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Give Up, Stop Trying, Feel Better: Depression Skills 2 | Dr. Rami Nader
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- čas přidán 15. 08. 2024
- Depression is a complex mental health condition that can impact every aspect of a person's life. Unfortunately, many people mistakenly believe that depression is caused by a person giving up and not trying hard enough to feel better. This misconception can make it even harder for individuals struggling with depression to seek the help they need. In reality, the problem with depression is often that a person is trying too hard to feel better. Trying to accomplish goals or meet expectations when lacking the energy or motivation to do so can lead to failure, which in turn fuels depression. This vicious cycle can make it difficult for individuals to break free from the grasp of depression. If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, it's important to understand that the first step in overcoming this condition is to set goals that match your actual level of motivation and energy. By giving up on bigger goals and expectations and focusing on achievable ones, you can build momentum and start the process of overcoming depression.
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Self neglect, it’s so gross that I’ll probably lose my teeth. Some may say I’m lazy, but unfortunately it is definitely neglect, my family taught me how not to love myself. It has been devastating, in every area of my life. So sad for anyone who suffers from anxiety / depression.
brushing my teeth is a huge goal in this depression
Omg ! never did I ever think (before this awful
affliction)that brushing my teeth would become such a momentous task !
Same here..!! I don't know sometimes if I did or not.
This is so horrible!!!
How are you doing now?
This has been my rollercoaster ride for the last ten months. Thank you for posting something that gives me hope. I've fought so hard just to maintain a sliver of hope.
You're welcome. I hope you find the videos useful and I wish you all the best in your efforts to feel better.
Pop poop 0⁹😅
I actually had to pause this video to write this comment. I've been suffering with depression for 16 years, and have tried every medication, CBT book, therapy etc. in the world and it got me no relief. I'm only half way through this video and think that I think I may have a shot at beating this thing now! I've never heard it explained this way before. You caught my attention yesterday in another video about "behavioral activation", again another thing you'd think I would've came across over the last 16 years. Anyway, thank you for your awesome presentation and shining a brilliant light on a dark subject. Thanks to you. I'll try again! THANK YOU!
I'm so glad to hear you have found the videos helpful. I wish you all the best in your efforts to feel better!
Your comment gives me hope too!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤ thank you!
Just realized for the past 8 years I've been setting up very unrealistic goals for myself, and even though I'm objectively in a very good place in life right now I still feel very dissatisfied with it exactly because of these high expectations. And subconsciously I've been trying to allow myself to give up before thinking how much I would like to leave a "simple life" where I would have no big expectations from myself, no big goals to achieve, no standards to meet. But this can be my life if I want to.
Thank you so much for making this video and working on your channel in general, the information you provide is very, very useful and important for everyone!
ME too. I have this level of discontent and dissatisfaction even though I am at a better place. The high expectations may be the biggest issue to that bc I am trying to figure out the future and how to take large issues when ai just started recovering and should be still working on my thoughts life, and basic self care
I'll be hanging for the next one. I hope it helps me. My motivation is at the bottom. To think I use to be what people called a soldier.i just kept going. Now I'm lucky to shower. I mentally beat myself up everyday even though I know not to. I'm so frustrated.
I wish you all the best in your efforts to feel better
I’ve been doing activities that I have to, but they don’t make me feel better. It makes me feel worse because of all my self-doubt and criticism of myself. Even just sending a text back, I cringe over whatever I write hours later.
I can't say enough about this series. It's a wonderful gift to the world to summarize CBT and skills for overcoming depression and make them available to everyone.
Thank you for your kind and encouraging words!
Is there any science behind this advice? I suffer from depression and anhedonia but I’ve found that completely forgetting about things that used to bring be joy was very helpful. Instead I tried all new things. I studied calculus, I took up a new instrument, I started doing yoga. Because it was all new, it was fresh and the joy came with that. If it’s a loss of joy with your kids, try doing something new with them. Maybe a cooking class together or pottery/art, anything novel to you both.
I love this series and look forward to the upcoming episodes! This approach reminds of the Acceptance & Commitment Therapy I learned from one therapist I had.
I'm glad the series is something you are interested in. I hope you will find future videos helpful!
This was so brilliantly explained and presented. SO helpful. Thank you!! 💜
Glad it was helpful! You're very welcome.
Hello Dr. Nader, thank you so much for the content on your channel, it is so useful! Have you ever done a video relating to dealing with the loss of someone you loved?
I have that on my list of future videos, so I will get around to it at some point. I have posted a video on dealing with the suicide loss of a loved one - somewhat more complicated issues, but some of the ideas are similar. If you want to check that video out, you can find it here: czcams.com/video/8G5D1z-jLLc/video.html
The behavioral activation thing is good in theory but easier said than done.
You're right. It's not easy, but if the goals are appropriately set, it works.
Priming the pump to get the water. Damn. Good analogy.
I'm glad you found it helpful!
You are really helpful thank you.
You're very welcome. Glad you found the video helpful.
The cbt model leaves out fundamental things like physiology and environment and isn't convincing but the other two sections are. Energy and motivation is easy to grasp and see and ties in nicely with things like spoon theory.
I want to excersize, only because i look horribly sick now.. but, i have insomnia. I don't sleep anymore. I just suffer from the trauma i went through and my career job loss, etc. I the anhedonic depression is unbearable.
