5 Dark Signs Someone Is Secretly A Sociopath
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There are sociopaths in this world who will embarrass, manipulate, and even physically hurt you to get what they want. And because their brains don’t work like most people’s, it can be tough to see it coming until it’s too late.
So in this video, we’re going to help you better understand the mind of a sociopath. Then we’ll go over 5 subtle signs to help you tell if someone is a sociopath. While no single trait means anything definitive, if you see these all together it can be a red flag.
Special thanks to both Kanika Batra and Dyshae for being so candid about their ASPD.
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0:00 - Intro
0:26 - #1: They lack empathy
0:43 - #2: Sociopaths have a strong internal urge to manipulate
2:14 - #3: Their first impressions can feel too good to be true
3:57 - #4: The sociopath stare
7:23 - #5: Their emotional responses seem off
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I would suggest it doesn't matter if they are a psychopath or not; Learning to detect if people are trying to manipulate you is a good skill.
Well yeah that's why it's good to detect if they're a sociopath.
@@PhlegmBoHiggins Why are you ok with none sociopaths manipulating you?
@@lucidmoses they'll clearly have better intentions.
@@PhlegmBoHiggins Odd, So your saying your ok with someone doing bad things to you knowing it's bad and knowing it will hurt you instead of someone that does the same thing not thinking that it would hurt you.
I'm going to take that as someone not responding appropriately and bow out of this conversation.
that's good rule of thumb, be alert to manipulation any time, anywhere
also, avoid fakes & weirdos that suppress their emotions & reactions
Man I feel like a lot of people are going to mis-label a bunch of socially awkward people as siciopaths after this video.
Well, It Is Defined As An Anti-Social Personality Disorder !
@@masasosaa9835 ???....
@@masasosaa9835 Socially awkward =/= ASPD
Yeah, I know! Just because it's antisocial personality disorder, they think Aspd is the same as antisocial, as in socially awkward. And also, they think that a quiet person is a serial killer (generalization, but okay).
Yep I already got called psychopath from my whole life only because I don't have friends I don't cry often when someone dies also I like to watch snuff gore movies true crime and also I find some kindo of thrill when I see blood lol
One of the red flags I notice is:
"I'm sorry you feel that way..."
Blaming your feelings instead of their own actions...
I don't know why this person running my stuff and following me looking for reaction I don't know anyone not interested in knowing anyone but still he is obsessed with old man and so draining like I don't know these people in reality I never had single conversation with me still he's acting like a gold mine is stolen
They condescend
Hahaha i know..
@@annalindvall3816 🙂
@joshschmidt3841 exactly you are a thing what is it with you?? Don't think being happy ir noticed by others will save you from me hunting you down
Energy never lies. Always remember that. Always trust your gut.
“Imagine you want something. Now imagine how you would get that thing if your brain could not feel guilt or empathy”. That explanation did it for me, thanks
Exactly, I think they see us as just simple objects. i.e You wouldn't feel pity or shame for an object, would you?
why guilt?
Yeah it made me realize I was a sociopath too.
@@mattjindrak Oh I’m not a sociopath 😂
@@cristianv3876 It is a good description
One trait I found is they’re very kind and super welcoming, but right after they get what they want they become totally different person
Yes, you are correct! I worked for one for 17 years. I feel so sorry for his wife! He had an explosion toward his wife at work one day & it was heartbreaking to see the effect of it on her and to realize that she has to go home to that every day after working for him in the office. I think he could easily turn a woman into a Lorena Bobbit! 😬😳😱
@@karynbanksley7110 Wow you are evil, aren't you. Instead of doing the right thing and ending the relationship. You rather there be violence. You are sick in the head.
I can be very warm, in a social setting, and in a good mood trusting that others have an understanding of boundaries. However, they don’t, if they are the sociopath. My friendliness and trusting nature could be taken wrong on their part. Then they may think I am like Jekyll & Hyde. So the problem is in the dynamics, timing, and setting; and a matter of interpretation.
YES!!
@@hollywood5703 do you also have consistency with the person? If not, there’s a problem there of course
The Theranos lady had the spookiest crazy stare, I can't believe people trusted her with anything.
straight out of a horror movie, her stare.
I’m not surprised at all. Corporate culture rewards sociopaths.
I’m not surprised at all. Corporate culture rewards sociopaths.
I’m not surprised at all. Corporate culture rewards sociopathy.
Her eyes are completely unhinged
The way why mom told me… people are like paper. You use them once and they are done. Gone in the wind. She also referred to me as a book on a shelf she can take down when ever she wants. Now that’s a psycho path narcissist.
READING YOUR PROFILE NAME AND YOUR COMMENT, I HAD A BRIEF FLASH OF THE MOVIE SCARFACE....
Wise woman
ugh she sounds awful
that is how 99% of moms are. Otherwise she would not be a mother.
Let me guess. Did she flush your weed down the toilet?
“Be disciplined about what you respond and react to. Not everyone or everything deserves your time, energy, and attention. Stay in your light.”
I have fewer than 1 friend in the World. That's right. Everybody disses me for making bad videos. I think they are perfect though. Who is right? My dissers or me? Which side are you on, dear ice
@@AxxLAfriku ^shameless pity ploy to get people to view his channel. Pathetic.
@@AxxLAfriku I am on that island which has flag that says "IDC".
Absolute.
@@AxxLAfriku giga-cringe
Keep in mind that while the prevalence may be around 1 in 30 population wide. The occurrence in a given group will vary widely. A room full of politicians may have a prevalence of 1 in 2. Seven foot tall humans is a good example. They are a rare sight but not at an NBA game. The 'paths will self select as well as drift towards certain occupations and social circles.
That's actually a comforting way to think about it.
Thanks for that. 🔥
Yesss, but. Territorial, highly mobile socially, and on average imbalanced in the stability of their lives. You very likely will meet them more often than you'd like to.
a sociopathic politician! Horrific
Donald Trump is a sociopathic narcissist. If people can't see that then they will never be able to recognize a sociopath.
I’m no psychologist but if someone is being unusually nice to me my spidey senses kick in and I know I’m being subjected to attempted manipulation
What if someone isn’t nice to you? Do you think they’re hating you? People on the autism spectrum have problems reading others and they’re usually blamed for being “not nice”
@@happyemoji6553 I feel more uncomfortable with someone being too nice than someone being rude with me, someone being rude for no reason often feels more authentic than someone being overly nice, I would think they're just having a bad day or maybe that's how they normally behave
It could definitely be a red flag. I'd say watch out for people who seem "Too good to be true" if they seemingly are so charismatic, go out of their way to be incredibly kind and start love-bombing you that is definitely a field of red flags.
But I get what you saying.
It is a terrible thing to go through a toxic sociopathic friendship.
I had a friend since first grade, and it took me 30 years to realize this.
He caused so much damage, with bad advice and toxic comments.
Back then there was very little information on this topic.
Same here last time I saw him he sold cocaine to my mother that threatened to shoot then fiancé.
Same dude, I don't know if he's a sociopath, however he is a the most Grandiose "I'm always right" manipulative Narc I've ever met. If you don't always agree with him, or call him out in the slightest he'll do anything to make you look or sound wrong, shift blame, attack you verbally, no rules, whatever it takes. Super toxic dude... Adios buddio
I feel this pain. My life turned better after realizing and ending this friendship. Being introvert and shy makes them look like heroes for shy people
@@Frightful_Flan Holy crap man!
@@Michael-qh1ip it always ends like that with those people it is never graceful.
I’ve seen the sociopath stare a few times in my life and it is a big red flag. Don’t ignore it. Don’t ever ignore when you feel uncomfortable around anyone either.
It can also be a sign of autism, but people with autism wouldn't come across as charming and socially adept like sociopaths would.
I do the 'psychopath stare' because I don't blink often (about 3 times a minute on average).
I'm extremely empathetic, I'm just autistic... I dunno why not blinking is such a red flag. But ok. I'm sorry that kinda thing is scary for some of you folks.
@@robokill387 Ermmm, I'm autistic and generally make great first impressions, I'm tactful, fairly charismatic, and most people find me pretty interesting.
I have high cognitive empathy but my affective empathy is not as good because I'm alexithymic, and if you're not in touch with your own emotions, affective empathy isn't going to be used very well. But my cognitive empathy is way higher than most NT peoples, so it more than balances out.
