My late wife clung to this song after our son died, losing your child before you is devastating it killed her. I lost my beloved ten months later. Her heart was truly broken. I miss her everyday five years later
When i first heard it I thought it was between a man and woman. Love. But after his loss I knew he felt he didn't deserve seeing his son again. He wants to see him. So heartfelt.
He "put it away" for more than a decade. He said he wasn't feeling it the same way. It was because he had 3 little girls to fill his days and demand his attention. Recently, now that the daughters are in their teens and nearing their twenties, Eric has reintroduced Tears in Heaven in a more upbeat tone. I like it, but the original laced with true emotion will always grab me.
People change in the passage of time. One person is very different in their 50s compared to their 30's. The pain of losing someone fades over time, but never fully goes away. I'm glad he was able to find happiness in his other children, and that kept him going after the loss of his son.
He wrote the song for himself. To help himself deal with the loss. A few years later, he announced that he would not perform the song anymore because it was written for a purpose and it had served that purpose.
Elton John said the same thing about Candle in the Wind. While he continues to perform the Marilyn Monroe version he said he would never again perform the Princess Diana version for that very reason.
When your spouse dies youâre a widow or a widower. When your parents die, youâre an orphan. But there is NO word to describe what youâre called when youâre child dies... ponder on this
I saw Clapton when I lived in Santa Monica... George Harrison and he sang it together, we were all emotional and in awe. Both the men were also obviously moved and in tears. I'll never forget this concert since Harrison wasn't the only 'Guest' that came out and stayed on stage to play and sing. It was like an all night jam! I still feel amazingly Blessed. Take Care and Be Well...
Conor accidentally fell to his death from the 53rd-floor residence through a window that had been inadvertently left open following janitorial work in the apartment. Clapton was staying in a hotel nearby and was preparing to pick up Conor for a planned father-son lunch and visit to the Central Park Zoo
Now there's a day you would do anything to have a do over...Tremendously,profoundly heartwrenching...A parent would give their life in exchange for their child.đđMy sincere condolences to every parent that has lost a child.
The really sad part is that he barely knew his son because of his touring and is expressing regret for it, hence "would you know my name?"- Eric is unsure his son would even know who he is.
I lost my son in October 2018. There is no grief or loss worse than losing a child no matter how old they are. It has crushed me and as Kaie Peters said there is no getting over it.
I lost my daughter on March 18, 2018. Thank you for your prayers. My bay girl was 32, but she will always my baby. The pain cannot be it into words. The only way to even start to describe it is I feel hollowed out. When Becca died, I lost the best part of me - she was my heart. I have to e strong for my grandchildren.... but some days it is just so hard.
Your empathy for the pain that Eric Clapton must have felt while creating, and preforming this song, helped me appreciate the song even more after all these years since it first was released. Your a good man with a big heart Jamal.
I wanted to comment this but you worded it better then i ever could. Thanks for letting him know hes sutch a pure and real man. Most of these reactors dont really break it down like he does.
Lost my son 4 months to a heroin overdose. He was an addict, which in reality is a disease. He was 34 and had 3 kids, 2 of which live with my wife and I. He had finished 7 months jail time, got released, and then started right back to it with two weeks. We cry over his death still. Three lives lived on thanks to organs he donated.
My son, my only child, was killed by a drunk driver 6 years ago. He was one of the best friends I've ever had. This song breaks my heart and gives me hope all at the same time. Thank you for your heartfelt reaction. You are such a good person. God bless.
I don't have children yet, so I was surprised that simply reading your comment made me tear up. I NEVER cry. I hope that by sharing his story and talking about the lovely young man he was you can find some small modicum of (I'm struggling with the word here. Neither "happiness" nor "peace" seems fitting. Perhaps "comfort"?) knowing that through you, others will know about him and his memory will remain alive. I'm rambling again, darn it. God bless. -Becca
Part of the tragedy of Ericâs son dying is that happened just as it seemed Eric had moved past problems with drugs and alcohol. Miraculously, he stayed on track.
His son, Conner, was 4, when he died. He fell from the 53rd floor of a New York apartment building. His mother was getting ready to take a shower and the nanny was watching him. In one of the rooms, a maintenance guy was in there, cleaning a window, or perhaps replacing it...I can't remember. Anyway, Conner came running in and ran straight to the window, to possibly look out, like they say he always did...not knowing there was no window there and fell. He actually landed on the roof of an adjacent building. So very tragic....
I also herd that Eric wasn't going to release the song but Connors' mother herd it and told him he needs to release it that the world deserves to hear it
Notice how Jamel refers to Clapton as âBrotherâ. Iâve heard Jamel say this before about other people. Hatâs off to you, Brother Jamel. I feel the exact same way about all the Brothers and Sisters, that I share the planet with.....đâïžđđ»
I am a HUGE Clapton fan, and just my opinion, but I think Go Rest High On That Mountain by Vince Gill is the most emotionally charged song for me, and I don't even dig on Country Music that much. He played it at George Jones's memorial concert and could barely compose himself. The crowd was weeping!! It's for his brother... Sorry, I can't... Damn it!!!! That's why I love music!!!
Listen to Clapton's less well known River of Tears. It is incredibly sad and you can feel the emotion in it. I lost my dad at an early age and Tears in Heaven came out right after he passed away.
I lost my brother, my aunt and two cousins in a 4 day span this last summer, and it was very hard to grasp why. but songs like this can get you thru the tears
This song hits me like a sledgehammer every time a hear it. I can never keep from crying. I couldn't believe Eric Clampton could perform this song. Side note: Eric had not been in his son's life for a very long time. He was an addict & didn't want fo deal with being a father. However, he cleaned up his act and reached out to his ex and she was happy to have him finally get to know Conner. They had just started to get to know & love each other. I'm glad he did and am so happy he managed to stay sober through out that horrible tragedy. This song makes me cry every single time because I believe Eric Clampton poured his guilt, grief & love into it.
Just an interesting piece of trivia. The first person Eric performed this song for was Phil Collins. Eric wanted his input and Phil told him not to change a thing.
Also Phil was with Genesis recording the âWe canât danceâ Album, when he heard the news. They wrote a song âsince I lost youâ for Eric, of course getting his approval before they put it on the Album.
@@mandarinlearner as a child I remember tuning in with my parents and them sobbing during that song. I didn't understand why until I grew up. Not that I didn't understand what the song was about and that it was an absolutely beautiful tune, just how deep it effected those who connected with it then and still to this day. Still gives me those emotions today.
i lost a child 17 years ago and it is something you never totally get over, so a song like tears in heaven, which already hits pretty hard, hits even harder for people who have lost a child.
Just the thought of losing one of my kids is devastating. I'm so sorry for the pain both you and Duane have to feel every time you're reminded of that loss. Sending love to both of you!
My boy is 13 weeks old and the thought of your loss is incomprehensible. I am so sorry for you both, nothing could compare to the loss of a child. My thoughts are with you âĄâĄâĄâĄâĄâĄâĄâĄ
My heart breaks for you. My mother & father had to lay to rest my older sister at age 30. It broke my mother. Breaks my heart every day. Hugs from Australia.
My favorite memory of this song was as a freshman in high school. One of our teachers would play the radio while we did our reading and this song came on. Kid gets up and changes the station saying "I don't want to listen to this pussy shit." This other kid, big, biker looking dude with a full beard as a freshman and shoulders like a linebacker gets up and grabs his wrist, tells him to sit the fuck down. "I fucking love this song. Leave it." Teacher just watched this happen and went back to his own reading. First kid sat the fuck down. I was glad, cause I fucking love this song too, even though it makes me tear up a little every time I hear it.
Real men tear up during this song and the end of Armageddon . That's just a fact of life they teach in school when learning about puberty and the changes boys get when they become men
Wow, to me that's what's called old school in the natural way of life; these days they would not allow that to happen , that teacher had wisdom to let life roll on.. Nobody is a tough guy when death comes.
