TRANSITIONING 1 TO 2 KIDS! OUR EXPERIENCE & TIPS | Olivia Zapo
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Hi guys! Thank you so much for requesting this video on our transition from 1 to 2 kids! Having two under two in a pandemic has made for a crazy year, but I'm so happy that we're now feeling more settled and like we can finally breathe a bit! I think it took a good 6 months for us to feel normal with 2 kids so if you're feeling crazy, hang in there!! Everyone is different and every experience is different, so do what you need to take care of yourself. ❤️ I hope this helps for some of you second time moms out there! Thank you for watching!
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0:48 Jump from 0 to 1 vs 1 to 2
2:30 Preparing Christian to be a sibling
5:09 Sibling jealousy
8:00 Siblings feeling left out
9:46 Sleeping
14:54 Bedtime with 2 kids
15:48 Age gap preferences
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21:28 Finding time for myself
26:32 Mom guilt
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Hi, I'm Liv! I'm an Ohio girl living in a California world with my two sons, two dogs and husband. I make videos on motherhood, fashion, beauty, fitness, and overall health and wellness. Some of my favorite videos to make (that you'll see a lot!) are baby essentials, haul videos, family vlogs, try on videos and product reviews, and style/beauty favorites. I LOVE to shop, socialize, hang out at the beach, and focus on raising my boys to be good men. I pride myself on being an optimistic person and believe life is too short to be anything other than your happiest self. Welcome! ♡
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“Do whatever works for you.” Perfectly said. I agree that every family is different and needs different things. I don’t like when people give unsolicited advice. Every family isn’t the same!
I’ve been watching your channel since you were pregnant with Christian and I just wanted to say thank you so much for all the mom videos that you post and share they have been so helpful to me through my pregnancy and as my son is growing. He’s little bit younger than Christian so it’s just nice to see someone else going through some of the same things you’re going through. i’ve really been contemplating adding a second child to the family but I have been very unsure and this kind of made me think of things I didn’t think of before so thank you. Stay strong mama!
I'm 8 months pregnant with my second boy and I really needed this video!
I totally needed to hear your message about self care over dishes. I prioritize cleaning over my self care and often times I feel upset & sad because of it. Thanks for being so honest and real! I appreciate the transparency, it’s very relatable 😊
I love how raw and true this is!
wishing you lots of love! ❤️ so happy to see your family doing well you guys deserve nothing but the best
Thank you so much for those sweet inspirational and uplifting words about mom guilt. Love you and your beautiful family and very excited to hear you will be posting more videos!
I loved this video. As a first time mom it was validating to hear your experience ❤️ I appreciate you sharing your journey Olivia! Sending you loving and peaceful vibes 🙏 💕
What you said last made my eyes fill with tears: we are made to do this, thank you for this video Liv!!! ❤️
I completely agree with you Olivia! I also had 2 under 2 for a couple of months. I couldn't have said it better. Give yourselves grace mama's ❤
Definitely cried at the end! Thank you for this video!
So beautifully honest as always. I love how transparent you always are Olivia. Truly helps. Sending love from Canada
dude olivia this is why i LOVE you. truly i go about life the same way i take each day and go from there and what you said about how taking care of yourself is as essential as groceries chef’s kiss preach!
Love your little family!! I hope you’re all feeling better, love to you all! Been here since Christian was a tiny baby 🥺❤️
I appreciate your videos so much! I became a Mom for the first time in lockdown and I don’t know any other mums (none of my friends have babies yet and there are no parent clubs running at the moment) so your pieces of advice are sooo helpful and reassuring to me! You are a gem ❤️
Great video, it’s so good to hear a non-sugar coated real perspective. Thank you 😊
Love this, thanks for all the great tips/info! 💕
❤️ great advice. I especially loved the focus on things that make you feel good vs. things that don't.
16 weeks along with my second. Thank you for making this video and being so very real as usual. I journeyed with you since your PPD video when I was in the thick of it, so I'm so appreciative that you're also sharing this perspective. That last pep talk at the end of the video encouraged me immensely!
I love how you talk about priorities. It’s so true that self care & things that make you happy & fulfilled are very important when your a mom. You have a list a mile long to complete everyday & some things will get left undone. WHICH IS OK! Sometimes I have a hard time with this but I know it’s true. (Dishes are the same for me, they can wait if it’s that type of day).
Thank you so much! I’m pregnant with my second now and I have been waiting for this video 😂❤️
Wow this is a video I did not realize I needed to see!!! Thanks 💕
Yay! Thank god for this video! I'm 6 months pregnant with a 2 year old and this is SO helpful ♥️
This is a great video! Thank you for the honesty and advice. We will be having our second baby boy next month and our son will be turning 2. I am very excited but nervous for the transition and appreciate your transparency in this video. ❤️
So true about the little moments with two kids, before your second comes along you imagine doing little dates with your first and making a really big thing of it but your kids need you more than they need a fancy date with mom or a new toy. Loved the vid, thanks 🧡
I enjoyed this video!especially the way you ended it! I needed that positivity,especially coming from a fellow mama!