If someone saw my autistic traits and thought 'they're too charming so MUST be a sociopath! I'm being mAnIpUlAtEd' it'd be a real shame. I don't know if I'd want to be friends with people who made such harsh judgements about neurodiverse behaviour instead of looking for real behavioural problems.
I honestly don't understand the fear of sociopaths anyway.
I'm WAY more scared of people with 'fully functioning empathy' who choose to turn it off to certain people, ie racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia. I think horrible behaviour is scary, regardless of what emotional range the person has anyway.
@@qwandary i mean, @JS is not wrong. It is true that there is autistic people/ people with other with conditions or just people in general who just doesn’t blink. But it is also true that sociopath are more likely to stare longer/ don’t blink as much. Of course I get your point that there is other conditions where people aren’t sociopaths and just don’t blink as much and it would definitely be detrimental if you think anyone who stare longer would be a sociopath.
I stare, i NEVER LIE, so thats not correct! I have PTSD!
As an autistic person, I keep getting frustrated when they say autistic people lack empathy simply because we detect and project emotions differently.
Agreed. You can see some people are more internal/cerebral and others are extroverted and socialites.
Amen brother! Former PDD NOS right here, where are you on the spec?
autism seems to mimic sociopathy at least in my eyes
Although there sure are some similarities between autism and sociopathy, they are not the same thing. Not every autist is a sociopath.
@@minor_2nd I don't think most are really sociopathic at all, unless there's induced trauma. There is no real distance from emotion and being overwhelmed is common, among other things that's the opposite of sociopathic traits.
As a middle aged man that was very recently diagnosed with ASPD, I can confirm most of these things. I tend to scare people without trying. And once I grew up a bit, I began to notice the instincts I have and my compulsion to manipulate and dominate were not getting me anywhere. I therefore realized that I needed to re-learn my pattern of thought in order to stop hurting myself and others in my life. I've been attending trauma therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy.
It's been a lot of work. I hope I can be a force to build and leave a positive impact someday, instead of rotating through jails and institutions and lovers for no good reason.
You can do anything you set your mind to do. I believe good always wins over evil. Maybe becoming spiritual/God loving and fearing may help? I wish you all the best!
Congratulations on your self-awareness and desire to improve. Many people don't want to change their ways; you do. Wish you luck mate
Two of my really good friends passed away. I was distraught. They said “why are you so upset, people die, get over it” yikesssssssss
Yeah people that say things like that are sociopaths and lack empathy
Hhhmmph - how sad that being right makes one mentally ill.
@@werewolf1336how about you both see a doctor then :)
I'd say this too. I shut down most emptions to avoid sui1dal depression
Yep! They’re empty creatures.
I would like to mention, as someone with autism who wasn't diagnosed as a child, looking at people's eyes tends to bring me a sense of unease and extreme discomfort, bordering on pain.
Growing up I was always told that it's cowardly, and dishonest to avoid eye contact and it shows you aren't interested in the other person.
So I started making myself look at people's eyes when talking to them. Nobody ever told me that too much eye contact can be creepy so I assumed that not blinking would be better.
I also had to teach myself manually to blink when talking to people.
That sociopath stare isn't always done by sociopaths.
My family spent most of my life assuming I must be autistic like my eldest cousin on that side of the family (we're only a few months apart), and went through years of them having me deal with school specialists and others I sought out in my earlier adult life to try finding out why I have some symptoms of a number of things, only to always be told I'm normal, or with the what little I was able to get myself, determined that I do (or rather, then did) have depression. Then about a year and a half ago with having to go through multiple teams of psychologists, psychiatrists, various kinds of therapists, etc. for something else, they released me from the state hospital with all kinds of diagnosis that one team reached, the other ruled out, etc. and left with the inclusion of suspected autism. Then the psychologist I had to deal with before going to the state hospital gave a final report that basically has nothing more than ruling that I am not autistic. But there was never a diagnosis in all my paperwork for Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder or others that had shared symptoms. My grandmother still insists she knows psychology better than the professionals (she was a park ranger and later mostly just a realtor and co-owner of an RV park, no psychology training at all) and claims I am autistic.
Just because one shows symptoms of, does not necessarily mean one has. Add to that, I'm in my 30's and because of changes and people refusing to communicate the rules of communication (add to that, it varies by group), I still often offend people without intention because people don't like to talk about social rules and don't like to tell people what they did wrong so they can improve.
Yeah it's typical in Autism. Even minor forms of autism like nld. I read a story about a kid that didn't look right to the other kids. They beat him up. Look at Chris Rock too. He only has nld which is like Asperger's. Violence is just a part of the Autistic life and we just need to learn to get used to it. Because society will never side with us. Unfortunately it's not us perpetuating the violence. I work in a school and everyday I see the hate towards Autism.
A lot of the symptoms listed in this vid do overlap with autism symptoms I myself feel the lack of empathy most of the time.
My son has HF autism and I’ve taught him to look between the eyes or at the forehead. This helped him immensely.
I too was born with autism but never diagnosed as a child. And I feel the EXACT same way LOL. I’m glad someone knows how it feels
Narcissism, psychopathy, and sociopathy all seem to have a lot of overlap.
Agreed, no doubt.
Look up the Dark Triad.
@@justmyopinion3450 I'm already very familiar with it. But unless all of these things are just all and always the dark triad, that still doesn't help with distinguishing.
@@JudeMichaelPeterson
Ultimately, for any normative human, the differences aren't as important as identifying they are toxic and keeping interaction to a minimum, to prevent harm to oneself.
But as I see it, one can be a plain narcissist, who are simply two year olds that never matured. Or one can be a sociopath, who enjoy manipulating and damaging others, who also have narcissistic tendencies. Both behavioral, induced by upbringing. You can distinguish them by their effectiveness in charming others and how they respond to being stymied. Narcissists throw tantrums. Sociopaths attempt to make you pay.
Or one can be a psychopath, who have genetic differences in brain function and simply do not care about humans, seeing them as tools. Some psychopaths take care of their tools as long as they are of use. Some actually enjoy breaking their tools when they are finished with them. Others set them aside against future usefulness.
Narcissists and sociopaths will murder and justify it to themselves.
Psychopaths kill and see nothing wrong with it.
This is how I see it, you may disagree. Cheers.
@@justmyopinion3450 that's helpful.
A sociopath might tell you a story about something they did, but say it was someone else just to see your reaction. They get to know you inside and out to better manipulate you. I was with one for 10 years.
The BEST indicator of a sociopath - besides your gut instinct - is if their actions DO NOT match their words. Yes, a sociopath will suss you out and do exactly what needs to be done to silence your alarm bells...But- watch closely anyone you are enamored with. If they're decent, their actions will show it. They respect your boundaries; they practice what they preach; they're loyal. A sociopath - once they feel they "have" you, will behave very differently to you with others around; will act the opposite of what they've convinced you they are; and will disregard/ disrespect your personal guidelines. And shrug; make it your fault they did. You then, are in the presence of a sociopath. Cut ties ruthlessly. RUN. SAVE YOURSELF THE DAMAGE.
Honestly it's kind of insane the level of manipulation and the length of it they will do to get what they want. Had this happen with someone for 3 years before they went nuclear after calling them out on their BS. The hindsight of the situation shook me., because I ignored that gut-instict for the sake of a friendship I thought I needed.
When you donate sperm they ask if you have any “sociopathic tendencies”.
I was like “other than creating people for money? ..No.” 🤣
Hahaha! Also, it's not like a psychopath would answer: ''Yes'' to that question.
Tell them you quit from butchering 3 years ago.
You are getting paid?
😆😆😆
Good one!
someone with sociopathic tendencies wouldn’t even answer a yes to that question
since cluster b disordered people don’t think there’s something wrong with them and don’t seek therapy, only a small percentage are willing to reflect on themselves
The easiest way to flush out a sociopath is to observe their actions. A person can literally say anything, but their actions will always expose their true nature.
So If I long enough do what I say you will start to trust me and then I will strike like any good sociopath.I mean come on dude.
Ive seen their behavior…and i felt very sorry for him he still got his trauma when he’s still a child…i wanted to help him out but i know he wouldn’t approach nicely …kinda aggressive i guess…very controlling but i want to help him to see him doing nice things.
Wise counsel the Timeless advice is still true "by their fruits shall you know them"
your action writing that has been noted
They probably can’t overcome laziness. Talk is cheap. Give them little opportunities to do unpleasant things.
