in my family and we are 3 siblings.
Currently, I am class II officer in Government of India and my wife is a Teacher in UP Government. My younger brother is posted in UP Police.
When I look my past I feel whatever we are today, it is because of my mother who did humble and kind deeds in her life and got pure blessings from her elders.
Sometime, I feel life is not only about the money, enjoyment, comfort, personal choices and freedom etc. Life is more than these things.
Janaab
It is never about money
It is all about love respect dignity and all positive thoughts and the
I agree... It is not money always
Wrong correlation.
Easy to lead a life saying it's not money, enjoyment, comfort, freedom when you have all those to last a lifetime.
Live without any of those. And the value is preserved
Good example of a mother's sacrifice.....these are noble deeds without expectations ..... only having self belief & faith in God while wishing bright future for her children. Her belief & faith gets realised when her children look after her with love & affection..... that's extreme happiness for her. Sanatan dharma focuses on achieving pure feelings & emotions (unconditional)
@@nmo3148
Thanks a lot you for kind gesture
I am a man 42 and not married....best decision of my life, enjoying my life spending money having fun and travelling the world....Men should not marry it's the worst thing possible
@@livingwithswati7699 staying unmarried is the best thing for men even I'm unmarried being 34 and feel the best decision of life looking at the examples of friends and family stuck up in disasters being married disturbances in work lifeental peace and regretting the decisions of getting married, instead be single earn good roam around countries enjoy all luxuries in life and stay away from worthless liabilities of marriages which aren't worthy even to be thought of
Yes , may be right
Completely agree with you. I wish i had never married. I would have also lived very happily and travelled all around the world which is my passion. Really wish i was aware then. Am a woman though 😂
Me too
Bhai tumhare maa baap n bhi yahi socha hota to.
2 ndly you are in category of animals if you think only of yourself.
Human is an intelligent animal so have some responsibility.
Bhag nahi sakte.
I know all household work (cooking, cleaning, etc.). Thought I'll be a good husband to my wife, have a good life. Go together sharing all responsibilities and live happily.
But after interacting with so many girls (many my friends), my whole perspective changed. The institution of marriage is not worth the risk anymore.
I've seen unhappily married men living a far worse life than alone single men.
Sir you are highly realistic.. Nowadays Men and their family wants well educated girl, working and does all household work like 70s women. Inspite of doing everything possible along with job, in laws are not happy.. This message should spread like anything.. Thank you for creating such content..
That is true to much extent. But in almost all households, there are maids for household work.
There's been a lot of change in relationship dynamics now. Most women, especially modern women, aren't fulfilling what a man wants in a wife.
Maybe it's also true the other way around. But as a female, only you can answer what qualities are missing in today's man whom you see as your future partner.
@@2.0JUSTDOIT Among all my cousins and relatives, maids are there to take care of household work. But still they're unhappy. Husband and wife work full-time and don't have much energy to spend time with each other. Major household work is done by them only on special occasions when maids don't/can't come (like parties at night time, etc).
As a man, except having to have children, I don't see any good coming out of a marriage.
Even when the man and woman are earning equally, mostly (>90%) men will need to do the heavy lifting.
@@2.0JUSTDOITman has to be a real man but at the same time need to keep balance.
They need to accept changed women and keep clear communication.
If does this, woman is ready to share 50% financial responsibility.
F
@@2.0JUSTDOITTere Baap ne divorce kiye the 70s mei? 70s mei aur bhi culture strict tha. Ladkiya "kaabu" mei hi rehti thi. Aur India bhi conservative hi tha. Divorce ab kaha jaake normalise ho chuke hai. Aur wo maintainance fees har uss party ko deni hoti hai jo wo case haar chuka hota hai. In case ladki ne divorce le liya hai aur wo baccho ki custody nahi chaiye toh usko bhi child maintainace dena padta hai yahi west mei bhi hota hai
You are realist and practical... Men need to grow up their mindset who are still stuck in that old mentality 👍
Men are literally dying due to fake 498a and fake rape cases and these people are giving bhashan to men
You are a true realist, Sangwanji
I have never heard anyone speak such hard truths about the Indian middle class on a public platform like you I sincerely hope your talks bring about a positive change in our society
What a unique name ❤️ haven't heard this before...line acchi hai let's see work Karti hai kya 😅
Agar young females itna hi independent h to marriage kyu kr rhi h..!!
