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  • čas přidán 3. 06. 2024
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    thanks for watching! i hope this was a helpful video. recovery is never easy or a straightforward ride but knowing what life is like when you let go of anorexia, i would never ever go back. if you're reading this, this is your sign. you can do it xxx
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Komentáře • 250

  • @gaiagiacchetti5020
    @gaiagiacchetti5020 Před 8 měsíci +255

    I’m going through anorexia recovery and, despise all the support from my family, you are literally my life saver, every doubt I have you answer it and give me so much support through your videos. I will never thank you enough❤

    • @RoMitchell
      @RoMitchell  Před 7 měsíci +21

      i’m so glad i can be here for you 🥲❤️‍🩹 keep going x

  • @cloee_sj
    @cloee_sj Před 8 měsíci +246

    i just feel like you’re the only one who fully understands me and how awful anorexia is

    • @MalininAmerica
      @MalininAmerica Před 2 měsíci +1

      It is, but that's why recovery is so worth it!

    • @Godsseed2
      @Godsseed2 Před měsícem

      I’ve just relapsed…

    • @MalininAmerica
      @MalininAmerica Před měsícem +1

      @@Godsseed2 I'm so sorry, I know how much it sucks, but please don't give up! It helped me a lot to watch videos like this, which is why I started creating my own now after being recovered. Try to do whatever helps you - all the best for you!

    • @Godsseed2
      @Godsseed2 Před měsícem

      @@MalininAmerica I’m doing better than I was I felt gross and so I relapsed :/. I see a therapist and I appreciate you.

    • @MalininAmerica
      @MalininAmerica Před měsícem +1

      @@Godsseed2 I get it, I've been there. I know the feeling of feeling gross and wanting to go back. All I can say is, that it gets better, but enduring the situation is the hardest thing ever. But it's also worth it! Wishing you the best for your way!

  • @franzisunset7979
    @franzisunset7979 Před 8 měsíci +187

    sports and exercise is such a complex topic tbh. i‘ve had a really heated discussion with a nurse at inpatient about it bc she was mad that i was still playing badminton for most of the time while in recovery. she was even more mad about the fact that my therapist is okay with it as well. for me badminton has never and will never be a means to burn off anything. it‘s my safe place where i feel the most comfortable and connected to myself and for the 2 hours of training my mind isn‘t revolving around food or trauma or other problems of mine. at this point i‘m used to people shaming me for it but what they don‘t see is that i never had any problems regarding exercise while sick. i think in the end it‘s also very important to discuss stuff like this with your doctors and therapists.

    • @jackiehammerton
      @jackiehammerton Před 7 měsíci +4

      I feel the same way about pádel tennis. When I play, all the voices in my head stop chattering. It’s such a relief. It’s one of the few times in my day I’m not thinking about my body or food or calories. All I’m thinking about is that next game point.

    • @upsidedownrose7102
      @upsidedownrose7102 Před 7 měsíci +6

      I'm the same. I'm a circus performer and teacher, other forms of exercise have been obsessive for me but circus training with fellow performers is all about making art and acts, lesson plans etc. for a job that I love, which distracts completely from stressing about my weight and planning my food, calories etc. Hula hoop tricks, aerial skills etc. require you to be completely focused on that, if you break focus you could get injured. That form of exercise helps and reminds me on not just Rose the anorexic, I'm Rose the circus artist which is so positive

    • @elb2754
      @elb2754 Před 5 měsíci

      I felt the same exact way about color guard in recovery. I was very upset at my therapist for forcing me to stop doing color guard when I was in forced recovery. I wasn’t in ip, php, iop, anything intense like that like I was allowed to go to school and stuff. Color guard has literally never been about burning calories for me yeah there’s physical activity but going to practice and performing has always been a break from my ED. A time when I could focus on the sport and spend time with my friends. When my life was really horrible in recovery, going to color guard was a sweet relief from the stress. Then my mum told my therapist I did color guard still and she forced me to stop by having my doctor send a note saying the school couldn’t legally allow me to spin a flag. My color guard coaches did their best to include me. I wore the uniform at every game and helped in every way I could, cheering my band mates on and watching every performance. But it was AWFUL. I was too embarrassed to explain why I wasn’t allowed to perform. I’m so glad they allowed you to do badminton cus like color guard helped me I’m sure badminton helped you. I hope you’re doing well now. You deserve recovery.

  • @jn5859
    @jn5859 Před 7 měsíci +56

    The best thing that happened when I overshot my weight target was:
    My ED had convinced me my entire life that “if you gain weight, lots of bad things will happen”. I truly believed I would lose all my friends and everything else that mattered to me.
    So by gaining weight, I basically fact-checked this fear.
    None of that bad stuff happened.
    So now if my ED is like “But if you gain weight, bad things will happen!”, I’m just like: “LIES!!”

    • @catew-w3816
      @catew-w3816 Před 7 měsíci +1

      this is a wonderful reminder, thank you

    • @StrawberryJamming
      @StrawberryJamming Před 7 měsíci +4

      You dont understand how much i needed to read this ❤

    • @MalininAmerica
      @MalininAmerica Před 2 měsíci

      100%! Same thing for me, but nothing happened!

