7 Traits of a Dark Empath - The Most Dangerous Personality Type
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- Here are seven traits of a dark empath, the most dangerous personality type. Can you be an empathic psychopath? Do compassionate narcissists exist? According to studies, some people may have certain Psychopathic, Machiavellian, or Narcissistic traits who also exhibit dark empathy. So, yes, it is possible to possess a blend of empathic traits and dark triad traits. Dark empaths certainly exist and may account for as much as one-fifth of the general population - however, additional research on a broader scale is needed before such conclusions can be drawn.
This personality type describes people who appear cold but are also kind and compassionate. However, these individuals experience what’s called cognitive empathy. Meaning, while they can understand someone's emotional state very well, instead of bonding with them as ordinary empaths do, they usually exploit it. Basically, emotional manipulation comes naturally to these folks. And that spells trouble!
A dark empath can even be more dangerous than a typical dark triad type, because the dark empath may pull you in closer and inflict more harm as a result. Of course, this doesn’t mean that every dark empath will harm others emotionally - but they can.
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"The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog" - Mark Twain
I feel the same way
@@misshamilton9172 Too right. That's why I now live like a virtual recluse. I used to be very sociable and gregarious, but I'm a lot happier now not having other people back-stabbing and dragging me down. Who needs their negativity. Lol!
@@bipolarbear9917I can fully relate...At least I'm not only.. even though friends and family thinks I'm crazy
ive seen this on every video this guy makes
Amen!! Animals are a refuge to me in life just like spending lots of time in the woods just sitting is a rejuvenation of the soul.
"Those who are hurt the most have the greatest ability to heal."
Their kindness is their weakness.Once they know you're abusing it, run for your life.
I had no idea how dark I could be until I recognized I was being manipulated by my kindness. 😮
That hit home for me. If I feel like I'm being taken advantage of I go into planning mode
Damn... That sentence just reminded me my whole life
100%
Literally.
Being a dark empath is what happens when an empath has delt with to much narcissistic abuse and falls from grace essentially. I would know.
Totally agree
Yup
We're not narcissistic. The video was wrong about that. We tend to not like the spotlight, we don't wanna be the top guy but we have to be relevant. Neutral you might say. Narcissism and pride aren't really on the list. Empath's deal and dwell with emotions we just study them even if it means hurting people. Sometimes we tend to hurt people and manipulate people emotionally just to make them realize certain things they should change about themselves, we're not selfish. Its like having nukes (people's problems and emotional trauma's) for safe keeping just in case we need to use them to destroy them of just uplift them and help them. We only involve ourselves in people's problems in pursuit of understanding or feeling's of empathy. But the downside is the empathy doesn't last long. I remember one time my ex girlfriend cried over me saving her from suicide because her dad killed himself and she started crying in public Infront of me and I felt absolutely nothing. Instead I had to hug her which is not my strong suit. Public affection and spotlighting isn't what we like. Everyone around who saw I was caring for her was like "aww he's such a good guy" but deep down I was like couldn't this chick wait for some other time to cry. We find weakness in public affection especially around people we that we manipulate or that know us. We are secretive we don't like the spotlight because having the spotlight mean's people knowing you're next move. Empaths are spotlight people not dark empath's. The less of ourselves we show the more advantage we have on the field.
@@i_am_glitch307 I understand people's emotions perfectly. When I was a regular empath, it was easy for people to pull my strings using emotional energy because I slowed myself to be vulnerable for the sake of allowing other people to be vulnerable around me and not be judged. Though many years of trauma and false incarceration and narcissistic relationships, abuse, etc, I remained able to understand other people's emotions and care about them, however I only care so long as I care about those people now and because I understand emotions to such a heightened degree amd have peeked interest into the psychology of human beings, both my own and that of other people, I'm a narcissists worst nightmare because I chew their ego and spit it out whilst remaining perfectly open and vulnerable and perfectly content with myself. So I continue to allow myself to be open and it's like mosquitos to the bug zapper and I take pleasure out of decimating abusive people and out of defending their victims from them. I mourn the person I used to be and I don't wish it upon any good hearted person, but there is no me anymore, at least not in the same way.
@@i_am_glitch307 Sounds like your more like a psychopath or a sociopath. Nothing that you described sounds like a dark empath, though I agree that they have misinterpreted it. We do sometimes use our abilities to pull the strings, but it's mostly benign to benign people.
Being a true empath is a curse to you but a blessing for everyone around you.
No it’s not , it’s a blessing for me , it makes me know what ppl feel and makes me empathetic and also my intuition is almost always on point , if u think that cuz if I being hurt on a deeper level by ppls words than that’s ur confidence u need to love urself period.
@@muslimwarrior9891 that's just your opinion I would think. But how would you be sure what people are really thinking? some of us are really wolf in sheep clothing which is clear nowadays.....so think again about what you say, my friend
A dream to some. A nightmare to others.
Idk I think sometimes hurt so much, and sometimes is a bliss. A bittersweet life.
People who call it a curse to themself is because they have yet to learn how to control it
You can be a dark Empath and use your powers for good. It’s all about balance. It’s not necessarily a bad thing if you “know thyself” and work to better yourself on an emotional level. My dark traits only come out when they are needed, and I know they are present in my personality. I know how to keep them in check. For example; just because someone is a master at hand to hand combat doesn’t mean they are going to go around beating random people up. I love people and want the best for all and don’t enjoy manipulating. It’s a tool for good when dealing with truly selfish, problematic and evil people.
Well said 😎
Everyone should be selfish and beastly and let their dark side come out to survive
This 🙌🙌🙌🙌. I am watching this video and now I think I may be a dark empath 😲.
Very well put
Sounds good, until you realize how often we run into the bullies in daily life. It's only every third person in sight.
I'm an empath who used to be best friends with a narcissist ... It was a very toxic, codependent and destructive relationship until a light switch flipped on and I went no contact. I barely escaped with my sanity intact.
Once I saw that they were *aware* they were manipulating & using people, but they persisted, I took the only safe path; a straight line away from them. I began to feel culpable in enabling someone who abuses the trust of others, so I clearly stated my full case and followed through. My thoughts are clearer now, and there is freedom to replace shame. ✌🏽✌🏽
Me too
Saaaaame here.
