YOUR DAD IS TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOU...
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Patrick and Thais have barely been in Brazil for a few hours, but already Patrick has a three day long list of chores his dad wants him to do. Thais isn't happy. This short vacation is meant to be for seeing family and building bridges. She feels Patrick has been taken advantage of enough as it is. So why is Patrick unable to say no to his family? And more to the point, why can't he be upfront with Thais rather than springing surprises on her like this?
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Why would they want to paint the apartment when the baby is staying there? Paint fumes can't possibly be great for a baby.
Glad someone mentioned this
Just a bad script.
Thais won't let that happen
Good point
@@seove1 nope, cuz my mom is exactly like this!! My daughter was on oxygen and she wanted me too paint move furniture in 2 days... I left and stayed at a hotel. My mom is just this way, I HATE it!!! She's a bipolar narcissist that hates my guts, she said last year that she can't and won't ever love me, she said we shouldn't keep trying to talk. So it's just my daughter and I and I will NEVER let her feel like that, the generational trauma ends with me. I know it sounds crazy, I wish it was a bad script tho.. .
I'm sorry, if he raised the rent AND expects patrick to do chores, thats crazy to me. Painting is a good bonding experience sure but i understand Thias perception on this.
And this is not how a good father here in Brazil does. When the kids come from distance, they kinda do the opposite, they want to spend time eating together, talking, laughing. Brazilians are like Here son, take this money to help you... Not the other way around, and when they don't have condition, they suffer hard because they can't provide. Yes, parents expect help in some circumstances but the bad ones are this kind... They use the emotional of the kids to take advantages
Yep. You can be a landlord who charges and raises rent or you can be the dad who is asking for his son to do him a favor and help him paint the apartment. Can't be both.
Thais is better than ppl give her credit for. I think bc she has no filter ppl think she's rude and she also doesn't like John which apparently ppl expect her to like everyone she comes into contact with. But she's not wrong to be concerned that her husband's dad is using him bc he definitely is.
Why wouldn’t he expect him to do chores¿ are you a child chores are normal
@@user-nf2zx2ox7j Because he's the LANDLORD and they're the TENANTS. Are *you* a child? 🤔
Patrick has so many deep rooted daddy issues, it’s really refreshing to see he hasn’t continued the cycle of his father. He’s a great Dad to Aleesi.
Jose retired on a us pension to a much cheaper country. He’s got enough time to paint by himself rather than asking them before demanding 3 days of his vacation.
Yes 👍🏽
Patrick insists his dad doesn't have a lot of money, but he has enough money to own an apartment he doesn't live in. That's more money than most individuals in Brazil OR the USA have, even if it's just in equity.
He worked for everything he has , and when you think about it, it's not much compared to people who have money in USA 🇺🇸
Valid point, landlords make money in their sleep.
Valid point, landlords make money in their sleep.
@@Tomtaylor7337 As I said: most people in the US don't own ANY property, let alone multiple properties. Sounds like you don't know anything about living in the US.
@@Tomtaylor7337 most of us own barely anything in the states. Forget multiple houses
Pay John to paint the apartment! 😂😂😂
Yeah no.. it’s his son.. weirdo you white peoples are something else
😂😂😂😂😂great idea
Patrick is too kind and Thais is smart. I agree with her. It’s very off-putting to be given a list of chores when coming for a 2 week vacation.... there are better things to do. His father should at least ask him if it’s something he wants to do, not impose
Exactly perhaps take a couple of days...or if Patrick and the father work together....
Patrick stand up for your self
Patrick’s genetics are STRONG bc their beautiful little girl is his absolute mini me!!!!!
Wow, your dad was definitely trying to take advantage of you! Bringing paint was embarrassing, your about to meet your grand daughter!
I think that Patrick is spineless and if he continues then Thais will come off as being insensitive and she is a sweet spirit 💜
Can't wait for johns arrival😅😅😅......
