Can INFP And INFP Relationship Work?

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  • čas přidán 17. 08. 2021
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Komentáře • 149

  • @dianedoommarenawunah6289
    @dianedoommarenawunah6289 Před 2 lety +160

    Thankfully INFPs are shape shifters, especially in relationships
    An INFP can become an INTP, ENFP, INFJ or even ENFJ depending on what they think is needed in the relationship

    • @lilbabytears
      @lilbabytears Před rokem +2

      Interesting comment! Could you elaborate more?!

    • @theblacksworde
      @theblacksworde Před rokem +7

      @@lilbabytears I find this to be true as well actually. Sometimes my young INFP needs me to be a positive and cheerful ENFP when she is depressed and unmotivated or a INTP when she in the middle of an emotional storm and I find I can do this - for short periods.

    • @benjaminirvine102
      @benjaminirvine102 Před rokem +26

      They can. But its unstable and unhealthy. INFPs are most stable and happy when they're their most authentic selves and loved for being that way.

    • @izuraheman4899
      @izuraheman4899 Před rokem

      SO TRUE

    • @laylarosei6892
      @laylarosei6892 Před rokem

      I think thats true, I can be many things♡

  • @annazabc
    @annazabc Před 2 lety +183

    Gotta agree that no housework would be done lol

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  Před 2 lety +20

      One of life's biggest struggles.

    • @sarahgreene7082
      @sarahgreene7082 Před 2 lety +8

      I'm an INFP that only seems to accomplish housework 🤣

    • @cc4969
      @cc4969 Před rokem

      lol I love house work

    • @kskskksks3045
      @kskskksks3045 Před rokem +1

      Infp can have developed te

    • @KopMATT96
      @KopMATT96 Před rokem +5

      Not true. Housework is easy for INFP. INFP are usually very ocd about interior design

  • @DagToreLarsen
    @DagToreLarsen Před rokem +63

    My experience as INFP after being married to my INFP wife for 13 years, is that it works perfectly fine. Nobody understands me better than my wife. She is my best friend, partner, and lover in one person. We tell each other everything and when we get something we need to talk about, we ask each other for advice. We also have a 13-year-old daughter who also tested herself as INFP recently. Me and my wife run a video production business together where we film concerts and weddings. We both always find new innovative ideas (Ne) for how we can do things in a better and more interesting way so it's never a boring day in our work because not one job will be the same. So, we often play creative ping-pong with each other leting our creativity and the production value grow for every year. So, saying two INFP can't grow together, I think is not entirely correct because I feel I could never have grown so much without her. Our daughter is also highly creative, and she helps us from time to time.

    • @keropi193
      @keropi193 Před rokem +5

      This is the dream and soso beautiful :')

    • @mikicerise6250
      @mikicerise6250 Před 9 měsíci +6

      You're an INFP dynasty! 😁

  • @TowerJunkie
    @TowerJunkie Před 2 lety +135

    Based on my experience it DOES work! My fiancé and I are both INFPs. When we overthink we call it INFPing.
    I do feel that it really takes two people who are very willing to be open and unquestionably honest with each other but also with ourselves. We are never afraid to be wrong and work toward our continued individual growth as well as growing as a couple. We strive to keep our individuality within our relationship because that was a big part of why our old relationships failed.
    I feel so lucky to have found this cheeky devil. I know we are heading into the adventure of our lifetimes!
    --- edit 2023.03.17 I tested as an INFJ the other day… but it was very close. I’ve never gotten anything but INFP up until then.
    I’ve been overcoming some deep rooted issues over the last 3 years and have changed.. so it fits. But I found that fascinating. Felt the comment needed an edit

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  Před 2 lety +13

      It definitely can work ;) (spoiler)
      The way I approached the video is more of how to get over some of the obstacles intrinsic to having 2 INFPs together.
      Thank you for sharing your side as well!