Most marriages are sexless and problematic. Nobody talks about this because sex is taboo in India. Sex is one of the most important part of marriage life, maybe the most important.👍👍👍
100 percent correct
@@anantkadam4400Indian women are only attracted to tall well built men but most Indian men are short and puny . Women are not attracted.
My mother was very worried when I used to teach my brother the kitchen chores he is in class 9 i started his learning when he was in class 5 and today he knows all the kitchen work even gol aalu ka Paratha. He is no more dependent on us for cooking like things and he loves it. The girl who is going to get him in later life path will be very happy I hope.❤
Mera chota bhai toh youtube se cooking seekh gya hmlog usko bolte hai eski wife esse Bahut khush rahegi 😂
Read comment laxmigupta. Aisa kuch nhi hota.
I know how to cook . In real life girl called us Friend material
Sir, you are a realist leaning towards future generation irrespective of gender. I am myself middle aged and I strongly stand by you in interest of the new generation.
Family is anti woman
F: I think it was Feminist. Let me tell you why, Men has also covered the distance you are talking about around 70-80% of my friends know how to cook, how to handle babies, in fact most of my friend's kids are more loved and attached to the father than mother as they are giving more time to them than mothers. One of your point was valid, women were oppressed a lot and now they are evolving but for the current scenario i still see women of my age group don't know how to drive only 10% can drive that to not for long distances. Now am glad women are earning even more than men, but they are now more money focused and very less focused towards marriage and family. The number of unmarried women's has increased drastically, You haven't covered this part that why is it happening as it is connected to topic. There is huge problem, women are also not able adjust with men even without in-laws and there are many cases like this. So to be realistic you have to cover for man and women both. As even if both are earning still women feel men has to handle the house expenses and women is earning for herself(that's again not for every woman i am talking about but largely that is the case). I am not making this up, i meet friends and they feel this and share this problem. So i would say this was from the stand point of Females majorly and the male part was not covered.
You are absolutely right, men' s side isn't covered actually this video can be called biased and single side covering
Its true that a big number of women want to remaim unmarried. Why? and what's the solution? Please cover this topic.
Finally someone who spoke the truth. This man's perception of men is skewed towards misandry.
Now it's a trend to degrade efforts of men and boost the ego of women. A feminist man is more dangerous than a feminist women. In my office I have seen, even a woman would some time agree that being a woman they have to play the role given by nature and confirm to societal norms, however this feminist men they provoke women and make them feel they should be independent and break all norms of society. Now a days all MNCs follow this trend so that women come out and spend more and more which will fill their coffers eventually. Go to any cancer hospital 9 out of 10 cases are women. Lifestyle changes have induced serious health issues in women. When a woman is down in a family with a disease how can a husband or a son or a brother can be happy.
I also found it biased....on the name of equality, women are earning same as men but gals still prefer guys who earn more than her. They even have backup in mind that if I don't work or get fired from the job, I have my husband who can take care of me. Gal still expect men to take care of home expenses even when gal is earning equally. Gals who are settled financially, they don't feel to get married. Men wants to do simple marriage in less budget but gals want it big celebration because they are earning now and have already saved the money for their marriage.
Reita Faria Indian born Miss World (1966) set the ball rolling for 1955 & beyond, born women. Not only was it about beauty. It also imbibed the spirit of education, courage & wealth back home amidst her Indian sisters.
Sir, i lived alone for 5 years; so i can cook (decent, not greatly), clean, wash clothes, sweep and mop the house. Buy stuff, do everything a woman can do.
Sakht launda in life.
The problem is that when you move up from lower middle class to middle class, you do still have dependencies of family, not always but at times.
It does create marital issues.
By seeing the comment section, anyone can predict whether the topic is biased towards one gender.
If the video is for one gender, the same gender will applaud/celebrate in the comment section.
Sir, your videos are very informational n unique, but sometimes it divert towards showing the shortcomings/problems in today's Male.
