Join The BAD B*TCH Club! - Break The "Nice Girl" Habits To MASTER Confidence Today | Codie Sanchez
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When it comes to relationships and marriage, having kids together, unhealthy cycles of love and abuse, and financial or lifestyle dependency can make it really difficult to walk away from the wrong partner.
You don’t like where the future of this relationship is taking you, you already feel out of touch with yourself, your purpose and passion for life, but you feel utterly trapped!
Homie, if you’ve been on the fence about what your next move is to get OUT of your current situation, this is it! Today’s episode is dedicated to the women who’ve quietly accepted a life you never dreamed of, who settled for a life of comfort and safety over a life lived with radical passion, and those who learned to keep it all to themselves because it's better for everyone else.
We’re done with playing the “nice girl” for everyone else at the expense of losing the Bad B*tch you were absolutely born to be.
My guest today didn’t just build million dollar wealth for herself, she looked at the life she wasn’t excited for and she frikin changed it! Codie Sanchez went from living someone else’s dream life to tearing it all down and building her own dream life. This woman is not for play, she’s about making power moves and being crystal clear about what she wants. Codie said to hell with being a complacent well kept wife walking away from it all because the woman she desired to be deserved the chance to live.
Codie Sanchez is joining me today for this inspiration packed conversation to encourage you to get off the fence, make the decision, and stop living the trapped life.
How do you walk away from the “good life” or the “suffocating life"?
- Don’t run from difficult conversation and you’ll avoid impossible conversation later
- Add the Anti-Goal Planning strategy to you toolbelt for tackling bigger than life goals
- Codie’s 3 most powerful things every woman needs to live her best life
- If you’re not living the life you dreamed of and you’re trying to figure out ‘how the heck do I get here?” This conversation is for you.
****Empowerment Encore Alert****
Don’t miss this encore episode with the Million Dollar Listing celebrity agent of, you will NOT disrespect me, Tracy Tutor. She is not one to be intimidated or silenced when it comes to honoring her boundaries, and this bonus is make sure you have all the notes and tactics you need to be the baddest version of you today.
CODIE SANCHEZ QUOTES:
“You can either have difficult conversations up front or you can have impossible conversations at the backend. I will take difficult to avoid the impossible.”
“I can make my own house a home, it doesn’t have to be this one that I was living in before.”
“You don’t need more advice typically, you need to listen to your f*cking gut.”
“You may change, but most people will not change, and if you realize that you then will stop trying to get people to understand your standpoint and instead get people to move out of your way.”
“Your actions and the life you live will be the biggest way to change people;s mentality as opposed to any words you could say.”
“I’ve never once regretted saying the quiet thing out loud, and I regret every time I don’t.”
“Being able to look back at all the moments you almost broke and realize that you didn’t is an incredible stack of evidence of what you can overcome in the future.”
If you are in a group right now of people who do not have the desired life that you want, you are looking at your future.”
“You don’t have to be better all the time, maybe just input a few better things into your life and watch how much easier that breath of willpower begins to build.”
“Your dream outcome is their everyday reality or you’re around people where their everyday reality is your nightmare.”
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Thank you, Lisa.
OMG > Now I need to get a vibrator lolol
"Men go to therapy to stay and women go to therapy to leave." 💯❤️
Most men don't even consider therapy. Usually it's the woman's idea.
Learn to leave and not come back if the other person keeps treating you poorly. He won’t come back to you. He won’t come back because he hates that you stood up for yourself. Men only come back when you don’t place boundaries and they know they can control you.
The narc is getting his accommodation, food, nice bed- so why would he leave?
Thank you
@@My_Secret_ArtSketchbookThat’s why you leave them
And also, if you give a narc everything without boundaries, he has no reason to be "nice" to you.
@@bumblebee_mrsTrue
Codie’s voice is what women need🙏🏾 Authentic and so many jewels of wisdom, Lisa, another brilliant interview, you are a godsend to women everywhere 🙏🏾🙏🏾♥️♥️
I had a friend getting a divorce and she suggested that i do the same, and we could roommate together to help each other. My marriage was good, my spouse was sick, and I let her know I wouldn't be doing this. I would give her whatever support I could, but I was in a rough patch, and my family was sick. I did hate the fact that she wanted me to divorce my family to give her support and a roommate.
Yeah, that's terrible.
I can only imagine how that arrangement would have worked out. Good on you that you stayed with your spouse.