What happens when a sociopath meets another sociopath? Must be a chess game
We draw boundaries and give each other space. It's too much to have several in one place. Bad things will happen. Prison is another setting with sociopaths grouped together. And it's an enchanting setting.
LMAO! the psycho stare is all too real. I have definitely noticed and taken this into account with a type of person I have labeled in my head as overly charismatic. I don't think they are inherently trying to cause harm when I see this stare, but I watch out for them. I always saw it as someone who was on a mission and would move through you for what they wanted.
Kind of irrelevant to the video, but Gregory House is not a sociopath. If you guys actually watch the show, you'll see that he cares a lot when nobody is watching. He simply has an avoidant type of attachment.
Agreed. I think the "sociopath" is the mask of House when in reality he cares too much sometimes.
@@MsAubrey i don't think soo, He's a narcissist too he helps people to satisfy that, and sociopath care about only few people, like very close one
i think he’s a narcissist but wouldn’t go as far as saying he’s a sociopath. people throw around that term like it’s nothing lol
He cares about nothing but the truth. He may seem like a d*ck, but he knows what people are like, their weaknesses and what lengths they are willing to go to (by lying) to achieve something.
Well said. I was about to type this. Also, I don't remember what is the exact symptom or illness, but I read that due to his leg injury House became incredibly susceptible to pain, whether it be physical or emotional. So besides feeling pain due to the leg, if House is injured, troubled, or has a headache, whatever he feels it'll be 10 times worse compared to the average person, which is why he avoids emotional attachments as best as he can.
House grabs his leg whenever he is suffering emotionally. A good example is in Season 6, when he tells Wilson that if he where to die, he'd be forever alone. Greg sits down and clenches his leg.
There's a plethora of other examples like this in the show.
People think it's just the physical pain that torments House, but it's not entirely true.
I was raised in a home with very little, if any, empathy or compassion expressed by my father or mother. I did not see it or learn it. So I remember wanting to feel empathetic all of my life. Most of my life was spent trying to mimic empathy. Now, at 67 years old, after a hard life, I developed empathy and it is so beautiful.
Bless you
Thanks for never giving up and for keeping up the search . .
Similar upbringing here, except the compassion was on and off, usually dependent on our behaviour.
God bless your heart! ❤
I'm glad you healed . I hope you're able to feel some of the wonderful things that makes us human.
Mushrooms did wonders in my life. Over the course of my life, I've suffered from uncontrollable, depression, anxiety, alcohol, smoking, and illicit pills addiction. Imagine carving heavy chains for a long time and then all of a sudden that burden is gone. This is something that really needs to be used globally to help people with similar health challenges. I've been sober for 6 years and have my life back.
Congrats on your recovery. Most people don't realize that psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives.
To be honest, mushrooms are one of the most amazing things on the planet and it is natural, they serve in many ways not only for mental related issues.
Can you help me with a reliable source? I have suffered from years of addiction, anxiety, and severe ptsd, thinking I got my panic attacks under control, they've come back with a vengeance, and I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't. It's absolutely crippling me, I'm in Switzerland and it is hard to get a reliable source here. Really need!
Yes, Sporeville. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction... Mushrooms definitely made a huge difference to why I'm clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He's 59 & has many mental health issues plus probably CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD knows if it is common for an obsession with violence.
I wanna watch someone react to this as they realize they themselves are actually the sociopath 😳😂
I worked with a sociopath once and it is an experience I would never like to repeat. You don't realize what's going on until it's too late. I would recommend this: if you find yourself telling someone a lot about your life and feel almost a compulsion to divulge your secrets, stop immediately and step away from the relationship. The other person is mining you for information about yourself that he or she can use against you. Never assume that another person's intentions toward you are benevolent. A lot of times your worst enemy can present themselves like they're your best friend, or at least someone you can trust. Always be on your guard against manipulation.
Yep - I’ve been fooled a few times now. Not anymore though.
@@rpgtips3802 probably did (if your comment was directed to me). I have been too trusting too quickly in the past. And I’m a naturally generous person so I guess I give off those signals. But I’m finally learning TG..
They are usually attracted to empaths because it's easy to manipulate them because they know they are genuine
Only learning the hard way after the fact but looking forward to never falling for it again, thank you fir your comment it's exactly part of my story 🖐
Jesus effin Christ...If I held the door open for you...Would you think me a sociopath?
1) lack of empathy
2) urge to manipulate
3) feels good to be around them (they become what you want) too good to be true
4) the stare (doesn’t look away or blink)
5) lies without remorse and have can’t show natural emotions. Inappropriate emotions for the situation
Urge to manipulate, feels good to be around them, the stare, doesn’t show emotion, “inappropriate” reactions to situations. _On the surface,_ it’s the basic description of a scorpio, lol
Yes true lol
That's every Taurus ♉ individual I know.
I know all of the signs and I NEVER experience # 3. 😉🙏🏾
to be fair, " Inappropriate emotions for the situation" sounds like group think or peer pressure to me. A man told me today how he was shocked by how unaffected his sister was at someone's death and the someone turned out to be a famous ballplayer neither of them had ever met. Some people are too emotional and it is silly to fake emotions.
man, that Elizabeth Holmes short clip is just fuel for nightmares
And of course shes a sociopath after the fact and not before right?
The first indication of a psychopath is a management position.
Not all sociopaths are bad. It’s their deeds that make them evil. It just easier for them to cross the line.
So easy dear
Exactly. Being a sociopath doesn’t automatically make someone a bad person. People think all sociopaths are comic book villains with some dark agenda.
Yes you have a point there! I agree, it is true. But still it is not adviced to relate with them even if they are good. You should better keep your distance. If one of them is in your family or relative environment and you cant avoid them at least keep an eye on them and be carefull. Avoid trusting them.
@@johnkaminis8703 No.
@@johnkaminis8703 yes
There’s someone I’ve suspected of being a sociopath. They’re so charismatic, can never do any wrong. When I was pregnant, they would get angry and throw things at the wall beside me but then acted like I was over reacting because “I intentionally missed you, why are you upset?” That was a frequent question; why are you upset? They seemed to legitimately not understand. Glassy eyed stare was a norm.
Well then, just get far away from that person
@@yessigabi12 I am now, but it wasn’t applicable for a long time. Sometimes you just have to cooperate with someone who scares you.
@@RoseKoneko of course, but good you saw the red flags on time.
So what are you waiting for? Get out before he decides not to miss.
@@glynnisthomas9165 As he was the father of the baby, that’s a lot easier said than done. Like I said above, sometimes you just have to learn how to deal with someone who scares you. He doesn’t scare me anymore, I hardly see him now that he’s moved.
I was greatly wounded by a person whom I later discovered was a narcissist. After watching this video, he may actually be a sociopath. There are overlaps between the two. Thanks for this info.
This video describes my brother-in-law 100%. What a trail of destruction he has created in our family. If you observe sociopaths long enough, you'll start to observe strange behavior patterns, almost as if they're icy cold robots with no choice but to follow a certain programming. At heart, everything they do is centered around CONTROL.
The thing that confuses and concerns me, is every time I watch a list of sociopathic traits, I see several that describe me, except I still feel empathy - sometimes too much.
same. i have all these but my empathy is so strong it can be debilitating at times. so idk i guess we fall into an extreme because of our intense experience with the spectrum emotions and absorbing others' energies. one thing alot of these aspd people have in common (and with us ) is their mastery of energy manipulation albeit with a lack of truly experiencing another;s emotions. i think whne you have an extreme relationship with emotions/empathy like being hyper empathic or not having it all, you become very familiar with energy and transmutation
You don't need to be a full blown sociopath to exhibit a lot of these behaviors. Especially when it comes to taking advantage of people and being manipulative in certain situations - this behavior isn't uncommon in our society but being a sociopath is a rare disorder.
Sounds like BPD. Borderline personality disorder. Highly emotional but with similar traits.
My sister has the stare. Sometimes only the whites of her eyes show. She does this to people and family she'd like to be or be in. She's very empathic to a fault. But is manipulative. I call her out when she's in public doing that to someone so she'll stop. It's very embarrassing. She has a fascination with death and dead things. It grosses me out.
She's a healthcare worker for the elderly. She likes to be in the face of someone dying and that is the freakiest thing.
