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  • čas přidán 13. 02. 2024
  • In this Valentine's Day episode, to keep ourselves grounded, we're reading letters that famous writers produced to end their tumultous relationships - both amicably and... not quite.
    TW: brief mention of s*icide attempt

Komentáře • 142

  • @RicardoMoralesMassin
    @RicardoMoralesMassin Před 3 měsíci +172

    My dearest Karolina:
    I must start my missive with a confession. I did not know you had a podcast and nearly skipped past this video thinking it would not be interesting. I apologize, since I could not have been more wrong.
    The tea was delicious and piping hot. Speaking as a latino, I relished in this historic chisme. My heart soared and sank; I audibly gasped. It was, as the kids say, a mood.
    I thank you for these moments of leisure that made my cooking of minced meat and rice so much more enjoyable and fruitful. I will be sure to seek out past and future episodes.
    Yours in interaction,
    Ricardo

  • @panqueque445
    @panqueque445 Před 3 měsíci +111

    "She moved to France during the revolution"
    I guess we all do stupid things every once in a while

  • @wherefancytakesme
    @wherefancytakesme Před 3 měsíci +295

    That rejection of Ernest Hemmingway, in the words of Randy Feltface, "initiated a lifelong pattern of him rejecting women before they had a chance to reject him."

    • @ArwenUndomiel406
      @ArwenUndomiel406 Před 3 měsíci +17

      You just put my therapist out of a job.

    • @rolom3
      @rolom3 Před 3 měsíci +10

      So she made him develop an avoidant attachment style 😩

    • @romainsavioz5466
      @romainsavioz5466 Před 3 měsíci +14

      AND THE PLOT THICKENS

    • @SplatterInker
      @SplatterInker Před 3 měsíci +41

      ​​@@rolom3 made him... as if she had any control over his emotions?? Sounds like she was being responsible and calling off a relationship which was getting damn toxic.

    • @lenabreijer1311
      @lenabreijer1311 Před 3 měsíci +19

      She was being abused. She was afraid to tell him how she felt because he got angry and frightened her when she tried.

  • @MaggieJaneSimpson
    @MaggieJaneSimpson Před 3 měsíci +117

    " i am prettier, you are uGLy" 😂😂 that was so powerful and funny. she must have been fuming when she wrote this

  • @SplatterInker
    @SplatterInker Před 3 měsíci +181

    For context r.e. Shelley... he's saying TO HIS LEGAL WIFE that she has no claim to him or his only because he loves someone else. He's essentially saying I'm your husband, you have to do what I say, and I say stop bothering me and claiming I owe you stuff.
    Forgetting, of course, that she is IN FACT owed stuff by virtue of being his wife. She could literally sue him for not maintaining her. And playing up one's love and affection was precisely what a woman petitioning her husband to step up did.
    So he's essentially trying to get out of looking after her and the kids

    • @claremiller9979
      @claremiller9979 Před 3 měsíci

      Also probably worth noting that Harriet committed suicide. Then Percy, the huge dumbass, drowned at the age of 29. A fitting end to an historical fuckboi if you ask me.
      Watching all this bullshit unfold no doubt influenced Lady Byron to raise Ada Lovelace to become a mathematician and stay the hell away from poets.

    • @lilacfantasy4
      @lilacfantasy4 Před měsícem +3

      Sounds like the inspo of Victor "deadbeat dad" Frankenstein to me

  • @chocobere
    @chocobere Před 3 měsíci +34

    "They both had problems with fidelity" I love that phrasing XD

  • @GracieMae493
    @GracieMae493 Před 3 měsíci +45

    That Percy was an absolute shmuck

  • @EmissaryofWind
    @EmissaryofWind Před 3 měsíci +29

    I'm always there for Percy Shelley slander

  • @jamestolson2804
    @jamestolson2804 Před 3 měsíci +76

    Thanks! HAPPY VALENTINE DAY - add this to your collection💌💌

    •  Před 3 měsíci +15

      thank you so much! 🥰 happy Valentine’s Day!

    • @jamestolson2804
      @jamestolson2804 Před 3 měsíci +1

      If I was a confident man from the past I would say “can't give you flowers because they would fade and wilt in shame compared to your beauty”@

    • @jamestolson2804
      @jamestolson2804 Před 3 měsíci +1

      If I was a confident man from the past I would say “can't give you flowers because they would fade and wilt in shame compared to your beauty”😀@

  • @babs420th9
    @babs420th9 Před 3 měsíci +88

    Karolina has a nose for finding these juicy old texts ❤. And we are SEATED! 🤗

  • @maidende8280
    @maidende8280 Před 3 měsíci +23

    Edith Wharton is a QUEEN.