    • @JaxCover
      @JaxCover Před 2 lety

      Hi!.Ok question about INFP INFP.
      Does it ever get boring?
      What does it feel like, compared to relationships with an extrovert?
      More like being with your BFF?
      What creates the chemistry, the deep love?
      Is it quiet a lot, and are you sure that's not boring, cuz I'm considering trying this... Lol

    • @rainfeedermusic
      @rainfeedermusic Před 2 lety

      Gives me hope

    • @katwilliams2950
      @katwilliams2950 Před rokem

      @@JaxCover you and your interest have to make an effort. It can get boring imo but it doesn't have to be. Like in the video, you can imagine different goals and work towards them together. Just be mindful of becoming stuck

    • @SoniaJbrt
      @SoniaJbrt Před rokem +5

      @@JaxCover its definitely not boring. It's a lot of passion and fun and joking and being ok just sitting next to each other on the couch holding hands and watching a movie, no need to say a word cause you just KNOW what your partner is feeling. But communication is very important. Once you have discussed all the important things, it will be wonderful from there on. Remind each other once in a while about your discussions, cause we INFP'S can be forgetful sometimes. It's like if you don't want to be in a relationship, but you are in a relationship and you only want this to last forever.

  • @SoniaJbrt
    @SoniaJbrt Před rokem +21

    My husband and me are both INFP. The spark and spice is definitely there! Oh gosh, it's just... Wow! We get each other. We have differences and learn from each other. He can be very spontaneous and I love surprises, so it's amazing! April will be 13 years married, we knew from the start we are meant for each other, and we are soulmates and it was love at first sight. We can't think that anyone else would have been a spouse, it just wouldn't work. We work, and it's just wonderful!

  • @kaoshiyuki
    @kaoshiyuki Před rokem +10

    I'm an INFP and my boyfriend's also an INFP. We're together for almost 6 years now and all I can say it's the best relationship I've ever had. We never fight, we respect each other's decisions and nobody understand my mind & emotions better than him. I've never been happier in any relationship.

  • @icantseeyou1294
    @icantseeyou1294 Před 2 lety +51

    I can only talk about INFP-INFP friendship. In my opinion it's like a mix of a therapy, talking about secrets which almost nobody can understand besides you and brainstorming about different ideas. It's like looking in the mirror and realizing your own mistakes, but I've also experienced how careful I should be to don't hurt her feelings - probably others feel this too with me. If I guess it well she is a 4w3, I'm a 4w5 and I'm not as brave and self-confident as she is. We sometimes have arguments, because we try to help others like we help ourselves and it's not always a good way.
    I have an other INFP friend, who is probably a 9w1. She is more chill and childish, and I don't feel the pressure with her to be really careful with my words. With her our friendship is funny, we really can laugh about everything.
    These friendship are really great, but I think there would be more developmental opportunity with other types (at least in a relationship).
    Sorry for my mistakes, English is not my native language.

    • @Sound-Eater
      @Sound-Eater Před 2 lety +3

      As an intj, I can say the same about other intjs that I've met somewhere on the internet. A 'mirror' that allows us to exchange experiences, but with time conversations become boring. I also saw my infp bf's friendship with another much younger infp whom he supported in goals. Their conversations looked like they just sat down in space somewhere on some other planet under a magic tree and started talking about dragons (;

    • @icantseeyou1294
      @icantseeyou1294 Před 2 lety +3

      @@Sound-Eater Our converstations can be that weird too, but we usually say "it's not weird in the bad way". :-)
      So do you have an INFP boyfriend? Sounds really great. I really love this combination. Probably because I also like an INTJ, but it's complicated. I mean the early stages, the communication part and breaking the ice, because we're both really guarded...

    • @Sound-Eater
      @Sound-Eater Před 2 lety +3

      There is always a lot of creativity in these conversations!
      Glad to hear you like intjs (:
      Yeah, it's true. But he was the person who taught me to communicate my emotions. At first it was very hard for me (his digging in my past, asking lots of questions), but it really heals. Heard it's too tiring for some intjs.
      I respected and admired his Fi and the way he behaves to others and thinks about the emotions of others before he says anything as stupid or rude as I could say. And he often pulled me out of my 'paranoid' mode.
      He died, but I'm very grateful to him for his time and for all these lessons. Hope I don't forget about it and won't become a 'grumpy cat' again (:

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  Před 2 lety +7

      "like they just sat down in space somewhere on some other planet under a magic tree and started talking about dragons" I want to join that conversation.