It is not a privilege to be a Male, in fact it is a Lifetime Slavery that we have to take care of parents, kids n even wife (if she is not Earning).
You are correct that the Male has to think and see what is his life's Preference/Priority, we have to cook, iron, clean and be self dependent which most of the Males are doing these days. Rest of the Males will learn when they realize that no one actually cares them. We are meant for only Earning n Responsibilities. The Male/Female topic is always debatable and the winner is always who can Speak n Express more - which Men cannot.
Well said 🤗🤗🤗. Life is not easy for a man also . Even though I m a woman but this video seems biased. Taali dono haatho se bajati hai. Not always women r right.
they are youtuber and this is visual medium if they speak against women then both men and women curse him
@@movietadka7393 , that can be right.
Sir, we need wisdom/unbiased/true words which we are looking here not any Script which is common. Most of the CZcamsrs (including MEN) publish the videos of Bashing/Demoralizing MEN as they think they will get highest Subscribers/Likes which indirectly gives them Money. But soon they will realize that they are loosing the sensitive/intellectual audience.
I surprised sometimes that what is the plight of humans these days. Because of Fame/Money, they are loosing the real judgement of what is Right n what is Wrong. Whoever or where ever they are getting Money, they are ready to dance.
What i understand that the Men belong to category of Powerful, Rich or Influential also cannot understand the condition of a Common average Men. They are also cursing MEN !!
@@ArvindGupta-dc6jv correct
Aurto ko vidhwa vilap bohot achhe se karna aata hai .
kaate ko trishul bna k dikhati hai
I got married. Right now there are not any major issues but i still think if I would have stayed single I would be happier.
😅😅😅😅
Loneliness kills! You will not be happier and would be secluded in society. What about old age? Family is insurance for your later stages.
@@prvinsharma I agree with the seclusion part. I face it myself a great deal. But I think living in loneliness is a skill. Humans are social animals and need company I agree, but the problem of loneliness is over-hyped I think. While a pain lingers for all near and dear ones having abandoned you, it's possible to continue with the pain, it's a matter of perspective. There is no guarantee the family will take care, there are old age homes and hospices for that. Why drag on with a relationship right through someone's life to be looked after in the end, you would already have suffered enough if its a toxic relationship. I think everyone should be prepared to die alone, if by luck, the family stands by you consider yourself lucky, else you are on your own. But be happy and rejoicing always, that makes the exit less painful.
Loneliness in old age is no joke. Except immediate family (kids, spouse) you will realize too late that no one else cares for you, though they will pretend.
@@hummingbeing Nothing is for certain in life. I have many insurance, mutual fund products which I know would not give me as expected. Family is like that. You can only do your part. As for living with parents and caring, I have done that and see many are doing in my apartment. We should see bright side of the life. Shaadi ke laddoo khaaye to pachtaye na khaaye to pachtaye. I believe in having it. You have your choice.
Living lonely is an art which I do not trust. I have seen many suffer and those who married also suffering. The issue is with the person himself.
Sir,
You are really doing a great work by highlighting the truth required to be known in today's world for Indians and countries with similar mindset. Lots of disputes and problem would be resolved if people open their eyes.
Every word you've spoken is absolutely true.
My in laws just could not tolerate that I am in armed forces and independent. They started turning my husband against him. He is stuck between them and me. And of course, he's choosing them.
We are heading for divorce now
Good. Atleast he is now free from your toxic behavior.
I salute that free soul.
You will die alone and miserable.
Men r fattu. Men will not repeat same mistake with other girl but won't take right decision to improve current relationship.
@@PS-oy1elExactly. Then they cry "bandi nahi mil rhi" Men rarely retrospect.
Burst out laughing when he said "aadmi rondumal ho gaye hain" And it's "payback" time!! But on a serious note, we need to change the way we raise our sons..... And it needs to start in our homes.... Otherwise, men of future generations are going to cry!!
What is rondumal?
@@satyaamblercrybabies
yeah if men expects traditional women he is crybaby but women can have all the traditional expectations. the fem,sm havent reduced mens providing/financial burden
I stop watching OTT platforms, morning evening Sango life is on....