    • @SareBear2000
      @SareBear2000 Před měsícem +1

      I felt the same way, in my early teenage years I made a pact to myself that if I ever gained weight past a number I had specified, that I would off myself. Simple. It became so ingrained in me that I genuinely feared for my life if I gained weight because I knew if I saw myself at that point I couldn't bear to live. Now I'm in my early twenties, I've been working towards recovering for years and undoing a lot of those mental gymnastics was hard work. Even something as simple as a cereal box turned with the nutritional label facing me would trigger me, but I think all of that work has been paying off. I recently went through a bout of health complications and had brain surgery at the end 2023. I was housebound for almost 2 months and towards the end of my surgical recovery, I weighed myself and was 15 lb over that specified weight, but the funny thing is before I weighed myself I thought I looked the best I had ever looked in my life, brain surgery scar and all. I attribute some of it to age and my body maturing, but I'm also am trying to give my self credit for getting past such a tormented mindset. Or who knows, maybe that tumor was the toxic anorexia speaking the entire time, spooky 😂

  • @yomama69157
    @yomama69157 Před 8 měsíci +98

    I started recovery around the same time you did, and watching your videos is so comforting for me, honestly, you are an incredible reminder to stay the course of recovery. I recently entered the workforce in an environment where I'm not around that many people my age and when I tell you that EVERYONE is out here demonizing foods, and praising weight loss it's seriously crazy. I even found myself repeating old sick habits, but my therapist reminded me of something so important and I hope someone else can take away this info aswell: treat anorexia like an addiction, because you cannot just have a "little bit of it," maybe other people can casually partake in it (diet culture), but we are not those people, we've been there, done that and we KNOW how it made us feel. To those starting on their recovery journey, just know it gets so much easier, and you will feel so much better and safer in your body!

    • @janajohannaa
      @janajohannaa Před 8 měsíci +7

      Thank you really needed this!!!

    • @RoMitchell
      @RoMitchell  Před 7 měsíci +10

      diet culture is everywhereeee, it’s so hard not to get wrapped up in it i know but please remember that as your therapist said, you can’t dabble in diet culture!! it’ll never end well. we know truthfully what “health” means, so ignore the people who have unfortunately been influenced by the media x

  • @nathansteele1870
    @nathansteele1870 Před 8 měsíci +98

    I’ve struggled with depression for 4 years now but this year is the first time I’ve had issues with eating. I find it another way to harm myself. Watching your videos and your constant reminders to eat on instagram makes a difference Ro ❤ Thank you

    • @cloee_sj
      @cloee_sj Před 8 měsíci +10

      you can do this 💗 keep going 🫶🏼

    • @ChloeSinclair-jt5kj
      @ChloeSinclair-jt5kj Před 8 měsíci +3

      Hope u are ok preying for you I have been struggling with depression and my eating

    • @maramfourati5338
      @maramfourati5338 Před 7 měsíci +3

      Comments like yours make a difference too its so nice to know we're not alone in this ❤you got this❤

  • @nunyabeazwarks4138
    @nunyabeazwarks4138 Před 7 měsíci +28

    Something you didn’t mention but that I noticed about your early recovery videos was the inner child work that you were able to do. You were talking about eating for Little Ro a lot and I feel like that’s a key piece of any kind of recovery. And thank you for everything you do.

  • @hannahcollardgray4448
    @hannahcollardgray4448 Před 8 měsíci +38

    I love your advice on exercise, I used to ask myself before going for a run or a walk in the park: Am I choosing to do this, or must I do this? A part two to this would be amazing. The whole problem around looking recovered when the real recovery is happening in your brain is really hard. I know I’m not recovered yet, but I’m not underweight anymore and have family telling me to lose weight when all I’m trying to do is honour all forms of hunger as appropriately as possible. I remember when I was starting outpatient treatment and it was all via zoom or teams and my treatment team didn’t believe my dramatic weight loss because they couldn’t see me properly and test results and measurements didn’t add up, and that felt really invalidating. But I’m so proud of gaining weight by myself and continuing to this day to take charge of my recovery for me.

  • @samanthatruver7074
    @samanthatruver7074 Před 8 měsíci +33

    I relapsed three months ago and I've been in recovery for the past three weeks and I've been a lot better

  • @restaumars
    @restaumars Před 7 měsíci +17

    Sometimes i catch myself feeling bad for not exercising. I try not to think about it because i don't want to admit that anorexia is still effecting me. I am not scared of food anymore but I'm scared of my future me hating my body if i gain more weight. This is why the story you told means so much to me. I don't ever have to restrict. I will listen to my body and it will find its balance. No matter what i will look like, even if i would look very different, my body will be the way it's supposed to be. All i need to do is listen to it. Thank you Ro for sharing this

    • @YourMom-iy6cv
      @YourMom-iy6cv Před 4 měsíci

      I have body image issues that I want to look muscly but then I have to eat more but I don’t want to look big and bulky just toned. But then I also have to cut the calories to get those abs and tiny waist but then If I don’t eat enough I’ll lose the muscle mass. It’s all just impossible.
      It’s like trying to solve a Rubics cube.