And unfortunately, from their point of view, they probably left an “overly emotional” person who stressed them out constantly. 🤷🏼♂️
People are different, that’s the part of reality that sucks.
I was called a Narcissist for years and in the end, I realize that “we all have over bearing qualities,” and all live our lives in different ways.
Omg me too! I just told someone this! I barely made it out!
I use the darkness when people try to push me over after opening up
Exactly. We don’t want to but we will if we have to
You just made me realize that, I knew it, deep down inside, all along. I feel very relieved to this day, I never had to use it!
Me as well deal with my older brother who's an asshole because i don't have a job it takes time i already applied a few places even i got into a car accident the 29 Friday last month my back is messed up shoulder still hurts from home Depot , lost 2 jobs quit two jobs because of hostel environment and he still doesn't care but I'm making the best of it trying to get back on my feet i realize it even more on the comments and video😃😃
Is called the shadow its ok as long as it doesnt bring loss
Darkness isnt bad ..how utilize it is magic 💓💓
YEP
To whoever reads this, I wish you health and success!
I was gonna bait you with a nice comment just for a laugh. But I can't be fkd! Haha!!!
Thank you. The same back to you.
God bless you and your family. ❤
F***
Wish you the same 🙏💕
Amiin you too
Dark empathy feels like a constant battle with one’s self. The empathic side wants to be nice and kind and feel for people. But the other side wants to use the information for personal gain. I tried it hardcore only once and it scared the shit out of me how easy it was. I won’t lie it comes to surface every once in awhile (not majorly) and it helps with certain situations. But I try to use the dark side for good whenever I can. I remember a horrible co worker who was hurting people and it pissed me off. So I used my skills to get close find out information all as I smiled and seemed to be on there side until the time came where I got all the info I needed and told my boss how he was treating people and what he secretly thought. It can be used for good but you have to be extremely careful with it.
Mate wtf are you oab u used it once
I really want to try it now. Im empath and its really hard to control my emotion when i know my co workers gossip behind my back. And i want to be dark empath for my resort and for good result but im not wise enough and i really need advice
As a person with schizophrenia, this hits deep. I would say I am an empath most of the time, but only use my dark side when pushed to. I have a pretty good grip on it now. Just remember there is always light at the end of the tunnel and if you need help to get there then use it.
Maybe you're an targeted individuals
See the targeted individuals.... See the electric harassment blocker sound on CZcams
No light left I'm full blown f the world what happens after dark empaths lose empathy part ?me .I'm rage personified fir real my personality should be please don't touch in case of getting burned.
I am a dark empath but I never use this type of humor against weaker people unless they have done something to me!
It’s not true unless someone else says it.
You are a dark empath
Oh no, maybe some people might want to kill you now. I think some people hate psychopaths and want to kill them, maybe they want to find dark empaths and kill them as well.
@@aronrohtla3775 I wonder what percentage of people excluding aforementioned dark personalities would be happy to kill the psychos and dark empaths that are deemed dangerous.
@@Msj10934 Then let it be said. And that's how that's done.
I met a dark empath. He changed my life forever. He never harmed me. I broke my own heart by loving his darkness and expecting more
Deep…
I met one when I was 15 and in jr high school.
We dated for a short while, he treated me like a Queen… but he was one of those sarcastic ones…
Decades later we got together and as we talked, he mentioned he had met my mother…
WHO HAD DIED 42 years ago.
AND HED SENT FLOWERS TO THE FUNERAL!
I was ferklept to say the least.
I didn’t call him out on his lie… or the other 10 lies he told.
We are both 60 years old now and as they say: You can’t do anything when it comes to this kind of person.
I love this man and probably will for the rest of my life, but no matter how much I love him…I can never be with a person who lies.
Just sharing this blip in my life kinda makes me feel sad.
Be well & enjoy yourself!
Damn.
Well everyone had met a dark empath because 1 in 5 people are dark empath and the average person meets about 15000 people in a lifetime... Lmao
In the end it hurts ya unless you become like them, have nothing to do with them
Do not confuse empathy with sympathy
All empathy means is you’ve shared a similar experience. Sympathy does not require shared experiences it requires caring. Please stop reading pop psychology and read a real dictionary.
I just realized that I am a dark empath by everything in this video I’ve done and find it easy to persuade people and understand people emotionally.
welcome to the club.
There’s no dark empath. This person or people came up with something alluring to most of us, but there’s no even mention of it in psychology or psychiatry.
Please don’t believe a random CZcams people. This term does not exist. And it’s reported repeatedly for misinformation and harm to general public.
I'm not persuaded.
Dark empath is a made up term something that can’t be proven. You’re as much of a dark empath as I am a fairy princess
@@wacawaka1802 exactly. These morons love giving themselves cute little titles because it makes them feel special. A study has actually been done that shows the vast majority of people who call themselves an "empath" are actually just vulnerable narcissists and borderline personality disorders who lack the self reflection to see it.
Ugh... I'm pretty sure I'm both dark and light.. I mostly choose the dark side when I was a child as a survival skill.. I am humbled now and it really does hurt me to hurt people... glad you made this video it's kinda like conformation towards my journey to spiritual growth thanks for sharing..
Hi Jessica and welcome to the wonderful world of being an ordinary person doing the best they can. I admire your self introspection.
🙏🙏🙏💜💜💜
Me too
Ditto
Before I even realized what I was I also used my gifts as a defense too. Since I have become aware of my gifts, I try to use them in a positive way. It is spiritual growth. 1/2 of these "dark empaths" probably don't even realize their gifts & are not intentionally hurting ppl.
We all came here innocent and pure but we got corrupted and contaminated by the evil that is here.When you fight demons you have to be careful not to become one.
Bs, some people are born this way. They were born with the genes and brain
Amen!!!!
And if you gaze long into an abyss, the abyss also gazes into you. - FN
Veryyyyy god point, you know your ....
Be careful when you stare into the abyss, for the abyss stares back.
Bullied from the first day of school by red neck larva all through the 70's and 80's. Only child to parents in their 40's when born. Taken advantage of by every one. Married twice to Narcissists. Last girl friend was the worst. I really don't like people. Every one is going to hurt me no one is worth it. I want to be left alone.
Learning about dark empaths and Machiavellian traits has helped immensely in understanding a former coworker. Thanks so much for the info.
