A Conversation on Sex, Dating, and Beauty with The Azonwus
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- čas přidán 7. 05. 2024
- Ezekiel & Kiyanna Azonwu have been married for 15+ years, and in this episode they talk with the Perrys about things like attraction, discerning who to pursue romantically, maintaining intimacy in marriage, and flourishing in Christian community. Did they get married too young? Is it okay to care about aesthetics? Would better discipleship in the church lead to healthier marriage relationships? Together, the Azonwus and the Perrys tackle these and many more questions about sex, dating and beauty.
For more conversations like these, check out the Azonwus podcast, We Need to Talk, on CZcams, and follow Ezekiel and Kiyanna on Instagram: @wordsbyezekiel and @thisisglory
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If a woman gets MORE beautiful within a marriage, her husband/marriage has created a wonderful environment/life for her to bloom
Oh I love how you phrased that. Amen. How beautiful 🌸🏵
That's word right there!
The set looks like it smells like coco butter 🤣🤣
It does any jojoba oil 😂😊
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 ayooooo
Right 😂😂
And some incense somewhere 😂
I Usé SUMPTN ELSE THO AT AGE 73 & Folk Say I Look AGE, "42 ... ! ! !" *** *** *** KEEP PEACE WITHIN * * *
Can we all agree that The Perry's & the Azonwus are our cool big cousins.
Facts 💯💯
Not me feeling old cause I consider them my little cousins. 😂
FACTS 💯❤️ 🇳🇦
Honestly 😂❤️
Yessss
I think part of the issue missing from the convo about sex in marriage is that men can often use sex as a stress as reliever or a coping mechanism for life issues masking as having a “higher sex drive” than their partner. Men need to be honest about that. Hence the need for more self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and therapy. Women’s bodies are not tools. Sexual intimacy is a source for connection, reproduction, and more. So let’s bring this fact into the convo too because it’s def overlooked.
Amen!
Absolutely 💯
You said it right!🤗📝
Once!!
Great point
I stopped dating and put my focus on God for two years. I met my husband on Christmas Eve in a game, on my phone, called Words For Friends and we will be married for seven years in December. GOD IS AMAZING! You can't put limits on God. He can do the impossible!!! 👐🏾☝🏽☝🏽☝🏽☝🏽❤❤❤❤
😮😮😮😮
She said …in a GAME. I’m just done. I love these types of stories. Because it shows us as women that being true to ourselves, our likes , hobbies and interests is part of the journey. We get so side tracked in the wait sometimes we give ourselves over to depression and lose motivation for LIFE. Nah, keep LIVING.
Wow!!! That is amazing!! Congratulations 🎊 God is so good!!
Beautiful, beautiful!
@RearviewWisdom this comment is everything, thank you ❤
Preston: “We is children of God. We cannot let the devil win”. 🤦🏾♀️😂
Was looking for this comment. I bust out laughing 😂
He said with Jackie and her 19000 books and she said it's only 4 😂😂
Lol
lmaoooo they are funny! and wise I enjoy it God bless them
Not Jackie calling out Ezekiel to tell his story 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Right?! Off rip!!!!😅
Haha that was wild. But I won't lie, I was about to fast forward through the first part of the interview until Jackie said that 😂
@@utamu777 😄😄
Jackie pull that tape right off...like.. let's get down to the gritty 🤣😭😭😭😭
She stands on business with a testimonial. I was like 👁👄👁
Jackie put him on Blast immediately !! Omg 😭
Talk about 'icebreaker' 😂😂😂😂
@@timbawangu3038 it was an ice demolisher 😂
Definitely broke the ice lolllll
Cause she was ready, Jackie has no filter on certain things "progressive filter" I should say. She said let's swing the door open😅😅
"Teach young men and women to be brothers and sisters in Christ!" PRRRREEEEEAAAAACCCHHHHH!
Brought tears to my eyes when Ezekiel said "God is so good, that it's his grace, his distinct unique grace that he put in a vessel that was designed for me." SO BEAUTIFUL
I meaaannnnnnnnnnn💥💥💥💥
"Falling and going back, hurts more and cost more." Ezekiel, That's sooo good!!!!