Pat's dad shouldn't even be asking them to paint. They're tenants. He's their landlord. He should be doing that sort of maintenance on the place. ESPECIALLY when they're only in town for like two weeks. He came over in the middle of the night and kept that baby up to demand free work? Very telling.
Bro he wants to spend time with his son!!! U guys are all dumb as hell😂
I wonder if the dad didn't just invite himself over the day they arrived. That would explain why Patrick didn't tell Thais about it.
And I also considered that of course the landlord was the responsible party for maintenance and repairs, until I heard that Patrick was going to inherit the apartment. If that is true and in writing somewhere, I would say it's appropriate for Patrick to help, but not during a vacation. 💯 with ya
@RhunogkDracovich he knew. He said it's better to ask for forgiveness than permission
@@xletragedyx Yes, I heard that. But normally you tell family members when you're arriving for a visit. The dad seems like the type to say ' hey great, well I'll just swing by' and Patrick seems the type to just let it happen. Just speculating.
Thais is trying to encourage Patrick to stand up for himself, I think that’s cool of her.
A parent who is always taking and taking, that's very selfish of the dad. He doesn't even have a conscience, he wasn't there for Patrick when he was going up. Thais, just wait he is going to dissapoint Patrick soon enough! I don't like people who just takes takes but never give back. SELFISH SELFISH Dad.
Patrick doesn't have a real relationship with his father, he doesn't have the real experience of Brasil, Thais was born and raised in Brasil, and WE know to spot real quick the bullshit of family members that for others may pass as cultural differences.
well he can make his own experiences maybe mistakes and learn from them
@@bluelight8664OR listen to his partner and consider what they’re saying could be right?
I know all too well that some family members try to take advantage of you if you're not careful 😂
@@bluelight8664 when a father or mother uses this emotional manipulation, the need for a parent that their kid has and that they caused, for their very own benefit, it's not about make your own experiences and learn. Sadly it's to be used in a hurtful way, even if the son is not realising now, and many times it costs the relationship with the people that really care about and try to show, costs the mental health, money, etc, for a parental love that they will not genuinely have... It's sad. I'm not judging Patrick for his wish to have a father present but sometimes this wish and need is so intense that the person ends used by the parent and blind about the ones that really care and supported him, to the point of transfer even anger to the people that don't deserve that.
@@antoinettenyuurnibe3302 yeah! For real! And depending it's even a blessing if the person doesn't have any kind of contact with that family member 😂
Patrick looks like his Dad. The baby also looks like his Dad..
I think it's just bc Patrick looks like a baby
Yeah, that's how it kind of works with genetics bud.
@@xletragedyx LOL.. nailed it.
I think Patrick looks just like his mother.
Their baby looks like Patrick..neither one looks like the father..
You should never allow an infant to stay or sleep in a freshly painted unit.
The baby looks nothing like her mom , but look identical to Patrick, mom looks like the babysitter 😂
Loons....😅😅😅....
@@user-wn2di5st4k lol 😂 thanks for pointing that out, I apologize I can't see much most of the time, 😂
I agree with his wife. Dad is using the free labor. Patrick pays for the apartment. He is looking for validation from his Dad.
Patrick is a decent guy.
As a Brazilian, this rent spike is absurd, it’s really a lot. Apart from that, dads usually want to make their sons do labour work to show them the other side of world, my dad was the same thing when I was younger, always saying I didn’t do hard work or my hands did not have blisters. Until, just recently he has realised that the pen is lighter than the shovel. Apart from that, living overseas for 6 years and being a man, I can assure that I would definitely help my dad, who worked since he was 9 years old if he needed financially, sometimes people really don’t understand the extent of how much our parents sacrifice for us in Brazil just so we can have better opportunities.
Their daughter is absolutely beautiful and soooo cute 😍😍
painting together is a great bonding opportunity. to get closer. I bet his dad is excited to work with him....i loved working with my dad.
It's a bit of a different story when your dad is your landlord IMO. He's happy to take their money for rent. Why does he also need their free labor? He could pay someone to paint the apartment and they could do something else together.