The more I learn about the mind and personality traits and other things related, the more I am learning about myself. Being honest with myself and not just picking and choosing based on what agrees with my ego has helped me narrow it down a lot more why I display certain types of behavior. The Dark Triad definitely explained a lot to me, and now this. This is the closest to describing my full set of traits more than anything else I have researched, this wasn't a journey I began to share with the world as some kind of badge of honor, but this 1 is me
Everyone thinks they're empathetic and want to be special until they go through something that sends them down to the bottom. All they have is sympathy until they've been through it. Special seems cool, but the learning process is 💩
@@davidt1621 Agreed
You call it dark empathy, I call it a survival trait. I had a few in my life growing up that made sure I had a conscience and in that I've always tried to be a good person but I also use it as a defense. It bothers people and I can see it in their facial expressions, body movements and how the verbally react when I read them and know what theyre thinking or going to say or do before they do either. When it comes to using it as a means of getting ahead in life, i've always been aware that I could but dont do it as it would normally result in someone elses loss and generally end up hurting myself in some way by not doing so. You call it the worst personality but honestly you just have only met those like my cousin that use it for bad things and are not good people, some of us are actually really good people. I generally try to stay neutral in life, not effecting others choices as it would change the outcome of the result of the choice they have made. That being said, I only write this so you know that there are some of us that are really good people and then there are those that are the complete opposite of us. Dont judge us before you get to know us. Also, I have no friends as it seems they always feel like i'm up to something because I have an understanding of things most would find wickedly crazy and im quiet and helpful and like to see others happy, successful and in a good place in life where as I tend to not care about mine because im aware of things like for example as stated above where as my cousin and people like them have lots of friends, are very likeable and people tend to crowd around them, until that 5 seconds where they use what they have and that person gets hurt or screwed as you might say. When I see everyone flocking around a person like that or see people going in one direction, I make a point to avoid and go in the opposite direction. Hope this helps with your research ✌
I think based on this video that that just makes you an empath. The dark empaths are the ones that use there skills to exploit others.
I was raised by closeted narcissist, I'm 23 the past 3 years ive tried to change but I still have selfish traits..im not a bad person but life has defiantly hardened and changed me. I fall into everyone of these except for laughing at pain. These videos can be put into perspective to those who havent faced difficult times. Ecpand your knowledge and grow as a person. I didnt know what that meant until a year ago..be free and do what you want. Treat people with respect and always help anyone in need in a practical situation, even if you give your last 5 away..just be kind ❤
From what I'm reading, you're describing yourself as someone who's selfless, yet still take your time for a quick judgment. Overall, you're a very intuitive person who prefers not being the center of attention, but simply watch quietly in the sidelines. This behavior marks you as an introvert.
Still, the fact you're able to read others carefully, yet efficiently like this, is something that you take advantage of in certain situations. You also describe yourself as someone who, when you're trying to take advantage of something for your favor, make sure you're not affecting the person in a harmful way in most of the time (which might ultimately affect yourself too). With this, I can clarify that you're simply an empath. Not all empaths are completely selfless, some care about themselves enough to not get pushed around by people. Unless, of course, you're leaving out some other details about yourself. A true manipulator never fully reveals their true nature.
1 of the realest poems I’ve read. I feel as though I resonate with your explanation 100%. Hell going to war with people or trying to get over on someone, even with the emotionally understanding and commandeering intellect, doesn’t mean that we’re emotionless. Hell being confident with myself has got me where I am today, and it’s helped others see their confidence too.
One can choose the walk the dark or the light. When I go into warrior mode, I have to walk both. It is not my intention to cause pain to anyone and most of the time I walk away. However, there have been a couple of times people wish they never met me. I have Pluto in the first house and I am not a doormat and the people I love are not either.
Thanks a lot for sharing. That gives me clarity on my relationship with my mom. I can distinctly point out 3 things with her. Extremely open-minded and cheerful in public relations, malicious humor and ability to hurt by words, just like she knows where to give you a scar. Thanks my intuition, I always wanted to keep a distance with her. Immigrated to another country when I was 21.
5:13 I’ve never heard a more accurate statement to describe how I view using empathy as a weapon. I used to think I was a Sociopath, but I also have a knack for understanding other peoples emotions which just never made sense. I hope learning more about this leads me to being a better person or at least a person with more self control.
Dark empathy sounds like an oximoron
There is no such thing
They are narcissistic.
They are not narcissistic at all, they just get fed up of being nice to people who only mistreat and abuse them and dont appreciate them... you should think before you speak, because you dont know what it's like to be done wrong and not be appreciated at all, no matter how you try being nice... I have taken lots of s**t from people and have dealt with abuse before I became this way, narcissists are those who mistreat an empath and turn them dark overtime...
It is. This is clickbait drivel pseudo-psychology targeting the gullible and adolescent. It's a big market, apparently.
What is described here is Narcissistic Personality Disorder - except that bit about working successfully in a group dynamic, that never happens. That only appears during the initial manipulation phase, they only "work together" as an act long enough to fool you to get themselves in.
NPD's don't "feel" others' emotions, but they recognize them. This is not empathy, not at all. It's more like a predator that can "smell" fear in their prey. They see others' emotions just like they see a doorknob, simply a thing to twist and turn in order to get to where they want to go, nothing more.
@@chanhudson6167 agreed we don't go out of our way to hurt others and just won't do anything for others that takes way from ourselves or for me my kids. Doesn't make me selfish just smart. Like you stated past experiences have turned us to finally put ourselves first.
