Should I Date Someone I'm Not Physically Attracted To?
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Dating seems impossible...
Not only is it hard to find someone your physically attracted to but you have to be attracted to their personality
Then get along with their family.
Those are crazy odds. I might get one out of 3
i feel you bro!!!
Having the same dilemma. I was attracted to my ex physically, but her personality is the worst. Especially her family, all they see is money. Then comes along this girl who I could tell is madly in love with me, but I couldn't physically find her attractive. I guess she's got a pretty face, just not my type. And I also am not much attracted at her body. But now I'm thinking that the connection I have with her is rare. And so I'd like to see how things go as we progress our relationship. Am I making a mistake?
@@theeldersimp9847 what ended up happening?
@@kellyrivvas3728 ended up friendzoning this girl. I still built up her confidence by lying tho. I don't think it's necessary to be blunt and say things that would hurt a woman's ego and confidence. Also, ghosting is a bitch, so I'd never go for that. We had a 3-hour talk on why I am "emotionally unavailable", and then we parted ways. I knew I dodged a bullet tho, she wept as if we have been together for a lifetime. She was really emotional and easily attached, which makes me cringe up to this day. Physical attraction is just too important for me. Currently I'm hooking up with someone I'm VERY physically attracted to. Sadly she could never be a good partner for me, even though she could be the best soulmate given the right circumstances. On to the next prospect for the time being.
I had a girl that I did this too... I’ve always been told it’s what’s on the inside that counts (she wasn’t ugly) but I wasn’t sexually attracted to her... we dated for 9 months and she always asked me why we didn’t have sex more often? We finally broke up bc of it... I feel so bad bc she thought it was something about her body. I feel that u need both... it’s not shallow to say but you need the physical and emotional to make a relationship work.
8989griff So what was the issue. Did she have saggy tits or something?
This helped alot! thank u!
@ane doe well he was with her...for 9 months.
ane doe somebody just did this to me for 3 years!
Was she allot larger then you
This was helpful. I have a co-worker that's the most beautiful person on the inside. She's sweet, educated, and we can talk to each other about anything! But I'm not physically attracted to her in even the slightest bit. I've been thinking about asking her out, but your video is just further verification that it's not the best idea.
Ok... Thanks guys haha i have thesame problem, she is so sweet, soo good, she wants me, but im not attracted, and i was thinking should i try anyway but now i see that this is not the best for us
@Kayruh sa SAME!!!!
Dawg I was in this same situation, and it did not end well.
Me too. She was so awesome but not ugly just wasn’t attracted to her. Still I will cherish the memories
What happens if you get with a cute girl and marry and she has kids and gets older and fatter and you’re not attracted to her anymore ? I wonder if this means you leave her. Since peoples looks do fade. Also I wonder what people don’t they’re only attracted to people who are attractive when they themselves are unattractive hmm..
Well said. I have kept on dating guys that were nice with great personality hoping for the spark to develop. it did not, I could not bring myself to be intimated with so I ended the relationship so that I wouldn't waste their and my time. Both personality and physical attraction are important in a partner. if the spark is not there and it does not develop after a few dates i't s no point in flogging a dead horse.
Agreed I was doing this too recently online dating and the guys could sense there was no spark either. It felt more like a friendship. Better to be picky and only go out with someone who checks off all the boxes
yep!!!
Same! Unfortunately my mom still does this but she stays with them for a yr or more and then breaks up bc she was never attracted to them. However, she tells them it was bc they didn't change something about their life or some fundamental thing that was literally present and obvious before the relationship 😐. I swear both my mom and dad broke up just to find other ways of being miserable in love.
@@jclyntoledo Most people are too ugly to find someone attractive.
This situation is one of the worse in the dating realm....Especially if its online dating and said person looks different from their pictures. Like mabey they are heavier set than you thought. But its better to rip off the band aid sooner than later, it saves alot of heart ache and time.
I just broke up with my girlfriend today. she was the perfect girl for me in so many ways. We would have a laugh she understood me as a person we had so much chemistry in terms of our personalities being similar. But I wasn't attracted to her appearance. I was with her for over a month and I started to question whether I was a jerk for being so vain. I said I wanted to break things off with her because I couldn't handle the long distance relationship, but really it was because of the lack of attraction on my end. It's extremely rare to find someone who understands you I wonder if I've made a big mistake. Time will tell I guess.
@@BunkerWise215 How’s everything been since the breakup? Any regrets?