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  Před 2 lety +6

      Those sound like great friendships :)

  • @theblacksworde
    @theblacksworde Před 2 lety +67

    I'm an INFP and my girlfriend is also a INFP and we are very close and work well together despite our large age gap. I don't pretend there are not challenges arising from us both being inwardly highly emotional and sensitive "prickly" types. Shout out from sunny Dubrovnik, Croatia!

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  Před 2 lety +5

      Thanks for sharing!
      I think young INFPs are really mature in a lot of ways - and struggle in many more obvious ones. I was certainly like that and I know a few others.
      Hopefully the ability to mentor with Fi/Te and the ability to embrace youthful exploration from Ne can lead you both to a great place :)

    • @theblacksworde
      @theblacksworde Před 2 lety +2

      I think thats a very good description of our dynamic - if you mean by that I am able to help her get out of head and get things done and she helps me connect with my long supressed creative and idealistic side!

    • @JaxCover
      @JaxCover Před 2 lety +2

      Hi. Would you mind disclosing who's older and the age gap? Bc I might be headed in a similar situation. Lol

    • @theblacksworde
      @theblacksworde Před 2 lety +1

      @@JaxCover I am the older one. Good luck! lol...

    • @catleaxmas5416
      @catleaxmas5416 Před 2 lety +3

      hi! it's crazy how we are in the same situation, recently i started a relationship with an infp (it's been 3 months) and despite our large age gap we really made it work and i am also the older one..

  • @mikicerise6250
    @mikicerise6250 Před 9 měsíci +4

    See, the bad thing about typology is when you're in a stage where you still don't know each other very well, you can slip into using the idealized personality construct to fill in the blanks, and start assuming you know more than you really do about who the other person is. I think INFP-INFP can work great, as long as we're fully stocked on tissues. 😂 It comes with challenges of its own, but any relationship does.
    You are totally spot on about feeling that all of the people who have come close to us have contributed to who we are and how we've evolved, hopefully positively. I've been cut off, but I've never actually cut anyone off I've been with, and I definitely come with a couple of exes-turned-great-friends. I even helped one of my exes find her husband because she knows I'm good at detecting liars, and it's working out for them, which I feel great about, and she also helps me deal with the emotional drama of dating. We INFPs can be pretty awesome. 😁

  • @StarLightPrincess27
    @StarLightPrincess27 Před 6 měsíci +3

    My partner and I are both INFPs.. and since our ages are slightly apart, I feel that the "spice" and the "grounding" that an ENFJ for instance is supposed to balance out is something we have with each other.. and it's the most beautiful thing.. we both feel safe, in each other, and we are both also brave to explore in our own, gentle ways... and.. we're not just INFPs.. my partner is my twin flame too.... so.. yup... it can definitely, definitely work.. 😊

  • @theloneliestmanchannel
    @theloneliestmanchannel Před 2 lety +28

    An INFP 4w5 here: I've always found it works best with INFP 9w1 types, where I'm both more attracted, but also more calm, like we're able to fulfil different roles. But I'm sure relationships with enneagram 4 INFPs could work too, despite the risk of drama/exhaustion.
    Honestly, it's difficult to start relationships with INFPs (in my experience) and takes a lot of time for anything to actually happen (despite always having a fast natural attraction to them). This is an obstacle I don't have to face so much with other types. On the other hand, the love I've had for INFPs is nearly always very intense.
    I also think that INFP-INFP relationships are great for growth if one of them takes the role of a mentor. They can teach you about life in a way that can be easily understood.
    Anyway, those are some random thoughts from my experiences. Thanks so much for the video!

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  Před 2 lety +7

      Yes to both of these! "Honestly, it's difficult to start relationships with INFPs (in my experience) and takes a lot of time for anything to actually happen (despite always having a fast natural attraction to them)." -- "I also think that INFP-INFP relationships are great for growth if one of them takes the role of a mentor."
      It took a lot of time to progress in my IxFP relationships because we were both waiting for the other person to take the lead and to feel more comfortable. Like a cat testing out the water in a pool or bath.