My mother was a Grade A Narcissist, with a PhD in the Dr. Jeckel and Mr. Hyde syndrome, and as a child, I learned her traits, BUT I am an Empath with a Dark Side, for sure. When I need a particular job done, I call it being "user friendly", like the old techie term. I have Demons, whom I have just learned how to cage in the last 10 years. I'm in my 40's and also having PTSD, CPTSD, OCD, ADHD, anxiety, panic attacks, depression, etc., caging those Demons was like trying to be my own magician! Being the brunt of my mother's evil doings as a Narcissist, did teach me Quite a lot and the Dark Side I HAVE to keep in check. It is exhausting, to say the least. IF I Ever engage my "user friendly" tactics, and get my way, I DO flip it and express my gratitude genuinely. It calls for persistence and knowing HOW to grab the other person by the "feels" just at the right moment. Hook, line, sinker. I am then genuinely grateful and show it without going overboard. Sometimes, if it is an act of Great kindness from the Other person, my gratitude overflows, and I Will start crying and hug them, repeating "Thank you!" We are superiorly complex people. Great to have in your corner, just Don't piss us off.....and we will be there, probably forever.... 🤗🤗❤️🔥❤️🔥💕💕
I have CPTSD from narc husband and empathetic and yes you learn so much from them but I’ll never be him. Can’t imagine how he tricks people. He is An amazing pathological liar. Genius
My ex has borderline personality disorder. Reminds me a lot of this
@@Portia620 Me too. That's my motivation to not be like them.
Somehow you are blunt honest about it and my mom was the same as your mom, the jeckel and hyde syndrome made me even laugh because that,s how i called her, or the inside or outside mom, two mom,s in one body..
Holy moly I've never related to anything in my life as much as this one comment 😳😳 ...wow just wow!!!
Finally. Something that sounds like me. This is exactly the battle i go through every minute of every day. I love my family and animals but my bad feelings bubble to the surface all the time. The bad feelings are more intense than the good ones aswell. When someone angers me i want to hurt them even though i know its wrong and i dont do it. I still have to deal with feeling and controlling those emotions but its just a never ending exhausting battle. For example, ive not gone into work today. I just cant, if i do theres a chance i could end up in prison by the end of the day if i lose control. Cant take that risk. Just gunna end up staring off into space for the day i think. I hope this episode of shitness doesnt last long.
Really good information. 👍
This is me...and once I opened myself up to how much I love everyone, I began to see how I could be useful to the world. I'm always fixing things in the dark.
❤️
Well I finally found out why I consider myself an empath but yet lack so many other traits. And to be honest when I was a young man I could manipulate anyone at will. I’ve worked to become a better man since my mid 20’s. Now in my late 40’s I can say I choose to not let that darkness out nearly as much as when I was younger. Wishing all peace and love.
Please guide me through it.. I need your help
I'm kind of like the opposite of that. I've learned that psychologists are like this and they were trying to teach me how to do this stuff in different classes. And I didn't want to learn to do it because I didn't want to manipulate people knowing me. But now I found it's like really useful to have been taught so much about it because there's someone does try to get off on me I can probably just tell him to walk off a cliff and they would do it
You pretty much said everything I was gonna say. I am still capable of causing havoc but much more restrained and reserved before going there now.
Best answer !
Any tips on things that trigger you or how to deal with bad emotions without hurting others and yourself? Just some general guidance on how to learn about yourself more
The darker you can go equates to the amount of light you can shine 🔥🌟
That's hit the nail on the head thanks 😊
I can relate to all of the above.
I nurture my cognitive tools for the purpose of survival.
I really enjoy these self development videos please keep them coming xx
I've always wanted a healthy romantic relationship. I've been called a manipulator and gaslighter, and this really gives perspective on how I've been going about things.
Good thing about empaths is that they are able to look inwards and learn. Even the dark ones.
If you aspire to be a strong empath on the neutral/good side of the spectrum, you could look into the Sigma Empath archetype. See where there's room for improvement of yourself.
It comes down to being able to choose when to go dark. At the core, the darkness is usually engaged when we are in defense mode or have had enough.
like during flying invisible glow in the dark reindeer or giant bunny season which is 5 months of the year itself
I agree with that, Chrissy.
Nah, it comes down to having a hidden agenda.
This is how I felt and couldn’t explain, very well said!
I’ve been there dark empath most of my life now at 42 I use it for light through crystals meditation 🧘♀️ chakaras
In a quest to understand myself. A lot of this makes sense to me when reflexing on my experience. The Military enhanced my ability to bring out a darker side of me for sure. After war I was able to objectify very easy. Switching from light to dark in a split second knowing or unknowing. The Military calls it going numb and labels it as PTSD. I disagree. I feel like it was from childhood trauma and learning to cope with my environment to feel safe in an unstable home. I just didn't have full access to switching it off or on until I was in war. Which ultimately made me a perfect soldier from a military perspective. However, my dark side started to rule my life choices and left a devastating wake of relationship turmoil. Im now homeless with a better sense of who I want to be from Jesus. I'm hoping to learn to control the dark side so that it can be used for the betterment of others. Since thier are qualities that are worth keeping. I hope this helps someone.
It all comes down to processing i believe. Everything that caused a trauma in your past feeds the Dark side of you.
Childhood trauma creates a very Dark side. Most likely you never had the tools to process them properly. We develop fear based emotional reactions from unprocessed traumatic experiences.
one must process it correctly then put it on the shelf. When that memory is revisited it won't have the same emotional reaction attached to it because it's been dealt with.
The Military put you in a position/situations where your dark side could take control and thrive. In war you need to become a demon to fight a demon. Coming back from that wouldn't be easy.
When we entertain the dark too much it we spend less time in the light. That means we start problem solving more with one then the other. Both have polar opposite vibrational frequencies which determine what we attract in life.
Master and process your pain and then you can help others process theirs.
I've been telling my doctor I was a narcissistic empath for years,he said I can't be.. it's all making sense now. If you all only knew how much you have helped me.
A what??? Narcissist don't have empathy. I'm starting to think this whole "dark empath" thing is a gaslighting tactic from actual narcissistic personalities who are resentful for being exposed now.
@@Anthony11494 for me I started to doubt my empathetic nature when I realized how manipulative I am, even before knowing any sort of real definition of what a narcissist was
@@carolinaluna5508 I don't mean to ask this maliciously. Are you a narcissist?
@@alejandrovillegas433 is there a more you need answering to? I have narcissistic defense mechanisms
@@carolinaluna5508 what's that mean defense mechanisms?
Also did you always know you had these traits? Very interesting
This is great information. I have not ever heard this term used before but now I am excited to know that it exists. It explains me very well. I know I have a good heart and will do things out of kindness for friends, family and even strangers but I'm no pushover, so I knew I couldn't be a full empathic person. I can have a wicked sense of humor, dont need the spotlight on me, am talented, and can take a 'no' almost as good as a 'yes' but I never feel good belittling or hurting anyone out of spite or to make myself feel better(who doesn't deserve it) unless they are a bully ("Robinhood theory 🤷🏽♀"). I'm a dark empath and I love this term bcoz it has helped me place another piece to my puzzle which is mine. Thank you 🥰
How funny that you see our strength, a TRUE STRENGTH, as a weakness. The ability to help others, even past being disrespected, isn't a weakness or classified as a "pushover."