@@hospitable_ghostur an idiot bro… how else is the dad supposed to make money if u don’t charge rent? U sound like entitled little brat
who wants their baby or themselves to be breathing in chemical paint smells? Thais needs to take her baby and go stay with her family or move to a hotel. The dad has no respect for Patrick or his wife.
I wonder if it's the dad's way of spending time with his son on their own
9:59 she thinks everyone is taking advantage of patrick just not herself 😂 she wants him and his money all to herself... I don't like Patrick's wife ...
You hit the nail on the head 💯 - it's all about her
I have gone through something like this with my own (by his choice) absentee father. He expected me to start any and all conversations I had to go to his house he never would come over to mine (I live across the street from him takes litterally 25 steps to cross and knock on my door) he expected me to do everything for him. When my grandmother died he gave her wedding rings to my younger half sister who does nothing for him and hardly speaks to him and wasn't getting married, instead of me who was getting married 1 year from then. He got invited to my wedding 3 months in advanced and tried to keep him included with the planning including walking me down the isle. He decided he wasn't going 15 minutes before we were ready to start the wedding, sent my abusive older brother to try to find the venue to beat up my husband. Me and my dad don't speak I don't speak with my brother and my own mother attacked me at a restaurant when I tried to tell her that I got married and I wanted to plan the reception with her side of the family. I speak to no one and have limited correspondence with my narcissistic mother.
I think Patrick's Dad does''nt know how to love his son and Patrick so much wants to be loved by he's Dad that for fear of rejection he doesn't say no, a neutral person should sit them both down and teach his Dad how to love son and to tell Patrick it's ok to say no and to still be loved
My boyfriend's dad is demanding AF too. When my boyfriend was young he abused him, his siblings and mother and took them time to repair but now that he's got a family he's constantly demanding he get things done on his off days, the days we have to spend time with him. He demands he gets things done but with intentions to spend time with him but in the most toxic way too and wants to follow a list of chores and makes sure to have him doing things all damn day. I told my boyfriend off and thankfully he agreed and started telling him no.
Sad that he couldn't tell her because he knew she would give him a hard time. Dad is older and needs help. It's Patrick's call, and he did say he can only give him one day. She could have still been nicer to his Dad. She has treated his family less important than hers from the beginning.
Father is old. She is a bad person.
Most of these comments are actually pretty shocking! Patrick clearly loves and respects his father very much, and feels zero resentment for anything that his father happens to ask of him. I sincerely hope that Thais realizes that she is being self-centered, and completely judgmental. I hope Patrick won't let her disrupt the relationship that he has with his one and only father!
I don't see her complaining about her Dad's behavior towards Patrick he hates Patrick with passion shame
I think John’s presence will maybe sway Patrick’s mind.
Honestly if it was left up to her she wouldn't want any of his family around these men on this show got to get pass how attractive they find these women and focus on how they treat them and their families.
I’m not sure I could trust a person whose mindset is, “I’d rather ask for forgiveness later, than ask for permission first”….
One, why look at it as asking “permission”, when you’re supposed to & should want to, talk to your partner about things to begin with; &
Two, if someone were to keep doing that to me, I wouldn’t believe their “apologies” & “asking of forgiveness” any longer…
I hope this guy is not one of those!
Thais should focus on apologizing to her dad for ruining away.
Running away?! She's a grown a$$ woman, she doesn't need daddy's approval.....
So sad. I am sorry Patrick
Same ❤ poor Patrick
How poor could the dad be? He's got a ranch and a rental property. Kinda leaning towards team Thais on this one.
Sheeeeet, I live in Dallas, and they only raise our rent like $30 a year. Crazy that he's charging his son that much! I lived with my dad for 5 years while waiting for disability benefits. He let me live there with no job. Only thing I could contribute was buying him some things with my food stamp money. My dad never asked for a penny! I can understand them paying rent, if they're living there, things will be used etc and that's not free. But yeah, maybe not the first thing he would want to do, especially with his knee! Geez! And to keep raising the rent, that's not cool.