We canNOT let the devil WIN😭😭
I was in tears 😂😂😂
I agreed with the comment b4 I heard Preston and now I'm 😂😂😂😂😂!!! 51:53 52:25
😂😂😂
We Cannot !!!😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
I love the husbands talking about the attractiveness of their wives
I think the video playing mid church was God saying people see you praising me loudly but I see what you do in secret 🙃
Jackieeeee the skin is skinnninnnng
Not skinning 😆😂but yeah it is🔥💯
I agree! Jackie is a natural beauty! 🔥
Definitely! 🙂🤎
It hits Preston all the damn time that his wife can actually preach!😂 what a blessed guy
You have a new subscriber, are you going to post more vids?
“Beauty isn’t the problem. Our hearts are!”
"God will often give you a partner that has what you don't have and has what you need." - JHP. Yes. ❤🔥
They asked Kiyanna how she was able to deal with Ezekiel's struggles, and in answering that she took accountability in how she didn't help him with it. That is true love man
"You shooshed the Lord!" 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Yes
“Conversation and time is just slow discernment.” 🔥🔥🔥
I love this because even though Jackie rip the Band-Aid off and tell Ezekiel to tell his story, you can tell by their laughter and the way they can talk about it is there's full deliverance. There's no shame because he knows that he's been delivered, that's the only way you can talk about something so clearly.. .. God is so good with his grace and his Mercy
I prayed so hard to have a boyfriend and someone show me love since I was feeling so lonely. I put the work in to fix myself from the trauma I had experienced that trapped me into not deserving love. This year has been my yes year for going out and trying new things. I went out to the golf range with my friend not having showered for like 4 days, no makeup, stanky and ended up meeting an amazing guy who loves me for who I am. So much pressure going on dates in my past trying to dress and present myself as perfect. Gods timing is something else 😂
Guess I’m going to the golf range now
Don’t forget the not showering for 4 days etc 😅
Can I ask why you didn’t shower for four days? Was it intentional?
@@israel8803 LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL.
Not showering for 4 days is wiiiild 😂😂😂
Being a single woman hoping to be a wife one day I am grateful to God for these types of videos. We need more married couples having these types of talks on social media and giving good advice to people who are either married or looking to get married. I realize that there are so many single people who don’t know what it means to be a wife or husband or what submission in marriage really is. I think the reason is because they are getting advice from loud and wrong people on the internet. Thank you for giving people the tools and advice that you did not get so that they can be successful in their marriage or future marriage.
28:33 EVERY SERIOUS MAN OF GOD SAYS THIS ❤ his wife gets more beautiful over time🎉
That had me cheesing 😂
Not “put the pipe down” no pun intended nooo Jackie 😩
32:36 “There are so many trials and tests in marriage, in relationships where the aesthetic won’t matter when we’re going through something.
What will sustain us is your character, your walk and intimacy with God.”
Jackie P.
Preston clapping is crazyyy 😭😭
Diabolical 😭😭😭
Facts😂😂😂
Preston is so SILLY FOR THAT! "We can't let the devil win... you don't feel challenged" it was then I started crying with laughter LOOOOL! Such a good episode, was an episode we didn't know we needed
Was looking for this comment - i was cryinnngggg LOOOL
That part was so hilarious 😂 , I repeated it a couple of times
Thank you for this podcast. This episode especially. I'm a 19 year old male. I used to identify as bisexual and God saved me from that. Coming into a church space (in university) has been so awkward for me especially where I see so many young Christians dating and Sinning in a heterosexual manner and it is accepted. I've just had so much insecurity when it came to dating because I'm generally not attracted to most women (especially sexually)and I've been asked about it a lot. It's just been a prayer in my heart. I want a relationship but I don't know with who because I haven’t connected with anyone. I partially think it's out of fear but I don't know. I have a lot of sisters in christ that build me up and vice versa and I'm always questioned as to why I'm not in a relationship with any of them, what Mr Azonwu said about treating your sisters in Christ well without the expectation of marriage has just affirmed me that I'm on the right path. I'm South African by the way. May the Lord continue to bless you all 🙏🏾
O my goodness, literally a South African as well and varsity is such a difficult place for me as well because not a lot of people share the same values as myself and makes really difficult just to interact with people
Not me smiling all hard listening to Ezekiel and Kiyanna’s love story 😆 lol
I feel you about addiction. We all go through it. Like for example with food. I be like "I'm gonna start eating healthy. But after I eat this medium pizza by myself." 😩
Or "I'm halfway through the pizza and now I'm full. I should but I need to eat the rest because I don't want to waste this pizza because tomorrow I start my diet "
True. My story
Lol medium i I be like give me the family size real big back activity going on lol
Yes yes yes to this ! Food is where my mind went
The first 10 mins of this video has me SCREAMING 😂 please keep the Azonwus in frequent rotation 😭
Ezekiel story was giving “Imma see for myself” 😂 thank God for deliverance ❤
I LITERALLY was about to look up scriptures on EVERY topic on this video description, smh... And then this pops up on my feed... So this is about to bless me I believe... Thank you Lord.