He no longer plays this song live because he says he "no longer needs to" and that the song had served it's purpose for him. So you're right about the guitar crying for him AND with him.
Guitarra, guitarra querida Guitar, dear guitar Eu venho chorar contigo I have come to cry with you Sinto mais suave a vida For I feel my life is softer Quando tu choras comigo When you cry with me The song "Guitarra" by Madredeus (in Portuguese)
I can say I understand. My first son was stillborn. I found out he was dead on my due date. They made me carry him 11 more days until I went into labor naturally. This was 47 yrs ago which was before ultrasound. There was nothing wrong with him. There was a blood clot in the placenta that slowly cut off his oxygen. I hope you have or will have other children. I have 2 wonderful sons and 6 grandchildren now but I'll never forget Matthew.
So well said, Andrew. Real love must give. It just has to! Love that can't find its place, and doesn't know where to go...Such profound grief! Appreciate you sharing that thought with us. â„ïž from Atlanta
My son was stillborn at about 32 weeks. That was nearly 37 years ago. I still think about what he might have been. This song helped me gain a new perspective. Now when I hear of another loss of a baby, I think of my son, waiting to welcome them into Heaven, and dancing away...
I just never have understood how Clapton made it through singing this once, much less recording it , shooting the video and singing it on tour. It's a beautiful beautiful song. I never hear it that Ii don't cry and I never had children! Strong guy!!
And when you say, "instead of me crying, I'm going to make this guitar cry for me." You've just unlocked what music means to so many, and why so many people long for a return to human-made music(and that's part of why channels like yours are so awesome).
I lost my daughter 7 weeks ago today, we lost her before she even had chance to take her first breath. She never got chance to open her eyes, to see the world, to see me and her mother, I never got chance to do any of the things a father should do. I never even got the chance to go to any doctors appointments, scans and all that because of the pandemic I was banned from going even though me and the mother live together. I never got chance to go or do anything, it was all taken away from me and from my daughter Hollie. Watching this, I know I shouldn't have as I know what Eric went through and what this song was about and I feel his pain and it just brought it all back up. Anyone who has lost grandparents, auntie's, uncles or even their own parents know the pain but I can tell you, that is painful but when you lose your own child, it is 10 times worse. It has broke me as a man and it still hasn't even really hit me yet as I've been staying as strong as I can for my fiancee and the rest of the family who are hurting too. I stay awake as long as I can, just watching things like this on CZcams because I don't want to sleep, when I do sleep a part of me hope's that I never wake up so I can be with Hollie, a part of me fears that she won't even know who I am too. The only thing that keeps a part of me fighting on is knowing that Hollie wouldn't want us to be like this, knowing that we need to carry on in her memory but it's like an angel and demon battling inside on which is right, never to wake up again or carry on for her memory. This pain will never go away and will always be with me. Hollie should be safe in my arms right now, protecting her from all the evil in this world but we're both just left with empty arms and hearts and nothing will ever fill the void that has been left behind.
I know that pain friend , I lost my baby girl and her name was Holly ,I held her in my arms and didnt want to let her go .. She was an infant ... Then I lost my boy at the age of 24 in a car accident and that crushed me ! Days went by in darkness .. The sun would shine but I didnt see it .. The flowers bloomed but I ceased to notice. I saw smiles on people's faces and wondered why .. I sunk into complete darkness... God rescued me or else I couldnt have suffered much longer ..
Dear Kaisar , She will know who you are ... When that day comes ,many littles ones will listen for their parents voice and they will recognize them .. It's a blessed hope friend ... Do not despair you will hold her in your arms at last .. Be comforted ... God knows every tear, and not one has has been lost ...and also know, that when I named my baby girl it had a significant meaning .I didnt know it at the time but later I found it a great comfort .. Her name was Holly which means Holy her middle name was Elaine, which means light .. Together its Holy Light ... That may sound to some as nothing important, but to me it brought hope .. And your right their is No greater pain known to man than the loss of your own child ! Nothing !
I lost my Taylor on October 26th, 2016 to suicide. She was 15 years old. This is a pain that will never leave you and never gets better. It does in fact help to talk about it.
My son was killed by his daycare provider at 16-months old, it's been 3 years, you never lose that pain, it's so out of order, that it recks and rocks your whole world and still to this day I haven't been able to pick up the pieces... this song is amongst my playlist on the sad days, but the pain never goes away, you just kinda become uncomfortably numb đ
I'm so sorry to hear this. My son had a near fatal experience at a day care also. Love and light to you . You can do this now, you have to live for them, Momabear.
I lost my son recently & this song rips me to shreds when I hear it. I don't just tear up....I literally sob my way through it. I've lost 2 sons & it's impossible to convey how much it tears you apart inside. We're not built to cope with it. I'm not religious but the melody, singing voice & lyrics are just perfect.
Well by now Iâm sure you know that Eric Clapton wrote this for his four-year-old son who was killed falling out of the window of a high rise apartment. Just a phenomenal song that makes me cry every time I hear it.
An even sadder song is one Eric wrote himself about the last time he saw his son, and was *just* beginning to bond with him by taking him to the circus. Itâs called âWhen the Circus Left Townâ, and I highly recommend reviewing the MTV Unplugged version. Heartwrenching
Music saved him. 6 grammy's...The soundtrack for RUSH, A great movie. and true story of 2 undercover narcotics cops, and what happens to them. He went to Antiqua, got clean from a lifetime of Addiction, built a Treatment Center. That's inspiring.
So tragic. I can only imagine what he went through having to deal with it. Thank God he had an outlet through song. Tears in Heaven garnered Grammys for record and song of the year in 1993.
Very true. His history of addiction is very well known. I thought for sure he would relapse. While this song won him so much acclaim Iâm sure he would trade it all for his son to be with him now.
I remember when this happened. Little boy was only four years old. Every parentâs worst nightmare. The movie is called Rush. Itâs about undercover cops that get hooked on heroine.
His son, Conner, was 4 years old. He climbed out of a window on the 53rd floor while his mother and nanny were in the next room. I still remember the day. It was devastating! Clapton survived, and is now remarried with several lovely daughters.
About his son that died. I'd stick around, but this song makes me well up every time I hear it. It's also a song that my mom listened to a lot after her boyfriend died. Ugh...
Love your videos Jamal Please do one on Mike and the Mechanics, "In the Living Years". Heard this song thirty years ago and brought me to tears. It changed my relationship with my father and just as one verse of the song says, "I wasn't there that morning when my father passed away". Two years ago my Dad died while I was working overseas. But thanks to this song I had a good relationship with him and never left anything unsaid, no regrets. We played the song at his funeral. It's amazing the power music can have. Thanks for taking the time to share all these great songs to a new generation.
Andrew, you are obviously a very down to earth and you have a big heart. It is very difficult to loose a great friend but rather than "poor me, I lost my friend" your heart goes to his parents. Bravo. Keep in touch with them, it will help ALL of you heal.
after our daughter passed away at 20 years old her friends would call , text , drop by and attend family and memorial events for a very selfless long time . it meant the world to us. just so you know . condolences on the passing of your friend . let your grief be meaningful , but not too long lasting . peace .
I can understand somewhat of what Eric went through watching my parents go though their pain from losing my younger brother which was 45 years ago. i was 5 he was 2 and a half when he died.
How many years has it been since this song was released? How many hundreds of times have I cried listening to it? There same number... I just can't. I remember hearing the news when that happened and my heart broke for Eric Clapton and Conor's mother... What a song. (Have to go get a tissue now!) đ
This is an "official" video which totally takes away from the emotion of the song. Rush was an ok movie but detracts from the true meaning and has nothing to do with the song.
I'm sorry for your loss of your family members. Your empathy came through in this reaction. I feel like we were connected as humans for 13 minutes. Thank you, for the way you handled this.