    • @MalininAmerica
      @MalininAmerica Před 2 měsíci

      You might actually take a long break from exercising in order to find a normal relationship with movement again. I just uploaded a video about this - sometimes we have to stop to normalize :)

  • @camilaferrorojas
    @camilaferrorojas Před 7 měsíci +18

    CZcams forgot to recommend your videos for months, and I didn't remember your name. I tried looking but couldn't find any of your videos, so I grew scared you relapsed. I'm so happy to see you're doing great!

  • @Naphinel
    @Naphinel Před 7 měsíci +43

    5:31 - THIS is the truth.
    Before my ED I wrote so many fantasy novels and/or (Charmed) fanfictions.
    During my ED I wrote not a word... just nothing. I hadn't energy, idea... I had just my anorexia-bulimia behaviors: calorie counting, fasting, cutting calories, hurting myself :(
    Since my recovery-journey (I nearly recovered) I write my fantasy book, and THIS is me: the girl who live in another world with her fairys, nymphs, etc. :) And I'm so glad, that I can do this again.
    (Sorry for my english, I never learned in school)

  • @jadeistg
    @jadeistg Před 7 měsíci +26

    i took notes on the problems she said for anyone who wants to refer off of them on a daily basis during recovery. be kind to yourself and knows that it’s absolutely okay to feel overwhelmed from time to time. love you ro and sending love to everybody that needs it💗
    how to stop automatically counting mentally?
    -delete apps/stop writing things down
    -acknowledge that counting is a conscious thing
    -know that it’s the ed that wants you to add things up to feel in control
    -trust your body to eat without knowing the numbers
    how to deal with drinking/going out?
    -alcohol is an extra, not food
    -know that it’s dangerous to drink on an empty stomach
    who am i without my ed?
    -know that you will find yourself again after you recover, and you’re gonna be a complete different person compared to your old self
    -who you are WITHOUT your eating disorder is always going to be better than you with an eating disorder
    -when you recover, you have nothing to lose, and everything to gain
    is it normal to be mentally hungry but physically full?
    -listen to your body because it might be telling you something important
    -your stomach doesn’t need to be rumbling to allow yourself to eat
    exercise during/post recovery
    -exercise is tricky for all eating disorder recoveries
    -ro didn’t exercise during recovery for 7-8 months
    -don’t push your body if exercise is going to be compulsive
    -know that it’s okay to not exercise during recovery to let your body rest
    -choose something that you truly enjoy when you get back to exercise, no matter what it is
    how to not obsess over losing overshoot weight?
    overshoot - going over a normal weight range/ expected recovery weight
    -you are allowed to eat whatever you want no matter what weight you are
    -let your body do it’s natural thing
    -appetite will level out and you will balance your weight back to a normal range
    how to tell people about anorexia even though i look healthier now?
    -anorexia is not a body type or size
    how to convince yourself that you deserve food?
    -it’s okay and normal to have negative thoughts in your head when you first start recovery
    -know that it takes time and affirmation for an eating disorder to truly fade away
    feeling the need to lose weight to be taken seriously at clinics
    -know that the number on a scale does not reflect upon how much you’re struggling
    -you deserve help no matter what anyone says
    how do i keep pushing in recovery even at a healthy weight but with ED fears?
    -don’t live miserably when you’re at a healthy weight
    -remember you’re trying to get back your life without an eating disorder, why you started recovery
    how to handle stomach pains and bloating after eating?
    -cover up your mirrors and wear comfortable clothes to not trigger thoughts with normal bloats
    -your body bloating means that your body is metabolizing and breaking down your food

  • @alysmansfield
    @alysmansfield Před 8 měsíci +31

    I would love a part two. My recovery has been a rocky road because I keep it to myself and my mind is still so mean to me, but I do my best to keep pressing on.
    Your videos are always a great help with coming back down to earth when I’m having a rough time. Love you 🖤🖤🖤

  • @juliesusova1319
    @juliesusova1319 Před 8 měsíci +27

    Currently been really struggling in recovery and this gives me so much motivation to try harder because I know it’ll be so worth it❣️

  • @samyral194
    @samyral194 Před 7 měsíci +10

    after two year of feeling absolutely miserable, i finally reached the point of being completely miserable. since 2020 I stopped doing all my hobbies, i used to love drawing, writing, reading, playing guitar, then i simply stopped doing these things. Hadn't endrgy for a thing, my mind was consumed and bland. i lost all my friends, start doing really bad at school, lose my hair, even started doing coke for the sake of losing weight. and after the first year, I didn't lost a single pound.
    But then i got tired, depressed, it has no point anymore, so i just... gave up and got better. It's been a bit more than a year and I gained weight, started eating more and healthy, and i feel better than ever.
    Of course i have triggers and the bad thoughts havent gone at all, but is so much better! I feel alive again, even though i dont see myself as pretty as i was, i am so much more than a body, and i really want to live

    • @zhenechka7
      @zhenechka7 Před 6 měsíci +1

      Your body is part of you, but not the only part. God created us into His image. He loves you, He heals your soul and body, He never evaluate us on our appearance. The food is just food. We need it to live. Our body knows which food and how much it needs. I am happy you feel much better now! Just know you are ENOUGH just the way you are! Jesus loves you and you are His perfect creation. You have a wonderful body, no matter how much you weigh.. God bless you and heal you completely! 🙏🌷

  • @butterflysoobin9858
    @butterflysoobin9858 Před 8 měsíci +15

    you are literally the one reason i can get through my sundays 😭😭

  • @ellieg123_
    @ellieg123_ Před 7 měsíci +12

    you saying you were filming this home alone made me so proud of you and happy for you !!