  • @zainab58
    @zainab58 Před 3 měsíci +15

    Gilbert Imlay is summed up in one online article as “once a louse, always a louse.”

  • @oliviakot7972
    @oliviakot7972 Před 3 měsíci +50

    Love this episode! It's funny to see how the techniques used by toxic men haven't changed one bit 🙈 and the letter to Natalie? Savage!

  • @EmmaCruises
    @EmmaCruises Před 3 měsíci +12

    I’ve been watching the background image for so long while in my dark room, I think it’s burned into my eyelids 😂😂

  • @jamestolson2804
    @jamestolson2804 Před 3 měsíci +11

    “'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” Lord Alfred Tennyson

  • @natevans8024
    @natevans8024 Před 2 měsíci +4

    impetuosity!!! such good words all around!
    Whenever i'm deep in an 1800s book, i start texting friends in this style. always a hit!

  • @selu1363
    @selu1363 Před 3 měsíci +37

    I love this so much and would love to see more of these, especially if the test can be displayed on the screen as you read. It helps me keep on track, especially with my bad hearing!

    • @laurapeter3857
      @laurapeter3857 Před 3 měsíci +3

      Try turning on the closed captioning. The auto generated text is pretty good and makes it easier to follow along.

    • @Anonymous-zw9ud
      @Anonymous-zw9ud Před 3 měsíci

      WOW! You really are our saviour. I've never thought of something like this before, and it's incredible! YOU are incredible. Thanks a lot. I love you...​@@laurapeter3857

  • @darthbee18
    @darthbee18 Před 3 měsíci +19

    I knew Percy had problems (I empathized with him even just a bit) but damn... his parting letter to Harriet didn't help things 🤦🏽‍♀🙈💀

  • @emmelinesprig489
    @emmelinesprig489 Před 2 měsíci +3

    Amazing point about how access to information is wonderful, but we all have an intuitive sense of justice and compassion. We each decide whether to act justly and compassionately, or not. We’re responsible for the outcomes of our actions, no matter how much or how little information we have.

  • @hannahbradshaw2186
    @hannahbradshaw2186 Před 3 měsíci +20

    Just burned my tongue on this scorching historical tea 🥵🔥😂

  • @allenwalker3792
    @allenwalker3792 Před 3 měsíci +36

    I'm here for the piping hot tea and I'm loving it

  • @skeinofadifferentcolor2090
    @skeinofadifferentcolor2090 Před 3 měsíci +9

    A very happy Valentine's Day to you as well Karolina!!
    Listening while indulging in a candle lit bath with a glass of rosé prosecco.

  • @_FMK
    @_FMK Před 3 měsíci +18

    In Percy's defence - he was so much under the gun (as a teenager) that to this day Eton refuses to house a bust of him due to his political opinions. It wasnt paranoia. As flawed as Shelley may have been, he was honest - to a fault - and atleast Mary's relationship with him allowed for the degree of freedom & comradary that prompted Mary to have busted out Frankenstein as a seventeen year old. *time & place, Crazy Times. *edit: Shelley wasnt that much older - then died at 32, in Pisa, after a crappy number of years on prescribed laudanum, somewhat loosing it with Byron (who might be a more fitting subject for bummer valentine letters!). Cheers Karolina, I love what you do and what you speak upon - but had to mention this! 😢💐
    Not-withstanding, Mary chose that freedom & comraderie of her own accord - and we are all the better for the insights that she brought to Press!
    Edit upon edit: re. Mary's insights into what we now know as Transhumanism & AI

  • @Bildgesmythe
    @Bildgesmythe Před 3 měsíci +15

    The vocabulary back in the day! Now it would be WTF biach

  • @kyaroriina2023
    @kyaroriina2023 Před 3 měsíci +6

    Holy shet! Now “Farewell to Arms” makes sense 😂😂😂😂

  • @ThePlut00galaxy
    @ThePlut00galaxy Před 3 měsíci +9

    I missed that you have started a podcast but it was perfect to go through the episodes while cleaning. I needed the motivation, lobe your vids and the love for history❤

  • @philurbaniak1811
    @philurbaniak1811 Před 3 měsíci +54

    👍👍 those are some beautiful letters! Except for Percy, he had the teenyweenypeeny energy 😆

  • @carlyblack42
    @carlyblack42 Před 3 měsíci +7

    Love these drama-ridden letters from the past!