I have a friend that tried to convince me to leave, then when she was having a rough time following her split, she tried to convince me to stay. I also had an old family friend convince me to stay, then when I heard that her child got divorced, I felt cheated by my own brain. If she couldn’t convince her own kid to stay, what power should she have over me?! I find Cody’s advice to be so valuable. I shouldn’t talk about such a personal decision with others, as they have their own agendas and cannot possibly appreciate the world from your individual perspective (and they won’t really know what is going on within a relationship).
Sounds manipulative and selfish of your “friend “.
I have a friend that has dated the same men for ages (she hates him), she has kids with him, a house, marriage etc. I just started my family, but we found each other unhappy with our partners so she always invites me to break off our marriages move into a house a finish raising our kids together and forget these men.
The idea sounds terrifying, cuz I know she would be worse than my own husband 😩.
Lisa, you're so powerful and your interviews are amazing. You're my favorite interviewer and I actually learn a lot from you: how you listen to people, how you relate to them and ask relevant questions, how you represent the audience and ask questions you know a lot of us have, and how you let the interviewees speak. You're incredible. And, a sidenote, you look so healthy and vibrant. Please keep blessing us with your content!
I was just thinking that too. Her questions are soooo important, absolutely incredible. Exactly! So well said.
Yes, so articulate. A thinker.
My exit tax was losing my teen boys but I didn’t want to live another day with my ex. Way confirming video. Thanks.
Same...unfortunately
Yep, my ex husband has fought to keep me out of my girls lives, and I've fought tooth and nail to stay in them. It's been hell, but I will never regret leaving that man.
My experience has been that teenage boys pull away from Mom anyways. The feeling of losing them at puberty is the worst. Mom becomes the bad guy. It's baffling to know you are the one that's always been there for them and loved unconditionally. The tighter you you try to hold on the further the divide. Honestly feels like blatent disrespect. So you might as well do what's right for you and get yourself happy and healthy. And just pray that they come back to you when they're ready.
But my understanding was there’s nothing wrong with a Marriage Hwy did I miss something?
We need legislation to STOP this!!
I recently had an epiphany about the relationships I allowed into my life. What this guest brings really helps those of us who are finally standing up for how we should be treated and also how we would like to live our lives. Thank you Lisa for this guest!
This has to be the most amazing podcast episode I have ever seen. I am in a season of consuming content and knowledge and this resonated with me to my core and has served to help me progress
I feel like Lisa gets better and better, and so do her guests.
Yes, the top of the best ever! Same exactly.
I didn’t consciously realized until that I’ve done “if/then” for years and it mostly works in my favor as well!!
I wish we could get away from referring to ourselves as B’s. Not really congruent with self love and confidence.
Yeh I get it and I didn’t actually like the term either at first and to be honest I only like it when it’s got the word “bad” in front.
Me too. It's stupid an juvenile.
@@em-dy3hnand 'ghetto' or flamboyant alphabet
I’ve never met a good guy to build a life with. Always supported myself. Gave up on meeting someone at 63.
I'm 43 and I haven't either as of yet. Here's to hope, but... it is waning
I love this entire video SO MUCH! What a phenomenal group of beautiful and wise women on the panel! Bravo Lisa!!
Ahhh thanks homie!
I have learned how to have a Plan A and Plan B, and sometimes even a Plan C. Having options minimizes my anxiety of making difficult decisions.
Many years ago, I did the same. I was married to a certain guy, I looked into the future and saw that the normal happy me would be suicidal if I stayed. I wrote in a journal too! I even knew this guy would kill his significant other. I wrote down all the reasons I felt that. I needed support from my parents - did not get it. In fact, my mother begged me to stay with him. I left him anyway. 20 years later, his second wife died by suicide and then a year later, he was dating someone, the relationship ended and he was so angry he murdered her. Trust your gut ladies.
Oh wow, unbelievable story. Thankfully you had the courage and determination to get away from him. Good on you. Sad for the other women.
That is awful 💔💔
And thank you for sharing that .. needed to hear
This woman is phenomenal! I wish i had that much presence of mind when i approached my divorce.. as well as the ability to project down the line into my own future.. I think maybe I did actually, but it took a big blowup and things to come to ahead and get really messy in order for me to put the ball in motion to leave.. I did great things for myself and my child , but it was a real life storm
Yeah, I've been divorced twice... two kids. I'm nearly 60 years old and for the first time in my life it's all about me. If I could do it all over again I would make it all about me from the jump. It seems that is the path to happiness.