How are things going? Do you feel like you made a mistake?
@@BunkerWise215 come on we want to know
@@BunkerWise215 yeah I have also done the same thing. She had amazing personality and so much caring.
Being single is better than forcing yourself to be with a person u will feel disgused in yourself when you dont want to sleep with him but pretending nd faking u r making yourself fool and other person too
Just be honest
The epitome of well said. I see so many saying "wait it out, the attraction may develop later" - NO, if you're feeling like this is a problem. Trust me, it is!!!! LEAVE!!!!
Yup. If someone is unattractive their looks will not get better in time. I have this whole "go out with them for their personality and then they will become good looking" it's such a load of nonsense!
Usually women give that advice because they never care about the males happiness.
I did this , never again.
Thank you friend!!!!!!
Really wish I was physically attracted to my best friend :( He’s always had a thing for me, but he’s always kept it respectful and we’ve been platonic friends for years. I am so incredibly comfortable and happy in his presence, and the conversation we have is unmatchable. I’ve never connected with a friend they way I connect with him.
Any time I try to date someone, I find myself wishing they were more like my best friend. It’s to the point where I think I may be starting to develop serious romantic feelings for him.
It breaks my heart that the physical attraction isn’t there 😔
lol danggg. That man is in the most powerful friendzone in the world
@@GUURL101 🤣🤣🤣
Same situation 🥺it hurts me too
Same here..it rlly hurts :")
this is exactly what im dealing with, hes been my best friend for years and hes been in love with me for as long as i can remember but the thought of even kissing him feels gross, i wish i was attracted to him so badly, we're perfect for each other in almost every way except for physical attraction
I wouldn’t date a guy I wasn’t physically attracted to because I think there’s enough men out there who might feel that the relationship is all about whether they’re attracted to me anyway. I don’t respond to a lot of guys on dating sites, because I already know I’m not attracted to them and the moment you smile or say hello, it’s “on” in their minds. I’m sure many of them simply feel ignored when I’m trying to just not waste my time and theirs. But, I feel like I’d be working hard to launch him out of friend zone in my mind, which might never happen. When you waste time, you waste life. Yours and someone else’s. Don’t do that.
i agree.. but i was debating cause as a girl people always say to me.. ''give people/him a chance!'' like, cause im not attracted to them means that they aren't nice.. but in all honesty, i need the physical attraction in intimacy tbh.. and yeah, about messaging thing.. people think to me cause i'm a 'pretty' girl (well, on plenty of fish not any other dating app cause you have to match on any other dating app apart from plenty of fish) they take it like i'm 'interested' which is kinda frustrating a little bit cause it's like im making conversation with you cause you messaged me not cause im interested... no attractive guys ever message me (who are my type anyway lol)
@@danielleelia5434 yeah, Zoosk is like that. I actually asked them and, in that app, scrolling means actually viewing, which I’m usually not doing. It’s frustrating and I have to end up either blocking or being blocked.
Shame though. Sometimes, men actually get angry, when you’re not interested. Like you’re just supposed to GET INTERESTED, because that’s what they want. Have they ever considered how bad things would get, if you got into a relationship with them - and you STILL weren’t interested???
Plus, I’m older now. While there are men who feel that, once a woman gets over 30, that’s it for her, I can tell you that, particularly once many men I’ve seen hit 40, OMG really??? I at least KNOW I’m not 30. I KNOW I have less market value and I look at least 10 years younger than my age. I think some of these guys think they have market value, laying up in bed, with tubes coming out of their nose or even dead! Of course, for some of those pics, those are fake accounts. Those people don’t even know their picture is being taken, let alone put on a dating site.
@@privateprivate8366 yeah i agree, it's kinda annoying cause i don't want to look superficial but i feel like most men are superficial... like, also aswell when men ask me sexual things it's like.. do you not want to get to know know me ?? it just annoys me.. and i don't match with people on dating apps really and if i did it's cause i thought they were okay looks wise giving them kind of a chance but i never know what to say and i don't want to waste anyones time and my time too cause there's no one hot i've seen lol.. but people always say to me ''you need to give people a chance!!'' like, i worry im too superficial considering i've never been in a relationship but i can't imagine getting intimate with someone i just don't find physically attractive (cause yeah, we all know it isn't everything of course) and yeah, i've seen fake accounts of 'models' it's like.. ya'll dumb for thinking people believe you loool hahah but obviously they want someone they find physically attractive to like them..
