how to recover from an eating disorder in a diet obsessed world
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💌 timestamps:
0:00 - intro
1:47 - society and diet culture
5:29 - family and friends on diets
8:46 - social media triggers
10:09 - others with an eating disorder
14:28 - outro
pro tip for instagram triggers: i know for me, when i go through a rough patch, i start spiralling down a rabbit hole on my explore page and click on a bunch of posts that are triggering, but instagram sadly will keep pushing that type of posts after that on the explore page!!! so therefore, i really recommend going through a few scrolls and clicking on ‘not interested’ or ‘ dont recommend me posts like these’ so you can stay away from these posts, even after a rough patch :) hope this helps someone
yes yes yes !!!!! meant to mention that !!!!!
You could also just delete Instagram, it's very helpful
I find body positivity pages so helpful too!! Seeing ALL different types of bodies, cellulite, stretch marks, scars, hair etc has really helped me accept my body and i do NOT follow any pages that are triggering.
I’ve never thought of my body being similar to a plant, but the idea that it needs the same basic needs (water, food, sunlight, etc) is so mind changing! It honestly made me question my entire thought pattern. Your body needs fuel to flourish, just the same as flowers would. This is such a sweet message🥺 thank you ro
i’m so glad it helped, sending love x
currently trying to recover. it’s so hard, feeling like i’m not “sick enough”, like i’m not underweight enough to deserve recovery. food guilt, body dysmorphia the list goes on. as a victim of csa the restricting was a way to cope and a way to stay emotionally stunted and numb. the hardest thing is trying to love my body right now, when i really truly hate it, thank u for posting this. i also follow u on instagram and ur posts always help me. sending love
yes, i get this. and i feel similarly. what is the measure? is it just if you think you have an ED that you do? or is it a medical diagnosis? i feel like i crossed a line psychologically, but my "metrics" are within "normal" range
I know, I used to feel the same way all the time and still sometimes do, but that's the Eating Disorder talking. I want you to know that you're gorgeous just the way you are and that it takes time to be okay with (or even love) your body. I'm also in recovery and I'm learning that along the way. Some days I dislike what I see in the mirror and other days I can accept my body. Idk if you believe in God, but what's helped me get so far in recovery is God. And realizing that he created me this way has helped me to know that the way I look isn't a mistake. I don't know where you're at now, since you wrote this a year ago, but I want you to know you are not alone, and you CAN get through this.
You know something? I was chatting to my friend today (who has as far as I’m aware an extremely healthy relationship with food ) and she actually was thinking that things like protein products are unhealthy because they’re ‘so artificial.’ And yet I see other people on social media who act like if u don’t have it with every meal then you’ll keel over and die ! Health is so subjective , it’s different for everyone 💫♥️
true ! :)
Dear Ro, I am a mental health nurse in Denmark. The patients and I often talk about your video's and how we admire your content.
Our patients express how you inspire them on their path to recovery. Thank you so much for that🙏. You are truly a very strong and inspiring young woman and you have an important impact.
I would greatly appreciate it, if you could give the patients admitted to ED day treament in Roskilde Denmark, a shoutout in your next video. I would love if you sent our awesome girls some words of encouragement in there battle against Anorexia.
Thank you for all your hard work, honesty and great content.
Take care😊
@@roxxandra aww thanks ❤
how u manage to post these videos exactly when i need them is incredible 😭❤️💕
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I'm here for you 💕💕
same here it’s crazy
Yes...im in recovery at the moment... they wanted me to be hospitalised because so bad... I've asked not to because I have 2 kids on my own. I have loads of help from mum and sis with my girls luckily 💕 but I'm still going to therapy, weekly visits for weight check, taking all my pills and medication they give me and I drink myself the special extra calorie intake formula they usually give you in hospital via tube..
I've only started this a month ago.. its hard..but it does feel easier day by day if you insist on fighting for your goal... you've always helped with your videos and seeing your progress and results has made things easier for me...so thankyou ♥️♥️♥️♥️
Literslly 💀💀💀
Litteraly this has helped me so much. Being constantly triggered by everyone and everything around me is my biggest challenge during recovery, and recently my friend has engadged in a really disordered mindsets, and I really don't know how to deal with it. I love him but it is so hard, so thank you for this, your videos help me very much
i’m so so glad it helped ☁️✨
This reminds me of a few of my mantras:
“If it takes effort to maintain then you’re not meant to be there”
And megsy’s saying “your body’s weight is your body’s business”
“A serving size is an amount of food that satisfies your physical and mental hunger, not an arbitrary measurement”
Cravings serve a purpose. Honour them.