Still look up those scriptures 🫶🏾
@@RHLoveryour amazing for this!
Not the look of worry on Jackie’s face lol 😂 as Preston talk about his attraction to her.
I saw that too, i lol’d so hard I love them 🥰
I thought she looked a little uncomfortable too lol
i think any young person looking forward to getting married should go through school with the Perrys.
100% agree with this statement
They need to do a mentorship or something 🤣🫶🏼
@@jniyalhand ikr.
Dang courthouse wedding = premarital sex , Jackie jumped right over simply being poor 😭
Lol simply
A courthouse wedding isn’t premarital sex it’s wedding and it’s recognized by God
@@redeemingdaniela3682 I thought so cause there is a ceremony
25:06 "she said everybody before her was mid"
"they were" 😂😂😂
What does "mid" mean/ stand for? I want in on the joke but I don't get it 😅 (I'm not American kinda lost here)
@@karolburke9397 mid in this context means average or mediocre
Okay gat cha 👍🏾 thanks lol
A man definitely has to be attracted to a woman mentally, spiritually, and physically for that connection to be dynamic. Anything less truly is shallow and will bore that man. He may even become irritated by the lack of holistic attraction that he has for that woman.
When you have to “shhhhhhhush” God…you know it was the Holy Spirit stepping in to speak to you. My goodness…
"I'm being serious too"
"You don't feel challenged" 😂
Preston is too much!
It don't take but a little for him, the way he has the hots for his wife and she blushes everytime its so adorable.
This was a great conversation. When I was married I did withhold sex as punishment but it was also because I noticed a pattern in my husband where he was spiritually and emotionally "dumping" inside of me and it was a transferring of energy. So no when you had a bad day at work I don't want you to blow my back out because then you feel better and now I feel like crap. When instead we could've prayed about it together or something else. I just got tired of feeling like a dumpster and I had nowhere to place my worries, fears, or things that frustrated me. I was going to God double time because I was carrying his burdens and mine but he wasn't going to the cross on my behalf. I would have rather us war together through prayer and also in the bedroom.
This is good stuff.
What a great vid. I love how God puts 2 ppl together n they balance each other. My marriage started as 2 unbelievers then I became a believer n it was not easy to be patient and sit back have faith in Christ that He would work on my husband's heart. Sure enough now we are both born again, loving the Lord errday. Lol
The sex life changed but it was my husband who wasn't as active as I was loll...little did I know it was God's perfect plan to work on me!! I had a problem, I relied on sex for confirmation, validation etc. God was working on me to rely only on Him! After 10+ yrs we are on the same page. God is so good on everything He does!
Jackie's face when Preston said vasectomy
😂😂😂
That is so true. When I was abstaining for years & when I allowed the flesh to win, it totally discussed me. I went right back to abstaining & what a great feeling to stay strong & free from sex.
So true. (I think you meant to type @disgusted”)
I can relate, when I let flesh win it felt like I went back further than I started 😭 never again.
