I Called Off My Wedding After My Entitled Fiancé Invited My Abusive Father, Who Neglected and Aba..
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- čas přidán 15. 04. 2024
- 00;00 1st story:
AITA for calling off my engagement because my ex-fiancé invited my dad to our wedding? (u/PracticalWill7046 in r/AITAH)
11:59 2nd story:
I am done, and I'm am heartbroken. I have no one. (u/throwraforgotten in r/offmychest)
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I told y’all when someone tells you they don’t mess with certain family members, believe them …it’s for a reason! Everybody’s life ain’t always peaches and cream, people!
Yep i would be ticked of bad. It would definitely be up for complete cut off from me
and the flip side of that, when someone shows you who they are believe them. Glad she got rid of that trashy ex fiance not worth the time to disrespect her like that!
@@heffa3821ex should consider himself blessed...a petty bish would have taken his crap and dropped it off at her dad's house since he likes the old man so much. They could be roommates 😉
I don't understand why boundaries are so hard for people to respect. You are speaking the same language. You heard this person communicate their boundary, and all you have to do is respect it. That's free and painless. I don't get it.
@@blessedcutie8983 Yes, people here (extended family) don't like me because I don't feed into the gossip and really don't care who screws who I just focus on me LOL let them say I'm snobbish or whatever, no stress for me let their drama filled lives continue to make them feel whatever keep me out of it LOL
Story 1: OP dodged a bullet.
The ex has a saviour complex and didnt give a crap about OP feelings at all.
Story 2: "Sorry for making you feel that way" has the same energy as "cry about it" She literally only cares because her cushy lifestyle is in danger
Exactly, its pure deflection of action and the pain they've caused to someone and making it their fault
I just have a gut feeling that she has or had someone on the side.
I could be wrong, i hope i am
I thought she said “Sorry that you feel that way” which to me is much, much worse.
@@juliearmfield2634 I don't think she does, I mean it seems to obvious from a story like this but it just seems like losing OP's mother made the family go distant
I find it interesting how not once in the story did anyone try to make up Father's Day and his birthday to OP.
Instead the wife keeps talking about herself and how selfish OP is for having feelings. Continuing to ignore his needs when he talks. It's honestly absolutely ridiculous.
There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've found out that there's always a way to fix things. Five years ago, my wife and I were almost divorcing because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to sort them out. It was a tough period, but we survived.
Moving on from someone you hold dear is invariably challenging, but in my experience, I was guided by a spiritual counselor who prevented the breakdown of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
You definitely should
That last story always kills me inside a bit
I almost cried for the 2nd story
This is bizarre. Almost every other story like this about spouses inviting abusive estranged relatives are usually perpetrated by the future wife.
Stupidity is unisex
@doubleedge2422 This is a top tier comment!
I got a feeling the ex in story 1 is Mormon. They have some truly sick ideas about forgiving family no matter what
@@BonTonBunny I'm a latter day saint and i believe there is no pity for a weak mindset set yourself forward and ignore them
Whats with people to give ultimatums as a bluff!? Its like gambling with a money you dont have!
Or threatening someone with a weapon that isn't on your person or anywhere remotely close to being in your possession
I honestly don't understand the whole concept of having bad parents is better than having no parents.
Nope nope nope... my brother said that when our mom drank herself to death the best thing she ever did was to leave us the fuck alone... It meant she couldn't torture us anymore...sad but true.
Well, if you believe the world is always sunshine and rainbows i guess you'd think they'd change "in the nick of time" and then it'll be happy ever after after that in which case, they need a hard slap of reality
The ex-fiancé in the first story was ultimately no different than OP’s “father”. He was deceitful, manipulative, and disrespectful. Glad that she dumped him and completely cut contact with her sperm donor.
OP in the second story needs to get it together. The fact that he still has doubts and is miserable shows that he needs to cut his losses and end the marriage. This is no way to live.
amen to that... the wife already checked out and had the moment of "only know you love her when you let her go🎶" ahh moment... so does the older daughters... he should leave with the 30% he had left and build himself again... when youre down only way is uo
The only person i like in story 2 is the little 11 yo daughter. She is a little angel. To me, it seems that the rest of them are just worried about what they may lose in a divorce or appearances. Especially the wife. He def needs to divorce her. She's definitely manipulating the kids. The older kids treated him like an after thought. Like oh where's dad? He's not at my game. Seems like they only noticed or cared when others mentioned it. Doesn't seem sincere. This story just gave me the ick. Feel sorry for OP.