My kids lost their daddy 3years ago, he was gunned down and when I hear this song I think about his mother and our children. Even though he chose a life that involved drugs and dangerous people nobody should ever have to die that way. RIP Jimmy đ
After the death of our 20 month old son from Congenital Heart Disease, I weep uncontrollably every time I hear this gorgeous song. It's been 3 years since he passed, but coping with the grief has yet to really ease. We had this song playing at his funeral, as I helped carry his tiny white casket from the church. This song will hold a very special place in my heart for the rest of my days. To our beautiful baby boy Elijah, Mummy and Daddy will always love you. Until we meet again, Rest In Peace sweetheart.
Oh girl its 2020 and those lyrics, Sr. Claptons voice? STILL tears my soul.A cry in the dark, hits our abbys, heart, soul, all in one.One does not have to focus much if one listens instead of hearing the message: Walk on Sr. Claptons shoes because a soul cant be amputated, however the words spelled.Its 2020 and I cry as first time.
I enjoyed this song as a teenager, but listening as an adult, it's so heartbreaking. I love the lyric, "I don't belong here in heaven." Just the pain of continuing and choosing life. I hadn't understood it before. đ„ș
I always interpreted those lines as him saying he didn't deserve to be in heaven with his son. Like, he sees himself as a bad person, and is stealing a bit of time in heaven to see his son one last time. Or maybe as an acknowledgement that he needs to change his ways so he can go to heaven to be with him.
@@JPDillon I've interpreted them both ways over the years. I used to think he meant, I don't deserve to be here, because I've not pure enough. But I think it probably means that life has to go on. That he has a life, people who depend on him, and he has to live his life because the only way to join him would be suicide, in which case, he wouldn't get to Heaven anyway. I was always happy that he remarried a few years later and had many more children. But this song always brings me to tears. The pure heartache is so real.
I don't often comment on CZcams, but I had to on this one. Eric Clapton is probably my all time favourite musician, and he's written some incredible songs. But very few of them move me the way this one does - you can hear the pain in every line. I was lucky enough to see him perform this song and I've never been at a performance where an entire arena was as silent for a whole song. Listening to it these days - as a parent - genuinely brings me close to tears.
I cant imagine how terrible it feels for fathers, mothers even, to lose a son or daughter. My father always tells me, if i end up passing before him, that there will be need to be another grave beside me because he wont be able to handle it. For those of you who have lost a son, daughter, or anyone for that matter that is considered a loved one, stay strong, as you already have. Stay Blessed everyone!
What amazes me more than anything is watching Jamal get the message that this music helped define our lives. I'm a 60 year old fan and this was my time. We were so lucky to be alive during this era! Jamal you da Man brother! I love what you do
Playing this song and your reaction has generated a lot of response especially from those who have lost a child. I've never understood how he managed to sing this without collapsing. I think he felt he must honour his son and did so with this beautiful memorial. A truly moving tribute for his son, but one that touches others.
Sandra, songwriters write songs to help them come to terms with major moments in their lives. Iâve written songs that Iâve recorded but never played live, and Iâve written songs that are hard to play live because of the emotions they bring on. There have been several times Iâve been playing a song written for a loved one, and Iâve just stepped back from the mic and kept playing, composing myself and continuing when I could. It helps.
I hate that word closure. Closure is a myth, a lie people tell themselves when they have no clue how to deal with someone else's grief. There is no such thing as closure. In 14 days it will be 19 years since I lost my husband. No closure. You only learn how to live with, make friends with, the grief. The grief is always there. Some days it's just quieter than others.
@@sarahzimmerman2953 Thank you, someone gets it. And I am so sorry for your loss. People don't understand. This wasn't our choice, like a divorce. Maybe that's part of it. Having no choice. Being a wife in a husband-less marriage. You know, this should make you laugh, sort of. Someone once said to me they understood my loss because......they had just lost their dog. đ€Żđ€Żđ€Żđ€Ż I like to believe that those who have not experienced painful loss are not purposefully mean or obtuse....just uncomfortable & that make them say stupid stuff. Nineteen years later, it scares them when they realize how much I miss & love him still. I will include you in my prayers for comfort, peace, love & strength.
Pearl Finney you are correct, unless someone has experienced a similar loss, there is no understanding. I had no choice and no time to say goodbye. I work in HR. An employee called and requested bereavement time off because her hamster died. đ
@@sarahzimmerman2953 đđđđđHamster!!!đđđđ Ohmigosh! Thank you. I needed that. BTW...was she granted the leave? In today's screwy world....anything is possible! I will be laughing about this for days!
Eric Clapton really showed his heart & soul through this song about his 4 yr old son. How devastating it must have been & ofcourse both he & the mom will NEVER forget it. R.I.P. little one xx
Eric Clapton had struggled with addiction to drugs and alcohol. He had gotten control of his addictions and his life when Connor was born. Writing this music is what allowed him to deal with his grief without letting it destroy him. I have to agree with you. Eric Clapton is one strong man. More than that, he is hope for every person dealing with grief and addiction, that maintaining your sobriety it is doable even when you are being crushed by life. Left foot, right foot, we can be strong.
This song reminds me when I tragically lost my 15 year old son Ethan almost 7 years ago. The pain is almost unbearable and continues! Thanks for your reaction!
Tom, thanks for sharing something so visceral/painful. Please allow me to carry forward for you just a humble facet of that hard dark diamond in this living world - in the form of the natural worry of another parent. I have a beautiful teenage daughter. My only child. I know even if I did everything right (impossible), we live every day dancing on the event horizon between order & chaos. Like herding a whale with a twig, we have very little control over the big picture. She's pretty much the only thing in this world I did right. Yet I'm all too aware of the capricious game of ironic fate, knowing if I'm overprotective I weaken her future strength & resilience. As well as knowing it's unfair to her if I selfishly slip into living my own life vicariously through her. But there's a price. Over the years I've lost sleep to the fear of losing her to something beyond my control - or perhaps the deeper darker terror if it wasn't. It's always in the back of my mind. Ethan and you inspire me to strengthen my resolve to be the best Dad I can be. Much respect! I won't even begin to imagine how it must feel. But you two have made a difference to me here and now. Aloha, Tim
âTears in Heavenâ is one of the Claptonâs most heartbreaking songs, based on the tragic death of his Conor, who was only four when he died after accidentally falling from a 54 story apartment. The track was written during Claptonâs 6-month hiatus from music after this devastating event and has three verses and a bridge. The first verse is Clapton singing to his son about whether if he would recognise or know him if he saw him in heaven, and whether it would be the same if he was in heaven too - but he knows that he has to âbe strong and carry onâ, because he canât âstay here in heavenâ, meaning he canât spend his whole life mourning over the loss of his son or just focusing on that, he has to move on. The second verse is Clapton asking his son if he would still âhold his handâ and âhelp him standâ if he saw him heaven, maybe alluding to Clapton seeking forgiveness from his son. Again, Clapton reiterates that heâll get through night and day as he cannot âstay here in heavenâ. The bridge focuses on the concept of time, and how it can break your heart and have you begging for time to progress quicker for you to heal through the pain. He knows that âbeyond the door thereâs peace Iâm sureâ, meaning he is aware that after this painful time (âthe doorâ) heâll be fine. The song ends with Clapton repeating the first verse.
Lost my son to addiction 5 years ago, he was also my best friend at 26 years old. Grief never ends, you just learn to live with it. A big piece of my heart went with him, but this song touches me very deeply. I will see my son again....... In Heaven.
When my son was 2 years old he aspirated. He ended up in critical condition for 2 days and intensive care for 3 days. He nearly died in my arms. His heartrate was 210 bpm and his breathing was short gasps about 3 to 5 per minute... i cant get through any song or movie about kids or parents goin through something without the tears flowin.