IT TAKES COURAGE, CONVICTION AND ENERGY TO CONTINUE TO CARRY SOMEONE WHO IS SLAPPING YOU IN THE FACE EVERY STEP OF THE WAY.
THE WEAK DON'T CARRY THE STRONG.
@@JasonGoldstein78 I think I understand where you are coming from...but try not to assume my vocabulary is directed at you or anyone else. I can only speak for myself. Pushover is what I used to describe what I've felt like personally at times myself in my own situations. I am plenty strong and carried a few weak in my time. Today, I have my limits and I am very grateful for them and I wish to never be as "strong" as I once was...my heart, health and happiness is my newfound strength, and I couldn't love it more. If I could please let me leave you with this for future notice that I learned along the way... "If it don't apply, let it fly." Stay strong.
One day I accepted the FACT that I love everyone...and I can even see and understand the worst people...I just want them all to be okay...but if they are direly hurting otheres, I MUST stop that. These are just solid truths that I live with. I love everybody, and I want others to be good to themselves...and also not hurt other folks. And I have to remember that I'm flawed as well and just be a good human, actively. It's an odd life.
you sound just like my mother. she gives EVERYONE the benefit of the doubt. doesn't matter how scandalous and malicious people are, and it's making my life, since she's staying with me, a living nightmare. I feel as though I cannot tell her anything or even warn her about people because she'll always look on the "bright side" . it's causing me to question my feelings and safety. don't get me wrong, I also, too, don't want nobody hurt or done wrong, I pray for my enemies and associates everyday. but I cannot let people run over me and do stupid shit just for a sake of their insecurities towards me, and my mother will legit befriend these assholes.
Exactly how I feel man.
Thank you for this video, now I think I know what I'm struggling with and it seems very accurate
Wow this just described my brother in every way. I’m literally shaking and got goosebumps.
I only became dark when I married someone with less empathy, I wanted him to understand how I felt, but this caused me distress... I started seeking revenge to replace the pieces of my broken heart... it only got worse and I felt apathetic. Now I’m healing... I also had another ailment that I can’t speak of. Also, don’t get me wrong, I forgave too much and it started hurting me after the 20th time... I couldn’t forgive myself for allowing my heart to go to the darkest pits.
I completely understand you, as an empath you cant be with someone selfish who doesnt see your needs... It hurts so much i get you and turns you into a person you dont like
Well said but we will all be ok I hope 🤞
From my experience, everyone has the potential to have a dark side, especially when kindness and basic levels of care are lacking in a persons life. But specifically for Empaths, it is typically those stuck in a state of immaturity and unhealed wounds that may behave in such a way. Similar analogy, they are kind of like a wolf with their leg caught in a bear trap. Although it may be a sad thing to see, if you get to close, attempting to help, they will likely bite, most probably because of pain, misunderstanding, or fear, possibly not even meaning to hurt anyone. Of course, there may be other factors as well. I highly recommend that especially Empaths need to take care of themselves physically/nutritionally/hormonally. In my opinion, this should be a starting point when healing, the foundation to build upon, because when your body is out of alignment, there may be uncontrollable events, mood swings, even misunderstandings, etc.
CPTSD is a big issues after being tested like crap by narc!!! Agreed with you we need to heal but many still lock up shop! I’ll never marry again and lucky if I will ever date. Funny how I wanted the relationship and the ex cheated and jumped into one Immediately after divorce and I’m single and the one that was faithful! People are so strange! I guess you call it codependence when they have to have somebody but they have to sleep with everybody else??? I am happier not being around a compulsive liar that even lies to himself about who he is!!! 🙏 god showed me who he was when I got sick and my kid found this all out. She loves her dad but knows that he is a compulsive liar, Cheater, and he hid money from us. I guess he needed it for these side chicks? 🤣😂. I wish him the best and so glad he is gone! I leveled up big time once he got out! We have money now and the kids needs are met! I’m able to invest in my future too! Peace is priceless
I think this is very accurate.
It hurts to hear "immaturity" but I guess it is true in some sort. I feel like if those dark empaths were loved unconditionally when they were at development age or in their childhood things might have been better. I am saying for some, not for everyone.
Spot on.
It just depends on what your intentions are. I certainly know how to hurt people but I just want the people around me to grow and flourish. When I have very negative emotions I tend to just block any of that from affecting others. When I’m really struggling I might make wrong choices sometimes. I always apologise afterwards and try to correct myself afterwards though. I guess there should be a big distinction between a good person in a difficult place and a fundamentally bad person.
My wife…I had a hard time figuring out what has changed all the sudden and couldn’t understand the cause since everything seemed just fine.
Now it’s clear as day to who she truly is.
It’s painful to know but THANK YOU for exposing the truth!!! 🖤💯
I knew a dark empath years ago. Though this is the first time I've heard this term, this is exactly how he was. He was very depressed, in tune with the emotions of others, but he used this to his own advantage. He ended up committing suicide a little over ten years ago. He pushed people away all the time and the last time, his last girlfriend, was like the straw that broke the camel's back. Even though he was emotional, he was also one of the most selfish people I've ever known.
What sign was he?
@@jwire4532: "Yield."
Yeah, he killed himself. Wow how selfish of him how dare he doesn't consider how you personally feel over his feelings.
Shame on him!
@@CC-uy9wpYou get it. This is what most people will never understand.
Yea I am not killing myself nice try
When empaths have been hurt by society they become dark and totally hostile , lady fowler
Larry Fowler yeah true. I'm trying not to become that.
I totally agree.....
That’s what I have become and it’s liberating
@@tiramisudu17 wtf
@@tiramisudu17 just feel that anguishing pain Neuri, Toby here, it is healthy, then remember your golden rule of treating others as you would want to be treated.
I legitimately try to cage the fact I know I’m charismatic enough to get what I want within reason.