Equality and sharing domestic works keeps family happy.
Amit ji, aapke views ek tarfa hi hai. Aapne kaha ki koi ladki wala jhute case kyun karega. Apko kuch nahi pata iska matlab. SC ne khud mana hai ki wife ke dwara kiye gaye 85% case fake hote hai. Recently Delhi me ek 60 saal ka insaan riha hua jiske upar 20 saal case chala uski wife ke dwara aur case galat tha.
Sir, your view are 100% correct. Boys and their parents are struck in 70s and 80s thought about girls. They expects girls to be well educated, highly modern, well employed, well versed in household work, quick in adjusting to in laws house n their family members, bear kids immediately after marriage, take care of children without troubling husband, sacrifice their career, support husband's career...... the list goes on and on...... endless. But boys haven't changed. Their parents never raise their sons to cope up with today's requirements to supporte their wives. Couple should be encouraged to live separately. Share family responsibilities equally and lead a more compatible and understanding life.
Women look beautiful only in kitchen .
Accept your duty and serve food for us
@@preetamyadav7952 dafuq
@@preetamyadav7952 teach this duty to your daughter you would be a great father. Reseve this thinking for your own daughter not for other daughters they are capable to become anthing in life.
@@preetamyadav7952 who the hell are u to tell woman what to do
Agreed and Government should repeal the provision of alimony from the divorce law .
So what you are telling is that men only has to adapt, bcoz time has brought in a lot of change in women and it's their turn to exploit. And for men - it's like u better get exploited without making noice. Men have literally lost everything to women. Surrender to women and men will be entitled to have peaceful life and so have you done.
I don't know Hindi. I watched the entire video. The English subtitles helped me. Sir, you are amazing. We need people like you to understand the present situation and lead a happy life. Thank you sir.
Well explained sir...... u have shown the realty situation for men and boys.
So good 👍👍
I completely agree with you sir
Deep knowledge of problems of society and solutions ❤️
Realistic
Realist
It is so soothing to watch someone respects his wife's opinion/value. My respect increased on both of them.
I wish more people see this, this is such an important message.
this is very real sir, I was Bron in 89, I am 34 now, I don't know if I am young or old, my body feels young my mind feels , slightly experienced if not old, but in any case I am feel the tiredness , feel the burn, feeling the changes, big or small, birds have migrated routes, the seasons are shifting, the poles are moving, just yesterday I was using dial up internet, and now we have 5G, access to all the info in a second, the struggle has changed, the learnings have changed, am I in the centre witnessing evolution, good or bad, who knows :)
Its so tough to understand what you intend to say through these words.
@@ravikumar-nd2ju read again
Realist, relatable and relevant
Chupa hai yeh
Interesting you mentioned 498a. I think you should also talk about why gender specific laws exist in India when you only mentioned that women have move ahead and are now highly capable ( to which I also agree with ).
Why men are always treated like criminals ( kuch to kiya hi hoga ladke walo ne ). A simple divorce remains a stigma in the society still, hence it is often accompanied by misuse of laws like 498A.
You really think he will talk about the false cases. This guy is justifying false cases.
Social media is saturated with This kind of femineest scammer who will justify the wrongs of wo men directly or indirectly.
He talks about the dependency on men being reduced but will never talk about the alimony demanded nor the outrageous demands put on matrimony sites.
But then again we have men such as this who are always to eager to bootlicking.
Pehle toh yeh socho aise laws ki zaroorat hi kyun padi in the first place..definitely not "all men" but more than enough men have, since time immemorial, participated in heinous acts ki in laws ki zaroorat padi...maine aajtak koi news nai dekhi ki kisi aurat ne kisi aadmi ka rape kiya ho...and aadmi against ke against bhi sexual offences are done by other men only...toh yahi hai ki society sudhregi toh apne aap in laws ki zaroorat hi nai padegi
because men have always badly treated women so tit for tat stop complaining abount 498a and reservation looser hindu
@@asrasaqib9554 if you don't look outside your belief how else you are going to know whether a man has bee n rap ed by wom en.
A punjab labour has been gang ra ped by 3 rapis t wome n.
Just because the mainstream media does not show it, does not mean it is not happening.