My best friends lost their 7 years old,. He had cancer & was at St. Judes in Memphis! It was Awful!!! As a friend,. You feel So Helpless,. Thereâs absolutely nothing you can do or say to help!!! I never wanna go through that again! I always think about him on Motherâs Day, thatâs when he passed,. đ„.
We never met our son Jacob. My wife and I held his lifeless body after he was delivered. The Dr explained that his tiny hands were wrapped around my wifeâs umbilical cord and he pinched it . Though we have 3 children before Jacob, the pain ints any easier.. Life is precious. And a baby being born is a miracle . Such an emotional message from Eric . Thanks and God Bless everyone here. Wether you like the song or not.
Such a wonderful song, my first daughter was a premature baby. She lived 17 months on a ventilator. Francesca Marie De Soto. We never had her home. I prayed all during my next pregnancy to not have another premature baby. Tim was 10 lbs 6 oz, pray is powerful!
My late wife clung to this song after our son died, losing your child before you is devastating it killed her. I lost my beloved ten months later. Her heart was truly broken. I miss her everyday five years later
rip
God bless and grant you peace
I have no words, but I wanted to more than just like your comment. You are so strong
I am so sorry.
So sorry for your pain and loss.
Much love
What really impressed me was that Clapton is an addict and alcoholic, and he maintained his sobriety after Conor died. That is strength.
Was. Was an addict.
When i first heard it I thought it was between a man and woman. Love. But after his loss I knew he felt he didn't deserve seeing his son again. He wants to see him. So heartfelt.
@@leighannstumblingbear2380No. With addiction, one is always an addict. Either you use, or you abstain, but you're an addict forever.
Clapton is an addict in recovery.
He is still an addict. He has managed to get control of it, but addictions aren't really cured. Recovered addict maybe.
If Tears in Heaven doesn't hit you right in the feels, you don't have a soul or a heart. So beautiful. So sad.
No bad energy or accusations please, everyone is beautiful even though they feel different from most. Bless.
Clapton's best song ever. IMO.
Damn straight!
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I used this song for my own sons funeral, this is only the second time Iâve listened to it in 20 years.
Wow. Iâm so sorry for your loss and pain. Hugging you right now đđȘđđ
Sheri Taylor thank you. Itâs weird but the two times I have listened to it have been in the last month. Hugs back at you. Stay safe.đ»âïžđ»
May you find some peace.
Sorry for your lost I'm sending my condolences
I'm praying for you stay strong
I've always been amazed that Clapton could ever hold it together to perform this song live. Just way too personal.
He "put it away" for more than a decade. He said he wasn't feeling it the same way. It was because he had 3 little girls to fill his days and demand his attention. Recently, now that the daughters are in their teens and nearing their twenties, Eric has reintroduced Tears in Heaven in a more upbeat tone. I like it, but the original laced with true emotion will always grab me.
@@gmb858 I saw him perform it on an awards show just after the song came out, and of course the Unplugged version. The emotion was palpable.
Another good one to go along with this is Fiddler's green by the Tragically Hip. Similar story.
People change in the passage of time. One person is very different in their 50s compared to their 30's. The pain of losing someone fades over time, but never fully goes away. I'm glad he was able to find happiness in his other children, and that kept him going after the loss of his son.
I was able to see Clapton play this live when I was around 13, was a great show.
When our elders die, we lose our connection to the past. When our children die, we lose our connection to the hope of a better future.
kennashan - How beautifully put! Thank you
kennashan you put it so well
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@Mike C Can't debate that you should go away.
@PaigeAnn Forrest PaigeAnn don't waste your time on ignorance like Mike; clearly he is a headcase
Even the guitar cries in this song, it's so quietly powerful.
So true!
He wrote the song for himself. To help himself deal with the loss. A few years later, he announced that he would not perform the song anymore because it was written for a purpose and it had served that purpose.
Elton John said the same thing about Candle in the Wind. While he continues to perform the Marilyn Monroe version he said he would never again perform the Princess Diana version for that very reason.
@@PlumbPitiful Nor does sing Empty Garden.
I saw him live in September. He played it then
I saw Clapton in 2022. He played this.
When your spouse dies youâre a widow or a widower. When your parents die, youâre an orphan. But there is NO word to describe what youâre called when youâre child dies... ponder on this
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As a parent who has lost a child I can agree with this.
Devastated! My sister ( 35 yrs ago) lost an 18 month old who choked to death on an upholstery tack. He died in his fathers arms
You're a Survivor, a living memory of that child.
I don't think there are any to describe such a painful state.
My Dad was at Claptonâs first performance of Tears In Heaven. Said there was tens of thousands of people and you couldâve heard a pin drop.
That's amazing to know. It must have been excruciating for Eric, but I hope he felt the love from the crowd.
His son was a toddler an had fell out a window of a highrise building his condo.
I saw Clapton when I lived in Santa Monica... George Harrison and he sang it together, we were all emotional and in awe. Both the men were also obviously moved and in tears. I'll never forget this concert since Harrison wasn't the only 'Guest' that came out and stayed on stage to play and sing. It was like an all night jam! I still feel amazingly Blessed. Take Care and Be Well...
Your dad was absolutely right. I will never forget that moment.
I bet they all cried.
Eric got an award for the song and thanked his son for giving him the strength to write it!
Conor accidentally fell to his death from the 53rd-floor residence through a window that had been inadvertently left open following janitorial work in the apartment. Clapton was staying in a hotel nearby and was preparing to pick up Conor for a planned father-son lunch and visit to the Central Park Zoo
Now there's a day you would do anything to have a do over...Tremendously,profoundly heartwrenching...A parent would give their life in exchange for their child.đđMy sincere condolences to every parent that has lost a child.
4 years old OMG can anything be worse?
@@ericlevi5729 4 minutes old. imagine that.
A rag mag was sold a picture of the childâs body lying on a roof top and they published it. I will never understand
@@BettySturgeon Absolutely horrific!
His son was only 4 and he fell out of a 53rd-floor window, this was erics return song in almost a year of not making any music.
It was also written at the same time FOR the movie, so it has a double meaning for Eric.
Oddly enough Phil Collins, who is close friends with him, also wrote a song for Clapton's son called "Since I Lost You".
Good lord. I cant even breathe. I cant even imagine that. My heart is breaking
It's a sad situation
The really sad part is that he barely knew his son because of his touring and is expressing regret for it, hence "would you know my name?"- Eric is unsure his son would even know who he is.
Prayers to anyone who has ever lost a child
Thanks
It is truly the most heartbreaking ecperience...and there is no getting over it
I lost my son in October 2018. There is no grief or loss worse than losing a child no matter how old they are. It has crushed me and as Kaie Peters said there is no getting over it.
Thank you..It is the most unimaginable pain anyone can ever go through..My son was, is my life..
I lost my daughter on March 18, 2018. Thank you for your prayers. My bay girl was 32, but she will always my baby. The pain cannot be it into words. The only way to even start to describe it is I feel hollowed out. When Becca died, I lost the best part of me - she was my heart. I have to e strong for my grandchildren.... but some days it is just so hard.
Your empathy for the pain that Eric Clapton must have felt while creating, and preforming this song, helped me appreciate the song even more after all these years since it first was released. Your a good man with a big heart Jamal.
I wanted to comment this but you worded it better then i ever could. Thanks for letting him know hes sutch a pure and real man. Most of these reactors dont really break it down like he does.
Lost my son 4 months to a heroin overdose. He was an addict, which in reality is a disease. He was 34 and had 3 kids, 2 of which live with my wife and I. He had finished 7 months jail time, got released, and then started right back to it with two weeks. We cry over his death still. Three lives lived on thanks to organs he donated.
i'm very sorry for your loss
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You have my deepest sympathies and my prayers for wonderful relationships with your grandchildren and your wife!
Kathie says⊠I am so very sorry for your pain and grief. I will pray for you and your family.
I had a former student die of a heroin addiction. She died of a heroin overdose. Tragic. Heroin just overtakes you.