Im worried... and afraid
"its no use, give up" - Eggman, Sonic Adventure 1
truly a genius ahead of his time
also
"just do it! - Shia LaBeouf, Holes (or something)
This resonates for me. Thank you!
You're welcome
I Thank you.
More than you could ever know.☺️
That's really nice to hear. Thank you.
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I deal with depression, anxiety & a miariad of health problems. I went to counseling for a couple of years to learn how to cope. But still have "well wishers " trying to tell me how to run my life & gaslighting. Its just so nice to get affirmation through this & other videos that you have. I do still have difficulties with what i want to do vs what I can do. I just found you today, & have watched 4 videos. Will now get what I can do, done. 😉
You're very welcome. Glad you have found the videos helpful and wish you all the best in your efforts to feel better!
Thank you❤ this is very helpful and motivating.
Glad it was helpful!
Dr. Nader your commentary is so comforting and informative. Thank you very much!!🖖
You're very welcome. Glad you found it helpful.
i need this
Thank you
You're welcome!
I needed this. Thank you!
You're very welcome Jill.
Do you make these videos in the middle of the night while others are sleeping? Sometimes I get that twinge of anxiety like you might be waking or disturbing someone because of your restrained vibe. Thank you for putting out this content. You are helping thousands of people.
Hi Dan - the restrained vibe is all me; it's just how I approach these topics. Glad you have found the videos helpful!
I think it may be due to the low background sound, it's setting a disturbing vibe to the unconcius perception of the listener.
Sounds like this are used in thrillers and horrors to set the audience off into an earie paranoic mood and keep people engaged inbetween the more dramatic scenes with louder and more obvious sounds.
@@SeamannonLOL. That’s funny. I always like videos more when there’s no music or background noise but I never thought of it being weird. Now I’m going to try to listen for what you’re talking about.
@@tnijoo5109 I'd definitely like the video more without that noise. Background music makes only sense when it's aligned with the video, it has to compliment the message, set the right mood for it or at least be neutral like elevator music that you wouldn't be able to recall after leaving a particular space.
@@Seamannon yeah! I know what you mean! That’s true. In these videos I never noticed anything eerie even when I was listening for it but I liked your description. 👍
Thanks for the video Dr. Rami Nader, have you ever made a video on agoraphobia?
Yes I have. You can find it here: czcams.com/video/prFzwJ5I9xY/video.html
Much appreciated
You're very welcome.
Excellent!!
Glad you found it helpful!
Good advice. Thanks! But what about when you more or less live in depression your whole life? 😞
I tried this and it helped for awhile but i have someone in my life who won't let me continue this. He is pushing me to do more then I can handle and now I'm ready to give up altogether. He just wants to help but doesn't understand its pushing me in a dangerous direction. Things that are easy for him are much more difficult for me and he thinks I don't try. Maybe i don't but why should I do things that make me stress out to the point i just want to end it all. Like i said small and easy for him huge and difficult for me. In a situation now where im just about to just say goodbye world im out.
How to become Driven towards professional development & career goals if there are a lot of Distractions from uncertainty of path to numbness to imagining worst case scenario to inaction to build plan etc..
Have you taken a look at some of the videos I've done on intolerance of uncertainty and excessive worry? You can find them here: czcams.com/play/PLG_XiSJeP3s3uiRj-4CNEUn2qoK3mLAzD.html
What if you have to do stuff that’s beyond your current level? Like, I have to write an important email and this task ruined yesterday and is feeling overwhelming today. I have to do it today though. These are the things that make me feel awful about myself. And always feeling the shame of having to hide the way I am right now, trying to pretend I’ve got it together. Advice, anyone?
The only advice I can give is to try to break the larger goals down into smaller bits and pieces, like I explain in this video: czcams.com/video/UT572CCueIs/video.html
@@DrRamiNader thank you 🙏
@@DrRamiNader I actually watched that one a few days ago and I had written in the comments that I would watch the video again and again. LOL. It’s a really good video.
For writing the email though, there was no way to break it down. And after I wrote it, I got a reply an hour later so I only had to write another email. I did it. I’m trying to just do those things and get them out if the way instead of letting them ruin my day. Waiting makes everything way worse. No more waiting! Just tackling the things. The sooner I do things, the better it is. So I try to remember that but it’s hard. Thanks again.
Why did you add this low humming sound as the backtrack for this video?
It's a strange choice for a video that is supposed to give uplifting advice for people who feel already down, very dissonant and disturbing. 😅
The advice seems reasonable and helpful, but the background sound ruins it for me, to be honest.
Sorry about the sound. I think it might have been the HVAC system working in the room I was recording in.
@@DrRamiNader I didn't realise that air condition could make that sound, if that's the case, you may need a different mic or adjust the settings so that it doesn't pick up the background noise. I tried to listen to this video again because I didn't remember if the noise was really that bad, but I had to stop the video after a few seconds. Maybe I'm too sensitive, I hope others are able to enjoy your video, I have to pass. Good luck with your future recordings! :)
Not really that bad an introduction, BUT... may we know how your name is correctly pronounced when you introduce yourself?
I never introduce myself in videos. The way my name is pronounced is Ram-ee Nay-der
Thank you
You're very welcome.