Every day we got news that ma n has been murde red by wife and her paramour.
It is a well known fact that wo men misuse the laws that were meant for their protection.
@@asrasaqib9554 no need to say " not all man"
We don't need that. Wo me n are murd erous and far more dangerous than any ma n. I know you will reject what i have said.
And also sexual offences by wo men on men are much common but the law does not provide any provision for registering a complaint and is dismissed.
So reap the benefit of these biased laws till you can. Oneday me n will fight back against these oppressive system.
Sir! Not a single doubt that "U are an absolute, perfect, correct, right, practical, realistic & highly Genuine person"!
Men are even better cooks than women and women are better than men in literally nothing except for crying or wearing make up
Sir ,homescience is not only about cooking food ,delhi university offers this course in its 4 Colleges and there are many branches of it in which one can build her career, it's a request not to say that homescience buits wives only .
Totally realistic sir .... Society definitely needs more people like you. you have been talking very real fact of most of the current marital issues
Family is anti woman
वंदना कैसी हो यार।।। लॉन्ग टाइम नो सी
Really apt content, the side effect of this societal change is the delayed marriages and the removal of the happily ever after concept.
Most people if lucky to find a like-minded partner should hold realistic assumptions about marriage and always account and provide for it not lasting a lifetime. More often than not the openness regarding a mutually understanding exit route will help more than hurt the relationship.
So basically this gentleman says that men have to start doing household work ( 👨🍳🍲 cooking, cleaning, etc) & become jamai raja of mother- in- laws.🤫🤦
You are realist and you are showing us reality of the world. Thankyou so much we need people like you.
I love the way you corrected yourself after saying "aurat". The world must know the true meaning of this word. Mahila and naari are more appropriate. Similarly purush is more appropriate than aadmi.
There is no true meaning except 'woman' learn to respect others languages...
@@asrasaqib9554 it's written in Hadith..
@@amit9023an "amit" is telling me its written in hadith..wah.. point it out please? Which hadith? Where?
you are a REALIST and both me and my husband feel that your teachings are improving our lives and giving us clarity.
Nice quote. Mother in law kaa syllabus change ho gaya hai. 😂. Default session main parmeshwar the man. Very good n realiestic. Thank you sir
Great thoughts sir
Aptly put
I have been trying to teach my son cooking who is now in USA but family tradition comes into play and he is always hesitant to cook his meals. Though I wish when his wife eventually comes he states contributing more
You are funny and realistic
Keep it up
You can try to keep your videos short so that more people listen to it
Best wishes
You are a realist sir! The way you explain things by adding some humour is too good. If people rightly follow what you say, it will definitely strengthen their relationships and the family system in our country.
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Absolutely realist. And you are the best . Please continue your videos uncle.. the newer generation needs people like you..
Family is anti woman
Quite commonly relatable with these times.
Men do work and extend their efforts in house work.
Respect freedom and communication is the key.
It's great that person of your generation has spot on understanding of such issues
Congrats for adding the new feature of English subtitles. Hilarious to watch you trying to avoid the usage of word "auratein"!!! Great content as always.
What's wrong with the word auratein??
@@sharaths8417 nothing, its just woman in urdu..some right wing nonsense about it meaning genitalia when there is literally no such thing
@@asrasaqib9554 I see. Thanks
If there is something wrong in word ‘auratein’ then there must me something wrong with word ‘aadmi’.
You should call us ‘purush’ if you want to be called ‘mahilaaye’
@@sharaths8417 aurat means private part of.....
S , even I have seen the changes. Many in my relatives [ boy side ] have spent totally 100 perc in the marriage and the girls who were earning are giving their earnings to their younger siblings' education. A huge change . It's just acceptance of the change.
Family is anti woman
REALITY. I'm a silent listener, but I had to comment on this because the content is a harsh reality difficult to digest today! And the fact you apologized every time you realized you were using specific words is amazing👍🏻. Generally, self-acknowledgement isn’t easy to find these days. I feel, too, that women have learned & are trying to meet shoulder-to-shoulder with men and have grown independent financially, emotionally, socially, physically & mentally. Thus, men need to evolve emotionally, socially, mentally, etc., to meet women at the middle ground.