I had the opposite experience. I got kicked out at 18 and my parents sold the house to go vacationing lol. I plan to never put my kids in that kind of position.
@@rabbiforrskeincoinblatt3052Geez. That sounds harsh 😳
Did we ignore the fact this is his DADS property? Thais sure acts entitled for not being informed. Maybe she can stay at her dad’s house?
bro asking me to do chores id say go hire a maid
Fr 😂
Really sad both have daddy issues. Both fathers suck.
At least his father isn't spiteful and mean. He didn't call her a b###c. Her father has a nasty attitude. Patrick seems like the nicest one in the bunch. Thais is the guilty one in the problems with her father. She was sneaky and deceitful. She was very mean and critical towards John and his fiancé. Where does she get off calling anyone on tracking their partner's location on their phone and being jealous? She did that to Patrick. Loving people help others with their issues privately. Nobody's perfect. Patrick and John grew up with a mentality ill mother. They need prayer and maybe counseling. It's not nice to publicly air dirty laundry.
Ur tripping… Patrick has a good dad
Well, only time will tell us whether Patrick´s dad is too demading or not. By now it´s too early to jump to conclusions.
I’m kinda on the fence with this! That his dad backed off so easily suggests to me maybe it’s not exactly about getting labor out of him, but with such limited time together, I am a bit mystified as to why it’s the priority. Maybe take Patrick, Thais & baby Alisi out to some local restaurants or points of interest? It’s concerning he seems to be upping the so-called “rent” payments repeatedly.
Yeah obviously it’s not about free labor.. I swear these comments lack life experience and emotional intelligence
I think the wife is jealous of their relationship, it seems to be all about her, she's a narcissist
Narcissist
This a good sign of an abusive relationship. I don’t know if that’s what it is so I can’t make that call, but the fact that the father doesn’t ask his son if he wants to help and instead just inspects him to go along with his plans is a clear sign of boundary issues.
It’s because he’s a landlord and has that landlord vibe.
Ha ive always thought patrick looked brazilian and I was right
Girl, let him spend his vacation with his Dad, you go to your fathers place. You will quickly see him changing his attitude
Patrick’s dad has no no love for him and his wife and baby ❤❤❤
Patrick looks like a meowscle from fortnite lololol
Oh my gosh I can’t un see it whyyy
She's pretty.
Why are they paying rent there if they haven't been there for 2 years?
Patrick's father is horrible!! Seems he only thinks of himself. He wants Patrick to paint the apartment but didn't once ask how his knee/leg was feeling!! His dad is a user!! And, Patrick just wants his dad's love. It's sad. I've seen this happen to my kids and their bio dad. One of my sons asked him to help him put a fence up, he was willing, IF MY SON PAID HIM!! Another time, he conned my other son out of his birthday money so he could buy a stereo for his own car. I made him return the money. But things like this happened all the time. My sons consider their stepdad, my husband, to be their REAL dad!! He's done everything that their bio dad should have done for them, even pay for their medical bills, college, weddings, etc etc. Their bio never ever did anything for them unless there was something in it for him!! They're grown now, but still begging for their bio's love. It's very sad.
Since his dad also asks for money, I'm wondering if the apartment is his way of giving him money while preserving his dignity? Maybe that's what the rent increases are about? But his dad is doing too much. He does seem to be using him. At least Patrick should be honest with Thais if it's more about offering financial help. People send money to family in poorer countries all the time. But that's not how he framed it, so how could she understand?
i wish i was as pretty as thais lol
0:31 damn if she changed so much just by having one kid , imagine what she's gonna look like if she has more 😂
What do you mean?
She looks fine to me 🤷♀️
John will come to the rescue when he gets there lol.
I'm curious to see how that will pan out. If the dad is a bad actor (and I think the jury is still out on that one) he might treat John completely different. Patrick is the cash cow of the family, after all. How will John react to any of this? Very curious.