Thank you so much, I really needed to hear all this. I’m co-sleeping with my 23 month old and am due in October and I have been so nervous about switching him to his own room
Loved and needed this ❤️❤️❤️
I loved this video! Hoping to start ttc #2 soon so very helpful!
I think you will appreciate the close gap once the fully start playing together. It is a blessing. You just have to keep your ears open to make sure they don't get into fights, but they will play better and share better.
Honestly I love how truthful you are about parenthood. 🙌🏼🥰 I just had my second son in 2020 and I feel like the energy with what’s going on in the world and balancing two kids is a lot of work. Speaking for myself but I feel unmotivated to self care these days but makeup is a sense of distraction for me.
I feel like maybe I should do a video on this on my channel for mamas on self care. The mom guilt always kicks in when we do that one something for ourselves.
Anyways love your authenticity💗💗💗
Great video. Really agree with a lot of what you said! I have a 3.5 yr old and an 8 month old and totally agree that it’s been quite a challenge (and yes, harder as the little one keeps acquiring new tricks!) We also put both boys in a room together and I kind of went cold Turkey on that one, starting the day after Christmas because - yup, lock down over Christmas got me feeling like I needed my bedroom back! 👍
Im a girl mamma of two ages 1 and 4 and we only moved them into the same room 5months ago when they were 18 months and 3 years and our oldest was the lightest sleeper and was so particular with her sleeping environment i thought for sure her little sister would wake her up all night and she did the first 2 nights but she adjusted so quickly! Now when the little one wakes up and might cry really loud she will sleep right through it. And vise versa if the older one wakes up the little one sleeps right through it. They really do adjust very quickly ❤
This video couldn’t come as a better time, just found out I’m expecting my second child and my daughter is 8 months old ! Love you Olivia thank you for everything!!!
And this comment couldn’t come as a better time!! I have an 8 month older and just found out in pregnant too!! 🥺🥺 best of luck mama! I’m sure we are not the only ones
That was me this fall! We did plan on having the two babies close, but I didn't expect I would be able to get pregnant so fast. Good luck! I think it's going to be a beautiful thing to have our kids so close but I think it will be difficult the first few years to rein in to boys!
I was (or still am) in the same boat. I found out this past June I am pregnant with baby #2. My son was 8 months old at the time. Now he’s almost 15 months & baby girl is due February 24th!! 🥰 Scary transition but I am soo excited to meet her 💕 Congratulations on your pregnancy!!
@@CrystalRichardson6684 Nice! It's going to be busy but fun!
Awww congratulations💕💕 you must just be about to have your baby/just gave birth, how’s everything been going? I’m 6 and a half weeks pregnant with my second and my son is 15 months old, so exciting!
Thank you so much for this video!!
I have been looking forward to this video so much! Just had my second boy and they have a 24 month gap.
Thank you! Have a 2 year old son and now a two week old son! Didn't anticipate how hard 2 would be, and being in quarantine is rough
Thanks so much for filming this Olivia!! My boys will be two years and nine months apart, and I was kind of freaking out a bit because I want them to be close and able to play together and share toys. I wanted them closer together, but God had other plans for our family. It makes me feel better after considering your point of view, where with a slightly older child you can talk to them more and explain what will happen with baby brother.
Thank you so much for this realllll video. I am pregnant with my second and my son & daughter will be 23ish months apart too. I am so so nervous especially with the pandemic and working from home but this made me hopeful!
This hit home for me. I am pregnant with my 2nd child. The girls will be 3 years apart. The last year along with covid and all of us managing as a family sounds very familiar to your story. Thanks for sharing. Very encouraging!
Thanks for sharing, in 4 weeks I am giving birth to my second and my first is going to be just 25months older so I will def. try to take the tips to help him get used to the idea!
Thank you for making this! My little one is 15 months and my husband and I have been talking a lot about when to TTC again. We also don't have any extra childcare due to covid, so it's a very similar situation to yours. Lots to consider! I appreciate hearing your experience :)
Loved this!
I have a son who just turned two in September and a daughter who turned one in November and I’m 31 weeks pregnant with my second daughter due in early March, so I completely feel you! Mom guilt is so real.
I will say that I think without covid forcing us to stay home constantly i think it would have been much easier this year. Just getting out can do a lot for a mamas mental health. Not to mention the interaction our toddlers have missed out on! Since being pregnant again I have been in such a funk mentally because I’m having to be extra extra careful and basically hibernate 😂 and with just me and my husband taking care of two 14 months apart it has been something that’s for sure!