My son, my only child, was killed by a drunk driver 6 years ago. He was one of the best friends I've ever had. This song breaks my heart and gives me hope all at the same time. Thank you for your heartfelt reaction. You are such a good person. God bless.
God bless you Marie. My thoughts are with you.
Sending you peace from Woodstock NY xo
Renee Manosh How kind of you! Thank you and God bless.
Stan Michael Thank you so much! Iâm blessed that you would take the time to reach out to me!
I don't have children yet, so I was surprised that simply reading your comment made me tear up. I NEVER cry. I hope that by sharing his story and talking about the lovely young man he was you can find some small modicum of (I'm struggling with the word here. Neither "happiness" nor "peace" seems fitting. Perhaps "comfort"?) knowing that through you, others will know about him and his memory will remain alive. I'm rambling again, darn it.
God bless. -Becca
I was pregnant with my son when this song came out. When my son was born, I named him Connor, after Eric Claptonâs son.
What a lovely tribute for that child.
Such a sad song. A real loss of life. I do hope "Tears in heaven" brought Mr. Clapton and his family and friends some closure. RIP, Connor.
Omg thats so lovely đ
@@natalieking8712 heâs 26 now and his wife is expecting.â€ïž
@@pattytyndall1021 ahhhhhhhh congratulations! I wish you & your family all the love & happiness đ
My heart and prayers go out to every parent that has lost a child.
lost my grandson almost 2 years ago and it still is too fresh for me. god bless his 2 day old soul. love you levi.
Part of the tragedy of Ericâs son dying is that happened just as it seemed Eric had moved past problems with drugs and alcohol. Miraculously, he stayed on track.
That is miraculous.
Read his autobiography. It's amazing and heartbreaking.
His son, Conner, was 4, when he died. He fell from the 53rd floor of a New York apartment building. His mother was getting ready to take a shower and the nanny was watching him. In one of the rooms, a maintenance guy was in there, cleaning a window, or perhaps replacing it...I can't remember. Anyway, Conner came running in and ran straight to the window, to possibly look out, like they say he always did...not knowing there was no window there and fell. He actually landed on the roof of an adjacent building. So very tragic....
That's the way I heard it happened, too.
So heartbreaking.
I also herd that Eric wasn't going to release the song but Connors' mother herd it and told him he needs to release it that the world deserves to hear it
I damn near cry every time I hear this song..I couldn't imagine preforming it.
Mr. Clapton should see your reaction, Jamel. He would be honoured by your selfless showing of kindness, insight, respect and depth of empathy. đâ
Notice how Jamel refers to Clapton as âBrotherâ. Iâve heard Jamel say this before about other people. Hatâs off to you, Brother Jamel. I feel the exact same way about all the Brothers and Sisters, that I share the planet with.....đâïžđđ»
We are all God's children.
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I am a 63-year-old white man from East Texas and feel the exact same way. Bless you. These are the songs of my youth and beyond.
Jeffery Rightmire Iâm with you Jeff...Me too.
Jeffery Rightmire wow dude! I think you are related to my ex... his mother was a Rightmer from Tenaha/Nac area. Father was a Crawford from Nac.
This song is widely considered one of the saddest songs ever written. 5 seconds into it and I'm already crying.
I am a HUGE Clapton fan, and just my opinion, but I think Go Rest High On That Mountain by Vince Gill is the most emotionally charged song for me, and I don't even dig on Country Music that much. He played it at George Jones's memorial concert and could barely compose himself. The crowd was weeping!! It's for his brother... Sorry, I can't... Damn it!!!! That's why I love music!!!
Try Linkin Park - One More Light, or Avenged Sevenfold - So Far Away, both very sad
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Listen to Clapton's less well known River of Tears. It is incredibly sad and you can feel the emotion in it. I lost my dad at an early age and Tears in Heaven came out right after he passed away.
Craig Morgan's "The Father, My Son, and The Holy Ghost" performed at the Grand Ole Opry is one to watch too. It is extremely emotional and powerful.
I lost my brother, my aunt and two cousins in a 4 day span this last summer, and it was very hard to grasp why. but songs like this can get you thru the tears
This song hits me like a sledgehammer every time a hear it. I can never keep from crying. I couldn't believe Eric Clampton could perform this song. Side note: Eric had not been in his son's life for a very long time. He was an addict & didn't want fo deal with being a father. However, he cleaned up his act and reached out to his ex and she was happy to have him finally get to know Conner. They had just started to get to know & love each other. I'm glad he did and am so happy he managed to stay sober through out that horrible tragedy. This song makes me cry every single time because I believe Eric Clampton poured his guilt, grief & love into it.
Just an interesting piece of trivia. The first person Eric performed this song for was Phil Collins. Eric wanted his input and Phil told him not to change a thing.
Also Phil was with Genesis recording the âWe canât danceâ Album, when he heard the news. They wrote a song âsince I lost youâ for Eric, of course getting his approval before they put it on the Album.
The MTV Unplugged performance of this is absolutely beautiful and heartbreaking. How Eric managed to perform this live without crying is beyond me.
I remember seeing the original broadcast and sobbing watching it. I donât know how he got through it
@@mandarinlearner as a child I remember tuning in with my parents and them sobbing during that song. I didn't understand why until I grew up. Not that I didn't understand what the song was about and that it was an absolutely beautiful tune, just how deep it effected those who connected with it then and still to this day. Still gives me those emotions today.
His unplugged is wonderful. One of the best. â€ïž
I definitely prefer that version sonically as well. Listening to this version for the first time in awhile, it sounds a touch over produced.
Yes. It is heartbreaking
I lost my wife 2 years ago at the age of 34, this kills me everytime hearing this, itâs a beautiful song but get you in the heart stringsđ
This is such a heartbreaking song, but beautiful in its message. I think we need a group distanced hug â€ïž
This song makes me cry like a baby every time!
This song makes me cry.
On a side note, Jamal.. you seem like a really nice guy đ.
Couldn't even imagine..... lost someone I was very close to but not a son but may have well been. Cried with you my brother
Me too. Anyone who cannot feel grief over his loss or anyone's loss doesn't have a heart.
A toast tonight to Jamel ... cooler than the other side of the pillow. CHEERS !
He's sincere
I lost a child 40 years ago, and I still cry every time I think about her death, like today.
I'm so sorry for your loss. May God bless you... You will be in my prayers.
God bless you!
i lost a child 17 years ago and it is something you never totally get over, so a song like tears in heaven, which already hits pretty hard, hits even harder for people who have lost a child.
Just the thought of losing one of my kids is devastating. I'm so sorry for the pain both you and Duane have to feel every time you're reminded of that loss. Sending love to both of you!
I lost my only son 12 years ago you go on but your not the same. I hurt so bad still. I love you James.
I just want to say thank you Jamal for listening to all the older good music.
Yes, when music made u feel...âĄ
His son was four years old and the accident is probably one of the most tragic Iâve ever read
"The guitar is crying for him" is the revelation. A devastating loss that any parent fears, and can absolutely empathize with.
That comment was profound
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my baby girl should have been 37 this august. oh how I miss my ashley rachel.
My baby girl would have been 13 now.... Rachel Ruth. The empty spot my heart is always there. I always miss her.
Condolences to both of you
My boy is 13 weeks old and the thought of your loss is incomprehensible. I am so sorry for you both, nothing could compare to the loss of a child. My thoughts are with you âĄâĄâĄâĄâĄâĄâĄâĄ
Sorry for your loss
My heart breaks for you.
My mother & father had to lay to rest my older sister at age 30.
It broke my mother.
Breaks my heart every day.
Hugs from Australia.
Such a beautiful song. I'm bawling right now of course.