I think that the fiancé was going to be like the dad
I think that was a possibility
Second story broke my heart. I remember hearing this one, as well as similar ones, on other channels, and the comments were filled with "dad is an AH for abandoning the kids. Girls did nothing wrong!!!" which I felt missed the point.
true.. the 11F daughter might be off the hook but the other two arent... they only wake up after their come to Jesus moment.. but for the wife... if their role were reverse their older daughter would advice her to leave him...
@@mr.g1578 my main concern with the statement wasn't really towards which girl should be blamed, but that the dad's right to have emotions, be depressed, or his willingness to live was being undermined by the hierarchy of his duty as a father. In other words, the idea that men are protectors and providers first and foremost, and humans maybe as a 5th rank consideration.
Even the 11 year old would have heard about Father's Day a bunch at school, so there should be no excuse to ignore their dad/husband, so his leaving should be seen as empowering, just like it would be had the roles been reversed... yet people put more care about how his actions might have hurt the girls than if he even had the mindset to keep them safe in the first place.
Story 1: OP dodged a bullet. You shouldn't marry someone who disregards your feelings and makes decisions that affect you without discussing it with you.
Fiance stomped her boundaries, like her feelings don't count. Imagine what it would be like if they married.
Story 1: What irked me off the most was how the ex got “furious” that OP didn’t want to “bury the hatchet”. Sir that is not your relationship or business to get into. Dude has a huge savior complex that he needs to look into for his next relationship. Why am I not surprised that the ex lied to his family? Glad OP broke it off, ex has caused too much hurt to her to even consider “going to counseling and try again”
If fiancé hasn't put you first, at this point in your relationship, it wont get better, it will get worse.
Story 1: I heard a similar story which was basically the genderbend equivalent to this same story but diff genders anyway glad OP got out of that situation
Story 2: Jeez that got dark glad that OP is safe and his family is going back to normal
Spouses that do this show they have a hint of abuse in themselves RIGHT THERE or are abuse apologists.
You set a clear boundary to protect yourself mentally, emotionally, and physically.
They looked at that and said, "Nah, OP is just being dramatic. They're family, after all. Surely they can forgive the past?."
Your spouse is NC with 'family' for a reason. Unless they have done some shady things that require you to 'snoop' as to why they are NC, worried they're not who they say they are, you hire P.I. NOT go to the suspected abuser and take THEIR WORD.
It's also a really good test for abusers to see how strong their partner's spine really is when they say they have a boundary or that someone is cut off.
When ppl say you must be exaggerating or lying when they hear your story that gives me pause. Bc it is revealing. It makes me ask "when did YOU tell these lies to get whatever reaction/thing/outcome you wanted?" Bc who thinks like that. That details of abuse are lies ppl tell to just get things or whatever. Is this a confession? I think we need to start saying this to ppl who don't get it. Bc it can be absolutely true that they are showing who THEY are. Remember the story of the sis who helped her brother ditch his wedding bc the fiancée invited their abusive mom and her family to the wedding? The multitude of updates that showed the brother had dodged a nuke and was about to marry his mother, yikes! They were 2 peas in a pod and he had ignored all the red flags. Or the story of the SIL who invited OPs abusive sis in order to force a reconciliation. The one with the restraining order? The multitude of updates on that story where 4 family members amongst others turned out to be just like OPs family? It was sick!
The stories where the SO is always so condescending and arrogant about the OPs trauma and past. It's disgusting. And shows that many abuse victims are not able to tell that they have walked right into a relationship with their abusers bc what they experience for the first time usually is the BEGINNING of such a toxic abusive relationship. The love-bombing part etc... When they were younger the love-bombing was over and the entitled abusive behavior was all they knew. So when they get older the tactics used to get a victim is NOT part of their database and they find out the hard way.