@@hhm9609 Thank you
7 times worse is no joke!!! Help us stay delivered Holy Spirit! 🙏🏽
God I love that You are Sovereign ❤
When Jackie talked about smoking after being saved it really resonated with me, I grew up in church but only attended to be a good daughter, I was the golden child in peoples faces then did whatever I wanted in private Cus no one suspected me, even after I encountered the lord I kept smoking but I began to always feel tormented when I did I would always feel highly anxious and hear voices that sounded like people arguing, It was almost never a good experience but I just wouldn’t stop, I continued for a bout a year, I would smoke vapes too and would never take anyone seriously that warned me against it as I couldn’t find anything in the bible that explicitly warned against it. at first I threw away all my grinders and papers but after a while I started university and had more freedom than ever and would smoke a lot with friends, it still was an anxious experience but I wouldn’t stop, like Jackie I would smoke whenever anxious bored or upset, it would “heighten” my creativity, but also my anxiety. It felt almost like routine like I had to. Even if I didn’t want to.
It took me a while to stop and I jumped around with how often I’d do it, I’d limit myself and stopped vapes but picked up cigarettes, really and truly I was only smoking to distract myself from feeling, I was emotionally mature for other people but totally emotionally irresponsible with myself and used smoking to help me bypass my feelings even more.
as of now I haven’t smoked in about a month and a half and this is the longest I’ve gone in the last 2 years, Thank you God
Jackie set herself up with that warfare comment 😂😂😂
Can y’all do a Q&A podcast answering our questions😃? Can we talk about the realness of sex in Christian homes? Women don’t want to withhold sex as punishment, arguing/disagreements/annoyances interfere with our emotions, therefore we don’t want to have sex…we need the right emotions to relax our mind in order for our bodies to relax for sex.
Yeah it’s kinda weird to be like “women are withholding sex from us” when in reality, it’s just emotions. Like women’s EMOTIONS are inconveniencing their husbands and that is hilarious. Being considerate, kind, helpful around the house, and selfless will ALWAYS make a woman desire her husband. God said for men to love their wives for a reason lol
Oh my gosh 🤣 the way I am rollin’ over the crack head analogy. I use that analogy all the time but it’s the best way for people to understand the breaking of bad habits.
This was the most chill, laid back, serious/unserious episode 😂😂 I laughed but also received conviction and some good gems to jot down
I see what they’re saying but pretty much every man in the Bible was with a beautiful woman. Sarah was so pretty that Abraham had to say that she’s his sister so they dont kill him for her. The Bible talked about Rebekah’s beauty at least 3 times, she’s “fair” etc so the thing is, men will always look at the outside and God will always look at the inside, it’s our nature. It’s only when we align with Gods will, we see the inside. It’s easier for us women to overlook a few imperfections but men not so much especially “societally attractive” men.
Very true
We were taught to look at each other as brothers and sisters in Christ. I teach my nephews that now. My late husband and I gave them purity rings.
They said they can’t let the devil win Ikdr💀😭
I shall, and ama WAIt! 😤😌
Maybe because I'm plus size, but sometimes I feel like people in church can be fat phobic. When i got married I Expected, somwhat for the world to question my beauty and my husband's attraction towards me, but when the people at church did it it hurt more and made me question for years if my husband really wanted me and had me waiting for the ball to drop.
Almost 15 years later we are still together but i still think about how people around me and in the church didn't believe that i deserved the kind of love that my husband has for me because of my size.
Validating you in this. Because I’ve personally heard my pastor use disparaging remarks towards big people, specifically Lizzo. Don’t listen to her music, so I had no real reason to be offended other than the fat phobic comments. Half the congregation is overweight or obese, so it really shines a light on how people secretly judge/discriminate. Very sad
Validating you in this as well. Whew.
Crazy, I'm trying to gain weight
“conversation and time is slow discernment” so good!
I listened to on apple already and it was sooooo good can you have them again please? It’ll be great to know how specifically u guys overcame things like intimacy expectations and wanting to divorce etc what practical steps I can take to help. Also regaining friendship in marriage when it’s lost etc
This is very insightful and fun to listen to. The part where Jackie said there’s not in our control how we’ll meet our partner was a highlight for me because I just don’t agree with all the motion that singles should go out more often and join this and that with the sole purpose to meet someone. I think it will happen in God’s timing and just hearing someone say that is reassuring. Also picked up a lot of wisdom that’s good to know as a single preparing to get married. Thanks you all, ❤
😂😂😂 Preston said I will cook early, feed the kids and put them down.The we can go to war! He is hilarious.