I wonder I'd he'll pitch up for sure, it will sure be interesting though Thais doesn't want him in her country
His wife is right guys.
The dad is either nuts and/or is acting and is demanding his 1/5 of his TLC money.
Alittle awkward but my grandfather, who brought me up as a father has done the paint thing before.. I think it might be a European oldschool thing? 🙏 ❤ (not the list just the paint)
“I would rather ask for forgiveness than permission” 🚩
The daddy issues will lead him to ruin his relationship, because yes, we have these fathers that are missing a whole life and then use the emotional trauma and needing of their sons and daughters to exploit them. A Brazilian father, when a good father, is protective and capable of give his own food to his kid. A good Brazilian father is very protective and enjoy be around, if seeing the soon after so long, they can be the poorest, but they will only want to live the love and affection. Brazilians fathers, when good ones, they are amazing, when no good, they are very Very emotionally manipulative
Thais is very judgmental. She uses the fact that Patrick is so in love with her to control the situation.
And she would make him do the same 😂
I'm sure she wouldn't have any problem with it if he was supporting her family & being called a little bastard on top of that
Its a little strange how Patrick has these shoulders like he's a body builder but I've never seen him work out... Dont even know if does work out..
Well...😂 he'd have to have broad shoulders he's got a lot of refereeing to do - Thais vs John & his Dad 😅
I do think Patrick’s dad Jose, is using Patrick unfortunately and it saddens me because it comes from him trying to gain his dad’s approval and love.
Patrick you must help your dad. Don't listen to her. She is controlling. "OUR APARTMENT" my God. Patrick she is alienating u from your family.
Women must remember that if they come into marriage with nothing and the man is rich , they have no say about how he spends his money. It is important that the women stay at school, work and accumulate their wealthy . Patrick has money before she came. He uses his money anyway he wants.
Some people take that "honor thy parents" stuff too far. I bet if Thais' dad wanted Patrick to do chores she'd expect him to do it. Patrick is so p-whipped he's too scared to say anything to her that she might not like and she seems like she likes to nag/nitpick about almost everything because she knows he won't give her any pushback.
patrick 's behaviour is indicative of a man fearful of rejection and abandonment from his family members john and dad.--people pleasing--it is also a form of emotional unavailability...you can never know how i feel because i mask my feelings by pleasing you-therefore i am unemotionally available to you. In the end this is a form of self abandonment.
It’s not surprising to me that Thais who has never worked a day in her life seemingly, is very very concerned with Patrick’s money when he obviously is a very good provider has bought her a very nice house , very comfortable lifestyle and takes very good care of her. . . 🙄
Maybe he shouldn't have married her when she was 20 if he wanted an experienced worker. Fact is, he only cared about her looks
They have a more healthier and honest relationship on this 90 day franchise, which is very rare nowadays. For the child’s sake, I wish them well ❤️
@Jo-zi5px uh did you watch their season? He wouldn't tell her how much money he earned and threw a wad of cash at her. It looks like she got over that, but that's disgusting behavior and he continues to lie to her and keep her out of the loop. Maybe it's good for a recent 90 Day relationship but compared to the old ones, or a healthy marriage, it's not good
I don't get why they're paying rent for an apt they don't even live in
I think Patrick invited John.
So wait..Patricks dad is Brazilian? Wow and he never tsught patrick Brazilian Portuguese because he abandoned him 😢
Why would his dad even ask to pay rent for their short stay? … Weird imo
My mom used to be like Patrick with her Dad. You cant reason with this type with abandonment issues. It sad to see but not much to do about it. They literally go back to be kids in need for love from their parents and forget they have the love of their children and husband cause they were amazing parents. Sorry this episode made me very sad. I hope patrick starts prioritising his kid, at least.
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Patricks family knows he is a pushover sadly. I can see why Thais dad may not be a fan, how much discomfort will he subject his wife to in order to please his family members.