You are correct, and you said it beautifully, "the guitar was cryinh"
My favorite memory of this song was as a freshman in high school. One of our teachers would play the radio while we did our reading and this song came on. Kid gets up and changes the station saying "I don't want to listen to this pussy shit." This other kid, big, biker looking dude with a full beard as a freshman and shoulders like a linebacker gets up and grabs his wrist, tells him to sit the fuck down. "I fucking love this song. Leave it." Teacher just watched this happen and went back to his own reading. First kid sat the fuck down. I was glad, cause I fucking love this song too, even though it makes me tear up a little every time I hear it.
That rules
Real men tear up during this song and the end of Armageddon . That's just a fact of life they teach in school when learning about puberty and the changes boys get when they become men
Wow, to me that's what's called old school in the natural way of life; these days they would not allow that to happen , that teacher had wisdom to let life roll on.. Nobody is a tough guy when death comes.
He no longer plays this song live because he says he "no longer needs to" and that the song had served it's purpose for him. So you're right about the guitar crying for him AND with him.
he also no longer does "My Father's Eyes" either
@@Dremag_Gaming why?
Gamer Dan huh didnât know that. I thought he was still playing that relatively recently
Guitarra, guitarra querida
Guitar, dear guitar
Eu venho chorar contigo
I have come to cry with you
Sinto mais suave a vida
For I feel my life is softer
Quando tu choras comigo
When you cry with me
The song "Guitarra" by Madredeus (in Portuguese)
@@jgmiller804 It's recently that he stopped actually!
This song when I first heard it and to this day makes me cry. In my heart I believe Eric will see Connor in heaven or whatever our afterlife is.,
It's heaven and nothing else!
What an honest and comforting reaction,...you are such a lovely man.
I just violated CDC guidelines and rubbed my eyes...a couple of times...
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This song makes me just weep. I think about his loss. I think about people Iâve lost. Damn Eric. Perfect.
The shame! The horror! Lol.
I did before 1st line ended
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This song is one of many things that helped me through losing my stillborn daughter at 37 weeks. Grief is simply love that has lost it's place to go.
I can say I understand. My first son was stillborn. I found out he was dead on my due date. They made me carry him 11 more days until I went into labor naturally. This was 47 yrs ago which was before ultrasound. There was nothing wrong with him. There was a blood clot in the placenta that slowly cut off his oxygen. I hope you have or will have other children. I have 2 wonderful sons and 6 grandchildren now but I'll never forget Matthew.
im so sorry. what a loss. how hard for you. your heart must have been so broken.
So well said, Andrew. Real love must give. It just has to! Love that can't find its place, and doesn't know where to go...Such profound grief! Appreciate you sharing that thought with us. â„ïž from Atlanta
I really love that quote, "Grief is simply love that has lost its place to go".
I will need to remember that, thx!
My son was stillborn at about 32 weeks. That was nearly 37 years ago. I still think about what he might have been. This song helped me gain a new perspective. Now when I hear of another loss of a baby, I think of my son, waiting to welcome them into Heaven, and dancing away...
I cry every time I hear this song. His son was just a little boy. If this song doesn't touch your heart there's something wrong
I just never have understood how Clapton made it through singing this once, much less recording it , shooting the video and singing it on tour. It's a beautiful beautiful song. I never hear it that Ii don't cry and I never had children! Strong guy!!
And when you say, "instead of me crying, I'm going to make this guitar cry for me." You've just unlocked what music means to so many, and why so many people long for a return to human-made music(and that's part of why channels like yours are so awesome).
YES!â€đââïž
This is exactly what good music does
I lost my daughter 7 weeks ago today, we lost her before she even had chance to take her first breath. She never got chance to open her eyes, to see the world, to see me and her mother, I never got chance to do any of the things a father should do. I never even got the chance to go to any doctors appointments, scans and all that because of the pandemic I was banned from going even though me and the mother live together. I never got chance to go or do anything, it was all taken away from me and from my daughter Hollie. Watching this, I know I shouldn't have as I know what Eric went through and what this song was about and I feel his pain and it just brought it all back up. Anyone who has lost grandparents, auntie's, uncles or even their own parents know the pain but I can tell you, that is painful but when you lose your own child, it is 10 times worse. It has broke me as a man and it still hasn't even really hit me yet as I've been staying as strong as I can for my fiancee and the rest of the family who are hurting too. I stay awake as long as I can, just watching things like this on CZcams because I don't want to sleep, when I do sleep a part of me hope's that I never wake up so I can be with Hollie, a part of me fears that she won't even know who I am too.
The only thing that keeps a part of me fighting on is knowing that Hollie wouldn't want us to be like this, knowing that we need to carry on in her memory but it's like an angel and demon battling inside on which is right, never to wake up again or carry on for her memory. This pain will never go away and will always be with me. Hollie should be safe in my arms right now, protecting her from all the evil in this world but we're both just left with empty arms and hearts and nothing will ever fill the void that has been left behind.
So sorry my friend. Keep fighting and persevere.
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I know that pain friend , I lost my baby girl and her name was Holly ,I held her in my arms and didnt want to let her go .. She was an infant ...
Then I lost my boy at the age of 24 in a car accident and that crushed me !
Days went by in darkness .. The sun would shine but I didnt see it .. The flowers bloomed but I ceased to notice.
I saw smiles on people's faces and wondered why .. I sunk into complete darkness... God rescued me or else I couldnt have suffered much longer ..
Dear Kaisar ,
She will know who you are ...
When that day comes ,many littles ones will listen for their parents voice and they will recognize them ..
It's a blessed hope friend ... Do not despair you will hold her in your arms at last .. Be comforted ... God knows every tear, and not one has has been lost ...and also know, that when I named my baby girl it had a significant meaning .I didnt know it at the time but later I found it a great comfort .. Her name was Holly which means Holy her middle name was Elaine, which means light .. Together its Holy Light ... That may sound to some as nothing important, but to me it brought hope .. And your right their is No greater pain known to man than the loss of your own child ! Nothing !
I'm so very sorry. I will keep you in my prayers and in my heart.
Jamel, you're a genuine dude. You're the type of guy who you want to have as a best friend or brother. Keep up the great reactions!
I lost my Taylor on October 26th, 2016 to suicide. She was 15 years old. This is a pain that will never leave you and never gets better. It does in fact help to talk about it.
My dear my heart goes with yours, just fill your life with the love you have for your daugter. God will fill your soul with purpose and his mercy.
I think about my daughter every time I hear this song . I canât wait to see her again . She wouldâve been 24 this year .
(Hugs) I can't even imagine.
David Sandoval / ???? / Why would I need to ? This doesnât make sense due to the nature of Ericâs song .
No more tears in heaven my friend! They are in a better place than us.
My son was killed by his daycare provider at 16-months old, it's been 3 years, you never lose that pain, it's so out of order, that it recks and rocks your whole world and still to this day I haven't been able to pick up the pieces... this song is amongst my playlist on the sad days, but the pain never goes away, you just kinda become uncomfortably numb đ
I'm so sorry for your loss đ„
Oh my gosh, Mamabear. Your loss is unimaginable - my sincere condolences to you and yours.
My prayers are with you. It isnât easy and I hope it get easier for you. đđ
I'm so sorry to hear this. My son had a near fatal experience at a day care also. Love and light to you . You can do this now, you have to live for them, Momabear.
Oh,my mama heart is broken for you...I pray for the day you are reunited in Heaven.
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I lost my son recently & this song rips me to shreds when I hear it. I don't just tear up....I literally sob my way through it. I've lost 2 sons & it's impossible to convey how much it tears you apart inside. We're not built to cope with it. I'm not religious but the melody, singing voice & lyrics are just perfect.
Even without knowing the story, this song tugs at the heart strings.
But when you know the facts, It rips your heart out!!!!
Eric Clapton is a legendary guitarist and his performance in this song is a testament to that.
Well by now Iâm sure you know that Eric Clapton wrote this for his four-year-old son who was killed falling out of the window of a high rise apartment. Just a phenomenal song that makes me cry every time I hear it.