I’ve never actually commented on a video before, I’ve always been very hesitant to open up about my own anorexia recovery journey. But this video came at such a good time, I have been struggling with this for the past few months. Something that really helped me to stop comparing, or stop trying to live by the same diet rules as society was this: anyone who is restricting, trying to live in a smaller body to appeal beautiful and perfect for society they aren’t happy. You can never be happy that way. By choosing to eat, to nourish myself, to eat foods that bring me joy, to have a happy and healthy functioning body-that is true happiness. It isnt’ easy by any means, its so hard to break free of those diet culture rules and habits. But just reminding yourself that you deserve to be happy and that you are beautiful the way you are will help. It’s hard but we can do this, please keep going xx and thank you for this video and just your channel in general, you have no idea just how inspirational you are to all of us.
God bless you honey. 🤗
Wow I’m sitting here with tears in my eyes🥺🥺 tysm for this, I literally screenshotted it to remind myself of this😩🫶🏼🫶🏼
omg my heart❤️🩹❤️🩹 thank you for that words!
Hello Ro, I just wanted to say that you are the person who made me want to recover from my ED. This summer has been the worst patch in my entire life and all the scary changes just reinforced my behaviours. Then I discovered your channel and I watched several videos and it made me realize that my “lifestyle” just wasn’t sustainable. Thank you so much for making these videos showing this process and your incredible progress. ❤❤❤
this is amazing to hear, i’m so proud of you 🤍 thank you so so much for this comment
I just found your channel and I'm so thankful. I'm in a pretty toxic friendgroup regarding food. They constantly make comments like "I didn't eat breakfast" or they eat nothing in our lunch break and they praise all of that. It's so hard to be the only one who is eating lunch, eats breakfast and eats "unhealthy" food. It makes me feel so disgusting and ashamed although everyone of them knows I'm in recovery and I very much know my body needs that food. Also I deal a lot with extreme hunger and although I'm eating enough, I'm still hungry and restricting in a way although I've already had enough and since no one in my environment eats as much as I, I stop although my body still signals hunger. I don't know if that really makes sense. But your video helped me so much thank you for making this channel and talking about your journey
i think you should try to distance yourself from those "friends" you're already struggling and they are making things worse... friends aren't supposed to make your life harder... plus they do know about your recovery and real friends wouldn't make such comments in front of you. and if they are your only friends remember that being alone is better than toxic friendships
Ro…. I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. An eating disorder follows you throughout your life and even when you are 65 (my current age)….I think about what I’m putting into my body every single day. I am a strong, intelligent woman that has come a very long way. Your lives are so helpful and you are helping so many people. Keep up the good work Ro ❤️🥰💃🏼
sending you so much love, thanks for being so kind 🦋🤍
This couldn’t be a better video for you to post I’m so stuck on how to recover in a world so toxic about weights xx
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This is my first time ever making a comment on social media. It's a little scary for me but it just hit a point where I have to. Ro you are absolutely so amazing. Thank you so much for all of your videos. You helped me so much on my journey. I started my journey to recover from anorexia exactly a year ago. It has been so hard and so many ups and downs. But all the empowering messages and videos that you sent had helped me immensely. I have no words to thank you enough. I literally cried from so many of your videos because it really hit home. In some of my lowest moments and feeling so alone I knew that I wasn't the only one. You said all the things that my mind has been bullying me with for so long. You help me understand and recognize that it's not only me struggling with this. Hearing from someone else has the same struggles and thoughts of not being enough, not skinny enough, and not sick enough... Really shows me it's not just me and not about my size it's about my mind that needs to be healed. I don't need to heal my body I need to heal my mind and be comfortable with myself and treat myself with kindness because my body isn't my enemy it's my home I need to give it respect and gratitude. And this video today has been something I've been waiting for for a long time. I've been constantly surrounded with people with eating disorders and distorted eating as well from work colleagues and at home and the social media really ducks everything up to a total extreme. So thank you so so very much for all your help and for coming along with me and helping me on my journey you are such a beautiful and special person with a really kind Spirit. I also wanted to tell you that just a week ago I made the decision to never skip a meal again. I've been trying to recover for a year but in that time I've still been up and down with restriction and skipping and hospital so I made the decision no matter how hard it is to take over my life and start fresh new me I will get my life back I deserve happiness no matter my size I'm worthy and deserve it.
what a lovely, lovely comment - thank you so much. it means the world. i’m so proud of you, sending you all the love xxx
The one thing that keeps me going in healing from this horrid disorder is remembering how miserable it made me, how being dangerously underweight and exhausted and fearing for my heart and my skin etc. do I want that? Just to look like a bloody skeleton? No way.