Yes ;)
@@kristabistaify wow you’re pretty ma’am
Checked off on all boxes and I feel great about it.
Narcissists manipulate
empaths set boundaries
Both can have HSP
That describes every carreer Politician, especially after 😉"Election"
I have friends who have called me an Angel, because I love helping people. I explain to them that I was raised by a narcissist and learned them well. I have a high level of empathy for people and animals…. Even aggressive ones curl up to me like puppies, but having been raised by a narcissist I know how to manipulate on a level that even narcissist become afraid of. Their games are child’s play compared to what I have become capable of but choose not to do. It scares the hell out of me sometimes and I’ll not intentionally hurt a person unless it is absolutely necessary. I am an introvert, not an extrovert. When it comes to my friends I stand between them and the people who would hurt them.
My ex wife’s father was a narcissist, he threatened to shoot me once. I smiled at him and asked him he had ever danced with the devil. He told me no. I continued to smile and told him now would be a bad time to try. Years later before he passed he thanked me for waking him up because towards the end he actively tried to make amends for the things he had done knowing that it wouldn’t work. My ex wife had become strong and confident. It was at that point I knew my ex didn’t need me to protect her anymore, so I filed for divorce and helped her through a few other thing while she started down her path. She and I are still good friends and she asks me to help some of her friends she has made since the divorce but that struggle has taken a lot out of me and I just want to be left alone now.
I think PhD psychology is like a literature. Human mind is way more complex than defining a few types of anti social personalities. Someone's dark empath is most likely other one's loving empath. We respectively use our empathy and darkness to different people.
Contradiction: dark empaths manipulate which could hurt someone. Empaths don't want to hurt someone.
Wow i feel this 100%!!!
The dark side of us doesn't care in the given moment, UNLESS it is someone we Deeply love. There is a HUGE DIFFERENCE in who we target and Don't target and it is done with great and careful consideration. You'd have to think like us to even Begin to skid the surface of how we think and the worst part is.... None of us are even Close to being like the next Dark Empath.
Scratch your brain on that for a while. 🧐
@The Oregonian Ginger proud of you.
Precisely. There is the clear distinction: Narcissists can have High Sensory Perception which is what they use to manipulate so it is clear this description is in fact a narcissist who lacks empathy.
It seems people assume 'empath' and HSP are literally one and the same.
@@mindonthespirit1543 I was trying to formulate this same thought as I listened to this video. "Narcissist who lacks empathy"
All I can say, I can relate to this except the ff:
1. I am not a victim of my narcissism (coz am not a narcissist lol) I don't take things personally - ( that is the true power of an empath)
2. Pride is not essential, it is natural bruh, but we also know how to turn down our pride when needed I think? Since we can feel the energy around us, we know what's good or not. so why protect with ignorance? hehehe
We make a lot of friends, but we know how to filter them. I do have lot of friends but I only trust a few ones. hehe
Agreed! Me too wit friends!
My mother was a Dark Empath, she balanced her behavior by acting out obsessive, compulsive religious beliefs that actually triggered her Dark Triad. After surviving childhood, as a result of my Near Death Experience, I found a way to cope. Being an Empath myself, and with God's help, I could recognize what was going on with her. It was pretty much like living in Hell, but I had the full armour and protection from God, as he promised when I was with him.
stop calling ur selfs this made up term ... empath ... this is not official /medical terminology. there is no personality trait with this label and no diagnosis with this label. who is responsible for bestowing this title on ppl?? 'no-one' ...Ppl just 'self declare' they are an empath.. .. self declare .. to have 'super empathy' .. self declare to even have 'super powers' to help ppl.... self declare that they have suffered 'more' than other ppl subjected to narc abuse.. u ppl need to check ur selves.... check watt path u are on .. u may have stumbled off the track with all these self declarations coupled with righteous indignation. its not a good look, so pls stop now.....
@@mzliberty7647are you okay? You seem super bothered. What's the matter mama
@@JinnySpring-pr1qk ... DSM-5 .. not official /medical terminology. there is no personality trait with this label and no diagnosis with this label. who is responsible for bestowing this title on ppl?? 'no-one' ...Ppl just 'self declare' they are an empath.. .. self declare .. to have 'super empathy' .. self declare to even have 'super powers' to help ppl.... self declare that they have suffered 'more' than other ppl subjected to narc abuse.. u ppl need to check ur selves.... check watt path u are on .?
So basically… all Jewish people lol
The actions, or should I say reactions are dead on. Absolutely truthful. But it’s the motives you have wrong for many of us. I’m sure there are many dark empaths who manipulate for selfish reasons. Many of us manipulate people using what we see in them to give them the ability and confidence to serve Their needs, not our own. When it is for personal gain it’s due to trauma and a lack of examples of how to get what we need emotionally. After all we are drawn to Narcissists as they are the most deeply damaged. How could we not pick up a few tendencies along the way to protect ourselves with?
They call them narc fleas and they go away after time out of the relationship they say.
My girlfriend is a light empath narcissist. 5 Years. Definitely the most damaged. Her narcissistic ways will never rule me, but she still deserves love, and light. Everyone deserves a second chance. Just don't be ruled by someone my fellow galactic beings.
Dark Empath here.
I can certainly do all of those things, but, I choose NOT to use my traits for negative reasons.
So, just letting people know that we aren't all evil, just misunderstood lol
@The Oregonian Ginger Well, I guess there is no way to know, huh?!
Umm.. relatable?🙂
@The Oregonian Ginger you're*
I'm also full of grammar facts 🤘
@The Oregonian Ginger Hahahahahaha I know you are, but what am I?!
@The Oregonian Ginger I know you are, but what am I?!
This is a new term for me and I seem to fit the brief! Thank fk I’m not alone
I've watched a lot of videos and read a lot of literature regarding people's personalities and nature, but haven't seen one I can relate to as much as this one
Probably because this video outlines issues that every one of us has probably experienced in our lives. So, it pretty much covers it all in the sense that you can see the good and bad in everyone!
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I only go "Dark" when or if the situation calls for it. I can turn it on and off at will.
Learning to embrace our shadow can be useful in life
But controlling ourselves is key
Do no harm wherever possible
This explanation is very woolly and could/maybe apply to a lot of people. The most important thing to watch for is the dark aspect, darkness comes from being completely self oriented because only those who care only about themselves can commit crimes without guilt or remorse. I would suggest keeping away from anyone dark. However just because someone is egocentric doesn’t mean that they can’t be charming, empathetic or extremely talented. We are all a mixed bag.