  • @jolene02900
    @jolene02900 Před 7 měsíci +16

    ‘You have nothing to lose and everything to gain‘ - Ly Ro♥️
    Today i decide not to blame myself for only resting, watching Gilmore Girls and eating🍂🍫🥞 ☕️I deserve to recover

    • @RoMitchell
      @RoMitchell  Před 7 měsíci +7

      you !!! deserve !!! to !!! recover !!! ❤️‍🔥

  • @bonniebunghole8106
    @bonniebunghole8106 Před 7 měsíci +5

    I think a way to help yourself with cal counting is to get different brands/types of things and don't look at the nutritional value. Consume things you don't know the exact cal of and also free pour. Hope this helps some ppl.

  • @kaitlynburco9059
    @kaitlynburco9059 Před 7 měsíci +10

    Rewatching your videos when my brain is trying to get me to relapse really helps. I love and appreciate you so much thank you!

  • @iv-500
    @iv-500 Před 7 měsíci +11

    It's so hard. I gained back a lot of my "healthy weight" a few years ago. It threw me into a panic. I haven't been the same since. Lately I've been falling back again. It's my reason. I can't let it go. It's my way of coping. I'm isolated in PA. I hate who I live with. I just hate everything. I'm not happy.

    • @deecohen1383
      @deecohen1383 Před 7 měsíci +4

      Im so sorry. Im nearby Upstate NY. I was living (trapped) for 5 yrs w an abusive person who actually really liked how skinny I was. It wasnt the first time Ive been in an unhealthy relationship w someone who lokes “skinny” girls. The first time was my worse & first episode. If I hadnt left I wouldve died.
      So I decided to leave…and live. My brain always has ED thoughts. I always have ED behaviours. Always. Even when Im trying to be “healthy” and “athletic”. Sometimes if I get friendlier with a person at work and the topic of food comes up (it ALWAYS does and I HATE that about working w ppl who dont understand ED’s). Sometimes I’ll tell them I have an ED. But its rare when I share that.
      My advice..llfind a way to GET OUT of the living situation you are in. Youmay feel trapped. I was trapped for 5 years. But I finally got OUT. That was 5 yrs ago. I still and will always have ptsd from it. But being alone is so much better. I hope you can get out of your situation so you can feel better

    • @arie3626
      @arie3626 Před 3 měsíci

      Currently dealing with the same thing. Feel as though I can’t live without it the only thing helping through it is my knowledge of nutrition and how important it is for your health. But so many things just make me stop eating. I wish you a blessed recovery!

  • @Cessie93
    @Cessie93 Před 8 měsíci +23

    I'm really struggling with the professionals not taking me seriously thing. I reached out to my doctor's office about a possible referral to the ED unit, and without the doctor even seeing me I got the answer that the ED clinic only takes on serious cases and that they wouldn't accept me as a patient, so no point in even writing a referral. I have an appointment with a dietitian in two months, and fortunately I'm already in therapy once a week (but my therapist doesn't specialize in EDs). However this has just made want to become "more sick" to prove the doctor wrong, especially because I'm also diagnosed with atypical anorexia, which makes me feel even less valid. I just hate dealing with health care professionals and am now in a battle between trying to recover with the help of my therapist or letting the ED take over.

    • @RenayOpish
      @RenayOpish Před 7 měsíci +7

      Finding treatment and enduring the waitlist to get in was so hard for my child. I am so sorry it works this way, but keep advocating for it and hang in there. ❤

    • @halfasleeppoet
      @halfasleeppoet Před 5 měsíci

      Holy shit, this literally sounds exactly like I wrote it two years ago, and I’m fully recovered now. I hope you manage to get the support you need :)

    • @meherenow
      @meherenow Před 4 měsíci

      How do you know how they treat people at the Ed unit would be suitable for your own individual case? Ed units sometimes focus on refeeding and bed rest which isn’t appropriate for an atypical case..so there maybe many reasons why a specific treatment modality isn’t recommended for you….every case is different it’s not about what diagnosis you have but what strategies would be most helpful to you..being in an Ed unit isn’t required for some people..in fact the majority of cases can do outpatient treatment and make significant progress

  • @evieh4468
    @evieh4468 Před 8 měsíci +6

    you speak so beautifully about this, thank you for everything you do because it’s so helpful 💗

  • @hana_marin
    @hana_marin Před 8 měsíci +4

    This is one of your most helpful videos in my opinion. Thank you Ro!!❤

  • @alyssabreann6909
    @alyssabreann6909 Před 7 měsíci +3

    Your videos bring so much peace to my mind and soul

  • @harriett9910
    @harriett9910 Před 7 měsíci +1

    i’m 3 days in all in recovery, it’s the hardest thing ever but also the best thing and your channel has helped me so much❤

  • @cacao_0000
    @cacao_0000 Před 8 měsíci +6

    The new hair looks amazing! Thank you for all the advice 💚

  • @susan_e
    @susan_e Před 7 měsíci +10

    Your videos are always SO encouraging! Because you've been through anorexia and recovery, your advice is much more meaningful than what most/all of my team offers. Thank you!