I was crying before the music even started. As a father.... no words. Thanks Jamel.
An even sadder song is one Eric wrote himself about the last time he saw his son, and was *just* beginning to bond with him by taking him to the circus. Itâs called âWhen the Circus Left Townâ, and I highly recommend reviewing the MTV Unplugged version. Heartwrenching
lcozzarelli A really good tune!
I recommend the entire Clapton MTV Unplugged album!! The whole thing is awesome, top to bottom, and I think won a Grammy for best album.
This song make a MAN cry ... R.I.P little child.
Yessir, hits home. I agree.
Music saved him. 6 grammy's...The soundtrack for RUSH, A great movie. and true story of 2 undercover narcotics cops, and what happens to them. He went to Antiqua, got clean from a lifetime of Addiction, built a Treatment Center. That's inspiring.
We played this song for our 2 1/2 year old son at his funeral. He passed away 11:40 pm October 30, 1999. R.I.P baby Dougie
Sorry to hear.. Cherish the memories.. â€ïžâ€ïžđđ
You will meet again, to be sure....in Heaven!
So very sorry for your loss, I can't even imagine it.
So tragic. I can only imagine what he went through having to deal with it. Thank God he had an outlet through song. Tears in Heaven garnered Grammys for record and song of the year in 1993.
Very true. His history of addiction is very well known. I thought for sure he would relapse. While this song won him so much acclaim Iâm sure he would trade it all for his son to be with him now.
I remember when this happened. Little boy was only four years old. Every parentâs worst nightmare. The movie is called Rush. Itâs about undercover cops that get hooked on heroine.
Really good movie!
And a cameo appearance by Greg Allman as the drug dealer.
Excellent film. My heart broke for Eric when I heard about his son. Thinking about it still gets to me.
Thanks! I was Trying to figure out what that was! Thank You
Awsome movie WATCH over and over
His son, Conner, was 4 years old. He climbed out of a window on the 53rd floor while his mother and nanny were in the next room. I still remember the day. It was devastating! Clapton survived, and is now remarried with several lovely daughters.
I remember listening to this song quite a bit shortly after I lost my baby boy to Sids. He was two months old. He would be 28 this year.
About his son that died. I'd stick around, but this song makes me well up every time I hear it. It's also a song that my mom listened to a lot after her boyfriend died. Ugh...
Love your videos Jamal
Please do one on Mike and the Mechanics, "In the Living Years".
Heard this song thirty years ago and brought me to tears. It changed my relationship with my father and just as one verse of the song says, "I wasn't there that morning when my father passed away". Two years ago my Dad died while I was working overseas. But thanks to this song I had a good relationship with him and never left anything unsaid, no regrets.
We played the song at his funeral.
It's amazing the power music can have.
Thanks for taking the time to share all these great songs to a new generation.
@@matthewtracey140 This, The living years, Cats in the cradle and objects in the rear view mirror all have a poignant meaning to most.
@@cudwieser3952 yeah cats in the cradle another great one. Thanks for reminding me about that one.
@@matthewtracey140 The story behind it is just as poignant only this time it was Harry passing and his young son growing up with his father.
I should have followed you
I just lost one of my good friends today. My heart breaks for his parents. Nobody should ever have to bury their child.
Very sorry for your loss. I wish you sweet memories & comforting hugs.
Andrew, you are obviously a very down to earth and you have a big heart. It is very difficult to loose a great friend but rather than "poor me, I lost my friend" your heart goes to his parents. Bravo. Keep in touch with them, it will help ALL of you heal.
after our daughter passed away at 20 years old her friends would call , text , drop by and attend family and memorial events for a very selfless long time . it meant the world to us. just so you know . condolences on the passing of your friend . let your grief be meaningful , but not too long lasting . peace .
sorry for your loss, brother
Sorry man... thats sad.
One of the most beautiful/saddest songs ever written
The 96 people that thumbs down this video, all tortured animals when they were kids.
No, they are tortured now...
Go vegan for all those tortured animals killed for food. We donât need animal meat to live healthy lives
I love this song! So sad as to how it happened. I lost a son to an accident and it does not ever get easy.
the actual song has over 11k dislikes:(
@@parkerpoteet9448 Five Finger Death Punch will cover it soon.
It's been 12 years since my 4 month old daughter died in her crib. This song is still hard to listen to.
I feel sorry for you !
I'm so sorryâčâč never wish it on anybody.
Tears forming just reading
@@jamesrobinson754 his Song *River of tears* definitly makes me cry !! Listen 2 it if you feel like. Verry good (but sad) "Greetz" from Germany
Iâm so sorry for your loss. May you find some measure of comfort in the knowledge that you loved, and were loved in return.â„ïž
I wouldn't wish that pain on anyone on earth.
Amen
I can understand somewhat of what Eric went through watching my parents go though their pain from losing my younger brother which was 45 years ago. i was 5 he was 2 and a half when he died.
A lovely song, but very sad!
I lost my mum 8 mouths ago. And... i have nothing more to say.
@@joeldunsmore5159 Believe me, it doesn't get any easier when your child dies at 30. Sometimes I think it's harder, because of all the memories.
How many years has it been since this song was released? How many hundreds of times have I cried listening to it? There same number... I just can't. I remember hearing the news when that happened and my heart broke for Eric Clapton and Conor's mother... What a song. (Have to go get a tissue now!) đ
This is an "official" video which totally takes away from the emotion of the song. Rush was an ok movie but detracts from the true meaning and has nothing to do with the song.
I agree. Instead of watching it I close my eyes and listen.
Yeah opposites
I'm sorry for your loss of your family members. Your empathy came through in this reaction. I feel like we were connected as humans for 13 minutes. Thank you, for the way you handled this.
I have a 3 year old daughter never truly felt this song until now. Go hug your kids keep them safe.
My kids lost their daddy 3years ago, he was gunned down and when I hear this song I think about his mother and our children. Even though he chose a life that involved drugs and dangerous people nobody should ever have to die that way. RIP Jimmy đ
R.I.P
After the death of our 20 month old son from Congenital Heart Disease, I weep uncontrollably every time I hear this gorgeous song. It's been 3 years since he passed, but coping with the grief has yet to really ease. We had this song playing at his funeral, as I helped carry his tiny white casket from the church. This song will hold a very special place in my heart for the rest of my days. To our beautiful baby boy Elijah, Mummy and Daddy will always love you. Until we meet again, Rest In Peace sweetheart.
My son died when he was 7 years old. When I hear this song and Art Garfunkel's Bright Eyes, I cry shamelessly.
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Bless you..heartfelt love sent your way.
@@MC-ii3qk Thank you so much.
This song make me cry every time. Eric is amazing human being and artist.RIP Conor...
Oh girl its 2020 and those lyrics, Sr. Claptons voice? STILL tears my soul.A cry in the dark, hits our abbys, heart, soul, all in one.One does not have to focus much if one listens instead of hearing the message: Walk on Sr. Claptons shoes because a soul cant be amputated, however the words spelled.Its 2020 and I cry as first time.
My heart goes out to you who have lost your children. Iâm so sorry. This song says it all. Peace.
Duuude. I love this song, but have not heard it since the birth of my son....it is soul crushing. I truely feel for any parent that buries their child
The "would you know my name" line is soo sad because he is wondering if his son was even old enough to know who his dad is.
I enjoyed this song as a teenager, but listening as an adult, it's so heartbreaking. I love the lyric, "I don't belong here in heaven." Just the pain of continuing and choosing life. I hadn't understood it before. đ„ș
I always interpreted those lines as him saying he didn't deserve to be in heaven with his son. Like, he sees himself as a bad person, and is stealing a bit of time in heaven to see his son one last time. Or maybe as an acknowledgement that he needs to change his ways so he can go to heaven to be with him.