I guess I'm a dark empath but I resist the Dark Side everday...at least I'm honest enough with myself to know what I am. I try never to use it for evil purposes. I'm always seeking to do what's good and right. I dont want to have to face my Creator with a guilty conscience again. That's no fun at all. Ezekiel 33:12 keeps me on the right path
I take advantage once in a great while, but never to actually cause harm or impact anyone else negatively!
I just know how to get what I want from people without even trying.
Have you seen any Pete Sapper videos? Empath uprising? They’ve helped me so much. ❤️💪🏼❤️
A dark empath is one who goes against the evil, narcissistic ones. Serves them their bullshit right back.
Who says the writer of this article is any kind of authority? It sounded like a sloppy pile of contradictions. If people intend to do harm, that is dark. If they attempt and intend to do positive, that is light. Let's not accept EVERY article on the internet as inviolable truth.
I hope you have a joyful day!
You people are fools.
I feel it's all in how we are as a person we are both good and evil. It's what we choose!! We possess good traits and bad traits . We all could be narcissist or simply ppl . It's all in how we choose to be .
My ex is a dark empath. One of the biggest things I remember, and he still does this today is dark humor. He loves to see me in pain. I’ll never understand. He creates entire situations with dark humor to get a laugh at my hurt and expense. It has greatly affected me. He manipulates situations with my kids (his kids also btw) to make himself look like a saint. I’m so used to to being made to look bad that I just accept it. He lies, manipulates, and takes pleasure from any pain he cost me. Then likes to portray himself as the hero. I’m certain he’s the dangerous form of a dark empath.
I am emotionally drained. His nice can be very nice, but his bad is extremely bad, and always outweighs his good. He used me to get everything he needed in life, and I always wanted to just help him. His lies have cost me my reputation in a community I brought him into. He’s very convincing, and is a compulsive liar. I’m sure he’s the dangerous form of a dark empath.
I know not many people will probably see this, but I feel like I'm both, but in a really good way, I can lead, follow, connect, but I will NEVER use my friends for anything or take them for granted, I truly care about them and love each of them.
Yes I was friends with a dark empath. I gave up my boundaries and she ruined me, but was also gracious enough to leave me before causing irreversible damage
The video is pretty accurate. Ideally dark empaths crave power however it's not as simplistic as wanting power. The need for change is a dominating factor, there's a need for the world to change in dark empaths
Wow, this actually fit me rather well and it was really nice to be able to kinda put a name to it. I'm still trying to figure out if i'm a psychopath or sociopath or something else entirely.
I am one .. with ability comes responsibility ! That's why its important to know your self and understand. Balance is always better than consistency.
Omg!!! I always knew my personality was different but knew it didn't fit into the physcopath category ..thanks for making it all clear now
I can relate to all of the above topics mentioned.
I'm aware of how toxic, I can be. It's born out of person adversity to being misconstrued and underestimated.
Fortunately I do take ☺full responsibility for my actions 🎬🙃 whether negative or positive 🙃.
It's taken over half a lifetime to be able to say I love being me.
I swear, I see myself in this list. I am diagnosed as Borderline, but this really hits home
I know them now unfortunately, thanks a lot for this video!!!
Some people are VERY comfortable in the Dark, there are less noises around you made by peoples erratic and loud emotional states. Also the most bold and daring enters the dark, not the fearful or insincere.
This is totally my brother, he always wants to be the boss/in control. He can care less about how others feel, he's even said himself he's narrssatic. Was proud of it which is so crazy. And he will make fun of ppl/person just to do it. He doesn't care how you feel. And he's extra manipulative. It's literally insane.
It sounds like he’s just a narcissistic sociopath. A true empath would care about the feelings of others. It’s easy to confuse the two because narcissistic sociopaths are great at appearing as empaths. I send my compassion for you growing up with that. I hope you don’t continue the toxic cycle in your romantic partners.
Your brother sounds like a Narcissistic Sociopath!!
Such a cool video.✌️❤️
You're the best, Brainy Dose. Have an awesome day!😘✌️❤️
Now I understand why it's so easy for me to manipulate people relative to a Sociopath! A Sociopath has low regular empath and high cognitive empathy. Because I have abnormally high regular empathy and also abnormally high cognitive empathy, I get real time feedback on whether or not my manipulation is working, or not. The downside is that if I hurt someone's feelings, I also hurt my own feelings.
I like to manipulate people into being happy and productive. I encourage them to develop relationships with the people in their life that actually have their best interests in mind. I encourage them to develop their skills and talents. My favorite thing to do is to guide them through the process of reprocessing childhood trauma and being freed from that sort of curse. It makes me feel superior, and they end up being grateful to me indefinitely.
One of my favorite things to do is give emergency physical and psychological diagnosis and Cognitive Behavior Therapy the homeless people I encounter. I treat them as if they were a normal human being, and give them validation that is legitimate, and derived from the things about themselves that they reveal to me. I feed them and give them clothing. I'll let them stay in my hotel room and we will watch movies together and don't kick him out after wards. They go off feeling confident and energized. It's SUCH a power trip, I highly recommend everyone do this 🤕🤗💞
Also, you may want to separate the rejection quality, and let others know that it and mood issues are also with the realm of a person with ADHD
I feel like I'm a dark empath.
I know what people are feeling but people don't mess with me. :)
They know you see.
Same
@ The narrator of this video:
Who are you? How do you know me so well? What are your intentions and what do you want? Haha. Great video. Fair and accurate. I think as a younger child I behaved immaturely to a degree and showed tendencies and gained experience in the manipulative for selfish and exploitive behaviors, but the better side of me always felt a great sense of shame and shallowness that let me know this is not the way. That helping improve others and society broadly is. That said, when I see other bad intending individuals or groups praying on the weakest sheep like packs of wolves...they might likely describe me as someone to be viewed as dangerous...doubt anyone else ever would. And if so, please accept my apologies in advance and promise to improve if brought to my attention. And to those who think I am dangerous...at least you didn't make the mistake of others who underestimated me. Expect mistakes to be capitolised upon swiftly.