  • @y0url0cald1saster
    @y0url0cald1saster Před 7 měsíci +3

    words can barely begin to express how appreciative i am for all your content. you are such a genuine and kind person and your personality shines so brightly! i’ve been watching your videos for over a year and im so proud of how far you’ve come - you give me a lot of hope for my own recovery and future. sending you happiness 💕 (and would love a part 2)

  • @bogipirisa8917
    @bogipirisa8917 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Ro, people like you help, you radiate accaptance and i geniuenly feel so lucky that i've found your channel around two years ago. You really helped me to get on the road of healing. Thank you so much for that ❤

  • @logan-dr4bg
    @logan-dr4bg Před 7 měsíci +1

    I have watched your videos throughout my recovery and you have helped me more then any doctor ever could. Your advice is amazing. Thank you so much genuinely.

  • @FrumpetMoof
    @FrumpetMoof Před 7 měsíci +1

    Your videos are the only thing that help me refocus when I’m having doubts about recovery. They are my loving reminder of what I need to do and why I need to do it. Thank you, Ro ❤

  • @Kaili_D
    @Kaili_D Před 7 měsíci +9

    It’s always so comforting because you explain things so well, my fav topics would be the struggle with eating routines at a normal weight and how you explained you don’t have to have this whole crazy exercise routine it helped a lot to see some normality, thank you so much I’d love to see another video ❤️💕

  • @andelastajmarova3091
    @andelastajmarova3091 Před 7 měsíci +2

    these videos are so helpful and comforting. i really relate to your answers and opinions. pt. 2 would be amazing!

  • @KalopsiaSilver
    @KalopsiaSilver Před 7 měsíci

    ive watched your videos for a couple years now. i first found you immediately before my first hospitalization and i remember staying up all night crying as i watched your videos. it took courage but i eventually recovered and watching your videos kept me going. i had been in recovery for over a year, but i have relapsed due to my declining life circumstances. watching your videos is a comfort even now and it gives me hope that one day, i will be able to escape this once and for all.

  • @julespowell4896
    @julespowell4896 Před 8 měsíci +12

    You're such a sweet heart and you will be helping so many people. Well done Ro. xxx Ive come back to add more. You will have helped so many people young and old. You should be so proud of yourself. Honestly I think you're such a lovely girl. Keep up being amazing.

  • @gabbyluvscheer
    @gabbyluvscheer Před 7 měsíci +1

    you have helped me so much through everything and you are literally gorgeous 💗

  • @isabisa212
    @isabisa212 Před 8 měsíci +2

    please do post a part 2! ♡
    this has been so helpful. ily and thank you. :,^)

  • @imogen_rle
    @imogen_rle Před 7 měsíci +3

    You are such a kind kind person, you are so sweet and thank you for this amazing video. Proud of you always I’ve been watching since the start of your recovery and it’s so inspiring, love your videos so much ❤️‍🩹

  • @matilda613
    @matilda613 Před 7 měsíci +4

    just wanted to hop on here and say that i think that you put the feeling of not being inpatient anymore very perfectly into words. better than i ever could and the timing is perfect because i should tell my therapist about it, so thanks to you i can explain it properly

  • @That_girl897
    @That_girl897 Před 7 měsíci

    Part two pleasee. Your so amazing and you inspire me so much. Recovery is so hard and I'm trying my best but sometimes it's overwhelming. I love seeing your progress and how you got through it.

  • @AlexSmith-ds8je
    @AlexSmith-ds8je Před 7 měsíci +10

    Ro, I’ve watched you since the start of your recovery & you have helped me so so much! It’s so frustrating when others look at you and say “ohh your better now, your are cured” just because your at a healthy weight or your eating more. 🤦🏻‍♀️
    I had this so much to the point I couldn’t be bothered to correct them or argue back anymore. Yes I’m not in the danger zone anymore, but the body dysmorphia & the anorexic thoughts are very much still there, even if I’m not acting on them as much or at all… you made some very good points I could 100% relate to!
    I know it’s hard for others on the outside who aren’t really educated about this illness, and they can say some very triggering & harmful things at times. And it’s takes a lot to hear these things & put it passed your head & keep fighting, instead of using it as an excuse to use old behaviours.
    I also used to think back in the depths of my eating disorder “I’m not a propped anorexic until I’ve been in an inpatient unit”. Now I fully know this is not true & a very silly thought to have. But it’s like I wanted to feel validated & recognised for being so underweight, now I think to myself why did I even think that?
    The thoughts we can have are crazy, but it’s people like you who make us all realise we were all validated no matter what our size or our circumstances were…
    love your videos, thank you for all you do ❤

  • @tabi_verse
    @tabi_verse Před 7 měsíci +2

    Some of these questions ring true with other disorders as well. I have diagnosed depression and I absolutely was at a point where I didn't know if I even wanted to get better because I did not know who I'd be without depression. Solid advice, Ro!