@@danielleelia5434 I feel the same as you do.
What I’ve learned about people is that, most people you may know don’t actually care who you’re in a relationship with or even whether you’re attracted to him or even love him. I think the world idea is just to be glad, as a woman, that any man is interested in you and that you should settle with that. You’ll even find plenty of people who will tell you to make it work, even if you’re sporting 2 black eyes and have your arm in a cast. So, you can get an idea of what they think, when that isn’t even at issue. They really don’t care, if you have a good man or a man you’re interested in, as long as you have a man. For some, it’s their personal standard that, at least they’re not alone. While I can say that, as an older woman, although I’m not “lonely” as I enjoy my own company and have a busy career, I know there can be some real world consequences to being in a relationship AND in being alone. Depends upon who you meet and your personal circumstances. But, my impression is that many men, particularly on dating sites, feel that they’re shopping for mannequins at a mall or that it’s a porn site, where they take their pick, as to who they’ll try out for a night. Some are looking for real long term relationships, like many women are. But, yes, I’ve seen the ones that start of talking about sex and it’s already time for them to get blocked.
@@privateprivate8366 yeah, literally.. men have asked me about sex and it's fine don't get me wrong but it's like you don't want to get to 'know' me? just cause you think i'm 'pretty'? and i've had a few unsolicited dick pics sent to me then and again which i don't even get the mindset why men think it's okay to send me that?? you know? some men are like having a general conversation without sex but some people feel entitled to think i will be there 'girlfriend' just cause i chose to make conversation with men who found me conventially attractive vs how i felt about them.. it's like i'm making conversation... if some of these 'men' liked me enough they would take the damn time to get to know me and know things take time
I just broke up with my girlfriend today. she was the perfect girl for me in so many ways. We would have a laugh she understood me as a person we had so much chemistry in terms of our personalities being similar. But I wasn't attracted to her appearance. I was with her for over a month and I started to question whether I was a jerk for being so vain. I said I wanted to break things off with her because I couldn't handle the long distance relationship, but really it was because of the lack of attraction on my end. It's extremely rare to find someone who understands you I wonder if I've made a big mistake. Time will tell I guess.
@Kayruh sa but what did you tell her?
It’s good that you came to that realisation early enough. It’s crazy that you had the best sex ever with her.
@Kayruh sa you are not an asshole XD soo how are you now ?
You did not do the wrong thing! You had the integrity and strength that so many of us are too much of a bitch to handle!
bro iam in a same situation my gf is like a angel in her behaviour and personality she always make so much effort to make me feel loved happy and motivating and understands me a lot and we have similaruties in personality but the only thing that sometimes make me sad is if she could have been a little more beautifull
@@shivamrawat3445 Brake up with her! We women want to be with someone who find us attractive, let her find that person!
Very nicely put and very helpful. Thank you for this video. 🙂👍
Perfectly said, this answered my doubts. Thank you!
Why would i want to be in a relationship that Im not happy in or the person that i find not attractive.
People get with less attractive people way more than you think lol
Because the other side is being in a relationship where the person is attractive, but you later discover has a lot of baggage or a shit personality.
well some people are so full of themselves another person is just there to serve them so this works for me
With not in
Because many of us have low self-esteem
You are right! I have dated guys that I was not physically attracted because they were age appropriate, had nice personality and I did not want to be alone on Sat night. I tried but sparks did not develop, I wasted not only my time but they time as well.
I would never date someone I’m not physically attracted to I just wouldn’t be able to do it no matter how great of a person they even if they have the best personality if you don’t look at least somewhat attractive or someone that just doesn’t do the bare minimum to at least make yourself look presentable it’s a no go it tells me the person is lazy and does not care about the way they look
Thank you so much for this video!
As a man I would say if it’s not a hell yeah then it’s a fuck no.
🤩🤩🤩🤩
Thanks man. This girl was cool and had everything I wanted but I just wasn't feeling her physically. I was like damn am I being a douche but good thing I didn't sleep with her. So i dont feel too bad. Gotta cut ties
I just broke up with my girlfriend today. she was the perfect girl for me in so many ways. We would have a laugh she understood me as a person we had so much chemistry in terms of our personalities being similar. But I wasn't attracted to her appearance. I was with her for over a month and I started to question whether I was a jerk for being so vain. I said I wanted to break things off with her because I couldn't handle the long distance relationship, but really it was because of the lack of attraction on my end. It's extremely rare to find someone who understands you I wonder if I've made a big mistake. Time will tell I guess.