Thinking about you guys and I always love how real you keep it! 💪🏻💗
Thank you for sharing! We have a toddler and we are expecting our 2nd in June, so definitely helps hearing about your experience. I’m trying to mentally prepare now!
How did it go?
Enjoyed the video, thank you!
38 weeks with baby boy #2 and watching this at 5 am because I can’t sleep 😆
love your lil family! also really go video to watch and will keep this in mind for when I have baby #2 (if I ever do hehe)
You're my hero!!! 2 kids and no support props to you and your husband!
Very useful video thank you!
Thank you for this video, Olivia! We’ve a 6.5 month old daughter and my husband and I just found out at that we’re expecting our second kid. They’ll be about 15 months apart. Exciting but also scary.
I love the video, cutest little boys.
I needed this! Just had my 2nd son on 9th and oldest son is 18 months.
I completely appreciate your honesty. Currently 8 months preggers with my 2nd & I want to cry when I think about 2 whole kids😂😂. But I'll be fine lol
Thank you for being honest! My baby is a couple weeks older than Arlo and we’ve been talking about what type of age gap we’d like for the 2nd. Now I’m leaning towards 2.5+
I have an 13 month old and im expecting baby no 2 ...so excited and cant wait to watch them together so close in age
Perfect timing, I’m 37 weeks pregnant with my second boy, they will be 18/19 months apart!
Olivia I love your content so much! I can truly relate to so much. I have been struggling with finding time to do the things that make me happy because I’m so focused on caring for my kids. Lately I find myself getting more impatient than normal and I just had a convo with my partner a few days ago about needing more time for myself to still feel like my own individual that matters and has needs! So true! When I take the time to shower and get myself dressed& put my make up on for the day (even if I’m not going anywhere) it just makes me feel better and I’m able to have a more productive day! Thank you for sharing. Feels nice to know others are going through the same thing as I am. Also I have a question about Arlo.. when you go to put him and Christian to bed at night, do you have to nurse Arlo until he falls asleep and then put him in his crib or do you just lay him in his crib, tuck him in and he falls asleep on his own? Just curious because I’m looking to transition my baby girl into her crib soon from our bed (she turned one today!!!!) and I nurse her to sleep every night.. then basically nurse her off and on all night long just like you said 😭😭 so I’m worried the transition is going to be ROUGH! One time I tried to lay her in her crib after nursing her to sleep and as soon as I went to lay her down into the crib she woke right up! Once she realized where she was she screamed bloody murder, so I just brought her back to bed with us !!!!
Everyone I know who has this 21 to 24 month age gap always says it is very difficult, but they think it'll be good for them when they are older. I was originally planning this type of gap because my brother and I were 3 years apart and we never were close, I think it was too far apart. But man, I don't know if I can mentally do the 2 year ish gap from what mama's are saying. I struggled a bit mentally with just one lol. Loved this video, thank you! You are so right, self care is so important. I relate to you do much mama!
My son is 15 months old and my second is due on the 24th of April 2022 so I will have two under two for a month the same as you did, I’m excited but nervous!
Great video, great timing, I'm due with baby #2 in March (and will have 2 under for a few months!). Wishing you and your family all the best, Cheers from the UK! :)
How did it go??
I love the 3 years gap. Our first is 3 and we have a two months old now. The three year old perfectly understands what is going on and is always willing to help with bottle, changes and play time with his little brother. My husband and I want one more and we’ll probably do the 3 year gap again. It’s much easier that way. Also going through the same thing of having no family support or daycare. Just my husband and I working together 🥰
My girl just turned 3 and I’m due with baby brother in 2 months and I’m so nervous but I can see how she is more independent and vocal and I hope it’s a good transition.
Thank you for this! My kiddos will be 18 months apart! I have a son and I am due with a baby girl in April :) very nervous!!
How is there a dislike already? It’s 3 minutes in bor off you haters! There should be a support button only!
RIGHT?! WHO dislikes these videos?! LOL RUDEEEEE
Thank you for making this video! I just had my second baby (a boy) 12 days ago, and my daughter is currently going on 20 months. The mom guilt is real! Thank you for your advice on handing that. Sometimes we just need a reminder that we're doing the best we can. My husband has been home for the past year as well because of COVID and I have definitely appreciated having him to lean on. Your video came at the perfect time! Thank you again! ❤❤❤
How did things go after this?? Did things get easier.... And when? 😄
@DB haha It DID get easier! At some point, I realized that I can't do it all, so now I just do my best. Some days are better than others, but overall, you know you're doing the best job you can for your kids and that's enough. 🥰 the mom guilt does subside eventually. My little boy is 2 now and my daughter is almost 4! It's a lot with two toddlers but it's worth it. I know they are happy and loved, and that's the most important thing.