Sometimes I think her empathy is a cover up but now it's become a part of who she is just like the fascination with death. At times she's on the road looking at dead deer. I ask her what she's doing she said .. trying to find out why it died.
Excuse me ..it was hit by a car..you can't see the internal damage. I think her care there.... is a cover up for looking at it. At times she can be very mean also. I know a lot of these people. They have fooled most people.
When growing up my sister and I got it shoved into our heads to stop worrying about someone else and only worry about yourself.
Isn't that a good thing to teach children.
I'd like to blood type these people and I bet 1 group would be way bigger than others.
@@screamsella v interesting. do u find though that your manipulation is done to genuinely make people feel better for their own well-being or is it for your own agenda?
My mom’s boyfriend always accused me of being a sociopath and it would always hurt my feelings. He would always make me think maybe I am one. After watching this video I know I’m not one.
Edit- just wanted to thank everyone for being so nice. I don’t think I’ve ever been in a CZcams comment section where people are this kind. Love you all!
Sounds like he was the sociopath.
Sounds like hes building a case against you. If he can convice your mom that you acting like a teen is really sociopathic behavior he can isolate her. No normal adult male would tell his gfs son that he was a sociopath.
That's sus, sounds like gaslighting. Sorry you had to go through that, it's hard enough dealing with your parents dating new people
He on;ly says that cause he is.
If being accused of something hurts your feelings, you're not a sociopath.
This all is 100% true. I dated a Sociopath for years. Took me forever to figure out their 'ticks'. When I did and tried to dump them (carefully) that person refused to be dumped. When that person truly saw that they had lost control of me and their life in general because all the lies came crashing down, they orchestrated their own suicide to look like an accident. But I 'knew' that person. It was all on purpose. Just another way to manipulate. I hate they died but I'm glad I'm free. (smh)
Mimicking emotions and fabricating stories is a great skill for actors
Things like 10 second stares do give me a gut feeling of uneasiness...
Never, and I mean NEVER, ignore your gut feelings. When has your gut ever led you in the wrong direction?
If you have a feeling that you should not trust or be alone with someone, Don't brush it aside, No matter the circumstances
Nah bruh i was doing a math test and made me pick the wrong answer
Thanks
Your "gut feeling" can only be trusted ti the extent it is predicated off a healthy psychological base. However, erring on the side of caution in situations of safety to protect yourself is a good idea.
@@t_btayGood one! I met a girl who is always on guard because her gut tells her most people are hostile. Sad. My gut tells me she is cold as ice. But... Now I don't know if I can trust myself. Should just keep addressing the issues I see. Do you keep score with people? Like three insults and you're now an evil person?
Sure, but be careful not to become a slave to your baser instincts. Try to use your head most of the time.
- Cognitive empathy is a thing that sociopaths and psychopaths can and do feel and often intentionally cultivate. For some, it may be because they look at nature and realize humans are pack animals and community health is this important. Others believe strongly in individual autonomy, and thus will decide not to hurt others out of some cosmic respect. Still others simply decide to live by a moral code because they observe that this is the best way to stay out of prison, make AND keep money, and maintain a social circle of people willing to help you.
- For many sociopaths and/or psychopaths, it’s less than they have urges to manipulate, and more that they’re lacking the barriers to manipulative behavior that most people have, and thus don’t see the logical point in NOT lying if it helps the situation.
That makes sense.
Thus we understand why implementing the strategies from The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene, are effective as it requires pushing past the barriers that others won't, and why certain types of people are more successful than others in certain areas\ fields.
True. I like how the comments are smarter than the video itself.
For me, it’s the third reason you listed
When you say "They can and do feel empathy" do you mean that all of them do just less frequently and/or less strongly, or do they need to come to a realisation about the world or form a belief/moral compass about the world in order to to feel empathy normally
One day at school I cross paths with this young lady. When I looked at her something stuck out some heavy, her eye and eye socket. She gave me a deep stare and eyes bucked. Next, it went down from there she always picked at me. Also, got others to pick at me. One day she got this girl to knock on my door with a bag of salt in her hand. I never opened the door, I saw her car behind the girl with the salt. I knew it was a big scheme. Finally, she did something else I filed a police report next she roomed. That young lady was so obsessed and I believe she would have done something evil to me. God was protecting me from those evil schemes. 🙏❤️
I may seem like I don't have emotions sometimes, but I definitely do. It's actually hard work for me to keep my emotions in check, but I do it because I'm a stoic.
I still get nervous in interviews and have to remind myself to keep eye contact, repeatedly. I feel guilty for things as small as letting a wrapper blow away in the wind. Sometimes I feel guilty for "letting" something like that happen, even after trying to chase the wrapper down.
I get emotionally attached. Both with people and things. I lost my favorite coffee mug at the Denver airport recently and it really upset me internally. I tried not to show that, but I still brought it up to people more than I felt I really should. I know other people don't get quite so attached to inanimate objects lol. As for people, during this same trip, I was OK for about a week before I started missing my kids so much that it started effecting my ability to focus.
On the other hand, I'm quite good at temporarily suppressing emotions in an emergency. I go into full blown battle brain mode and think everything through quickly and rationally. When my son squished his fingers in the arm of his grandma's electric wheel chair, my wife and my mom were both panicking, and it was freaking my son out worse than he already was. I went into medic mode and quickly cleaned and dressed the wound, then took him straight to the hospital. Once he was in the care of the doctor I let my defenses down a bit. Of course, when I watched my boy take the stitches without crying or even flinching it made me really proud.
Idk if any of that is normal, per se, but it's more about my philosophical worldview than anything.
This confirms what I have learned: don't trust people, and be skeptical of anyone who doesn't clearly have issues.
@FeathersMcgraw I am being a bit hyperbolic, but life is dangerous when you are around the wrong people.
Would you guys be willing to do a video on how lower energy introverts can deal with high energy extroverts? They're so draining and their energy can be both overwhelming and unrelatable. Just started your course, good stuff!
bruh simply cope, look at yourself in the mirror and say, "i HAVE energy. I CAN handle them". Lie to yourself, and if you lie to yourself for long enough, it will become true.
Interesting concept for a vid.
@@brkic8400 that's terrible advice. Never overextend yourself to satisfy the failings of other people
Don't put them in your life bro. Your needs come first. I understand the desire to have friends and a social life and all that but you have to put limitations and boundaries on people. Time limits can help. Try this: the next time you are hanging out with exhausting, soul sucking people, keep an eye on how long it takes before you start feeling drained. Then, no matter what that length of time is, keep a mental note of it and the next time you hang out, tell them upfront "I'll only be free today for x hours/minutes." This will improve the experience of being around them and protects you from being exploited by manipulative, clueless people.
This is a real thing
Poor introverts after this video.
Good video. I've seen a few CZcams videos about SocioPaths, and this one seems consistent with what I've seen thus far.
Yup, I was raised and abused by a sociopathic mother who had high narcissistic like qualities. The caveat was that she surprisingly impressed everyone outside the family, and was admired in our community. Her only goal was to manipulate and control, and put herself above everyone else. She could not care that she physically and mentally abused us, it was all about her feelings which mattered most. It’s difficult being around her, because while the abuse has ended now that I’m an adult and moved out long ago, I still pick up on these qualities and remember my own trauma. Therefore, it’s almost impossible for me to enter a relationship and connect with another woman. Even tho I’m 27, I’m still processing everything that was passed on to me.
Mines was quite like this too, she always wanted people to think highly of her and always said “what goes on in this house stays in this house”, I was called manipulative , psychopath, sociopath and honestly sometimes I felt like she was just projecting. It always questioned myself and whether or not I was or not. A conversation with her would always end up with her yelling. I wasn’t perfect as a teenager, but I did end up running away
Processing trauma isn't a race, and it takes serious guts to address issues caused by a narcissistic/sociopathic parent (I know from experience). I would highly recommend looking into therapy if you are able, and if not there are many self-help guides online that can provide help. I know people who set their minds and pasts at rest in their mid-thirties/forties, and I have so much respect for them. Your afterlife from trauma doesn't have to revolve around her too
In order to connect with another woman you have to disconnect from the one you are still connected to-stop pursuing your mother.
and you will for life...but you'll feel better and better, less EMPTY*. .....best excemple, right here!
Two of my brothers have zero empathy for what others go through. Good luck to anyone who have these jerks in their family. I have nothing to do with them.
Learn to say: No!