He is using mahila instead of aurat then why not Purush instead of admi? A completely biased person
Realist, you have drawn a clear sketch of the problems along with the solutions. I appericiate your view and strongly support it
You are realist.. And your analysis is good. People ( men & women alike) need to discuss these issues and analyse.
What a good job you're doing! Since your method of explaining is so relatable I really hope you bring about the much needed change. God bless you!
If both husband and wife are working who will take care of the kids? Make a video for this
When men and women are equal, then women also should share equal EMi loans, bills,home rents, restaurant bill,and everything as 50 50 %..right.
I have seen some 8 to 10 videos on your channel.
Your thoughts are updated and realistic...they will strengthen the family system in our country.
This was one of your best and most hard hitting ones. Very much necessary for all to see. And the mockery of the mcps and their moms was hilarious as was your attempts to not call out aurats.
Sir you may be correct..we male hv 100 issues, may be more, also we are imperfect.
1) Man who earns money is responsible has to take care of all the member needs & wants.. without exemption
2) Man is expected by his spouse to be matured like his spouse father or like her terki jilaji..
3) By default man is expected to handle his wife "all needs" even if he is going through financial tight, job insecurity, investment taking care of his own family.
But whereas female when she becomes financially independent.. She never like to share any expenses especially of her spouse.. She try to avoid sharing.. for eg: homeloan emi, husband in laws any contribution to his family members..
She always pressure you, by giving to many demands.. she expects her husband to earning like her boss or behave like her boss..
Basic issues are coming of parenting itself..I blame both male & female culprits are their parents and society..
I don't see now a days anybody is asking dowry atleast past 5 yrs I hv not heard any of.. mostly marriage are between well off families.... even though groom family dont ask or expect..bride family their daughter as per their capacity...
Realistic ke naam pe faminist
and
faminist ke naam pe metrimonial comercialist
By, the way sir, I am Christian ✝️ but as I am from India 🇮🇳 I respected all religious spirit and you are great person on these platform working for the people.
Religion doesnt matter our culture is same ..our values are same
Who asked your religion??
Wow sir... you echoed my comment on another video. Maine bhi yahi mere comment me bataya tha ki jab dependency kam hogi, log akele sab karne lagenge, tab jo rista banegi wo true companionship hogi.
Facts, facts, and more facts. You are bringing them up candidly. Kinda tough for some people to hear. It's ok. They still need to!
Only option left now a day’s is either don’t get married or ready for divorce or at last suicide no option left.
Sir i earn around 1.3L per month, after 12th and till i got married i lived in PG, Hostel etc. I can cook, clean my clothes, clean my house. No matter what i do there is always a some fight going on.
Not agreed. I am earning and wife is not earning. She wants to decide that i should not give money to my parents. I know better cooking than my wife. I clean the toilet,wash basin etc. I change diapers of my boys.My wife wants i should not drink beer , is it not my choice to drink 🍻? If wife earn then it is money , if husband earn , money belongs to both
Why’d u marry in the first place bro, it’s 21st century and women see us only as the BANK. it’s the modern era and we are expecting wife’s to become like our mums (which is impossible because of modernisation), marrying itself is a gamble in this era.
Sir,totally agree with u,time has come to change the relationship,between a man and women when both are working, and can operate independently,the sooner the society realize this the better.
Chacha ne to sigma male concept hi UNO CARD kar diya
What happens agar is concept ka ulta ho kalesh ka reason.. For example.. husband is open for everything but wife despite being well educated don't want to grow personally and professionally.. Tab kya kre??
One more point that was missed in this video is earlier men had to do all the expenses for every family member back in the day.. now most working women take care of some expenses in the household (depending on their earning)and ease that pressure off men to some extent and in the exchange of that we expect them to take equal responsibility of the household.. everyone should understand when partners don't control each other the couple stays happy without resentment towards each other.
Agree with you Vrishali
women take care of some expenses in the household (depending on their earning). -----> take equal responsibility
Some expenses doesn't let to equal responsibility.
Equal expenses let to equal responsibility.