This couldn’t have come at a better time cause I just had my second who is 2 weeks old and it has been a challenge having a newborn and a toddler.
Your hair looks beautiful, any changes? Secrets?
I admire you as a mom of 2 under 2 so much for all the love, thoughts and work you are putting in. I've just read a great book (maybe you know it too), it is called "5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman and it is some awesome mind changing stuff.
I feel ya. My twins are 6 months and their big brother is 26 months older. Quarantine with 3 under 3 has not exactly been easy.
girl we salute you. wishing you some rest and alone time :)
Thank you. I’m enjoying that moment now ❤️ Your kind words are appreciated probably more than you know.
This video is so helpful, my baby just turned 10 months old and I'm already starting to get that itch to try for another one but I'm not going to lie, being a first time mom is super challenging and I just want to know how other moms handle the transition from one baby to two.
I love the color of the wall in that nursery!! What is it called??
Your family is so cute! I was hoping for a video like this as well! We have an almost 8 month old but definitely want a second baby in the future!
Any tips and tricks for potty training with 2 under 2 plus daycare?!
Can you do. A video on how you handle temper tantrums w 2 under 2 and a day in the life w 2 kids like there schedule a ect from morning to night
Thanks for this video! I have a 6 month old and I am trying to figure out the best age gap between this baby and our next. What is your workout routine? I am trying to get back in shape after having baby six months ago!
My babies are 22 months and 9 months ... so 1 year apart... now that my toddler is almost 2 I can see why it’s been hard for you guys (toddlers are a full time job lol)... and ours goes to daycare lol ... I think a 1 year difference was easy for us bc they were both still babies and now they are literally growing up together, my daughter is catching up quick lol.
I'm 36 weeks pregnant and super nervous about having another baby. I'm scared about falling behind on the things I spend time teaching our daughter, worried about her feeling neglected or jealous. She hugs my belly, she's SO excited to have a little brother. She talks about wanting him to be in "this world" and how much she just can't wait to show him everything. She helps me with the boy I was looking after [until last week] and changes his diaper with me, she hardly even needs me to help her lmao, even though she's only three.
AND OMG the first time she felt the baby have hiccups, it CLICKED that there was actually a baby in my belly. I saw her face light up like a Christmas tree, she beamed and said, "HE HAS HICCUPS LIKE ME!"
I think the jealousy will kick in, like you say, more when the baby can emote and bond back with you. But who knows. I'm trying to take the stance that it's totally normal and it's my role to help her through that. It may be really hard, so I'm nervous.
I think that every age gap has its own challenges. Also the child’s personality can determine how difficult or easy the transition may be.
My baby doesn't wake up my toddler either. Both of my boys (age 3 months and 3 years old) have their cribs in our room. It's working out great. My baby also sleeps through the loud noise of my toddler. 🥰💙💙
The vid is very helpful! I'm 37w and we will also have the 23m gap 😅🥴I've been waiting for vids like this bc I'm NERVOUS 😂😭
I had 2 under 2. My advice is get that baby sleep trained. It will give you sooooo much more time with you older child. I sleep trained my second at 3 months. Best decision i ever made
@@Motherhood-Decor my almost 2yo slept through the night by 2.5months old and was on a schedule so I'm really hoping I can get that done with this baby too 😂.
I'm due in April with baby boy #2 and my first baby is only going to be 17 months by then. I have watched this video twice now just to reassure myself that everything is going to be fine 😂
How did it go!?
@@katiemcsweeney4248 Great! I’m actually having baby boy #3 in March! Two under two is challenging at first, but once the newborn stage is over, it gets so fun. The two boys are little best friends now 💕
My babies are gonna be 13 months apart, #2 isn’t here yet but shortly will be! ❤️
Just in time! I have a toddler and I'm pregnant 😌
Congratulations 👏👏 and me too ❤ my daughter is 13 months now and I'm due in July 2024
Olivia how was Arlos sleep before you moved him into his own room? Did you feel that him being in a different room would settle him? I have a 7 month old in a cot in my room who doesn’t sleep. My husband would love to move him into his own room but I’m reluctant since I’m getting up so often in the night 🤔
My kids are 24 months apart and I was NOT prepared for the challenges of my toddler. He has a ton of energy and is super destructive. If I could go back I probably would have gone for more 2 and a half to 3 years. Terrible twos are so real lol and I struggle with giving my toddler the same amount of attention as my 3 month old. I’m lucky my new born is really good and chill, I don’t know what I would do if I had a colicky baby 😩😩😩
Are your kids usually sleeping while you’re working out or with your husband?
Thank you so much for this video! I’m watching as I nurse my 1 month old and read to my 22 month old 😅 I wish I came across your video sooner.. I feel so understood. 🩷