Be brutal about cutting these people from your life.
They will make you feel like YOU'RE in the wrong. It's ok, just walk away. Forever.
yep
XDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD shallow af
EXACTLY!🤨 RUN RUN RUN! AND DON'T LOOK BACK!
I just did, i found out a friend i had is a sociopath and i told him straight away, that he is one, and he almost made me believe he is not and i fell again for it. 😅 but no more lol.
Exactly what i did 4 older siblings are frantic now that I'm not around to fix all their breaks and council them. I tried for 35 yrs what a waist of my sanity.😆💪🎸
People think Sociopaths are just evil , but imagine if you just cannot understand how humans feel . Imagine how it is painful trying to understand what other people is feeling 😂
you talk with your " friends " but you always feel same . Only people experienced depression can understand this.
Adhd, we are intense as well. Emotional management is a learned skill. Eye contact is a given. I must remind myself to look away sometimes. I also am a mimic. I read people very well as well.
1) Reading people means different things to different reports. Trauma response, Empath, etc.
It seems like there are many crossovers.
The main thing to pay attention to, as stated here, is the feeling of balance in your relationships. When you feel there is an imbalance, try to restore it. Manipulative people will typically respond angrily when they are no longer able to take advantage of you. I'm an empathetic individual, so I only maintain relationships with people who demonstrate a level comparable to mine. Otherwise, I'll be doing more for them then they for me before I realize it!
Good point. But narcissists can also act in similar manipulative ways.
@@Lommy9999 True, but real narcissists always out themselves eventually. A true friend goes above and beyond without ever expecting anything from the other nor do they ask for anything. A narcissist always expects a return and they always betray that.
Thank you. This is the main point summed up beautifully
@@TJ-ve8sv true
You're spot on about the angry response !
A sociopath nearly destroyed my life. One of the worst times of my life. I wish I knew about these red flags sooner. They're absolutely spot on.
I always hated people who never broke eye contact. Creeped me out no matter how friendly they were. Now I know those freaks are actually sociopaths. As an introvert, the fact that I sometimes avoid eye contact helped me to not be friends with them. Haha!
Tell us what happened. I'm very curious
@@lorenzosyquia4769 it's kinda hard to talk about. This person would fake seizures and make threats of hurting himself if he didn't get his way, emotionally and financially manipulative, tried to ruin what was left of my relationships, was very controlling, gaslighted me, etc. On top of being in a really toxic relationship at the time and having a miscarriage, I tried killing myself. Luckily I survived, escaped, and my life has been a 180 since then.
@@electricsoup7481 I'm glad you survived it! You must have lived through hell. Was he jealous of your relationship? What made this person so appealing anyway?
Same. 18 years with a narcissistic.
Needed to watch this a few times might need to rewatch again some time to fully understand
Normal will be nice and can make you feel good without trying to get something out of you... unlike sociopath, psychopath or whatever eventually they'll try getting things out of you. And that's the main difference you can use to separate the good and bad people you may encounter regardless of the front they present
thank you for this video. I have a neighbor who is a siciopath and tried to lure me into a shipping container to " help" him move some item. I told him " ABSOLUTLEY NOT". He then got very angry and swore and cursed at me. Later on he kept insisting to come over to my home and kept asking if i needed help/ I knew he has ill intent and finally had to text him to never call me again or i would report him to the police. I am gratful for these videos to help reconfirm my intuition and gut feelings .
That is very scary! A shipping container you say. Well your instinct served you very well!
The fact he mad at you after you refused to help him proves youre right.
The fact he got mad at you for refusing proves it stay away from him her a restraining order asap !
This is the opening plot to silence of the lambs. Ted Bundy also lured people to helping him by pretending he had a broken arm or whatever. Some years ago, when I was a homeless, a guy we all knew at a shelter had a ryder truck and said one or two of us were welcome to sleep in the back. We noped out of that guy's life. There was a rumor that he was caught downloading some unmentionable porn on his laptop. This was like 15 years ago, I've forgotten some details.
Wow, more like sociopath murderer. Stay away from him get extra security for your home.
One fact the "experts" consistently get wrong is the lack of empathy. Sociopaths can compartmentalize who the do and don't feel empathy for. It does however take quite a bit to enter the worthy of empathy category but they can feel and apply empathy. They also consciously recognize that there are those they feel it for and those (the majority) who they don't. They also feel they're smarter than most others...and they usually are.
You are right, Blanquito. But their selections are directly based on their interests. Normal people have the feeling of empathy regardless of the response they can get from others. Sociopaths are always calculating results. Actually, their sense of empathy are always self-centered.
Anyone have some sources I can read regarding what the commenter is referring to?
Yep. For sure.
@@tamsintarshish3905 Thank you very much, I’ll check it out!
I feel empathy for A VERY select few. There the only safe ones. Everyone one else. Is extremely venerable to my trap. Usually easily set if you trigger it.
Thank you for this great video !
I’ve learnt a lot
When he mentioned the _"Why are you even so upset?"_ part, my heart sank and I was transported back 8 years when I dated it super crazy girl 😂💀💀💀
Remember that these are all "could be" signs. Just because people show certain "signs" doesn't mean they ARE a sociopath. Remember, do not do ANYTHING that you are not comfortable with, no matter who is asking. Do not give anything that you are not willing to lose. It is always ok to say "no."
Yeah exactly mate . Everyones an expert after a 5 minute lowdown. Its more Dunning Kruger tham Freddie Kruger PSML haha
Sociopath type people get extremely angry whe you have and impliment firm boundaries because it disables them....and THEN the manipulation begins! My oldest sister is showing signs mentioned in this video, firstly what I have just mentioned about boundaries and also she has no care and empathy but will verbally exclaim how she loves and cares for me and our family, but will deliberately hurt and manipulate if you let her. Her actions are void of care and empathy. My mother had two nervous break downs over the years because of the subtle manipulation we all couldnt understand. My mom found and organisation called TOUGH LOVE in Soth Africa, which helped us and me, learn how to disable the behaviour. This organisation was a God Send. When I impliment boundaries now, she will tell me she is afraid of me, (trying to turn the table - so that she will be perceived as the victim) Thank you for this video. Now I know, after reading all the comments, that I am not immagining things. All the gas lighting can make me doubt myself. I suspect the Socoipath can spot and empath from a f***en mile away.
And if people don't accept "no" , there is something wrong with them , not with you. Keep close to your boundaries indeed !
Or even “let’s talk again in a month?”
@@emilschneider9974your on the ball,keep the boundaries strong.we get bored easily.
Impressive, very nice.
Let’s see Paul Allen’s card.
it even has a watermark
The subtle off-white coloring
Great movie. Just watched it again a few weeks ago
"Oh my God, it even has a watermark."
The tasteful thickness of it...
This is well-reasoned and informative. Thanks.
I think acting empathy is when you are in the beginning of a relationship with a sociopath or let’s say a manipulative person .. but gaslighting and invalidating your feelings is when your relationship with them is at more advanced level where they guaranteed your presence and where there’s no need for acting anymore ..
I’ve been there :’) even though I can’t diagnose for sure if that person is a sociopath , the most characteristic feature to me was lying.. that left me between believing them or not (at first) because they were too intense and too much
This confirms what I’ve been feeling about a friend of mine. She’s a sociopath! She’s very manipulative, takes advantage of my kindness, but thinks I don’t see it. Everything she does is not out of kindness. It’s to gain something from the person.
Don't jump to conclusions, you can't psychologically diagnose somebody because you watched a video.
@@imcallingjapan2178 You’re right. I can’t medically diagnose anyone. But it doesn’t change the fact that she’s not a great person. It was disappointing.
@@Galactic_Empire_Ruler damn you r correct
I also have a so called friend who is the most cunning person in our class and is impulsive, narsistic，gossiper , and stares as if she can kill someone 😑and in my eyes she is harmless cuz I m tryna act close to her and find her weakness.
@@humanz222 both of you should stand some distance. The further you distance yourself the better you see the lies they spew. Stay outside the box they put themselves in. Sometime it's better being the one outside looking in.
@@gititgiitit5450 ikr I don't wanna be see her face but I can't as she is not only my classmate but also my tution mate
Yesterday she manipulated the teacher and took away my book from him(which was supposed to be given to me).
Sociopaths come on a spectrum, not everyone is creepy, most are more "normal" than you'd think from watching films. They just have problems with certain human emotions or empathy.