    • @Aliena92
      @Aliena92 Před 2 lety

      I'm an INFP 4w5 too

    • @theloneliestmanchannel
      @theloneliestmanchannel Před 2 lety

      @@Aliena92 Since making this comment I’ve grown to like fellow 4w5s more 😅

    • @Aliena92
      @Aliena92 Před 2 lety

      @@theloneliestmanchannel ha! :) 🙌

    • @theloneliestmanchannel
      @theloneliestmanchannel Před 2 lety

      @@Aliena92 🙌☺️

  • @kamiloncha.m
    @kamiloncha.m Před 2 lety +27

    First: sorry for my bad English, it's not my native language
    Well~ I'm in a relationship with another Infp, we kind of struggle alone when we get overwhelmed by our thoughts and feelings. However, as we discuss our problems together, we have a great understanding for the other (procrastination, pressure, anxiety and other rough problems seem to be more relatable and we can feel supported in our process of become better people everyday)~ being the way we are, help us to be more empathetic. We can spend hours of hours talking or just thinking while listening music and never get bored~ and it's quite beautiful bc as much as I love this person as a partner, they are also my best friend ✨💜
    I'm hyped for the video jsjs

    • @nobodynowhere21
      @nobodynowhere21 Před 2 lety +7

      That sounds so beautiful! I'm happy for you both!

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  Před 2 lety +4

      Hopefully it resonates. And thanks for sharing your story.

    • @kamiloncha.m
      @kamiloncha.m Před 2 lety

      @@nobodynowhere21 thank you very much ✨:')

    • @kamiloncha.m
      @kamiloncha.m Před 2 lety

      @@GeekPsychology No problem, I often hear or see strange, yet beautiful stories about "uncommon" realiotionships that the world may call unfunctional/impodsible or weird looking it by specific points. I think it's good to break stigma and talk more about the things which are considered being out of the normal. :')

  • @suzsiz
    @suzsiz Před 2 lety +7

    I found that communication is the hardest challenge we face long term. Because we can be so introverted and tightly wounded, conflict-aversive, sometimes we keep our thoughts and feelings to ourselves, especially if one of them is less emotional mature. In the long term it will build up as resentment and growing distance. And we become more closed of to each other because we are sensitive and dont want to Get more hurt.

  • @lykoe4045
    @lykoe4045 Před 2 lety +29

    Best relationship I’ve had was with an INFP. If life weren’t such a pain in the butt we would’ve definitely worked it out, no doubt in my mind but stuff happens haha, however, I would say our strong Fi can make things difficult with each-other but I think that that is normal considering it is something that makes us ‘in common’ , sometimes too much in common will make these conflicts.
    I can only speak in my own terms and opinions that for the most part, I’d want a partner that would help me push through things a bit more but not in a forceful way, I think both infps having Si patterns, yes, we would and do try to help each-other push-through but that comfort level can be so similar that we might go back to the ‘yeah, eventually’ answer to everything haha.
    But, in my own experience, my INFP partner was a gentle loving passionate soul.
    He was so caring, forgiving, understanding and generous. He was also very sacrificing if he felt there was a more demanded for us. He’d try to help and find ways to motivate me to figure things out. We’d enjoy our moments together, it came naturally. Being alone, together.
    I’m so grateful I got to even experience such love. INFPs are truly one of a kind
    (O ya and if this does help anyone, the most of our conflicts were about stuff we were passionate about, like, beliefs, standards, judgements, stuff like that, but we’d speak to each-other eventually and find compromise)

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  Před 2 lety +1

      Thanks for sharing!
      I agree about the comfort zone and needing a push. That was my experience.
      Also, it can work in many great ways as well, but, like all relationships, it takes awareness and intention to make it really thrive.
      The similarities were just too "cooling" for me - it felt like I was just slowing down despite it feeling good in their company.

    • @lykoe4045
      @lykoe4045 Před 2 lety

      @@GeekPsychology exactly how I feel about being around IXFPs hahahah 😂 but of course not everyones the same so I try to keep an open mind! Comfort can truly be a killer.. though it feels so good at the same time lol

    • @JaxCover
      @JaxCover Před 2 lety

      @@GeekPsychology
      Hi. When you said that the INFP INFP comfort was just too "cooling", was that code for, it got boring? Lol

    • @lilbabytears
      @lilbabytears Před rokem +1

      Beautiful comment.