Just started watching but anyone else getting the vibe it’s completely about her in her mind?
Like selfishness? What do you mean?
If so. Keep watching. She speaks about how letting him go was probably the best thing for him when it was all said and done. He now has the life he originally wanted. Family, kids, etc.
It gets better. I was thinking the same thing for the first few minutes.
Lisa your content is good but don’t agree with your title... maybe it is a click bait but I hope people stop saying nice and good is not worthy and being a bad b****h is better !
Instead explain what actually being nice and good is !
“Justice is putting everything in its proper place “- Ali ibn abi talib
Being nice and good doesn’t mean you are a doormat. When you are wise you can be nice, and good but still have boundaries. You know when to say no. This falls under the category of Self respect not a Bad b****h .
Sit with yourself for a moment, how would you feel if someone tells you, Lisa, I admire you so much, you have so much of self respect!
Now imagine someone tells you laughingly Lisa, I admire you so much , you are such Bad B****h !
Though you may laugh and take it as a compliment the whole energy is different when someone tells you , you have so much self respect vs you are such a bad b****h.
One internal feeling is deep and appreciative of yourself the other is surface level .
Don’t change the meaning of words. Otherwise we can all say join the selfish, greedy, bad, b****h or bad A** club.
Just my observation, otherwise I enjoy your content.
The only way to stand out from the crowd is look at the words they use and do the opposite. That way you are truly honoring yourself.
All the best !
Agree!
💯 agree
Indeed. It's juvenile language.
I love your podcasts so much . They keep my head above water. Give me hope.
❎️ Why do we apparatus talk about the vows, as in, "Till death do us part " and completely forget that the same vow says to, "respect and love each other..." ❎️
For men & women , so very powerful, to live YOUR life , not the life everyone else thinks you should have
Yep. At the end of the day, that's all that matters. Always put yourself first. Don't have kids, and stay single. If I could do it all over again, that's just what I'd do.
I love how headstrong Codie is yet intuitive, "you don't have to manufacture your hard." Where she honored her body at the summit- I would not have guessed she'd do that!
Suggesting an open marriage for others while denying one for herself? Denying that jealousy is not insecurity and then stating seconds later that she was insecure? This lady does not have great advice.
I’m so happy to say I’ve listened to every episode of women of impact (some of them I’ve listened more than once!) and I started last September 🎉 I’ve learned so much and it’s helped me shape the best version of myself. Thank you Lisa for this podcast, can’t wait till next episode 💖
I so needed to hear this in this moment. Thank you both with all my heart.
I saved this to watch it again later as well, Lisa. All your podcasts are highly motivating and inspiring, but this one is exceptional. There's a lot of takeaways for both home and work. Looking forward to more of your videos.
I agree, this is exceptional!
So I absolutely love the vision Lisa has…I appreciate the open conversation, the realness and the variety of speakers. I enjoy learning from others as they share their experiences. Thank you!!
So glad to see Codie on the channel!
I don't know who this woman is or why she is on your show? I usually love your show. This woman sounds completely and absolutely ungrateful about the amazing life she had. Try talking to someone who's divorced with two small children and has no money. In case you're wondering, It's not me, but i'm thinking about people like this when I hear someone so ungrateful!!!!
This was such an inspiring and focused conversation. Thank you!
Great interview as always Lisa!
Enjoyed understanding Codie beyond her entrepreneurial world
Love this!! Thank you for once again an amazing video Lisa, so inspiring!!❤❤
Omg Codie Sanchez!!!! Excited for this!
Thank you Lisa ❤️ Codie for this interview 🙏
This conversation was invaluable! Thank you for sharing this! ❤
Oh yay so glad you liked it!
Yes!! I have had that armoir forever!!!! Yes!!!! ❤🥂. Rejection is nothing! Get back up! Yes! Agree with her and that is so true so take this advice!
Being betrayed or heart broken by a partner is a selfish act on their part. Yes, maybe they don’t feel big enough etc., still not an excuse. “He required a woman to put him on a pedestal” otherwise I’ll cheat? Imagine this toxicity…
The part where she said "you can't believe what you can't see" i disagree. FAITH!