@@true_human_007 my uncle is a lazy fellow, lost all his earnings in business and stopped providing to his family with two daughters. My aunt on other hand is working as private school teacher for min. wage. He blackmails her that he will do suicide if she asks about earnings. He don't even help in single homechores and my aunt is the one that is suffering with both physical and mental work. We asked her to divorce him, but she is thinking of her daughters marriages and thinks no one marries if they know that their inlaw is a divorcee. I'm like WTH! So this is how there are many families where still woman is a home slave and men are the bread winner. Why can't both men and woman be both?
Now those two girls landed in their induvidusl jobs and are thinking of not marrying be z of the environment they are exposed to growing.
@@5004-x7o Salute to your aunty. Even if know many women, even my colleagues, seniors --- who put a lots of efforts to family. My salute to them.
But, with changing world now, such women are rare.
@@Ascendify5 totally agree. But, women now a days, do not appreciate hard work done by men in office. Specially when women is not employed Or when women is earning enough.
Realist!
Can you also make videos on what MIL should not do? Like they can’t see their sons working in the kitchen, how they taunt their bahus, how they are biased towards their son and every tradition is just for the bahus and not for their sons etc.?
His steadfast opinion on that is for the couple to leave the joined house for a small but separate flat.
Dont bother trying to change the old syllabus.
First is they should not live with their son . Kick the kids out and don’t interfere in their married life .
@@TheGeorgeousYeah this is a great advice actually.
as youngster we busy in some crazy stuff & there was lack of advise about future from a person who've seen many things like you, your advise about todays society is great.
I find u a realist sir. Sir, it's a privilege to listen to u everytime.... This video is eye opener for all.... Your views are pragmatic but still not acceptable for all...CONTROL and DEPENDENCY are being explained very nicely and still families/spouses tries to be superior over one another.... Equality still can't be attained,but empowerment for girls and shedding preconceived notions about boys needs to be dealt from the very starting, we need to brought up our kids in a different way so that they will not get trapped in previously made gender roles of society.... Thanks a lot sir.... More power to u :-)
I think men should learn the household works as well as earn money so that they do not depend on women as well as they do not need women in their life and stay away from all the tensions and burden brought by women and do not take the responsibility and live their life happily and freely.In future,men would stay away from women and focus on their dreams and goals and their happiness.this will surely happen in future men will avoid all sort of woman things and I wish it happens.
I agree with some points, but as a consultant, stop demonizing one gender.. Kindly raise issues on the misuse of laws done by women. Also, if womankind was harassed in the past, that doesn't give them the right to do wrongful things. Be a responsible content creator and if you raise issues, raise issues of both the genders. Hope this helps you
He knows bashing men is easy in india
South korea mein he would never dare do this in front of anti feminist crowd
Just FYI, there are also a category of men who are happily MGTOW ( contrary to popular beliefs ). Not angry or frustrated at any women.
Just pure freedom, self respect and zero compromises.❤
Great video. Yes, please make a video especially on this aspect: that the parent-child relationship is not a transaction, and that the son is not their property who has a life-long obligation to serve parents in every way. And that the parents and son is the unit in which the bahu has to ‘adjust’ in every way.
Yes kids are aslo not the responsibility of the parents once they hit the puberty ....😊
Great thought … I am also spreading this kind of message through my book ‘Unparenting’
@@saurabhsingh5263Yeah kick them out once they turn 18. But then they'll suicide because we're not America. We can't even work part time at a McD because our population is so huge & the job openings are so less. If you want to reverse the tables, I'll just say it: Your parents decided to have s*x one night & conceived you. You weren't asked to be born. Now take up the responsibility as you were the one to pop out kids. Or else just give up children for adoption since early days that'll be much better. A child is not a retirement plan of parents because parents WILLINGLY chose to have kids, not kids willingly choosing to be born. So they shouldn't be expected to take care of their parents.
Seems like a genuine effort to resolve marital issues in the era of internet 👏
I prepare my breakfast and lunch ( for family also), press my clothes, pack meal and go to job, then in evening prepare dinner still married life is stinky 😂😂
Aap mere daddu jaise ho🙂.Pranam apko🙏.