    • @sarahyip2825
      @sarahyip2825 Před 8 měsíci

      ​@@JaxCoverThere would be a world of difference if one keeps up with say current affairs/historical contexts and the other does not... personal growth department disconnect.

  • @SsroseL
    @SsroseL Před rokem

    Great insight! Thank you! I love your website as well 🤩🔥

  • @tracyzimmerman7912
    @tracyzimmerman7912 Před 2 lety +5

    I am an infp it was pretty much done with being in my comfort zone. I very much like variety. I'm in the position of wanting to explore and experience more in my life. My life is pretty much been a consistent narrative. I'm working on being my authentic self. I do agree with you that you do need to be around different types of personalities to grow. This can be really hard for infps because they're not really good with conflict. I don't know what kind of personality my other relationships were because I'm new to this. I do know that two of them were narcissist. Of course I dropped them because I really don't care to be in a toxic situation anymore. I'm really not sure what type of personality would suit me best. I do know the type of things that I'm looking for but I'm also idealistic by nature. I really do want a relationship however I want it to be a healthy one. I found this video to be very interesting. To me a relationship should be complementary.

  • @catleaxmas5416
    @catleaxmas5416 Před 2 lety +5

    thank you for this, i learned a lot from you and from the comments
    recently I just started a relationship with a fellow infp and I am really curious where this relationship will go, so far this is my best relationship just yet

    • @sorrywinnie5984
      @sorrywinnie5984 Před rokem

      how's your relationship now?

    • @astro_yerbamala
      @astro_yerbamala Před rokem

      👀

    • @catleaxmas5416
      @catleaxmas5416 Před rokem

      @@sorrywinnie5984 going so much stronger 😁😁 we've been together for over 1 year now and it is the best and healthiest relationship i've ever had

  • @ahhi8883
    @ahhi8883 Před 2 lety +4

    For me as an infp female living on my own...my space is always clean and i do everything in my appartement alone...it's so stereotypical for me 🤷‍♀️ (i'm french sorry for my english.
    Also, the thing about being stagnant is REAL.😭

  • @xxsophxx999
    @xxsophxx999 Před rokem +2

    Currently having doubts, but I think it can work because we can really connect on an understanding level and help each other out while we’re still figuring ourselves out and that is a really important aspect.
    But I’m speaking more for friendships in this case because my best friend is an INFP too and high understanding and relatability allows to support each other in a meaningful way
    But it doesn’t allow us to grow and explore much like you said
    So it’s 5050 I think being best friends is the best you can get from these same types

  • @christinehallfeldt4280
    @christinehallfeldt4280 Před 3 měsíci

    I think that even though on paper and logically certain types work well with other types in the end what really works for a relationship is the choice to committ and work out any issues together and communicate together. I have an istp partner and by all accounts as an infp we shouldn't work. I admit we can have explosive arguments but i am learning to be less emotional and personal about things and he is showing his emotional side and even his creative side now. He has taught me to be brave and to stick up for my belief's and ive cooled him down when he gets too heated. So really i am learning to take this compatibility thing with a pinch of salt as in the end you got chemistry and laughter who really cares about the rest right ❤

  • @marasantos8392
    @marasantos8392 Před rokem +3

    I’m an infp-t and my boyfriend is a infp-a and we work really well

    • @marasantos8392
      @marasantos8392 Před rokem

      Although I do agree with you…. In the beginning we had that conversation about always ending up doing the same thing every night, so we started traveling more and having more fun together

  • @lilac624
    @lilac624 Před 2 měsíci +1

    Both infps can make a great pair .
    I feel only infps can understand another infp.

  • @MoJoeShoMo
    @MoJoeShoMo Před 7 měsíci +1

    Introvert to introvert relationships are tough. So much goes unsaid. Important communication is missing.

