Am I wrong for telling my gf shes a gold digger after she refused a pre nup
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- čas přidán 16. 03. 2024
- Am I wrong for telling my gf shes a gold digger after she refused a pre nup
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Now, I ain't sayin' she a gold digger
But she ain't messin' with no broke -
Pre nup is a must in any relationship especially if you are a business owner or come from a family of wealth. It is nothing personal it is just to ensure both parties are protected.
Then why do pre-nups only protect the man? I dare you, to reply in a civil manner.
@@user-hk2fc4jv2g because the men end up losing a lot more in the case of a divorce, you numb nuts.
a man tirelessly works and provides for a family only for a woman to fuck it up and then the courts help her take 50 percent of his shit that he put blood sweat and tears Into creating over 15-20 yr period, why.because she decided she wanted to stay at home and. 'take care of the kids and house'. she went carrying a child on her fucking back while walking 15 miles to the river to wash clothes with her fucking hand.
First off, TRADITIONALLY the bride pays for the wedding
Isn’t it traditionally the bride’s parents?? Not the bride herself.
well duh, how would the property of her parents own any money?@@iridescence51
@@iridescence51true
Are you aware that this is the 21st century? Old 'traditions' like that have no place in the modern worlds
@@user-hk2fc4jv2g there is no place for you aswell in this this generation or the next
I mean, if she gon argue bout that, the answer is pretty clear.
Bro , run.
Everyone should know, prenups are not an effective safety net. All the person who signed it has to do is say they felt pressured into it and 99/100 times it will get thrown out. Still, I recommend getting one because refusing to sign one is an easy way to tell that you shouldn't build a life with that person.
Dont get married to her, that pren up can be tossed so easily. Saying it was manipulation and und stress while signing.
A financial advisor against a prenup is a red flag.
No, you were right, because she obviously is one.
If OP's quote is correct "it's unfair to deny any part of it as her wife". Does the fiance realize what a prenup is?
Don't apologise and don't marry her. Consider yourself lucky you saw this glaring red flag BEFORE you married her.
A pre-nup doesn't take a penny away from your wife. It takes money away from your ex-wife.
Half a million on a wedding....
No way. 😂
Prenup or Nothing. Her being spoiled and entitled is not your fault.
Prenup for the win! My wife signed our prenup without hesitation. Been married 32 years now.
Not to say he is wrong for asking for a prenup, but calling her a gold digger right off does make him an a-hole. People need time to process requests like that. The initial response to a prenup for a lot of ppl is no, but some come around after a few conversations. From my experience, people have a limited view of prenups and don’t understand how it can protect and be customized to fit the husband’s and wife’s needs. I wonder if the OP even understandings considering how poorly he introduced the topic, seems like it wasn’t even a thought of his until his parents placed the idea in his head. Did he even think about the physical and emotional details of a prenup beyond “prenup mean my money, is my money”? Maybe she could have came around, but calling your partner names because they didn’t give the response you wanted, will push them away and make them defensive instead of receptive.
As Cypher said to Neo: RUN! You run your a$$ off!
Bride's parents pay for the wedding!😮
WTF!!??!!
Tell me which wedding cost 400k it will be a surprise if it reach 40k
The whole wedding part of this story is retarted. $400k for a wedding is ridiculous. But from what it sounds like, when he got a different planner she seemed to accept it. As for the Prenump. Those are mainly used to protect the assets that one of the partners had before building together. From what it sounds like, everything they had they got during their 5 year relationship, including the way he allowed himself to be the main bread winner. So yes, he is the asshole for suggesting that she suddenly isn't part of that. If he had that job/money beforehand it would be different.
Disagree. Red flags were raised when she threw a fit about her $400k wedding, then tried to shame him into compliance. He was right to protect himself. Self preservation is not abuse.
@@SnerMerNer yeah, the protection at that point would have been to leave. You don't use a prenup to protect against crazy. It's to protect preexisting assets. But yes she is a gold digger that was called out on it, bitched about it, then gave in.
@@nathanquintanal3353 they used the prenup to find out she crazy and then say shit about how he should have left instead of get a prenup
I don’t think you’re wrong about the prenup, however, you shot yourself in the foot by being her coin purse through the whole relationship. You need to set realistic expectations from the get go.
Second, you also should never plan a wedding without a budget. She did agree to that smaller one. and I also agree that she should not have been asking for that much for a wedding, But you should’ve given her that smaller budget at the start so that you both know what you’re spending.
Exactly. The OP spoiled her rotten and didn't have a conversation until it was too late. That's why it's hard for us to feel alot of sympathy. He's as much as the problem as she is.
I had one other comment. I had an ex that i spoiled and she she told me once that she didnt want to become the kind of girlfriend that took my hand and put it on her head rather than have me give her head scratches. To me that meant that she wasnt gonna expect spoils but she wouod appreciate them. To bad i spoiled her in ways that most guys wouldnt for 3 years while gettint nothing myself. Dont give more than what u receive is ny best advice.
Women are strong, independent, and capable, and do not need to be 'spoiled'. Women are not infants.
But in this case if a woman is the one "producing" the child why is the man having half of the rights. Im the one having my body destroyed, work life balande destroyed end prospects of future men. Why take half of the kid that I made.
it doesnt matter, how little you make, as long as you can put a percentage for things that are for BOTH, nobody should be that greedy with their own money, you are going to enjoy the wedding aswell wtf
What are you babbling about? First, learn how to use punctuation properly. Second, the guy is absolutely right. She's demanding access to all of his resources for something as insipid and ridiculous as a $400,000 wedding--seriously, who does she think she is, the Duchess of York? For that money, they could have a nice $50,000 wedding and buy a nice $350,000 starter home. To PlSS that kind of money away on a wedding is lDlOTlC unless your name is Elon Musk or Mark Zuckerburg. So, hell yeah he should be insisting on a prenup.
So, dude sets up his relationship a certain way and gets mad when she rolls with it, then suddenly wants a prenup and shit? How bout having a grownup conversation about finances with her? Yeah she went crazy with wedding costs cause as far as she knew you were rolling in it and it wouldn't be a big deal. I get where hes coming from but this is giving off real "women bad" energy.
I dno man 400k on a wedding is completely ridiculous. "You're a man it's your duty", even if he kept spoiling her etc she's clearly just after his money. That's not a relationship.
After a 5 year relationship she should know he is not "rolling in it"
I don't think so. He's still coming off very blue-pilled, but I tell you what--he's getting RPed pretty damn fast.
@@Yue_Jin He says in the story that she agreed with changing the wedding though....
He did have a grownup conversation about finances with her. That is what telling her he wanted a prenup was. She then revealed that she is, in fact, a gold-digger. Honest women don't refuse to sign a prenup or get angry about it. She may negotiate the terms to protect her legitimate interests, but she does not refuse or get angry.