Living with friends, I found it really helpful to make sure I wasn’t spending all my meals with them so that I couldn’t compare. At the end of the day I don’t know exactly how others are living their lives at every minute of the day so how am I supposed to judge myself/compare myself with half the information. Also when people say Im not eating x,y,z they probably don’t actually mean that - they mean they’re eating less of it but as someone with an ED I always take these comments very literally. Idk hope that helps:)
i really needed to hear this, thank u so much 💕💕
This is so helpful, thank you ro ♡
I love you Ro, thank you so much!
Wow thank you ro this video is so helpful for so many people!
i really needed this today. thank you so much ro
your videos help me sm, love you ro. thank u for everything💘
Wow your words are sooooo true! Thank you for all the reminders!❤️❤️
Was really helpful, needed to hear this❤️
thank u ro!!!! this is the main thing that is holding me back in recovery, other peoples opinions and societys views on body image, and this video is what i need so thank u x
i hope it helps x
@@RoMitchell it did x thank u
This is the best video I've watched in so long! This is so extremely helpful! Thank you so much for exciting Ro!! I love you you much ❤️❤️
it is actually so freaking hard but you're making it feel like its possible, thank u ily Ro
I absolutely adore these type of your videos!!! They are so helpful and I feel safe while watching it🥰
Ro,
You are changing the world! I'm so proud of you. I worked in a hospital with patients with ED and I am passionate to help those who suffer to help recover when their ready. I also suffer from Gastroparesis and so sometimes my body literally cannot get the nutrients and it's heartbreaking. Everything you talked about in this video is spot on. I know you are struggle but thank you for sharing your journey on the internet. I know that's not easy! You're changing lives! Thank you 😊 ❤️
like i was just needing this video like wth how u do know when a lot of people is needing this thankyou ro ur amazing!!🥰💕
gosh Roisin you get me through the days I seriously don't know what would I do without you
This video is extremely helpful, thanks Ro! ❤️❤️
You’re incredible! It makes me so happy to see How much progress you’ve made😍 i’ve been watching you for sooo long and have been following your journey and you’re so strong and such an inspiration! You’ve always given me hope that you can get out of this restrictive cycle. Whenever i feel like recovery isn’t worth it or when my sister talks about diet shit and i get upset, i always watch your videos and look at your posts because you really help me stay motivated❤️ Thank you Ro!
Was actually just having a cry about this exact dilemma this morning lol tyty ro sending big love
Thank you for posting this, I've been struggling a lot more recently because all of my friends have started talking about dieting. This is something that's going to help me and so many other people 💗
thank you so much ro, you have no idea how much i appreciate this video and all of your videos. your hard work has helped so many people and i am so eternally grateful 💗
I didn’t know how much I needed this until I watched it 🥺♥️
i havent watched your videos in a while, but seeing you and the progress youve made in recovery is so inspiring. just seeing how much more life you have in you- its like your glowing....its honestly so beautiful. im working my way towards that and seeing you is so motivating- it reminds me why im choosing recovery and putting in the hard work now:) im also very proud of you ro!
thank you so much. i can’t thank you enough! for HOW MUCH you’ve helped me. i’m 7 months in recovery and you were one of the biggest reasons on why i even started recovery in the first place. truly, you’ve helped so many people struggling. i’m so proud of you and thankful for you. (also this video came at the perfect time😭💕)
thank you Ro for this video. it helped me a lot and i'm sure many others. these are so so helpful really i dont know what i would do without you❤️
yes this so true and hard for ppl who are recovered especially when other family members are trying to lose weight or have disordered eating and you have to separate from their thoughts. everyone has their own journey and it’s not selfish to prioritize yourself! love u ro xx
I love you Ro, you’re a star🖤I’m on my own recovery journey thanks to your videos
you helped me soo much!! please do more videos like this,, keep fighting
ro i just wanna thank you so so much you’ve helped me so much since the beginning of my recovery, last year at this time i was at the hospital and i would never imagine that in a year from that i would be where i am today, and that makes me feel so proud and happy, and being able to see your journey since the beginning and where you are today makes me so f happy, i almost feel like we were in this together i know it’s stupid, anyways thank you so much again
You are such a comforting person for me to just rewatch❤ thank you for merely existing (:
your words and reminders always pop up when I struggled, thank you so much.
btw I would love to see more videos like this, like the reminders and tips in recovery
Brilliant and so comforting and helpful as always, Ro. You're the biggest star ever 💚💚 xxx
Thank you for these words of wisdom
Thank you so much for this. I am deep healing my trauma at the moment and this opened my eyes for one of the things that has always kept me back ''People are not going to love you until you're ill'' it applys sooo much to me and my thinking, but I was never able to put a finger on it.