  • @bayleigh1424
    @bayleigh1424 Před 8 měsíci +2

    This video was helpful and talking about life after inpatient was so helpful to hear you speak about it’s almost been 2 years since I got discharged and adjusting was hard you’re doing amazing

  • @katharinaschneiderr
    @katharinaschneiderr Před 7 měsíci +2

    I've been with you from the vert begning Ro (since TikTok I believe) and you've always been so inspiring. I find myself really attached to your story because our path looks somewhat the same. Thanks for giving me hope, strength and just so much motivation to keep going. Thank you for being you

  • @Bouvier_Abroad
    @Bouvier_Abroad Před měsícem

    These questions and answers were amazing. You’re helping so many people with your honesty ❤ thank you .

  • @bruisedviolets
    @bruisedviolets Před 8 měsíci +4

    Thank you so much this is so helpful, i love these types of videos

  • @ikarichantheoriginalone
    @ikarichantheoriginalone Před 7 měsíci

    you're such a beautiful person, thank u for this video

  • @maxlupin
    @maxlupin Před 7 měsíci +1

    These are my favorite type of videos even when there’s no new content I sit down and rewatch your videos while I eat
    I owe you big big time
    And ofc the part two is welcomed and needed even

  • @judyyprm
    @judyyprm Před 8 měsíci +6

    I freaking LOVE that hairstyle!! Your face is beautiful dear Ro!🫶🏻

  • @rebeccahill3198
    @rebeccahill3198 Před 7 měsíci

    Would love a part two! Have been struggling alot and this advice is really motivating and helping me to get thru it xx

  • @namunamnamunam
    @namunamnamunam Před 7 měsíci +2

    thank u for ur wonderful energy ro

  • @tobiex4861
    @tobiex4861 Před 12 dny

    hey ro, where do i even begin? i'm eternally grateful for you, you started recovery before me and i can honestly say I wouldn't be where i am now without you. you showed me that it's okay to feel the way i did, and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. i was on holiday a few days ago, and had a delicious meal, got back in the van, and cried happy tears because 4 years ago i'd have cried over what i ate, and definitely chosen something different that wouldn't fill me up. i'd never believed i could be as free with food as i am now. but hands down, i can say you are the one person who inspired me the most, and your kind, accepting words aimed at yourself and others will be remembered for so long. i owe you my life, never stop being you! we love you and are so proud everyday❤️

  • @quidditchmum
    @quidditchmum Před 7 měsíci +2

    Your hair looks amazing like that! It is so elegant.

  • @user-us3ig7oz1d
    @user-us3ig7oz1d Před 7 měsíci +3

    as well as many other lovely commenters I would absolutely love a part two, this is so invaluable as someone who doesn't have an eating disorder but has very close people in my life that do

  • @linneag7846
    @linneag7846 Před 8 měsíci +2

    youre so amazing ro, thank you

  • @katespalding2134
    @katespalding2134 Před 7 měsíci +2

    You’re so incredibly wise. Thank you xx

  • @ef3049
    @ef3049 Před 7 měsíci +1

    the overshooting weight talk helped sm ): i am at a healthy weight and have been for a while but i've been so depressed cuz the food thoughts and obsession w thinking abt food has not gone away and that was one of my motivators to recover and now i'm thinking maybe there's a reason for those thoughts n im not just crazy so thank u ): mwah

  • @lauraturford
    @lauraturford Před 8 měsíci

    This has definitely come at the right time for me, can't thank you enough ❤❤xx

  • @EmEmJee89
    @EmEmJee89 Před 7 měsíci

    Thank you for sharing your wisdom Ro! you are amazing!

  • @amy-roseodonnell
    @amy-roseodonnell Před 7 měsíci

    Your just the sweetest soul tbh 🥺❤️

  • @schnnnaddii810
    @schnnnaddii810 Před 7 měsíci +3

    Dear Ro, thank you so much for this Video! It has really helped me with a lot of my open questions about my recovery process & made me feel less alone/unsure about my progress 💗🌸 I have also started my recovery process at a „normal“ weight, without being underweight or endangered & have gained some weight throughout my recovery from Orthorexia, Bulimia & Binge eating, which is totally fine, because these disorders consumed my whole life & thought processes & it was more than worth it to endure (& meanwhile accept) the weight gain & body changes, in terms of recovering from these diseases. It’s been a year now since I started recovering & you were my biggest inspiration, motivation and safe space along this journey. I really am forever thankful for your supportive & helpful content, I wouldn’t be doing so well in my recovery without you, lovely greetings from Germany ❣️🌻