@@BunkerWise215 brother I'm in a similar situation can you please give ne your Instagram handle so that i can talk to you about this?
Follow God and What's inside your heart inside your heart. Don't be with someone you're not attracted too. It won't last. There's someone better out there.
I totally agree with you!!
Thanks Joe! I deeply feel this way
@@PrissyP__ You're welcome! Falling in love is a two way street.
@@joecool97 I feel as if I'm ugly and the man I love doesn't like me
@@MegaRosiebudYou're not ugly. I use to say that about myself. If the man you love can't accept the outside of you besides the inside he's missing out on a good person. You're worthy always remember that!
You deserve more subscribers! :))
Great advice! Thx
Met the nicest guy ever, and even with my high sex drive I don't even want to be intimate with him cuz I am just not physically attracted to him in that way..and the more I think about that and him wanting kids and me not wanting kids the more detached I become and think it's better I just stay single...
Best advice ever!
I was going to say , I don't understand how the law of persistence works , it's a thin line between being persistent or coming off as a creep in the woman's eyes !
Great advice...
Yeah, better as friends!
I've never been in a relationship and don't know how to feel attracted to someone and I'm sure I'm not attracted to anyone people pressure me about being in a relationship but I'm lost i just never really bothered with relationships but I get jealous that people can love each other but why cant I ?
You know me too much 🤣
I like her and I'm not sure if she likes me but she can do way better physically so I don't really wanna go out with her tbh I dunno
I'm torn again. I've been torn before. In the past, I was able to overcome my lack of physical attraction to someone and over time became willing to marry them. We eventually got engaged, but she ended up calling it quits. The woman I'm seeing now is a God send, literally. I prayed that God would send me the person HE wants for me instead of me giving God a list which he has answered on three different occasions. But this time HE picked her and I know he did for all the right reasons. I can see why He picked her for me, but I toggle on the attraction part. Time will tell.
I am dating a guy who is physically not my type. But his personality is so great, he is kind, understanding, intelligent. It instantly makes him attractive, because I feel comfortable around him, I know he cares about me. The older you get, the less important appearance becomes. You start to value other things. Attraction can be found in different ways, beyond the physical.
I’m 20 :/ annnddd that crap is soo hard to understand 😂! You may be right but, it’s so unsettling to not feel some sort of physical attraction to that person.
@@flowd7451 I know it's hard to believe and I also lost the believe in my own theory. We are not dating anymore. He wanted and open relationship, which completely baffled me. I responded to his message, he then continued to delete my number and we never spoke again. When men get what they want, they are put. When men don't get what they want, they are out too. Genuinely kind man are pretty rare.
@@MariaV0071 "But his personality is so great, he is kind, understanding, intelligent."
So, all this was a lie from his end. What a prick. Greedy prick. I'm pretty sure you were the better looking one in the relationship and he still wanted to keep it open.
I'm really sorry for what you went through. Just goes to show that that BS ppl tell you that you should date men who aren't that attractive to you cos they will treat you better is just that - BS.
@@Dancediva240 thanks for your kind words. It's utter BS indeed, I am still bitter about what he did. It doesn't matter what drove him to handle the situation this way, the rule is, never treat people this way, it's insensitive. I never got closure. The irony is, when I asked him what a big no no was he told me this exact same words "don't treat me like shit*. And what does he do, he continues to treat me like shit. Protect your hart above all.
@@MariaV0071 Oh, is that right, "don't treat me like shit". Well, I hope you find someone who treats YOU like shit, then you'll know how it feels, effing insensitive prick.
Pls keep your chin up and I wish you the best, Maria. You will find happiness again and what's meant to be yours cannot pass you by, pls remember that.
No I wouldn’t … u gotta be attracted to the person not just on the inside but outside too
You know it from first seeing the person.
Don't argue against your biology! This feeling will never go away, don' t call yourself shallow. Stay true to yourself and get the person you want!
My question is, should I tell my girlfriend I’m not attracted to her. I don’t want to hurt her feelings.