I could apply a lot of what you were saying onto my self harming wich was a bigger struggle in my life than the ed, hope you reach a lot (more) of people with your content. You and the sharing of your yourney is incredibly helpful
I think a video on the pros and cons of recovery community could be a good video so proud of you
Just hearing you speak about the positive way towards recovery, gives me strength to keep pushing forward to a healthier and happier side of me. ❤
Thank you for this video Ro, you're incredible❤️ It's so hard feeling like my eating disorder is who I am which makes it so much harder to let go. But watching your videos shows how beautiful recovery is and that it is worth it ❤️
You are so incredible well articulated!
this was so so helpful!! it would be great if this could be like a series where viewers sent in like general scenarios or things that they’ve found hard to cope with in recovery (like reintroducing exercise, or the disordered behaviours engrained in school health classes etc) and you could offer your perspective or advice on it :)
Thank you so much for this video ❤️ you re amazing and helpful for us 😽
So much yes to all that. you say Ro!! I'm all about ditching diet culture forever. It ruins lives and we need to start fighting back and living our lives to the fullest. Sending lots of love!! 🤗🥰💜💜💜
Really needed this rn. My family sent me to a treatment facility but yet everything they talk about is exercise and diets and so on, which makes it harder. Thank you Ro for this video 💓💓💓💓
Thank you so much for this video I truly have needed this. It's so incredibly hard when I go on pinterest or CZcams just to see weight loss tips or "flat stomach" tricks and then I live in a family of insecure women obsessed with diet culture. You've helping so much with all of your videos and I truly love you and your channel so much. Thank you
The part of ‘family and friends’ is really really helpfull! I’m indeed scared that I need to eat a lot more of those “unhealthy foods” to not be restrictive anymore but I’m still scared that I will crave sweet/“bad” foods more and more. You go Ro!
Watching your videos while eating my snacks and meals makes recovery just that bit easier. Love you Ro
This video is going to help so many people
How did you know that I needed this? Oh my Gosh, THANK YOU SO MUCH, I kind of have motivation to focus on myself again!! I love you Ro, thank you thank you thank you 🤍
I love your videos and i love that you are sharing more about your thoughts and experiencie besides the challenges you’ve made on eating. This is much helpful for me at least, to hear about different subjects ed related. Love you so much! 🙏🏻🌟
This video could not be more timely. Both sides of my entire family are either diet focused or have eating disorders themselves, and it makes recovery seem so challenging (especially since I don’t fit the stereotypical body type seen in some people with eating disorders, and people love to criticize my body because of it). You’re incredible, Ro. Thank you so much for this.
I found this so helpful! Especially hearing you talk about comparing yourself to others who are ill, it took me so long to get help because my BMI was still “healthy” so I thought I wasn’t sick enough. It made me feel a lot better to know I wasn’t alone in feeling like that ❤️
I’ve been in the hospital for almost 2 months now and I still have my moments of wanting to give up. your content has always motivated and inspired me to be a content creator to bring awareness to this deadly Illness. thank you for sharing your story and helping the world
Thank you so so much I needed this a lot today 💜💜 Going to strong but the diet culture influence hurts so much🥺
genuinely wouldn’t still be here without u ❤️
i love you ro❤️
thank you for talking about “others with an ED.” i wish my friend could’ve heard/seen something like that when we lived together. i suffer from an ED. i was completely unaware that they had also struggled with anorexia in the past, as they never told me. i had no clue i was triggering them until their groceries were the same as mine - aka crappy, bland safe foods. :/ we are not friends anymore due to our EDs triggering each other constantly. i still wish them the best, but i had to move out because it was too much; and i know they felt similarly.
I just REALLY THANK YOU for this video. For a few weeks i m struggling with these problems so much. I started my recovery after 4/5 months later then you and gained a lot weight. Also my bestie is so much obsessed with her weight these days. She does not eat anything and always tells me to eat. Also everybody around me talking about how they lost weight, how they don't eat etc. Even my sis told me how fat I am when we fight... So I started to make a diet but I don't know how to keep it healthy but no matter what I'm trying to eat but people just hurts :(
SUCH a helpful video. All so true and such helpful and sensible advice. Love you for this!!!!!💗💪🙏🌈
Love you Ro! I was struggling with an ED for a long time and was about to spiral again a year ago until I came across your channel and I would watch your videos while I ate. You helped me so much. In moments when I'm having negative thoughts your voice comes into my head saying "food is fuel" etc. Thank you so much for being a positive influence on so many people around the world who are struggling!