This is why you get therapy. Bc a Therapist can help you know the signs of an abusive person. For too many victims they are perpetually a child who only sees the world in black and white. This person is bad/mean. This person is nice/good. And they don't get the concept of The Criminal Blend. You don't go to Therapists bc you're crazy. You go to therapists bc OTHER PPL are crazy and due to the Criminal Blend YOU. NEED. INFORMATION. to help navigate and spot the fakes. And learn how to get out of a sticky situation when some of these ppl have managed to entangle you or are trying to. Therapists can talk to you about where things lead to so you can protect yourself better. They aren't just human diaries or for "looneys" or just for broken ppl. Myb do homework on Therapists BEFORE you say you/no one needs them. They have steered ppl to justice, lawyers, cops, proper channels to go thru to get resolutions. AWAY from certain decisions that can have social, economical and legal repercussions for someone who is already the victim or a person trying to make amends bc THEY are the abuser. A Therapist is a GREAT Resource to turn to BEFORE you take action/have that hard conversation so you can know possible outcomes or if you are under or overreacting to a situation. They can help you navigate and prepare for many eventualities. THEN you can see what you're going to do. They aren't some sort of control freaks with a title and a high cost for you to access. No one is going to see that PRIVATE Google you did to make sure your views on therapy/therapists/mental health is valid or accurate. So no pride lost if you actually educate yourself.
Story 2: OP underplays the effect on him of his mother's death, and does not say whether it was sudden or expected. That seems to be about the time his wife felt she was "losing" him. Could his grief have morphed into depression? If so, the American obsession with "therapy" for everything may not be serving him well. It's better than nothing, but may not be the answer.
Story 1: OP you did the right thing by dumping your ex. Cut off contact with all of your ex’s family. Sorry but even his mother. If you contact her, the other will have your number.
Story 2, leave the family. Cut off contact. They don't care about you. Just fulfill your financial obligations to the kids and just go. Block everyone and get therapy. Maybe very LC with the kids. At least until they prove themselves. Extensive therapy. Wife is probably cheating. Kids are worried about what they'll have to lose. Wife is mamipulative.
I remember story 2.
Story 1: Carless, lol, I know it's meant to be careless, but carless also works in this situation.
Last story....i get why he felt how he felt, and hia family let him down. But it also feels like he's at the point of self sabotage a little bit.
Story #2 I do think op wife was cheating, my heart breaks for him . I think he should get away from them for a while and take care of himself. He can do so much better,they don’t deserve him.
Story 2: wife said OP checked out first after his mother's death. Ive seen this first hand after death so Im inclined to believe thats what started the family breakdown. I hope they find each other again.
Story 2 is a bleak glimpse into what it is to be a man in this day and age.
why does the ai struggle so much with numbers?
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It may have something to do with an American law about keeping children's data private, but doing this is overkill if we don't get real names or addresses either.
@@faithlesshound5621 why tf would we need their adresses...
@@miataveras2321 If MAGA Hat-wearers wanted to identify individual children, name and location would narrow the choice down enough, and without those age alone would not be sufficient for them to target death threats.
S2 that guy is makimg his. communcation issue about totally about wife. Just like you were going through deep so was your wife. Prolly full body changes for her. Like dood. Instead of meltdown go to couples. If yous wantes to bone go to couples all tools there no meltdown needed. Shes prolly just premenpause
Thats no excuse to blatantly ignore his birthday, fathers day, and generally act as if he doenst exist. There was a similar story where the guy hearing wife and two daughters arguing about something and totally ignoring him, just bailed. He walked away, became a kind of hermit for a while, got a new job, and just left them all to their own devices. (Easy to say when you arent in his place but this guy should consider doing that rather than drag out this farce of a marriage. Every "nice' thing his wife does now even if ist froma complete place of wanting to do that, he'll be thinking "hmm is she just saying that so she keeps her cushy marriage"? .
and OP just does the girl mistake of talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talk rather than actually do anything of real consequence
Second is pure anti-woman rage bait.
It is baffling the amount of people foaming at the mouth making "she's definitely cheating" accusations, especially since there's no evidence...
From what I read a lot of that story occurred due to a cocktail of deteriorating mental health and poor communication skills.
If op was a woman and her spouse was a man, would you call this anti man rage?
@@ChrissaTodd yea
honestly blaming someone for your suicidal thoughts and actions is being a asshole now this op is traumatizing his family after he lost his mother he should have been responsible to get him self in to gerif therapy he shouldn’t have put it on his family at all he damaged there family him and him alone his irresponsibly asuounds me
So you have all this to say about op but not the wife or family? Also nice victim blaming bro :)
Yikes victim blaming bs
Yeh absolutely its his fault they ignored fathers day and went to a spa, its his fault they totally all forgot (or worse ignored) his birthday, etc. /s
This story made me cry. How horrible it is to be feeling so unloved by your spouse and children. I hope he finds himself again and his family learns to appreciate his contribution to this family! How can you forget father day and birthday? Talk about detachment from your spouse!
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