  • @whimsylore
    @whimsylore Před 3 měsíci +6

    Edith Wharton's was especially amazing. 😮

  • @mickey_san
    @mickey_san Před 3 měsíci +3

    Absolutely wonderful tea, thank you for serving ✨

  • @sava-smth
    @sava-smth Před 3 měsíci +11

    Daaamn. Thats some nicely aged tea. You go Mother 🤘

  • @Morth1989
    @Morth1989 Před 3 měsíci +17

    OMG this is perfect ❤❤❤ Podcast that I didn't know I needed but now I will be waiting impatiently for another episode.
    Thank you Karolina ❤❤❤

  • @jamestolson2804
    @jamestolson2804 Před 3 měsíci +3

    Love Hurts
    Song by Nazareth 1974
    "Love hurts, love scars
    Love wounds and marks
    Any heart
    Not tough or strong enough
    To take a lot of pain"

    • @hollyingraham3980
      @hollyingraham3980 Před 3 měsíci +2

      "Love Hurts" is a song written and composed by the American songwriter Boudleaux Bryant. First recorded by the Everly Brothers in July 1960, the song is most well known in two hit versions by UK artists; by Scottish hard rock band Nazareth in 1974 and by English singer-songwriter Jim Capaldi in 1975.

    • @jamestolson2804
      @jamestolson2804 Před 3 měsíci

      @hollyingraham3980 you know more than I do, didn't research

  • @neea8807
    @neea8807 Před 3 měsíci +4

    Your french isn't bad at all! I understood everything you said, and it's better than how RDJ did as Sherlock Holmes.

  • @NeneChan203
    @NeneChan203 Před 3 měsíci +5

    LOOOOOOOOOVE this format so much! I hope it won't stop!

  • @hannastewart668
    @hannastewart668 Před 3 měsíci +5

    Thank you for making this podcast! 😊 it is so interesting and I’m looking forward to the next one! 💕

  • @darthbee18
    @darthbee18 Před 3 měsíci +7

    Happy Valentine's Day to you too Karolina, hope you pass it with heaps of chocolate! 😆
    Don't listen to David Bowie's Valentine's Day (...or do, at your own risk 🤪). Have a nice time (with heaps of chocolates, or snacks 😺) to anyone else reading this comment 😹

  • @lfgifu296
    @lfgifu296 Před 3 měsíci +22

    Happy Valentine all👹👹

    • @babs420th9
      @babs420th9 Před 3 měsíci +2

      And to you! ☕🍰💘👒⚘🥰

  • @jamestolson2804
    @jamestolson2804 Před 2 měsíci +2

    Love Is All Around
    Song by The Troggs 1967

  • @edb7121
    @edb7121 Před 3 měsíci +4

    Thank you dear Karolina for the perfect Valentine's day episode!

  • @anastasialudwika
    @anastasialudwika Před 3 měsíci +5

    Just finished listening to the podcast. Now, that's a perfect theme for this day!😆🤘🏻Girl, you slay! That's cool!

  • @jamestolson2804
    @jamestolson2804 Před 3 měsíci +2

    Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. Aristotle

  • @mothmallow
    @mothmallow Před 3 měsíci +4

    I recently did a series of game boxes about Mary and Percy Shelley's toxic romance. 😅😅

  • @indiabilly
    @indiabilly Před 3 měsíci +5

    This is brilliant! The perfect mood for today xx

  • @alazaiswalters3060
    @alazaiswalters3060 Před 3 měsíci +5

    Your French is so good!! 😱😱 Is there anything Karolina can’t do?!?!

  • @madelynbryan5712
    @madelynbryan5712 Před 3 měsíci +2

    yet another BANGER from karolina, she cannot be stopped

  • @dishasarmaxd
    @dishasarmaxd Před 3 měsíci +3

    you are right people have always been the same and will continue to be the very same

  • @reay1864
    @reay1864 Před 3 měsíci +1

    im really loving these podcast episodes so far. i really hope you continue them!

  • @HaapainenRouske
    @HaapainenRouske Před 3 měsíci +2

    Yay another episode! So excited!

  • @flowermeerkat6827
    @flowermeerkat6827 Před 3 měsíci +1

    I loved the theme and the letters. Very appropriate for Valentines Day.

  • @adrianapeace3601
    @adrianapeace3601 Před 3 měsíci +1

    omfg a new ep already!? hellll yeah

  • @ellierose6
    @ellierose6 Před 3 měsíci +2

    I hadn't read her letters. I think you should do more literary spots. Loved this.

  • @Heothbremel
    @Heothbremel Před 3 měsíci +1

    These are great and I wish people would still write things like this when they feel that sort of way...