Preston: Everyone before her was mid.
Jackie: …. They were 😂
The amount of laughter here and wisdom just shows what is inside each of you and the maturity and depth you all have in your relationship with God and with each other. May many of us have such great relationships
Jackie saying for sure about Preston getting a gut was too funny🤣🤣
Pheeew!! Already commenting 30 secs into the video because Jackie just said all I’ve have been trying to say for the longest time. We need to dial back on this new teaching in churches of “women you need to make yourself available, you need to position yourself, you need to, you need to”…etc! We should first of all focus on God and His instructions for your life, and in turn, He (GOD) will reveal to you places you need to be available and what “positioning” looks like for YOU. My dear sisters, don’t get pressured with the message of “position yourself”. So much balance in what Jackie said and I love it!!❤
I heavily agree with what Preston stated around the 37:16 mark because witnessing and understanding the eternal relationship a believer has with another as a brother or sister in Christ respectively leads to contentment with the establishment of that relationship no matter what it blossoms into whether that be maintained as friends or grow into dating and/or spousal relationship.
I remember Ezekiel telling this story when they came to South Africa for the We need to talk tour 😂😂😂
This was soo good!! I hope my husband (when he comes) is listening to conversations/podcasts like this!! So insightful
Yes, ma'am! I agree! 👏🏾👏🏾
The Perry’s and the Azonwus a pod we DID know that we needed.
Loved this episode. However, I would like my husband to be physically attracted to me from the first time he meets me. And as he gets to know me, become attracted to my personality etc. I think physically attraction is quite important.
I literally love the honesty in this podcast
Can we talk about the things wives do that husbands need to be patient with?? Women are quite imperfect as well. Husbands need to have grace with us as also. We need to grow and change and mature in the Lord too!!
I appreciate this comment. I feel like the discussion about marriage within the church is often one sided and basically about what women are expected to do rather than what both parties are expected to do.
We need a series of yall together!!! This was everything
Preston is absolutely hilarious ! 😂 he made the ez porn story way... more entertaining than it was supposed to be😅, it was the hush lord for me😅😅 smh we gtta do better children of christ, the battle is not ours it is the lords, we gotta lean on him for strength 💪 especially during times where we feel weak against our flesh
I have a friend that loves God and really struggles with porn and masturbation. The way Ezekiel gave that revelation at the beginning of the video was completely mind blowing 🤯 🤯
Like wow!!
“This how you get the people”😂😂
I have my ticket. Can't wait. Excited!
This was the best podcast I've ever seen. It helped me grow in various aspects of life, including dating and relationships.
This was great!! Thank yall!!
They all exhibit so much humility!!
The Perry's are a blessing to our generation! The rawness and realness of life of a believer. So good ❤
Thank you for sharing your testimonies, this has been so helpful❤️
the collab we knew we needed ❤
L O L !!! How this podcast started!!! Oh, I am invested!
I loved these guest! Keep inviting them over ❤
Loved loved loved the conversation!!!!
Productive synergy in a marriage is so key to how you can see God’s hand on your union !
amazing video!! Loved the chemistry in the room and the wisdom
I have gotten so many tools learning from couple like The Perrys and The Ozonwus. And that other couple you brang on.
Awww look at yall doing ads lol ❤
That was gooodd Jackie. This conversation is timely for me. I was praying about God's sovereignty lately.
I would have loved to hear Kiyanna’s thoughts on self-hate &colorism while dating in the Christian community. Self-hatred in general is demonic and prevalent. We often avoid even talking about it.
This just became easily top-five podcast episode of All Time for me! THANK YOU for this!!
Beautiful convo!
I love the different angles Kim
Nothing wrong with great sex in marriage. Sex is created for Man and woman under covenant of lord Jesus Christ… blessing to all married couples sex life🎉 TURNUP ENJOY❤️🔥🙏🏾👩🏾❤️💋👨🏾
Incredible episode!! May God bless you all ✨
This was the most perfectly timed video/topic for me and my life. Thank you so much
What a great conversation! I learned so much ❤