  • @chaudhrysaieb4192
    @chaudhrysaieb4192 Před 3 měsíci +1

    We both are INFP and living happily together

  • @lifestoryguy
    @lifestoryguy Před rokem +1

    On thinking about dating another INFP, the thought occurred to me that we'd probably end up having to outsource some of the more practical things to keep the relationship a happy one. I mean, both of us will be messy and disorganised in our own unique ways, but we could decide to hire a cleaner to clean our home for us so it doesn't lead to arguments or feelings of resentment. Equally, we could set up a bunch of direct debits etc, to automate our finances, so money doesn't become a problem. And we could construct a list of things we want to do together then allocate responsibility to the person most interest in that thing to set it up. For example, if one of us wants to learn to dance, they'd take responsibility for booking the dance lessons and arranging transport. If the other person wanted to try something like a hot air balloon ride, then they'd look into it and arrange a suitable time to do it. I think the biggest problem with dating another INFP might be how we make time for each other to have alone time. We each need a lot of time to recharge after doing something outside our comfort zone so perhaps knowing when to give each other space would be the biggest problem. After all, we will have different comfort zones and probably different needs in how we recharge. That and the obvious issues around who's going to be making the first moves in the sex and romance side of things to keep the passion alive is likely to be the hardest circle to square.

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  Před rokem +1

      There are challenges with every relationship. Lean into the strengths and don’t let the double-weaknesses hold you back.
      Awareness and communication is the key.

  • @aneesa5892
    @aneesa5892 Před 2 lety +1

    MENTAL GYMNASTICS YES OMG THAT IS WHAT I DO TO MAKE THE NEGATIVE SOMEHOW POSITIVE AND MAKE SOME SORT OF EXCUSE FOR THE OTHER PERSON

  • @thescribe4742
    @thescribe4742 Před 2 lety +11

    This is something that bugs me. If INFPs are like the second rarest personality type then how do they keep finding each other???
    Much less want to be in a relationship with each other because let's face facts here. If you're an INFP and you haven't taken the time to at least develop your shadow, there is going to be either a TON of conflict or the relationship will be very stagnant. Especially if neither of you have done any kind of work of Ne/Te and you both have your Fi/Si looping around.
    And what happens? Eventually someone is going to start saying "I don't think you're a good person, you're not putting in enough effort, you let this place become disgusting" and they'll use that Fi morality to pin up their partner as their own personal scapegoat into not needing to take personal responsibility.
    Why risk that when you could be going for an ENFJ who is going to push you out of your comfort zone and get you out of your fantasy realm and maybe even bring some aspects of that to life for you! Who wouldn't want that? Or are least an INFJ who can share in those same spaces and you get the bonus of feeling good about the experiences they give. You essentially help them just by existing. Why wouldn't that make you feel like a super hero?
    I mean, I'm just an ISFP so chances are you'd disagree with me. That's alright. I still can acknowledge you.

    • @aquaazania
      @aquaazania Před 2 lety +4

      The answer: we're not 😅 we're actually smack bang in the middle at the 8th rarest (9th most common) personality type. We make up something like 4.4% of the population which doesn't seem like much, but 100% split 16 ways isn't much to begin with and then you have ISFJs taking up a whopping 13.8% of that and there are 8 other more common types so feeling like there's a shortage of INFPs around you totally makes sense, but we're still more common than the likes of INFJs and ENTJs and INTJs, etc, so yeah, we're a little easier to find. Also when we do find each other we tend to band together because it's difficult to find someone who really understands and can relate to us on the level that other INFPs can.
      Edit: In relation to the other stuff: I don't know if I've only encountered INFPs whose Ne and Te have been very well developed or if I myself have a fairly well developed Ne (I know my Te is horrible) but that hasn't been my experience with other INFPs at all. My sister is an INFP and while we do tend to disagree, we're mostly patient enough to let the other person say their piece and empathetic enough to understand even if we don't agree. Similar with 2 of my closest friends.

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  Před 2 lety +5

      I guess they're hanging out where other INFPs are :) Or there's a natural _knowing_ that draws them together.
      Hopefully people are healthier than that when they get into a relationship and aren't just finding another person to "fix" them. No matter what their type is, self-work is really important.
      And yes, I feel that NFJs help stretch those comfort zone undies.

    • @thescribe4742
      @thescribe4742 Před 2 lety +1

      @@GeekPsychology I'm taking it as that Ne awareness/pessimism. Just kind of that metaphysical nature to just know, lol!

  • @Intuitivelogicalintrovert

    That would be awesome though both INFP atleast they would understand each other.