Tell her you don't feel a connection, better than saying you're not attracted to her cause she'll think there's something wrong with her
I feel you! I really don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or lie! But I really like him in alot of ways, just not the most important one😢
I got with someone that I have no Attraction to and this was Only because I find more attractive men cheat or not even considering trying to secure a relationship so I tried thinking outside the box.i often question myself if I'm only here because he's a nice guy or I can't do any better .it's a messed up spot to be in cause he isn't cute at all and super big not even trying to to lose the weight.
Yeah, we are always told to give fatter men a chance because "he can always lose the weight!" right? Losing weight is a commitment and a lot of them are just not interested in doing it. Whats worse if you been with them long enough, they get even more comfy around you and dont give a damn bout looking good.
@Sunflower Sutra sending you a cyber hug for your wonderful reply. Thank you fir that!❤❤
Pls dont think that more attractive men are automatic cheats simply because they are attractive. Would you say the same bout attractive women then? Look at this fat guy u are dating, he never even cared about his weight to begin with, and now knowing that you accepted him despite seeing how heavy he is, he is going to care even less bout getting fit. So many attractive men are out there with wives and girlfriends and you have seen that with your own eyes i am sure. Dont date men simply because they are ugly, ugly doesnt automatically mean good, they can be shitty characters too. Pls feel attracted to a partner naturally and if it is not there, walk away. You will really find more peace being alone than with such a man.
This is the only video I could find on a guys point of view. Females aren’t the only ones that put people in the friend zone but now I understand. Theirs this female who is a cool nice person, and I’m not physically attracted to her like I’m not sure if I should go out with her or not. But if I’m not sure it’s better to move on because I want to find somebody that makes me happy and I don’t have to hesitate if I love her or not!
Same here bro lol , I’ve been searching for a Video like this from a man’s point of view but only able to come across one all the rest are on a woman’s point of view
@@Al14423cause those women think we're just shallow
Was dating a girl long distance for a year. We would talk every day, her personality was amazing and her looks too. Recently found out that she lied about who she was, showing me pictures of another girl. She isn’t bad looking but I don’t have the kind of physical attraction towards her that I have towards the girl she showed me. Her personality is everything I could ever ask for and more
She LIED. I am sorry you had to go through this
When someone lies like that it's a red flag. Go find someone else! By the way we had video calling available to us for the longest time. Why didn't you utilize that?
Don’t ever do long distance ever .
this same thing is happening to me now, pictures look heavily edited but some of them weren't did video call and everything, seemed fine looks very different in person and its been 2 years but I didn't really notice it until recently so im so confused but needless to say a very affectionate ad understanding person, I brought it up and was told I was being superficial but she didn't pursue a relationship with anyone she wasn't attracted too @@saynotohookups
When I spend time with my girl i feel like i love her and she is my everything but there is this other girl which is a very good friend of mine and i’m starting to feel attracted to her but i dont want to break up just because of that. Its very very difficult for me because i dont know who i truely love. I dont want to break up and then have the other girl reject me. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
@ane doe that deserved a 'thank you'. Well said
I need advice. I got over a girl but i'm still somehow emotionally attracted to her. Everytime i see her in social media or real life i still feel a bit of attraction. Its sort of weird to describe. Its like being attracted to her and not at the same time. Any thing you could advise me to do?
Flamehead 123 you're not over her , that's my advice lol
Flamehead 123 did you ever tell her how you felt? the best way to get over this is to let your feelings be known.
Same shit happen to me man. Now i am better but the 1st month, oh man it was terrible that's what I was only thinking about. "Oh why would she do that", "I talked for over 3 hours over the phone, everyone told me I was doing fine." etc etc. Take this advice I found it in the Internet :
⦁Forgetting about her isn't the point. Rebuilding bridges isn't the point. Ceasing to give a fuck is (To you, OP: congratulations on accomplishing this.) Even if you can literally forget that she exists, what happens if something reminds you of her? You're back at square one. What happens if, by some miracle, you get together again? You're still obsessed with her, and that makes a lot of relationships fall apart. Your ultimate goal is to be better, and further iterations of the same loop or a case of selective memory won't be what makes that happen.
I wouldn’t no matter how good of a personality she/he has if I’m not physically attracted to them it will no work out because they’re not my type
I’m attracted to her body but not her face… im only 19 I’ve only dated 1 other girl who was rly pretty in the face and had a nice body 2. There was never any questioning my attraction with her but with this new one her face is just idk idk if I can get over it.
Nah. You can be attracted to someone on other levels not just the superficial physical.
I feel that it’s not superficial to want to be attracted to someone physically.