Thank you bc they just make it seems we all crazy
They don't "just" have problems with certain human emotions. They have persistent patterns of violating the rights of others and committing crime. These are criterion you must meet for a diagnosis. You must have caused harm or committed a crime to receive a diagnosis of aspd.
@@e_i_e_i_bro That's not true. Those cases are just the most prevalent, because the average person doesn't need a psychiatric diagnoses for day to day living. Criminals may be forced to receive a diagnoses, while many people who have ASPD will never know or be discovered to have it by others.
@@Bancheis Those cases are prevalent because you need a history of crime or harm to receive a diagnosis.
DSM5:
"There is a *pervasive pattern* of disregard for and violation of the rights of others occurring since age 15 years.
1. failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful behaviors as indicated by repeatedly performing acts that are grounds for arrest
2. deceitfulness, as indicated by repeated lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure
3. impulsivity or failure to plan ahead
4. irritability and aggressiveness, as indicated by repeated physical fights or assaults
5. reckless disregard for safety of self or others
6. consistent irresponsibility, as indicated by repeated failure to sustain consistent work behavior or honor financial obligations
7. lack of remorse, as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another.
B. The individual is at least age 18 years.
C. There is evidence of conduct disorder with onset before age 15 years.
D. The occurrence of antisocial behavior is not exclusively during the course of schizophrenia or a manic episode."
@@e_i_e_i_bro So the ones that get caught giving in to their sociopathic tendencies are the ones getting diagnosed. got it.
Lol, the sponsor of this video is the sociopath of audio books distribution! I find that perfectly fitting! I know you need to pay the bills, so I just want to point out that the irony is not lost on you viewers! Great video, thanks.
exactly!
ive never aimed to be malicious
but the way that i operate in my way of getting to know people
is to observe their needs
and then make a template to their pattern
then i make myself into the pattern that they want
it's not a trap, it's not a lie
it's just manipulation, and im totally doing it because i wanna make the other person feel nice
My former boss was definitely a sociopath. At first he seemed great and was going around asking about everyone and what the needed. What ended up happening is none of the needs or concerns were met but he remember everything and used it against people to get what he wanted.
Sounds like a Machiavellian, they actively look for information about people and then use it to manipulate them when beneficial
@@petit.ch0u. What's funny about that is he definitely knew about The Prince.
He sounds more like a narcissist.
@Sincere how lol? That guy walked in with a kitchen sink. Sociopaths typically act in deception.
@@straykittsco.950 sociopath is under the umbrella of nassisitic anti social disorder. Of course he seemed like one, I only gave you a tiny snippet of his behaviors. I didn't feel the need to mention he exhibited every behavior on this list, seemed redundant.
This is why I moved and told no one. 42 years is enough. Then I met my ex wife while healing from a hip surgery. She became abusive and I was always falling for these lies because she was all I had. I’m 2.5 years sociopath free and I am happier than I ever thought I could be.
Try dating men.
The signs were there ,you were not a victim !
I swear the hardest thing for me to quit is people!
The greatest red flag I recommend people develop a heightened awareness of is charisma. Not just a feeling of 'wow, that's a pretty cool guy', but when you're gut informs you that you've met very few people in your life so far with THAT type of impact. In my personal experience, I find sociopathy often goes hand in hand with charisma. It's why I'm extremely wary of celebrity fake Gods, all cultural architects and our sick culture in general which seems to worship anybody working in the entertainment industry (including the media); because these charismatic people are often so dark, man. What a sickness that we set up children to soak it all up.
Oh dude, I know very well when I meet a sociopath, I’ve met too many, and I do get the biggest sense of dread! Because they immediately want to prey on me, but they also feel something is off (the fact that I know what they are about to do), so they do get nervous and aggressive about it.
"If you hear a man saying 'why are you so upset' often, you may be dating a sociopath."
- All women on Earth: *noted*
Haha! Women are more about showing emotions Than men to the surface. It's not weird that men get confused about it 😂
Or they are dating a woman on the spectrum that still gets childishly overemotional about everything....especially if she is a narcissistic sociopath. Holding grudges, easily offended, screaming and yelling, overly needy. He must bend over backward to make her happy and make sure she is constantly his focus of attention.
And men can be the same.
They are exhausting and finally breaking away is peace and freedom
@@kellibodony1077 Uuu, someone just had a bad break-up XD
@@zalybrainlessgenius503 I would say it seems like a rather good break up.
Lol, I love it.
Had a friend who was a Sociopath. Watching your video confirmed what I had suspected. He was manipulative and lied constantly while remaining charming. He also lacked empathy. One day he cheated me and I called him out on his lie. His denial was so extreme, angry and over the top that I knew something was wrong with him and had to end our friendship. Live and learn.
none of that adds up to sociopath. if that were true every cheater would be a sociopath.
Idk man i think anyone would act like that if you accused then of being a sociopath
@@gianthills YES This is the exact danger of such videos. You are correct. Despite some of the accurate information it depicts, it is not productive to put it our there with a close examination about how many, many behaviors can also just be poor choices or bad behavior we all are prone to at times in are lives.
@Jammy Climba Now this is one behavior all psychopaths and sociopaths engage in; they absolutely refuse to be accountable for their part in a problem. They consider it a personal affront to think they might bear some responsibility for a relationship problem. While they do not care about or even empathize with your pain and struggle, they care way too much about their own pain and struggle. For example, they may insist you see a psychiatrist to fix yourself to fix the relationship problems. However, when the psychologists suggest that they need the counseling as well because they are part of the problem and may need to change some of their own perceptions, attitudes, and behaviors to cure and save the relationship they will refuse and be angry and offended because they aren't the one who has a weakness or illness. They don't need to be fixed. You do! And they obstinately coldly maintain that posture no matter how much it hurts their spouse. A true sociopath who is a danger to others presents with all 6 behaviors consistently.
Every boss I've had have these traits, they must make good bosses.
I've dated someone who was diagnosed sociopathic. She was often upset or angry, and I was mostly consoling her and trying to get her to warm up to people. After a bad falling out in another relationship, she decided to post revenge porn and lie about it. My worst and first ex
I always look out for the secret smirk when they think theyve got you ..
All of these signs are also signs of addiction. I know about 4 people who were diagnosed as a sociopath but really weren’t. They struggled with addiction which caused them to manipulate their way to get what they want, lie to preserve themselves(and usually become good at lying), and lack of empathy because you don’t care about anything nearly as much as you want to escape through drugs and alcohol.
On personality disorders (PD) and addiction: "The overall prevalence of PD ranges from 10% to 14.8% in the normal population and from 34.8% to 73.0% in patients treated for addictions, with a median of 56.5%"
I assure you that drugs and alcohol can have very little significance with some Sociopath or Narc staring at an intended victim from my experience.
ASPD is also highly correlated to substance abuse disorders.
@@gokurocks9 Yep, seems like It is the way people with ASPD and addict both want things. And they do not give up getting those things. Then you get a similar behaviour so it almost have the same side effects of the diseases, let alone if you already have ASPD and get addicted. Makes it really hard to decide to stop and keep being sober for other people i have to say...
I have suspected (and still do) that these traits arise from addiction and are then passed on through genes.
I lived with a sociopath. Worst era of my life. I didn't know what a sociopath was until now. Thanks for the lesson.
I had a Brother as Sociopath But We got in Fist fight in 2019 were I came in Top.
After that I started to stay away from him he is envy and jealous of me.
You'll likely meet more. Maybe you'll be better prepared?
Probably just didn’t try to understand them, making it worse on yourself 🤷♂️
@@youngjacuzzi3676 tf lol
I didn't know either .
I don't pretend to like that I have been duped
From the point of view of someone really social who genuinely loves people I can tell you first hand that generosity (time, effort and money) is the easiest way to get them to love you back. Everyone seems especially selfish today that as long as you don't come off like you're trying to hard (I once gave a gift to a boss in front of the other employees and they practically lynched me. I should've done it in private) the right favor can solidify you as a source of pleasure in their subconscious. So just imagine this superpower in the wrong hands!
I suffer from severe ADHD for my life. Others came along with it, but that's unrelated and was labelled often as a psychopath & sociopath.