HAVE FAITH, there is power in that. Trust in God, have faith, blind faith - believe in yourself ❤ Believe in the Power of the Holy Spirit. Trying to capture God and HIS Power like it's one thing, is like trying to rope the wind, because God is Everywhere. Be not wise in your own eyes, trust in God with all your heart, all your soul and all your mind and HE will direct you in all your way, in all your ways acknowledge him, he will make your path straight. 🙏
The reason I have Faith and believe, is because of what I have SEEN God do in my life. So yes her statement still makes prefect sense 👏🏽
Love this chat, thank you! What women need to hear.
Absolutely LOVE THIS SO MUCH!!! Codie Sanchez speaks authentically and straight forward, she says everything I’m thinking. All of this. Why would we and why should we waste our precious and short time on this earth living for others and not for ourselves, doing so is a fast road to misery. Lessons learned the hard way. Definitely be able to let go of fake friends and others who were never meant to be a part of your life.
❌️ That analogy about the seed to plant, is from Louis Haye. She also said, we don't go look at it every hour to see if it's growing... Others have said, if we order something from Amazon, we don't go to the door checking for it every hour, etc. ❌️
I think that it's good to go back through history and then make your own decision I have found out throughout my life that alot of my fears were unfounded as I learned that the things that were scareing me had a valid explanation 😊
I couldn’t let go of broken relaships, then my son died❤️ I relies it’s a trauma, and the love of my son broke it❤️
Her advice is harsh but sunshine at the same time. I’m over here processing it. ☀️
This podcast resonates with my world.
Very powerful insights.
Glad to see Lisa has grown so confident as opposed to a couple of years ago.
Thank you so much for this interview 💚
Amazing podcast❤so many gems 💎, this young lady articulates very well the thoughts & emotions we go through leaving a relationship. The power of place” really resonated with me as someone who doesn’t yet have my own place as my ex won’t do a settlement after 3 years 😢
I really did laugh out loud when I heard Codie say "Chris", I was kind of reading Emails at the same time as trying to listen and assume that this Chris was her husband, because in the UK and America the males who are more liable to be narcissistic are Chris's, and taking what Cody was saying about her own rules of her own life and treatment of other other people, I saw those 2 people who couldn't be more soulmates if they tried.
It's a shame it's being made to look too old school to be nice and polite and to be able to be confident aswell. As the generations are rising there seems to be more pressure on the youngsters to be nasty and evil to be able to succeed in life and that is so so wrong.
I’m new here and I am loving this channel Lisa❤ !
Every view is a success for you all. I love watching these videos. They are very insightful, educational, and inspiring.
I so needed this discussion!
I love how long some of these chats are. I can listen to you ladies forever.
I rewatched this many times. So much to learn from this!
Codie is a shrewed negotiator and I respect her for that. In business, the plan B she described that she was prepared to use with her Dad in which he declined to be the gatekeeper for her so she could avoid other uncomfortable conversations with people is an incredibly effective tactic, but your family isn't supposed to be a transaction. Essentially, plan B was a manipulative tactic that leverages guilt and obligation. Like it or not, your decisions are yours. Accountability is accepting the consequences of your actions even if they are the right actions to take.
That's all great if you have the financial security to leave but when you have children and you don't have that financial security you can't just pick up and leave
Love codie❤ i could relate 100% great episode
Loved this conversation, very encouraging. Thank you ladies
I love this episode so much!!!
It's funny how many people we lose when we find ourselves.
Hey Ladies! Thank you so much for popping up with the necessary content i dont have to search for,buth rather,finds Me at the right time to not only absorb,but accept more readily to align myself to the much needed coarse/lane change required to move forward; especially those times i forgot to signal or worse,left the blinker on long after ive made the move into another lane, or already made that turn change . Ive found most of my healing therapy on line,whereas years ago after my divorce,it was more the one on one that saw me through. Thank you for sharing your Love and Light.
Ps,my divorce 20 years ago prompted me to buy myself the "e" vowel as often as need to insert where the 'i' is in bitter. I also spent many moments in a batting cage until the day i woke up p in the fast pitch with that yellow ball wizzing very close to my face. I joined a Bocce league after that. I also incorporated long before the divorce to do random acts of kindness when being left to deal with the negative or angry crap others kept dumping on Me,and Me not wanted to dispense that yet on others.
So you were just with the wrong person to begin with... It's not fair but... Fair enough...
22 minutes in and I’ve never related so much. Also wish I had had my Dad the way you did when you made the decision. Lost him a few years prior. I wonder if I would have known sooner having him to talk to before we bought a house and started making promises. Love you Codie! Thank you Lisa!!