  • @celinereimann1411
    @celinereimann1411 Před 8 měsíci

    omg ro this hair style looks amazing on you, your face looks so shinyy its giving clean girl 😍

  • @simplystarz.3669
    @simplystarz.3669 Před 8 měsíci +4

    much love for you! 💗

  • @luminescent_starfish
    @luminescent_starfish Před 7 měsíci +7

    Very wise words about exercise in recovery ❤ I really struggle with this question personally, because for me the two sports that my ED latched onto are also sports i have always genuinely loved practicing for 10+ years, sports that have helped me in so many ways before and that usually make me feel connected to ly genuine self. So it breaks my heart that the ED compulsions have infiltrated even those areas of my life that used to be safe. The ambivalence there is truly hard to juggle, especially when they're so much more than just sports to me, they're also ways to socialise, to stay grounded instead of dissociating, and spend time with people that are like a second family. Climbing is indeed a fun activity but the physical strength that it takes can also be difficult to handle in the context of having an ED. And the second sport is a martial art (non competitive) which also generally has positive effects for one's mental health, hence my being upset that my ED has been slowly ruining things there

    • @deecohen1383
      @deecohen1383 Před 7 měsíci

      Same here. Ive always “hid” my ED by being a Marathon Runner and Triathlete. I alsoknow that during my best years of training and racing that if Id have not restricted as hard core as I did my performances and results wouldve been so much better. But I always restricted. To the point where Id “bonk” sometimes in training bc I had no fuel left. It was so hard to balance ED and sport.
      Last race I did was in 2014. I was supposed torace this year. Marathon. I can barely walk up a flight of stairs these days without feeling weak and winded. I want to get fit again. But am restricting so hard core the past several years idkif Im going to be able to get back in shape. And this is the first time Im talking about it. Here. Thankyou for bringing this up. I feel safe here talking w everyone.

  • @tanyayfim1582
    @tanyayfim1582 Před 7 měsíci +2

    Love you content Ro🫶🏻🩷 they’re so helpful thankyou🥰

  • @lotty007
    @lotty007 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Please do a part 2, this was so helpful!!!

  • @carolinp1778
    @carolinp1778 Před 7 měsíci

    I would love to see a part two! Thank you so much for your helpful videos🙏🏻🧡

  • @Antonellaoporto
    @Antonellaoporto Před 7 měsíci +12

    Please do a part two, for me it was horrible and traumatizing to be hospitalized (8 times in 2.5 years) and that coming and going takes your life apart. and going out into normal life and feeling the need to hide that dark past to avoid being judged and labeled is so difficult to bear. how was your experience? I'm from Chile, what hospital were you in?

  • @greyberry499
    @greyberry499 Před 7 měsíci +3

    Can we all agree that Ro is the sweetest!!💝🧡💖

  • @meltedsmiles9402
    @meltedsmiles9402 Před 3 měsíci

    I keep coming back to this videos and many others after meals to help me relax when I feel overwhelmed ❤ tyty

  • @deecohen1383
    @deecohen1383 Před 7 měsíci

    Thank you for this Ro. Please do a part 2. I dont have a question. I just like to interact here.
    I feel safe here. So thank you for creating this safe space and sharing your journey with us

  • @lorettapiare3703
    @lorettapiare3703 Před 7 měsíci +3

    Thank you so much for this, you inspire me everyday and make me believe I can someday overcome my ED 🥰🥰

  • @MagdaReyman
    @MagdaReyman Před 7 měsíci

    Thank you so much ❤️ your videos made me keep going in my hardest moments ❤️

  • @izzykaii
    @izzykaii Před 7 měsíci

    Love the long rambly videos 🩷

  • @helenehendrikse9625
    @helenehendrikse9625 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Great video. Love love listening to you talk. Part 2 please!!

  • @freyalemarquand313
    @freyalemarquand313 Před 7 měsíci +1

    So inspiring and comforting- thank you. You'd be incredible at podcasts as well! peace and love to you, hope u are ok xxx

  • @tyekosan5022
    @tyekosan5022 Před 7 měsíci +6

    I dunno if anyone can relate to this but having an ED when you are East-Asian is awful like I know how terrible EDs are in general but being part of a community where you aren't pretty unless you are literally pale and malnourished. From personal experiences (TW: ED Mentions), whenever I visited my family or friends in Japan, it's never 'how are you', it's always 'you've got fat' which is so frustrating!!!!!!! Mental illness as a whole is so taboo in East-Asia, especially EDs where you are praised for having protruding bones and having the A4 waist. When I go to school, I took pathetically thin against everyone else, when I go to Japan and East Asia, I'm considered overweight and it is so invalidating. As much as I want to embrace my Asian identity, I can't help but feel embarrassed lol