Another great point you touched towards the end, which I have personally experienced: boys who are not well-educated or earning very less keep waiting for a ‘good’ girl, who is one who is highly educated and earning well, or whose family has no financial problem, instead of settling for a girl of same status or background as theirs.
Applied to girls too ....Mahalo ka Raja Mila, rani beti raaj karegi 😊.....
@@saurabhsingh5263 not really, girls are expected and pressurized to compromise for marriage in India.
Girls also should settle up for equal status boys. If you think ki nahi aisa nhi hai toh fir jab love affairs chalati ho boyfriend se zyada kamane ki expectations kyun rakhti ho shaadi karne ke liye aur parents se kyun expect karti ho tumhare liye zyada paise kamane wala ladka dhoonde? Boyfriend agar kam kamata hai ya berozgaar hai toh usse shaadi kyun nhi karti? Ya parents bhi kam kamane wale ya berozgaar ladke se shaadi kyun nhi karate?
Girls put fake criminal charges on the boys side. .... Tum logg snaap ho... Whole body filled with poison 😆😅😅😂😂😀😀🤣🤣
I mean girls has been doing that too so what to say. Tho you're right, everyone should seek someone of a equal, decent background
parents ko bachhon se paise nhi lene chahiye is par video banaiye
Yes described truly the present scenario, both earning and both are equal, man should accept it and keep with him some balance to get respect.
Sir nameste, mere mama ki bahu ne 3rd day hi jhagda karke police bula li thi, ab case kiya hua hai 20 lkhs demand kiya court ne 10 lkh Mei settlement kiya hai. Mama ki death ho gayi hai. Usne unnecessary kiya hai woh chahti thi ki makan uske naam karen, mama taxi chalate the. Woh itne paise wale nahi hai, ladka gau hai ,Kya Karen
Be equal... If dependency is not there, real love will prosper.
Is equality possible? I assume you mean 'fair'. What women seek is fairness. But if you think deep, marriage doesn't serve much if anyone has individualistic ambitions.
Real love is over rated. If true love is valid, then a major chunk of divorces shouldn't happen, which initally was love marriage.
U will marry a person who earns 3 times more than U and will talk about equality 😅
Benificial contents Sir!
As always and as expected..
Its called real debate and eye opening facts.
We accept it or not..this is the harsh truth
Thanks uncle for this kind of counselling.
I listen u carefully and treat ur words as a Son 🙏🏼
Sir puri din ki thaka. Ke baad apka video dekh ke bht man halka ho jata hai.Doing grrat work Sir.Please keep it up
Mazaaa agaya. No one talks about these topics. I just keep on listening you sir. Like a elder uncle. Giving unbiased advice. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Superb uncle superb. । am just watching your video, couldn't stop myself from commenting today. I always want to comment on your video but while doing some task I am watching or hearing them and just miss out.There are so many videos that are so relatable.I am 39 years old intelligent female from Dehradun settled in Pune; IT engineer but left job 11 years back was in a top IT company in Pune, due to many reasons that you cover in your videos,was once independent in terms of finance.Your videos just make me smile,strike inside.I tried to show one of them to my husband,he was wondering why I watch your videos or how I got to watch,will share this 1 with him,this has been my analysis too.My elder sister too,45years old, an IIT passout,US returned,divorced,faced all these issues.Just your videos give solace.Someone is talking out.I used to look out on google,search and read a lot ,to these modern day problems,but one thing I think am I doing it right,leaving my job etc.in the name family,to balance out,to keep the man feel superior (I knew inside) to keep the martiage intact because we were just about to break our marriage due to the chaos.But atleast these videos give peace
madam i have been following his videos for quite some time. and have learnt a lot , i have shared these videos in my family and the reactions have been quite interesting. i do have have a different problem though and maybe it is geographical. I am unmarried 27 male and i have corrected many of my issues thanks to my mom and sir here but i seem to be stuck in a loop of dating women who have 0 skills that would work in a relationship and the women i meet who are working on themselves carry dangerous amount of baggage to bring to a new relationship. I am not sure what to do.
Family is anti woman
Yes, they give peace. But also understanding to all to rise unfettered and do what they want. Do something for yourself...
What a waste .
Stay strong!