I needed to hear Cody's message today.
You and Your guests are amazing! Keep empowering women! Take the positive and if you don't agree it's okay... There are other women that needs the message! Love, light and grow. We only here for a short time. ❤
Love the conference table concept.
Yep. That’s what I’ve been doing. Smile. Nod. Do what I want/ need to do.
Your spot on & you have my support 💯!! Thank you Dr Berg 🤍
Very empowering for us! 🙌💝💪
Love you both so much! Thank you.
Amazing conversation ❤
Great conversation!
She is sooo smart and such an inspiration to me
My kids are 32,28,23 my first two have three and my youngest only has two I am so proud of them ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Sooo powerful!!
I love and respect you Lisa and Cody.
just broke up with my bf :) thank you for empowering me ladies
Wait, I’m a little confused. She just left her marriage just because.??? Another reason not to get married if people just leave relationships just because😂🤣
Everyone has their reasons it’s not for us to change.
Yes, I totally agree. I would have loved to have a husband who actually had loved me instead of leaving with his co-worker.. She feels like a hero for not staying and working on her marriage. She might not be singing the same tune if the role was reversed. The fact that almost all of her friends ditched her speaks volumes. I get that she left, and I get not feeling happy, but in my opinion, it wasn't brave. Bravery would have been working on the marriage when it got tough and not leaving when she didn't feel exactly the way she wanted to. Love is a choice despite how you feel at the moment. This would have been different if he was abusive, cheating, or something like that in my opinion
Please, I hope she buys back the townhouse & makes places... whole complexes...available to women who need a place & don't have a support system.
That would change the world overnight, literally. 🙏🏼💖✨️
For the miracle happening to me right now... I came into this 2:48... This is the most appropriate video I could be watching right now...❤ Stay tuned... You're on my team you've been you were one of the first...
This was such a great conversation. This girl is incredibly intellectual and communicates very well. I wish she was a girlfriend of mine. I need people like her in my life. 😊 Codie rocks!❤ ❤❤❤
I enjoyed this real talk ❤💯
“You can’t be, what you can’t see” #powerful
Lisa, ure such a great interviewer
💯 dropping fire 🔥 gems 💎
❤ Codie!
It's not always an intellectual conversation
You were a brat putting that on your Father and Mother, just because "you didn't "want to have that convetsation." That was YOUR conversation, and it was not fair or right to put that on your Dad or Mom, just because you didnt want to address it . This was about You, and YOU, should have been the one to have the conversation.
The conversation about our internal voices is so intrinsically linked to IFS therapy.
❤❤❤ Guess it was time to meet Codie .... New levels opened
Isn't it weird that the women that get the white picket fence, a husband that supports them so they can be a stay at home mom don't really want that? Where as the women that dream of that, never get it?! Life is strange.
Yes she is very ungrateful
thank u so much lisa for ur wonderful mentorship on the journey of transition from a innocent girl to intelligent rational woman. - for me to break OUT of the golden cage that my ex built, by saying u r young naive girl, dont know how horrible, the uncertain outside world is. better stay inside the cage nd i provide nd care u, to the Woman now, pursuing PhD, while working as partime teacher, living in foreign land with surrounded by strangers yet creating a beautiful home for myself by myself with those 2 little cutiee piess cat😸😽
Love Tracy!
This girl already had a strong personality, she wasn't "a nice girl". But I can learn how to be a little like her.
You are all about you and not ever having any
discomfort hurting anybody and everybody in your way
This is the vibe I got to. What a turnoff
You didnt know any of this BEFORE you got married? Im confused 😕
Lisa, I love many of your videos. This one didn't do it for me, however. It does not sound like mastering confidence to delegate difficult conversations to your dad. It doesn't sound "nice" to justify your own choices after the fact by stating how good it was of you to "allow another human to live the life that they were supposed to live." How does Sanchez know what life her husband was supposed to live, before or after the divorce. I see the "bad bitch" part and hear it loud and clear. But I don't think it is necessary to be a bitch in order to be authentic and confident.
That probably wasn't the best example lol. A woman at a bar, unless she is approaching men who are clearly there with other womem, is not going to get a terrible amount of rejection. It will happen but not nearly enough for the example i think
Move that body
YES
Get that thing FLOWING
Can't wait for us to do a deal and work together someday soon Codie. ❤💯🔥
Yes. I knew exactly how she feels about her first marriage.