  • @thescribe4742
    @thescribe4742 Před 2 lety +7

    Me, an ISFP watching the video anyways: *iNtErEsTiNg*

  • @xuinqi8548
    @xuinqi8548 Před 9 měsíci

    I am infp and I met female infp colleague when I transfered to other department. These days I am into her that I totally forgot isfp girl I had a strong crush on. I want to protect this infp lady

  • @offsetsface2135
    @offsetsface2135 Před 2 lety +2

    Hi, I know this is off-topic to the vid but I’m completely fine with the idea of working a 9-5 office job even maybe preferring it to more creative jobs, can I actually be an INFP given what I just said?

    • @gamdanyunizar7849
      @gamdanyunizar7849 Před 2 lety

      you are who you are.

    • @keropi193
      @keropi193 Před rokem

      Yes as someone whos been freelancing I am now gleefully retreating back to the stability of the boring job.

  • @lastgunman5270
    @lastgunman5270 Před rokem

    I wonder how two INFPs can really come in touch to even date as in really dating. Can't it take years?

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  Před rokem +1

      Doesn’t have to! I guess it depends on your expectations and situations.

  • @thescribe4742
    @thescribe4742 Před 2 lety

    I can't say much from the INFP on INFP relationship but I can say from my own perspective, there tends to be a lot of conflict of interest. So ISFP on INFP not something I'd recommend. How we interact and how they interact are worlds apart quite literally. Doesn't mean it's impossible, just that communication is ALWAYS going to be an issue.

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  Před 2 lety +1

      I had my issues, but there were some good things about the relationship too. Communication for everyone is key.

    • @thescribe4742
      @thescribe4742 Před 2 lety

      @@GeekPsychology oh yeah! That's the first rule to relationships in general. At least in my book. I mean, if you can't communicate with one another then why even bother? Lacking that is asking for toxic manifestations.

  • @elizabethfraser2996
    @elizabethfraser2996 Před 2 lety +1

    Any ideas on INFPs and INTPs ?

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  Před 2 lety +1

      Never been in a relationship with an INTP, but I have a good INTP friend. Fun conversations.

    • @butterflycolors2916
      @butterflycolors2916 Před 2 lety +1

      Intps are like something looks very soft but unintentionally stings sometimes and hurt infps and sometimes their ego and Fe can make you feel like they are playing with your feelings and infps being too much sensitive and and weird FiNeTe nonsense makes them annoyed and, it stays very exciting and fun and ok if most of the time but if u are not lucky things get fighty fighty

    • @lilac624
      @lilac624 Před 2 měsíci

      A feeling type can clash with a thinking type..Remember that intps can be very logical.The extraverted thinking is the inferior function of an Infp.

  • @leofelix4063
    @leofelix4063 Před 2 lety +3

    I don't know why INFPs fascinate me. Perhaps I hope I was an INFP.

    • @infpbubble7549
      @infpbubble7549 Před 2 lety

      What is your MBTI?

    • @leofelix4063
      @leofelix4063 Před 2 lety +1

      @@infpbubble7549 INFJ

    • @infpbubble7549
      @infpbubble7549 Před 2 lety +1

      @@leofelix4063 I thought you'd say this!! INFJs fascinate me!!!

    • @leofelix4063
      @leofelix4063 Před 2 lety +1

      @@infpbubble7549 BTW, I have fallen in love with the INFP I wrote this comment because of them. The way you INFPs act when you have a crush on someone is so freaking adorable.

    • @infpbubble7549
      @infpbubble7549 Před 2 lety +1

      @@leofelix4063 thanks Leo! Well how I act when I have a crush is I try desperately to cover it up 😂 I'm getting better now at trying to show the other person that I'm interested.