@@JPDillon I've interpreted them both ways over the years. I used to think he meant, I don't deserve to be here, because I've not pure enough. But I think it probably means that life has to go on. That he has a life, people who depend on him, and he has to live his life because the only way to join him would be suicide, in which case, he wouldn't get to Heaven anyway. I was always happy that he remarried a few years later and had many more children. But this song always brings me to tears. The pure heartache is so real.
I don't often comment on CZcams, but I had to on this one. Eric Clapton is probably my all time favourite musician, and he's written some incredible songs. But very few of them move me the way this one does - you can hear the pain in every line. I was lucky enough to see him perform this song and I've never been at a performance where an entire arena was as silent for a whole song. Listening to it these days - as a parent - genuinely brings me close to tears.
I cant imagine how terrible it feels for fathers, mothers even, to lose a son or daughter. My father always tells me, if i end up passing before him, that there will be need to be another grave beside me because he wont be able to handle it. For those of you who have lost a son, daughter, or anyone for that matter that is considered a loved one, stay strong, as you already have. Stay Blessed everyone!
What amazes me more than anything is watching Jamal get the message that this music helped define our lives. I'm a 60 year old fan and this was my time. We were so lucky to be alive during this era! Jamal you da Man brother! I love what you do
Playing this song and your reaction has generated a lot of response especially from those who have lost a child. I've never understood how he managed to sing this without collapsing. I think he felt he must honour his son and did so with this beautiful memorial. A truly moving tribute for his son, but one that touches others.
Sandra, songwriters write songs to help them come to terms with major moments in their lives. Iâve written songs that Iâve recorded but never played live, and Iâve written songs that are hard to play live because of the emotions they bring on. There have been several times Iâve been playing a song written for a loved one, and Iâve just stepped back from the mic and kept playing, composing myself and continuing when I could. It helps.
I hate that word closure. Closure is a myth, a lie people tell themselves when they have no clue how to deal with someone else's grief. There is no such thing as closure. In 14 days it will be 19 years since I lost my husband. No closure. You only learn how to live with, make friends with, the grief. The grief is always there. Some days it's just quieter than others.
Pearl Finney almost 28 years since my husband died in the line of duty. No such thing as closure.
@@sarahzimmerman2953 Thank you, someone gets it. And I am so sorry for your loss. People don't understand. This wasn't our choice, like a divorce. Maybe that's part of it. Having no choice. Being a wife in a husband-less marriage. You know, this should make you laugh, sort of. Someone once said to me they understood my loss because......they had just lost their dog. đ€Żđ€Żđ€Żđ€Ż
I like to believe that those who have not experienced painful loss are not purposefully mean or obtuse....just uncomfortable & that make them say stupid stuff. Nineteen years later, it scares them when they realize how much I miss & love him still.
I will include you in my prayers for comfort, peace, love & strength.
Pearl Finney you are correct, unless someone has experienced a similar loss, there is no understanding.
I had no choice and no time to say goodbye.
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BTW...was she granted the leave? In today's screwy world....anything is possible! I will be laughing about this for days!
Pearl Finney after I had muted my phone and laughed I told her no.
Eric Clapton really showed his heart & soul through this song about his 4 yr old son. How devastating it must have been & ofcourse both he & the mom will NEVER forget it. R.I.P. little one xx
Eric Clapton had struggled with addiction to drugs and alcohol. He had gotten control of his addictions and his life when Connor was born. Writing this music is what allowed him to deal with his grief without letting it destroy him. I have to agree with you. Eric Clapton is one strong man. More than that, he is hope for every person dealing with grief and addiction, that maintaining your sobriety it is doable even when you are being crushed by life. Left foot, right foot, we can be strong.
This song reminds me when I tragically lost my 15 year old son Ethan almost 7 years ago. The pain is almost unbearable and continues! Thanks for your reaction!
i am so terribly sorry for your loss. just carrying on is such a testament to your love for him
Tom Rickman I'm so sorry for your loss
Tom, thanks for sharing something so visceral/painful. Please allow me to carry forward for you just a humble facet of that hard dark diamond in this living world - in the form of the natural worry of another parent. I have a beautiful teenage daughter. My only child. I know even if I did everything right (impossible), we live every day dancing on the event horizon between order & chaos. Like herding a whale with a twig, we have very little control over the big picture. She's pretty much the only thing in this world I did right. Yet I'm all too aware of the capricious game of ironic fate, knowing if I'm overprotective I weaken her future strength & resilience. As well as knowing it's unfair to her if I selfishly slip into living my own life vicariously through her. But there's a price. Over the years I've lost sleep to the fear of losing her to something beyond my control - or perhaps the deeper darker terror if it wasn't. It's always in the back of my mind. Ethan and you inspire me to strengthen my resolve to be the best Dad I can be. Much respect! I won't even begin to imagine how it must feel. But you two have made a difference to me here and now. Aloha, Tim
I'm so sorry for you and families loss Tom.
I couldnt imagine losing my kids to the reaper, good thing tho is that he is in a better place and you will see him again someday
âTears in Heavenâ is one of the Claptonâs most heartbreaking songs, based on the tragic death of his Conor, who was only four when he died after accidentally falling from a 54 story apartment. The track was written during Claptonâs 6-month hiatus from music after this devastating event and has three verses and a bridge. The first verse is Clapton singing to his son about whether if he would recognise or know him if he saw him in heaven, and whether it would be the same if he was in heaven too - but he knows that he has to âbe strong and carry onâ, because he canât âstay here in heavenâ, meaning he canât spend his whole life mourning over the loss of his son or just focusing on that, he has to move on. The second verse is Clapton asking his son if he would still âhold his handâ and âhelp him standâ if he saw him heaven, maybe alluding to Clapton seeking forgiveness from his son. Again, Clapton reiterates that heâll get through night and day as he cannot âstay here in heavenâ. The bridge focuses on the concept of time, and how it can break your heart and have you begging for time to progress quicker for you to heal through the pain. He knows that âbeyond the door thereâs peace Iâm sureâ, meaning he is aware that after this painful time (âthe doorâ) heâll be fine. The song ends with Clapton repeating the first verse.
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I played this song at my grandsons funeral, he was 2, he would be 7 now. The pain and loss never go away, you just learn to deal with it.
Lost my son to addiction 5 years ago, he was also my best friend at 26 years old. Grief never ends, you just learn to live with it. A big piece of my heart went with him, but this song touches me very deeply. I will see my son again....... In Heaven.
My daughter passed away in 2017 so this song has a totally different experience for me.
When my son was 2 years old he aspirated. He ended up in critical condition for 2 days and intensive care for 3 days. He nearly died in my arms. His heartrate was 210 bpm and his breathing was short gasps about 3 to 5 per minute... i cant get through any song or movie about kids or parents goin through something without the tears flowin.
wow.... God bless you bro that he made it thru.
our 19mo old passed away from that in November. Im so glad you dont have to go through what we are. Hug them extra for me.
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The worst thing that can happen to any parent đą i can't imagine what I would do if something happened to my daughters. Stay strong brother!
My best friends lost their 7 years old,. He had cancer & was at St. Judes in Memphis! It was Awful!!! As a friend,. You feel So Helpless,. Thereâs absolutely nothing you can do or say to help!!! I never wanna go through that again! I always think about him on Motherâs Day, thatâs when he passed,. đ„.
We never met our son Jacob. My wife and I held his lifeless body after he was delivered. The Dr explained that his tiny hands were wrapped around my wifeâs umbilical cord and he pinched it . Though we have 3 children before Jacob, the pain ints any easier.. Life is precious. And a baby being born is a miracle .
Such an emotional message from Eric . Thanks and God Bless everyone here. Wether you like the song or not.
Such a wonderful song, my first daughter was a premature baby. She lived 17 months on a ventilator. Francesca Marie De Soto. We never had her home. I prayed all during my next pregnancy to not have another premature baby. Tim was 10 lbs 6 oz, pray is powerful!