You def can be. Still doesnt mean you'd wanna fuck 'em.
There’s no different levels of attraction attraction is based solely off of looks - physical attraction
I'm sure this is what happened to me, I didn't feel like the guy I dated for 4 months was attracted to me : ( he was super interested in me but it wasn't enough. Unfortunately he ended things by ghosting me. Just got to move on..
SpacecowboiKilu Some guys will lower their standards if they can't hit it off with the hotter chicks . This will lead to them getting bored after just a few months and ghosting as you say.
lloyd t you sound like a real jerk. Who are you to stay she's not good enough or any guy that is with her has lowered his standards?
War & Remembrance I'm speaking in general, not necessarily speaking about the op. Calm down and don't let your toys fall out of the pram now
War & Remembrance blah , blah, blah. We have all had good and bad experiences . Some will take it with a pinch of salt, some will have a chip on their shoulders for a long time. So what you gonna do , miss Remembrance...???
War & Remembrance They don't want nice guys , they get with assholes . So yes it makes me feel great, it's funny when you comment on my English when you clearly need to look at your own .
Is it possible to find a mutual relationship???
Tha Mogul Nope sound like. Lie a to me! It sounds like lowering your standards just to be nice to someone!
If you don’t find something good honestly I think u are better off with nothing. Believe me I know.
nancy vallejo - yea! i totally agree.
Believe me, I know too.
when you say something good, what do you mean?
@@Dancediva240 in others world u need someone that u are really ok with good looking and everything but if u are not sure of someone then that’s something not good is what I mean.
@@nancyvallejo9149 ah ok, I understand now thanks
I never go out with men I'm not attracted to because the sex will not work. But today I was going to chance and go to a baseball game with him. He left two hours early I'm not fully dressed. He is asking for my address and I don't think this is right I think I should block him and seriously not go
But what if you never meet anyone that you're physically attracted to and have to date for material things. Should you not date at all then?
This! Kind of like that missing out feeling you get when you are with someone you don't really like that way.
Why would you??
How do we let a guy know nicely that we aren't interested?
What this “sugar” person said. That’s how you let him know.
No.
I wasn't attracted to my last Girl Friend and She probably wasn't attracted to me, so it was no surprise when she said, She didn't want to see me any more. 🤷♂️
There’s this girl at work who I work she’s the sweetest girl she likes being around me a lot she likes to flirt with me here and there but the only problem is she’s not my type so idk what to do I really don’t wanna hurt her feelings I don’t wanna be a dick to her
I went on a date with this guy last Wednesday and it went great! Early Friday morning I asked him if we would like to meet up again and it's been over 24 hours is he playing the texting games or not interested. What's going on?
laura ann it's been almost three days. Is he playing games? The night we texted everything was fine and seemed interested
What makes me think he's playing games is that he'll be on Facebook posting stuff and replying to comments, but won't reply to my messages.
He thought you were ugly.
It’s in the voice get attracted to the voice not the looks
Absolutely not!
Sometimes you gotta take what is given to you
☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️
I'm in this situation
Dating logic, my crush is moving to Minnesota, should I keep talking to her?
YES!!!😉
I’m planning to break up with my boyfriend of almost 2 years because we lack sexual chemistry and I still don’t feel like we understand eachother or connect with eachother emotionally. I love him as a person but not romantically anymore but it’s going to be so painful to break it off. Any advice anyone has to give for breaking it off gently??
Tell him that its you not him
"I’m planning to break up with my boyfriend of almost 2 years because we lack sexual chemistry"
This exact same thing happened to my friend. She dated her ex-bf who was a very nice guy who loved her very much for 3 years and it was sexless the whole 3 years.
In the end, he started picking on little things about her because of his frustrations due to lack of sex. He even asked her openly once "Why arent you attracted to me?"
How would I go about telling that person? Or should I even tell her?
Just tell the person you don’t want to waste their time and that they deserve someone who will truely love them for who they are. You both deserve genuine love and you’re betraying that person and especially yourself.
This is so hard. I think that I’m like 70% in love with this guy. But physically, I have strong doubts. We just started dating, but we’ve known each other longer that. I don’t want to hurt his feelings.