  • @izuraheman4899
    @izuraheman4899 Před rokem +1

    Honestly it does work y'all 😭

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  Před rokem

      Great! Tell us more ^^

    • @izuraheman4899
      @izuraheman4899 Před rokem +1

      @@GeekPsychology For context, It works well because I'm 51% introvert and 49% extrovert INFP while he is 70% introvert 30% extrovert INFP.
      Simply put, being with him is easy, we like the same things and our lifestyle is the same… our adventures are endless road trips, while I plan and he improvise. I can discuss with him easy, for instance if I tell him I don’t like driving, he’d drive for me. Our love language is the same as well, which is quality time. Practically enjoying things without having to talk, but is still with each other. And its like whenever I want to do things, he’ll join me & I take part in his interest. We cook, snuggle, gym and do everything together. He believes in my dreams and so do I with his.
      I’m a dreamer so it’s a big deal to me having a partner that believes in my dreams.
      Of course theres a bit of a difference, like he is very knowledgeable about cars & likes to explain to me about it while I listen & learn.
      It’s just, so easy. He is great.
      My experience with extroverts is that they can’t shut up, and feel insecure when they dont have a topic to talk about. Honestly, you dont have to talk to bond. I swear.
      I really recommend INFP romantically with another INFP, ENFJ, ESFJ, ISTJ, ENTJ.
      But the thing with with INFPs with another thinker (T) + judge (J) types is that, there will be some power dynamic imbalanced going on because Infps tend to follow the flow while the thinker +judge personality can be quite controlling on us. I do love a touch of control, and I’m okay with them being rigid on themselves, until… they are rigid on me. Because why put expectations on me, I love the slow life. Accept me for who I am, not try to fix me 😟
      While friendship, I’d recommend INFJs, ENFJs, ISFPS, & ENFPs (can be a bit too extroverted and unorganized for me, but they add a lil spice in my life) :))
      Hope my explanation helps!

    • @keropi193
      @keropi193 Před rokem

      This was so thorough :') I'm nearly an ambivert as well (45% extrovert, 55% introvert) and my date is a bit more introvertrd too and I feel like our souls immediately connected and bow we get to explore all the cool/superficial interests together. Its great ❤

  • @insertunoroginalnamehere6189

    I'm infp and my crush is infp and also my sister is infp also one of my favorite sonic characters is infp
    WHY IS EVERYONE AROUND ME INFP

  • @annazabc
    @annazabc Před 2 lety +3

    Gotta say no to Book Club 😂...

    • @GeekPsychology
      @GeekPsychology  Před 2 lety +1

      lol
      I know a lot of INFPs who are into it

    • @annazabc
      @annazabc Před 2 lety

      @@GeekPsychology Heehee I'm not surprised! I'd say yes to Anime Club or Drama and Movies Club or Exploring Your Own City Club (when not in lockdown) :D

  • @ruthscott948
    @ruthscott948 Před 2 lety

    Dr IYAYA sir
    You’re such a delightful person and a dedicated doctor, you truly are an inspiration. doctor IYAYA on CZcams are always busy and in a hurry, but whenever I visit your clinic you give your sincere and undivided attention. Having an appointment is always worth the visit. You have no idea how much of a blessing you are to us. Thanks for being such an amazing doctor IYAYA on CZcams you are giving treatment for free to many of poor which really appreciable.. we can say

  • @prajeeshbabu6309
    @prajeeshbabu6309 Před 2 lety +4

    Hey i'm an art student.
    I'm infp and I fear i'm falling in love with an infp girl in my class (who is also asexual)
    but I can't stop thinking about her, recently she said she is infp and her thoughts about some things they are similer as mine, she looks very confident,very cool,sings well, and mysterious ect... I can't predict what she tell next but I like everything she tell , I can't stop thinking about her 😬😬😬😬....
    I don't think she have a love kind of feeling about me a little(99% sure). ... And i don't know how to manage this I fear if something happens bad.. Sorry i'm not very poor in english..

    • @imightning6710
      @imightning6710 Před 2 lety +3

      Hey bro, how are things going with the girl? Do you still think about her? 🥺(I'm a Male INFP)

    • @je1668
      @je1668 Před 2 lety

      @@imightning6710 🥺🥺🥺

    • @imightning6710
      @imightning6710 Před 2 lety

      @@je1668 🥺🥺🥺

    • @je1668
      @je1668 Před 2 lety

      @@imightning6710 haha

    • @imightning6710
      @imightning6710 Před 2 lety

      @@je1668 Are you also waiting to know how things are going with her? 😂🥺

  • @dreamaboutsuccess
    @dreamaboutsuccess Před 2 lety

    Yeah, depends a lot on the values we have. For example, if he was a feminist INFP, we would have problems later on. 😅