Love you!
That's an insult to the word EMPATH
There is no such thing…you’re either an Empath or you are not…Empaths are not psychopaths, Machiavellian, nor are they narcissistic..if they even try to give in to these in a form of maladaptation, they will be riddled with guilt..and feel sick..not wanting to have anything at all to do with that ever again..but the aforementioned “dark triad” don’t care..that’s how they get away with hurting others..but I dunno much about these things..so 🤷🏽♀️
@@marilyndafeta3064 Not all empaths are good. You can feel another's feelings all the time and resent it so you use it as a weapon against the person.
@@marilyndafeta3064 You're dumb as hell, i am psychologist. Just because someone is a dark empath or an empath doesn't mean they all have the same personality or morals. Dark Empaths can be stronger empaths then normals empaths, they also have cognitive/emotional empathy same as a normal empath if not stronger. People often claim that super empaths with narcissistic traits can destroy a narc, but most of the time those "super empaths" are actually dark empaths who have chosen the light side. Because they have strong emotional/cognitive empathy and know the dark side ins and outs they're actually socially more adept at things and understand alot more, so the normal empath is actually a weaker version of dark empath since they're only capable of empathy.
@@mistervova11 I think dark Empaths sound like a narcissist, and it's not authentic it's false , and self serving ,🤔
@@flowerpower4944 Dark Empath is just as emphatic as an empath
Thumbs up + Thumbs up !
Good video explaining the definition. Labeling everything is just as toxic as some of these things being portrayed. At the end of the day we all have traits that can be broken down and examined. We are all human and flawed after all.
That is such a great reminder, that "we are all human" and all are flawed.
I’m pretty sure I’m a dark empath. I do my best to keep the darkness at bay though because I don’t want to be evil. I comes out when I’m angry though, it’s a battle I’ll never completely win , the best I can hope for is continual improvement. I had to learn the hard way to control it though, I’ve done some really fucked up things without meaning to.
These people go to weddings, funerals, baby showers, birthdays, engagement parties, etc. They slide in, and before you know it, you've been taken. So take note of these key functions and watch closely because, at some point, they will make their move.
So an empath that has safe guarded themselves either because they ended up with a Narcissist and learned or because of the hurt they feel in this world .. it's important to remember that NOBODY is born a "dark empath" they become one as a protective reaction to something they've experienced.
What is a Dark Empath vs. an Empath that keeps in tune with themselves, therefore others as well, but has learned how to stay protected in order to prevent a complete depletion of energy again?
And what is the difference between a dark empath and a narcissist that has mastered manipulation?
Wow so worse then A Narcissist?
Any Help for A Dark Empath
A dark empath's first mode of interaction isn't to hurt someone, it's a reaction to hurt. We manipulate, but not necessarily lie. A narcissist's main goal is to lie, cheat and steal from you and that was their actual objective all along. A narc will not feel any remorse for destroying someone as it was their intention. The dark empath does not want to destroy anyone but will if the person is evil and truly deserves it.
your story on this is so freaking funny!!
I feel like I have an dark empath inside me, but she only comes in danger when needed, when it’s too much for me. And I always act kind and only use her when needed
At work. One oh the many managers is like that. She encourages people, congratulate them, even treat them some times with money of her own pocket. But when they make a mistake, or she’s having a bad day, poor co-workers. I don’t buy her ways.
This is why always remind myself to "choose to do good, even if it's not your first choice"
I've always considered that these types of people have abused-empathy / inverted-empathy, --> rather than a lack of affective-empathy. It has been discovered that in order for an individual to be emotionally-sadistic; they must possess affective-empathy, or have the emotional-awareness from the past on what emotional-empathy feels like to be the most cruel.
Mind blown!!!!!!
I can only speak for myself here. I possess a genuine emotional empathy for most people. I also possess the ability to be emotionally sadistic and very relentless when i've been hurt or treated like trash. I consider my caring and empathetic nature to be a rare quality. I genuinely care about the person i choose to empathise with and ask the questions about the individual that nobody ever cares to ask. I help them unpack. But when that same person mistakes that empathy for weakness and moves to denote me or even hurt me. I take that very personally. Out of all the fake, boring people that one meets in their life why shit on a unique person who cared enough to feel your pain with you. At that point I know enough about that person to do some mental damage if i wanted.
There's a Darkness in me that I'm afraid to give control too, I know how dark my mind can go when i'm angry.
The narcissistic part of me will make sure they regret treating my like i was nothing. The empathic side knows exactly how to do that.
But instead i try keep to the light because I do want to be happy in life. There's a constant battle between the light and the dark. To make it worse i'm a gemini .
@@dannysiepen1046 Not that (try to) I place much value in signs, but I'm pisces and I agree. Hurt me one too many times and I'm done walking away; I'm coming straight for you, even if that means taking you down with me.
It's called duality. Do not let anyone fool you. You can't be too good or too bad. To negative or positive. It's all a balance of fighting for which side is going to become fair to you.
Apparently, we don’t say neurotic anymore: anxiety and/or depression. Actually, I preferred neurotic. So weird, I JUST looked this up today (why I haven’t heard that term in a while of psych study).
A dark empath sounds like narcissist/psychopathy. Don’t get me wrong, I still prefer empath, too.✨
This would be me. Malicious humor has been a hallmark, but I have through effort throttled back on this quite a bit recent years
To feel nothing for others is a blessing imo. People care about other people’s business way too much.
Damnit.
Think I found out what I am .
But empathy can trump darkness.
You can choose! And your comment sounds to me like you have chosen empath over darkness. (💞🎉) I don't like the oily feel of this plethora of contradictions- supposedly a factual article?
The first time some one killed some one els over an emotional trigger, was the first awareness of this, because something extreme happens, and everyone els is curious and wants to be the first to figure it out, people are worse than cats man lol
I am in tuned with the feelings of others and will use this gift to help or hurt someone. My old boss tried to demote me so I got her demoted and now I have her job. I used all of her words against her. I even turned the people she got involved in my demotion against her. But the ones that helped me when I was at war, I protect their reputations st all cost with empathy.
Good for you. But I wonder if you do feel some negativity towards yourself for playing that game?
@@capgains For real, but what's strange is that you can turn that mindset off and not feel guilty at all.