Truth be told, my lack of emotional responses came from the amount of pain that I had experienced growing up. It was so painful to relive and cry about it that I had to cut myself off emotionally. Nights were I didn't sleep, I just ended up crying until I did. As a kid, I never felt like I was going to survive, and it was suffocating. Even now, as I write this all out. I am not even sad.
For the eye contact I maintained. My face used to be aggressively grabbed and directed to look at the person. My face was just held like that if I ever strayed.
I was always drawn to the worst kind of people. That's my own fault.
At the end of the day, people want to survive.
I am not telling this because I want people to feel sorry for me. I want people to understand that people aren't born to be evil. Everyone is good and evil, but at the same time, they aren't. Everyone is capable of anything and everything, regardless of what you may label them as or why.
Nobody is really out to get you, but at the same time, people will do anything to drag you down as they are being dragged down themselves. This will never justify any actions, but I feel like people should learn to step back and self-reflect.
I read most of the comments, but everyone has their own thoughts, experiences, and ways to survive.
I have a saying, a word of advice.
Learn to take a step back and listen to other people. You don't need to exchange words, or you do. Anything is loud enough to be heard. You just need to know who and why you are going to be heard. Another thing, no matter what you want or why you want it, it will ultimately come to an end, whether you fall into sleep or meet the end of your life. Don't gain. Just experience.
For those who suffered greatly, it's okay to walk away when you are hurt. It's okay to disappear to find yourself. It's okay that you want to live your life without pain. Nobody is no judge nor jury. People shouldn't act like it, but they do. I won't apologize for it, I never really personally know anybody, but just know that things do get better. Don't do things that you know won't end well. No matter what it going on in your life. People suffer all the time, from anything and everything. But you know what does matter about it? It is how you handle your own trauma, insecurities, and losses. How do you project it on other people. Why you MUST project it on other people.
I've met two sociopaths that made me suffer a lot and there is a common trace about them. They were relatively alone, without close friends or true liasons. In both cases, I met only their close relatives (who were there for family reasons) and one or two sporadic friends with whom I had only few and superficial contact. In both cases, I kept asking myself (subconsciously though) how such a sweet and smart person was somehow isolated and had to count on me so often. My prompt response was that they were highly sensitive and selective about their relationships. That excuse was very generous with my ego. And they certainly knew how to feed my ego with flattery and other taylor made tricks. Both of them appeared in my life out of nothing (casual encounters without any common friend or contact). Both of them were very VERY easy to get along with in the first months of interaction. (I'm not a native English speaker, so sorry for eventual mistakes)
Interesting things you've noticed and picked up on. And ay don't worry about it, your English was perfectly fine. Ya did good.
@@joshualeahy2162 : Sociopaths are not clearly crazy or something alike. What they really do is making YOU feel crazy or something alike. They have intentions and methods that you would never guess while you "eat on their hands", as we say in Brazil.
Excellent insights and observations
You my friend said it all correct..!
So I've also encountered sociopaths in my life but the one person who hurt me to bone and completely left me in shock was supposedly my one of the bestie (we were a trio and now its just me and my other bestie)..... I also met her randomly.... she incouraged me to share the hostel room with her.... I was like how helping and good natured she is... she called me her little sister....! We lived for 2yrs as roommates
Surprisingly she never had any friends.. she said she hated her school she didn't had any friends in school also ... the only people she would talk to were her mom and her younger sister... she said that her cousins etc also didn't like her... I felt soo bad for her .... now I notice that due to all these things that she has told me I was extra empathetic towards her....
But OH MY GOD i pray to god to please protect people from such persons...
I was lucky enough that me and my other bestie were there for each other ... and although we were hesitant about it one day we talked about it and everything began unfolding.... she was telling something to my bestie and something else to myself and also manipulating us to not tell the other person because she is too shy etc....
She did some really really bad things to us ....but exclusively to me..... still it haunts me that people can stoop thus low .... she have absolutely no empathy...
Me and my bestie tried to talk it out with her that why she did it etc ...
She had no answers at all ......
I said whatever it is I'll try correct it please I don't want this all to end up like this.... ( I was completely invested in her ...I genuinely cared for her especially she had called me her little sister 💔)
But you now what she said??
" there is nothing, I never liked you and I don't care about you...."
that moment my eyes immediately filled with tears...it felt like someone has stabbed me in the back, that's when I realized what it means ....
I remember crying for weeks.... more for how shocking it was I never saw something like this would happen to me ....I remember it as a lesson for life...
I'm over it now but I can never forget about it although I've tried but that little pain is still there.... I hope it will heal with time....
I just wish protection for all innocent good souls out there....❤🙏🏻
@@Neha-hr9fh : we never escape harmless from these traumas and we never get all responses we need to "close the case". Knowing how to deal with misteries of life is the key to learn with these experiences and to keep the faith in human nature.
That too good to be true is the gut feeling. Even people who don’t understand a lot about behaviour I find can still pick up on things subconsciously
Facts
Your gut feeling will still be initially repelled by a lot of these types of people. You’ll be a little weirded out by them or notice something slightly off about them on first impression. It isn’t until they begin charming you with their words that you start to relax around them. You’ll then trust them even though your initial gut reaction was that this person is a little creepy.
That’s been my experience, anyway!
@L7 evil twin, we've all read Romans 9 and seen Star Wars by now
@@MAYBEE90 that reminds me exactly of season 2 of You. Delilah gets a creepy vibe from Joe and she's 100% correct but then she ends up trusting him anyway
Met one ...his eyes turned black ...he was so angry at me...I saw him physically change his face...
Never allow anyone to confused kindness with weakness
A word of caution: it’s easy for normal people to misunderstand those on the autistic spectrum as having sociopathic traits when really the cause and meaning is quite different. Autistic people do feel empathy and remorse, unlike sociopaths. Though to pass for normal those at the high function end of the autistic spectrum have to learn to act like normal people because they lack understanding of social feedback cues that are natural for most people. Staring, for example. You have to teach an autistic person not to stare.
I'm autistic and had to learn not to stare. I never stared because I was confident or anything. On the contrary I used to sometimes stare or do other things that would be seen as strange because I was socially anxious and was not able to focus on what my face and body were doing or how I looked to other people.
i feel like the main difference is those of us on the autism spectrum have zero desire to manipulate people. More often than not I'm trying to pass as normal and then get away from situations as soon as possible. It almost seems like sociopaths relish the opportunities to be in social situations and play "the game". Probably a good way to differentiate would be to see how interested someone is in being there.
Right on, thank you.
teach it like that: when a cat stares at you... it's about to pounce. aggression. don't stare at people, they'll think you're gonna attack them.
@@crackwitz it’s not that simple. The alternative extreme of avoiding eye contact is nearly as problematic when you’re trying to fit in. It takes practice to get the right amount of staring to convey your internal state properly.
My foolproof plan is to treat everybody with suspicion, and to say "no" when someone outside of my inner circle needs a favor. It's OK to come off as cold or rude. It will save your life.
I concure
Good strategy
good way to protect yourself
I’m extremely cold if you’re outside my circle of trust. And once you leave that circle, you’re iced too.
Went to a wedding and stranger offered me a sweet pudding- I didn't accept it- because my health is important to me-
I was diagnosed as a psychopath but I'm 42 and basically have good control over my actions but my mind is never totally mine to control I'm all over the place upstairs, you can physically see me trying to control it and at times you will notice a massive shift in my state of mind, constantly. Yet I remain calm on the outside
I went through it. Thought dude was my best friend. Loved him. He didnt even show any signs until we became roommates. He flipped overnight. Started trying to make me think i was crazy and almost create like a submissive relationship. Little did he know i wasn't the one. Moved out in a week
Interesting, i knew a guy in school who was a diagnosed sociopath but also had aspergers (i also have aspergers) he gave the best advice and actually was aware of his lack of empathy and he would actually tell people who knew him to be aware of his lack of empathy. Infact i still follow some of his advice in dealing with things like rejection, guilt, grief and anger. One of his lines i still use is "there is a thin line between a thick line and no line at all" for him this was to remind himself that some of the things he does will cross the line. But for me i apply it to almost anything. He was one of the only sociopaths ive met who actually used his manipulation skills to help people so they didnt go through what he did. He used to say that his awareness of his issues gave him the ability to understand why people felt the way they do even if he doesn't essentially get the feelings himself
He probably did more things to people than he told you.
@@davecullins1606 How about you quit the witch-hunting, it only makes you look bad.
Sounds like a completely made up story.