Paying the rent? How long are they staying?
ibr fixing stuff is when i speak to my dad the most. it could be good for them
They're not fixing though, they're painting unnecessary things that he just wanted to be painted lmao.
Some people are just very selfish that they don’t care about other’s feelings if my father treats me that that….
They both have selfish fathers
You can't paint a apartment with baby staying in thare wtf
Paint with the baby, move to a hotel and let him paint himself, who would paint it if Patrick wasn’t there
Is clear to everyone else if Patrick doesn't see that he's doing whatever it takes to have a relationship with his father and that means given his dad money or helping him out on the farm if that's going to give him time with his father! We can say whatever we want to say about the situation at the end of the day Patrick have to see it and come to an understanding or where he fits in his father's life p e r i o d! Nothing his wife have to say, his brother, or any of us and is coming section because we're not in his shoes and he's going to have to see if it is one day on his own terms! God bless them all🙏
As a Latina i understand what his dad is trying to do she doesn’t get it because like me shes a girl and we have it differently culturally our relationship with our dads are different we usually are like daddies little princess 👸 but our moms make us into maids. Moms treat the sons like kings 🤴 but dads are tough and will work u like a mule even on vacations but its their way of bonding with you because most latino men aren’t in-tune with their feels thats more of a white people thing im not saying its a bad thing because its good to be in tune with your emotions but its a very slow change in our culture we are raised still more old school it only changes a bit once you live in the U.S
Thats my experience as a Mexican American woman im 22 and have 12 years of cooking experience and cleaning when in today’s world most people won’t teach their kids to cook till like maybe 15-16 or just simply no cooking skills at all because well we have the luxury to buy food ready
I like how Thais calls it hers and Patrick's money. What does she contribute ?
Exactly what he wants her to. Childcare, cleaning, sex, and her looks to raise his status
It's called being married. She contributed making an entire baby and is caring for that baby.
😂😂
Her contribution is telling him what to do & that she's the only family he needs 😂😂😅 the only one who doesn't use him 😅
She contributes exactly what he wants her to. Status. Her looks, her youth, making and taking care of his baby...
Pat needs to grow a back bone. I used to be like Pat, and I grew up w/ highly toxic parents and a narcissistic mother. It turned me into a human door mat and people pleaser at all costs. It made havoc in my life, unnecessary stress and hurt my relationships with others. Pat needs to start standing up for himself now, especially now that he has a wife and daughter!!!!
who is the lady with the black eye?
He lets people put a lot on his plate. He feels responsible for his Father’s financial situation and he has to basically babysit his drunken brother. A time will come where their children will need the money; college etc and he will have to choose.
It just some drama for the show.
I am confuse atm
Thais having anything to say about the relationship between Patrick and his dad is laughable- when she went off to America without telling her dad she’s getting married
She's forgotten about that - she told her dad via video call that she was getting married 😂 she's just a Karen
This is Brasil and the father and the girl are Brazilians, what the dad is doing is not how good parents behave here. We see that as exploitive, not because of helping... But to any Brazilian, it's clear that he wants take a free labor and entitlement. About the father coming without Patrick saying anything, he can't reconnect at the costs of his wife and kid bounderies. And the dad is USING the need for a dad that Patrick has.
Wtf I could NEVER think of my parents making me pay for rent and on TOP help to paint. They would let me stay for free and MAYBE ask for help if they’re too old to do it. But even then I’m sure they wouldn’t ask. It’s insane how Patrick’s dad is taking an advantage of him
It's called teaching responsibility and his father may not be able to subsidize their trips....😮😮😮....your parents do u no favors....BTW...
Just say no.
you know?
Then rent elsewhere and she how much other landlord's will charge u when they know your coming from the U.S.....😊......
Dear thais...please get a haircut...
Thank you
She thinks her father is great. Meeting in the park? Does her father not have a house. I like to see where she comes from.
Im finding it harder to watch these recaps, not because of the analysis, but because they’re an analysis of obviously fake stories….