  • @KeilaBevins
    @KeilaBevins Před 3 měsíci +1

    Listening to this doing my valentines day makeup uwu

  • @snehapradhan5591
    @snehapradhan5591 Před 3 měsíci +1

    this was so good!! and the Ernest Hemingway one was so so interesting, i never knew that happened!

  • @jamestolson2804
    @jamestolson2804 Před 3 měsíci +2

    Even unrequited love is too

  • @MystearicaClaws
    @MystearicaClaws Před 3 měsíci

    Yaaaay! Thank you! I just don't"t have time to go to listen on other apps. I add everything to one queueue and let it play

  • @smiley32190art
    @smiley32190art Před 3 měsíci

    I love your accent!! Happy to hear it so much

  • @diamondslashranch
    @diamondslashranch Před 3 měsíci

    I enjoyed this very much !

  • @ProfessorChaosKitty
    @ProfessorChaosKitty Před 3 měsíci +2

    Wow. Percy Shelley really was a total Bysshe

  • @rosesrosesroses
    @rosesrosesroses Před 3 měsíci

    Was not expecting a Natalie Barney mention but I got super excited when she came up!! (Also she didn’t so much have ‘problems with fidelity’ as she wanted to be polyamorous and her lovers had problems with that)

  • @DaisyOfDeath
    @DaisyOfDeath Před 2 měsíci

    Love this soooo cool!

  • @KathrynHenny
    @KathrynHenny Před 3 měsíci

    I love this episode. *After reaching the end of the episode I am further convinced of the merits of journaling to pull out one's feeling and face them more head on. Doesn't really matter how the recipient responded as much as how the writer feels after.

  • @SandieMitchell
    @SandieMitchell Před 3 měsíci

    Daaaaamn, that was magnificent!

  • @solventman8307
    @solventman8307 Před 3 měsíci +5

    I'd LOVE to see a video in which You explain how You find all these concrete historical sources in the first place

  • @bones642
    @bones642 Před 3 měsíci

    Yessss perfection

  • @jenniferroxy5956
    @jenniferroxy5956 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Oooo this tea is SPICY!!🌶🌶🌶🌶 LOVIN IT!

  • @thebanditking8502
    @thebanditking8502 Před 3 měsíci

    YAY NEW TEXTORY EPISODE LETS GOOOOOO

  • @daxxydog5777
    @daxxydog5777 Před 3 měsíci

    Nothing changes, same old, same old!

  • @anastasialudwika
    @anastasialudwika Před 3 měsíci +3

    Wow, new video! *Podcast

  • @New_Wave_Nancy
    @New_Wave_Nancy Před 3 měsíci +1

    I think your French pronunciation was good! (Granted, I'm merely an American who is always working on French so I don't embarrass myself too much on frequent visits to France.)

  • @onecrafternoon7046
    @onecrafternoon7046 Před 3 měsíci +1

    I had no idea you had a podcast ??? 😱🤩

  • @jamestolson2804
    @jamestolson2804 Před 25 dny +1

    ELVIN BISHOP [ FOOLED AROUND AND FELL IN LOVE ] 1977

  • @nyves104
    @nyves104 Před 3 měsíci

    💜💜💜💜

  • @Aisuzuni
    @Aisuzuni Před 3 měsíci

    Your French was pretty good ! I didn’t feel like you butchered my language 😊
    It was a nice episode to listen to. I can’t wait for the next one

  • @anastasialudwika
    @anastasialudwika Před 3 měsíci

    That's a theme 😂🤘🏻

  • @kohakuaiko
    @kohakuaiko Před 3 měsíci

    If possible, could you please add chapters to these in the future? Thank you ❤

  • @jamestolson2804
    @jamestolson2804 Před 3 měsíci +1

    too short - could be a book. I enjoyed it

    • @jamestolson2804
      @jamestolson2804 Před 3 měsíci +1

      faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love
      Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

    • @jamestolson2804
      @jamestolson2804 Před 3 měsíci +1

      I think many of the letters are not about real love - lasting, heroic, & selfless

  • @caitthegreat2102
    @caitthegreat2102 Před 2 měsíci

    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @frankharr9466
    @frankharr9466 Před 3 měsíci

    My favorite so far,
    I shall refrane from stating the not-so-good role I once played. I was a jerk.

  • @RubyRollsOfficial
    @RubyRollsOfficial Před 3 měsíci

    [February 17, 2024] I didn't know you have a podcast now

  • @marcherwitch9811
    @marcherwitch9811 Před měsícem

    the shelley one is way worse than you realised... it diesn't mean cruel, it's mean as in "mobey grubbing"... he's saying "why are you asking for child support?!? i thought we were friends! but if being my friend isn't good enough i guess i'm out of your life for good!"