@@cdogthehedgehog6923 literally how
@@gaminikokawalage7124 Just sounds like a self insert passage from a fan fiction.
In my experience, Sociopaths frequently only show the anger to people they have power over or behind closed doors, but not out in the open.
I have a brother-in-law who most people outside the family think that he is an absolutely wonderful man so kind and generous to them but let him get home with his family and it's a totally different story he is mean to them and his children do not like him at all and my sister won't leave him because she's afraid of him.
@@brendasimmons9045 yes! I can well believe this. I say this as someone who while not a sociopath has some tendencies in that direction and more so in the past, but who also has a lot of unstable empathy which I am struggling to improve. I have a lot of regrets over past behavior due to this, and It's something that runs in my family. It's important to realize that even full on sociopaths and narcissists have a lot of trouble with empathy, and may have little, but that doesn't mean they don't have any. They are on the extreme end of a spectrum, which has no clear sharp line. It's easy to label someone as something but the reality is more complex. Many people will have some strong sociopathic tendencies without being full sociopaths, often still having strong but variable empathy but frequently struggling plenty to show it or act accordingly.
@@brendasimmons9045 I noticed this in the workplace more than anywhere else. I am in high level management and everywhere I work there is one or two people causing problems for the entire company by scheming to gain power and influence, subtlety doing things to make other management look bad, and acting like the nicest boy next door who is the number one company team player in front of exec management, and then in private meetings yells and bullies and has their employees all scared to get fired. The crazy thing is that most people don’t notice and actually believe the nice guy routine and believe the act instead of the results of the actions of these people. I’ve seen it at every company I’ve worked for. I can imagine it’s the same in government.
Bingo !!!!
@@dezertson2011
You’ve got it right 👌
Is sad but true
I can relate to all these points in some way, especially the whole "sociopaths are made from trauma"
The major difference that makes me feel better however os i dont lack empathy or guilt. Im not very good at sharing or acting on these emotions but they are there.
I have an urge to prey on weaknesses,
i dont like to break eye contact(with potential threats, as that would make them think i am vulnerable).
I can work my way through a group of people fairly easily.
My temper is(was, im 30 now and very rarely will i show my temper, growing up thing i guess)
Videos like this make me question myself but ots always the emotions that bring me back.
I feel bad for manipulating people, so i resist the urge but it is there.
My CoWorker is either a sociopath or a psychopath...he does this stare at me alll the timeeee when I realllllly piss him off. It's when he is trying to gaslight, put someone down wrongfully...and I interject and stick up for the person, or recall a situation truthfully....Oh man the daggers...lol I can feel him like staring daggers into me...
Finally, the last time he did it... I glared RIGHT back at him...and he STORMED off and left work early. LOL.
Their failure to understand the negative effect or harm they do by manipulating is chilling. I once dated a sociopath whose response to me discovering they were lying to me about things that were extremely important to me was, "Oh, you figured that out. Oh, well. Want to go get dinner?" At the time, I thought that response was pure evil. It was what brought the relationship to an end.
Years later I finally understood that they had no concept that I would feel hurt/betrayed/devastated by their lies. In their twisted way, they actually liked me, which is both why they lied (because they thought the lies would make me happy) and why they offered dinner when I discovered their lies. In their mind, the offer for dinner was an apology or compensation as opposed to cruel insensitivity about how it made me feel. As if they were settling up after losing a bet: "you won, I owe you dinner."
Learn grammar.
The grammar Cats Pajamas used was fine. Why would you post something like that?
@Cats Pajamas… Indeed sociopaths use good deeds as “get out of jail cards.” The defenders (apologists is a more accurate term) of fired basketball coach Bobby Knight immediately bring up his donating money to the Indiana University library to distract from his misbehavior on his job. A donation to a library is a fine gesture, but its reward is not to be excused from accountability for the donator’s other actions.
@@brianarbenz1329 Oh, there were certainly some errors. Especially run-on sentences. But it's definitely an odd criticism in a social media space, where everything people post is generally a first-draft "stream-of-consciousness". Grammar is the last thing on our minds. Nobody expects to be publishing a book, here.
@@claudiajuarez5429 Sorry about that, but I attended the same school where you learned manners. 😋
I can understand why some ppl after traumatic experiences and a subsequent lack of empathy from others after the experience can make you numb to other ppl’s suffering as well.
i feel like "no ones ever felt bad for me why would i feel bad for them"
Once you feel enough emotional pain your brain does anything to make it stop even numbing your mind to it all
Yeah PTSD, especially Complex PTSD is mistaken for sociopathy.
Yeah, can confirm as someone with CPTSD, especially being raised by two narcissists. I'm 30 and only recently got to the point of being able to effectively empathize with those around me and use that empathy effectively to build them up. And it wasn't even because I didn't want to when I was younger; I was too numb to be bitter or stingy necessarily. I even TRIED all the time to be nice, to help others, to protect them. Though it was probably more an extension of my self-preservation, to make sure people wouldn't hurt me, than true care for them. Or perhaps a mix of the two?
Rather, I had never been taught things like kindness (only manners and obedience), which is something you learn by receiving it when you're little. I was barely even aware of it as a concept, not accurately anyway, let alone what it looked like or how to put it into my actions. I was fumbling in the dark without knowing what light even is. So being "kind" never really worked how I wanted it to, and I was too awkward to be charming, so I ended up with even less socialization and affection than I needed, plus more abuse.
It's taken me a very, very long time to first just drag myself out of that isolated, lonely pit and then to teach myself how to be a person and function in such a blindingly bright, alien-to-me world. While also cutting out all the awful ideas and tendencies my parents tried to cultivate in me. This channel has honestly helped such a tremendous amount in pointing out things that most find obvious, and how to do better. I am seriously grateful.
@@KooblyK I can only understand empathy when someone gives me direct words of condolences, then I can reciprocate back. If I don't know how someone's pain or struggle feels, I can't feel real empathy necessarily but realize that the person is distressed and needs condoling, then again, this could be normal, I've never analyzed this in depth.
Suddenly everyone is an expert on psychopathy.
My bs meter goes off when I run into people like that...and I call them out...
That really gets them mad......
And then I get away ...
As fast as I can....
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Christian Bale said in an interview that he based his character on Tom Cruise...
Yup. And once you see it, you can't unsee it. It's all about the combo of effusive charisma and that dead eyed stare.
When Risky Business director Paul Brickman was introduced to Tom Cruise during casting and shook his hand, he related recoiling inwardly with the thought “This guy is a sociopath.” As we know, TC got the role, but it likely was not a comfortable shoot for his director.
I think Christian Bale could have just been himself to be the character
Wow, makes sense, thx.
Yeah you find these trends in folk in cults .toms in a cult .
I don’t think i’m a sociopath but looking away during conversation makes me lose focus of what they’re saying, so a lot of times I’ll be unwaveringly staring into people’s souls lol
Keeping eye- contact is normally fine and builds a connection with the other person, it's the absent blinking coupled with the staring that are subconsciously perceived as predatory behaviour, because it is. Think about it, if you're aiming for a prey, you don't ever get your eyes off it until you get it.
not enough sleep or exercise?
Sounds more like ADD or ADHD
My mother was a soziopath. I fought against her when I was 15 and I won. Since then Iam alone and in peace for the first time. I won because I was smarter then her and I had no fear of death. Thats important to survive those. You also need a good sence of feelings of the people around you. Bless all the strong survivers ❤
I took many tests on interned (before you yell at me that internet tests are not true..i know.) and it was highly possible that i'm a sociopath. Also my psychologist said that i have some sociopath patterns. And lately i have been noticing it too. But mostly the bad things. Like when a person clsoe to me says she or he has something i'm interested in getting for myself i suddenly forget how close they are to me and i'm being awfully friendly just to make them believe i'm still their friend but in fact i just want to get closer to the goal.. I end up hurting the people sometimes but in most cases i just don't care. When something bad happens to me of course i cry or feel angry. Anger is probably the strongest emotion i feel. It's just so easy to get mad and hard to calm down. But when someone else starts crying i just see how other people are calming them down and they sometimes cry with them. I copy their sentences to calm them down but i never cry with them. I feel awkward being around people that cry.. I dunno i'm not sure. I want to have it proved by professional and not diagnose myself with just symptoms. But it's hard to deal with stuff you think you have like some disorter but you don't have it diagnosed so you don't actually know what it is.