Wow, you are truly an inspiration.
I personally do not struggle with an ED, but you are so inspiring and your words are great advice to live by❤️
Beautiful wise and kind Ro. Your light makes the world more beautiful. Your authenticity is so brilliant and good. I’d love a video discussing some of the ways you are working on your other traumas/severe PTSD. Of course no need to disclose anything you don’t want to. But it’s clear your journey is ongoing and I’d love to hear how you are and the work you are doing and what is helping. I wish the world was as lovely as you deserve. But your courage is inspiring. Love you you always.
I really needed this right now, thank you! ❤️
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Ro, I´m so happy for your wisdom and your process of recovery. I´m a pre Buddhist nun from México and your reflections have been helpful on my own practice of letting go of certain toxic behaviours towards food. Right now being alone without other monastics in my country, I relate to the pressure from outside to (as women) comply to the ideal body images and many other social mandates... Learning to be happy with my own body, life, values and religious practices and precepts reminds me of what is really supporting my life. I wish you so many blessing and hoping you keep sharing your valuable experience. May you be happy, healthy and safe🙏🙏🙏
I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much. ♥️
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wow, this was super helpful!!
I’ve had to step back from friendships during recovery because of how unhelpful and triggering they were becoming. My friend and I would compete silently against each other. Now my sister is showing a lot of warning signs and avoiding and restricting a lot of her food and it’s so triggering. I feel extremely defeated and low…I want to give up because at least I was societially “accepted” but do you always encourage me and show me recovery is the way to go!!
My mentor also constantly tells me to “run my own race and focus on my own race,” those around me what they’re doing doesn’t have to affect me I just need to focus on myself, and let my friends my sister let all of them do what they want, there’s nothing I can do I can’t control them I can only control my own recovery!!
You’re the best CZcamsr out there, ily sm xx wish you all the best 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
you are the absolut best
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I love ❤️ your videos!! I hope you keep doing them x
i will, always
I love your videos queen♥️♥️
7:30 -8 AMAZING POINT not only should we be focusing on ourselves and our eating but also think that it’s a different situation! They want to lose weight not that they’re scared of a food!
I've been getting myself to watch this video for so long. I think I kinda not wanted to hear that, cause then I would feel obligated to fallow the advice. But that is what my ed wanted, not me. Thank you for this video. You really opened my eyes on some things. Much love Ro!
Ro having a squirrel moment at the end
this video really helped me and i think others would love it too if you could do more videos like this:)
so thankful for your content
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Thank you for this video Ro! It is helping me so much to stick to my recovery and don’t give up ! You are such an inspiration :)
sending love xxx
Hi Ro! I just wanted to thank you so much for helping me through my eating disorder. Although I am still in recovery, I'm a lot better now. It all started March of 2020, when I was in quarantine. I was at my lowest, and I dropped down to the lowest weight I had ever been. I'm much happier and closer to reaching my goals. I was mainly just wondering how long it's taken you to fully recover. I am currently on my first full year of recovery. Thanks so much for all your help! :)
Thank you very much, Ro. Your videos are so helpful❤️During the holidays, my recovery became a little more difficult and I really needed a reminder that I was on the right track. You're doing a great job talking about such important things.
P.s. Sorry if I'm not making myself clear somehow, English is not my 1st language.
And thank you again❣️
You are great at giving perspective to these type of situations 👍❤️
thank you :)
OMG a really really helpfull video!! Thank you so much Ro!
ah i’m so glad !! ☁️🫶🏻
From a deep place in my heart I want to say thank you. Just thank you!
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cant tell you how much i needed this. i love you so much ro
all my love
You are so incredibly helpful, you are the reason im recovering❤️
i’m so grateful that i can help
Perfect timing, thank you Roooo! 💗
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i needed this sm, thank u for all these videos !! and thank u for helping spread awareness about mh, eds etc. bc it’s so important to feel understood, and not feeling alone, as well as breaking the stigma around these issues, which can be huge factors in not recovering, and def were for me !! i rly hope u know how much you are loved by all of us in this community :) thank u 🤍🤍
thank u so much 🫶🏻🫶🏻
Thank you so much Ro you are truly the only one who helps me without even knowing me.It's really hard to recover when you live with your parents but you always help me to push myself.Thank you gorgeous girl😍😍❤
sending love xxxxx
you're such a star Ro! Uh, just imagine how grim the workplace culture of a diet food company would be, talk about toxic