  • @dutchhistoricalactingcolle5883

    Shelley's wife drowned herself, he wrote a terrifying poem about her corpse...'The cold earth slept below'...

  • @f0restangel
    @f0restangel Před 3 měsíci +2

    MOTHER POSTED

  • @annimanidolls
    @annimanidolls Před 3 měsíci +2

    Who would have thought. Tea so old but still so hot.

  • @spacecatandthekittens1954
    @spacecatandthekittens1954 Před měsícem

    The audacity of this Bysshe!

  • @supernova0302
    @supernova0302 Před 3 měsíci

    ❤😊🤗 ✌️

  • @moda78z
    @moda78z Před 3 měsíci

    👍👍

  • @TikoVerhelst
    @TikoVerhelst Před 3 měsíci

    24:11 it reminds me of a beautifull Dutch song called "Dat wij verschillen van elkaar" with the first two lines (translated to English of course)
    "We only differ from each other, in those thirty years
    that distance we always keep us from each other"
    czcams.com/video/C2iDA78bf4k/video.html
    It sounds cursed but it's beautifull;'
    "That we are different from each other
    Ìt's only in those thirty years
    That distance will continue to separate us
    You say you don't mind that
    But look at my graying hair
    That can't lead to anything anymore
    You say I'm the first man
    Who you can truely really love
    It is written on your face
    I know what you do see in me
    But dear child, make no mistake
    I really don't want to be your father
    Because this surely doesn't seem like anything?
    A child of barely eighteen years old
    You are so sweet, you are so sweet but inexperienced
    We really don't suit each other
    That we are different from each other
    Ìt's only in those thirty years
    That distance will continue to separate us
    But the feeling I experience
    That reveals itself in my gesture
    Don't let that mislead you
    You know very well that I like you
    And that from the very first day
    I surely would like to tell you
    That I love you very much
    And surely wanted to marry you
    I don't know how to explain it
    Because this surely doesn't seem like anything?
    A child of barely eighteen years old
    You are so sweet, you are so sweet but inexperienced
    We really don't suit each other
    There is certainly someone else
    With less a heart and less a brain
    Whose youth I certainly do envy
    That we are different from each other
    It's in those thirty years
    That distance will continue to separate us"
    Is the singer a p3do? I don't think so. It sounds more like a teacher or another authority figure, like a nurse, explaining how big age caps will not lead to anything good. With the "I'd like to marry you" line meaning they would say that, but never actually want that. Or saying "even if all of this is legal, and even if I want it as much as you do, than we still shouldn't do this" which I think is what makes the song and also the letter you read so beautiful.
    When you love someone so much you have to tell them you don't love them. (love having multiple meanings here)

  • @mascadadelpantion8018
    @mascadadelpantion8018 Před 3 měsíci

    I love turn up the fantasy influencers😂

  • @nelliebly6616
    @nelliebly6616 Před 3 měsíci

    ❤😮😊

  • @kimberlyflanigan
    @kimberlyflanigan Před 3 měsíci +1

    where do we send the chocolate ?

  • @daniellecheminant1580
    @daniellecheminant1580 Před 3 měsíci

    What I want to know is where did they find these letters?

  • @pippaseaspirit4415
    @pippaseaspirit4415 Před 3 měsíci +5

    Sorry, Karolina, but I’d much rather see you saying this than just hear you. I’m slightly reliant on lip-reading, and I can’t turn the volume up without disturbing others.

    • @_liberte
      @_liberte Před 2 měsíci +2

      Try turning on captions? I do it sometimes. Hope this helps

  • @faireduchemin
    @faireduchemin Před 3 měsíci

    ❤🍿❤🍿❤🍿

  • @Eli-rk3lr
    @Eli-rk3lr Před 3 měsíci +4

    Love that a messy lesbian affair was included ❤❤❤ Also your french prononciation was very good !!

  • @jul.m.2692
    @jul.m.2692 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Mary Wollstonecraft didn't believe in or wanted to get married, at least at the time. She was that kind of feminist.

  • @user-lp2vz7jx7c
    @user-lp2vz7jx7c Před 3 měsíci

    this did not come up in my subscription?

  • @Geekyfabulous
    @Geekyfabulous Před 2 měsíci

    12:46 i need a diagram

  • @laurelsamuelson3764
    @laurelsamuelson3764 Před 3 měsíci +4

    I already didn’t like PBS, so it’s kind of gratifying that he sucked just as much in correspondence as in practice