Alice Goldenvalley stop dating him now and give yourself some time. You will hurt him if you keep going and you are uncertain, especially if you don’t feel anything when you see him.
ahh I'm in exactly the same position. I decided to because I put personality over looks and us being friends helped how i felt a lot but when it comes to intimacy and sex ahhh seriously worried about that one. I reckon I could have sex with him but over long term major worries on what will happen
I am in the same boat. I love everything about him but the thought of sexually touching makes me want to vomit
70% in love with NO physical attraction???!!! you have to tell me your secret. 70% is a lot. What's the update on this btw?
No!!! But deal with consequences if you are not looking at big picture.
How do you tell your partner you do not want to have a long term relationship?
The same way you just told CZcams; Straight, no chaser, and Very direct.
This relationship is not going anywhere I want it to go! It’s harder to get out if you are living together.
You just dont date if you dont want a relationship.
What if the only women that are attracted to me I don't find attractive?
I don’t mean to sound shallow but there is a girl who I think is really cool and I think we would be really compatible but she just kinda let her weight go. She is still cute in the face but at the same time I feel like she finds me highly physically attractive, I’m in pretty good shape and don’t have any fat whatsoever. So it makes me feel like how is that fair to me? I don’t think it is...
FORDGTFANATIC she does find you highly attractive and will fall in love you more quickly than you will with her. From experience, I say don’t do it.
I wouldn’t do it... if you go out with her she’ll just get fatter and if you try to help her get healthy she’ll be like” well I never tell you to change” “this is who I am” if she was self aware she would be exercising to lose weight by now.
Work out with her. Go park and jog together. 😉👌🏿
It’s not shallow
The answer is found when you switch it around. How would you feel if you knew they were not attracted to you? You'd feel the whole thing was a sham. Don't be with someone you're not attracted to. It's not kind. Give them the opportunity to find someone who will be attracted to them for real.
Damm okay
What happens if I’m attracted to peppa pig
yes this is what I deal with but the person treated me like i’m gold so I stay … meh😕women should do this not men lol
Well I’m fuck I’m dating that person 😔
No
Makes sense but what if the personality is something you're attracted too?
If sex or intimacy is important to you then it won't work. Simple as that. If you are willing to forgo sex / live an asexual life, then go for it. Big compromise that will eventually ruin the relationship
@@dylanjones9354 That was 5 months ago homie, that bish is long gone
@@hafnium4358 good good. Happy for ya dude. That is a shit situation to be caught in
@@dylanjones9354 fs
Looks are gonna be the 1 factor to determine if someone is sexually attracted to you
I know this woman, late 30s, she married this guy she was not physically attracted to because he has some money and she saw the whole thing as her last chance to have children. Now they do have 2 babies and she pretends she feels attraction towards him!
hahaha, how do you know she pretends? I mean are you guys close?
Wow she was only with him because of the money I’ve seen a vid about if a man was unattractive but if he has lots of money half of those women would be with him but they’re only with him because of what he can offer to them they’re not genuinely interested in him so money can help if you’re not the best looking guy if you’re trying to attract a women into you’re life but always be aware women will try to take advantage of you I guarantee to you that so many women nowadays are just money hungry yk
I have this girl that im not sure is weird xD
Anti-thesis is pronounced Antithesis
The question is if she's attractive. Not attracted. If you want a sexual relationship then sure go for the person you're attracted to. But if you want a real realtionship find the person attractive and you can pursue the attraction later on.
I love this black man. Ok ok! I will tell the girl I just dated that I'm not attracted to her! Lol.
Naw
No girl will ever do that as they got loads of options anyway. Only exception is if a girl has been single for a heck of a time , chances are guys won't want her anyway
lloyd t exactly
George Is Super Elite Even a girl with no prospects or direction in life is still likely to attract guys if she's cute. They got it easy
lloyd t I'm 24 and never had a boyfriend. I don't want a relationship so I don't bother looking. It's my choice.
War & Remembrance if a man like Brad Pitt, The Rock, Brock O'Hurn, Johnny Depp, Shemar Moore or Kenny Chesney came into your life you wouldn't want to date and be exclusive with them ? Yeah right keep telling yourself that.
George Is Super Elite are you stupid ???? Hahahahaha apparently you know my feelings huh? No I wouldn't date any of those given all those men you named are old enough to be fathers. I dont do older men. Im not attracted to men much older than me. I dont wanna feel like im dating my dad. Even if a younger celebrity were to ask me, I say no. I have no desire to date. Doesnt mean something is wrong with me. Im in a period in my life now where I dont want drama. The last guy I was seeing sucked the life outta me with his games and ever since then I said im done. Not worth it.