  • @lvckycharm1218
    @lvckycharm1218 Před 8 měsíci +5

    Your videos helped me so much

  • @Kale6196
    @Kale6196 Před 7 měsíci +1

    I've been watching your videos and following you on social media since... May, I believe. it's hard to keep track of time when you're constantly obsessed with exercise and what your next meal is going to look like (calorie counting is a pain).
    I don't know if you're ever going to see this, but you have genuinely helped me. I was watching your videos while deep in my anorexic illness. I had been bulimic in the year prior, then I turned to purging disorder and severe restriction, until finally anorexia wormed its way into my heart. You can always tell people that you're anorexic, but they'll never fully take you seriously or understand. Anorexia for me was waking up every day and dreading mealtime because I was terrified of racking up those calories. It was eating something as low as 100 calories and then going for a long walk or doing workouts in my bedroom while tears rolled down my face. It was going to work every day and being unable to control my emotions if the smallest thing happened. It was never complete restriction, so a lot of people never assumed that anything was wrong with me. There's also this stigma that anorexic people can only be skinny white girls.
    I guess what I'm trying to say is that your videos made extreme hunger a hell of a lot easier. And even if I'm weight restored, I still have anorexic thoughts, but that's okay. Because I see how much happier you are now, and I see how much of my personality and hobbies have returned.
    It. Is. Worth. It.
    Thank you.

  • @aliciaperry2538
    @aliciaperry2538 Před 7 měsíci

    I wish this channel was already here when I started my recovery because you made me realize that I kinda only ‘pseudo’ recovered. Would love a part two❤

  • @flora6253
    @flora6253 Před 7 měsíci +1

    hi ro can you please make a part two of this video?
    thank you sm

  • @soybeanlegs1987
    @soybeanlegs1987 Před 2 měsíci

    Your voice is sooooo calming.

  • @allysongraves3823
    @allysongraves3823 Před 7 měsíci +2

    Such wise advise. You are such a great counselor.

  • @karenwencke5511
    @karenwencke5511 Před 7 měsíci

    Love that your nail polish, matches your sweater✨

  • @thenewmutant8314
    @thenewmutant8314 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Ro, I just want to say you look beautiful with and without your fringe. And thank you so much for everything❤

  • @Ktbk11
    @Ktbk11 Před 6 měsíci +1

    I have been struggeling with anorexia for 6 years. I am 22 now and recovered for almost a year...Sometimes I still get unhealthy toughts and some days are harder then others....I really liked youre video and I truly related to it.

  • @Jfjdkrvkehkf
    @Jfjdkrvkehkf Před 8 měsíci +1

    OMG YOU POSTEDD❤

  • @deecohen1383
    @deecohen1383 Před 7 měsíci

    Thank you for this. Luv ya Ro 🥰

  • @user-qc2tt2uz2e
    @user-qc2tt2uz2e Před 7 měsíci +1

    Thank you for this video. It is really helpful for me and my journey

  • @petraharwin9670
    @petraharwin9670 Před 7 měsíci +2

    Very helpful thank you. Please do this again.

  • @Judemoon614
    @Judemoon614 Před 7 měsíci

    Needed this, I’ve been in quasi recovery for so long and I am finally going all in, starting day care soon and Im determined to heal so I can go to uni in September:)

  • @nanouk9225
    @nanouk9225 Před 7 měsíci +5

    i had an ed and im overweight and i always felt like people didnt take it seriously bc they always said stuff ömg you lost weight! good job! you look great" stuff like that. i even went to a dietrician and i felt like she didnt even take me seriously either. it could all be in my head but thats a struggle thats not talked about alot

    • @arie3626
      @arie3626 Před 3 měsíci

      It’s definitely not all in your head. ED can affect anyone no matter your weight/shape/ or gender 🫶🏾🫶🏾 you’re valid no matter what.

  • @viiveean847
    @viiveean847 Před 7 měsíci +1

    I need a part 2!! Does any1 struggle with constipation in recovery? Will it ever be healed? I h@te that feeling. Also, thankyou Ro for this. It makes me feel less alone in recovery… ❤️

  • @amandalarsson2089
    @amandalarsson2089 Před 8 měsíci +1

    This was a good video! You are amazing♥

  • @emma.stallings
    @emma.stallings Před 7 měsíci +3

    I’m in residential treatment right now, I needed this

  • @lucymartin6134
    @lucymartin6134 Před 7 měsíci +3

    This hair suits you ro, you look great ❤

  • @ChloeSinclair-jt5kj
    @ChloeSinclair-jt5kj Před 8 měsíci +1

    This video was so helpful I have recently had a set back and I am struggling in recovery but yesterday I challenged myself with a pumpkin latte which was scary and I have been feeling low atm. Also I would love a p2 on ur inpatient experience this time last year I was inpatient and I struggle thinking about it ❤

  • @sarahjones6686
    @sarahjones6686 Před 7 měsíci +2

    I think all mental health services in the UK are a complete mess. Especially for children. I dont feel a lot of them give a poop 🙄. I get budgets, time, job stress, all that but I also have a child that has been completely failed by the system and it breaks my heart. Ro you are an inspiration to many young people and im so glad there are people like you out there. You are amazing. I had an eating disorder as a teenager and I had no support and obviously there was no youtube. Thankfully im well now but my daughter has arfid so has no interest in food so it does trigger me sometimes (she doesnt know).